Detransitioning At 17 years-old

Рет қаралды 238,220

Күн бұрын

Sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/insane
Detransitioning, or gender detransition, is a multifaceted and deeply personal process whereby individuals who have previously undergone gender transition reevaluate their gender identity and decide to return to their original gender expression or assigned sex at birth. This journey is often marked by complex emotions, as detransitioners navigate feelings of self-discovery, identity reevaluation, and societal pressures. Physical aspects may come into play, such as ceasing hormone therapy or reversing surgical procedures. Detransitioners may seek understanding and support from healthcare professionals, therapists, and peer communities to cope with the challenges and uncertainties that arise during this transformative process. Open conversations about detransitioning are crucial to fostering understanding, empathy, and respect for each individual's unique path of self-exploration and identity development.
If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, fill out this form: forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9
00:00 BetterHelp
00:21 Introduction & Upbringing
01:33 Anxiety and mental health
02:00 Gender identity struggle begins
06:20 Therapy
08:00 Problem isn’t solved, feeling like it was a mistake
14:35 Difference in mastectomy for transgender people vs breast cancer patients
16:00 Why detransition?
16:35 Gender dysphoria
18:18 Relationship with family post-transition
19:50 Conservatives weaponizing detransitioners
25:00 Emotional impacts
26:00 Process of being approved for gender-affirming care
30:11 BetterHelp
32:37 Arguments among transgender community
43:30 Impacts of transitioning on social interactions
47:00 Stopped using public bathrooms
48:00 Advice to younger self
53:00 Malpractice
54:50 Life now
58:00 Bullying & Concluding thoughts

Пікірлер: 866

@sugucide 10 ай бұрын

this podcast is genuinely so refreshing with how much space the host gives the guests to tell their stories

@heinzhair 10 ай бұрын

Totally agree… usually. I felt like the host did a lot of the talking in the last 30mins. She has good insights but I wish Cassie got more time to share

@ballgms308 10 ай бұрын

Yeah I’ve noticed she’s great at leaving them be and rarely intervening. Super calm and serious when times call for it

@topicdel 10 ай бұрын

agree, she's great

@bipi420 10 ай бұрын

she legit gets money for people coming over and sharing their traumas, and she doesnt has to do anything but listen. Easy money.

@luciaagostini 10 ай бұрын

we love devorah

@georginasophie977 10 ай бұрын

It was really nice to see an interview with someone who has detransitioned that is not politically motivated or demonising the trans community! Thank you for sharing your story

@hummingbirdenthusiast1481 10 ай бұрын

Totally agree, it was a great interview.

@ClayMastah344 10 ай бұрын

Why is that the focus here

@restorative-waves 10 ай бұрын

I find as soon as someone brings up "cons" or "right-wingers" they're the ones making it political... a lot of people care about this issue with differing opinions who aren't into the political side. Otherwise, I have total compassion and appreciation for Cassie... interesting, nice and smart human being to listen to. I relate to growing up disphoric, but I'm 33 now so back then, I held on for dear life and ended up growing into myself after years passed (and with some work put into healing of course)... and yeah... I only wish Cassie the best from here on out!

@JasManie1995 10 ай бұрын

The trans Community ist demonising detransitioners ...

@Indigo8078 10 ай бұрын

the only politically motivated and demonising conversation thats happening when watching de-transitioning videos is the one in your head. those videos are triggering your own insecurities. its important to realise that A CHILD should not be making life altering decisions in any capacity, and nobody is demonising the trans community by saying that

@Meg33722 10 ай бұрын

“Trans kids deserve better than being fast tracked along this process and told this is the only way - because it isn’t the only way” This right here. This is so freaking important.

@blindbandit9579 10 ай бұрын

The fact that your profile pic is of our flag speaks volume! You put it in excellent words. We need to protect our kids...

@derekb4977 10 ай бұрын

There's no such thing as trans kids

@Meg33722 10 ай бұрын

@@derekb4977 what you think people magically become trans when they turn 18? Nope they were always trans.

@tee57515 10 ай бұрын

@@blindbandit9579 The number of children getting surgery is less than 1% 57 kids from 2019 to 2021. And 776 received top surgery. This rate has increased in the last two years. There are 71 million children in the us. This makes up less than a percent. A single percent. It’s extremely rare they doctors will approve surgery for children. Versus hormone blockers which can be stopped and is not permanent.

@Raiden-le7up 10 ай бұрын

@@tee57515There are definitely permanent changes, for both blockers and hormones, whether these would be physical or mental. I support the trans community and even used to identify (when of course, I was only 10), but it’s disingenuous and harmful to those who are questioning or trans to say that there are no permanent effects. The process to get on these sorts of drugs should be more arduous and informed, since it could very well be that they cause a permanent change that effects the life of a person forever and leaves them with depression or suicidal ideation.

@christinequarles8869 9 ай бұрын

I am 100% trans affirming but as a mom I could NEVER co sign medical transitioning that young !!! I would do everything in my power to help my child socially transition or become more comfortable in their body. Surgery at 14 is criminal imo.

@aaronrichards19886 8 ай бұрын

Unfortunately the far Left encourages it.

@WhitneyGilmer-fq8ez 5 ай бұрын

as a mother of two boys, ive thought about it. how or what i would do. and id let him wear the clothes he wants, respect his feelings, but if he wanted surgery id have to say no. therapy, physical expression is ok but the rest HAS to wait.

@helena-oj4fq 4 ай бұрын

Puberty blockers are a wonderful thing too if the child doesn’t mind having a late puberty, it gives the kid time to understand what they want for themselves

@abigailcoffey512 10 ай бұрын

Love the way this podcast just gets right into it without a long introduction.

@SRHisntSilent 10 ай бұрын

RIGHT??

@karacarty170 10 ай бұрын

love it

@opctpos. 10 ай бұрын

It does matter if people constantly change gender. It’ll have huge implications in regard to health. Females experience numerous health problems differently to males. The number one being heart attacks. In regard to crime, it’ll be impossible to measure crime statistics correctly; males commit more violent crimes than females. In regard self id, if any male can say he’s a woman that negates female only spaces because ANY male who says he’s a woman can access female only spaces. There are growing numbers are of cases of males claiming they’re women accessing females only spaces and assaulting females. It also endangers children because you’re demanding a child to go against his or her own instincts by forcing him or her to accept males, who are inherently more dangerous than females, as women.

@flopadoo8991 10 ай бұрын

The fact that the consult was only 15 minutes long is criminal. She had no idea what she was getting in to

@emilyk5718 10 ай бұрын

Yes!! Absolutely insane that a child was allowed to go on testosterone which changed her voice forever amd changed the size of her genitals, a child could request a surgery to get both breasts removed for FREE as she said Medicaid paid for it. And now at 17, still a child, was allowed to make plans to get a series of 4 or 5 reconstructive surgeries to reverse the breast removal for FREE. Just shocked.

