Do This Before 2024 To Change Your Life. The Only Way To Quickly Make Progress In Life

Do This Before 2024 To Change Your Life. The Only Way To Quickly Make Progress In Life | Gabor Maté

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On Today's Episode:
Living your life with meaning and purpose can sound like wishful thinking. You want to know that you matter and that what you put your energy and effort into, whether it's work, relationships, or building something, that it also matters.
Gabor Mate is known for expertise on addiction, trauma, and childhood development. His recent book, The Myth of Normal, looks intently into Western culture and how far we actually are from living a meaningful and purposeful life. The trauma you experienced and the illness you suffer with are all connected, and tied to understanding who you really are, and what it will take to unlock life’s meaning for you.
This episode is a deep dive into the mind of Gabor Mate that you’ll want to take time to unpack to really explore your truth, what your experiences were and how they continue to show up in your life today.
QUOTES:
“What really lights my fire is truth. I just want to know the truth, whatever that is.” [7:59]
“There’s lots of facts out there, but truth is much larger than facts. It’s integrating the facts in a picture of reality.” [13:17]
“A life without truth is not a meaningful life.” [17:59]
“Emotions are not separable from our physiology. The nervous system and immune system, [...] they’re all one apparatus. When something happens in one area something happens in the other area as well.” [51:10
“Our thoughts are in the lead, so whatever our thoughts tell us is the reality that we see, so essentially with our minds we create the world.” [1:08:39]
“In this culture the norm is neither healthy nor is it natural, in fact, the norm is making us sick.” [1:55:23]
“Giving and receiving and connection are values and people gain wealth by giving not by gathering and taking from others.” [2:21:06]
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@TomBilyeu Жыл бұрын

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

@TheRealThornRosa Жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@elainemora-garcia1144 Жыл бұрын

@@TheRealThornRosa the 00pp0p

@elainemora-garcia1144 Жыл бұрын

Seven shockers

@maylynnchartrand5716 Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's kinda confusing at first glance - there are a few with your picture ...

@cheri238 Жыл бұрын

Thank you again 💓 💖

@PatriciaGodboutArt Жыл бұрын

I sent Gabor a long email several years ago, to my amazement he replied within 24 hours. It meant so much, he is an amazing human. I was a nobody, A 53 year old junkie. He was so kind. I am now free of heroin, have been for almost 25 years.. god bless him

@Peem_pom Жыл бұрын

Wow

@adimeter Жыл бұрын

Wow! That is beautiful to know. He is just what he seems t be. And that is comforting. Thank you for sharing this bit of info.

@RosieOs101 Жыл бұрын

He is a beautiful human! God bless him and you too! ❤

@adeleelzinga Жыл бұрын

Wow congratulations on beating drugs that’s phenomenal 🙌🏻🙌🏻

@kimanderson5544 Жыл бұрын

Patricia, good for you!

@charlesharrison3207 Жыл бұрын

Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe.You're strong. You got this . Take it day by day.

@fondalinney3238 Жыл бұрын

I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety because of university. Dr.healingstrain is life saver. Thank you

@dr.karidouglas1312 Жыл бұрын

Where to search?? Is it IG??

@marycorkbushman5419 Жыл бұрын

I also highly recommend them! I've been using their mushrooms for a while now and I've noticed a significant improvement in my mood and anxiety levels. It's been a lifesaver for me.

@taniabadiyi3879 Жыл бұрын

@@marycorkbushman5419 when you say “ them” who? Whom are you recommending? I’m new to the use of mushrooms and am very interested to try.

@taniabadiyi3879 Жыл бұрын

@Hunan Train tell me more about Dr Healingstrain please

@ktorpie Жыл бұрын

5 minutes into the interview, Gabor asked a question that is exactly the question I was confronted with years ago when a drunk driver completely upended my fiercely independent, adventurous lifestyle. In a single unanticipated moment, my body, my face, and my brain were seriously damaged. But my spirit survived! After 3 weeks on life support in ICU, and 4 months in a hospital bed, I returned home alone unable to walk without a walker. Every bone in my facial skeleton was shattered. I didn't look like me, didn't think like me, and couldn't do any of the things I once did. I had no idea who I was any more. I survived, but what for? Ironically, it was on that journey that I discovered who I was beyond any of the qualities that I had always based my identity on. My journalling became a book (Losing Face; A Memoir of Lost Identity and Self Discovery) and the book led to years of speaking at major Healthcare conferences around the world about the patient journey and the interconnectedness of the patient experience and the clinician experience. Now I will continue with this video and see how Gabor and Tom answer that question. Thank you both!

@dianegordon5366 Жыл бұрын

So sorry Kathy. Life can throw us some curve balls.

@timweberHB Жыл бұрын

What was the question?

@ktorpie Жыл бұрын

@@timweberHB That would be best understood if you listen to the video from 4:30 minutes to 5:20 minutes (even better to listen to the whole thing!)

@Kelseashell Жыл бұрын

I love how you transcended your pain into purpose and passion 💜 good for you, Kathy

@murielodette2995 Жыл бұрын

@@dianegordon5366 curve cannons,,,!!!!

@annthhallaaa5819 11 ай бұрын

I once had a spiritual experience I will never forget. I was grieving the loss of my father and I didn’t eat, hardly drank and slept very poorly. I was sitting by the kitchen table for hours with my grief when I suddenly thought: “ If I were to feel even worse than this, I feel like I would cease to exist.” After this thought, absolutely all matter and all space in between the matter turned into love. Every cell in my body was love. Everything flooded in love and I said out loud: “ Wow!” My sudden harmony multiplied with a million and it was not a feeling, it was a state of being. I have always thought that I will meet my father again in the form of soul. It was a true blessing, I wish anyone who suffers will experience.

