DEPRESSION AMONG AFRICANS| LIFE ABROAD IS LONELY AND HARD
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Life Abroad can be hard and lonely and it’s getting so many Africans to be depressed abroad. Today, I share some honest truths about living abroad
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@jessica32280 Жыл бұрын
Thank you darling for the video! When I was living in Africa, I didn't know depression exist. I remember that we used to laugh about it that these white people are always depressed in spite of everything they have until I came abroad. Depression here is real!
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww my dear. It is so real nd killing so many. That's why when I hear someone left and went back home, I don't just jump into conclusion because its really crazy out here
@Fake-moon-landing. Жыл бұрын
Sweeping racist comment, "all whytes are depressed" don't blame us because all your males jumped ship and ran away.
@Aquagirl-in6wr Жыл бұрын
Have tried telling people in Africa who are so eager or salivating to come abroad, but most of them won't listen. They think I'm trying to block their blessings. Immigrating is ok if you're really down and have nothing. People who have good jobs back home should just stay home and come visit abroad for vacation. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aquagirl this is so true. If you have a good job back at home, it is not necessary to move here but they won’t listen oooo. It’s good you tell them the truth though that way they won’t say they weren’t told
@sharonmwangi5554 10 ай бұрын
Let them come. They are about to not believe it. I cannot wait for December to leave and never return.
@carinekavul7626 9 ай бұрын
God bless you,you're a good person only people like we,can understand you❤❤❤
@carolyneaketch1653 Жыл бұрын
I agree with this.I'm Kenyan and years back I travelled to Dusseldorf,Germany to visit my sister and experienced the un-social part of life first hand.Life was lonely.I would mostly spent time in the house, especially when she is at work.The streets were almost empty most times; people are most times locked in their houses, playing video games or surfing.I didn't bond with the environment and when my visit visa expired, I was happy to travel back home!
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww Carolyne this is the life oooo and it’s worse if you’re unemployed. Depression will drive you nuts. Sorry you experienced such ❤️
@sharonmwangi5554 10 ай бұрын
@Carolyne Aketch Did you feel better as soon as you landed back home? I am an international student with just a few months to go and I cannot wait to touch down JKIA.
@royalann3477 10 ай бұрын
Aww you miss home right? Home will always be home but did you find a community here? You’re a student? @sharon can we chat on IG?
@sharonmwangi5554 10 ай бұрын
@@royalann3477 Yes, I miss home a lot; I have friends but I still feel lonely. I am a masters student in California. Yes, let's chat on IG. What's your handle?
@b.3940 2 ай бұрын
Funny how life changes. I moved to the US at age 19 and I remember the loneliness that used to cut like a knife. I have been living in the US now for 45 years and when I visit my motherland I find the community closeness strange.
@righteousman9171 Ай бұрын
My sister you have said it all, to follow God abroad is not easy but God is helping
@whitneyc.3257 9 ай бұрын
Thank you for posting this video. I’m from Colombia and have been in the United States for a few years on grad school. Before moving, a man who has returned to my country from the US warned me about loneliness and depression while abroad and I did not believe him. I thought he was just a grumpy man. Now I understand what he meant and I warn upcoming grad students about the cons of living abroad and how to prepare and cope with them. There’s always a price to pay for the things you want in life, we just gotta chose which one we’re willing to pay
@royalann3477 9 ай бұрын
Awww so true sometimes we think those who warned us are just unhappy with their lives but most times they’re actually telling us the truth. Thank you for sharing that and I hope you’ve learnt to cope with the loneliness in the US? It gets better with time ❤️
@whitneyc.3257 9 ай бұрын
@@royalann3477 Thanks for the good wishes, I sure have.
@mugisha38226 6 сағат бұрын
Hello my sister, I am Mugisha Jonas from Africa UGANDA to US and life is really depressing and lonely. I did not know that life is really difficult abroad before traveling to USA. Thanks for the video you shared. I love your videos
@XXXLEGEN Жыл бұрын
Very true ,am in U.K and there is no social life here, bad weather and lonelyness.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Trueeee. Like it’s like this out here oooo hmmm
@miriammensah3386 Жыл бұрын
Welcome to the club of loneliness, from work to home lifestyle
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Exactly Miriam. No friends or community. Just work work hmmm
@BodmasBrutus 5 ай бұрын
@@royalann3477you chased money that’s what you get. Money doesn’t grow on trees, you have to work hard to see them, choice is yours, you can stay under the sunshine enjoying your community and be broke.
