Agreed. I think that people on both extreme ends of the spectrum are not the majority, but they surely exist. There are people who base their sexuality not only on what they like, but also by what they are repulsed by. This is imo the case for people who are 100% straight or gay. I've met plenty of gay people who are repulsed by the thought of being physically intimate with someone of the opposite gender and I imagine there are just as many straight people who are the same. This new acceptance of fluidity is a good thing, but the exceptions cannot be forgotten, because with any situation or behavior, there are always going to be exceptions. It's human nature. I'm autistic and if someone told me "everyone is a bit autistic", I'd be pissed. Same for sexuality. Generalizations when taken literally or as an all encompassing definite thing can be dangerous.

Trans people exist and were here to make everyone a lil gay and straight ☺️

disagree, if anything it is a more open perspective for a world with trans/nb folk, just dont frame it so literally in ur mind

@@jupiterxqueen6194 I don't get it, respectfully. But how does trans people existing make it so that "everyone must be a bit gay/bi/whatever"? For instance, I have felt attraction to trans men in the past. I never got to do anything with them, but the attraction was there. That does not make me any less gay, of course, since I perceive trans men as what they are, men. I don't have much experience or exposure to Nb people, to be honest, but If I were to have a crush on someone who identifies as NB, I guess it would be because that person was masculine presenting enough for me to feel attracted to. The fact remains that in my whole life I haven't felt attracted to people who present themselves as women or with too many feminine traits. That line is pretty much there and I don't feel desire to experiment beyond that line, not like bi or pan people do. I don't know if I made myself very clear and I'm afraid I'm sounding transphobic, which is not my intent. I just think that affirmations like "everyone *must be at least open to experiment with more than one thing* " a bit inaccurate. Some of us don't. But anyway, it's not that serious, just a mild incovenience for me. If statements like these are beneficial to you or your community that's great. The human experience is never unanimous, I guess we just perceive things very differently.

I don't think those statements are the problem, I think the problem stems from the people using excuses in order to justify homophobia or conversion therapy. "Everybody is a little straight", the problem with this is its a opinion not fact, and we probs will never know if it is a fact or not, but these kinda statements are what gets people thinking about sexuality in a way that is different to what we were Brought up with. Without various views and ways to think about sexuality there will be no improving or discussing how it's viewed as such a yes/no thing

😂😂

Girl, I just noticed that

Yeah, but one of them has Johnson written on the back. Come on.

@@jakes8091what’s wrong w that

like slayy

No it's not though, women ***(in the west)*** are far more privileged than men, by a long shot.

No people don't like angry mean lesbians cosplyaing men. Bye bulls and butches.

This such solidarity sister

Yeah, not true though.

lmfaoo

Idk I think everyone originally has the propensity for it, but in psychosexual development the hetero one gets solidified (or not) kind of thing

Same lol🤩🤭

Why r u disappointed tho.. it’s rlly not that serious lol

Women are generally more fluid than men. It's much more common for a man to be 100% straight or 100% gay. Bisexuality is statistically more common in women. This is probably due to how men's attraction is more physical and women's is more emotional, relatively speaking.

​@@JETZcorpIt's possible that men and women are bisexual at the same rate, but society is more permissive of women exploring (and finding out about) their bisexuality. At the end of the day, these statistics are based on people's identity, so if you don't know you're bi yet or are Narnia deep in the closet, the statistics won't capture it.

She's not as funny as you, though.

@@matthewjaredcox9753get lost

hate to break it to you but that sentence is pretty common place

she wasn't original for that lol

She's literally culturally appropriating Blk men

does anyone know their instagrams lol

BEING GAY IS A CHOICE

Yeah exactly so gorgeous

@@dexterlopez5613 the Tunisian guy is @kayeshurricane

BEING GAY IS A CHOICE

We do live in a heteronormative society.

Okay, what's interesting with the two moms and two dads is....and we all know. Everyone assumed cis moms or dads. No one questioned shit.

