Do You Feel Judged As An Older Mother?

Do You Feel Judged As An Older Mother? | Loose Women

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7 ай бұрын

In Sienna Miller’s recent interview with Vogue, she opened up about her pregnancy for the first time and admitted that her impending motherhood had forced her to address her own prejudices about being an older mother by saying: "I’d love to get to a point where I didn’t feel the need to make a joke of my being older and having a baby, to show I’m in on the joke." But did any of our women feel the same? Both Jane and Linda found their ‘older’ pregnancies easier, and both of Charlene’s were technically geriatric and totally planned.
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@Miss.Krystle 6 ай бұрын

I'm 38 expecting my first after a long infertility journey. I think no matter what age you are and how ideal your circumstances are, people will always find a way to judge you about something anyway so live your life according to you and do what makes you happy

@HouseOfJolene 6 ай бұрын

That is so exiting!!! Congratulations I hope you enjoy your pregnancy ✨

@Themis33 7 ай бұрын

People judge people on EVERYTHING. The secret is to not give a flying F what other people think and just do you in life.

@empressaminata637 7 ай бұрын

💕

@Akira_xxxx 7 ай бұрын

If you conceive naturally then it's natural and people cannot judge

@sarahi4681 6 ай бұрын

Amen to that!

@emu9520 7 ай бұрын

My mum had me at 42…my grandmother had her last baby at 43…I had my daughter at 41… I wanted to have a good and stable job and a house before I had children. It’s about choice

@somethinglikeanonymous1773 6 ай бұрын

You be hitting 60 when your daughter hits 18. You will find it difficult to connect with her.

@bonniecooke6922 6 ай бұрын

My mum was 60 when I was 21 and we were closer than ever this is an awful comment

@somethinglikeanonymous1773 6 ай бұрын

@@bonniecooke6922 But very unlikely to enjoy or see her grandkids. This is just simply facts. Being a 21 year old with 60 year old mother is not fun, stop deluding yourself.

@somethinglikeanonymous1773 6 ай бұрын

@@bonniecooke6922 if you decide to have children at 40, there is literally 0 chance your mum will get to enjoy time with her grandkids. That’s just really sad.

@bonniecooke6922 6 ай бұрын

That’s your opinion my lived experience is different to your perception … due to fertility issues my mum was unable to have me earlier and tried for 12 years so appreciate your lived experience may differ to mine but I had a great time with my mum.

@Dalabombana 6 ай бұрын

Had a home birth at 40, classed as high risk as ‘geriatric’. It was such a privilege bringing my son into the world. Lots of love to all the older mamas out there. ❤

@TheTuellfamily 7 ай бұрын

I was 21 when I had our first son, 26 with our daughter, and then surprised at 41 with our youngest son. It was the shock of our lives, but it has also been one of the greatest joys of our lives. He is a blessing to our family. We also find that being older parents is easier and we have more patience. We have raised two and have learned from those experiences.

@sfrancies87 6 ай бұрын

sounds like the youngest is the favourite

@Andtherewaslight427 7 ай бұрын

I am 38 and 6 months pregnant. The way my age is an issue I dread going to see my gynecologist because no consultation ends without my age being mentioned.

@victoriac286 7 ай бұрын

I had my daughter when I was 41. I didnt meet my husband until I was in my mid-late 30s. In a ideal world I would of like to have been a younger mum, not too young! But sometimes life doesnt always go the way you want it to. I have no regrets how it was done, I got to travel a lot and do well in my career.

@AlexRichie 7 ай бұрын

Loved this. I think people forget that women don’t get to choose when you meet a decent guy to have kids with.

@beauty_buys_uklisa3868 7 ай бұрын

Exactly the same as me!

@kimmie411 5 ай бұрын

Same here! Its just the way life works out sometimes.

@HouseOfJolene 6 ай бұрын

A woman has a child at 25 she's judged because she mustn't have any ambitions. She has a child at 41, she's too old and a geriatric mother. One thing about women, we don't ever catch a break. The narrative around a womans fertitility is untrue and it's a narrative that needs to die. My mother had me at 36 and my sister at 41...When SHE was ready not when the male dominated medical field told her to.

@Isabel-by8qc 6 ай бұрын

Yes how accurate is the medical advice, women's health isn't up to date. At 35 I feel so bad that I haven't had the opportunity, but I am much healthier now then I was in my 20s

@HouseOfJolene 6 ай бұрын

@@Isabel-by8qc The study on a woman’s fertility reliving at 35 was done in the 1700s in France. So not accurate at all. It’s 2024 you have a baby when YOU want to.

