I think that, from all the psych2go videos that I've watched, this is the one that I needed the most. Glad I found it. I've been ignoring the sexual abuse that I suffered in childhood for years, and now I'm finally doing the work to unpack the feelings and understand how it impacts my life.

Shout out to my men who have been too scared to say anything all their lives, and my women who need the same level of help too

“Was it my fault?” Asked the short skirt. “No, it happened to me too” replied the burka. The diaper in the corner couldn’t even speak. -Darshan Mondkar My favorite quote on this topic. Hearing some of your stories makes me wonder about what we’re teaching people (or not teaching) to make anyone think non consensual interactions are okay. It’s not about men or women at this point. This is about humanity. And it’s a terrifying world to live in.

As a male who got SAed by my two female cousins who are sisters when I was a kid, I couldn't even remember how old I was when that happened cuz I just realized that I've been trying to forget about it and hide it deep down in my mind but no matter how hard I tried to forget, the flashbacks still haunts me. The first time that it happened is when the older cousin babysitted me along with my grandma. I couldn't remember where my parents and my sister are that time but I remember it was the three of us; me, my cousin, and my grandma. So the three of us are sleeping together in one bed and my cousin gave me a candy and SAed me while grandma is sleeping and told me to be quiet. The second time that it happened is when she was giving me a shower. I don't want to talk about it in full detail but yeah I still remember how it happened. The third SAed I experienced is with my cousin's younger sister who babysitted me as well. She took me in our guest room and it all happened there. For years that went by I felt alone and I didn't talk about it to anyone even with my parents nor my sister cuz I didn't know if they would believe me if I told them. Until we got to leave our country and live abroad when I was 17 and when I turned 18 that's when I told my mom everything that happened. All she did was cry while she listened to my stories. Now I'm 23 years old and I'm doing much better now but I'm still healing slowly day by day. It is not an easy thing to go through especially in childhood years. I wouldn't even expect to even share this online like even now I'm fighting my tears to type this story. I may forgive and heal but I can never forget that ugly and disgusting experience. It is just like a wound that heals but leaves you with an ugly scar. Edited: Thank you for the nice and uplifting comments❤️

Why is it so underrated? Like, I watched this video not because I have experience, but to understand that problem better

Sexual assault is so hard to talk about, it’s caused me to be hyper sexual at a very very young age. It also caused me to still be hesitant to anyone and everyone. Anytime I would have any sexual intimacy I would have a breakdown, I would have uncontrollable anxiety attacks and shut down. It’s easier now, but I’m in therapy and I am doing my best to get help. It’s hard but it’s possible, I believe in everyone to be able to find closure and peace, whether it happens now or later.

It doesn't even have to be non-consensual to mess you up, being too young, impaired, toxic behaviors, and many other things will also impact you. This topic needs much more awareness spreading, thanks for doing the good work.

My girlfriend has had SA and after she told me about all of this I understood that she needs more affection than I have been giving her. I love her and I don't want to see her tears form because of this. I don't want her to suffer. I didn't want her to go through this alone. I have been telling her it wasn't her fault. And because of my relationship with her, she got herself back up and started therapy to get herself back up more and make her believe that she is not to blame for this. I am there for her and am making her days special by being who I am the best, a caring partner.

Hello, an incest survivor here! I had to suffer in silence because I can't open up to people about my SA experience, my mom did this when I was 5 months old, and then again at 12, I didn't tell anyone because I know that they will downplay my trauma or joke about it saying "Mother-Daughter incest doesn't exist" or something like that, I'm 13 and I still have to live with mom, I am trying to protect my little sister from SA and I am also trying to heal from my trauma despite my abuser being here

I was sexually assaulted when I was a young boy, by my brother and it still hurts me to this day. I have never told anyone about this or the problems its caused me the main problem its caused is I developed problems with people touching me. A lot of people don't know that sexual assault can happen to man and not many people know it can happen to young boys. Its not just woman of young girls it happens to everyone and it happens without warning. if you've been sexually assaulted when you were young know that your not alone.

