Key words are "We hurt them, when we don't Parent them". Yes I agree👏👏👏👏👏👏

Yes and Amen! Will someone please pass the collection plate---because this is a Word! "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it" (Hebrews 12:11).

The last time I lied to my mama was when she took away my car keys. I was 2 months into my senior year of high school thinking I was grown hanging out with my boyfriend. Riding the bus for 30 days got me ALL THE WAY TOGETHER! 👍

Yes Covid done made us forget bed time, around here lol

Thank you for this. There's an old school confusion about spankings as the only way to "parent" Good job Daddy!!

We all lie for 3 reasons fear, greed and pride.....my children know this by heart. Lying is a no no no.. My God the whole summer 😭 it made you the honest woman you are today...💕💕 staying consistent is the key.

"...BECAUSE,HE TOOK AND TOLD A WHOLE LIE." 🤣🤣🤣

I cannot get over his skin! Her face is flawless

My dad use to ground me the same way. Honey I wished I got a whooping instead! A whooping you can get it over with quickly. But that month long grounding was sumrhin else...lol! RIP Dad💜

My grandson did the exact thing. My grandson lied to me about pulling all of the cotton from the bottom of the mattress because his father no mother would buy him brand new gym shoes. I made him go back in the room and put each piece of cotton back into the places where he took it from the bottom of the mattress and he didn’t have to apologize for lying and he was not to get any Christmas gifts. I love him but I certainly do not want him at the hands of the law as he become older thinking this is the way he resolve his issue of anger and disappointment. I agree with you Tabitha. Thank you so much. Love you Tabitha

My sons are 29/20/17 & those games over the years caused a lot of "groundings" I'd take the controllers & if it was the cell phone, I'd take the chargers so they could watch the phone die a slow death.🤣 Kids have to know the world will not tolerate or excuse their bad behavior because if you don't teach them, the world will & we don't want that. ❤

This was a word you spoke today. Being consistent with these kids is key. This pandemic has been harder on the younger kids but they still have to be held accountable.

I work in education and say a poster that read "It is easier to teach and train a child than it is to repair a broken adult"!

My 21 and 23 year old are home with us quarantining. And we STILL need to parent. Not necessarily with discipline but with all the other energy parents require. It’s been an adjustment for us all.

I never had order and consistency at home; but I’m so grateful to get it right with parenting my own self and my son. Listen, I took my son’s tablet away for a week and to a 5 year old, it’s a lifetime. He definitely learned. Even with his challenges, I see him as a winner and victorious. He will thrive.

My students' parents need to see and adhere to this..it's so insightful

Mrs. Tabitha you are an AMAZING WOMAN! I agree 100%with what you said. My daughter is now 28 years old and I am PROUD of the woman she's become. Why you ask?....because I was a PARENT. NOT a friend a PARENT. Honestly speaking though, I feel for parents today especially during this Covid. I give all the parents of today KUDOS! I applaud you all because I'm pretty sure its been hectic. This is for ALL THE PARENTS out there, like Tupacs song; 🎵 "KEEP YOUR HEAD UP" 🎶 Better days will soon be upon us. ✊🏽💞🥰🙏🏽

Amen, amen, amen!!! Parenting can not stop because we're going through, what I pray, a temporary situation. Lessons have to be learned/taught so that our children can/will become properly functioning adults. Thank you for the message Ms. Tab.😊 sb... I sure do miss the carefree days of my youth just having fun and playing outside until the street lights came on... Good times😁

Come on with the realness Sis!!! We have 7 children and my husband and I live by this, and the peace that we have in our house is priceless!! She isn't lying y'all! Train your children or they train you!!

The “No small talk. Back to your room” hurt me and brought up good memories! 🤣😂

I’m just like your daddy. I live by this. My son always thank me afterwards, we he gets off.

Shes even more brilliant than her smile!!! Absolutely love her. Such a strong Woman.

This right here!!!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽!!! My son has me in his hand to and he’s grounded for lying right now, and I literally started to give him a break and take him off of grounding. I prayed like Lord what do I do.......and here comes Tabitha conforming!!! My God is so faithful!!🙏🏽🥰🙌🏽🤣

I’m listening to you and I can’t help but to focus on how pretty your teeth are lol. Gorgeous

I have to agree, My daughter is the only child and I have noticed a change mentally. I give her extra also, and I parent so this is relatable

Your Dad wasn't one to play with...

Yes! We could stay out to the street lights came on. Times have changed. Good lesson!!! I hope people listen and are not offended.