Same, my eyes widened dude. Didn’t expect these people to be so sexist.

the thing is stereotypes are based on sociologic realities :/ so i don't think those people were like assuming that because someone has a vagina they are better at communication; they are aknowledging gendered differenciated socialization. For exemple: a man is socializatied to bottles up vulnerability, whereas women are sociliazed to have caring and nurturing attitudes. men and women are socialized to be what society expects of them, we all are stereotypes. Now saying that this is the way of nature and that shouldn't change, and aknowledging sociological constructions to better outgrow them are two different things.

@@ELP1125 Why is that wrong? We all have hetero relatives and loved ones too. Hetero parents too.

but won't they (gay out) be arrested being homosexuality illegal in arab world?

@@cicciomattese queer people also got arrested in your country at the beginning of the queer movement. Its years of fighting to get their rights and if u dont start at some point u wouldn't be able to achieve anything. In every arab country there is an lgbtq under ground community. Its a different culture too than in the US. U still can't be completely open about it, u shouldn't also if u dont feel safe. Thats been said, it's important to have a role model, even if they live in a none arabic country. It would still show and represent that nothing is wrong with being whatever u are. And also it would be a big help for the new generation (a helf i wish i also had when i was younger) .

He is really hot 🥵😅

@@Paris-ff9hi for me the guy with the hat is so damn cute hehe

@@eliasmakhoul7138 cool, I am more into arabs😅 I have a crush on the tunesian guy😪

ME TOOOOO🇹🇳🇹🇳

Bro Im also tunisian and queer😭😭

احنا اكتر مانت تتصور 😂

@@user-nc1cc6ln1g WALAHIII 😂💕💕

YES! THANK YOU!! the fluid discourse happens every week on twitter and it’s always about lesbians but never about gay men.. i wonder why 🤔

I get your point but I have to disagree, I think there is a difference between saying everyone is "a little bit gay" and saying "everyone is bisexual". I think it's just saying that nobody is 100% straight, like, at the very far end of the Kinsey scale. they can be close to those ends and still be gay or straight and not identify as bisexual. and you don't have to agree with that statement and could have a different experience but a lot of gay, lesbian as well as hetero people do agree with our sexuality being fluid and to say that is homophobic is invalidating our identities. I have literally only been with, and have had feelings and attraction for women in my life, and I do agree with this statement and If I were to want to be intimate with a man someday that wouldn't necessarily make me hetero or bisexual. I know aswell tons of hetero people, especially hetero women who have felt attraction to, experimented with or fallen in love with a woman and continue to identify as straight because this is their more common experience and the other is an exception. "If that was different most straight women wouldn't choose to date men" I don't even know what you mean by this?

Maybe I’m biased as a queer North African myself but he is the only person in this vid I found tolerable

Then why do most women look at lesbian porn and never orgasm with men if they're 100% straight...

I do get your point in saying everyone is a bit gay because thats simply just false, but if it was changed to everyone is a bit bi or anyone can fall in love with anyone I fully agree because am I a lesbian 1000% but is it possible for me to fall in love with a man absolutely. I think it is possible for a straight man to fall in love with a man or a straight woman to fall in love with a women. I truly believe anyone could fall in love with anyone no matter their sexual orientation. Also women can fall in love with other women and still consider themselves straight, and the same goes for straight men. So no, not everyone is gay but everyone is definitely a little bit bi. It's ok if you disagree. This is just my opinion on the matter.

Like the eyes?? His smile??

any one know or found his insta id or name?

😢

People kill for many reasons and are very selfish and petty.

Or jail.

I am a lesbian and I know I would be a good mom but literally my worst fear of having children in the future is that they will be ashamed of their parents. It's so messed up because I know so very well how it feels to be ashamed of something you can't change. I really wish it would become normal to have two moms or dads. Like being left handed has become normal. But we are still so far away from that...

@@s.b.662 they never be normal only thing normal mom and dad

@@s.b.662just be sure to address any conflicting feelings about it that they may receive from outside sources, they will love you both endlessly.

Wow coming from a messed up family dynamic I love when I hear stories like these 😊😊😊😊

All? Haha

I’m pretty sure he’ll say he’s gay and not queer

@@benjaminreyes3624 queer can be used as an umbrella term for the LGBTQ+ community, doesn't necessarily refer to being gender-queer. But how he refers to himself is obviously up to that person 😊

@@sarmo594 he doesn’t at all want to date women. Seems like the type of guy who wouldn’t identify as queer. His sexuality seems to be exclusive and not inclusive

FR I noticed that too

I think the Arab guy has a crush on him

hmm but that kind of joy when you hear "a gay guy has a boyfriend!" type of excitement. But at 8:17 he says "aww!" as though hearing for first time.... any one know the name of Tunisian guy?