I have persistent depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, ptsd, adhd, and autism. I am a victim of childhood SA. It wasn't r*pe but only because I escaped by a miracle. This video hit hard and is so true. I have sexual avoidance and pain if I try.

As someone who was sexually abused at the ages of 4, 10 and 14 years old. It is a traumatic experience that can affect the rest of your life, if you are not aware of it. You must practice developing the awareness of how the trauma may have affected you. Because otherwise, you will be unconsciously responding to the trauma.

I can't believe I've been grieving my younger self all these years and i didn't notice it. When i became an artist and i used a ton of my childhood shows as my inspiration. I didn't know i was subconsciously soothing myself, i was just using them to get better

This is a very important topic. Many would call it taboo, but it should NOT be seen this way. Every victim of SA of any form , any gender , any age is valid.

It hurts worse when you're told filing a report won't do anything. There will be no investigation. There will be no justice. If you do file, expect a lot of insensitive questions from the police. After dealing with it, we have to do the work and heal. We are the ones who have to undergo this change, but not the person who committed the crime. Also, when people say, "you're so strong for surviving." NO. Please, stop saying that. It hurts so much. It sounds like a badge of honor we received. We are not strong because we survived this situation. We were ALWAYS strong - long before we were harmed.

I've been SA'd both physically and verbally a few times over the last few years. No actual cases of intxrcxxrse but it still hurts. I tried to tell people but nobody did anything, people shut me down saying "no, you weren't", "you're a man, not a girl" or "to man up". I wouldn't say I'm "traumatised", more so "emotionally numbed". At this point, I haven't bothered telling anybody about it since the last time, because nothing gets done. :/

Thank you for putting C-PTSD first in the list of possible impacts of SA. It's so awful that it's in the ICD-11, but because it's not in the DSM, the USA hardly recognizes it. This means that children who grow up with SA and survivors of long term intimate violence don't get the help we really need.

I was sa'ed when I was 11 by my uncle. It actually opened my mind after everything. I remember praying before everything happened. I talked and said to God, "Please, protect me from any devils and harm while I'm sleeping". But then, things happened and it made me lost my faith. I remember feeling guilt, shame and dirty after. I also tried to h4ng myself but my mom caught me.

I was sexually assaulted by 4 women, 2 of them family, one a caregiver, mostly between 3 and 6. You are alone. Nobody will help you. Learning the lesson that screaming only excites the predator is one of the hardest things to go through. I don't even have a therapist I can open up to and I have 2. Offenders get a release date, we do not.

my ex suffers from such trauma during her teenage years, i saw how a flashback can drastically impact ones behaviour, how SA ruined both her past and our relationship along with her trust issues, not just to others but also herself. All of the self blaming, anorexia. uneased feeling, hatred toward intimacy...and not to mention the pain she bared, one cant imagine such a young girl having to carry that weight on her back. To her i would say sorry for not being to support her in any meaningful way. And i wish you will be able to not only heal but also better your current and future life, remember it was not your fault in any way, shape of forms

Knowing there are people who invalidate the horrors of SA and the traumas with them is sickening. I honestly validate those pains. The horrors are real and denying them is ridiculous.

Thank you. This helps me understand my girlfriend a little more. It's not easy, but I'm here for her

Thank you for not excluding men. We have no place to turn when it happens to us. Being seen means the world.

i do ot have any sexual trauma but when Psych2go said these "it was not your fault", "you are not to blame" a tear fell down. i hope people who experience these trauma i hope you will love yourself and heal even if its slow dont give up you are worth it anda you are precious and there are people maybe not many but there is someone who will be there for you adn listen to your worry and troubles. english is not my first language and im not a very comfroting person but just know that all im saying is dont give up

It’s been 9 years and I still have flashbacks, and still think of it everyday. But I got a good ending, it took four long and shitty years, but I got my abuser in jail

as a minor who was assaulted at the age of 9, thank you. It’s heartbreaking to hear ‘are you sure?’ ‘It was a girl she didn’t do that’ and ‘that didn’t happened’. It broke me for so long and I struggled with s/h by the age of 10. I constantly get asked ‘why didn’t you pull away if you didn’t want it?’ Because I couldn’t. I was held against my will. I was 9.

