Does anyone else find themselves worrying about arguments that haven't even happened yet?
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Yeah.
@behindzerosp5 жыл бұрын
ALL THE TIME! I plan every conversation especially when I feel I will upset someone.I plan what and how to say it and how to react ,I assume their reactions and kind of prepare . Most of the time my worrying that they will get upset make my lie or try to escape the situation which is the real think that upset them but I can`t stop
@RomanyFree15 жыл бұрын
Yes!! I get so upset about what someone is going to say or do, and often plan my argument, before I even see them.
@acutepotato67925 жыл бұрын
Yes. I plan carefully what i will say and anticipate what they will reply, so i can have a rough idea of what i will reply to their reply.
@sarahstrong71745 жыл бұрын
Yes. I sometimes stay awake at least half the night planning how I will respond if they say certain things or how I will explain something so that they will actually understand what I am saying. This is understandable as I have had many situations when I have, for example, failed to get help which I really needed, because of communication breakdown, including a situation where I was being beaten unconscious regularly. Because people on the Autism Spectrum cannot do the same amount of processing in the same amount as time as most people, it really helps to do some processing in advance. So if you are expecting to have a difficult, or important, conversation about something, it makes sense to prepare for it, identifying precisely what you want to focus on, perhaps preparing a vocabularly, using a dictionary & thesaurus, and working out how to describe events etc, in terms the others involved, will understand. This means you might not have to do so much processing during the conversation especially if it does not take too many unexpected turns. I also find it really helps me to prepare for visiting unfamiliar places, because that reduces the amount of processing I have to do during the visit. So for example if I am going on an outing to an unfamiliar place, I get maps of the area & study them, till I have a general idea of the layout. I get any leaflets or read information online, so I am aware of specific features I want to see. If possible I go on google streetview, familiarise myself with the visual landscape, & learn my way around. I find places I can use the toilet, buy a bottle of water, sit down & rest, find shade & shelter, and get food. Sometimes I also locate somewhere I can go for help. I work out what it will be best to wear, (allowing for changes of weather), & what bag/s I will need. I prepare what I need in advance & gather together everything, including such items as a binoculars or a camera, snorkelling gear etc. If using public transport, I get all the timetable & route information, plan my journey, & I identify how to get home if I miss a bus or train etc. This involves hours of work, but makes it possible for me to enjoy outings & sometimes it means I can really help my friends too. It also helps me not to fall over, because I have more processing capacity left to use on processing the lumps, bumps & changes of gradient underfoot. The more familiar a route is, the less processing you have to do, because you have already done some of the processing. It is anxiety provoking to walk an unfamiliar route because it is too much processing for your capacity. The feeling produced by not being able to process what you need to process, when your processing capacity is being overwhemed, is of sheer panic, as if you are about to be obliterated & leads to meltdowns. There is a core impairment involved in Autism which causes the difficulties, symptoms & characteristics, this impairment is called 'Stasis' &, once you know about it, it really helps to make sense of Autism.
@rayanneflowers5 жыл бұрын
I feel like crying whenever I watch anything about Asperger's because everything in them describes me. I have always felt like a weirdo since highschool. I definitely need to get a diagnosis before I die. I feel like I need to have that closure and validation.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Aw that’s ok.
@zoemcbride66585 жыл бұрын
Me too. I'm going into my junior year of high school and I've realized that my friends will point out how I'm very sensitive to certain things and ask me why, but I never know how to answer. My mom has talked about how she thinks I might have aspergers but she doesn't know how to find out if I do.
@hopeharmony18094 жыл бұрын
rayanne liu if you have autism it doesn’t matter your still awesome your still you
@sarkastinenpiiras6244 жыл бұрын
Don't worry, you may know this already, but the diagnose won't change you. Keep it strong 💪
@RosaMaria-jl6zs4 жыл бұрын
I pretty much cried through this whole video. I'm not sure if it's because I'm sad that it's fully discribing me... or if I'm happy because, there are others just like me, there is a reason.
@nickstuckenborg93585 жыл бұрын
I'll occasionally go through a "dry spell" where I won't have a special interest or an extreme one, then I'll latch on to something soon, and they switch through the years
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
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@YogoBites4 жыл бұрын
Same here expect my usually stay within the realm of adventures, superheroes and powers, or basic slice of life
@jadeykinz10264 жыл бұрын
I am EXACTLY the same.
@twentyoneeilishes53133 жыл бұрын
I’m usually pretty depressed during those
@allegedchicken54063 жыл бұрын
Likewise!!
@barpoe15 жыл бұрын
I know it’s not a clinical term, but I think people with ASD are empaths. They are super sensitive to the energies around them and they can be very overwhelming for them. And they say Aspies don’t understand what someone else is feeling, but that’s because they cannot label it. They FEEL much more keenly than other people, that’s why they’re so particular and have meltdowns.
@kaboozle5 жыл бұрын
I have a tendency to get overwhelmed by other people’s feelings. I get lost in the emotion of someone else and I don’t know where my own emotion ends and the other person’s emotions start. I even get this when watching movies or tv; if there’s a baddass hero kickin’ ass I feel badass, if they take a drink I’ll get a drink etc.
@Rookvaleriannocturne5 жыл бұрын
I'm not sure about every single person, but this is very true of me. Or I label it with very simple words like sad/mad/happy. But I am overly empathetic, and people I'm close to I can end up feeling what they feel even if they're miles away. My mom was in Illinois a month or two ago, and she was so upset and exhausted, she couldn't stop laughing. But I felt it and couldn't stop laughing either.
@__________36235 жыл бұрын
I do as well believe this. I remember being extremely sensitive as a child (I still am today) and getting too emotionally connected with movies or people I don't know and getting very disappointed when I saw someone fall and imagining their emotions and the tragedies in their lives. I don't know if anybody else can relate, but I spend more time thinking about how others may feel instead of myself, and I definitely do relate to the term "empath".
@KiNG-tx9je5 жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing long before I even learned I was aspie..
