Thank you Fr. Chris for this podcast. I know Catholics who divorced and left the Church because they thought they could receive the sacraments and felt separated from the Church. I was in an emotionally abusive marriage marriage for 27 years. I stayed for the sake of the children . I was granted an annulment on the grounds of Emotional abandonment on several levels, as my husband was not capable to have an emotionally intimate relationship per a professional psychologist and from testimony to the Church from witnesses. I sought the annulment to also free me from the sense of obligation I felt to him on a spiritual level. The annulments process was lengthy and for the most part very healing. Never remarried.

Marriages is sacred. To God be the Glory😇🥰

Hi Fr. Chris. I wanted to thank you for everything you do to get prepared for your Saturdays’ presentations. Please don’t worry about the time you spend talking. There’s no need to shorten your time. I really enjoy hearing you and learning more about our Catholic faith. God bless you 🙏🏻

Length of your video isn’t an issue -getting all the info is important! Thank you Father Chris!

Thank you, Father Chris. Please do not shorten the talk. I love listening to your teaching.

Please pray for the Philippines as the Congress is pushing for the legalization of divorce. We are one of the late predominantly Catholic country in the world holding on against divorce, but now, politicians wants to change that.

I am so happy to have found this video which is dated 3 years ago, because I recently watched a video with you Father on another persons podcast where she stated that abuse was not a reason to get an annulment and that the marriage would still be valid, even with an annulment. I am a victim of abuse, and I will not be uncharitable to my ex-husband, so I cannot get into details. There was a lot I didn't know about him, which came out later in counseling, and our counselor was a Catholic priest. I followed all the rules and homework assignments, and my then husband broke every rule and guidance suggestion. It was horrible and scary to even get in a car, for fear of my life. My annulment process was very long and painful, but in the end, it was granted. I later got married in the Catholic church to my present husband. I wish I could send this video to the person you made the podcast with so she would have some clarity, because she is counseling couples and I would hate to see her giving wrong advice or making statements that are just not true.

Since my baptized in 1966 , this is the first time I have heard such deep explanation of the importance of the church to marriage . I used to know that have to get married in the church , cannot divorce, children must be baptized . Thanks Fr Chris

Remain blessed Fr Chris ❤️this marriage teaching should be taught all over the world because the world is going mad. They don’t understand what marriage is about, so many separations are happening between husband and wife as a result of infidelity. Christ have mercy 🙏🏽

God bless you too Fr. Chris!! Watched till the end, just today 🙋🏻‍♀️.. I’m blessed

My sons are Deaf, and planning to get engaged, so PLEASE add Subtitles to these most important teachings. God bless you and your Marian Community. Your followers in Ireland.

Thank you Father Chris. I saw myself in so much of what you said. I was the victim. And I felt isolated from the church when my ex abandoned me. Every thing is now straightened out. But, still what you said was comforting.

Thank you so much. This type of talk takes courage to deliver. All praise and thanks to the Holy Spirit who is working through you. May your work continue to be blessed by Him.

Praying always for the soul of my wife Grace that in God'd perfect time she may receive Eternal Life!!! Thank you Fr. Chris, and hoping that Catholics may realize the importance of Sacramental Marriage! Greetings from CLAMP.

A blessed marriage grounded in true forever love is : For better for worse in sickness and in health For richer for poorer till death do us part! Not to be taken lightly. Thank you Fr Chris.Thank for setting us straight. I love your humorous side. It brings me joy and laughter!🙏😄😅

The wife’s mission is to also get the husband to heaven. Because the prayer of a wife for the husband and vice versa are very powerful in the eyes of the Lord. Just like a prayer from a mother to her child. It has a special grace.

I am learning alot through these videos. I do feel that divorce is one of the reasons we are losing people from the Catholic Church. I personally know several people that have left the church after divorce because they no longer felt welcome. They felt like they had to jump through hoops. Unfortunately when the parent or parents leave the church they usually take the kids with them.

Thank you father Alar. I love listen to all your lectures. You are amazing speaker. You help understand and it comes right into my heart. I enjoy your humor. You have special gift. I can’t listen enough of you. I pray for you everyday🙏🙏🙏

Thank you Fr. Chris!! Your talks are very helpful! Please stop apologizing, there is nothing to apologize for!! You are in the very important business of saving souls!! Truth matters and should NEVER be apologized for. Thank for for what you do!🙏🙏

Thank you so much father Chris for explaining this🙏🏻 Imagine the positive impact on humanity this information would be if taught to the younger generations💫

Father Chris,Congratulations on your promotion. I continue to pray for you and your intentions.,This Saturday class will help so many Catholics who misunderstand. God bless all who read these words,"Jesus i trust in You"

Thank you so much for this teaching. especially about bearing the cross for one another...amazing!!!