@taz12184 7 ай бұрын

Wow

@tmstani23 7 ай бұрын

Grief is beautiful. It shows how much you loved that person. It is a reflection of your divine spirit.

@alignmentnumerology3239 6 ай бұрын

What a beautiful 😍 share 😍 thank you! My step father passed last Aug 13, 2022. Still dealing with his estate and the grief that struck my younger sister is much different than the grief I experience. 😔

@LakeWebb 3 ай бұрын

Sent my hairs on end! 🌜💝🌛

@tinacatalina1244 Жыл бұрын

Tom, this is the best interview I've seen with Dr. Mate. He was my physician for 18 years in Vancouver. He is so insightful and kind, hasn't changed a bit. Thank you Dr Mate for all you do.

@theoriginal7727 Жыл бұрын

It's really such a beautiful, different, humanizing take he brings and encourages us to all have on one another - to see the reality beneath the actions or behaviors! #TeamHuman #WeDoRecover

@linamarie84 10 ай бұрын

You're lucky

@user-os4xi3nc7l Ай бұрын

You are so lucky. I wish I can talk to him. I am going through such horrible situations. I'm suffering so much from anxiety.! and I didn't bring this to myself! My family and friends rejected me because of my way of thinking! I thought I had the right to think for myself! But they hated me for that! and I've been rejected suffering almost 4 years alone with no one to give me comfort! And I think I have! I don't think I know I have ADHD! Because as a child, I could never learn! and I tried so hard to excel! But to no avail, I could not learn! It was terrible so terrible for me! Because now that I have injuries solving my body! I could have worked from home and a computer! But I don't even understand the computer nothing like that I have a blockage in my brain! Thank you, and God bless you!

@JackieDaughter-uk3ef Жыл бұрын

I am a continuous care hospice nurse. I am at the bedside of the actively dying patient on my 12 hour shift. To hear Dr. Gabor speak on palliative care is truly a blessing. Thank you for your compassion and work.

@omnialive 7 ай бұрын

Such a beautiful blessing you are. I’m sure it can take its toll. Hopefully you also take care of yourself. Curious if you’ve heard of the beautiful works of Graceful Passages (more for patients and their family) or Care For The Journey (for healthcare providers mental and emotional health) by Gary Malkin and Michael Stillwater?

@florence1395 6 ай бұрын

Thank you ♥️ for your kind care & service ❤️‍🩹

@JamesHadfield-qz9rv 13 күн бұрын

BLESS YOU! this world needs more of you. please get pregnant

@Armus187 Жыл бұрын

Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.

@jorgparker2463 Жыл бұрын

Psychedelics saved me from vears of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.

@JamesTaylor-ff4dp Жыл бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@zarkos2313 Жыл бұрын

Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.

@carsonelias4594 Жыл бұрын

bergwilly11 is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.

@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper 11 ай бұрын

@@Elizabeth-gu8hxI'm in Ohio too

@amandatanbal8252 Жыл бұрын

Realization...In childhood, I did not learn self-regulation. I was treated as property and was expected to take care of the needs and emotions of my parents. I had no dreams, thoughts, or happiness for myself. My world was extrinsically motivated. I wanted my parent's love and acceptance at any price. I did not know how to think or choose. I just kept trying to figure out how to keep my parents happy so they would love me. This is a recipe for an empty adult. I can choose now. I can learn how to self-regulate now. I can heal now.

@richardcrocker8048 Ай бұрын

More common than you know

@stevenpeck3784 11 ай бұрын

My god Its 1am here in Australia and Im going through the strangest time of my life. Im 58 yrs old male am going through a life changing experience when I thought there was no way out. I was listening to Rich Roll then was searching and stumbled across this interview. I cant stop crying. My father was killed in a mining accident when I was 14 ,Ive always felt alone. Thankyou both so much, Ill listen to this every night when everyone is asleep. I now hopefully can be a good father to my children that have suffered and are in a similar pattern to my life. I feel blessed

@nataliepower7464 9 ай бұрын

So sorry to read that you lost your Dad at such a young age. Remember that you are a part of your Dad (and Mum of course) ...take a look in the mirror, and you will see that you are never alone ❤

@rebeccanew9 7 ай бұрын

I hope you are well and continuing to heal on your journey in truth.

@gearoidinfitzgerald2929 7 ай бұрын

So wish i had read something like gabor mates book in my 30s and would have felt part of the world. Doing inner work of all types since mid 30s.now 69..some stuff 2 deep. Society doesnt want to talk about. Too late for me now. My life over. Burned out from groups therapy regression shit. Cbt you name it. Financially drained. Finally a beautiful soul holding my hand. I was and felt alone and isolated all my life despite being liked and loved. Im still trying to face a pain that wanted me dead to myself. But thank you gabor for total ok on addictions. Metaphorically of course. Always knew it took many forms. And to lift the lid takes courage strength balls and most important a connection for me the greatest healer of all. Beyond my meagre existence. Courage strength and major balls to trust in something we humans canot see hear feel or touch... Havent got what I really wanted in life and tried so so hard knowing I was deepl wounded. We all truly deep down want to make a difference. "Who am I" changes all the way in lifes journey.. Thanks for reading.

@billfarley9167 Жыл бұрын

Gabor is beyond amazing. His patience in dealing with this guy is beyond belief. Tom is so in his head and constantly looking for solutions in neatly wrapped packages. You need to relax dude.

@middleofnowhere1313 7 ай бұрын

That's how the modern man is raised to be. As he ages this will probably fade away.

@garyg6000 5 ай бұрын

@billfarley9167 My thoughts exactly.

@EmilyHartley25989 3 ай бұрын

Watched this on KZfaq TV. Came here to see if anyone had this opinion or if it was just me.

