You should interview older interracial couples and their children to get a well-rounded conversation. It is always good to get a different perspective.

Colorism is not just for mixed kids it's for people of different shades in the black race

Zendaya is a very confident mixed race person. She claims both her parents. But she understands colorism and how she benefits from her light skin. She uses her platform to advocate and create opportunities for women of color and is comfortable being called mixed race or Black. She loves on both her parents equally, and her parents always talked to her about race. The mixed race people I saw as confused were the parents who didn’t do the talks about race because it was uncomfortable.

I’m so glad you said, “our Kingdom culture”, Brian. That’s the crux of the matter. There has to be a strong precedent, and Kingdom perspective affords that revelation.

At the end of it all, no matter what your skin tone or color is, if one parent is black and the other is white (or whatever cultural), then you’re both. You can’t separate the bloodline in you. Now your skin tone may be relatable or more dominant than the other and people will try to label you. But, the parents have to be secure in their relationship to teach the children this is us and we are of the human race. “No color line ~ it’s all in the bloodline.” However, You may find yourself gravitating towards one side more than the other and that is usually because that is the side of the family or people you are closest to or who makes the person feel more accepted.

“Love conquers all but ignorance doesn’t conquer anything.” OH NOW YOU BETTER PREACH THAT!!

Me and my husband talk about this A LOT. I'm black (Ivoirian American) and my husband is mixed (Mexican/White/Native American). We've already said we will be raising them to be proud of all them and culture from both sides. Idk how they will look like yet but that is also something we will talk about how society will perceive them as well. I think its up to us to instill in our kids a strong identity of self so they won't or try to prevent that confusion. But I do agree with both of you that some confusion will probably happen at some point but at least wanting to set the foundation. I appreciate the both of you so much for addessing this topic.

Brian really gets it!

I dont think Kdot is saying he is not black because of his skin, he is saying he not black culturally because he was never raised that way. It doesnt have to do with him being just mixed, Kdot's mother in law is mixed. Drake was raised as a white Jewish kid by his mom not raise as a black kid so he is missing lots of contextual things in his lyrics and behavior. J cole is mixed and him and Kdot are cool and he doesnt call Cole white.

This was an amazing conversation! I love hearing y'all thoughts, because most people in the same or similar situations, probably never think to have these conversations.

This was a great conversation. I did want to mention that colorism is not solely focused on bi-racial folks. My husband and I are dark skinned Black and my daughter is your daughter's color... wait as I write this, I'm just realizing that my husband is bi-racial, half black half indigenous or native. But because he's Colombian, those racial concepts are really different from the US. And he presents as fully Black and was raised by his Black mama, I don't even think he considers himself mixed. I don't even think his non-black family considers themselves anything other than Colombian... Y'all I had a concise thought when I started this comment and am now very lost. Not to mention, we are raising our daughter in Spain. 🤯 I need a nap.

I wish more Black people would accept Biracial as what they are because we ALL know that the Black +White biracial experience is still DIFFERENT than the black experience, as much as people want to ignore said fact

The difference between Black moms of biracials and White moms........ you tell them what they are BUT inform them of how society will see them....BRAVO Mom

I think children should be taught the accomplishment s of black Americans along with the history of how we got here Teach them about other other cultures. Also, help children with self love, because they are the creation of God. They need to respect the humanity of others because at the end of the day we are all part of the human race.

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Interesting conversation about being mixed. I have grand-parents from different backgrounds and each have a unique history. I get what you're saying about telling your kids who they truly are, "white and black" for me I refer to myself as one of African, European, and Native American background and that's true of what I know, been told and DNA supports it. But if I was to go into my Afro/European and Native history it's much more than color. Europe: Irish, Spanish, Italian, and Viking. African: Kenya, Nigeria, Ethiopian and Egypt. But my ethnic roots are also part of Puerto Rico and Mexico.This means our histories can't be summed up in a socially contructed racial identity or in colorism idealogies because society's labels have failed us, and divided us more. And there's so much more to both Black and White history than color and perceived experiences. Because Brian as a white man, unless you are sure of your European history in the United States, you might not be directly related to colonizers. White ancestry doesn't automatically equate to New World Colonizers. But this I will say and agree, on the color spectrum being white or close to it, can, and has allowed some to obtain more status and priviledge over non-whites. This is the history of the Americas. Black American culture has it's own rich identity and struggles that aren't relatable to one who's born in the Mother land and migrate to the Americas. So being Black also can't be confined within one social construct either. Mixing has survived in Puerto Rican culture; not that colorism hasn't existed--it has. But at the end of the day, and the beat of salsa music arroz con pollo, it's one Puerto Rico. Colorism hasn't taken on the political scope as it has in the United States, to me. Since your beautiful children are upcoming in a new generation, I hope that they won't have to struggle through many of the issues that we and are ancestors have in society over race and color. But I won't deny that they will have to confront it in some ways still. It has been challenging for mixed people but I believe it's getting better. I say just let people exist as who they are, and if in Christ, hold all of these matters lightly because true identity for Believers in Jesus is, we are a "new creation" set apart from the world anyway. I've noticed that amongst people of any background, at times I stand out in the room and feel rejected for my belief system in Christ, more than my phenotype.