@helenarodrigues76465 жыл бұрын
Yaaaaaaaaaaas you bitch finally someone said it
@user-iz7mq6cp6x5 жыл бұрын
I’m obsessed with plants, art, and learning languages. And so many things. Lol. I get really really into it.
@thegigadykid15 жыл бұрын
Same with me I'm really in social studies language sociology
@anacatarinareis39035 жыл бұрын
I am very interested in languages too! :)
@jvniper04 жыл бұрын
Same here to all of those!! I have several journals around me at all times where I’m constantly identifying plants and all of the ways to use them
@darkcrystal93044 жыл бұрын
That is really eerie because I'm interested in plants(and their medicinal properties) and foreign languages as well.
@a.d.d.89934 жыл бұрын
Leticia Rabelo Same 😅 I find it so much more effective to learn by myself instead of how it was at school 😁 Much interests and so little time to dig in... ich hoffe du bist dran geblieben 😉
@donnahersey98133 жыл бұрын
At 78 I’m just learning about Aspergers thru videos like yours. Arriving way late to the table but so glad to have finally found answers to the lifelong feeling of being “different.” My daughter at 36 recently discovered she is an Aspie and thought I might be too. Now I’m spending a lot of time on KZfaq learning about Aspergers and really grateful to channels like yours that give me a sense of community. (I’m female, born in New England but transplanted to the beautiful Ozark mountains in Arkansas thirty-five years ago.)
@cumuluseremiel12092 жыл бұрын
So one never stops learning about themselves? Humans are fascinating
@KhaledMohamed-is5pl Жыл бұрын
How have you got a girl friend while you have asperger syndrome.?
@HmmIdk-gw7fi Жыл бұрын
I somehow knew you were a lady lol.
@turtleanton6539 Жыл бұрын
Great
@turtleanton6539 Жыл бұрын
@@cumuluseremiel1209true we dont😊
@bonakota47635 жыл бұрын
ive found a way to make yourself look like you are looking somebody in their eye and its super simple: all you have to do is look at their nose and the point of it. the part where you would boop :)
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Excellent input tip!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@jessicaolson4905 жыл бұрын
Eyebrows work too, and it avoids the looking down = dishonest conundrum. 😥
@ruralsquirrel51585 жыл бұрын
I look between people's eyes (at the "third eye"), or at just one eye, or if it's a girl I like...I will alternate between staring at her lips and her eyes (as mentioned previously). They like when you look at their lips, I noticed.
@teaartist64555 жыл бұрын
That's super helpful and should really be more well known. The only issue is that my co with eye contact is based on the situation and the person. I can look my little sister in the eyes for a bit, I can't even look at the face of somebody who's angry or otherwise unpleasant and untrustworthy.
@zoemcbride66585 жыл бұрын
That's what I do. Or I look at their eyebrows.
@jtpiercy19665 жыл бұрын
I'm 35 and just always thought my anxiety was really bad or whatever and I found your videos and you've opened my eyes so much thanks a ton great videos
@chymarsowell4 жыл бұрын
Jt Piercy I feel you man
@keldonmcfarland29694 жыл бұрын
I was about 36 when I was diagnosed with Aspergers at a VA (Veteran's Affairs) hospital. Two psychologists picked up on it very quickly.
@blackpink_kpop_lover81042 жыл бұрын
1. Difficulties with Eye contact 2. Special/obsessive interests 3. Literal thinking 4. Love routines 5. Sensory issues 6. Repeating people words/ echolia 7. Social cues difficulties
@turtleanton6539 Жыл бұрын
Yes; yes and yes
@gsomethingsomething26588 ай бұрын
@@turtleanton6539 Which three? (jk) ;)
@stargazingfawn26415 жыл бұрын
Newly found autistic and autism has become almost a special interest to a degree. I'm constantly thinking and learning more about it and I love learning more about it!!! GREETINGS FROM NY
@HarrietFitzgerald5805 жыл бұрын
Stargazing Fawn same! 😂
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey that is awesome!!
@adhdsuperpowers12575 жыл бұрын
I'm the same with ADHD!
@PurpleHat0265 жыл бұрын
OMG same! It's extra interesting because as you learn you learn about yourself too. It's awesome to learn about a trait you didn't know and realise that that's why you act that way or why you find something difficult
@zackduffy24585 жыл бұрын
Hey Stargazing Fawn, I'm also in Ny. Rochester, Ny actually.
@gwenmulligan5 жыл бұрын
“So I can just sort of overdose on this information” Yes, that is the perfect way to phrase it! So relatable. I am so excited to have finally been properly diagnosed because it is waking me up to this whole world of possibility that there a people who actually understand me and I can understand because we think similarly in that our thought patterns and sensory experience is so very different from the average person. Thank you so much for your videos!
@mantis83265 жыл бұрын
I use to have really bad issues with eye contact, but as i got older i kind of got more and more use to it. Now i tend to completely stare into the person's soul though lmao. This video makes a lot of sense though. It puts a lot of pieces together in my head Edit: this is more of a self diagnosis, but i should see a doctor
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Ahh yeah, I would say that is autism. Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@lis88144 жыл бұрын
Under stand that.
@errortheglitchyskeleton12544 жыл бұрын
Same here
@radicalwings3 жыл бұрын
The exact same thing happened to me. Right now I can look straight into their eyes when they talk to me, but I think it's comfortable for me because I feel like they are focused on their thoughts and what they say and they don't pay attention to me, I guess. But then it happens to me that I get lost in my thoughts so you can see that I look directly at you but I'm lost, I'm not there paying attention :( And I miss part of the conversation because of that, like I remember something or they say something that reminds me or makes me think about something and I don't stop until I realize it late.
@adamabbas14873 жыл бұрын
I had a real problem with it. Then I just look through them. So generally people think I am looking at their eyes when I am not.
@allialias4 жыл бұрын
My family insisted "Look at me when I'm talking to you." My masking includes completely staring them in the eyes after years of being forced to.