I was SA'd by an abusive ex for two years, when I was 13-14 and he was 17-18. I'm a bit older now, have been in a healthy relationship with a wonderful guy for almost a year but my trauma still affects me to this day. I thought I had done a great deal of healing, but when I'm in a situation where I want to say "no" to the person I love, even knowing that he's my safe space and will always respect me, I feel scared. He makes me feel so loved, appreciated, comfortable, respected and secure, but sometimes I still feel scared, for something that happened long ago. It's so frustrating. Thank you for talking about this.

I've been crying since the moment I saw the notification,this means so much for me. The fact about the mental consequences and the part about hypersexuality - sexual avoidance, made me so relieved to understand. For the first time I don't think there's something fundamentally wrong with me so thank you again.

NO ONE EVER DESERVED ABUSE!!! EVER!!❤❤❤❤❤

Hello I am Cherri, I am a member of a system. This video triggered me to the front, and I fronted for the host to watch this video to protect them from unwanted memories. I am a survivor of SA and Ash (the host) does not know about this. I try my hardest to shield them from it. They do not remember and nobody knows about this trauma, I keep it to myself. You don’t need to read this by the way, this is for Ash to read. It was in a preschool playground, their ex-friend pulled them behind a wall and kissed them, restraining them so they could not get away. This time in their life is very important because the entire system is starting to process these so called “false memories” and even me myself am not sure if these things ever happened. I am aware that an unwanted make out session is not the worst form of SA but it should definitely be acknowledged. Sincerely, Cherri

As an autistic trans woman; S.H and S.A. have been a big part of my life ... I often feel broken,alone, desperate, help/hopeless Thank you for this video ♡

I struggle to talk about this with anyone because I’m afraid it doesn’t “classify” as SA. When I was younger 7-10 my parents would do the “deed” while I was on the same bed. This occurred several times, and I lost trust within myself. I felt numb and disgusted with myself, and I struggle to get close with other people, including my own family. I’ve always hated physically touch, like hugging other people and stuff. I never knew why but only till this year I only realized why I hated it. Thank you for helping me feel heard and understood. If you relate to my story, I’m always here to hear others stories.

Timestamps 1). Sex 1:34 2). Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) 2:56 3). Trust and intimacy issues 3:34 4). Depression and anxiety 3:57 5). Self-esteem and body image 4:24 6). Dissociation and emotional numbing 4:43 7). Sexual dysfunction 5:09 8). Flashback and triggers 5:47 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

It’s been almost 5 years and sometimes I still grief, and have flashbacks. It’s so hard not to feel guilt because I feel like none of this would’ve happened if I didn’t get with him. It doesn’t help at all when he would keep showing up at my job I had at the time as well. I just pray that he doesn’t find out where I start my new job at.

Sad that the one video that should have hundreds of thousands of views has 53. Thank you for making this video though!

Thank you for this; as someone who is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse leading into almost all my adult life of abuse, I needed this. It took up to the last 4 years to start working on myself. I still have setbacks, and I do beat myself up about it, but I know that I can't hold it against myself either; it's a journey that I will always be healing from.

I was a victim of SA at the age of thirteen my stepdad started abusing me in this way. It went for three years before I told people what he was doing on a semi regular basis. It can get better you all are amazing people and you deserve so much more

thank you, it’s so hard getting flashbacks from the past and thinking about what i could’ve did if i never let him do it, im hyper sexual and i can’t stop thinking about the past so vividly and it hurts.