Great conversation! To the question, when you should begin teaching your children about racism or colorism. First, you have started with a great beginning. Dolls from different ethnic groups are a great introduction to discussing differences. In my opinion, all children, mixed or not, but especially children whom society will identify as black, should be taught before entering educational institutions, that there are nice people in EVERY culture and there are “BAD” people in every culture. They will meet children their on ages who have been taught to dislike, distrust and even mistreat others because of the color of their skin. It is wrong and you yourselves won’t tolerate it with them acting that way, but you just want them to be aware of what MAY happen. Everyone is different, and some are more ignorant than others. They should also be aware that some adults will feel the same way about them, including teachers. If they feel uncomfortable with anyone who may have been unkind to them, they should tell you immediately. Teaching them to love is what you are already pouring into them, but teaching them that others may dislike them simply because of their skin color alone is of utmost importance. You guys are doing a great job!!

Great topic. Wrong scenario. I would encourage you to go back and listen to Kendrick's lyrics again. He does not have an issue with Drake being mixed. He have an issue with how he uses his blackness nefariously. He does not have an issue with JCole who is also mixed. Kendrick goes on and calls Drake's son black. IMO having this conversation incorrectly is also a part of the problem.

My daughter had a friend that is mixed and she told me she is the only mixed person she knows that has a strong sense of self and does not choose sides. I have to say I've meant her parents and there appears to be much love in the household.

No... no, That's not totally it. It's not because he's mixed. You have to remember Kendrick's wife Whitney , is biracial herself, Drake is one of those type of biracial people that did not necessarily truly grow up around a lot of black people, whereas J Cole has. Kendrick Lamar's wife did.. it's a little bit more nuanced than that... What he is saying is that Drake did not grow up around black American culture, or even hip-hop culture for that matter, that Drake is not true to himself he's not true to his identity, he's not true to his anything, that he is putting on a facade. Kendrick see him as fake, Kendrick doesn't like him, or respect him as a person, he doesn't see him in terms of being true to Hip Hop period.. That he, (Drake) is learning, and every time something comes up. Drake wants to be a part of it. Or pretend to be part of it, although it's not really what he is.. So, he (Kendrick Lamar) may have mentioned his biracial ality, but only in terms of Drake not being able to fit in his skin. Because he sees Drake as someone who is trying to fit in, when it comes to anything or everything, rather it's hip-hop or his race or whatever.. you have to remember in that last verse (they not like us) . Kendrick is laying it all out, that Drake had to go to Atlanta, to get culture, to get swag, to get Street cred... hanging around certain rappers to fit in. So, Kendrick see him as fake, he see him as a person who is a vulture, or someone who is not part of the culture, but.... a colonizer. So it's not necessarily about Drake being biracial or anything, remember Kendrick's wife is mixed. So that's not necessarily it.

I think Kendrick has an issue that Drake is not part of the culture. I think he feels that Drake takes advantage of the culture. Of course being half white has to do with it, but he responded to what Drake has said and done. If the "beef" was between he and J. Cole (who is also mix), I don't think he would have gone there.

Ok, let’s discuss WHO CREATED THIS STUFF. Colorism wouldn’t exist without RAYCISM. According to the Willie Lynch letter causing dark skin and light skin black slaves to hate each other based on on skin tone would keep them under control. Google The Willie Lynch letter and you’ll get a better understanding of this issue. Also, light toned slaves were treated better.