@victoriajames1335 7 ай бұрын

My Nan was 43 when she had my mum that was 76 years ago x

@hannahdarbyshire6746 7 ай бұрын

How rude is charlene? hahaha "you're saying that like you're miles off, its not that far away!" when Olivia was literally saying shes nearing 5

@kodijones5224 7 ай бұрын

I was 40 when I had my 3rd child. 13 years after my last child. I was never called a geriatric mother, they said they don't use that term because more women get pregnant at an older age nowadays. Honestly im 44 yrs old now and do not look my age so when my son goes to school in 2024 im not worried about what people will say. I am also in Peri menopause and on HRT. With an under active thyroid but im managing to keep my severe fatigue at bay.Just enough to keep up with my boy who is the llght of my families life.:) He was a wonderful surprise and addition to our family.

@signalfire15 7 ай бұрын

I’m most likely going to be an older mom. I don’t feel weird about it because I feel like that’s the norm now.

@rekhayads1772 6 ай бұрын

I'm 41 and have no kids ! I wanna start a family asap I'm just looking for the right guy🥺🥺🥺 😭😭😭

@Themis33 6 ай бұрын

Solo ivf is always an option. You don't have enough time to meet someone and truly know if they're the right person. Just go for it. And be the mother you want to be. X

@gabrielletanner5339 6 ай бұрын

I was judged an older mother by the hospital when I was THIRTY FOUR i remember it made me feel awful.

@sarahi4681 6 ай бұрын

I’m 35 first time pregnant with twins and I am classed as geriatric. Everyone I see at the hospital are 22 it makes me feel old! 🤣

@rbuls 7 ай бұрын

Approaching 41 and if it happens it happens if not then fine. I've always preferred animals to kids anyway lol at end of day it's a life choice and no one has the right to judge. I mainly waited as I've met a string of unsuitable men most of which had kids of their own anyway which I didn't want. Finally with someone my age now in same situation,no ties or baggage and we've both done our partying, enjoyed our freedom and got some life experience behind us. We both feel ready and prepared if it was to happen

@Satsusss 6 ай бұрын

Are you prepared to take on an exponential amount of chores as well as the ones you already do. To lift up after yourself, your husband and another human being ?! That would drive me to insanity.

@tashaax1993xanimalloverx 6 ай бұрын

Exactly it's not for everyone I'm 30 but it's society that makes you second guess your decision I find...

@lucygraham1685 3 ай бұрын

Sienna looks amazing. I was privileged and had my first at 24. I'm 42 this year, and I'm exhausted. I can't imagine having a baby now with teenagers. Teenagers are extremely hard work, and I've 3 boys now. I'm just grateful i did it young when i was married with money. Arguing with a teenager in my late 60s sounds difficult. Instead, I'm doing it now. The loose women were all older because they had their careers to consider. We are all different, though, and do our journeys to motherhood how we so choose. ❤ x

@HealthywithAmy 7 ай бұрын

I was 40 with my last, 3rd boy. My records said-advanced age😀👋🙏

@susisiebert5942 6 ай бұрын

I was 20 when I had the daughter who is now having her first at 40.!! She says she’s exhausted….

@atweety152 7 ай бұрын

I think it's more common to find older mums than younger now. I was 28 having my first and 30 with my second and it can actually be quite isolating as none of your friends have children. Family were even surprised we didn't wait until we were older. We had careers and a house and didn't want to risk waiting in case it didn't happen easily for us. No need to judge either way. I don't feel like a young mum, it just feels right and 20 years ago it wasn't unusual to start your family in your 20s. I find I get looks when I'm out from the older mums all the time. Not sure what they're thinking but it's strange

@emmam.2784 6 ай бұрын

Basically people are going to judge you no matter what you do - whether you have kids super young or ‘old’ or never or without much money etc etc etc. So just focus on you. Get rid of social media and have your own thoughts. Have hobbies. Follow your heart. Be happy.

@user-bf6nx2hz4k 4 ай бұрын

I'm 38 and 12 weeks pregnant now. I was shocked to read the description getting pregnant after 35....but at any age, if it's your time that's all that matters and always a blessing.

@clairejoicey7648 7 ай бұрын

The term “geriatric mother” isn’t actually used anymore. The acronym AMA is used instead. Advanced Maternal Age. Not sure which is better/worse to be honest 🤣

@rbuls 7 ай бұрын

Yes you're correct. Health professionals aren't supposed to use that term now as it's classed as rude and offensive and I agree

@sarahi4681 6 ай бұрын

My grandma had my uncle as a surprise baby at 46! She thought she had early menopause 😮

@lindseylambe3921 7 ай бұрын

Tbh I had my first at 19. Think being a younger mum has more judgement.