I have a close personal friend who experienced this, and while I developed feelings for her, I've agreed to stay platonic to be the friend she needs right now outside of romance. I try to get her to talk about it with me sometimes, but it's very hard for her, and we can't talk long. Part of that is because I'm a guy, and she doesn't trust guys, but part of that is the cptsd of bringing up her trauma again. Last time we talked about therapy, she said she couldn't keep affording it, apparently even with her insurance. I've offered many times to listen to her, and sometimes she does share, but she doesn't want to let herself trust me with everything and she doesn't have many others at all willing to help her. She's in a very difficult space financially and emotionally, and I often feel powerless to help her. I feel selfish for liking her because of my own emotional needs. I wish I could fix everything for her, but I can't even if I could. She's trying to do it all alone, and it breaks my heart.

Wish I'd had this info 20, 30, 40 yrs ago. Thanks for putting this out now, tho, for the myriad of victims out there.

Honestly, I love how psych2go goes in depth with each lasting effect and what it does to a person. Especially the symptoms and how sexual violence can be by literally *anyone.*

Had to figure out how to deal with it on my own. I’ve come a long way, but it’s never been easy

Speaking as someone who was healing from Sexual Trauma and had been retraumatized fairly recently, I appreciate the topic being tackled with respect. I still remember how most of it happened, and I felt upset with myself that I didn't recognize what was going on... But... Then I realized that, this video is right, no one deserves for that situation to happen to them, and to be gaslit by people around them to the point they wonder if they are just overreacting. Those are feelings you have, and it's fine. They are for you to work through.

I've disassociated a lot in my childhood, so I've had lots of amnesia as a result... I don't remember anything extremely explicit, but I remember this nervousness that ran so deep. I don't consider myself a survivor because I don't even remember, and I don't want to dismiss people who have gone through it. I'm sure it's difficult for people to go through it and speak about it. Especially coming out of the shell of denial and saying 'that was wrong'!

I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that I was a victim of SA years ago and it’s been absolutely devastating and jarring to relive the memories, the triggers, and certain things like smells that would literally make me sick. There were so many enablers of my abuser that have told me to stay quiet to “not cause a scandal” or “if you come forward everyone’s going to know it’s you”. I’ve decided that I’m going to come forward now even though I’ve experienced healing and forgiveness. There still needs to be Justice and protection so no more potential victims are made or harmed.

I honestly cried... i wished i heard this years ago, its a really grounding video...

My Girlfriend shared this channel with me a few days ago. She showed me a video that related to my own trauma growing up. She suffers from sexual trauma. She hurts so much and I don't really know how to help her. I'm here for her and I'm going to see if she will watch this video with me tonight. I want to always be here for her.

I can't believe how many people struggle with SA no matter how old they were in these dark days. Please guys, remember you're not alone and this wasn't your fault! There are so many people who love you, you changed someone's life! You matter and nothing is over for you. People: you're created to fight because you're strong. Keep going because one day your future self will smile remembering how much you have been through and you're still here giving a reason for someone ( maybe yourself too) to live!

Im 15 and a survivor of SA at the ages of 5 and 8, I highly appreciate this video because it helps me understand my problems more and now I can work on to fix them:D Its really sad to know how many people experience this. This disgusting thing shouldn't be this common!! And most of the time the abuser dosent get any punishment. 2 people SA'ed me at 2 different ages and none of them got in ANY trouble. My close relative whom I told about this is still close friends with one of the abusers. Its not fair.

I was SA’d by a member of my own family when I was 6-7. I still remember everything. And yet I still had to see this person every day of my life up until I was 18, when I moved abroad. I feel I’ve never developed normal relationships and friendships since, though I’ve suffered many other additional childhood traumas I think this one has impacted me the most as a person. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody

i havent experienced s/a, but one of my closest friends has, so i feel compelled to watch this with all my focus

This needs to be sent out to others.