The Kendrick and Drake thing is not about being mixed. I think you used culture and race interchangeably which can have limitations further into the discussion. One can be mixed race and have little to no meaningful exposure to the black culture and black people growing up but society will definitely tell them they’re black. When that person grows up they may be less connected to the their black history and culture and therefore unless they take very proactive steps to learn about that side of themselves they won’t identify with black struggle and black experience. J.Cole is mixed and embraces the culture authentically and is about uplifting our community. Drake could be viewed as more performative and capitalising on it.

I am not confused at all. I don’t care who you are. NO ONE SHOULD use the “N” word. Now on the issue of Colorism, it is still strong. Not taking away their talents, but I truly believe if Beyoncé, Alicia Keys, and new to the scene Tyla were not as light as they are. They would not be as famous. India Arie came out the same time as Alicia, both wrote their own music. But Alicia was promoted much more than India. I really still think the lighter you are the more acceptable you are to some people. Not everyone is like that but some still are. I agree things are changing. Seeing others acknowledge Lupita’s beauty gives me hope.

Brian and Lexi, I truly believe the love you have for each other and your children will help you to navigate how to help the children through being half black and white. It’s is just so sad that because of society you will have to have this talk with them. Stay blessed you two!!

From one Black person to another it’s really disappointing to hear you say Colorism affects your mixed children. Colorism is the child of racism and BOTH involve systemic oppression to varying degrees. Just like Caucasians can experience prejudice from Black people and not be racially oppressed by them (aka racism), people of lighter skin of all backgrounds can be victims of bullying and prejudice but NEVER colorism. By definition alone you have to be dark skin to experience said colorism. Hope that helps.

My understanding of colorism is that it is more so geared towards dark skinned people being discriminated against.

I have or we have two adult grown daughters. Me and my former spouse have a grandson age, two that is biracial or half European & half African American. That is exactly how we plan to educate him. Letting him know both his sides & also how society will look at him. We don't want him hating any part of his heritage.

Outstanding Podcast! I’m forwarding this to my 2 biracial daughters who are in interracial marriages…Hopefully it can offer them insight more so than what I afforded them whilst they were growing up 🙏🏾

I agree and think it’s important to have conversations about race in the home because of how colorism operates in society through systems.

God’s love is what carries us through!! ❤❤❤

What I’ve learned from being a Mom for 18 years is don’t over educate your kids. Sometimes as a parent your instinct is to want to teach them everything ASAP so that the outside world won’t hurt them, that is EVERY culture!!! Sometimes it’s best to let them bring up a subject & discuss at their maturity level. The questions will continue to come & each time you expand more, that way they aren’t overwhelmed with too much at too early an age. ❤❤❤

This is a very deep topic and I'm glad you shared it. I pray we as people can break the cycles of hate and come together to learn more about each other. And it's absolutely correct that ignorance breeds hate. Question: Lexi and Brian, have you thought about doing an Ancestry test so that you both can see and share the full history of both of your DNA with your children? It's who we are, AND we all share more than we know. I have seen the beauty in the multiple cultures we ALL come from. My family has found that we are related to people from many continents. We need to break this cycle. Genealogy shows how connected we are. I'm also a huge family of "Finding Your Roots". To add to Brian's point, I agree that it would be HURTFUL for the parent of any child to DENY the roots of both parents. You are both in loving families that bring a beauty to this world that is very much needed.

Hey, Been watching you two for a while and really love your conversations. As a black woman in an interracial marriage with 4 children who are your age I am with the commenter who said ya'll should listen to and seek to hear the stories of those who blazed the path before you. Regardless of your family dynamic the world will have an influence on what Aza and Elijah will come to understand about themselves and the world. As long as race is socially constructed they will be treated as brown folks. There is a certain clarity of that until they come to understand that one of their parents is black and there will be a shift again in societal perception. We refused to check a box too for our children, but they knew from a very early age that blackness was a part of who they are and to choose whiteness over blackness while being brown comes with its own baggage too. Love your willingness to put yourselves out there and be vulnerable and I am with you both about your friends in similar situations needing to talk about race. It is unfair to children to not prepare them for society and its cruelness.

I find the use of the n word as away of "and taking the power back" cringy.

This was a very good conversation. I agree with a lot of what you both said. Great video.