@TheSeeker1986 2 ай бұрын
I think the UK is even better especially if you are from an English-speaking background and my experience of living in the UK and Italy, I realized the British are more receptive to Africans than Italy. The threat of depression in Italy is a millionfold!
@user-qm8ng7df4n Ай бұрын
Completely agree with this... I am an Indian but still this is true for us Indians..... we have lot of people moving out to foreign countries, myself being one... but you don't realize you are in a totally different world with no one around no support at all. This is a big issue and I haven't found solution to it myself. Don't know what I am going to do. PEOPLE THINK ABROAD IS HEAVEN, BUT YOU JUST ARRIVED IN HEAVEN WITH NO MONEY IN POCKET AND THEN HEAVEN IS NOT SO HEAVENLY.
@tsetsoangelov6455 Жыл бұрын
Not only Africans. I am a Bulgarian livign in Denmark for 9 years. I am thinking of going back home.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww so sorry 😢 How are things there exactly?
@giftyford2332 Жыл бұрын
They won't ask how their family member is doing. They will tell you their problems as they are the only ones with problems.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Righttt? We also have problems ooo even sometimes pass them but it’s difficult getting someone who genuinely cares without wanting money
@BodmasBrutus 5 ай бұрын
@@royalann3477it’s not your job to support them back home unless is your old parents or your kids. Brothers, sisters, cousins, uncles, friends are not your financial obligations. They have their own parents who should provide for them or if they adults they have to support or work for themselves. We cannot save everyone, God gave us all hands and heads to work not rely on others. Yes, we can help or support others but only if we don’t suffer for our own disadvantage. If you have to struggle to find money only to give to your family who just waiting for your money without doing anything then that’s using the person who sending the money
@bebois2529 Жыл бұрын
My biological family didnt give a rats a* about my wellbeing when i lived abroad they were only interested in the money they could get from me.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww so sorry about that. Hope you’re surrounded by people who truly love you now?
@user-fe8xm8uw8t 9 ай бұрын
Hmmmmm personally I don’t even know wat to do dear abroad life is making me go crazy and I sometimes feel am loosing myslf hmmm
@royalann3477 9 ай бұрын
Awww so sorry. Do you have some friends? Try finding something you love doing.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Hi loves, if you’re abroad and understand what I’m talking about, please share your experiences in the comments 👇
@floremakaynerdy8722 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this with us, sis. We needed to hear this. Much love from Ghana 🇬🇭
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Flore. Great having you here❤️
@LindaM6275 Жыл бұрын
No one has ever put it so clear as you did. Thank you.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking time to watch ❤️
@BoscoTabu Жыл бұрын
Preach it sister 🙌
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate you taking time to watch
@chrisokolie3573 Жыл бұрын
Life is short. Set your priorities right. My abroad is just for visit, stay few days and go back.I'm happy in Nigeria
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Chris. Great knowing you only visit and very happy in Nigeria 🇳🇬
@JamilaIbrahim-ku4kj 3 ай бұрын
Exactly my view
@SANKOFAHDL Жыл бұрын
This video is actually so informative and important.❤
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Camie ❤️
@cellydjane9263 Жыл бұрын
Very revealing wow! Thank you so much for sharing this. God bless you
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching sis ❤️
@jerryterwase9027 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your sincerity. Many are misslead for lack of proper research.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Very true ooo hmmm. Thank you for watching
@Oyzatt 10 ай бұрын
You said it all my sister. This abroad life is not for me. I will rather die in Africa 😂😂
@royalann3477 10 ай бұрын
😂
@Ms.aliciaspeaks Жыл бұрын
You gave said the truth sis abroad life is not easy at all but people back home doesn't understand
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Very true Alicia. We hope many realise that the struggle is very real out here
@angangaus Жыл бұрын
thank u for the courage to speak
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching. I hope this message helps our families back at home to extend care to us 🥹 because some of us are just bottling emotions and working day and night to send money home. Will we have to do this ALL our lives? Hmm
@jamesschofield9963 Жыл бұрын
i am a native englishman and there are many times i wish i was born in another place that maybe had less money but has a nicer way of life and community. not just work every day like her
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Even as a native it’s difficult finding community?