Not all gay ppl want to be straight

At first, especially when you have few people to relate to/support you, you might hope you're straight, I felt the same way. Now I have supportive friends who don't harass me for being the way I am, and you will probably end up finding your own group who you can trust to not hate you for being gay. I don't know if you've found this group yet, but you will.

I think it’s normal to feel that way sometimes too. I’ve felt that way before & sometimes still do because why wouldn’t I wish for things to be easier? At the same time though, I really wouldn’t be the person I am now if I wasn’t a lesbian & if I didn’t have the experiences I’ve had, & it’s just as freeing as it is difficult. The wish to become straight isn’t really a wish to be straight but rather a wish that things were easier when you’re not straight… but yeah, it’s just plain hard to be considered “not normal,” as human beings we’re hardwired to want & need to be accepted by others & to belong. I think to feel ok as lgbt people we really need to find & create that community in our lives that will accept us & love us, & then we will feel less strife about it.

You would've been doing the harassing then. That's why I don't wish I was straight

Maybe because yall are not attractive enough you gotta figure out if being male or female is more attractive.

Yes 2 weeks ago!

BEING GAY IS A CHOICE

THIS!!! I was so surprised about the bias for two moms because queer people should know better than most that gender doesn't play a role in how good of a parent you are.

Lol stop saying “cis” it’s not a thing. Theres man/woman that’s it 🙄

@@3picblaze what are u on about? And yes, the adjectives are man/woman. Not cis. Cis is not a word. It’s not valid. It’s a slur. U dont just erase womanhood/manhood to accommodate “others”. Also, there’s only 2 types of people: man/woman. U can be attracted to whomever but it doesnt change the fact that a gay man is a man and a lesbian woman is a woman. Dont even get me started on trannies or “non binaries” 🤮

@@joni3345 here’s some language facts for you! The word cis and trans exist outside of gender! They’re also used in chemistry and other words. The words have Latin origin and I’ll give the etymology here: From the Latin preposition cis (“on this side of”). Borrowed from Latin trāns (“across, on the far side, beyond”). Basically so when you say cisgender it’s saying that whatever gender a doctor labeled you at birth, you are that same gender now or you are on the same side as what you’ve always been labeled as. If you’re saying transgender you are on the far side of what gender you were assigned at birth. There’s been studies that show that the brains of cis people and their trans equivalents are very similar. For example, trans men and cis men get aroused in the same way and vice versa. Also the prefixes are used in terms of chemistry molecule configurations! Its all backed up by science and Latin!

And he is damn hot too🥵

How did it sound like that to you? I kinda think this, like that woman said, all animals do gay stuff. And as you said its sad to think that you feel attraction to the same gender and come out as gay. I believe that many many ppl really are bi. And i believe that we should just grow up to not have any expectations to who we will love and feel attracted to

He looks just like Avon Jogia

He looks like my mom's friend

fine as hell

Followed him on Instagram a while back because of how cute and knowledgeable he is.

He is Arab guy his name is Kais boukthir

No such thing as non binary 😂

@@joni3345 Oh, Joni, please do find a hobby. Might I recommend a library? Perhaps reading a book or two might serve you better than being bigoted on the internet, going around saying things don't exist and looking rather silly in the process. 😌

NB with an Agen partner, both on Ace&Aro spectrums here. I'm mostly fem presenting on the surface I've confused so many gay boys, half the people who ever asked me out turned up gay later. Kinda validating in a way, but sucks for them that I made them question themselves even more, wish I could go back and tell some of them, "Hey, honey, I'm a boy in a skirt. You'll figure it out eventually though."