I love this and you both as a couple. I do feel that biracial kids with black moms seem to be more comfortable in talking about race as opposed to bi racial kids with white moms. I was married to a black parenting man whose mother was white and father from Zimbabwe. He was adopted to a white farm family. I feel his struggle was due to a lack of education and history surrounding his race. Although I grew up in the suburbs, both my parents are black and were involved in organizations that supported black people. I think both of us came together because he grew up on a farm and wasn’t around a lot of black people and I grew up with a few black friends but mainly white friends. I would love for you to bring in some experts into the conversation along with biracial kids with moms that are white. Great discussion.

It had nothing to do with him being mixed. It had everything to do with him being an outsider to Black American culture. He is Canadian. Listen to the lyrics. KL wouldn't say this about J.Cole.

Brian, it takes a lot for you to say what you said about your European culture, you couldn’t be more honest. It does hurt when whites say they don’t see racism and they’re not racist because they have a black “friend “. We have to have a lot more honest conversations about race relations. After George Floyd and Ahmaud Arbery and all the hate and evil, I had to stop watching all the killings of black for my only mental health. Kudos to the two of you!

Thanks for this conversation. Much needed!

Kendrick called Adonis Black King, I think Kendrick and others feel being black is a way of life and upbringing. Some blacks feel you are who your mother is because she’s the one lay the foundation of culture unless a yt woman go against the grain and teach black history, what is being a black woman and man, but a black woman teaches that regardless at a higher level. Drake NEVER grew up black, he don’t know black history, he called Kendrick out saying he trying to free slaves 🤣 A black men will never say that, his mom white, he had a bar mitzvah, his child mother white… I honestly think you can’t just automatically be black because you have 30% in you, I don’t believe in the one drop rule… it’s how you present yourself for instance Candace Owens she’s not black 🤔🤷🏾‍♀️ she go against us submerged herself in white culture.

The answer to that question is no as the black community has always had colorism issues and even in many African countries have issues of colorism. Bleaching cream is very prevalent in Nigeria. (the issues of colonization.}

Brian I believe you and Lexi will do a bomb job raising your children.

Be proud of who you are black white mixed. Having biracial children is a beautiful thing we’re all human it’s our society that’s the problem…

im 36 and I grew up with my white mother and her small side of the family in new jersey. i cant remember my family having conversations about race at all but i could tell that they thought of me different then they did other black people. like oh kimberly youre only half black. my mom was an addict and had me at 19 and really wanted a mixed kid and probably to say f u to society and her family who were i call average white racist. you could tell they thought white ppl were better than everybody else without having to be very outwardly racist. i still struggle to find my place in society and both cultures. but at the end of the day it does make me happy that my existence is a bug f u to racists and in some small way a fight against a racist system

@thecolelife I think the question needs to be posed this way when children come from a loving family with both parents, whether mixed or otherwise, which loving parent would you denounce? Strangely, it seems that only African Americans are forced to make a " choice" to be accepted. Other nationalities gladly and proudly give you a history lesson of everything their mixed with. Iike... " Oh, I'm European. My granddaddy was Russian, my great-great grandma was part Australian! " But when it comes to black folks, no matter what your bloodline is, you're just black. Denounce every other part of you, which is really denouncing your parents. Sadly, black culture hasn't made this ignorance any better. We need to teach people who we are instead of letting people tell us who we are. Yes, racism exists, and it will continue to be. That's why our fight can't be about ignorance and stupidity. When you change the mindsets and what people think about culture, you change the world. Mixed individuals should never have to choose who they are. They are already every bit of who they are just as anyone else. This is a great conversation and I'm glad you guys are prepared to teach your children accordingly.

I love this ducussion. Great job guys. You guys should be a part of a forum on TV❤❤❤

I don’t think Kendrick was saying he wasn’t a part of the “culture” because he was mixed. If you listen to Meet the grahams, Kendrick called Drake’s son a black king. People don’t say that about J Cole and he’s mixed.

WOW! This is a much needed conversation. Non-blacks may initially run from it...but I pray a seed has been planted in them to face and help heal the divide. It's gonna be hard, but so freeing.

Beautiful lovely couple. I love watching your video

The premise of the conversation doesn't revolve around skin tone...phenotype...or even ancestry. He's undressing Drakes lack of awareness of black American Cumture & accusing him of Cos Playing the role. Could u ever imagine a mixed race boy or girl u grew up w/ ever putting on literal black face like Aubrey did? What Kendrick did more than anything was package all of the transgressions & faux pas & tone deaf remarks and actions people have spoken on through the years & packaged it into a digestible & easy to follow outline.