@Skoot61 10 ай бұрын

- the short consult time is by design...

@katcankan7129 9 ай бұрын

Once upon a time not so long ago, children could not give medical consent.

@Skoot61 9 ай бұрын

@@katcankan7129 - Haha... YES! That was before the diabolical Democrat party was hi-jacked by extreme, radical, progressive, ideologs who promote and endorse liberalism which is nothing more than the normalization of immoral and unethical behaviors...

@purpleexplsion 10 ай бұрын

As a trans man it’s really good to hear a story about detransitionig that isn’t making the trans community out as the bad guys, and just about someone’s story on their gender identity

@macarenarrieta 10 ай бұрын

The unaware victims of the medical industrial complex, mentally ill, or both. No one thinks of you as the "bad guys".

@CassieV100 10 ай бұрын

@@macarenarrietathat’s worse :)

@ReignHinman 10 ай бұрын

tell that to the people threatening our lives on the daily

@otmossampacado1550 10 ай бұрын

Maybe pumping the brake on spreading of the "massage" of trans would help children that may lash on to it, as a new trend

@tess4ri 10 ай бұрын

@@otmossampacado1550 you spelled both message and latch incorrectly. maybe before speaking on something you should be able to spell

@carehoule 10 ай бұрын

im 25 and i identify as non-binary. i have dysphoria around my chest and this helped me realize that i need to get a breast reduction before deciding whether i want a double mastectomy. thank you for telling your story.

@Roma-SRyan 10 ай бұрын

or ur just androgynous girl. why do u hate women so much? does identifying as 'non binary" help anything? ur solving the wrong problem. maybe u just needed smaller boobs but society got u fuked up

@agirltodiefor 10 ай бұрын

plz visit a psychiatrist

@proudperp7614 10 ай бұрын

We want to see those muffins gone ok sister? Do it now

@EarlynnFollahsuckmyass 10 ай бұрын

@proudperp7614 oh my God???????

@BasedOnATrueStory_ 10 ай бұрын

@@lpycb42i understand you wanted it to be a genuine questions. But when you use words like “mutilating” it comes across disingenuous. Because their are women that get surgeries on their chest, for illness reasons, and that completely changes the narrative of what’s happening. It’s not mutilating. I’m most cases, it is a medical necessity. Bc mental health is medical. So if you’d like to learn more, please keep an open mind. Bc just bc it’s something you haven’t experienced, doesn’t mean it’s not valid. Just be glad you don’t have to know first hand, and you haven’t experienced any of the factors that go into chest surgeries.

@kingworm7168 10 ай бұрын

I am hugely supportive of the trans community, but a mastectomy at that age is bonkers to me. Your body isn’t even done developing at that age, it makes no sense to even do a reduction let alone a full removal at that age.

@imfiveone7158 10 ай бұрын

I had a breast reduction at 15 years old, let me tell you, it absolutely makes sense, when you're 1.54 cm, 50 kgs and 10% of your body weight is your boobs

@lorddamon079 10 ай бұрын

Mental illness is wild as fuck, that’s all that is from what they described their family life was

@bebooo0 10 ай бұрын

it's medical malpractice not the fault of trans people, she said herself the consultation was only 15 minutes instead of the standard and that then they couldnt get in touch with their doctor for months afterward

@svettina87 10 ай бұрын

I agree, whilst i fully support trans people and transitioning where wanted and needed, i feel 14 is such a young age to go through such a permanent change... whilst i understand the issues with dysmorphia, i think its better to live through a few yrs of discomfort and take a decision later on when it comes to permanent changes... at 14 a lot of teens are still trying to adjust to the changes their body is going through as a result of the onset of puberty...and not faulting this person, but as she said the adults and professionals around her who should have been more diligent in their decisions...

@katcankan7129 9 ай бұрын

There is the problem. People being supportive of the trans community by upholding their flawed ideology. The guest states at 16:02 that "Non of the surgeries or hormones are going to make me a cis man" or what l would call a man. I agree and this is what we should be telling those children who believe this is so. One cannot change their gender. One can change their appearance but not their gender. In order to do so one will undergo major surgeries and become a life long medical patient. Whilst this is beneficial for the pharmaceutical companies it may not be so for the patient as all medications have side effects.

@bebooo0 10 ай бұрын

i really felt for her immediately when she talked about how early she hit puberty and wondering what role being uncomfortable in her body from such a young age played, there is psychology research showing that being a girl who hits puberty early can be really challenging because the kids your age will make fun of you and then older boys and men start creeping on you, of course you feel extremely uncomfortable in your body and with breasts especially big ones which can cause back and other health problems like with breathing too :( poor baby. and i feelt when she said she doesn't like being perceived as a man or a woman cause thats me and it has taken me a long time to deconstruct in my own mind the feeling of "oh i look too much like a woman" today and hating that. but there's no one body assigned to any gender and man and woman are made up categories and being nonbinary is so free. its not my problem if someone sees me and thinks "woman," thats their own closed-mindedness. but it took so much hard work to unlearn that and im almost 30 now shes only 18 so i hope she gives herself grace and is kind and goes easier on herself a little bit

@frankiel7517 8 ай бұрын

I told my boyfriend the same thing. The moment your the girl with big breasts other girls mAke fun of you or say your stuffing your bra. Any man in your life starts commenting on how “much you’ve grown” but they aren’t talking about getting taller because you can see where there eyes are looking when they say it. Boys who never talked to you or even were horrible to you start acting weird and it’s SO CONFUSING when you’re already concerned about the new hair and everything else going on with your body. I remember my boobs came in over a freaking weeekend and I didn’t wear a bra yet, and I got bullied so badly and a gym teacher asked me about wearing a bra in front of other people. It’s hard enough being a kid. And then you realize your not a little kid anymore it’s a lot. I wore baggy clothes and was a “Tom boy” because I thought it made life easier if no one saw me as a girl at all.

@herpaderp-bp4pe 3 ай бұрын

@@frankiel7517I couldn't have said this better myself. You worded it perfectly. And I completely relate and agree.^^^

@user-ry4bm5cm4g 10 ай бұрын

i’m so glad that i found this. i am trans masc and have been wanting to learn about detransitioners so i can educate myself about other experiences and possibilities that may occur in my life. however, every time i tried to research i was confronted with so much transphobia. though it may sound contradictory, hearing her story has made me feel way more certain in transitioning for myself. it is incredibly refreshing to hear someone detransition and still support trans people. obviously, i wish she didn’t have to go through all the pain and trauma but i’m glad she’s in a better place now and able to help others

@fancydeer 10 ай бұрын

I hate that you've been finding so much transphobia but I would say that it could be helpful to listen to these detransitioners stories as well, there's a common thread through these stories (most have been failed by therapists and medical professionals). I wish you luck on your life journey and hope you can get all the support you need.