@stevenspring98894 жыл бұрын
I have already been diagnosed.. I got a 49 out of 50 on the test. My wife has me watch your channel, I am obsessed with tech. Thanks for the video.
@IamMissPronounced5 жыл бұрын
I haven't been diagnosed (I'm on a waitlist to see a specialist) but I'm still trying to differentiate between my panic attacks and possible meltdowns and its really difficult. All my other symptoms make sense, especially my sensitivity to sensory things, but I have a hard time figuring out what meltdowns really are, how they differ from person to person, how I can tell its not just my anxiety. I have so many of these signs, its crazy that no one even tried to diagnose me earlier! Love your videos, watching all the way from Canada!
@YxYzYx5 жыл бұрын
It took 10 years of various counselors, therapists, diagnosis, and medications until I started seeing someone who put all of the signs together and referred me to a specialist for testing. I got diagnosed this past summer, I’m a guy in my mid 20’s. As far as panic attack vs meltdown goes the way I am able to tell is I recover from a panic attack much more quickly. A meltdown can knock me out of sync for several days. Panic attacks I recover the same day. Good luck to you, testing was very interesting. Mine took 12 hours over the course of 4 days, but part of he process taking so long was due to my excessive detail sharing.
@HarrietFitzgerald5805 жыл бұрын
Same, fellow Canuck here! Waiting list, bummer it's years long...I even looked up in the private sector but it's loads of money and a year wait time!! 😱 meanwhile I'm struggling, daily.
@kaitrose84995 жыл бұрын
I have the same problem but I aren’t on a list to get diagnosed because I live with my great grandma so she says it’s not a thing
@rowanb23555 жыл бұрын
May be different for you, but for me meltdowns involve strong irritation and anger which tends to end in tears. Panic attacks are not angry, just rapid heartbeat and breathing, feeling like a weight is on my chest, like I'm dying almost, racing mind etc.
@MissJRR135 жыл бұрын
Do you think having other disorders (like OCD, ADHD or depresion) make it harder for an aspie to get diagnosed? Like, they would ask me if I had any special interests but I couldn't say any because my depresion made me lose interest in anything (but later on I thought about it and I definitely had special interests in the past)
@nate28383 жыл бұрын
Without a doubt it makes it harder. The other disorders are more common and have a lot of overlap so they are likely going to be explored first. I honestly don't know if i have ASD, i suspect i do, however i am diagnosed with Major Depression and treatment is focused on that. I laughed so hard at the "throw this in the bin" because i've been there many times. People say to do something that doesn't make sense to me, but its what they said to do, so i do it, then they get upset and ask "why did you do that!". I had to learn not to take things literally, which then means interpreting, which has variables, and what variables they are the weighing and what weight are they giving to each? Combine that with how often people want you to do EXACTLY what they said, no matter how little sense it makes to you, makes following instructions stressful for me.
@mirzu422 жыл бұрын
Definately, since asperger kind of consists of parts of adhd, ocd, depression. Some aspies like me even have some sociopathic symptoms. I have now watched a few of this guys videos and one thing he doesent really talk about is aspergers and empathy, and many people with aspergers dont really feel empathy like other people, similar to sociopaths with the difference that they can still feel empathy and they can feel remorse over their actions. I was first suspected of adhd as a kid (and rn i think i may have it), but the meds they gave me just made me really sad and didnt really work.
@meganprell90265 жыл бұрын
watching from Oregon, I just found your channel. I was diagnosed 4 years ago at 20 years old with ADHD and Asperger's and it changed my life. Everything makes sense as to why I am the way I am.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
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@Jason-hu1il4 жыл бұрын
I also have adhd but not Aspergers
@mrmrlee5 жыл бұрын
Along with echolalia comes reciting lines from one's favorite movies... My daughter and I have complete conversations back and forth just using movie lines!
@rocksolid64945 жыл бұрын
Literal interpretations of sayings are funny to me because I can see them play out in my head like cartoons!!
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Yeah!
@GBfanatic154 жыл бұрын
you ever thought of nursery rhymes? because boy the implications of a literal rock a bye baby XD
@kayjay19093 жыл бұрын
Same
@atropos_thefate3 жыл бұрын
There is a Tex Avery cartoon that told a story and gave literal depictions of many, many idioms, and I LOVED it! I only saw it once on TV, but I remember it still as an adult.
@NooshaSheep2 жыл бұрын
@@GBfanatic15 Yes! That one always freaked me out. It also freaked out my daughter when she was 3, she changed the words to “the baby will not fall”. 😊
@miriamhansberry44175 жыл бұрын
I love people within the spectrum. Their souls are so beautiful! Much love to you all!
@calneil64575 жыл бұрын
Could you make a video about ocd or how ocd affects you?
@blearbenin5 жыл бұрын
I have ocd
@lilnene9119 Жыл бұрын
MAN. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW THANKFUL I AM FOR YOU UPLOADING THIS. 16 years in hell and always wondered why I always felt so much different. now I’m waiting for my appointment with my therapist, there is a lot to talk about. Thank you man.
@LupaDomina5 жыл бұрын
I didn't really know much about Autism. My best friends son was diagnosed in his mid-teens about 3 years ago and over the past two years I have met and formed friendships with several Aspie people. I stumbled on your vids by accident and they have helped me communicate effectively and be more patient with my Aspie friends. I take it as a huge compliment when they tell me "you get it." I can say that you gotta take credit for that too as you explain your reality so very clearly, that I can't help but get it. Thank you for posting these amazing videos. Watching from Sheffield, UK.
@e.paradigm74154 ай бұрын
I learned something about myself recently. I am so socially inept that I isolate myself from others, people think I’m scary.
@yogsothoth83895 жыл бұрын
Hello from Minneapolis, Minnesota USA. I wasn’t diagnosed with Asperger’s until I was 43, and I find your content extremely relatable. I’m still learning about the condition, and your videos offer a perspective not shown in books or explained by mental health professionals. Thank you so much for providing this material!