Tab you bought tears to my eyes. The delivery of your message was nothing short of PERFECTION and was much needed. Somebody needed to hear that! Peace & Blessings!

Wooo wee I had one of those Daddy’s and got on the punishment which seemed like forever😝. Punishment is life changing!

I’m not yet a mom, but I am so incredibly blessed that my mom was strict with us growing up.

This took me back!!! Those were the good ole days!!!!

Speak on it Tab, we have to be the parents and show our children that bad ways are never the way.

Thank you” Mr Rogers neighborhood “ for my medicine dose of the day, that was awesome!!!!

You are right on point, Sis. My Mom was a stickler for consistency. Her Nos meant no and she didn't deviate from the punishment she inflicted on you. We certainty knew not to challenge her. Mom did not play. When she said something, she meant it. If you lied or stole, you got your butt tore up and a severe punishment. It was like being in prison camp. I thank her for being the disciplinarian she was. I didn't understand it then, but I appreciate it now. As all of my siblings are won derful. None on drugs or been to jail and I attribute that mostly to our upbringing. Mom was a praying and God fearing Woman. God knows, I'm glad she prayed for me. Whew! She gave us much love, but she didn't play. People, discipline your children and be consistent. I promise, they'll be just fine. They'll still love you. Stop trying to be their friend and just be the Parent.

When I was in high school I lived way out in the country. When I got in trouble for lying my dad took my drivers license for a month. OMG! thought I would die!!!

Say it loud for the ones in the back... she speaks the truth!!

Thank you I’m a young mom and I let a lot stuff slide so this message was for me ...

Oooooowwwweeee!!! Message!!! I got it Tab!!! I’m gon’ watch this a few more times to let it sizzle in my spirit! And, I’m gonna share it with some friends.

You nailed it!!! Lying, stealing, cheating, rude and nasty children grow up to be lying, stealing, cheating, rude and nasty adults. Parenting is hard but necessary --- for cheildren to become successful, productive adults.

You said it!!! I see parents give ample threats and never follow through and the kids pick up on it...

What you said!!!! Amen!!!! We hurt our children when we don't parent!!!

The sho nuff truth! Sometimes family and friends would say I'm too strict on my children but I always thought of their futures. My children are all grown now and I can't complain about how they've turned out. All Glory to God 🙋🏾‍♀️ Amen 🙏

What kind of basement dwelling jerks would dare dislike this woman??? 💜💜💜💜

I'm not a parent but GREAT message Mrs. Tab!!🥰

You are so right Ms. Tab! if a parent doesn't parent children about lying, hating, etc. they grow up to be awful Adults thinking they should have their way in life. They become out of control Adults!! Hmmmm, sounds like someone I know!

Thanks for your parenting information..😃 I need that push!

Consistency is key when disciplining children.

I needed to hear this bc I’ll be so soft on my son & he is 7 years old & my husband tells me all the time to stop. You are so right I gots to parent him more & stop feeling bad

This is so true. I was raised by old school parents with whoopings! I don’t remember the lessons I learned or what I did wrong, I only remember being hit and crying 😭

YES! YES! YES! I sooo appreciate your words, Tabitha! ❤️

Parenting ain’t never been easy for any of us because of the hard choices you have to make.... being consistent is one of the more difficult jobs to complete. Stay strong and your children will be good adults!

Lying is the worst thing to do....we tell them to always tell the truth but sometimes the lies slip through and that is when they have to suffer the consequences. Stick to the punishment and be consistent. Thanks Tab for these words of wisdom. Love you

Amen Tabitha👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Daddy knew he was raising a “STAR”💕💕💕

Chileeee.... this hurt me in my soul. I felt that one. I know those summer times

Thank you for this. I'm having issues with this. Dealing with five kids during this pandemic ain't no joke. I have a male teenager and four girls. I also battle with chronic illness. It gets hard but thank you so much for this.

Mark Casey For every Martin Luther King Jr. speech I had to endure. I get it 30 years later. You are the Goat Daddy!

I am a parent of three & I appreciate you so much!! Thank you!! This message, was exactly what I needed to hear. I have noticed an extra increase in unfavorable behavior with lying and acting out during this time, more than any other time & I am not always consistent as I need to be. They run out of 'time out' when they want & everything you said was the perfect reminder. My 8 year old, 12 year old & 4 year old have recently started telling me lies, and I am like, Huh? who you think stupid? & its just allot to deal with but you are right, we have to be consistent, guides and take away privileges & even though they might hate us for it, it will be temporary because they will correct the negative behavior, & thank us as adults, as they see, people who weren't "parented" or taught these lessons & what those unparented people grow through as they struggle out in the real world. I was not "parented" so I am trying my best from scratch & I meditate on the Most High God to give me the peace, patience, consistency and strategy. You are so Beautiful, me and my children love your personality and videos.

