Do You Ruminate About the Past?

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Do You Ruminate About the Past?

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Жыл бұрын

Do you struggle with ruminating about the past and have a hard time letting go? Today's broadcast involves addressing a question that was sent in, asking about how to deal with past events recall that triggers rumination. I will answer the question by walking through healthy perspectives about your past and how to relate to yourself and your past in a healthier way.
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@jacobbowman4156 Жыл бұрын

I have been drowning in shame about living in legalism and performance Christianity for so many years. This video is a huge help for my healing. Thank you.

@px0736 Жыл бұрын

I've suffered from legalism very, very harshly in the past. I want to tell you that you'll be at peace and living at rest with God again, even if there seems to be no hope, or even if that demonic bastard tries to bring you down through shame. If you're still struggling, let me assure you, there's hope and unbreakable love with God right now, even in the midst of those dark waves. A big hug brother, I know you'll laugh and smile again stronger in your day to day life, with your eyes wide open appreciating the beauty of God's love in your day to day life :)

@jacobbowman4156 Жыл бұрын

@@px0736 wow, that was so kind and uplifting. I really really appreciate it

@katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын

@@px0736 What a beautifully-said piece of hope!!! 💗

@px0736 Жыл бұрын

I'm for you thanks to God. Won't let you fall my siblings :)

@katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын

@@px0736 Thank you. 😊 I just took a screenshot of your previous comment so I can be reminded of our Hope. ✨

@n8branim Жыл бұрын

He is what we call a "soul physician." ❤️💯

@alexandriarcollins Жыл бұрын

This video is so timely. I recently rededicated my life to Christ & God has delivered me from so many things, but I do find myself ruminating about certain past sins or embarrassing moments sometimes.

@tonypino5415 Жыл бұрын

Yeah me too. I try to catch myself and distract my mind instead or pray. I did some horrible things in my past.

@alexandriarcollins Жыл бұрын

@@tonypino5415 same here. When I start to ruminate, I’ve been trying to make it a habit to pray instead of worrying.

@user-rv1nu3jl1s 8 ай бұрын

Same here. You are not alone.

@Nightwalker25-m3u 6 ай бұрын

Same here

@katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын

Oh, Mark, this video is truly providential!!! I needed this message SO MUCH today! THANK YOU a million times!!

@seanobanion6030 Жыл бұрын

Hearing that God loves me in spite of all the stuff I have done, today especially. I caught myself ruminating over stuff that happened years ago and it makes feel like The Father knows that I never really loved Him. It's encouraging to hear that He does now if I could know that In my heart,, my God what I would do to know that I know ,that I haven't gone to far!

@Sweet2kiss1 Жыл бұрын

Mark praise the Lord for you ... This is me every single morning!!! It's to the point where I literally feel stuck in the bed for hours until my desire to get into my routine sets in... Every single morning and the rest of the day I'm fighting to stay present!

@davidbramlett8193 Жыл бұрын

This is so me! I've been ruminating for the last few weeks! I've rehearsed traumatic moments trying to figure things out. I knew I was spinning but the anxiety and anger made it hard to speak up. I've prayed and counseled on these subjects multiple times. Before the ruminating happened, I had a sense of grief but couldn't pinpoint where it was coming from. Maybe I'm in Step 5 of this video.... but who knows I might feel at Step 1 later today lol. But I'm reminded that this is a journey 🙏🏾

@ShawHortonMusic 2 ай бұрын

Your channel is a blessing, Mark! What a ministry for the Kingdom. And this is one of my favorite videos of yours. You really are gifted in communicating the grace and love of God in a practical and compassionate way.

@grace_mango6182 7 күн бұрын

WHAT A BLESSING! THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT FOR SUCH A REVELATORY TEACHING! Thank you Mr. DeJesus for sharing this, I had a breakthrough with a past event while watching this that I stopped to journal about to make sure I got it. Blessing over your ministry and family In Jesus name!

@theresa42213 7 күн бұрын

''lt often happens in the morning...'' Yes. Mornings are the most difficult Thank you

@rckc.1719 Жыл бұрын

this needs to be preached in all churches..................