@fluffyshinobu4 жыл бұрын
Everytime someone says anything REMOTELY negative about me I start thinking that everyone in the world hates me.
@TheAspieWorld4 жыл бұрын
Aww man!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@fluffyshinobu4 жыл бұрын
@@TheAspieWorld I've already subscribed! Love your vids btw, they're very helpful! :)
@aussieevonne78575 жыл бұрын
TL;DR, Great video! My feedback: I don't identify with all symptoms but I'm still on the spectrum. Don't let not identifying with all symptoms stop you from exploring a diagnosis. I know, I know that's not what you're saying, but it bears repeating. You said you don't know anyone on the spectrum who doesn't have obsessive interests. Well, you do now! :-) Thanks for your vids! ASD woman here, formally diagnosed three years ago at the age of 43. The diagnosis made so much sense to me and clarified a lot. I always suffered from anxiety, especially social anxiety, and this was a large reason for me to explore the subject and I eventually received the diagnosis. Previous to my diagnosis, I thought, I can't have autism, because I have no "obsessive" or "narrow" interests. So, for years, I thought, I might be a lot of things, but I'm not autistic. BUT, that's not true. So, although having intense interests might be an important indicator for some, it doesn't resonate with me much. To be fair, I think obsessive interests were a factor in my childhood, and perhaps I don't think of myself as having obsessive interests in my adulthood as they're not apparent to me as such. I don't like fantasy novels, SciFi or video games. jk :-) Oh, where I'm watching from? From South Africa. On holiday. I'm Australian and live in The Netherlands.
@bzmudaifyd3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I've felt so alone, for so long with trying to understand why I'm so different. This is a huge relief.
@flushfries56335 жыл бұрын
I have a headache still because about three days ago i beat the shit out of my head over some garbage. PS keep up the good work (from Mississippi)
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey thank's for watching [PLEASE GIVE THE VIDEO A THUMBS UP]. Also if you want to learn more here is a playlist with more videos in it :) --> bit.ly/DO_You_Have_Aspergers
@geronkincaid78835 жыл бұрын
The Aspie World nothing better than fruity pebbles and an Aspie World video for breakfast! (yes I ate the video lol!!! 😄) here from America 🇺🇸
@sandrastevens68152 жыл бұрын
My son was diagnosed with pdd-nos in 2009 he is 18 almost 19 , you are amazing and I love your content thankyou so much .
@goreobsessed2308 Жыл бұрын
I find it weird I share a lot of the signs but man I love eye contact you can tell how honest people are with their eyes
@jjaybluejay25055 жыл бұрын
Little note: Watching the TV show "Lie to Me" helped me be better able to pick up on more body language cues. Some of the cues include looking at people's feet to see if they are still interested in talking (feet direction has helped me a lot with understanding when to stop).
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
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@nolanmcintosh47124 жыл бұрын
I'm male that has Asperger Syndrome, I was diagnosed at age 3, live in California, and I'm studying Electrical Engineering.
@TheAspieWorld4 жыл бұрын
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@laurahuynh83334 жыл бұрын
Good job!
@hotarukawaguchi33844 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this video. Eye contacts, obsessions, loving routines, sensory issues, repeating sentences, social cues issues... I made a lot of efforts to fix them as a kid who did not know she had Asperger's. Since I was diagnosed at the age of 19, now I am 25 years old and started to realise that trying to cover these features makes me even more mentally unstable as well as creates conscious and subconscoius resentments towards people around me like "why do I have to pretend myself" or "nobody understands and truly loves me". I am dealing better with my Aspie looking into the symptoms and how other Aspies deal with themselves. The biggest relief has come when I stopped feeling ashamed of my syndrome. I talked about it with my boyfriend and he saved my heart. So, I just wanted to say that albeit you can make an effort to decrease symptoms of Asperger's but it is not always good for your mental health. We feel difficulty fitting in this society not because we are inferior but because we are a minority. Love and Peace!
@GentleHandsGemma4 жыл бұрын
Hello, I'm 37 and for the last couple of years I have suspected I might have aspergers. I'm awaiting an assesment and I've been afraid to do research as I don't want to convince myself I am just to have the test say I'm not. Today I got over my fear and decided to listen to your podcast. I listened to about 4 episodes on a walk. During this episode when you talked about achaelea I stopped and my jaw dropped and I just cried and cried (luckily I was on a forest walk with no one around). It's like you're describing my life. I'm happy that I might finally have an answer of why I've always felt different and strange. Thank you, I just wanted you to know that you've helped and affected me and I'm so grateful. I'm now going to listen and look at everything you've done!
@TheAspieWorld4 жыл бұрын
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@josephknight9124 жыл бұрын
I have questionable social skills.I can't engage in small talk I can only discuss things that I have spent hours researching and are very precise. I spent all my time listening to podcasts and lectures so I'm able to speak to other people but I come off as intense. Is this ASD?
@GuidingAutism5 жыл бұрын
My 7 year old daughter has learned a great deal of her language from tv and music. She will play pieces of a show or music over and over and Over. Then she takes that language and applies it appropriately in real life. She has a more severe form of autism however and is still minimally verbal with receptive language difficulty as well.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
✌🏼
@Jgrande1133 жыл бұрын
Wow. Now I can finally understand why I do the things that I do. This is life changing. Thank you.
@JHohenhauser5 жыл бұрын
Hello from The Philippines! 1. Eye Contact: Although I can look people in the eye, I can only look for a few minutes. I really can't explain why, I just feel uncomfortable when I do eye contact for too long. 2. Special Interests: Like I said, I'm currently interested with History, Autism, and Video Games. 3. Literal Thinking: I'm very much improved with this aspect, people tell me that I'm the most sarcastic person they met, so I must be doing something right, right? 4. Routines: Although I pride myself with a flexible routine, I still follow a routine. It's a simple one really, wake up, eat breakfast (or Brunch), take a bath, and recreation. 5. Sensory Processing Issues: There is only one kind food I refuse to eat, even if I starve: Curry. Not only is its texture looks like puke with yellow food colouring, its smell is utterly disgusting. Oh, and yes, I hate bright light, especially sunlight. 6. Repeating Words: I've never caught myself repeating words. On the flipside, I do speak in an American accent but with a British vocabulary. 7. Social Cues: Come to think about it, I've always barged into my classmates' conversations. Unfortunately, they're too polite to point out my wrong-doings. As of now, It's 4:14, so I should really go to sleep.