Oooooohhhh Tab!!!!! My momma put DeFlee put on what she call “PUNISHMENT”!!! Allllll summer long! No tv, no outside, no cousins coming to stay... Ooooooo Lawd knows I have definitely been lenient with my child during this quarantine! You done said a word and dropped some Gems in this video!!! Make sense and very good!!!!

Thank you for sharing ms Tab and your father for his life lesson teaching to you, Amen.Your father sounds like the type of earthly father much needed now in this world today. Parents playing board games, etc., with your whole family daily is not out of style, Its a whole lot of fun, helps bring lotsa laughter & togetherness to the family Jenga, scrabble, phase 10, chess, whole family movie night.its good for children to use just theirr brain to think, instead of cell phones, computers & electronic games doing the thinking for them

Speak Truth 🙏✌️👍💜

Amen. Thank you for sharing. I am so grateful for my parents I am a better person because they cared and parented me.

Thank you so much. I appreciate your words of encouragement. God bless you

Truth! Consistency in love, love your children enough to correct/guide them. [so said my late Mama]

I truly appreciate my parents too.💜 I am very successful now. 🙌🏾

Thank you for your wisdom....I agree with you 100%. God bless it took me back to my childhood. I ❤ you Tab 😁

Oh that’s a Word, Tab. As tired as we (parents) are, we HAVE to get it done done the betterment of our children. Blessings ❤️🙏🏿✨

You turned out great. He did something right. 💜🌸

What a great message! Yes teaching our children when they do wrong, has to be swift and to the point, of course letting your child know that you love them.Best love lesson of all! Kudos to you!

This is so right on time. Thanks my friend.

My mother was very Very consistent with her discipline. She never let up and it was the same Everytime dis obeyed the rules she had in place. You learn only learn to appreciate your parents when you become a parent yourself. I learned when I became a parent that everything that my mom did to me and for me was for the GREATER Good of myself and my sisters. I did not appreciate her when I was young but oh my Lord do I now. Love you mom Nancy McGruder. Thank you Tabatha Brown.

Amen! As I always say to my nephew (I don't have children) life can teach you far better than I can tell you. Because if a child doesn't listen to the person who love them they may be forced to learn from the school of hard knocks and those lessons can be very painful.

Consistency is definitely key. I'm working on that. Needed this today. 💗

You are so Right . When our babies are born they come in this world 🌎. They need to know Right from Wrong and we as Parents are here to teach them about the World they Live in

Lying is a ABSOLUTELY no no nnnnooooo for me. I would tell my son he's about to meet crazy's cousin craoza. I take everything but the bed, desk and lamp from my son's room. One thing I do not do is coddle bad behavior. Tab I would tell my son the same thing, the world won't cushion your falls and mishaps. It is ABSOLUTELY necessary to show them at home so that they are prepared to live life as a responsible and upstanding adult!

Funny thing my 14 & 17 year olds can be on the game for only 3 hours a day. Because they are remote for school they also have to be up M-F fully dressed prayed read their bibles all before 8 am. I am trying my best to keep them with a focused mind. This pandemic won’t last forever.

Yes Tab, this is so TRUE!! Thank you Tab!❤❤

I am not a parent yet but I do hope that when I am, I can be a guiding light to them as you are. Thank you for all you do!

I love you TAB !!!!! Such an inspiration! I follow you on Instagram and KZfaq!! I can absolutely relate to this!! My problem is I’m a 30 year old mother with 2 daughters... I’m a 90’s baby I grew up with a single mother so I try to be less strict because my mother was very strict!! But I say I can relate because I too ground mine now don’t get it twisted but I don’t mean it!! And that’s my issue... I have to set aside my short comings to help them evolve into strong black women... my mother was strict as I’ve said but she didn’t pay attention as well because she didn’t parent me! She LOVED me but she didn’t do much parenting!!! I totally got this!!! I totally understand... And I’m going to start parenting!!!!! Hope my little short story makes sense!!! And to top it off it is now my mother telling me to get my kids together!

I just love you... with your baby face and your old soul.... I love the way you talk... God Bless you!

Excellent parenting tip from Tab! Keep them coming! It's Ministry sis!❤🙏🏽✝️

Amen to we still have to parent. Consistency is the key to creating good adults.