@casebeth Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 chiming in from.the US: yes. It's HARD to find community. Some states here are friendlier than others (as it's a huge country), but the hyper individual culture makes it really tough to form real connections.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
That’s really sad because community is very important
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Casey
@casebeth Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 i know :/ and I think it's a hidden darkside of living in western superpower countries that many people don't talk about
@penninahwangui4285 Жыл бұрын
Truth to the core!
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching 🙏
@WGS118 18 күн бұрын
Well said
@maitreya1906 Жыл бұрын
Yeah. Im a dentist in Kenya, Nairobi. Trained in the US stayed there 14 years. Last week I saw a Kenyan-American patient. Her life is imploding out there in Virginia and she's bipolar. She can't go back to her job back there. Need to find her a shrink here. That place out there is difficult for Africans, it's not all that
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Exactly! It’s not all that. It’s really difficult because of how we were raised with community with everyone minding everyone’s business. A neighbour can discipline another’s child etc but here every man to himself making it worse when our families back home don’t also check up on us thinking life is perfect out here. Thank you for watching
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Mai
@giftyford2332 Жыл бұрын
We are making some of our families back home lazy by giving them money all the time.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Righttt? We really are! And if you don’t send, all the good you’ve done wouldn’t matter. People are literally denying themselves a good sleep and working all day.
@amaliweston3963 Жыл бұрын
THAT'S WHY, I HAD TO PUT A STOP TO THIS MONEY SENDING BUSINESS. YOU CAN ONLY APPRECIATE SOMETHING IF YOU WORK FOR IT YOUR SELF. YOU HELP THEM, AFTER THAT ITS DO IT YOUR SELF. PEOPLE HAVE TO REMEMBER YOU CAN'T LIVE A GOOD LIFE ON CHARITY. FROM ABROAD.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Exactly! You can’t continue supporting them for all your life. Some even make budget based on when you will be paid. They will be expecting you to pay unnecessary expenses just because you’re abroad ooo hmm
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Amali
@BodmasBrutus 5 ай бұрын
@@royalann3477because they never truly loved you, you trying to pay them so they can show you some love and appreciation. Real loving family never demands, but when receiving from your own will, will appreciate you for even little you give.
@richardacquaye269 Жыл бұрын
Here we go❤
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
❤️
@rainsound8851 Жыл бұрын
New fan watching from Kenya 🇰🇪
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Great having you here. One of my bestie is a Kenyan and I can’t wait to visit Kenya
@anneandjohan Жыл бұрын
The problem is that we keep on preaching these things to our African family but they don't listen at all.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Exactly they don’t mostly because of the life We or others portray about life here
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Anne
@BodmasBrutus 5 ай бұрын
If they all about your money so why you care about them that much? They clearly want to use you
@afrikaruralvillagedevelopm4843 Жыл бұрын
💫 100% True
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching
@sarahsimtat Жыл бұрын
You're right out here it really gets lonely.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Very true. Finding community is very difficult as each to its own culture is very dominant here.
@sarahsimtat Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 It is even worse for us people of colour, you find yourself isolated from the natives of the country while at the same time you are somehow excluded from the expart community. I intend to carry-out a research on the experiences of Africans in the Diaspora focusing on mental health.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Sarahsimtat you are so right. It’s very sad as we find ourselves isolated from both sides. You sure should do the research. I myself became a mental health advocate after experiencing the struggles out here and realised I had no knowledge on mental health plus all the stigma surrounding it.