@sharoncox4776 7 ай бұрын

Linda Robson has her calculations wrong! Said 13 years between first and second baby - which would make her 38!! Then had her last baby at 38! Do your sums right!

@simonebell928 7 ай бұрын

No the 3rd child was at 38, she had 3 kids

@lolsaXx 7 ай бұрын

The age of a first time mother is changing. It's getting older. 50% of women are childless at 30. Women also only gave 10% of their eggs left at 30. As a 28 year old mum with 3 kids, I find I'm the odd one out. Most of the mums around me are in their late 30s - 40s.

@sjanex 7 ай бұрын

Yes my daughter is 6, the majority of mums I see who have kids in my daughters class are well into their 40’s

@lolsaXx 7 ай бұрын

@@sjanex my oldest is 6 too and it's the same for me.

@xroseimogen 7 ай бұрын

The egg comment is a myth that people use to scare women into having children sooner. It’s absolutely not true

@mariambrowne7716 6 ай бұрын

This is true and it’s because young girls/women are now more career focussed than family focussed. Also since the advancement of birth control, it’s certainly pushed back the average age of pregnancy

@URFUTUREUK 7 ай бұрын

Full grown Women that think they are 18 are extremely questionable.

@evelyngould9 4 ай бұрын

I had my first (geriatric 😂) pregnancy at 41 and the second at 44

@redlady935 7 ай бұрын

They didn't really discuss the topic of this title

@HelyBel 6 ай бұрын

I think every mother at any age gets judged, specially young mothers get judged badly

@RTG1031 7 ай бұрын

They don't use geriatric now. They say Advanced Maternal age now

@toniglow4722 7 ай бұрын

Times for women are changing, and it's not necessarily a bad thing.

@rw6391 7 ай бұрын

Had my son 22 years ago aged 25.

@Satsusss 6 ай бұрын

And ?

@annepurcell5989 7 ай бұрын

It’s an Irish goodbye ;)

@anonymousa9219 6 ай бұрын

I think ppl don’t judge as much if it’s not your first child. Also ppl judge men too for having children old.

@bernice-um2gb 6 ай бұрын

38 when i had my baby boy my little rainbow 🌈 💙 😍

@helenhucker346 7 ай бұрын

Poor old Linda, she does seem to struggle. Btw geriatric mothers are not a new thing. My grandmother was twenty six when she had her first of eight children with the last baby, who became my mother, arriving when she was forty six. That is twenty years of child rearing which wasn't unusual at the time.

@sjanex 7 ай бұрын

I’m guessing it was due to lack of contraception back then? My husbands grandma had 9 children, they struggled. Only two of them had children of their own. His grandma actually told me and my husband to only have two children because “two is enough”😅

@jenniferhiggins227 7 ай бұрын

Im 37

@sandrabruce7819 7 ай бұрын

I don’t usually watch Loose Women as I don’t like the oldies who are on there but Olivia was a breath of fresh air more of her please

@leahmcdermott4189 6 ай бұрын

The only two that look old in the face are the two white ladys with the short hair cuts. And ironically, they are the most cheekiest 😭💀.

@diaryofanotdgirl89 6 ай бұрын

Who is the one with long hair? I don’t recognise her at all

@Isa-jr9en 6 ай бұрын

People used to get children untill they could't anymore...

@jameshumphries5059 7 ай бұрын

You should have kids young instead of buying into the lie of feminism. A woman is most fertile when she’s younger not when she’s 40 because she focused on a career.

@emu9520 7 ай бұрын

It’s about choice

@jameshumphries5059 7 ай бұрын

@@emu9520 - Your body is most fertile at a young age that’s not choice that’s your body telling you what to do. It’s also a man’s choice to not want to date an older woman.

@Eden_WE 7 ай бұрын

Biologically possibly not. However, a greater number of women are choosing not to have children or fewer children as well as choosing to have a career. An increasing number of women are also making wiser choices regarding who they have a family with. Ultimately, it is about choice! Like it or not....

@jameshumphries5059 7 ай бұрын

@@Eden_WE - Unfortunately that’s not correct we have more single mothers today than we’ve had since recorded history. The modern woman is spending her 20’s partying and living it up only to wake up aged 33 single and childless. The issue then becomes she can’t attract the same calibre of man she could at aged 19 let alone get him to commit to her. Female happiness is largely predicated on having children with a man they love. The happiest I’ve ever seen a woman is when she’s holding a baby.

@davinanaylor9443 7 ай бұрын

@@jameshumphries5059 i dislike kids so ive decided im not having kids, i wouldnt be happy with a child😭 im more focused on a career