@@runeseaks typical response of a brain dead leftist. Calling people names and telling them to “educate themselves” when they cant even differentiate a man vs a woman haha pathetic 🤡

@@ebonyblack4563 you people are really sick in the head. Listen to urself

can u elaborate? (genuinely curious)

​@@rasbyyy_iggaydar senses

I think they were joking

It literally is boring

Straight culture is outright boring to me. It comes with a heavier pressure to follow specific norms that I consider hellish, like the obsession with monogamy and ignorance of sex. I will absolutely say that and I can back it up, and any straight person who gets individually offended needs to either reflect on why they felt addressed or, if it doesn't apply to them, why their skin is so thin.

I think you took it as “ew straight”, instead of “ewww 🌈str8✨”

i quite literally find the thought of being with a man to be boring.. no love no interest no attraction, nothing there. boring! it just doesn't fit, simple as. not about how interesting our "identities" are at all

. We live in a man's world and we have internalized mysoginy. we must deconstruct ourselves and stop being afraid of taking our autonomy

most men think that a woman is capable of nothing and must put her under guardianship

Could that be because men typically like to go out more and for a longer period of their lives? There used to be a lesbian bar in my town and it closed down while the gay bar stayed open... i don't see this as an attack on lesbians, simply that they don't bring in as much profit, they don't spend as much. And at the end of the day, the people running those establishments do it for economical, not ideological reasons.

​@@EricaHILGROSunfortunately this is the world

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I know. And what “rules” is he on about?

​@@jujutrini8412rules like how long to wait before texting someone after a date, how long before the second date can happen, how long before putting a label on the relationship, waiting a certain amount of time before moving in together, the things you're "allowed" to talk about at different stages of the dating cycle, when's the appropriate time to express feelings, and much much more......if you're straight, you might not recognize all these as social rules because it's your norm and what's expected of you...but when you're gay you start to pick apart these social rules and can more easily recognize them because you are no longer following them due to breaking away from the heteronormative social expectation.

@@katarinachiogna-solovey3560 exactly and not to mention the pressure to ascribe to the social norm of the “man” and “woman” in a relationship when ur in a heterosexual relationship. being in a gay relationship really blurs those norms and allows you to think about how you want to portray yourself and how you really are in a relationship

@@katarinachiogna-solovey3560Perfectly said!

@@katarinachiogna-solovey3560 ✌️

But trying to separate gender and sexuality ignores the intersectionality of those identities in all people. The question wasn't about "gayness" and "lesbianess" in a vaccuum; it was about "gay men" and "lesbian women." Gay men are going to experience the privelige that men in general share in society, just because that privelige doesn't come exclusively from their gayness, doesn't mean it's not a privelige. Obviously, the opposite is also true. As men, their gender identity is more strictly policed (what they can wear, do, like, etc. without being harassed), something women (thanks to the feminist movement) may not experience as much.

@@evanli8813 As someone who presented as a gay man for most of my life, this is just blatantly untrue. I've observed time and time again straight men descrediting gay men in comparison to lesbians for one simple reason: misogyny. We live in a society fundamentally grounded in the idea that masculinity rules, while femininity should be subservient to it. A gay man will be inherently seen as "failing their natural calling", especially the more feminine they are. I wasn't praised for my amabness, it outright denounced any femininity I embodied and made me a bigger target than my girl peers (both straight and lesbians) who had more leeway to explore their own gender expression and masculinity. Straying away from masculinity is inherently seen as worse than the opposite, no matter how you try to put it. A cis woman will certainly suffer bigotry in a way a gay man wouldn't, but, from personal experience, any privilege the latter will enjoy will come from being outright rejected by the patriarchy (which is quickly nullified by the unique and heightened bigotry they suffer), not being embraced by it. Unless an assimilationist, their privilege will come from the same place of their bigotry. I'm not just pulling this from my own personal experience, in fact: just Google about it and you'll find various studies indicating the higher amounts of lesbian acceptance around the world in relation to gay men acceptance. This is reflected by how you'll much more often find instances of nuanced representation of lesbians in media than gay men (who will either take the form of femenine parodies or white assimilationist narratives, both usually written by cishet people). Now, this of course shouldn't ignore how part of this acceptance comes from gross fetishization (which also has a gigantic footprint in lesbian rep). This isn't much more desirable than being outright villainized for your queerness like most gay men are - which just goes to show how complex positionality is.

Thank you. Their comments really p*ssed me off.