My 2 were full black, however, they were & are very intelligent. My daughter had black girls trying to fight her because she, "talked white". There is so much work to be accomplished. There is no such thing as talking white. Today I have a grandson that speaks French & English and a grand/daughter that speaks English. My grand/son's French is way better than mine.! God is good!

So I'm only 9 minutes in (so if some of this gets addressed later on in the video, I apologize). I have a couple of thoughts. To answer Brian's question, it's still colorism even if your mixed. Colorism exists outside of the black community. It exists among Asians, Indians, and Latinos to name a few. Therefore it is definitely still colorism even if you are talking about mixed race people. Race is purposely murky and designed to limit who benefits from "whiteness". That said, I don't think Aza would have too much trouble being accepted by the black community because of colorism. Light skin is considered an asset particularly if you are a woman in the black community. In fact, light skin is considered to be an effeminate trait. I believe that's part of the reason Drake is getting so much flack from Kendrick. It's because Drake is a light skinned male. If he were a light skinned woman, this wouldn't even be a discussion. You can see evidence of this by the woman Kendrick chose to father a child with (Whitney Alford). She is a light skinned mixed woman. If anything, the child who you might need concern for is Elijah because he is a light skinned male.

Colorism covers the biracial demographic too due to their being a WIDE range of skin colors and hair textures in that demographic

This issue was not being black it was the issue of the struggles of being African American. Hip hop was based on the African American culture in America . Drake is Canadian and his colonizing on the other rap artists work instead finding his own identity as a Canadian artist.

I think majority of Kendrick argument against Drake was about his character. His character and intentions, as well how he was moving was the problem. Now to be fair- he did warn him not to go there, he should’ve took the J Cole route. Ijs

I don't want to come off as combative or me coming for you necks, but it kind of sounds like a very upper class 1st world perspective of ethnicity with all the overcoming "evil" in culture. That'd be like for me as a afro Latino Brasileiro, I should look at all west Africans and descendants of West Africans .. .. , sideways because their ancestor sold mine, their brothers and sisters into slavery. I feel like it's way too complex to hold all that against anyone and to put that weight on a biracial child. Now , I believe that most biracial kids only get treated differently, especially by other black kids because they fake the funk. Will they get teased, "that's the white in you" stuff, sure. But if you are well true and authentic to yourself and not trivializing things that black people go through, especially the over-representation of the negative aspects of American Black culture then it's cool. Taking back to the kdot and Aubrey stuff, There's a reason why J Cole NEVER gets the treatment that Aubrey does. J Cole has never pretended to be more or less than what/who he is and he's respected and loved. Aubrey cosplays and uses being black for monetary gain and as we're seeing there's a backlash.

Great convo, I agree with yall. If a child has parents from a different race, then their both not one or the other. Now I do believe the child does have the right to decide who they identify with, that is completely normal. Even tho this is a different analogy, I'm Nigerian American but raised as a Black American, only been to Nigeria 🇳🇬 once. Both parents are Nigerian, my ma also born in the states. Colorism is a heavy discussion and with my faith I seek Jesus by walking in love with others.

The issue I’ve always had with “Black-Culture” is that it attempts to define Black-people through a singular, myopic, face-less culture controlled by society. For instance, there exists no presiding “White-culture” in America, as it’s accepted that WT/Americans have many different American sub-cultural experiences. Those sub-cultures can be based on geography, ethnicity, socioeconomics, activities, etc. And like a Venn Diagram, these sub-culture “circles” will have intersection points that bind them all together as White Americans, but they do not overlap. To say “I’m Scottish/Welsh-American, and part Native American” does not preclude you from being White, any more so than a person who claims to just be a “White-American.” However, it appears that cultural latitude is not socially permissible for Black-Americans. Or, at the least, it is often socially frowned upon to demonstrate self-agency with respect to your ethnic identity IF it strays from “Black-Culture” narratives (See Tiger Woods). There seems to be a massive societal push to herd Black people into a unified cultural box 📦 to be socially manipulated. To delineate their individual selves for the sake of the group. Where openly recognizing and embracing your mixed ancestry is seen, by a measure, as “Anti-Blsck,” “Sell-out,” “Oreo,” “Confused,” or some other negative connotation; unless you denounce your non-Blsck ancestry publicly and ONLY assert your Blsck lineage/cultural experiences. That, to me, is a de facto, spiritual adoption of the old pre and post Antebellum 1-drop rule ideologies. I’m of the opinion I should be able to say “I’m a Blsck man,” recognize I belong to a rich tapestry of varying American-Blsck subcultures, yet still celebrate my African lineage, my Irish/Scottish lineage, and Native American lineage, equally.