@frankythebean45963 жыл бұрын
This is what I do because I can't make eye contact: I look at their four head. This makes it looks like you are looking into their eyes to them but you actually arent
@marcozelioli3 жыл бұрын
Thank you man ill try it!
@ndkalypso84215 жыл бұрын
I'm from North Dakota. I can relate to all the points in this video. Also I scored a 46 when I did the aq test. But none of my friends I've talked to about this believe that I could be autistic. Your videos have been so helpful for me to understand so many difficulties I've delt with my entire life. I wish trying to get a diagnosis didn't take so much time and money.
@BUGGOUT1015 жыл бұрын
You hit the nail on the heas with this video and my son...watching your videos helps me understand him and his asperger alot better..thanks
@christopherdavidlunn87384 жыл бұрын
Watching from Australia, I am 64 years old and I have learned to cope using different strategies to overcome some of the symptoms you describe.
@thealextrifier5 жыл бұрын
I was planning on doing a collab on common traits that most aspies have that I don’t. I was hoping you’d join in but you don’t have to if you don’t want to. Also I’m watching from Virginia USA. Hopefully you can come there soon 😃
@tailyngorg32585 жыл бұрын
im in VA to!
@ssn4025 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😊 for all good information you give us,greetings from Houston!!!
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@karyderrodri5 жыл бұрын
Enjoying your videos from El Paso Texas. My son is 14 and was diagnosed with ADD and later Aspergers. Thank you for your dedication to educating the world on Aspies..You have been tremendously helpfull.I hope my son can one day be like you.
@HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE5 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I have all three twoo, which made it hard for me to know what was going on. I'm literally answering YES to ALL the symptoms (women and men have slightly a bit of different symptoms...) on top of it I have also have CPTSD too, with abusive parents as a child, and as an adult husband... I'm strong though, and my best and onky friend aside from my kids, who knows a lot about ADHD said she would have never known... I'm not happy to have these issues, however I'm happy that I FINALLY know what was "wrong" with me... Thank you for your information - you and the ithet GREAT people on YT have been such a relief for me. Thanks!!!!!!! 🌷
@ChaceAlexander5 жыл бұрын
From Wikipedia: "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater" is an idiomatic expression for an avoidable error in which something good is eliminated when trying to get rid of something bad, or in other words, rejecting the favorable along with the unfavorable. It comes from German. I don't know if it will help, but I always picture it (or any idiom) literally and then translate the items into other items. For instance, “They don’t want to make the distinction between one independently owned franchise location and another. They’re throwing the baby out with the bathwater with this regulation.” [The Washington Times]. So I picture the individual franchise location as the baby, and the whole corporation as the bathwater. I don't think that's a very helpful example but I can't find one online and I can't come up with one off the top of my head.
@jamesbinks73804 жыл бұрын
The more I learn about this the harder it hits home . I've recently started working as a support worker , supporting people with a range needs and I love it . after my first autism training I got home and the whole thing hit me hard ! I have a long history of obsessive behaviour/anxiety/depression and thought that it was what it was yet I discovered this and there's no better way I've found to describe myself . Thing is that I've discovered that I've been masking heavily over the years and to be honest I don't have a clue who I am anymore , so much stuff I thought everyone did I now realised they don't and it makes me understand why hardly anyone understands what im On about unless I strain really hard to filter and condense my ideas . Could use some advice to be honest .
@lisssquishypoptart4315 жыл бұрын
I’m watching from Minnesota. My two boys have aspergers . My older son got some help in school in it. His school was really good and it helped him quite a bit. My ex husband wouldn’t allow our youngest son get help. I wish I could help him more without making him mad. I work with people with autism in group homes.
@roisinodonnell44182 жыл бұрын
This is my son, he is 6 next month and he has all these traits, he use to repeat what I said constantly I thought he was winding me up, he repeats lines from shows, and wakes up saying them. He's obsessed with Godzilla and Minecraft, it's all he talks about and literally can not stop talking to let others speak. I'm only now beginning to put all the pieces together because his development has been spot on, thanks for your videos
@gingern35545 жыл бұрын
I don't know if I am on the Asperger's spectrum, but I feel really close to everything you said. I've often been told that I'm annoying or stuck up because I overreact when touched lightly, it just makes my skin crawl! I can relate to the food one too! I sometimes had to throw the food out even though I loved it in general because my brain just went "eww" and made me gag. I have always brushed all these things off as me being weird, but now I'm seriously considering looking further into it.
@isthepanda67825 жыл бұрын
Same
@TurboAutist-sg7lo4 жыл бұрын
When you said that ppl talk and talk and talk, i do this so much, and one of my obsessions is knowing things, so when my teacher is teaching something i just totally take over, i do this so much and for so long that other students in the class turns around and looks at me and asks ME questions
@amandaflower25 жыл бұрын
Hi, I'm a mom from the US. I have several people in my immediate family on the spectrum and I think it is quite possible for me as well. Thank you for the information and your honesty. I feel this condition or state of being is more mysterious the more I learn. Keep the vids coming. I enjoy them.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@41aleyill594 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed with classic autism when I was 5 and not Asperger’s, but I was able to relate to pretty much all of the things listed.
@holocoffin5 жыл бұрын
Watching from Washington State USA. Thanks Dan.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey thank you!!
@TheMomKind5 жыл бұрын
So I have always worn black and grey shirts with jeans and it took me until I was in my late 20s to realize this was autism related or that I even did that lol. I would try to buy different cloths and colors, but then I would never wear that.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
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@shelleyallison57485 жыл бұрын
Right there with you!