As a survivor of multiple SA as a child, i still struggle with nightmares about my SA, and i feel like the hardest thing I've conquered in life was finally telling my family about what happened and receiving support. i used to act out and be violent when i was younger, and yes, it was a pathetic cry for help, but i was a child with a disability trying to understand why. Anyone who is an SA survivor male female nonbinary you are not alone, and it wasn't your fault ❤

As a survivor of SA I grew up with my abuser and it happened for many years. We're actually working on getting diagnosed with DID due to this. I'm sure there's more abuse I endured but I don't remember it all. It's hard and I'm here for anyone here.❤️

I'm sharing my story: I was SA when i was three years old and the person who SA'd me was the one person i trusted the most a family member of mine and it was life changing for me opening up was difficult for me since no one understood or blamed me for the event but i forgave my abuser even though it affected me tremendously I'm ready to move on. Remember you're not alone and your trauma is valid

this video was really comforting to me. i’ve been dealing with sexual trauma for abt a year and a half now. it’s nice to remind myself that it wasn’t my fault even tho i can go down a rabbit hole of shame and guilt. ofc i feel sorry for myself but deep down inside me i feel sorry for the other person, i feel like i did something to them for this to happen, making myself believe i deserved it bc i of what i may or may not of done to them. sexual trauma is hard for everyone. no matter your sex everyone struggles. i’ve tried to heal from what happened but already being a pretty anxious person, the sexual trauma doesn’t help. i hope no one has to go thru anything like this and mourn the people who do. i’m here for anyone who has gone thru it, i love you ❤️

Yesterday, a longtime friend of mine confided in me about an assault she recently experienced a few days ago and as a survivor, had to set the boundary of taking a brief step back from the conversation to keep myself grounded and set a time for us to revisit the topic since we both became triggered. I’ve been in recovery for a year almost two and am grateful to have been met with support at the time of coming out, but sometimes I have random flashbacks and attacks that feel excruciating.

I deeply appreciate the awareness this video brings. As an SA survivor myself, it is comforting to see videos openly speaking about it and comment sections talking about shared experiences. Too many people deny the horrors of SA and trauma it brings, so im glad that this exists as a safe space for people to open up about this.

Im someone who i cant really say that its SA more like Sexual manipulation or grooming to say... its a really traumatic experience, its really hard to talk about it with people, especially your close families. The shame, guilt and embarrassment weighs heavily, for me that is because i was blamed for saying "yes" to it... so its hard to open up to people around it, because you are the victim but you were blamed, its sad...

I guess the algorithm doesn’t want this out, we’ll change that. Who’s ready to, take a trip, to their HQ.

I think this video was one of your best so far: informative, compassionate, gentle, with powerful images (like the puzzle pieces) and words (“You will find home in yourself again”). I think you handled this sensitive subject in a beautiful and very respectful manner. My heart goes out to survivors

Crazy that I came across this little video today- I met with a psychologist this morning about this very subject. Thank you

I saw this and let out a long sigh as one of my friends are currently going through that but I’m in England/ the uk and they’re all the way in America so I have to just listen and can’t do anything about it so I’ve promised them that as soon as I’m able to I’ll go and find them. And I plan to keep it that way. I’ll try and try again. I don’t care if I have to go through things I’m terrified of (flying,socialising and facing my depression) just to find and help them. I genuinely threw up when they told me because I was so worried and disgusted to the point I’ve been throwing up almost every day. I’ve been watching this channel a lot recently. I’m gonna send this video to them today.

Thank you for covering this. You never think it will happen to you when it does. The betrayal hits hard. You don’t always react like you imagine you would. No one is prepared for it. Almost four years later I have finally started to heal. Take the time you need to recoup. ❤ Much love to fellow survivors. ❤

It is crazy when you said that if you have difficulties to trust other to take your time and do it at your own pace I just started sobbing and I realised that I expected you to say something like “Work on yourself and if you struggle, work harder!” Being greeted with your empathy and kindness made me realise again how hard I can be with myself… Thank you so much for this video ♥️♥️♥️ especially for mentioning and explaining hyper sexuality. People often think that survivors are no longer or less interested in sex but often we tend to treat our body and mental health like it was treated by the predator, like it isn’t worth something to keep safe and sound…

Thank you for this. I'm currently getting therapy for my depression and anxiety. I think a lot of what I feel is because of the sexual abuse I've suffered throughout my life. Each time was by someone I knew or loved. It's been hard to accept, and I've been going through the stages of grief even though it's been years. Therapy is good, and I think it's necessary no matter how long since the trauma occurred. Don't push it to the past or try to diminish what's happened to you. It will come back in some way. Work through it with a professional. We deserve peace.