@user-yh9vy4hs7y 14 күн бұрын

The church will never allow it. Church is an enemy of truth

@matthewgray659 Жыл бұрын

Just to add to the rumination part, because I would ruminate and try to fix with OCD and you have been so helpful in breaking that habit, in your book about fear, you say to change the channel to what you want to listen to. In the case of the past, after you lovingly accept yourself, I have been practicing changing the channel to the present so that I stay present. I struggled with an area of my past for a few years and if I had this, I don't think I would have been so stuck like I was. I think it works similarly to intrusive thoughts in that I notice them, lovingly accept myself and it's ok to have intrusive thoughts, and then redirect my focus back to the present. I hope I said this right.

@torasacramento4905 2 ай бұрын

I have been my own worst enemy all of my life - I was born to a co-dependant mother and an absentee father who was in Vietnam off and on for the first part on my formative years. Knowing all this, even as a Christian, I STILL beat myself up for things I did/said YEARS ago - people I hurt, animals I had to abandon to new homes when my marriage split up - I love this video and I know I will be watching it more than once.

@charlabarnett6274 Жыл бұрын

Key word PRESENT. Jesus said,"Behold I stand at the door and knock: (present) if any man hear my voice (present) , open the door,(present) I will come in to him( present) and will sup with him( present) and he with me( present). Jesus has never been my past. He has always been my present and future. I only now have embraced this. If I am living in the present, I will always be grateful. Thank you so much Mark!

@tru5tg0d90 Жыл бұрын

Ohhh Mark....This was so PERFECT. I can totally relate and understand. The thing I regret doing is actually helping me because I've learned sooo much about about OCD, Scrupulosity, Perfectionism, Rumination, etc... No one in church or life taught me these things. I'm now slowly learning to appreciate my regretful mistake.

@MarvinEngle-he8kq Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark! what helped me most was letting compassion be my reaction over and over again. As much as needed. Without limit. I tend to think I have the Holy Spirit living in me so I should be a "better" Christian than I am. That I should be healed by now, and not sin so MUCH! However more and more your teaching on our Dad's compassion and forgiveness is sinking in more and more. So thank you again. Keep up the good work!

@tru5tg0d90 Жыл бұрын

Wish I could give this 100 thumbs up. So Wonderful! Will listen to again.

@user-ix8xx3kr9t 3 ай бұрын

I've been going through a very hard season, last night I heard the words in my mind, "stop ruminating in the past" that is why I looked it up, your video is a perfect description of what I'm going through, Glory to God 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

I'm struggling with a crazy meltdown. I'm not sure what's going on in my head. I might be spinning. I'm asking for your guys prayers please.

@OhOkayChloe 5 ай бұрын

How are you now?

@Nightwalker25-m3u 5 ай бұрын

@OhOkayChloe I'm doing alright thank you very much. My medicine makes ocd at least manageable. How are you feeling

@seanobanion6030 Жыл бұрын

Man , this video is right on time.

@aidengober7189 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark for the amazing video! I needed this today. As you shared each point I was like "Yep, that's what I've been going through". It was healing to have someone encourage me to see my past through new eyes so I can embrace it. I love the thought that God embraces me with my past and all. My biggest takeaway was the steps on how to get to the place where I can let go. Often I want to try and find a fix or the right prayer to let the pain of the past go. But really I needed to dive into how I see and relate to my past so that I can have the compassion, self-love, and sobriety to allow me to learn from the past and let go of the shame and disqualification I can feel over it. Overall I'm excited to get into the process of practicing these steps and letting myself be refined by agreeing with and abiding in God's love for me. So thank you again brother from anotha motha!

@sharonknezevic3357 Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I needed to hear right now, thank you so much! :)

@katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын

So did I!

@Admin-ys4ne 4 ай бұрын

Hey Mark. Wow. Video for my heart and mind. After 32yr with my wife, she filed for divorce. Almost a year now, the trial date is set for May 2024. I cannot tell you the time I spent ruminating about the regrets of what I did it did not do the last 10 months. I blame myself, and feel I am bad, worthless, and a failure. I keep spinning and just cannot move forward. I am stuck with negative feelings and accusations that are relentless. I trust God that He has a plan for me, but it's difficult. I need more compassion and forgiveness for myself. It is part of my journey that I can learn from. It is not who I am. Thanks brother.

