@phemyda94 Жыл бұрын
Most people's reaction to loved ones with this schema is to keep insisting "there's nothing wrong with you", which comes from a good place but can feel invalidating to the patient, because if there's nothing wrong with me, why do I feel so constantly wretched and ashamed? You can't challenge the schema until you've really acknowledged how it feels
@schematherapyinstituteaust Жыл бұрын
Yes good point!
@hollycox9946 2 жыл бұрын
My therapist gave me a handout on schemas and asked me to pick which ones I identify with most. Your videos have really helped me to understand the schemas and reflect on which ones I relate to most. Thank you!
@schematherapyinstituteaust 2 жыл бұрын
So glad it has been helpful for you Holly!
@madalinaanton3253 2 ай бұрын
I have this schema and I often find myself having therapy in my own head, preparing to defend myself in front of a future therapist. I have been in therapy for a short period of time and it was a lot of me crying, she kinda wanted me to stop crying so she made me do all these exercises and meditations that felt very invalidating and like she wanted me to stop being crazy .
@popescuada8848 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this.
@tenamelb 4 жыл бұрын
Fantastic! Thanks for sharing.
@schematherapyinstituteaust 3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@juliahart8593 2 жыл бұрын
Awesome concept.
@lugosi7308 Жыл бұрын
I'm 42. I just got aware of these schemas I hope its not too late to work on them and heal
@schematherapyinstituteaust Жыл бұрын
Not too late at all !
@petekay67 Жыл бұрын
It's not too late. I started Schema Therapy at 48 and it has allowed me to live a life I never knew existed. I'm now 56 and my schemas and modes all have names and "personalities" that come and go like old friends, the difference being that Healthy Adult mode whose name is Happy can comfort, soothe, advise and combat the negative modes. I'm a bit of a Schema Therapy fan boy 😊
@flaviomedina3781 Жыл бұрын
This is me hard time, it hurts. It's like inside me there's a constant source of sadness and feeling that the world would be better off without me.
@schematherapyinstituteaust Жыл бұрын
Flavio we encourage you to seek out therapy support as that's such a hard thing to feel.
@lambchop6278 Жыл бұрын
You could look into Codependency , it could be a possibility. I have these and find good help from reading, doing work shops and listening to KZfaq talks on it and on recovering from Narcissistic abuse. Look into whether these issues are relevant to you and take it from there.
@brettweary8491 3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely Lady’s
@juliahart8593 2 жыл бұрын
Huh?
@tetrahexaeder6312 Жыл бұрын
You said that Shame/Defectiveness is one of the 'big four' schemas. What are the other three? Shame is definitely one of my biggest schemas. I can absolutely agree that it is one of the hardest to get rid of. Been struggling with it for a decade now. :/
@schematherapyinstituteaust Жыл бұрын
Hi Tetra, it's a very tough schema and usually requires specific therapy support. Keep going! The other "big schemas" are in the connection domain and are Abandonment, Emotional Deprivation, Mistrust/Abuse and Social Isolation. The are part of our attachment and threat systems and so, can be the most challenging to heal.
@tetrahexaeder6312 Жыл бұрын
@@schematherapyinstituteaust Thank you for the quick answer! :) I'm doing my best, thanks!
@jonasjasikevicius8780 3 жыл бұрын
How it's different than avoidance personality disorder?
@schematherapyinstituteaust 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jonas that's a pretty complicated question which we aren't able to answer here, except to say that schemas can show up any of the personality disorders. Schemas help us understand what might be causing a "personality disorder"
@NESgrastu 2 жыл бұрын
At 4:30 you say that what the helper says needs to be authentic. But I know they're doing that to help, so how can I take it seriously when knowing that. ✌🏻
@schematherapyinstituteaust 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your question. We encourage therapists to share their genuine care and concern for the person that they are working with in order to help the client have a felt experience of acceptance. Even though they are sharing it to be helpful that doesn't make it inauthentic. Often client can find it hard to hear those words and may feel "you are just saying that because you are my therapist". But that is the schema talking. If it's genuine from the therapist it isn't "just because you are my therapist:" it's true and over time, with repetition and genuine care those messages do start to sink in. Hope that helps!
@NESgrastu 2 жыл бұрын
@@schematherapyinstituteaust Thank you for your response. I will try to see it like that. Guess I still have a long way to go!
@whoami1654 11 ай бұрын
Is it possible to heal from all of this
@schematherapyinstituteaust 11 ай бұрын
Yes it is possible to get healing from this schema! We encourage you to seek out a schema therapist in your area.
@jonasjasikevicius8780 3 жыл бұрын
Hello, i have this