@user-ry4bm5cm4g 10 ай бұрын

@@fancydeer thank you 🫶 i’ve had my share of negative experiences with medical professionals (though in the opposite direction, i’ve been dismissed and ignored) and hate that so many people have experienced it. i try to learn about detransitioners when i have the mental capacity to sort through transphobic stuff, and it’s really cool to hear different experiences, even when they are largely painful for the person. knowing that they can share and i can learn and reflect on myself is nice

@megsley 9 ай бұрын

I have watched many detransitioners stories and have yet to see one where they demonize or bash trans people. it's the trans community that bashes, demonizes, and tries to silence detransitioners.

@spookygreg 10 ай бұрын

This whole interview just screams to why we need more funding and resources for trans health. Patients each individually deserve the time and resources to make the best most educated decisions for them. Gender is very complicated and transition is individual to the person. There’s truly so much variation between even people with the same labels. If being trans weren’t so politicized and polarized, people would more easily be able to access the resources to help them figure themselves out. Trans kids deserve safe and up to date healthcare. Kids who are figuring themselves out deserve the time and space to do that without pressure.

@danielle8611 10 ай бұрын

in general i think puberty can be such a scary and traumatizing time in life, especially for people who are afab. i remember feeling sooooo uncomfortable in my own skin when developing my chest, and so sexualized despite never having any negative experiences with other people. i hated the sensation and how it made me feel. i never noticed the social divide between girls and boys, until it became instilled in school/media/etc; having traditionally masculine traits and interests made me feel like i didn't fit in, not socially but on a much deeper level. that combined with stress, hormones, and undiagnosed depression and PCOS made for very confusing and tumultuous teenage years, despite ultimately being a cis woman, although i don't really identify with that. it took me until my mid 20s to feel comfortable in my own skin and realize, for me personally, my body isn't inherently sexual or shameful and how others perceive me doesn't matter or define who i am. i don't mean to discredit anyone else's experiences, just giving my own! i feel like there is such an immense pressure on teens, even moreso now with social media, to know who they are and be confident in that; it's okay to not know!

@bebooo0 10 ай бұрын

i relate, i just commented about the puberty part!! and i have pcos too which i wonder sometimes if that affects my feelings about my gender. some people say pcos can count as an intersex medical condition. you dont have to identify as a woman if you don't want to! i call myself genderqueer, agender, genderfluid and sometimes i identify as a fem person but rarely, mostly i just dont think of myself as being gendered at all.

@danielle8611 10 ай бұрын

@@bebooo0 i've heard that as well! pcos is super underdiagnosed, too, i have so many friends who also have it that weren't diagnosed until their mid 20s. i think learning about it really helped me understand myself. the fact that it's literally a hormonal imbalance of estrogen/testosterone makes a lot of sense in how it would affect feelings of gender. i suspect more information and more diagnoses of pcos would help a lot of people struggling with this, cis, trans, or otherwise. i don't mind being referred to as a woman these days, gender isn't important to me personally, in fact i feel kind of empowered knowing all of this is just part of what makes me who i am

@Starl1ng. 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your experience, because I never hear people talk about this. Everyone says that womanhood is beautiful, but my afab puberty was so traumatic for me internally, externally, socially, and physically. And though I identify as a demi-girl the whole concept of girl/woman-hood is very scary (and almost unwanted to new). I am not yet in my 20s so, hearing your story gives me hope that I’ll feel better and more comfortable. So thank you for this

@leahography1303 10 ай бұрын

This is exactly my story as well ❤

@fancydeer 10 ай бұрын

This. there's so much shame society puts on afab people especially teenagers for no reason. It's such a confusing time, especially for little girls who never really considered themselves girls or considered boys and girls to be different. Having society shame you for something you have no control over and being sexualized so young is just disgusting and it makes you feel gross but you don't know *why* you just do.

@ariannetherriault4349 10 ай бұрын

this is why Non-Binary people are so important to know about. You don't necessarily fit in every box in trans or cis settings

@opctpos. 10 ай бұрын

People who say they’re non binary are just oppression opportunists. Most people feel a bit masculine sometimes or a bit feminine sometimes, but they don’t call themselves non binary. The majority of non binary people are white affluent people. Morally they’re amongst the lowest of the low because they see oppression as a way of advancing their needs. Disgusting.

@mothercat6083 10 ай бұрын

I am a woman’s who was also born with a large chest, you learn to hate it quickly. I remember adults jokingly sexualizing my body from as young as 6th grade, sickening looking back. I remember hatin my body and feeling the need to change it so I expirmented with binding and cross dressing, in the end I decided I was just depressed and unhappy with myself and I need to learn to love how I am because no magic pill or surgery was going to change it. I have trans friends and still support them fully, I just try to warn people transitioning to really self explore before doing anything that’s permanent

@diciottottobre 10 ай бұрын

that's incredible to me as a woman who had the exact opposite experience, and felt like I was never "womanly" enough with a small chest. just goes to show we are all miserable about our bodies at one point of our lives, and learning to see your body for what it is, a vessel to experience life, is the only way out. happy to know you're happy now

@epickody3924 10 ай бұрын

“i just try to warn people transitioning to really self explore before doing anything that’s permanent” i hope you know that that’s what we have to do regardless. trans youth rarely begin to medically transition. it a phenomenon that is not as present as one may think. instead, what our transitions look like at that age is different name, different clothes, different haircut. some may be put on puberty blockers, which are 100% reversible as they simply block puberty and the moment they are stopped puberty resumes. they had been used on cis kids who begin puberty far too early originally. but back to my point, majority of trans kids are experimenting with their gender identity, all of which is nothing permanent and is encouraged. it is rare that they are allowed to transition so young medically.

@user-cs9kr2wl6n 10 ай бұрын

I'm 20 and just started my medical gender transition, I'm interested in hearing all different experiences thank u for this episode 💕

@paradox8541 10 ай бұрын

Wishing you the best, and I hope everything goes smoothly for you! :]

@user-cs9kr2wl6n 10 ай бұрын

@paradox8541 thank you!🥰

@saharavences6695 10 ай бұрын

Good luck to you! I hope your journey is full of supportive people and lots of love (:

@Eva12303 10 ай бұрын

Stop this is not right

@okaythen- 10 ай бұрын

@@Eva12303that’s not for you to determine.

@HH-kg4fq 3 ай бұрын

She was severely emotionally neglected by her parents.

@PamelaH_HappyVibes 10 ай бұрын

I love that the guests are given a a platform to be heard. The host is fantastic! It’s amazing that the host only speaks when it is helpful! This interview was educational. My hope is that they keep sharing their story and their point of view.

@wryn.is.trying 10 ай бұрын

“you’re not wrong for not being better for it, but other people aren’t wrong for being better for it.” there were so many great quotes in this episode (the whole thing was really good), but this is one of my favorites. making the wrong choice for yourself is a human right, and it’s okay to realize that the thing that helped someone else didn’t help you.