@hollywoodwear123 2 ай бұрын

You are so on point! I was just stunned by the responses and the questions from the host, emotionally immature is an understatement!

@aridivina Жыл бұрын

What a contrast. Gabor Maté’s free flowing wisdom and truth and Tom Bilyeu’s transactional thirst for information.

@crjoymanifesting Жыл бұрын

Yes! Well said. It was like mining for gold!

@lydialove382 Жыл бұрын

What is ALS?

@spicylime7533 Жыл бұрын

This!!!

@lydialove382 Жыл бұрын

@@spicylime7533 not helpful

@dancallawaystudio Жыл бұрын

Yep -- "let's not confuse truth with information." My experience of this too

@aylen3322 Жыл бұрын

I love that he’s doing this interview in his regular house with disheveled books in the background. Thanks for staying human Gabor….. not letting the limelight steal your humbleness:)

@michellemaxner8638 Жыл бұрын

Agreed. Everything about Gabor is so uniquely genuine, purposeful, deeply insightful & flat out cool. His voice alone mesmerizes me ❤

@jim-se5xc 9 ай бұрын

Dr. Gabor is one of the few adult presenters who's screen backdrop doesn't include shelves filled with kid's toys.

@karenclair5004 Жыл бұрын

I did not hit my kids or use time out. I listened and honored their thoughts and emotions with a firm hand but loving understanding. They listened to my NOs bc I didn't say them unless absolutely necessary. My kids r more creative than I could have dreamed. All grown up. Dr. Mate is right.

@moralebooster8437 11 ай бұрын

Thank you 💜

@marykinsella417 7 ай бұрын

That's beautiful , this so informitive thank you both so much❤

@user-xw1eq6fu2t 6 ай бұрын

Would you please define “firm hand” when a toddler has temper tantrums. I need some practical applications, please, as a grandmother. Thank you for your kind response.❤

@rabbitcreative 3 ай бұрын

> firm hand High-level-abstraction hiding what specific behaviors?

@stayfocused1041 10 ай бұрын

I started to watch this video as I am a great admirer of Dr Gabor Mate. I could not go to the end, as the host is so full of himself, a perfect illustration of too many people of his generation: I, ME and MYSELF. Probably a nice person, but soooooooooooo much work to do. Keep on!

@gxlorp 2 күн бұрын

You wouldn't like the host of Koncrete podcats. The epitome of that kind of ethos. He's tries to replicate what _he thinks,_ people think, is cool about the Joe Rogan show... Your point about it being a generational thing is erroneous and divisive though. Do you want the steortype about older generations being mean, stuck up Karens? No, both stereotypes are dumb. People are both awesome and shitty of all generations. And culture, technology and world is changing so fast it doesn't even make sense to divide people into generations. The idea of generations being real is used to make younger generations stupider, narrow and short sighted. There is a sub reddit called "zillenials" for people born from vaguely 1993 to 2000- something. It's really dumb. They think millenials remeber and are impacted by 911. I was born in 1991. I have more in common with you misses "2001" that I do with 1981. Smh. There's a post on there called "what generation z thinks of Elon musk" and it's very cultish. It's designed to tell them what to think

@mysticgardener2704 Жыл бұрын

This is so healing. I’m in my 60s and wish we had this knowledge when I was young so I didn’t stay trapped in my childhood trauma all these years. Every day is an opportunity to heal and podcasts like this steer me in the right direction. Love to Gabor❤ thanks Tom for having him on.

@benjamindsouza6736 Жыл бұрын

I'm nearly sixty & I could say all of what you said about myself! But, like the saying goes, 'better late than never'!! 😍

@HansenFT Жыл бұрын

@Benjamin D'souza remember Gabor only diagnosed himself with ADD in his 50's, if I remember correctly. And I believe he then wrote his first book wile on a stimulant medication. So he wasn't exactly a spring chicken when he started healing and when he started the current phase of his career.

@ia1530 Жыл бұрын

@@HansenFTExcellent point in many ways. I was going to say something similar, but your statement struck me as more elegant and well conveyed.

@maremaid15 Жыл бұрын

Same here. Thanks for saying that. Childhood trauma ugh

@HansenFT Жыл бұрын

@@ia1530 thank you for those kind words, brother!

@saarland2china Жыл бұрын

*There are two great days in a person's life - the day we are born and the day we discover why* ❤

@byronsoul1 Жыл бұрын

Mark Twain

@saarland2china Жыл бұрын

@@byronsoul1 William Barclay, lol

@Andrew-hb2cs Жыл бұрын

Your birthday and the day when you understood the biology of creation. Not sure about the significance of the latter.

@sukran96 Жыл бұрын

I cannot agree more ❤

@scottv8124 6 ай бұрын

There is no reason were born. We just are. Their is no purpose, it just is

@SanctifiedLady Жыл бұрын

I’m a black female and I was stressed in the womb all the way till this day…52yo. single, single parent, as result of this toxic system…and there’s not a lot of hope. There’s faith…there’s obedience…gratitude for all I have accomplished, there’s deep sadness for having an estranged son, my only child there’s belief in Jesus. Amen. ✝️🙏🏽💜

@lorimiller4301 Жыл бұрын

Do you watch Sloan Bella ? She's in the same boat. Tough married that's ended, her 24 year old son may have killed on his motorcycle, barely sees the other son because of parental alienation. She keeps going, keeps running, is still a firecracker. She's bright and funny too. I guess I really like her. She helps me feel better. I just found Soul Crossings with Cash Peters and that's a new a different view on things. He draws what he sees as stick figures and what they go through as they pass from one life to the next. The JeffMara Podcast is terrific if you want to hear people recount their near death experiences. Alba Weinman does past life regression on a whole new level and Psychic Reverend Donna Seraphina is one of the best out their. She wrote about her story Motherhood to Mediumship. She lost her only daughter and found her spirit on the Otherside. Channeling Erik is another mother in the same place. I hope you find peace whether your relationship improves or not. You are still a good and valuable person. We all are. We've got to be our own best friend and work on the relationship between us and our higher self. 🫂✌️❤️🙂

@elizabethalexander6528 Жыл бұрын

I am white 61 year old and beleive we are here to love one another. I oray for goodness and healing for you and your loved ones.