​@@20000dino What part of what I said was blatantly untrue? Your entire comment was basically a rehash of my last sentence - "Obviously, the opposite is also true. As men, their gender identity is more strictly policed (what they can wear, do, like, etc. without being harassed), something women (thanks to the feminist movement) may not experience as much." I'm not interested in oppression Olympics - especially not against people who are so closely allied with mine. My entire point was that trying to separate gender and sexuality when considering privilege was myopic because of how refracted and multifaceted oppression is. "This is reflected by how you'll much more often find instances of nuanced representation of lesbians in media than gay men." This is not true. The study I (assume) you're referencing pretty explicitly proves that it's correlated with gender norms.

​@@20000dino It's wild for you to argue that any man suffers more from "hatred or prejudice against women" than a woman. This only makes sense if you're equating gay men to trans women, which they're not. What is it with men making the most absurd arguments to twist themselves into victims specifically over women🤦‍♀️

I think it was the kinsey scale that showed most people are at least a bit fluid in terms of their sexuality in terms of attraction not necessarily behaviour, but that's most people not all, also statistically women are far more sexually fluid then men, there are more bisexual women then gay men and lesbians put together but far more gay men then lesbians. On the whole overall statistically men seem to be more fixed I their sexuality and women seem more fluid. That's widely accepted but people don't know why that is although it seems to be a fact

@@Alice-ot5hc I totally agree. I always felt that I was a Kinsey 6. It's certainly my experience in the community over many years that women are much more sexually fluid than men as well. Of course, that doesn't mean that there aren't fluid men or non-fluid women out there!

BEING GAY IS A CHOICE

@@Alice-ot5hc To be honest the ratio regarding "sexual fluidity" in women vs men must be completely biased by the fact that men are way more homophobic than women are and will be deep in the closet and denial regarding their own same-sex attraction. If we were a less homophobic society there would be for sure way more bisexual men than what we see nowadays, most coming from the men who are currently identifying as straight.

@@Alice-ot5hc I wonder if that singular attraction more prevalent in men and that more fluid attraction in woman is not simply the result of a general type of focus and preference men and woman typically have in life (or at least on average). It's often men that have 1 interest that they care much more about than anything else and sacrifice anything else for it, whereas women typically seem to have a more divided/balanced interest and focus on multiple things and multiple people. It would also be consistent with the tendency for women to multitask and do everything (a bit) at the same time, whereas men tend to focus fully on 1 thing and not the other things at all. It could be a leftover consequence of evolution where both groups often enough did different type of tasks which required a different type of focus.

THANK YOU. Immediately mentally clocked out after the first question my god. And then the answers oh god

What are some topics / prompts you’d be interested to see?

@kevinolomon4587 Answer their question

Would u rather have 2 moms or 2 dads? >>> For real? WHO came here looking for an answer to that question? THAT’s when I hadda bail.

@@BrianTerada Thanks, Brian- someone else asked too... A dozen possible interesting/helpful topics to put before a panel of folks like us? 1.) maneuvering family differences/extremes as shared breaking of bread at table & holiday gathering season approaches. 2.) strategizing the minefields of peer disapproval when we date people outside the norm of expected sizes/races/skintones/languages/faiths/economic statuses. 3.) unique challenges for LGTBQ’s sorting thru hospital visits and inheritance challenges when a partner or parent/in-law is terminally ill. 4.) choosing LGBTQ+ businesses over non-LGBTQ+ businesses. 5.) the minefield of adoption challenges, 1st day of school and parent-teacher conferences as LGBTQ+ parents, and for kids who are students w/LGBTQ+ parents. 6. LGBTQ+ positions on product/company boycotts. 7.) personal/couples/family budgeting/division of expenses unique to we that are non-traditional/not m/f. 8.) support of the “T” in LGBT and the new rising conflict & controversy of trans acceptance within our own. 9.) similar/some parallels to #8 our LGBTQ history of embracing/not bracing Drag. 10.) managing relationships w/partners for whom addiction/treatment/recovery are part of our history. 11.) work Christmas parties and LGBT couples. 12.) LGBTQ’s and our sometimes unique & extra-strong bonds w/our pets/cats/dogs.