I started crying happy tears at the end when you were telling us it’s not our fault, this video made me see things differently and I’m crying right now thank you so much I hope the best for you.

Without any memory and any flashbacks i have the effects… always thought if this happened to me, so confused :( thank you

Oh man! Felt so overwhelming the moment I saw the thumbnail... I'm currently in my late teens. It happened may be a decade ago. For the first time, it was a street vendor and for the second time it was a teenage guy and a neighbor for thr third time... God!! It's been a lot of time but the things and thoughts keep coming back. A lot of shit at home keeps happening and in the end I get blamed, my own parents say that the fault is in me... Had a miserably bad relationship for 2 years. This lead me towards severe depression and several anxiety disorders. It's been a year I've been diagnosed. And my parents say why don't u just be okay it's been a lot of time since ur medication and all... Huh... Man!! How!! This is a lot of trauma to process. I've forgotten how it feels to be normal. Just hope it gets better someday and i feel *normal* atleast. :)

Thank you for making this video. I am a survivor of sexual violence. All this makes sense to me. I feel so alone.

I was sexually abused for a year by my first boyfriend. I was so traumatising, and then everything came back when I had brain surgery five years later. That brain surgery has left me with emotional problems and intensified my autism. Along with that; a second relationship last year resulted in a suicide attempt. That has seriously left me feeling that only friends should be had.

Thank you for this video. I would like to ask, if possible, could you make a video either for coping with or understanding being a product of a sexual assault? And maybe adding how that could effect a person? Thank you for never being scared of talking and analyzing topics so many people are too scared to even mention. You've helped me through a lot and I always enjoy your videos (as educational or as a way of being seen).

Me and my gf both have experienced SA at some point in our lives. I went through life feeling broken or damaged (and still occasionally do cause of my trauma disorder) but finding speaking to others who had gone through such horrible things made me feel less alone and isolated Also, this video, among other things, has shown me just how much I still need to work on my trauma as I was heavily dissociating throughout the whole video. So hopefully at some point I'll actually get to a point where I can freely watch and fully resonate with the message of this video

I'm a survivor of SA in childhood. Thank you for touching on this.

Thank you for this video. I forgot how much healing I had done over the years that watching this video showed me just how far I have come after experiencing SA in my young adult years. Thank you. There is hope. We are not what we have experienced. The day I realized I was healed was when I experienced being triggered and then realized that, I am now safe. I no longer am in the toxic relationship I was in. I am not in the same place where I was assaulted. I have a support network around me of care providers, for my mental and physical health. I am on a path of healing. I am healthy because of my choices. It felt like a simple shift in perspective but it brings about lasting change. Heal and then renegotiate yourself in spaces again. Let love in again and again. 💞peace and love

Thank you for making a video disscussing this topic. With how influential your channel is, this really is a positive impact.

Thanks for helping me understand myself better. I never realize how much it actually affected my process of growing up. I knew what my abuser did but never really thought anything about it and kept it at the back of my mind but recently I’ve just started to think about more seriously and how fucked up it is. I’m 100% sure she definitely did it but at the same time it’s like my mind is trying not to accept that fact? I don’t know how to explain but it’s that kind of feeling whenever I think about what my abuser did as if like everything that happened is not real. I thought I was not valid because I didn’t receive any trauma from being sexually gr00med other than hypersexuality and because I didn’t experience the same common symptoms like other victims. Like I didn’t feel, grossed out thinking about it. After this video and some connecting I think it’s because I was socially bullied and because of that so my kid self just shuts down my ability to feel emotions or connect with others? I frequently ask myself if I’m born unable to do all that but this video answers it. I don’t know when is it though that I lost my ability to feel and connect with others, it’s been years. This also make senses why I don’t really remember my childhood at all like I know they treated me bad but I don’t remember what they did, etc. Not related to what I said before but can anyone just tell me what to do. I don’t know anymore I just wanna disappear. I genuinely can’t do this anymore it’s been long enough