@MrDiamondp Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing

@elizabethalexander6528 Жыл бұрын

Find a support group and look until you find one you like. Our world is spiritually sick and it will take a spiritual remedy.

@elizabethalexander6528 Жыл бұрын

Unless your son has died- there is always hope. I lost my oldest to a massive hert attack suddenly 5 years ago- Ithought itwould be the end but I crawled thru very dark times. You are important enough to fight for reasonable happiess.

@nedsantos1415 11 ай бұрын

Every day, I find myself on the way home. Every day, I'm a bit closer to home. Where is home? It is what and who I truly am. May we all arrive home before this journey on earth ends.

@LakeWebb 3 ай бұрын

Home is where one feels residence. House is what many can reside.

@familymemoriesareforever5035 10 ай бұрын

This is so HARD to listen to because Tom, it feels like you don't know how to "listen". When the answer is being given to you (and us), you interrupt, speak fast, go off the beaten path and don't just ...,listen. Less is more ❤️

@cl4241 5 ай бұрын

I felt the same way. Tom's trying to insert some mini debates about something he doesn't see eye to eye with Dr. Gabor Mate, which is fine but Tom isn't even hearing him. I think it's his low cognition or his mind is too full of his own thoughts.

@YashoShasho Жыл бұрын

“Nobody is who they think they are. They are beyond that.” Well said. It is liberating to not have so much internal resistance and to expand as we age.

@susanrobertson984 10 ай бұрын

Am working so hard at not being the self critic who says I cannot do a Thing and just go after it anyway. Someone else can say no but I try so hard not to.

@whatablissfullife Жыл бұрын

Viktor Frankl said “Happiness is not to be pursued, happiness ensues”

@ccselva Жыл бұрын

This hit me at the right time, thank you

@jaanarajahalme7045 Жыл бұрын

Gabor's questions are so profound. I was also thinking the same question when Tom talked about working hard. 26 years ago I received a diagnoses of a rare and uncurable disease, and was given max 7 years to live. I decided to not let that be my death sentence. I turned everything around, thinking what is it I can do. Now 26 years later I am a holistic healer, a yoga teacher and a coach for spiritual change. We just need to change our perspective. Btw all my doctors think I'm a miracle. I believe this was exactly how it was meant to happen. We come here with a script, it is up to us what we make out of it.

@alimay967 Жыл бұрын

What do you mean by a “script”?

@jaanarajahalme7045 Жыл бұрын

Ali May; many believe that we as souls make a plan of the things we need to learn in this life before we incarnate to earth. So, we are born with à "knowing" of our soul how to live our life so we will be able to learn these lessons. We are also born with free will, so it is up to us what choices we make i.e. how we live our lives. This is the short version. If you are interested in knowing more there are books written about all this.

@alimay967 Жыл бұрын

@@jaanarajahalme7045 Thank you 🙏

@jojoco6737 Жыл бұрын

I’m 54 yo and I want to be holistic and spiritual healer. Where and how do I start?

@samarareis8899 10 ай бұрын

Hi! Do you have a page about your practice? Can I have your email?

@nsade5715 4 ай бұрын

Gabor's response to Tom's question was uncanny! It really highlights his depth of understanding. Watching Tom's interviews over the years has been amazing... He has so much knowledge, but someone like Gabor demonstrates that having awareness is different. These interviews are truly priceless and rare!

@richardcrocker8048 Ай бұрын

In the same way insight and wisdom are not part of/different than knowledge/thought

@LeoMoon_Goddess Жыл бұрын

"Life without Truth is not a meaningful life." ~Gabor Mate

@missframboise7292 Жыл бұрын

what is Truth ?

@elizabethbesidas 11 ай бұрын

That’s up to what you think it’s the truth

@yemi3387 6 ай бұрын

Truth is Life .... Otitonaiye

@yemi3387 6 ай бұрын

Otitonaiye

@HeartFeltGesture Жыл бұрын

My mother is a covert narcissist. She made me the scapegoat from birth. I made the assumption that there was something wrong with me at a young age, not consciously, but it is obvious to me now that I did this, rather than rebel against the f*cken jerks that were my parents. As Gabor suggests, it is a matter of survival for the abused / neglected child, it is better to have some small connection to your abuser than none at all, because the horror scenario of total abandonment is too much to bare. So the child does everything in its power with hyper-vigilance to not be a burden to the selfish, loveless, narcissist parent, and they learn to do pleasing things that make the parent feel good and look good to others, they receive crumbs of validation for this performance, but nothing like what could be called love.

@themysticnavigator 6 ай бұрын

I do hope you have found some peace in yourself❤

@HeartFeltGesture 6 ай бұрын

@@themysticnavigator Thanks, getting there...

@niloochitsaz8108 Жыл бұрын

Dr Gabor is one of the most authentic and wisest people I have ever seen

@badhabit714 Жыл бұрын

Where did you see him?

@niloochitsaz8108 Жыл бұрын

@@badhabit714 in an event but I know him for a while

@JamesHadfield-qz9rv 13 күн бұрын

for me he's not one of, he is the Most REAL

@jeastwood2737 Жыл бұрын

My parents always explained things and talked to us...They never reacted with anger and said cruel things to "put us in our place,", either... When they wante the TRUTH they didn't punish us afterward... They told us "never to do that again," and why for instance they needed to trust us as we needed to trust them for us all to be safe... and they started this when we were very small and respected us as people, not "mere children"... They ALWAYS took time in a day to TALK with us... especially at bedtime I thought I woud just offer that for suggestions to others

@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper 11 ай бұрын

What wonderful parenting. I need to learn about that.