@adhdbookworm5 жыл бұрын
I have three shirts and pants I will wear out. Usually, I'll wear a sweatshirt, even in the summer time. It's just comfortable for me. Done this with other clothes my entire life. Hate dresses and baggy pants, etc.
@Max-lz4zt4 жыл бұрын
Oh my god me too. I wear only black t shirts and jeans. Bright colors are exhausting to me.
@patriciastewart25374 жыл бұрын
Yeah, black and gray don't require the attention we have to pay to colored clothing.
@aaronhudson34135 жыл бұрын
Hi from Merriville indiana, i have ADD and aspergers. I am a criminal justice student and planing on become a police officer. Your videos are inspiring and fun to watch. Thank you for doing videos on this.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey!! You are welcome I am so happy you enjoy my videos :)! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@wendytimms45155 жыл бұрын
I'm in Canada. Your videos help me understand and learn how to communicate and understand my Grandson.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey!! Glad to have you here! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@maurius15 жыл бұрын
If someone sits at my place during breakfast i just stand at the counter and eat, and my dad gets angry
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
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@brown_grayson1125 жыл бұрын
Love you dan I’m not gay but I love you and I’m autistic
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey thank you!! Love yo you to!
@9ner4 жыл бұрын
I always knew I was very different by the time I was 9-10 years old. I couldn’t go to football games, shopping malls or supermarkets without feeling intense anxiety. I couldn’t order food without experiencing intense anxiety. By middle school going into high school, public education was a nightmare and I couldn’t concentrate due to so many distractions and attention. I could not understand sarcasm from others and took things very literally (idioms were quite weird). My syntax and diction was very eccentric and unusual, and I did terrible in debates but loved communicating via computers. Veering away from any personal pattern sparked immediate anxiety and frustration. I felt like a hypersensitive computer gathering data of everyone around me in attempt to put together the life puzzle. I researched endlessly and explored all avenues for understanding my cognitive behavior, employing psychoanalysis, psychedelics and meditation to help reconfigure my brain. I eventually found Traveling abroad can be very helpful for those with aspergers because they’re in a foreign setting free from judgement by their native peers. This is what first helped really ameliorate my negative asperger symptoms. Now of course the caveat is becoming normalized in a foreign culture, then the onset of asp symptoms re-emerge. Regardless such an environment allows oneself to keenly assess their own behavior in relation to others. The ironic thing about this journey was it wasn’t until I became quite confident, seemingly neural typical, and spiritually sound that I realized I had aspergers all along. I thought I had ADD or Bipolar, but it was never sufficient. Instead of relying on labels I turned to philosophy, psychology, and theology to gauge the middle path. By understanding life, my place in life, and my nature, I was able to tune my brain dials to appropriate levels. The benefits and strengths aspergers gave me i maximized, and my weaknesses I strengthened. Aspergians are like empathic super humans. I don’t say this to gloat or lie to myself; rather we have a unique perception of the world around us. We feel more, thus we see more. We study the intent of others and the nature of society so much more deeply for our own sake, which consequently results in the betterment for everyone else for many reasons. It’s almost as if we’re not from this planet, or, our unique wiring permits the soul to see itself inside a body trying to learn to be one with the mind and body complex within themselves and others.
@user-sj4pu7yl7q Жыл бұрын
I am a 67 year old woman living in California with my husband of 32 years. Just found out last year through me going to marriage counseling (he would not go) that he has Asperger's. I knew he had some weird quirks and now it all makes better sense, that being said however, it's been one of the hardest things to deal with. I kept wondering why after 32 years of marriage nothing has changed or gotten better. I am now relearning our relationship and it's hell. Books and videos have helped me understand it better and all the things he did all these years were not intentional to hurt me, but they did. Thank you for your channel, I will definitely tune in to learn more.
@azrailfan27175 жыл бұрын
Great video. I'm watching this from Apache Junction, Arizona 🤠👍.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey!
@stephenbell87555 жыл бұрын
Sensory Processing Issues: What about being very ticklish?
@N8swann5 жыл бұрын
Savannah, GA. These videos have been truly helpful for me to learn more about the spectrum. I have ADHD and many of the same traits you talk about in your videos, so it sounds like I need to go back to my Behavioral Health counselor and see what else I should do to cope with all of this newly acquired knowledge.
@dccollins6846 Жыл бұрын
I’m just discovering I have Asperger’s at 61. It’s such a relief to finally begin to understand myself.
@BlueRaven135 жыл бұрын
hi dan! Can you make a video about autism and sexual orintation or gender identity? 'cause i feel like there is a lot of people with autism that struggle with it (of course neuratypical people struggle with it too) and i think that it would be a quite interesting video! and to answer the question in this video i'm from denmark!
@wonderbreadjumps5 жыл бұрын
^I second that!!!
@lilcrabbybabby5 жыл бұрын
Stastically trans people have a higher percentage of autistic people than other gender groups. We don't know why yet, but I am curious
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
This is an interesting topic, I will do. Thank you :).
@behindzerosp5 жыл бұрын
@@maiynnai From my comment above you can see I try to figure out if I may be autistic and there is big chance I may be had this topic is huge for me because I struggle a lot with my gender identity that lead to strong anxiety.I will be really happy to see video like this !!!!
@maiynnai5 жыл бұрын
@@behindzerosp you might want to check out Aaron Ansuini or the channel "ask an autistic". Aaron is a disabled, trans and autistic advocate on you tube. He talks about gender and disability a lot. Ask an autistic is a bit more autism focused.
@Nana21112 жыл бұрын
"Throwing out the baby with the bath water" actually comes from a literal meaning... Some centuries ago, when tap water was not readily available, taking a bath was kind of a problem: you had to fill a large tub with water and then the people that made your household used the same water to bathe in a hierarchical order. That usually meant that the older male of the house used it first (usually the father) followed by the mother, and then the kids in order of their age. Obviously, the youngest (baby) of the family took the bath last, so by then, the water was quite unclean and murky (yuck!) So you could literally get the baby lost in the filth and toss him out with the contents of the tub, if you were not careful. Basically, it is a metaphor for one to be careful about something. You don't want to throw out something valuable (the baby in the story) by being inattentive or careless. Greetings from tropical Costa Rica!