@sarahsimtat Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 Thanks hey, l will get in touch with you once l get started on my project. I am actually a qualified Community Psychologist from Zimbabwe however am currently teaching in Thailand.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Wooow really? That’s good to know that you’re a mental health professional. Sure I will be here whenever needed ❤️
@54plus41 Жыл бұрын
Whenever you leave your culture yu bcom a foregner.just like when a river enters into an acean it automaticaly loses its name.its not a rocket science.God never meant life to be that way but humans either out of greed,anger,lack of wisdom choose to leave. Every kingdom has its culture and its own way of life.~much lov from Kenya.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts with us.
@eseohegift488 3 ай бұрын
Plain truth. But they don't know about it. its heartbreaking.
@royalann3477 3 ай бұрын
Very heartbreaking 💔
@swiitdoll Жыл бұрын
I’m Nigerian I migrated at 17. Now I’m 28, I like the life abroad. Could it be because I came younger? I also prefer interacting with people of all cultures than sticking to Nigerians.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
That's great Swiitdoll. I believe its because of your experience and probably how open minded you are. There are others actually most struggling as well especially the ones who came at older ages. Where in Italy are you based? Where you're based might also be a factor
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Also did you migrate alone or with family? That might be a factor too
@swiitdoll Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 oh I live in England. But I’ve visited Venice in italy
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Awww ok. Nice to know and how was it?
@alusiabogu6563 Жыл бұрын
Reality will later hit you
@jenniferaggrey5008 Жыл бұрын
This true 😢
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Righttt? Hmm
@teddybear668 Жыл бұрын
100% ✔️
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Teddy for watching
@khombisilekunene6852 Жыл бұрын
I’m in Germany, originally from South Africa 🇿🇦… I miss home everyday, i am so sad and depressed here, I regret coming here. At this point I hate everything 😢 . I wish my visa got denied.. I swear I was so excited to come abroad but I’m as unhappy as ever
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww Carol so sorry. Have you tried making friends? Have you considered visiting South Africa sometimes to help motivate some of the challenges you’re facing.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
South Africa is such a lovely place and you should visit sometime. Thank you for watching Carol
@sarahsimtat Жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that you are going through what most of us are. I guess we need to start a support group online. What do you think? I am a Zimbabwean and am currently based in Thailand. I have a 2 South Africans friends, but we live in different towns.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Yes Sarah. A support group to support Africans is really needed at this point. Since you’re a mental health officer, I believe we can also talk on the channel how people can get help with their depression etc and how they can join this support group. Africans are not raised to speak up and when we do, it’s mostly when we’re at our worst. Many like Carol and myself need help
@sarahsimtat Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 Sure i will be glade to take this one on. Let me clear things on my schedule and then we can take on this challenge!
@obiflex Жыл бұрын
The loneliness we suffer abroad is partly our fault. If you ask a Naija lady out in this America, she would turn you down except if you're a doctor making millions. How can we have social bonds when we're all about the money and status?
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Obi you’re right. Because we came here with the mindset to make money, it tends to influence a lot of things. Sometimes going out and meeting people in a social setting is the way to start a conversation and create community. Thank you for watching
@obiflex Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 When I was new to America I joined an African Facebook group for dating. All the ladies were only interested in the doctor in the group, a group of over 600 people! He was the life of the party and the day he married from outside the group, the group died. All the ladies stopped responding to all the posts. Food for thought; why is it that 99% of guys here get their papers through marriage to American women whereas there are more Nigerian Americans with papers than the ones without. Indians never marriage outside their culture remember
@Memphisblue22822 Жыл бұрын
here in tz dar es salaam everyone mind them bussiness unless jobless so they will start aproachin you for them benefit under the shadow of friendship...