Thank you, Fr. Chris. Please do not shorten your talk. I am learning so much about my Catholic faith. God bless and keep you always! My prayers are with you and all priests.

I really enjoy your talks, Fr Chris; especially when you chuckle at some points which amuses me. And make me want to listen some more. ❤️👍🏼👍🏼❤️

I thank you, Fr. Alar, for an enlightening talk about marriage and divorce. It helped to bring peace of mind to me. God bless you.

Heavenly Father please protecr Fr Chris..Amen

Oh thank you. I had just joined when my spouse divorced me. We were separated while I was in RCIA. I asked him to leave do to abuse. I have struggled 7 years later withe trauma and then have beat myself up because I am divorced even though the church annulled it. But it is reassuring to know I did nothing wrong.

I love listening to Father’s Saturday talks!✝️❤️

Very informative, Fr Chris. I was especially focused on the marriage ceremony in Croatia. That marriage is a CROSS. Maybe if couples who marry accept this, there will be less separations and divorce.

Amazing talk! You cleared so many fuzzy ideas - thank you so much! Thank you God and thank you to our Church for great guidance. Wish I heard this talk years ago, I've always been scared to enter marriage due to its huge sacramental meaning and commitment. I will definitely try to spread the practice of entering the covenant with the cross at weddings - amazingly awesome.

Fr Chris well done, when you are disappointed the talk is coming to the end, then you know it's good. Keep the talks going 🇮🇪 Ireland

Thank you Fr. Chris for this great must know information. God bless you an continue to guide you.

YOUR TALKS ARE NEVER TOO LONG Father!!!!!👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼📖🕊🕊🕊

Thank you Fr Chris for your imformative talked. For sharing about Croatia wedding. I remembered my parents wedding they were given a blessed crucifix during their wedding ceremony in the church. My mom told me when you got married you have to carry your cross till death. Again thank you Fr Chris as usual your talked always great. God bless you always.💖

Thank you father Chris, great teaching as always. May God bless you and keep you in this beautiful ministry

Thanks for the enlightenment. God be the glory.

Another great talk… Thank you Father Chris

Good morning dear Fr. Chris. Today 1/16/23 Blessed New Year to you, your family & staff at the Shrine. Don't know when this talk was, but I came across it today. Yesterday I was in tears during Mass because my daughter's divorced fiancee is non Catholic Christian. They're dragging their feet to file Annulment so they can marry in the Catholic Church. They're other choice is for his Church Pastor to marry them, so sad, I'd wish for my only child to be blessed and receive the Sacrament of Marriage by an Ordained Priest. What am I to do!!!

Thanks so much father. This is making me understand marriage in a deeper way and understanding God's awesome love to join two together to help each other to go to heaven.. 👏👏👏.. My future husband whenever you are May God lead you to listen this this ☺

Thank you Father Chris for your beautiful talk today. God bless you.

Thank you Father.

Thank you father Chris. I feel so much better after your talk. God bless you!

Good day,Fr.Chris Alar! A must for married couples !

Such a blessed teaching! As always, thank you Father Chris and your ministry!!!

Hi father Chris I love your talks. I learned a lot. Thank you very much ♥️♥️♥️

god bless you father alar you explain things so well and easily to understand your words have weight and i wish you were here in my parish thank you

I am Croatian Canadian. LOL you butchered my Dad's home town about no divorce . God bless you and God love you Father . Amen.

Father Alar, thank you. Your talks are the best!

I’m learning so much. Thank you Father!🙏🌟

Thank You Father Chris, you are a faithful priest and leader, I have learned so much about our Faith thru your teachings. God bless you. Please keep teaching, I pray one day all will watch learn and be one with God. I will always pray for you and our Church.have a bless day.🙏🙏🙏❤

Thank you for this, Father.

Thank you Fr Chris on your informative talk about marriage, divorce and annulment 🙏

Thank you Father Chris🙏🏽

Thank you for explaining. I had never heard an explanation of what a divorce or annulment is.