also i always loved the way obama looked at being mixed and he is somebody to look forward to as a mixed man and as a black one

I'm just going to be straightforward about this but with respect. This is a topic that's been on my mind for quite some time. In the past I've come across something that could be beneficial in this situation. There was a well-educated black man who spoke English so fluently that you would mistake him for being white. What was remarkable was that he also knew how to speak slang in a way that wasn't imitation. Initially I wondered if he was making fun or trying to pass at something he wasn't but it turned out that he was genuinely fluent in slang. For instance when white rappers rap it often lacks the authenticity that comes from real life struggles. Eminem success on the other hand stems from his genuine understanding of hardship. This black man fresh out of college could connect with his audience without being insincere. He was able to bridge the gap effectively between different cultural backgrounds. Hopefully you see where I'm going with this. Mixed race individuals have the opportunity to embrace and relate to both sides of their heritage. When they fail to do so especially in front of someone from their black heritage it may come across as choosing entitlement over authenticity. Is crucial for mixed-race children to understand and appreciate both cultures as it can make them resilient and capable of making a positive impact on the world. Not that they're responsible to impact the world racially.

Colorism?? How?? Drake is biracial not black. He isn't a light skinned black man so what are we even talking about.

As a black passing mixed race person that grew up in the black community with a black mother we are able to adapt to black culture more than someone like drake would

I appreciate as an interracial couple you’re willing to tackle this kind of conversation. As I was listening, I noticed the conversation centered around "white" or "black" as a race versus discussing "whiteness" as a framework of the white race, white culture, and the systems it upholds. For example, talking about an interracial child who will simply decide to identify with her "white side" or "black side" more is not simply identifying with those people as they may view them -- it means participating in a construct that carries a set of distinct beliefs, ideas, and behaviors. Within the context of American society, "whiteness" cannot be separated from the very foundation of how "whiteness" was established in this country. Whiteness in our context relies on the idea of a racial hierarchy with white people being at the top, and the oppression of black people where there is an unequal distribution of power and privilege. "Blackness" has its own definition but one that does not rely on the oppression of other people. Due to the dynamics of racism, identifying as "white" vs "black" does not hold the same weight or meaning b/c by choosing one over the other isn't simply a choice between which race you are, but it means a commitment to upholding those sets of beliefs, practices and systems. And as uncomfortable as it may be, and as Brian commented on, white people have effectively upheld whiteness as a construct and have done so at the expense of others. So aside from the fact that, in most cases, bi-racial children cannot identify as white b/c their phenotype does not allow for this and "white” is not at all as broad and inclusive as "black", bi-racial children identifying as "white" is very much agreeing to a set of beliefs, values, and behaviors that effectively champion the subjugation of themselves (as a category of black/person of color) and their black parent. So the choice between identifying as 'black' vs 'white' are not equal choices by any stretch.

If I went into a day care for the 1st time as a visitor, seeing all of the children, never ever laying eyes on their parents, I wld swear that Aza was Latina. She doesn’t look African-American at all. I believe “society” will identify her as Black “only” because they’ve seen who her mom is. It was the same thing with Mariah Carey. Absolutely no one had a clue that she was mixed “until” they saw a picture of her father. All I know is that Aza & her little brother will be gorgeous looking individuals! And that’s a FACT!!!

Love your channel ❤

I think continuously presenting each skin color as a culture that clashes with the other won’t be healthy. Especially as Christians, we know it’s not the skin color that causes the sin. So to say whites have a lot of negatives and blacks don’t have as many is going to create a dilemma in your kids. Being half Dominican and half American, being allowed to explore each culture on my own helped me form my own identity neither of my parents could relate to. They never told me what to be but let me define myself. Being mixed is never easy but I appreciate my parents hands-off way of raising me.