@jactac838 9 ай бұрын

That's how my grandparents raised my Dad, I thought it was Wonderful.

@maddyharvey7414 Жыл бұрын

Gabor just strikes me as an incredibly enlightened, intelligent and humble man. His work is fundamentally focused on compassion for those who suffer, and the truth of what makes us feel purpose.

@michaelwagner8859 Жыл бұрын

I believe Gabor Mate's message is truly profound and has the potential to actually save lives...the world needs more of dialogs like this.

@Mika-El- Жыл бұрын

I think it is safe to say that one prominent keywords towards a true human upgrading are MERCY and LISTENING rather than conquering, mastering and controling.

@roo7692 Жыл бұрын

His voice and presence itself is so deep n healing ❤

@sarahbrown1398 Жыл бұрын

I grew up with a patient grandfather, his love guided me. He never had to be angry nor raise his voice to set boundaries. Incredible example of humanity linked to a child is what I experienced and I'm grateful for. I've watched others who scream and yell like a bully at children, I've also watched women get angry at a small child who cries with frustration. Parenting is no longer instinctual, there is such mayhem and there are so many parents who were traumatized themselves. Too many of us take so called expert advice from numskulls. The masses are held with contempt and are viewed as totally ignorant and need instruction on everything.

@anaclark5751 Жыл бұрын

Look at you…wise one. I am also bringing up my grandchild. Thank you Grandfather. Another little soul rescued. You turned out beautiful. Good on you both.

@Jay-rv4ee Жыл бұрын

Am I the only one who feels Dr. Gabor Mate is Bodhisatva, an avatar who has come to alleviate the suffering of so many of us in this extremely materialistic and capitalistic world, through his own experiences and wisdom? I am so fortunate to listen to him, sitting so many thousands of miles in the physical distance from him, yet feeling that he's speaking to me. 😭😇

@lenas5613 Жыл бұрын

I'm afraid I've gone into that state of defensive isolation... worsened by the pandemic.Thank your Gabor Maté for your guidance.

@lisitribble Жыл бұрын

“The human is an expectation of (loving, nurturing, playful) attachment in the same way lungs are an expectation of oxygen.” You two are a gold mine and your engaged, intimate and undefended conversation is an antidote to what you identify as often missing in today’s society. What a gift this talk is; what a wide range of knowing.

@renatabaume3584 Жыл бұрын

somehow every conversation with Gabor Maté is showing how naive and sometime superficial but also willing to learnTom Bilyeu is

@pedroh.g.9865 Жыл бұрын

Listening to Gabor is meaningful, teaching and inspiring, so glad that his work is reaching people ❤

@cheri238 Жыл бұрын

I agree 💯

@leezaroufeh1912 Жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌

@cheri238 Жыл бұрын

Happy New Year 2023 to all.💖

@SouLightness Жыл бұрын

Parkinsons has brought the question of meaning and purpose to my life. I dont have a close knit family or network. I keep questioning myself in this respect. ❤

@pamelacanellas Жыл бұрын

Last night , right before I fell asleep crying , I looked out the window and the words “North Star “ were on my mind .. not knowing that today I would stumble across this amazing video ! Thank you ❤❤❤

@jelujelu5774 Жыл бұрын

Gabor is a role model to progress in humanity ❤

@amarajeanine3976 Жыл бұрын

I have never heard such honesty and human connection we all share. How to live and how to die. Motivation in us all❤

@charmee4045 Жыл бұрын

I hope you live to be 100 Gabor.......we need you in the world.

@suzanneperlmutter6031 Жыл бұрын

I love how he says "go where you're loved"! I am the happiest person alive today! I am where I am appreciated, loved, and acknowledged for who I am. So thankful, to all the really mean-spirited people who brought me to the realization, that I needed to change --and today--WOW! I am so happy!

@annadonahue4119 5 ай бұрын

That is so good to hear!!! Good stuff!

@denise2169 11 ай бұрын

I was with my mother when she took her last breath. She had been ready and did not fear it. It was an incredibly beautiful moment and it was a privilege to have been there with her. She is still with me. Thank you Dr Maté, for your compassion. Your words over the past years have given me a path to find my own truth out the loneliness in my life.

@TheWisdomOfTheAges_PsyM_Revd Жыл бұрын

40:52 "that's the worst of us that gets nourished and the best of us that gets suppressed". This rings very true to me.

@vikjoe Жыл бұрын

Amusing 00.43 Dr Gabor says in all humility " it puts me in a position where I am some kind of expert..." and in response to his question, TB goes on a tautology about his north star. The difference between listening to understand (GM) and listening to respond (TB).

@spicylime7533 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely lol

@jaanarajahalme7045 Жыл бұрын

OMG Tom, with all kindness if you just listen to your ad in the middle, and then compare it with the wisdom of Gabor.. two different worlds!!

@jaanarajahalme7045 Жыл бұрын

I have listened to Gabor à lot. He has profound insight, imo a mystical approach to life itself and our role and mission as souls in a human body on this earth. Also what is our calling in this lifetime. These questions don't imo go with the "american" way of thinking about these topics; why we are here, what should we be doing with our lives etc. More of this and that is not always better. Namaste 🙏

@spicylime7533 Жыл бұрын

Totally!!!!