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww hmmm. Even people are faking friendships just for selfish reasons. It’s well
@miriammensah3386 Жыл бұрын
Hmmmm I sometimes wonder why those people back home think us here in abroad are living well,sad enough if I don't send money home no soul will ever call to check on me,so I've stop such ooo,from work to my room.... thanks for sharing this video 😍😍🇬🇧
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Aww Miriam it’s not easy ooo. Because of money they will call you saaa. You won’t get any call until it’s the time of the month where they need money and after you send, you might not even get a thank you or any other call talk less of being asked how you are. They think we’re living well ooo and hence we can’t complain oooo. Thank you for watching ❤️
@miriamyoktv Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 the funny part is,you'll be the same person to call them and ask if they've received the money...hmmm
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
I tell you if you don’t call, they won’t ooo 😂 sometimes it’s just so annoying but what can we do
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Miriam
@miriamyoktv Жыл бұрын
@Royal Ann it's very annoying but there's nothing we can do
@somoreearly5814 Жыл бұрын
I swear you’re saying nothing but truth
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Somore. Really appreciate you taking time to watch
@africangirl189 Жыл бұрын
Never gotten depression yo thank God infact I get depression back home than abroad 😌
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
That’s good to know that it’s better here than back at home
@evajoyschorer8669 Жыл бұрын
And when it comes to papers in this countries where u have to learn the launguege. After u have to go and do acourse and get a job u need 5 good yrs. But our pipo at home doesnt know that
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Yeah language learning in Europe is so important for getting papers and a better job. Thank you for watching Eva
@irambonajasmine8155 6 ай бұрын
What you are saying is the truth. I always made fun of white people that cry put loud "depression, loneliness". I never thought I would exprerience it here. Especially in western cultures, there is no sense of community and nobody minds your life. S even if you have problems whether personnal or not, you won't have anybody to run to for help. When you are in your home country, yes you can feel sadness and loneliness but atleast you are surrounded by family and relatives and you have someone to talk too, even you can talk with a stranger on the road , he won't mind listening to you😂. That is why here in Europe many people end up in therapy. without freinds or family nearby life can be too much
@royalann3477 5 ай бұрын
Very true
@fiechaz Жыл бұрын
I am struggling with trying to switch my sponsorship coz I dint have enough working hours and I have people back home asking for money every week, coz i recently came 5 months back i know how difficult it is at home even though I can't help everyone I'm stressed by work and the calls and lonliness
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
It's not really easy. You cannot help everyone and 5 months is still too soon for such calls of help. Thank you for watching
@brendah6141 Жыл бұрын
Am here in china but eishhhhh life here isn’t what we judge with people’s good pictures on IG but regardless we are not forgetting the goal…
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Very true Brendah. It’s not easy everywhere but we keep going ❤️ Thank you for watching
@amoskagika8884 5 ай бұрын
Which part of China are you Brendah?I am in Shanghai
@wahomeadvocate Жыл бұрын
Come back home.
@samsonolal4399 Жыл бұрын
They won't understand that my sister.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Very true Samson. They won’t regardless of how many times we tell them
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching
@JimiBegbaaji Жыл бұрын
Pick the phone and ask, how are you doing. Without asking for money for school fees, or a birthday present.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Awww the truth in this. Without asking for anything but just to check up. Just to know about my well-being. We need compassion too because we’re not just money making machines.
@JimiBegbaaji Жыл бұрын
@@royalann3477 Àbí óò! I be ATM???
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
You’re definitely not! You’re human and deserve people who genuinely care
@robomelody Жыл бұрын
Its time to react now,i need someone.
@muthoni632 Жыл бұрын
This is just a claim. I am not if I happen to start feeling depressed I will just go back home
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Muthoni its not easy because some would rather die here than go home with nothing to show for it. The mockery alone hmm
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching Muthoni
@victoryword5687 Жыл бұрын
When u guys are at home u are dissatisfied. U travel abroad na wahala. U guys should stop complaining joor.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
You’re right. The grass isn’t greener on the other side as they say but greener where you water it. The fact that we wanted to come doesn’t mean we can’t complain when things aren’t like it seemed. It helps other people not to come in with that same delusion we had. Thank you for watching
@contemplatinggod2791 Жыл бұрын
Shushing people is not nice, let people talk about their experiences, you dont have to like it u know.
@ezy-e4250 Жыл бұрын
That's a backward mindset...talk about your problems...and work towards solving them. She's not complaining, but stating the reality of those who don't want to accept anything less out of life...wake up my friend.
@royalann3477 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@anonymousanonymous870 3 ай бұрын
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