@hesherette 10 ай бұрын

what an amazing + brave guest to talk about their lived experience! it was so refreshing to hear this topic being discussed without politics getting involved, just a real human sharing their real human journey. i wish cassie nothing but the best!!

@raven6648 10 ай бұрын

i relate this girl SO much, i thought i was trans, ftm, for 5 years (13-18) and literally right after i turned 18 i kind of realized it wasnt JUST gender dysphoria causing me so much pain and anxiety, but lots of other mental illnesses. (i actually pushed gender dysphoria on myself by trying to fit into the 'masc' box as a curvy, large chested and short girl) now im almost 20 and i just identify as non binary but often refer to myself as a girl. I still have some dysphoria and want to do some transitioning but im taking my time and making sure i dont do anything im not sure of :)

@raydare2002 10 ай бұрын

why dont you just consider yourself to be a woman? Why do you have to identify as non-binary? Wasnt one of the biggest factors of feminism being that woman can look/act/dress however they please without being disqualified as a woman?

@anava7030 10 ай бұрын

That’s so weird because I am kinda dealing with the same thing. I’m a woman who’s got some curves and i wear a lot of baggy clothes - which made me feel gender dysphoria. For a little bit I considered that I might not be a woman, but then I realized when I dressed in ways that wasn’t hiding my body, or when I wasn’t trying to be masc, i felt better about myself because I felt like I was actually succeeding in a presentation of myself. And it happens that I like presenting feminine. All this stuff is so weird and complicated, people and our relationship with our gender identities.

@fancydeer 10 ай бұрын

@@anava7030 there are different ways to be a woman and to be feminine. I feel like we aren't talking about that as much and we're trying to put people in "male" and "female" boxes when that's not the case. There's as many ways to be a woman as there are women in the world. The same for men. It's not about fitting what society says a woman should be, it's about fitting what makes you feel right and comfortable.

@megsley 9 ай бұрын

please stop putting a thousand labels on yourself - it's okay just to be a woman. not trans masc, or demiboy, or whatever.

@bravelydefaulted 5 ай бұрын

i completely get this! i personally have and was diagnosed after many years of counseling with gender dysphoria, but only a few years back i realized i didnt need to throw myself into a box. my gender doesnt have to fit the mold of man or woman, and i can be happy being called whatever. it’s a big discovery process ❤️

@sophiapagano4809 10 ай бұрын

As someone less than a month away from top surgery, this interview was really hard to listen to, but so so valuable. It can be hard to hear detrans people talk about their experiences and actually listen to what they say because of the way its been used against the community. Detrans people should have access to the same care and community that we all need. Thank you for sharing your story, wishing you all the best 🖤

@ilhaam8600 10 ай бұрын

Well done for looking at different experiences! It's good to be as informed as you can be, certain things can't be reversed

@megansmith5993 10 ай бұрын

Congratulations!! It is so sad to me that the political agendas of others has made it more difficult for us to hear the stories of others, because there is the threat of manipulation. Good luck with your surgery!

@claire7668 10 ай бұрын

congrats on top surgery!!!! hoping for a speedy and easy recovery

@MM-nb7oe 10 ай бұрын

There is no 'community'.

@viktorias63 10 ай бұрын

How scary, listing to people damage their body forever and still willing to damage yours

@ArielPerez-lh5ot 4 ай бұрын

Allowing a child to dictate their own healthcare is NEVER a good idea in any situation. It’s outrageous to me that a 14 year old could, who can’t legally drive a car, can’t legally buy alcohol, can’t legal join the military could be allowed to get a double mastectomy

@brick7272 10 ай бұрын

This is then only podcast where the more she keeps talking, shes not just spewing filler bs, everything you said was real, very gentle to this guests feelings, and I appreciate your attention to detail a lot. This conversation brought me to tears.

10 ай бұрын

As someone who used to have social anxiety, I just want to thank you so much for doing the effort to make every single interview such a safe space for everyone. It's not an easy thing to do, yet you achieve it everytime 💞

@samshoaff7831 8 ай бұрын

As a trans-guy who started medically transitioning at 16 (back in 2011), there were soooo many hoops to jump through even as a minor. Now, that doesn’t seem the case. There’s countless issues on the spectrum of care, between threatening parents to not allow their children to access gender affirming care, to just giving a script for HRT within one appointment. It really helped me by being required to see a speciality therapist for over a year before even knowing what direction was my goal, but I worry about creating hard limits and how it limits life saving care for someone else. Such a challenging topic from so many people to discuss, kudos to them, for being able to discuss their personal journey. I commend your courage in finding your own path forward to make yourself comfortable.

@eggsandjam3649 10 ай бұрын

it's unbelieve how everyone's supposed to fit within an identity/role that is socially constructed, it works for most people but humans are far too complex to be boxed into two catergories. big ups to her for having the courage to share and for being so articulate at such a young age!!

@MB-yl9hm 9 ай бұрын

Except the two categories in real life are male and female, and those aren't limiting anymore than the fact we have two arms is limiting, it is what it is. Nature is what it is, biology is what it is. You get what you get and you don't get upset, you know? The modern gender ideology movement has tightened the constricrions of man and women through these very immature relations of biology and social roles. Wanting to wear a dress as a boy doesn't make you a girl. Playing with boys as a young girl doesn't make you a boy. Feeling self conscious of your breasts as a woman doesn't make you a man. Feeling "euphoric" at the thought of being a woman if you are a man doesn't make you a woman, it probably just means you have a fetish that you need to work through.

@pamelaramirez2765 9 ай бұрын

this is why i dont fully understand trans community, it feels like they re affirm traditional sterotypes, like how girls dress how men dress, to me the point is that there is no such things? i feel like they re affirm toxic and traditional gender roles.

@pookyandthebrain8054 10 ай бұрын

couldn't of picked a better topic of discussion this week to disect 🧠💭💡 so conflicting & heavy , & I'm totally here for it .

@nicoles2159 10 ай бұрын

This is absolutely her truth, but I worry that uninformed individuals will think this is how ALL doctors treat their transgender patients. I've almost never heard of anyone able to access surgery this fast / this young, and only about 1% of transgender individuals regret transitioning (one of the LOWEST regret rates in all of plastic surgery). Thank you for sharing your story.

@laurlaurmarmar7697 10 ай бұрын

“Uninformed” is a kind way to put it for some of them. A revival of teaching and learning about media literacy is much needed in the U.S. right now.

@lucysingh506 10 ай бұрын

If you guys were informed you would know the life threatening effects of cross sex hormone replacement

@chazzalyn 10 ай бұрын

I saw the title and immediately was disappointed, thinking the guest was going to be pushing harmful right-wing ideologies. I’m so glad I watched because not only was I wrong, I learned about a bias that I didn’t know I had and I got to challenge it! This was such a powerful story, thank you for sharing ❤

@Kanggaxx 10 ай бұрын

Hey good on you thank you for sharing. For me these kind of surgeries are really scary, and more irreversable than most people realise.