@shiningstar5919 Жыл бұрын

Precisely

@clgray2470 Жыл бұрын

Yesterday I spoke to a friend of mine and I told her that I am tired my spirit is tired I am 52 a mother of three estranged all children I am living with addictions. I am First Nations, Dealt with sexual and physical abuse from the time I was a child who I was married 20 years dealing with an abusive sometimes living a lot of the times but emotionally abusive and then physically.I have a background in traditional healing Reiki and reflexology. I have been a addictions and family violence coordinator within my community for 20 years. I have all the tools and the knowledge to help community and I have not applied any of my knowledge to myself. And I just feel I don’t want to be here anymore. Quarter of the way through this videoI’m really hoping that or maybe not I don’t know maybe I’ll find something to give me some kind of purpose

@ROSE-mq3qd Жыл бұрын

The anecdote Dr Mate shared about the terminally ill man eating shark cartilage - ‘you don’t need to pretend anymore’ is deeply moving - how much of our lives are totally fake / pretend? How often are we manipulated? Lost and confused? Seeking authenticity in ourselves we do need community too 🌟 This conversation is so full of true real love bearing wisdom and Dr Mate reminds me of a true elder, a wise voice we so need more of in our world, someone who wants nothing from us, a lone star simply sharing their insights that might help, may even help calm us, and above all remind us of our own humanity to ourselves 🫶 and to all 🙏

@bunnylopez1808 Жыл бұрын

Dr. Gabor Mate is truth. Incredible soul. Thank you Mr. Bilyeu, I hope you know the impact you and Lisa are making with the content you both put out🪞☮

@segoiii Жыл бұрын

he doesn´t have a soul. You can see it in his dark, empty eyes.

@crjoymanifesting Жыл бұрын

That man is 77! I would never imagine that. How youthful ❤ and that is just the simplest thing I can say about this gorgeous amazing session that BOTH of you incredibly contributed to. I kept thinking how I need to return to deep dialogue. It can inspire and fatigue simultaneously! I absolutely LOVED this and SO wanted to be in the room engaging with that pure energy and depth! Thank you 🙏 Totally my ride!

@madeleineqiex6327 Жыл бұрын

🫶🏻it truly is how amazing the Presence is a gift 🎁 Individual and Wondrous as each of us are in Every given moment… may your moments be blessed and safe to the last 🎉🫶🏻

@cheri238 Жыл бұрын

A blessing for all.

@flynnzilla8796 Жыл бұрын

Age means nothing…

@judywinters8615 Жыл бұрын

7 is only "old" due to a toxic culture...

@cheri238 Жыл бұрын

@Judy Winters Cultures, mmmm. Very interesting!!!! We can never rise above humans, exploration in being inquisitive. Happy 2023.😘

@jacobe5495 Жыл бұрын

Love love, Gabor Maté; he's an enlightened one.

@cheri238 Жыл бұрын

💖💯

@puranic1 Жыл бұрын

I am addicted to Gabor Maté 🤷🏻‍♀️

@hedywatrous188 Жыл бұрын

this interview would be so much better if the interviewer would not talk so much. Please please let the guest speak more. YOU have great guests...let them shine. You can shine on your own. all the best.

@shannonsayshi Жыл бұрын

When the student is ready, the teacher will arrive. Something like that. ;-) thank you

@maggiewatson8921 8 ай бұрын

Ooh, that part where Dr Gabor Mate tells Tom that your wife’s beauty doesn’t fade. Be still my heart! 💕✨

@HalfPastSleep Жыл бұрын

What a shame you talked more than Gabor did... I would have liked to hear more from Gabor.

@sianradford237 Жыл бұрын

Gabor Mate is a beacon of light for humanity.

@tiffsaver Жыл бұрын

I accidentally came upon this podcast very late last night, when I was just dozing off. Watching him speak was so intensely moving to me that I just had to write. This man is so wise in his words, so profound in his thoughts, that I was absolutely mesmerized. THANK YOU for having this amazing man on your show. It's a keeper.

@xandrit8160 Жыл бұрын

This man knows a lot , childhood trauma , repressing parents , unmet needs ….etc., I was one of those trying to be nice 😢,, never never angry., ( I thought)really really thought that ., then naturally came to the conclusion, I wanna make things right for me, what would a normal” person do with a unfair or disrespectful situation,,..

@albertcassler8763 Жыл бұрын

I've cured my depression by expressing gratitude and thankfulness and in the celebration of life.

@leahbeaumont950 Жыл бұрын

The people around us play an important role in our sense of well-being & prosperity. Choose wisely who you let in & keep a distance.

@judywinters8615 Жыл бұрын

"there is NO because" truth is its own value...( love this)

@08ranaiu Жыл бұрын

I read his book When the Body says no back in 2011; it’s exceptional and so enlightening; so thankful for all his work and his open mind regarding a holistic understanding of disease and wellness

@michaeladrian1667 Жыл бұрын

holistic is a dumb branding word. pathetic.

@iampaulwadsworth Жыл бұрын

Pretty sure I walked passed Gabor on the street yesterday in Vancouver. The universe is speaking

@mayam2479 Жыл бұрын

My Mommy passed from ALS April 25, 2022, at the age of 51. She suffered alot of childhood trauma, did everything for everyone and never asked for help. I hate how much of her life was spent suffering, despite working to make sure no one else suffered. Miss my Love so much 💔

@matios6013 4 ай бұрын

🙏😥🌻🌻🌻

@barbaraannscarlet7885 Жыл бұрын

We are blessed to have Gabor Mate amongst us.

@racquelmilan7765 Жыл бұрын

You learn till you die, even death is a lesson 😇

@elmapollard4238 Жыл бұрын

I share truth as top mission! No wonder I love Dr Gabor...I just need to understand what's going on...no matter how painful

@cristinacamero5289 Жыл бұрын

I watched this long video because Gabor usually has so much wisdom to offer. Too bad it may not be really understood, received or digested due to the dynamic frame of the host. But definitely the "infomercials" within the video are going totally the oposite way of what is being exposed, explained here. It is tragic, even comic!