I'm so happy I watched this video. I've been suffering in silence for years, I've had to. if my family knew what happened they would blow. I've told my partner about everything tho, and a lot of time I joke about it. most of the time I joke about it because it just feels better. I've suffered more then SA but most of it was SA. I've had problems telling my partner things during our special time, for some reason it feel wrong. it feels so wrong talking about it, especially when I know it's gonna be serious. this video helped me realize that I need to take things seriously. the things I see and hear, the random panic attacks. it all makes sense. all I have to say is thank you. this video has been eye opening, thank you.

Thank you so much for this video. I just turned 21, it happened when I was 16 with my first boyfriend. Covid happened literally 3 months after it, and without even realizing until a few years ago, I spent about 2.5 years ruminating on what happened due to being locked up all the time. I'm still struggling, this video means so much more than you could imagine. Thank you.

This video felt like the hug and comfort I needed long ago. It felt warm to my soul, I wish it existed a year ago when guilt and rumors made me feel like the loneliest human being in the world. Thank you so much for this psych2go, really.

I needed this the most. I have been suppressing this emotion for a long time now. I though for a while before entering to this video. And am glad i did watch it. i cried after watching it. for a long time i though that the problem was me. It have not happen once or twice neither from one or 2 person, have happened multiple times. So a teen brain i though something must be wrong with me, that's why this thing is happening to me only. I don't blame myself very often now. But the guilt and shame is eating me up. This video helped me touch my core which i have been fearful to see for a long thing. thank you psych2go team. Lots of LOVE from me❤.

Honestly, talking about my experience very openly has helped me make peace very well.

I like to say Thank you I needed this, I’ve always ignored the sexual abuse that had happened to me in my childhood I’ve never opened up to my friends cause I was scared they were gonna judge me until I met my boyfriend who had helped me from the bottom to the top and you’re video helped even more and showed me a more understanding and more ways to help me heal from the sexual abuse that had happened to me so I wanna say Thank you!!! And to everyone else who been through sexual abuse remember It’s not your fault, believe me I use to think that and I felt like shit

Didn’t realize how much this video would hit so hard to hear until I started crying near the end. I really appreciate the soft tone in which you speak about this topic specifically and tell us we are not to blame and didn’t deserve it. Think that’s what hit me hardest

I am suspect SA might have happened to me. I am not certain cause I can’t remember, but the fact that I relate so much to so many of these points, and that I have panic attacks when ever intimacy reaches a certain level, even if I genuinely want to experience that intimacy, has had me suspecting it for a while. Idk, I heard somewhere that when experiencing intense trauma the brain might intentionally forget the memory to spare itself from pain. Maybe that’s what happened, so now I’m just left with the consequences of something I don’t even remember, but I don’t know. I am not a psychologist.

Thank you for making this video. This speaks to me as a survivor. Also I like how you use the term survivor and not victim.❤️ May all of us heal. It took me many years to be able to face what has happened and to finally go therapy.

Thank you for talking about this I suffered AS as a child I would always pee the bed because of it I found out the reason why I was peeing the bed so much was because of what was happening to me. children who are young do not have good control over their bladder, so that’s what happened to me. but for anyone who else suffered, you’re definitely not alone and it’s NOT our fault and we did not deserve what happened to us. NO ONE ever deserves this no one!! Definitely Try talking to someone you absolutely trust Even sometimes you can heal yourself a little bit. I had no one to talk to, and I found a way to heal some of my wounds on my own

this video was by far the one that touched me the most from all of your videos. i've been SAed by my neighbor when I was 7. even though I've been in therapy for over 2 and a half years now, i still suffer from sexual avoidance, trust and intimacy issues and mourning my old self. I identify as aro-ace spec, but I always wonder wether it's just sexual aviodance and maybe someday, when I'm finally fully healed, I'm gonna experience sexual attraction in a common way. something that makes me angry is that everything that doesn't include r*pe gets downplayed as "not traumatizing enough" or people just don't acknowledge it as SA in the first place. I just wish people could see how we suffer every day and be more compassionate