@raydare2002 10 ай бұрын

Sadly, I thought this video was about what you thought it originally was about. Right-wing ideology of transgenderism and detransitioners are right, and the fact this person who went through all this is still supportive of a transgenderism is so sad. They are helping to cause more mutilations and more people to ruin their lives under harmful left-wing ideology.

@chazzalyn 10 ай бұрын

@@raydare2002 no ❤️

@raydare2002 10 ай бұрын

@@chazzalyn yes ❤️

@economiccrisis9267 10 ай бұрын

@@chazzalynthe person you're replying to is correct.

@CassieV100 10 ай бұрын

thank you for being a channel that covered a detransitioner’s story without making it about demonizing the trans community. we need more like you

@CassieV100 10 ай бұрын

for clarity: there is nothing wrong with detransition or detransitioners. they need love and support and to be heard and listened to. trans people need support too. there is no villain here except bigotry.

@ql6588 10 ай бұрын

Ah yes, let detransitioners speak but only if they adhere to your pre-determined narrative. Got it.

@rick-wh3ev 10 ай бұрын

@@ql6588the way in which they did not say that💀

@CassieV100 10 ай бұрын

@@ql6588 if the narrative is ever “this person detransitioned, therefore nobody should be able to transition”, then yeah, fuck that narrative and it should not be platformed. i said what i said.

@VoidHugger 10 ай бұрын

@@ql6588 demonising is bad is apparently controversal to you now?

@bigasspockets 8 ай бұрын

I’ve never even considered the scam risk that’s presented when these surgeries and treatments aren’t covered by insurance. Thank you for this, this was such a compassionate and nuanced conversation and you’ve really opened my eyes a lot

@AL-cg4vb 10 ай бұрын

The biggest threat to people being put in a situation where they feel they have to transition or do something a specific way is transphobia. There is no one way to transition, there should never been this forced "show of commitment" that cisgender people like to push. We should be allowed to stop, go, and slow down every second we please and do things our way. Including being cisgender. Every single person deserves the right to expressing their gender how they see fit without pressure to perform

@katec708 6 ай бұрын

amen!!!

@Kennnkennnnn 10 ай бұрын

I love that you have given so many people a voice through this channel. Love what you’re doing 🫶

@misskaos5905 10 ай бұрын

this also happens to normal mastectomy's one of my moms best friend lost her nipples due to breast cancer that later took her life. The mental stress of it was so hard for her and for cancer patients with her insurance reconstructive plastic surgeries and tattooing weren't covered sadly.

@DarlingDaintyfoot 10 ай бұрын

Wow. Do you by any chance know if it's still not covered? Obviously in the cases where a mastectomy saves the person's life, losing a breast is preferable to dying but, a woman's breast play such a large part in feeling & looking womanly & feminine... I can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster of almost losing your life, undergoing an invasive & dangerous surgery & then having to learn how to live with the scar & loss of your breasts.... Especially if the cancer only progresses.... I feel like insurance companies probably make enough money to help cancer survivors by covering reconstructive surgeries but, what do I know?

@misskaos5905 10 ай бұрын

@@DarlingDaintyfoot I'm not sure exactly but they had insurance with a good company in California about 8 years ago, they considered it cosmetic and not necessary for quality of life... I agree as a woman it would take a toll especially with being intimate. And it's frustrating that it happened. I pray that has been fixed because mental health is important when it comes to quality of life in my opinion.

@oliviacaron7088 10 ай бұрын

@DarlingDaintyfoot back in MA in 2012 it also wasn't covered. My aunt had breast cancer had had to save for years to be able to cover her own out of pocket. I don't know about modern times, but it was sad to see her so upset

@DarlingDaintyfoot 10 ай бұрын

@@oliviacaron7088 I just can't even believe it.

@fernlikespossums 10 ай бұрын

I do support them in their journey and than you so much for not putting trans people down while sharing your experince, but some things dont align with my experince with getting top surgery and someone i know getting a masectomy for cancer, I think the experince with a bad surgeon at least isnt the norm now, most of them have you see a mental health profesional before getting the surgery. Also, the breast reconstruction is the same as you decirbed for a mascetomy for cancer reasons. I also didnt get nipple grafts but i do have sensation expt for the scars (your outfit is also so good i love the yellow!!!)

@angelinadavis7924 10 ай бұрын

@popopodongI think they were just correcting some misinformation shared by the guest. There was no disrespect or really any comparison intended, just speaking about the medical procedures.

@cassidy7315 10 ай бұрын

Delayed reconstruction in breast cancer patients is similar to that of detrans women, but the currently most common type of breast cancer reconstruction is immediate, meaning they place the implants at the same time as the mastectomy. And breast cancer patients who don’t choose to reconstruct immediately most often have skin-sparing mastectomies, meaning they leave the pocket of skin that held the breast tissue intact so reconstruction can be completed in one surgery, without tissue expanders. My surgery will be similar to that of a breast cancer patient who had an aesthetic flat closure, meaning they remove all the extra skin.

@epickody3924 10 ай бұрын

@popopodongit really isnt as they are the same procedure, just different names due to different circumstances.

@PoopyMyers 10 ай бұрын

I'm trans(ftm) I'm a freshman in highschool and I began this when I was 10 I have not started testosterone or had surgery and I want to wait but I am so impatient this video was EXTREMELY HELPFUL

@thecommonchumps3937 10 ай бұрын

I would see a good therapist first and reflect on childhood, parents, experiences. It's extremely difficult to accept being a woman. Puberty is difficult psychologically and physically. Unwanted sexual attention from males is extremely traumatizing. Social expectations are disgusting. A lot of girls reject their femininity and it's natural. It's important to know that society doesn't define womanhood. You can define it yourself. You don't have to look feminine, you don't have to be sexual, you don't have to get married, have children, etc. Being a woman is not about external attributes like dresses or make up. It's not about genitals or breasts either. It's about being strong, confident, intuitive, empathetic, etc. Women face a lot of challenges in life and it's all about finding the strength to be yourself and do what you love.

@anzuimi 6 ай бұрын

i was in your shoes before and @thecommonchums3937 is right. it's hard being a woman and it's hard to accept that, but becoming a man won't magically fix everything, for everyone. Find a good therapist (that doesn't just tell you everything you want to hear), and find other issues you may have. For me, it was undiagnosed mental health issues, and internalized misogyny.

@MarieSallaupHalse 10 ай бұрын

It's shocking to hear that they removed the breasts of a kid that young. In my country you need to be 18 for that kind of surgery.

@restorative-waves 10 ай бұрын

yeah the adults working in that industry and doing that are irresponsible.

@sbocaj22 10 ай бұрын

I’m more wondering what state they were living in because where I live they won’t perform operations that young.