Love ALL your videos, beautiful kids comes from a great awesome loving parents with GOD in your heart!!!! I have a mixed granddaughter, I love her with all my heart, she’s claims both sides

He did not say about his blackness..cause he has no issue with J Cole who is also half black...he has no issues with Eminem

K Dot could care less about Drake being mixed. He has an issue with him being the culture vulture he is. Drake has admitted out his own mouth he was raised soley as a Jewish kid in a white neighborhood by his white mama. Cole is mixed and he has no issue with that. He even called his son Adonis a black man which is a bit of stretch but he was showing the issue isnt his color is his colonizing ways.

This video title is a reach

I don't think they caused it because colorism has been an issue or point of discussion for centuries especially in the asian and black communities. Tfs

Love y’all but it wasn’t about him being biracial. It was about him cosplaying Black American culture. Even my biracial friends didn’t take it that way. And Kendrick’s wife’s mother is biracial. And my biracial friends and relatives identify as biracial. There’s nothing wrong with that and they correct those who force them to “pick a side”

I think that also communities of less influence may have more demand on colorism than maybe at the statistic you’re at. And the media doesn’t help no matter where you are. But I think you’re doing great in what you say because it all belongs to God. Talking and doing what Jesus directs your way, heeding to the Holy Spirit, is the only way. 🙏🏾💗

5:36 Can we do a follow up to this with Kamala Also I believe it’s a case to case basis whether a mixed child has a real idea of what it means to be black i don’t think this can be generalized

Colorism doesn't apply to light skinned people. They may experience bullying. But what they experience is not Colorism. Lighter skinned people benefit systemically from Colorism. Calling a mixed person white who doesn't identify as white isn't respectful. But it isn't Colorism.

This conversation is good, but Kendrick was not talking about him being mixed. He is talking about Drake's authenticity and leveraging the community and culture without really being part of it. I'm glad he recognized that as original opening comments which upon hearing a bit more of her thoughts, he assumption on Kendrick point about Drake seems to be aligned to more her projection or fears for her kids, vs what Kendrick really meant. Drake wasn't raised in the community and nor did he really try to immerse himself in it. He's not even sensitive to the things he should be like Kendrick's slavery reference point and how he doubled down. Also, culture is what you are raised in or are taught, it is not just what one may experience. For example, police brutality is part of our black experience because of how people see and treat us based on that, but it is not part of authentic black culture (i.e. soul food, hip hop, jazz, etc.). As a god mother to biracial kids, they will have the challenge with identify. Kids go through a ton anyway, of course they may have challenges with identify as colorism is a thing for Black, Indian, and other cultures. I have biracial friends that feel the same way. Exposing the kids to their heritage and culture is important, because they will form their own ideas and opinions based on their experiences outside their home. So teach and expose them as much as you can and prepare them as much as you can.

Speaking as a black British person with a newborn biracial daughter (indian-ugandan heritage) this is definitely an important topic. Like Lexi, I totally understand what it was like growing up surrounded by mixed race friends who all had that question mark around identity. One of the things I am most grateful to white culture was bringing Christianity to my heritage country. My family and ancestors would not have known God if it wasn't for the influence of the west. I would identify myself as a 'belonging to Jesus first' before addressing my skin, which has huge implications for our children's point of reference and how they understand colorism

People who keep saying it’s about his non black African genetic ancestry didn’t comprehend his lyrical aspect about Drake

Why is race so complicated with kids? Are the adults to blame? My oldest (4) realized that he has blue eyes and his sister has brown eyes and I explained to him that he has my eyes and his sister has his dad's eyes. And that was the end of the convo. Why complicate it?

My view of colorism was from a Black perspective but when I read this book, “Whiter: Asian American Women on Skin Color and Colorism”, it expanded my view of colorism into many of the Asian cultures.

I'm black but I don't use the N word because of the history of the word why would I want to continue to use a word that associates to slavery. It's a very harsh and horrible word.