@valtracey6180 Жыл бұрын

Totally agree! It’s a good example of a truly authentic human being communicating with pure EGO, one speaking from the heart, the other from the head - but there is much wisdom in the contrast revealed here. 👏🏻

@spicylime7533 Жыл бұрын

Agree. Here for gabor and it is almost comical how his wisdom is the opposite of what Tom is focused on!

@shiningstar5919 Жыл бұрын

Totally an oxymoron

@maylynnchartrand5716 Жыл бұрын

It takes an enormous effort to achieve this level of humility but it's really important. 👌 I am glad to have found you and your wife on my journey ❤️...

@ExtraPencil2 Жыл бұрын

Humility -- that's the quality that sings for me when this famed writer, psychologist, thinker, survivor (etc.) speaks. He never tries to exaggerate or make himself appear more important or, worse, perfect. He's such a gift to the world. Hard to imagine that moment when his mother had to hand him to a stranger. He has the same strength. Thank you for your open, humble session with him. I thought this channel was for a small group of Uber achievers, but this opened my little head .

@mariolanursecoachboardcert2460 4 ай бұрын

I love to hear him defending right to die with dignity. Every stage of life is honorable and holistically important. Authenticity is the kay. Beautiful work.

@laralukich 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Tom for hosting Dr.Mate. Appreciate these interviews so much!

@zt6309 Жыл бұрын

I can't get enough of you two wonderful, kind people. Every time I listen to Dr. Gabor, I feel happy and calm. I'm afraid that I have become addicted to his wonderful narratives. Thank you so much for opening my mind to know and learn a new world that I previously ignored. I appreciated the conversation, thank you.

@benjamindsouza6736 Жыл бұрын

......'addicted to his wonderful narratives'.....I think I am as well!! Good addiction! 😍

@dr.florence Жыл бұрын

me tooooo hahhaha! His voice and posture always calms me down! I've listened to like a gazillion shows with him but I still come back for more to get my Gabor relaxation fix hahaha

@karendalsadik7119 Жыл бұрын

Are they causing you pain or injury when you try to stop?

@samarareis8899 10 ай бұрын

You need to hear what he says about addiction. This won’t fit in that…

@alessandraalchemia3863 Жыл бұрын

“Truth is integrating the facts, in a picture of reality.” Wow!!

@agnidas5816 Жыл бұрын

people who haven't had self realization say the darnedest things

@TheThora17 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely adore Dr Mate- I wish I could meet him one day. Just being in his presence would make me feel understood🌸

@feemcdonald4423 Жыл бұрын

As a clinician in the D&A and Mental health fields Gabor resonates as so spot on. Excellent interview skills too Thank you so much

@OdysseusMDA Жыл бұрын

"Truth is it's own value" indeed especially in this day and age. Well said.

@SeekingImpact Жыл бұрын

Depression can be exacerbated by grief or a break up or some other outside situation, but depression is there even in the absence of such things. I am not sure how it enters one, but I do think, at least in my circumstance, that Dr. Mate is on it. I haven't finished watching the interview yet, but I am really hoping that there is something that can be done for those afflicted and that this is just a "this is because of this and sucks to be there". I don't know why I didn't wait to comment until the end, but it appeared that you were truly asking and wanting to understand depression more.

@leezaroufeh1912 Жыл бұрын

I wish I knew all those parenting tools when I started my family. Would’ve avoided many mistakes 😢 I think this should be a subject that needs to be taught in schools, so parents know how to do better ❤

@lisacurtis8162 Жыл бұрын

True. Most people won't accept this way of thinking and being. I wish I would have known too. I did know this but I needed confirmation. I didn't believe in myself. My husband is an abuser and I didn't leave with my kids.

@lorimiller4301 Жыл бұрын

@@lisacurtis8162 I'm so sorry. We don't always do what we wish we did. We can't go back. We have to accept what we done somehow. We all have a script that we wrote before coming here. That means our children have their own reason to go through things. Sometimes we're put into positions on purpose so as to cause something to happen so don't beat yourself too much.

@llyssabee Жыл бұрын

giving my mom's inner child a hug 🫂 😢❤

@aylalunallena9493 Жыл бұрын

Dear Tom, I used to watch your videos daily sometimes twice when I was in medical school. I graduated in the summer of 2019, and I knew medicine was not my path. Then with the pandemic, I lost sight of who I am and honestly what happened to my life. The hypocrisy in any system becomes unavoidable once you set foot in it, unless you live with your eyes closed. I was always curious about how to be healthy and how to improve myself and others and I got lost in a system where the solution was a cocktail of pills at least twice a day. I am deeply upset about where we are as humanity and I am struggling to take myself out of it. I have the awareness but I am too tired and too burned out to even take care of myself properly. My return to your videos, I hope they will remind me of my whys and fuel that optimism that I had in my 20s and precovid, prephysician time of my life. Thank you for all your work. 🤍🤍

@LindaCasey Жыл бұрын

Meeting opportunity with deliberate intention makes us the author of our own destiny. It's interesting to note that we can come from the very same family with the very same background yet can still experience completely different memories of the very same situation.🕊

@helenasantos957 Жыл бұрын

I totally get why Dr Gabor says truth has its own meaning and why he values it so much. I grew up in the Portuguese fascist regime. It lasted until I was 18 and I sensed the society I was immersed in was full of treachery, pitfalls and deception but because I was immersed in it I couldn't put my finger on what was wrong, I could only sense a permanent fear. It was only after it was all over, in 1974, that I realised I had been living in an invisible matrix of lies. These lies went against the grain of what my gut feelings told me was right, and made me restrain myself in coming out with what I felt inside me was truth! After the regime was overturned and you could de truthful and "disagree" with its impositions without being punished for it, "truth" became the most inspiring and liberating principle in life! It felt like as long as you had truth on your side, you could do anything! There is no because... it just is that way, it is freedom!