@whitneybh 10 ай бұрын

@sbocaj22 I guarantee it’s Oregon

@allthatmatters7960 10 ай бұрын

They target young minds for a reason

@allthatmatters7960 10 ай бұрын

Also it’s more effective done before puberty as it harder to reverse the effects

@intrusive-th0t 10 ай бұрын

If you want to support detransitioners please help push for insurance to cover detrans care- many of us are left with permanent changes but are denied medical treatment to reverse them

@etherbunni 10 ай бұрын

Girl i was literally just wondering when you'd upload again. I appreciate these videos so much!

@DYoutubee166 10 ай бұрын

I love this channel so much. Variety of guests and so many different topics. The host is also very phenomenal; she is so patient, empathetic and a genuine listener. ❤

@colecrystal3035 10 ай бұрын

The host seems comfortable in that tiny chair, but none of the guests ever seem so. They need a bigger chair to get all cozy in.

@jannafranco5623 10 ай бұрын

I think the guests are just more nervous typically. I don’t think it’s the chair that’s uncomfortable

@colecrystal3035 10 ай бұрын

@@jannafranco5623 of course they are internally uncomfortable as well. I was just pointing out that the chair seems a miss as far as a choice. Why not give the guests the option to get more physically comfortable - room to curl up or put their feet up - as the host is able to do right in front of her guest.

@agirltodiefor 10 ай бұрын

they need to lose their weight obvi

@laurensmith0912 10 ай бұрын

I am absolutely amazed at what this pod cast has become. You are doing such a phenomenal job! I loved the podcast before the change, and I love it just as much now! It’s so different, but in the best way possible! I love you dev🩷

@AnnaRiedl 7 ай бұрын

This insight is so central "I wanted to be a cis man". Realizing that one would have preferred to be born a different sex is a very different thing than now, given that one wasn't born that way, wanting to become a trans man, it's different deals! This insight was crucial for me, too.

@svettina87 10 ай бұрын

This interview was really informative and eye opening... thanks to the person sharing their experience and the interviewer for allowing the person to talk without many interruptions...

@sattheer1493 7 ай бұрын

“I knew that when they were talking about women, they were talking about me. And that scared me.” That is so powerful and so sad.

@glittery8862 10 ай бұрын

I truly feel that so many autistic girls are being failed by the system. We still don't understand us well enough. Bless her heart and her ability to reflect on her life with so much insight and maturity.

@mikenormandy9250 10 ай бұрын

Great interview! Honestly the only one thing to blame when it comes to the ‘model female or male’ should be, is the Media - magazines, Tv, movies, social media, etc - and look how far it has come where people hate who they are so much bc they don’t fit a certain look or identity - if you identify as something other than your birth identity, then absolutely but so many, like this interview, have done it bc technically, they didn’t ‘fit in with society’ - it is so sad, so many lives lost and peoples lives hurt and destroyed - you cannot choose what and how you came into this world and who gives a fuck what others think…wish more thought this way…

@restorative-waves 10 ай бұрын

yes exactly! I think probably the most insidious one might be p r0 n... that's where I most compared myself growing up (and it's way too accessible to young ones).

@Thegabub 10 ай бұрын

The guest made it seem like their parents just agreed out of nowhere to cut their child's breasts and place them on hormones. I think the parents did everything right in supporting their children to the best of their abilities. I am sure it was difficult to hear constantly from their child that they are in the wrong body and see them try to cut their breast with a butcher knife. They visited several professionals and therapists and they trusted the doctor's analysis which also seemed to have matched what they have experienced at home with their child.

@carlavalero 10 ай бұрын

i agree 200%

@lucysingh506 10 ай бұрын

Children cannot consent to hormones and surgery. Let adults make that choice

@epickody3924 10 ай бұрын

@@lucysingh506lucy, dear lucy, cassie’s experience is EXTREMELY RARE and does not happen as much as you may think. reputable surgeons do not perform surgeries on monors. 18+ only. hormones may be given to teens, but only after extensive screening by professionals. most often, theyll just get puberty blockers which are 100% REVERSIBLE.

@viktorias63 10 ай бұрын

@@epickody3924yet trans activists still find a way to silence them

@brittanyzahn7939 10 ай бұрын

They did an amazing job!! It was super interesting to hear a story of detransitioning and what people go through. They are incredibly brave for sharing!

@acutehandle 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story I know this one’s going to help people. I wish you nothing but happiness on your healing journey.

@chloelynette1287 10 ай бұрын

Dev is such a good listener! This pod is so unique and eye opening ❤

@jamietherelentless2670 10 ай бұрын

I'm very grateful for how the system is where I live (I live in the Netherlands). The waiting time is very long, which I hated for most of it, but now I'm kind of thankful that I had all that time to really think about what I want. I also have to talk to a specialized gender therapist multiple times before being allowed any medical steps. My therapist is seriously amazing at helping me understand my own thoughts and doubts, we talk through them at length and it has gotten me to a point where I can let go of trying to find a label for myself and just existing as I am. I still want to have surgery but I've gotten to know myself a lot better and my motivation feels more clear and really coming from me instead of trying to prove that I'm trans enough. A proper support system where they take the time to evaluate what is best for you can do a lot to prevent situations like the one she was in.

@megansmith5993 10 ай бұрын

This was an amazingly enlightening conversation. I feel so grateful that she is willing to have this conversation, even though she is obviously uncomfortable. I appreciated the part of the discussion that dealt with deciding who is "trans" and who is not. As a cis woman, I even recognized myself in this. After having a child, I became very antagonistic against my breasts, even wanting to remove them all together. I think I wanted to escape womanhood because it felt too impossibly hard. It is so necessary that we give every individual the attention and interventions they need, for however long they need, to make sure they do not make improper decision or stay in a situation that leads them to harm themselves in some way. I hope we can reach a point in our society that we do not see people as political pawns. We need to have common sense AND empathy to make sure people are actually helped when they need it.

@barbaranaiman9783 10 ай бұрын

Cassie you did a great job explaining this. I’m sure lots of people watching this who we’re not sure what they want to become man or woman the way you explained you might just be confussed at this time will get someone to really think before they make a final decision . Good luck to you in the future your wonderful❤️👌👍

@sahtification 10 ай бұрын

Public health is so important. Insurance is bad for healthcare in general

@kingworm7168 10 ай бұрын

100000000% agree

@kaylachristenson9664 10 ай бұрын

I watched a few of Brandon Walsh’s blogs and always thought she seemed like such a person to watch. I’m glad she’s doing this, just came across it and totally remembered her and how pretty and sweet she seemed. Can’t wait to watch more!

@junemarieweaver974 10 ай бұрын

This is heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

@briannas1991 8 ай бұрын

This is what ive been thinking for quite some time-- that so many people experience body image issues and will be influenced into permanent changes that aren't right for them. Glad you've found your way.

@zetrei984 7 ай бұрын

HOW CAN WE ALLOW 14 YEAR OLDS TO REMOVE THEIR BODY PARTS??!?!??