Hello lovely couple. My kids are mixed with black and Hispanic. And my kids always claim being El Salvadoran and Jamaica. So they always just see them self as that. People always thought my daughter was Asian and my son they felt he looked Hispanic. The other day my daughter saw that her medical agency she went to see listed her in the paper has white. It was nothing she filled out they just put that on the paper , she was like how is this. But again my kids see themself has where their parents come from not the color. So kids are fine. I never really discuss the color they could see for them selves and yes Black do not really see them has black and that did upset my daughter at one point so I told her let people figure it out don’t try to fit in anywhere. We good. I was asked why I don’t speak Spanish because I look it. I would say I am Jamaican and I do know some Spanish they can figure it out themself. First of all I live in the now and I can’t portray things happen in the past on people of my age right now for the stuff people did in the past I just know that I would not let anyone disrespect me. I really can’t hold people born my age for things their parents or ancestry did. I know most won’t understand but that’s how I feel.

Like your thoughts Brian. The holy spirit has revealed it all to you.

Colorism is not about mixed race. There are people not considered mixed race that have lighter complexions than mixed race people. It's truly about skin tone and is prevalent in Asian, Latina, Indigenous and Indian cultures as well. It's an issue across the entire world because of colonialism. Brian is 100% correct in his assessment. Elijah will experience more colorism than Aza simply because he's darker.

Haily Berry's mother raised her to be a Black woman. Jasmine Guy's mother raised her to be a Black woman. Claudia Jordan's Italian mother raised her to be a Black woman and she was a single parent . My opinion, if it's a Black and white couple the children are Black . Say for instance one parent is Mexican and the other Black, then the children will be mixed and raised both . And a child of a white parent and a Black parent, that child is Black and not necessarily ignoring the white parent. What I've noticed over/through the years people who are raising their children mixed or biracial are the white mothers and usually the Black father's are not around . Also, if the mother is Black then the children will definitley be raised Black . Raising Black kids mixed or biracial are actually raising them white.

I'm Canadian, and the real problem with Drake is that he's only "black" when it's convenient for him. He's from a very wealthy neighborhood in Toronto and was raised by his white Jewish mother, but he used his black side for popularity. Drake never struggled. He was not from the hood, etc. and he has been capitalizing off that narrative his whole career. It's weird... That lifestyle isn't a game.

I know A LOT of mixed ppl (quite a few family members) who are mixed and consider themselves black only. I don’t think they are shunning the yt side but like Lex said abt her friend they were raised black even while having a present yt parent. I get how that could possibly offend you Brian but I actually think if a mixed person who does not phenotypically have yt features like a Derek Jeter or Mariah Carey and wanted to tell the world they were soley yt they are going to have some serious issues because that is unfortunately not looked at or accepted the same way.

Btw…there are some great books out there for mixed kids..good luck

The issue of racism will get better if the government start talking about reparations for our people every other race can get them why can't we 40 acres and a mule was promised

I agree it is a conversation to have, I havr mixed cousins and some of them don't understand why White people act like they are Only black,sincr they havr been raised mostly with their white family. And sadly enough for black people they are not black enough people and they feel a little defeated.

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If your kids (not sure why the son was not included in the conversation) are exposed to and participate in black culture they will be accepted as black. The black community due to colorism is more accepting of their complexion over yours. Black people hand out cookout invites if you’re not black and can dance. The issue comes when biracial people pick and choose when to participate in black culture, if they weren’t raised in it or it’s used as a trope ie Drake.

A rap beef made you have this discussion? Really? Mannn 😂

My mixed Friend’s are triggered, for me it’s just MC’s on wax. K Dot shooting at Drake not all mixed and light skinned ppl lol

Colorism has to do with lighter shades of black people & mixed people. When I was in high school we had light skinned blacks maybe with a percentage of another race.

It depends on the Mother. The most confused biracial children have white mothers. My son is biracial and he could benefit clearly identifies as black.

Bi-racial ppl are not bl🅰️ck.

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Halle Berry ( I really shouldn’t be quoting her) once said , that her mother said to her. Look in the mirror how do you see yourself as ….and she said black…..and that is what you are so embrace it. We have to tell our children there is so much beauty and strength and pride that comes with being black You will be perceived in the world as a black woman and no matter what you both believe her to be, she will be a black woman. She would be a Black woman with a White father. I sometimes think a lot of black people who do have mix race children confuse their children because they want to erase some blackness from them. This was not a big issue in our community until the 2000’s because if you had one black parent before that time you were black. And that was most black people mindset, because they were never EVER EVER be thought to be a white person in their ( white) community…….unless you could really pass and a few of them did. But what makes me laugh almost is how a lot of interracial couples ( and not just black and white) think they’re mix child could pass. Especially when the world can see that the child can not.