One of my past best friends is a victim, it happened when she was just around 12 years old by a family relative, over multiple years without really noticing. She told me about all of it two years ago, and the worst thing for me is, I actually already knew her back then directly after everything happened as well as the Perpetrator and I permanently felt like I could've done so much more to help Maybe I could've noticed sooner, idk

As a guy who was sexually assulted by my moms boyfried when i was a kid i really needed to hear that it wasnt my fault it happened thank you ❤

I'm not well after watching the video, and I mean that as a compliment. I needed this. It was my final push to realize that what I went through was traumatic, despite how nuanced and gray. I'm not proud to say I'm 10/10 on all the mentioned symptoms, but there's no denying it now. Aside from my current emotional distress, I am very happy I came across this video. Thank you.

This video is so important! I had an older man put his arm around me, put his face close to my neck and put his hand on my thigh when I was around eight or nine or ten which I don't think counts but this video strangely gave me a lot of comfort. Thank you, Psych2Go for posting this!

It’s gonna sound hard to tell this but I want to share this. I was young when I had my first time. I was not ready but I was scared to say this my at that time older partner, it was an act of manipulation. There were things said like if you don’t take part in this you don’t love me. At that time I felt extremely alone loosing someone could mean the end. This is not the most extreme story. But for young people here pls make sure you feel 100% comfortable and talk with someone before you go in to it. I’m okay now I sometimes feel incredibly anxious or stressed during sex making it all except enjoyable. I’m lucky to have a grand partner now that makes it a lot better.

at an early age, maybe 7-8y old, I was the sex abuser in a form of curiosity, but technically it was an abuse, and believe me that thing still stings. Actually I am gonna talk to my therapist next time, its about time to let that thing off my chest.

Somthing that also isn’t spoken about ( in this subject) is the fact that the aftermath can last a lifetime you would assume after a few months it would get better but with those who have ptsd or c-ptsd one little bump into SOMONE can ruin your intime week and this goes on for years and never stops. Five years ago I was sa’d now I’m 14 and I used to cope with sh i even attempted to un-alive myself a year ago but I am on a path to closer and I hope one day I will be fully healed

Thank you for not just the awareness but the validation.

I told my mom about it 3 weeks ago and she wanted to call my cousin and have use talk, as to make him tell why he did it. I cant stress how dumbfounded i was but i managed to talk her out of it. When i came back to home from school yesterday ,that cousin was there and he had been called by my mom, I just simply went to the roof, thinking about jumping but instead ended up calling a teacher and 2 friends who knew. When i finally had to face him he obviously denied it and said that since we never had any good relations, especially during my childhood since he always tried to annoy me and did some bad stuff other than the sa, I might have villianised him and made up a memory in my mind, like i wanted to argue but i was just so annoyed and emotional. Well he kind of cleared his name and my mom doubts me as well (we have a terrible relationship) I am just so done

How is the timing always perfect

Thank you for making a video about this. I am a survivor of sa,verbal and emotional abuse, and I do have complex ptsd. I feel like this will help me and others who suffered.

Thank you Psych2go, it is important to talk about how survivors are impacted in their daily life! I am a survivor and I am living with C-PTSD, SA are the worst thing that can happen to anyone and unfortunately it happens more often than we think :( I am still mourning for who I was and for my light that died. Since that day I have been wearing black, because black is how I feel on the inside since my pink was abused.. I am a survivor from several SA, living with pure rage and trying to heal from my unhealed trauma wounds.. I am wishing for all survivors to heal and to love themselves even though I know how hard it can be to do so.. Love and healing for you all☀️🤍