@ivanka4lickova 10 ай бұрын

I think that the US has the worst of both worlds in a case because the political attacks on trans people existing and wanting to eradicate them and hurt them is beyond cruel and crazy but on the other hand it also is too """easy""" in some cases to transition without proper care... but then also it can be a question of transition or suicide for some kids so it's just so difficult on all fronts. i wish nothing but love and healing to all trans kids who can't transition and those who were given the wrong care too early as well

@thaismitraud6901 10 ай бұрын

I believe the issue with this case is for-profit healthcare! Reminds me of the opiod crisis

@macarenarrieta 10 ай бұрын

@@thaismitraud6901it's not. They have the exact same issue in Canada and the UK. The only difference between privates paying for it vs the government paying for is that in the second case you're making others complicit in your mutilation.

@bjorksmom3028 10 ай бұрын

@@macarenarrieta the fact that you believe us having the freedom to do what we want with our bodies is "mutilation" makes it clear that you are not approaching this conversation seriously and your politics are completely driven by you feeling that trans people's bodies are disgusting and disfigured

@raydare2002 10 ай бұрын

@@thaismitraud6901 This is actually a great reason for private for-profit healthcare. I dont want my tax dollars to be spent on transgenderism and I would sadly be forced to in other formats of healthcare.

@pineapplecubez 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. You're a beautiful human and deserve to be happy. Good luck on your journey of healing and self-love.

@IamApodcast 8 ай бұрын

You're so brave for coming on an interview to speak on this.❤❤Wishing you strength, and happiness to continue strong on your life journey❤️✨️✨️You are beautiful and your life matters!!🫶🏾

@DN-fs2kb 2 ай бұрын

I’m a trans 17 year old and this information is so helpful, i think all people considering medical transition should watch this. I never even thought about some things mentioned and it really opens up my perspective. Thank you for coming on this interview, usually i avoid detransition interviews because they repeat the same stuff from the same people but this persons opinions are new and nice to hear.

@daniii2022 3 ай бұрын

She has become my favorite interviewer. Great questions. No bias. Open discussion about anything. Can’t wait to see this channel take off even more!!!

@7includingme 8 ай бұрын

Do you think you would have “gender issues” if you didn’t have social media?

@Apk1991 7 ай бұрын

Good question. As a girl, I could see being extremely uncomfortable with developing breasts or starting your period at a young age but I don’t think she would’ve gotten the idea that she should be a boy if it wasn’t for social media

@7includingme 7 ай бұрын

@@Apk1991 possibly but, I bet social media played a big part in making her transition a deciding factor.

@heinzhair 10 ай бұрын

What a beautiful brave human sharing their story ❤

@TRMoon 10 ай бұрын

Now show the other side, somebody who transitioned young and doesn’t regret it!

@brianne317 10 ай бұрын

love the advice that they talk about, just healing and talking to someone before making life altering decisions. That could speak to so many things, not just transitioning.

@SRHisntSilent 10 ай бұрын

I think we need to have more gender therapists trained to gauge if transitioning physically is the solution. There are other gender affirming steps that can be taken before surely. And not just from a binary perspective

@BBDOT 10 ай бұрын

most gender therapists require you to be living socially as your chosen gender for at least a year before approving medical transition, its a shame that there are doctors who go outside of the standard that has been widely approved by many medical bodies

@MB-yl9hm 9 ай бұрын

This was determined in the 70s when all of the gender clinics that were established in the 50s closed down due to research findings proving that transition didn't help the people coming to these clinics, in fact it made things worse. Yet somehow, in the past 20 years we see the same thing play out.

@hummingbirdenthusiast1481 10 ай бұрын

Another fantastic episode! Thank you for sharing your story. Best wishes for your future. ❤ I loved your message for many things in life. You should write a book.

@emilyk5718 10 ай бұрын

I respect her bravery for sharing. I think she's still in the stage of denial about the trans decisions. She said she doesn't regret what testosterone did to her voice because she said she enjoys her voice being low like this. Then she later says she can't stand hearing her own voice. I understand she's still young and still has a lot of mental growth ahead. I think she should continue to share her story. It takes guts to do this.

@Rightytightyleftyloosey 10 ай бұрын

I noticed the same thing.

@PrinzEisenkarpfe 10 ай бұрын

She expressed it much softer, that she doesn't like to hear it played back, acknowledging that that is universal (for everyone). And it is. Very very few people find their voice comfortable to listen to, because it sounds different than one hears it, when played back. But yeah, I also see a struggling person. And a very very brave one as well.

@Rightytightyleftyloosey 10 ай бұрын

@@PrinzEisenkarpfe I like the way my voice sounds, even recorded. I don’t think everyone is uncomfortable with the sound of their own voice. We know many of our leaders and celebrities enjoy the sound of their own voices. Why shouldn’t I?

@jaime3007 10 ай бұрын

Love this video! I'm trans and I love to see detransitioners talking about their experience in a genuine way. Spreading acceptance and understanding is so important not only for trans people, but will help everyone who is GNC find themselves. Hell I think even cis people could benefit from learning more about gender. All the anti-trans movement is doing is causing division, putting people in boxes and preventing quality trans healthcare!!

@snortobortoowo5420 10 ай бұрын

This type of thing is why it's SO important to not be a Trans medicalist. Do not pressure people into medical transition no matter their gender. If people are more accepting of gender diversity beyond just the physical presentation of someone's body, there will be much less pressure to change that body. As your gender evolves, you won't have to undo medical procedures.

@epickody3924 10 ай бұрын

this!! im ftm and transmedicalism is harmful for trans and detrans people!

@cart4560 8 ай бұрын

This really really resonated with me. There were a lot of parts in this story that linked up with mine and now I don't feel so alone.

@lucysingh506 10 ай бұрын

I hope I will see a day when gender non conforming people can just live life without pressure for surgery and hormones.

@Daedgnivildlo 10 ай бұрын

Seriously...these doctors are medicalizing gender stereotypes....we are better than that. We finally stepped away from stereotypes, why are they back? Let men be fem with surgeries, let women be masc without surgeries. Be nonconforming without surgeries. Why are we pushing surgeries as the only path of true self acceptance? 😢

@MB-yl9hm 9 ай бұрын

That will be the day all of this gender ideology BA is behind us. It looks like it will be a while.

@Lynn-zx3th 10 ай бұрын

I love how this host let’s people get on & tell their story.

@jaboi7709 10 ай бұрын

Deeply worried what kind of people this video may attract

@kaseythompson947 10 ай бұрын

I’ve been weary ever since she had that clairvoyant woman on who said she was predicting an upcoming genocide against Jewish people having to do with the 2024 election. I’m open minded, this channel has been helpful for me with some videos, but I worry about where this is going. I guess we will see

@Sylvanwater 10 ай бұрын

Same. Hopefully there isn’t a huge influx of transphobia , but I fear I may be wrong.

@jaboi7709 10 ай бұрын

@@kaseythompson947 I get that, to be fully honest the sad truth is this video could be very nuanced and everything can be well articulated. However the tittle alone could draw in the wrong crowd. I shall hope for the best.