Dear Fr. Alar, Thank You so much for diving deep into this subject. I needed more information. Just like your sister. God Bless You for being such a wonderful priest! And for teaching us so many things about our beautiful faith. Your presentations do not seem long at all, more like fascinating! I’ve learned so much, as others feel the same. Keep doing what you’re doing, with your most humble heart. We love you and are praying for you, and all priest. Praying for more Holy priest. God Bless You, Angie

Thank you father. This clarified everything I wanted to know. Thank you Jesus for speaking 🙏✝️

Made a beeline for this video. Went in today for a 1-on-1 with my RCIA teacher and learned that 2 civil marriages, with standard divorce practices now put on hold my baptism Easter vigil if annulments aren't done by then. So, gathering info and praying like mad this can handled quickly and effectively.. as my instructor said, "You are being tested". Indeed. God give me strength, and above all, patience.

Father your teachings are so helpful to me. I really enjoy them all.

Thank you Father, how wonderful the explanation and all of your teaching so far. To me your are the great gift from God to us the laity

Thank you father, love listening you ❤🙏😇

A blessed day Fr. Chris, many parents of my students are not married, because most of them did not get a good education and have no adult to teach them, please discuss abot it so I can share with them and also my grown up students who are now in their marrying age. Thank you so much, Father Christ and all Marian Fathers. All praise and glory to God Almighty. Amen.

Thank you Father Chris🙏

Hi Father Chris, Congrats on reaching 300K subscribers on the channel. I have watched all the ETF videos, and am making way through them again. These are a great resource for us all. Thank you and all the Marian Fathers.

Fr. Chris, Thanks be to God” “one of my nieces daughter of my beloved Cresencio, Pura Funtanares, born after me, his Third child, she is now Italian Citizen, Bernardita Pura Funtanares, is Now at St. Rita’s Cloistered nun! Now was called Sister Angela, Treasurer, in the main, Saint Rita Cloistered Convent in Italy” The next born after to Sr. Angela, brother Fr. Eric F. Funtanares , was a Passionate priest, The Director in Passionist in the Philippines 🇵🇭! Amen 🙏 Thank you, Fr. Chris” Excellent talks! Amen 🙏

Thank you for this very thorough teaching! I especially like how you explained annulments. I had a decree of nullity and it was a healing process. Also, canon law regarding abusive relationships is very helpful.

Thanks be to God for Fr. Chris. I've learned so much from your classes as I'm taking very good notes from all your lectures❤❤❤. O Lord, You are the Way, my life my heartbeat. Secred Heart of Jesus, have Mercy on us. 🙏 🙏 🕊 🕊 ❤❤

Thank you so much for your teaching

A superb explanation for millions seeking help and direction! Perhaps it could also be done in 3 parts to shorten the time. Love listening to Father Alar!

I learn a lot with you about our Heavenly Father. Amen ❤

Thank you for your talk which covers a very important issue in society today, this really opens my eyes to the Church's teaching!!

Fr Chris, this talked popped up on my screen after Divine Mercy Mass this morning. What a beautiful explanation of the Church’s teaching on marriage. I wish all people could hear this-young and old, in any vocation-because it all makes sense. I am learning too; as a child of the 70s I did not get much of this info and am very thankful for all your talks. I am always learning! Also, I have a divorced friend with whom I would love to share this particular talk. Fr Chris, please let me thank you for your good humor. This is a special part of your personality that adds a spark of pure joy to your teaching. 🙏✝️💖

So enlightening. My husband and I cant stop listening to your talks. God bless you.

Thankyou Fr Chris for such a enlightining talk .Wish to share the message with every youth and hopefully wish the video is shared.resounded and echoed around the world .Praise Lord .Keeping you Fr Chris in my prayers .