@karenkarinaxoxo 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏

@phoenixlight1111 Жыл бұрын

As far as becoming enlightened and then helping others, that is a personal calling. Some are here with purpose such as healing...being a Shaman or Bodhisattva, or Spiritual guide, but this does not equate to the finality of the journey. Sometimes, the greatest gift one can give to the collective is to heal oneself, and there is no further requirement. It's an egoic illusion to think that we are required to 'give back'. We are each here for our own Awakening, our own process and our personal journey of our Soul evolution. Our growth leads to our ascension, and this heightened state of awareness that exists in the world can be the light for others. Some people can live a quiet life, tending to their garden, feeding the birds, acknowledging the beauty of nature, feeling deep inner Peace, and they have mastered their gifts. That can be enough. When that state is achieved, when there is no need to do, or become, then there is more space within to expand healing outwards towards others. 🕉

@existentialvoyeur Жыл бұрын

That's why bullshit continues, fence sitters, usually hippies

@FL34108 Жыл бұрын

I am always impressed by the ability of TB to constantly delve into topics and be willing to rediscover them over and over. This makes for a great exchange here with GM.

@kay7221 Жыл бұрын

Gabor is one of the cleverest souls I have come across. Thankyou.

@JMSsssssss Жыл бұрын

I've done this. I've evolved to know that I am okay and that I don't need other people to reflect that back to me; but I have walled myself off, which means I've chosen superficially in romantic relationships, I've not had to consider marriage, and I have no children. I would say that's loneliness. The prospect of dating, at this age, causes me stress, so I don't do it. And there it is.

@KK-bf6rs 7 ай бұрын

Im so grateful for Dr. Mate and being able to get this information for free. It's life changing.

@tammyjoma Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Gabor Maté, for being so honest. It's inspiring and restful.

@JondiWhitis Жыл бұрын

Gabor Mate is one of my heroes, for years, and I gain not only insight but a new influx of compassionate wisdom, every time I read or watch his shared work.

@leosport2 Жыл бұрын

What an amazing and priceless interview! Dr. Gabor Maté is an empathetic authority and valuable resource on mood disorders and addiction. Tom is among the best and most well-informed interviewers.

@caprimoon888 Жыл бұрын

Wow Tom you need to chill, all this money, and seeking something more as well as your future focus feels very ‘wired’ to me. Maybe you are not so? Despite this I see you are spreading wonderful knowledge to the world . This is precious. In gratitude to you. Gabor , I have only just discovered you recently . Phenomenal and profound , I will certainly listen to more

@gaylebrady2678 9 ай бұрын

I really like Tom's ability to very often see both sides of an issue or belief. Tom is so interested in hearing and learning the TRUTH that he is always open to considering philosophies that he hadn't considered or realized before. Thats one of the hardest things to do these days because so often we feel like we have to take a hard stand to defend our beliefs so that others won't doubt our self confidence or us as thinkers. Good for you Tom.

@SoloMotivation Жыл бұрын

*_Fear, The Greatest Hinderance Of Success_* Fear is the primary reason people fail, or even don’t start something in the first place. But living your life in fear will only cause disappointment in the long run. After all, “we miss 100% of the shots we don’t take,” so don’t let fear stop you from taking your shot.,

@mayam2479 Жыл бұрын

I used to love watching Impact Theory. I suppose i still do but not for Tom- just for the guest. I have been watching for nearly 5 years. I so want Tom to experience ego death. He's reached a point where he has been able to create his own echo chamber and rather than being open to learning whatever his guests present, he just wants them to reaffirm his own beliefs. If his guest doesn't validate his own beliefs, he verbally beats them down until they almost acquiesce or phrase it in a way that reflects Tom's views.

@D10DeLuca Жыл бұрын

How blessed we ALL are for you two! Thank you!

@skelley164 Жыл бұрын

There are two statements I have always gone back to when I get confused as to why I’m depressed or disconnected yet again or why I lost motivation, confidence, and the desire to help others when that’s been a huge part of my life. I. “I’m either doing something I shouldn’t be doing, or not doing something I should be doing”. 2. “Pain is necessary; suffering is optional”. (Anyone in recovery may have heard that before)

@hollieooo Жыл бұрын

Hey, Gabor! Me & you! That’s my word for the next coming year - Truth (with a capital T). I have found a new rule to life: there can be no healing without Truth. Truth is self-evident, Truth is an epiphany, Truth is recognized. Truth cannot be told, but rather it’s found. I am also passionate about the Truth, because I believe that Truth heals. Only when Truth is encountered, can healing EVER take place. Truth can change everyone individually, and the world collectively. When enough people are healing & therefore walking their path - then we will start to heal as a society. Looking forward to walking MY path & hope to see you down the road. Also, as a side note: at THIS point, I believe that enlightenment “works” on you. It doesn’t just end at the moment it happens. It’s a teacher, and you become ever evolving. Those enlightened sages in the caves are doing the best they can & are still evolving. As a matter of fact, humankind is still evolving. It all comes down to the individual & what’s inside of them. Even the sages had trauma, k? I’m starting to believe that living in consciousness aka enlightenment is just an accident. If it wasn’t, Gabor should have already experienced that permanent expansion. What a beautiful and brave soul that is so well deserving. However, pursuit of the Truth (with Love in your heart), never once backing down, breathing and posture MAY make you extremely accident-prone. My best.

@kathleenlandolt5936 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this interview available for me to discover. There is so much in it, from both of you, for me to contemplate.