@jaboi7709 10 ай бұрын

@@Sylvanwater So far all seems well. c:

@sahtification 10 ай бұрын

At 19:50 and 1:01:17 they talked about that, but I think one disclaimer would be nice

@adriennebrown2941 10 ай бұрын

As a cis female with a breast reduction.. A lot of her complications for 'top surgery' are also breast reduction complications.

@adriennebrown2941 10 ай бұрын

And I also want to say .. I hate that tube tying or partial hysterectomy is unacceptable for cis women like me who absolutely hate the idea of having children and the idea of even saying I do or don't what to be able to breast feed my children gives me chills. I am super dysphoric in that sense but I am still a woman.

@epickody3924 10 ай бұрын

@@adriennebrown2941no hate, meant by this! just a little correction that cis people do not feel gender dysphoria as its when there is a conflict between you sex and gender identity.

@adriennebrown2941 10 ай бұрын

@@epickody3924 I believe that there is a lack of understanding when it comes to gender dysphoria in general and maybe it is because of the way I was raised but I only feel dysphoric about being a woman when it comes the idea of having children I am fine with being a woman but the entire idea of children makes me feel this fll it because I don't feel like my body should be able to do that and produce that and have the emotions tied with motherhood

@firenzeval 10 ай бұрын

@@epickody3924 That is untrue. Cis people can experience gender dysphoria. "Gender dysphoria is a discomfort experienced when one's internal identity of gender doesn't match up with one's body or social expectations." Men who see themselves as too effeminate and take testosterone and start weightlifting, women who have flat chests and feel they are "not womanly" getting breast implants. I think you need to expand your understanding a little.

@mcc9475 10 ай бұрын

It's truly mind-boggling and concerning that professionals enabled this lovely individual to make such a profound and life-altering choice at such a young age.

@cordeliaistheone 10 ай бұрын

Appreciate this so much, especially being so trans affirming and nuanced, as detransition is so often used to advocate against transition which this absolutely does not 💜 As an afab agender (probably) autistic person I relate to so many of these feelings and the stuff outside my experience is so informative and helpful too. And as an anticapitalist I too easily see how people can be so bigoted 😮‍💨 Being trans is an easy scapegoat, target and distraction because we question one of the very building blocks of the patriarchy and white supremacy that uphold capitalism.

@holypicklesmofo 7 ай бұрын

The model of care is based on the Dutch model of care, which supports access to intensive psychotherapy through a universal healthcare system. Not having access to medical and psychological care leads to patients having to choose between overly expedited care versus no care, and care providers following suit to make a streamlined process. Transgender youth and adults deserve high quality care, which is very, very inaccessible in the US due to our healthcare system. Rather than mandating random benchmarks, we need to expand access to care within private insurance and Medicaid.

@NYMusic89563 10 ай бұрын

This seems to have all stems from a lack of confidence. It’s so sad.

@shygirI 9 ай бұрын

autism, bipolar, & anxiety ? girlllll

@ndcINC 10 ай бұрын

i love this episode so much thank you for making these and being so wonderful to these people. it's inspiring & truly eye opening

@BJ_Freeplay 9 ай бұрын

I did not walk into this conversation as someone who identifies as Agender expecting to have a very deep empathy for Cassie's experiences when it comes to gender dysphoria. I struggled a lot as I began to come to grips with my relationship with gender and gender presentation because the better I understood it the more and more the reality of "Oh... Oh none of these gender affirming options will work for me oh no." Many years of my adulthood because of this has become me trying to truly sit with myself and figure out how I can live with a healthier relationship with what I have? Why do I associate those aspects of my reality with gender in the first place? And in some ways that has helped immensely, while in others I experiment around with my controllable presentation on my own terms, and when it comes to the language I use I have also experimented with people I love and trust to see if things like certain less common pronouns will make me breath easier in my close relationships. If one is to believe gender is a spectrum, then one is also to understand that the gender affirming needs will vary with the people experiencing that spectrum. Wish all the best to Cassie! Being young is traumatizing and confusing for everyone and unfortunately the Western world doesn't have a great understanding of what gender is when it doesn't live somehow in the preconstructed binary.

@riley48275 10 ай бұрын

this is the earliest ive been. i love your show btw ❤

@Sarahxxxxxxx 10 ай бұрын

Glad you are giving them a platform to speak on this. I feel like this isn’t talked about a lot and it’s good to hear someone’s point of view.

@jaykay030 10 ай бұрын

and when it's talked about it's alt right people giving those detransitioners that speak out against trans people a platform to push transphobia. they get turned into tokens. this host is so respectful and there to let them tell their story.

@HellsFurby 6 ай бұрын

Wow this interview/Episode is so good, they always are but you get the idea. This was so insightful, informative, and I really appreciate Cassie’s vulnerability in sharing such a personal experience. Cassie if you happen to somehow See this, your Story IS going to always stick with me (in a good way!). I don’t know how to articulate what im wanting to say so to make it easier I Found this impactful and gave me much more of an understanding as to how complex detransitioning can truly be. I really l hope that you’re doing well you just Seen like such a beautiful Human Being inside and out, truly!

@carmenjohnston7019 10 ай бұрын

My heart breaks for her. It’s so sad how the trauma often times with puberty and a mental health diagnosis is trumped by therapist stamping on a “trans”diagnosis. I wonder if she had be given proper care, patience and time to make a decision as an adult, she’d make the same decision or just have gotten a breast reduction. Anyway…. Thank you for sharing you story! I’m so thankful you’ve been given a platform to share your story

@breakfastclosed 10 ай бұрын

im always soooo early to your videos! excited to watch

@agirlnamedbrett. 10 ай бұрын

im from Maryland too, didn't know detransition is covered. these stories always make me so sad. i think back to when i was a teen and going through puberty. i cried when i got my period, but i never once thought about it any deeper then just damn this sucks. i was too busy hanging out with my friends, and enjoying being a kid. didnt even know such a thing as transgender even existed at 14....i love the internet, but sometimes i wonder if kids nowadays didnt have the ability to look/discover these things, they wouldn't even think about it unless its true dysphoria.

@seacherub 10 ай бұрын

I came into this so worried that this was going to demonize the reputation of the trans community even further, I'm pleasantly surprised. Love the work y'all do.

@hayleysackos9758 10 ай бұрын

hey friend, ive worked with many breast cancer patients and more and more of them are now having their nipples/areolas tattooed instead of another surgery. its a less invasive option. just wanted to share :)

@janethcastaneda3810 10 ай бұрын

This episode is so interesting! And I always knew that big companies are getting rich with our problems. They don’t care if we are well they just care how much money they can make out of us. I wish that all boys and girls didn’t have this life changing decisions so easy because I believe we all go through a face that we don’t love ourselves but then we learn with age that we are not the problem. I believe 17 or 18 will be better to start the journey of transitioning than 13-14