@TheAspieWorld2 жыл бұрын
Excellent thank you for that!! Greetings from wales!
@lianaeve Жыл бұрын
Interesting im not autistic and interpret this slightly differently, a bit more abstractly. Rather than simply be careful in a general or vague sense I have always understood it to be referring to not engaging in black and white thinking where you might be tempted to instantly disregard all aspects of something because in doing so you might miss something valuable. For example my husband being quite a black and white thinker is quite distrusting of medicine because of the extensive and proven mistakes and corruption among the medical industry. But I use this saying to remind him not to instantly disregard all medicine because of this, as I doing so he will be throwing out alot of the valuable things medicine has brought society
@djpsychoc2012 Жыл бұрын
I used to do SEO wayyy back in 2003 or 2004, while i was working for a corporate company developing web sites from scratch in highschool, it's cool that is one of your special interest
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Oh that’s fire!!
@bogbog Жыл бұрын
Something interesting about one of the points you made, looking back, i think i have mimicked so many personalities over time that I'm starting to feel like i never had my own.
@TheAspieWorld Жыл бұрын
Right!? I had that realisation to! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@CayenneTravels5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes if I try to make eye contact my cheeks twitch and my eyes start watering.
@jennyska6865 жыл бұрын
As far as sensory stimuli, is over startling to loud noises a common theme too? I resonate with the light touching thing, it freaks me out.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
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@bebopbeth75 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh!! I am so glad I found you!!!! And by accident at that. I really really appreciate the topics that you are covering. As a mom of a 14-year-old boy, who I believe has aspergers, I want to keep one step ahead of his issues. THANK YOU so much from Dallas, Texas!!!!!
@UchihaGurl4045 жыл бұрын
Watching from Iowa! I had the first part of my autism assessment this week & I have a follow-up appointment next week. Your videos definitely helped me know what to expect and therefore helped me keep my cool!
@lindsay31745 жыл бұрын
I usually don't like to watch videos of autistic traits because i don't always relate to males on the spectrum but this is me to a T
@whatwhatbutter7225 жыл бұрын
I related to everything in this video! One example I can think of is my finger tips and nails are extremely sensitive. I can't file my nails, scratch anything if my nails are long, or feel clothes with my nails. My sister was so confused when I told her the sequins hurt my fingerd on the pillows that change images when you move them back and forth. I dont know how to describe it more than hurting and making me cringe...
@perfectly_broken2024Ай бұрын
I just found your channel and appreciate your videos. I'm a recently diagnosed Aspie and a late diagnosed (37). I always thought I was just weird but it all makes sense now. I've always been drawn to music and I have been playing piano since I was 10 (self taught and play by ear)
@jonaKVLS2 жыл бұрын
just gonna add my comment to everything! 1: i did always avoid eye contact until everyone pointed it out a lot and said it was disrespectful, now i can't keep my eyes of theirs and feel uncomfortable hoping the conversation will end asap! 2: all of my attention goes to harry potter, it was once one direction but i grew out of it and continued with harry potter. rn i get obsessed with crystals and incense stuff. all i talk is about this and people are so annoyed, all my money goes to this, i got a lot! and i never get tired of it 3: things like the one with cats and dogs, i never understood. i still have difficulties understanding these and always have to ask. also since i always get called out for taking literal i started asking for what to do exactly. i get scared, i get a panic attack, anxiety attack. it freaks me out.. 4: i have this routine on how to get up in the morning, what to do first when i arrive at work. i always have a lollipop after work, i get freaked out when i don't. i hate when this change but i also have another routine at my boyfriends because it's not the same if i do my used routine at his. 5: i have a problem with loud noises. i cover my ears, i panic, i start to cry. when people touch me i flinch, expectations are people very close to me even tho it still happens with them too but not that often., textures like meat or mushrooms trigger me, i can't eat this. it's just no!! also bright light! bright light always is and always was a problem to me.. my boyfriend has very bright light and he always put it a bit darker for me so i don't freak out. 6: repeating word is a thing i always catch me doing, i mimic the other people, i copy other people for so long until i talk it out loud like them.. 7: social communication? i work at a kindergarten but other like that it's hard. i have problems to know when i should start talk. i have problems to stop talking especially when i'm at my boyfriends
@cynthiabakke8255 жыл бұрын
I've never been diagnosed, and probably don't meet enough criteria for Aspergers, but I have a lot of traits- enough so that when I meet new people on the spectrum, they will often ask me at some point if I've been diagnosed. Sensory issues (esp fabrics! And lights, smells, and sounds), social awkwarness and talking, and obsessive interests are very apparent with me. My husband has echolalia (repeats your last word as you say it or mouths it), sensory issues, and other things as well. Our son is a true combination of us and is your completely, absolutely sterotypical Aspergers kid- all 7 characteristics and then some. He's 14 now and my absolute favorite human. Thanks for being you, and sharing yourself, your experience, and your knowledge with all of us :-)
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@benoit12425 жыл бұрын
Watching from Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷
@erick74485 жыл бұрын
Eu também! 😊
@notso30314 жыл бұрын
I really feel like I need a diagnosis but I fear I won’t be taken seriously and have anxiety around doctors that they won’t believe me not sure what to do. Love all your videos Thankyou for being such a inspiration to others 🙏✨
@magda183 жыл бұрын
I often get SUPER interested in a topic for like a couple of weeks and I try to learn all thing about that subject,, then i´m completely exhausted and i need rest. After a few days i find something else to be really passionated about. It goes on and on and on. Somebody else?
@adamg_235 жыл бұрын
Tucson, Arizona
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
There are a few of you from AZ
@christinapalafox3 жыл бұрын
I can't even make eye contact with you via this video!! That totally freaked me out.