This brought alot of peace to me after a divorce many years ago....in divorce children must be taught what Honor they Father and they Mother it worked for us and our children

Fr. CHRIS....am from India and I enjoy your teachings...God bless you with more zeal and strength to carry out his work..thankyou

Fr. Chris, I love what you shared about the Croatian custom of “you’ve found your Cross”.. resonates with a marriage philosophy I learned some time ago. In this day and age we sensationalize the concept of finding “the one” we are “compatible” with (I.e. the soulmate).. but people get the meaning of compatibility twisted. Being compatible to someone means being willing to *suffer with* .. the Latin Root for compatible is compati, which means suffer (pati) with (com). And furthermore, pati is the Latin origin of passion (which is another sensationalized word connoting strong carnal emotions, but which truly means suffering in sacrificial and unconditional love, as how Jesus did by His Passion). We are not by default compatible with someone, as in there is no such thing as a soulmate predestined for us. That is a worldly narcissistic mentality that sadly sets the wrong expectations for marriage and could be what plays a big part in the high rates of divorces in the Western World. Instead: We become compatible through mutual suffering founded in sacrificial love as spouses who have made the sacramental Vow in front of God (carrying that Cross). I found that Croatian custom very fascinating and no wonder there are no “divorces” or “annulments” there. That’s the attitude and success formula for lifelong marriages.

This has set my mind at ease about some things.

Thankyou father Alar... I got all the answer to my question here about marriage ...love it. God bless you father.

The truth you spoke brought me comfort and opened another path for me. Your sister is very lucky to have you and I am thankful I can at least hear it on KZfaq since I have yet to find a Priest who has been able to provide that kind of spiritual direction. Thank you.

Father Chris Alar thank you for the detailed insight and inspiration of Marriage, Divorce and Annulments that the Church Actually Teaches; ie For better or Worse as vowed. If one breaks any one's marriage, God will put asunder to one; it is a dead sin.

I love your talks. Thank you for all that you do for us, and I hope you do not shorten them. You put so much into them. they are too valuable to shorten.😊🙏💞

I can empathize with my name sake, for years families under stress are part of my daily prayers. Thank you Rev.Fr.Chris for an encouraging message. God bless you and all wives struggling under marital stress. Amen..... Bangalore India

Thank you so much Fr. Cris, i am now well informed reg my fake marriage. God bless you.

Thank you for your lecture 🙏🏼❤️

Thank you Fr. Cris for a wonderful teaching on marriage. May Lord the God bless people to understand how pure and responsible a marriage is. Wishes from India.

God bless you Fr. Cris. May the Holy Spirit continue to inspire you in teaching us our catholic faith.🕊️ Praying for you always.🙏 Thank you.🙌♥️

😅😊😊...thanks Fr Chris for all the teaching, your lessons are truly helpful & greatly appreciated 🙏 👍

Very informative Fr Chris

Thank you ! Fr. Chris, God be with you always! Amen 🙏

Thanks for this

Thank you Father

I’m a transform sinner !! And the Lord has me doing my Storytelling The . Lord is my Savior !

I listened a 2nd time- Father when you mentioned “& I think this is where MOST fall into!” The psychological deficit...... you hit the nail on the head! My ex-husband was an alcoholic & physically hurt me.... 💪🏼💪🏼 & of course we are divorced since my daughter was one year old...... 💔 my daughter is now 22 years old- She studied at A private Catholic elementary school-a Salesian school, next to St John BOSCO HS- was a high school scholar at ST PIUS X HS here in Southern California and a scholar and Dean’s lister at CSUF and graduated A CumLaude..... ❤️ Now she is at USC studying for her Masters Degree In Public Health! 💖💖💖 All this without a penny from her father because he left the country post divorce. I made the right decision in divorcing her father 21 years ago.📜 🕊🕊🕊 & it helped me become closer to OUR LORD GOD JESUS CHRIST & MOTHER MARY 💙 THANK YOU 🙏🏼 for this lecture, Father Alar.

Love the Bosnia vows! Makes it very important. Excellent!

Loved the hat, Fr! 💜

🙏❤️Go's is Great. Thank you Father.❤️ Love you Jesus 🙏 ❤️

Great teaching learn so much

Thanks a lot Fr. Cris for this very helpful clarifjcation about marriage, and divorce. It really made things clesrer to me and will guide me on the next steps to follow.

Thank you Father, for a very informative issues on the topics of your teachings on marriage, divorce and annulment. I am still single and never been married. But I enjoyed listening to you, Father. Thank you Father and will go over and listen to your other previous teachings. Praying for you all. God bless.🙏🙏❤

There are many more complicated situations without being in "danger" or being a "victim." It's not always so simple. I tried for years but my ex wouldn't separate or stay married for the sake of children. Neither of us were unfaithful. But he wanted his way and for me to leave. It was unsustainable and he was working to put a wedge between me and my children. There are much more deep seated psychological effects not covered here