I needed this so badly. I let my kids slide on stuff all the time because when I look in those cute little faces I see their grandparents who are no longer with me or “Little Sharice”. I’ve got to do better.

Yes Tab....I'm old school, and that's how I was raised! Take away what they love, and they will learn..Tough love!

I had to ground my 9year old son right Thanksgiving break and he continued to stay grounded the ENTIRE break because he FINALLY admitted to disobeying and lying. I also told him that he might as well come clean about ANYTHING ELSE he's ever lied about, take his consequences and learn in order to grow and do better. He admitted to taking food without permission, I explained to him that doing so was a form of STEALING! It was hard to stand ground being that I've never had to ground him for that long because we do everything together. I knew I had to stand my ground, I took EVERYTHING out of his room except daily needs and his bed and put them in the garage. All he could do was reading and anything else educational but that was it. He's finally slowly but surely getting off punishment and I know he's learned his lesson and will do better moving forward. Pray for us, lol.....it's a journey!😄

Great talk! My children are grown, but they had long punishments too. No play!

Train up a child in the way it should go and when he/she is old he/she will not depart from it come to my mind while watching this.

Thank you Tab. But it works to be consistent. My brother had a summer taken from him and I had to take a summer from my son. My brother and son are very good men. Oh, took half away from my daughter. Yes,yes I've to many parents, family and co-workers about being and staying consistent when grounding or punishing your kids. Thank you!!! I totally agree with you on all that 👍!! XO ENJOY YOUR DAY

You spoke to me on today!!! I have gotten to my wits end trying to parent my 9yr old son with all the lying and stealing but u have spoken to my soul and encouraged me to stand strong thank you for the bottom of my heart!!!

Oh how the universe is so wonderful to me it seems every time I think about something, say something, do something it shows up in my face the next day. something about it shows up either, I'm reading it or I'm watching it or what have you. I am going through this same thing with my daughter. I took all of her electronics from her and yes I did feel bad, so it was just going to be for one day which was actually a downgrade from a punishment I had already thought of that I took back because I'd felt bad. But then she got so upset with me and something that I called some years back and said that she would do, happened. She became angry and said she hated me. Now I'm not hurt by these words because I said years ago that this day would come, so it doesn't bother me but I know I must stay strong and keep this punishment which is now for a week. Thank you for this video.

BRAVO MRS. BROWN! BRA-VO!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😌❤️

You're a national treasure! My son is also 8 and this is very relatable. Covid has allowed alot to slip in my once tight ship. He barely knew how to play video games before covid- now he's an expert. 😒 After almost a year I've become exhausted of entertaining and keeping him engaged but parenting must go on. These are facts. We all get tired but there are future consequences for what we fail to do now.

I love this beautiful lady! So uplifting!

I appreciate you for this. Parents (I'm not a parent, but I work with kids) deal with so much judgement about everything really, but particularly discipline. Other people think it's acceptable to shame Parents. It's really great to see encouragement.

Thank you for sharing... I ready needed this.

Amen! This is confirmation! Thanks for sharing!

Mrs. Tabitha, your words really spoke to me. In fact, it's exactly what Hebrews 12:6-11 says. I am a Grandmother of a 5 year old boy by the name of Kaison who is my pride & joy! Every friend, neighbor and relative will bear witness that if you do anything to him it's just as if you did it to me. Every person in this whole Country of USA should remember how their parents were with them so they can help this generation of young people develop a sense of morals and respect. I know everyone didn't have a two parent household and I am one of them but I did have my Grandparents and teachers, counselors, even older neighbors who I received discipline from along with my Mom who raised 8 children. Nevertheless, I can say that because I had a village of persons who wouldn't accept nothing but my best that I am still here and can teach my grandson what it means to honor his parents as well as any adult who deserves honor. I really appreciate you sharing your experience and I pray that those who desire to actually listen to your sincerest expressions will help their young people grow to develop the kind of character that will impact this darkened world in a positive way. Thanks for your sharing this along with everything else you strive to do in a way that shows love in action. AMT from Alabama

Thank you!!! Such a good powerful reminder for any parent but as a single mom, I def needed this❤️❤️

Great talk Tab. My kids knew we don't like liars or s theif. Mine are 28 and 26. Much respect 🙌🏾

Great advice Tab. My children are adults now. Tough love is real love because we want great human being with integrity going out here into this cruel world.

Amen Tab!!! I totally agree! Our job as parents is to love unconditionally, protect, guide and TEACH our children 💕