@TheAspieWorld3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I understand :). Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@christinapalafox3 жыл бұрын
@@TheAspieWorld I believe I have subscribed! I have a question though...how did they sort through all of the different symptoms to arrive at OCD, ADD, and Asperger's? I know certain individuals on the spectrum were often mistakenly diagnosed with disorders such as OCD and bipolar disorder, especially people who were born before the range of social capability seen on the autism spectrum was as understood as it is today. I myself have been suspected of having OCD and ADD. How did your diagnosis process land on all three? I am curious, and I want to make sure I am exploring all the potential aspects of my mental health. I already have some of the commonly occurring comorbid conditions (ha, alliteration much?) such as seizures. Sorry for the long and wordy comment. I'm enjoying your videos. They are quite informative.
@sergei65983 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video! I used to live in Brighton and now I am in Switzerland
@clairethegreatpurpledog36174 жыл бұрын
Every one of these describes me to a T. But I grew up basically being told (mostly by my peers, but even a teacher once) that “autistic people are dumb,” or “autistic people aren’t very smart...” It wasn’t until the past five years that I’ve actually learned what autism actually is. And after learning and looking into it, it’s a little disturbing how perfectly it describes me. I have never gotten a diagnosis before though. Eye contact has ALWAYS been tough for me. I have gone through many obsessive phases (I went through a massive Zelda phase in my adolescence where it was like, “oh your cousin’s brother’s cat plays Zelda? OMG WE HAVE SO MUCH TO TALK ABOUT”), but still today I have a few obsessions like art and a very VERY specific anime. I’ve always been a literal thinker and phrases such as the ones he said in the video still confuse me, even though I know what “raining cats and dogs” is supposed to mean (it still confuses me every time it’s said). I have always been strict with routine and following it, and it’s been hard when I don’t have a routine. I have ALWAYS been MUCH more sensitive to things that nobody else seems to be to. When sounds hurt my ears, I’m often told that I’m overreacting or sensitive. Also, some textures of foods bother me, and many different car lights really overstimulate me. And repeating words... WOW, yes I do this often. I didn’t realize it had to do with aspergers, until I watched this video, but yes I do this. AND SOCIAL CUES YEEEEEEES. I HAVE *ALWAYS* HAD ISSUES WITH THIS!!! There are social cues that I’ve seen my 7-8 year old brother pick up on, that I haven’t been able to pick up on until late high school or after high school.
@clairethegreatpurpledog36174 жыл бұрын
Of course, instead of a single aspergers diagnosis, I’ve received like, five different ones that all basically all come together to describe aspergers. ADHD, anxiety (2 different kinds: social and general), OCD, and mild sensory prossessing issues.
@skidbones91325 жыл бұрын
Watching from Ireland
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey!
@AusticHardOfHearingSinger5 жыл бұрын
I have Asperger's, too. And, I got made fun of for my clothes being always many paurs if the same pattern and colour. But, that's my preference.
@amyb71155 жыл бұрын
Explaining idioms to my fiance who has aspergers is so fun for me for some reason. As someone's who's neurotypical in a relationship with someone who has autism I've done this a few times. Not because he takes them literally, but because he KNOWS they're not to be taken literally but he doesn't understand what the expression means. The latest one I explained to him I think was "to wear your heart on your sleeve."
@lauriejeandibartolo8735 жыл бұрын
i am mom of aspie 16 yr old boy. I want to add that some of the characteristics ( behaviors ) do change with time - for example my son would refuse to eat puddings , yogurt , ice cream , whipped cream when he was younger. but after trying these things finally in his teens he now likes them. there are other things too that changed through the years.. one constant is the stimming - always been the same
@SchnellRYT5 жыл бұрын
Watching from London🇬🇧🇬🇧
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey!!
@garret19305 жыл бұрын
Also in London, just not that one 🇨🇦
@Jason-hu1il4 жыл бұрын
Im also In England but not London 🏴 🇬🇧
@ghostpepperwine5 жыл бұрын
I have anxiety and the sensory processing just makes it works. Funnily enough the pressure thing causes me to tap people extremely hard (I have a batters arm) also I’m watching from Connecticut!
@clasin26195 жыл бұрын
Watching from a city near Paris [France]. Discovered this syndrome a few days ago and compiling everything talking about it now. Thank you for your vidéo.
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey!! That is awesome. Glad to have you here!! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@hailleyfiler51724 жыл бұрын
I love your videos! I'm watching from Dickinson, Tx. Just you talking about changing the routine, had me like having a little anxiety attack. Keep up the good work!:)
@TheAspieWorld4 жыл бұрын
Heyy!! Whoop! Thank you I’m over here in Wales! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
@livrog4745 жыл бұрын
One of my friends in my class has a really strong American accent but he doesn't know anyone from there and he's never been there
@quailypoo5 жыл бұрын
on the topic of lights... I hate hate hate blue lights! Driving at night around Christmas is awful... The blue lights hurt my eyes so bad and they just look really blurry to me.
@mariawallace49565 жыл бұрын
I hate bright Christmas lights.
@johnstover45845 жыл бұрын
Blue light does suck. I have to turn the blue light off on my phone or its to bright.
@mariawallace49565 жыл бұрын
@@johnstover4584 same. I'm looking at getting "blue light blocker" lenses for my next pair of eyeglasses.
@Rookvaleriannocturne5 жыл бұрын
I'm so thankful that I've found your channel, it's given me confidence to schedule an evaluation with a specialist. You're so wonderful and lovely to listen to. 🖤💙 and I'm from Connecticut, USA!!
@TheAspieWorld5 жыл бұрын
Hey I am sooo happy you enjoy my channel you are awesome! Thank you so much! Oh make sure you sign up to my news letter for all my latest content :) bit.ly/Autism_Updates
@motatheautist22255 жыл бұрын
I m from Morocco and I am happy I found UR KZfaq channel to help me understand myself