"That's hot" is not a positive thing, it is part of the rampant sexualisation of lesbians. Just want to put this out there for any other gay women. It's one of many instances of being sexualised, which leads to a whole lot of sexual harassment and even assault. For some men we are only porn, and it shows.

I'm sorry, what? As a lesbian person, I am a person who consumes a lot of content for reading, and I opt for lesbian content, because it is my sexuality and I don't feel comfortable with content aimed at a male audience. On the website I use to read manga, there are at least 1000 gay manga, and a maximum of 100 lesbian ones, I know thousands of people who consume gay content, and a maximum of 10 who read lesbian content. In movies, I never see a lesbian movie, for example, at the top of Netflix. I never see a lesbian book on Wattpad top 10, only straight and gay ones. In Brazil, young men have what they call "brotheragem", which is some kind of sexual things between men, which is a joke among them, but I never see ANY woman having the courage to expose their sexuality. Different society, different reality. In this video question, I strongly agree

@@NaoEstouChapado Saying that sexualization equals acceptance is wild. You need to stop reading manga for a bit and go see the real world. Firstly, think what is more dangerous - two girls holding hands (or kissing) in public or two guys doing the same. Probably it will give you a clue.

@@NaoEstouChapado I think it just depends what content u consume, I also read manga and personally in other media as well I've seen more lesbian couples than gay ones.

I do agree with you there ❤

I agree. Most of the boys I knew in high school claimed they were not homophobic but felt the need to add that they would not be friends with gay men annd would not interact with them beyond small acknowledgment.

Exactlyy what i thought too!

I was so shocked they all agreed. There are countries in the world were only male homosexuality is punished whereas female homosexuality is not. In my experience, lesbian couples can just exist and nobody cares while gay couple raise a visceral disgust from people. Two women kissing? Ok. Two men kissing? Gross, and it needs to be hidden, or punished, or erased.

lesbians get fetishesed so much that they are not accepted for being real couples we are just tied down to sex and at the end of the day gay men are still men

Same gurl!

It's to be bisexual too tho

reaaaal . I'd do genuinely anything to un-come-out and live as a straight dude

BEING GAY IS A CHOICE

@@nectaroftheswans Are you a woman? I am curious why specificly a straight dude?

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Me too😭

Not me! I’m proud to be lesbian! I would never change a thing about me! Sorry if you feel this way though.

In Germany, it feels the complete opposite too.

Pretty sure that's Kayes Hurricane

he looks a lot like avan jogia

I think if you inform yourself and do your research, you will do great ! Plus if you have female close friends you can ask them to talk with your daughter if she has specific questions and need someone who can relate to what her body is experiencing. I think that the fact that you are asking you this question is very encouraging and showing that you will be able to handle the situation very well. Don't forget that a lot of straight parents don't know much about the female body or think it's a taboo and end up having girls very uneducated about how their body function.

@@jeannedarc8580 This is both helpful and wholesome, thank you :D

@@djinni2005 I truly believe in you being a good parent in the future :)

@@jeannedarc8580 I'll never be able to explain how well timed this was, but just know I really needed some encouragement just now.

Yes I thought about that a lot

Yeah I wish I was straight everyday. I was surprised that nobody wished that, when I’ve said that people say “ Why do you hate yourself?” And I don’t hate myself, but honestly it hasn’t been an easy road to go down, and why would I want a more difficult life in any aspect? I definitely feel like it’s been more lonely than it would’ve been

That made my chest warm. Im a gay man and thats it.These people must not insult us. I only like guys naturally.

binaries still exists on a spectrum. it doesn't mean you can't be solely one or the other, it just means not everyone falls into the straight/gay binary

@@TheFlameBladeWielder It only belongs to Bisexual

@@user-ev9jr1ul3d please look up the definition of a spectrum. There are always ends to a spectrum. In this case, gay is one end and straight is the other. Saying "sexuality is a spectrum" doesn't mean there aren't people who are only gay or straight, it means there are people who fall in the middle. By acknowledging bisexuals exist, you are acknowledging that sexuality is a spectrum because they are neither solely gay or straight.

@@TheFlameBladeWielder Honestly Ideology is destroying sexsuality Look TQ+ you will know