@pernoa100 Ай бұрын

I'm not religious, I'm spiritual and even though I'm Jewish and Israeli, I really connect with your channel and thank you for all the wise words I get from your videos. Only good for all of us.

@FuentesStudios Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark for this lesson. In some ways I can understand some of these concept but in other ways they sound foreign. I pray that yall can have peace in your hearts. God bless.

@danielabonfanti4398 3 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for this very useful info and tools. Things have definitely shifted, as I continue to release unwanted past memories and thoughts. It's definitely a process❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@asinamirror2253 Жыл бұрын

This ruminating and spinning has been such a part of my life for so long I have trouble recognizing when it's starting to come on. I don't know what thoughts are legit and what thoughts are not because I am in such a constant state of anxiety.

@margaretgrosskreuz8687 Жыл бұрын

Jon72. Can relate. I will start practicing noticing, then seeing past through God's eyes. Compassionately

@celestelee5138 3 ай бұрын

What's important is that you're still here dear one😊. Can you get a skill and get a little distance from the town?

@leaettasrygley602 8 ай бұрын

You are right on for me today. Now to embrace it and walk in it.

@sarahgombele2904 Жыл бұрын

You are a blessing to humanity! God bless you immensely Brother Mark.

@jonimarie Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@debhbaynosa1512 Ай бұрын

Praise God. I found the substantial msge. I salute you Mark. you delivered intelligently the issue integrated with divine application

@danielstamegna2391 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this, Mark. Very needed! God bless you, brother.

@hannaenell5767 7 ай бұрын

Thank you! I've been listning to you for some time now, you're helping me with my shame issues and my struggles with myself. I really need your videos and I'm so grateful that you are willing to share your journey and help others. I don't remember how I found your channel, but I thank God that I did. I haven't found similar help elsewhere. ❤

@tellmewhenitsover 2 ай бұрын

The bit about imagining how I would coach a friend through it if they had the same experience and brought it up really helped, thanks.

@Foobar59 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark! I appreciate you taking the time to make this video. It is literally the best and most helpful I’ve ever seen on this topic. Thanks again!

@Blessednesting 8 ай бұрын

I tend to struggle with worrying about the future and repeating past mistakes.

@Jose-fh5dw Жыл бұрын

Satans trying to condemn me for having a tone toward someone & I apologized, but satan’s trying to tell me that “oh what if the person didn’t hear you? Or oh how were they supposed to know what your apologizing for?” I meant that apology with sincerity, but yesterday I found freedom in God’s promises, but I still feel guilty/ condemned for it!

@JR79511 Ай бұрын

Wonderful video! Thank you Mark!

@jessicascott8780 Жыл бұрын

Ruminating is anti-loving. 👏🏼

@MasonsMotions 5 ай бұрын

After forgiving myself even so briefly for my past transgressions, I find myself searching for mundane adjustments that God already called me to do, like not working on Sundays so I can go to church, and likely meet a nice lady. Who woulda thunk it? I’ve had a legalistic past and believed that the tribal Hebrew way of worshipping God was preferred (oops), and figured doing mission work on Sunday was better anyway. Aaaahaa! Gentle baby steps, Mark. Thank you for your work. Recently, I’ve been changing my view of “women don’t want to help men deal with their emotions” to “some women reeeeaaallly want to help their man work through their emotions”.

@kimberleyakin5408 Жыл бұрын

HEEEEEELLLLLPFUL!!!!! T H A N K. Y O U ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@margaretgrosskreuz8687 Жыл бұрын

So helpful Mark. Sooo timely. Thank you from a grateful sister from another mother ☝🏼🤗

@darcyd2680 11 ай бұрын

And what about people? Sometimes I get this yuck feelings or anxiety and it's as if I want them not even exist, to be able to feel more peace. I get those feelings when someone talks about them or something reminds me or worse when I realize they know the same person that I know. We leave in a very little town. And makes me feel anxiety and disgusting when I think I may run into them. The worst for me is to know they are part of Christian community here. And I feel sometimes as if it limits my freedom to openly serve God here and connect with other ppl that I afraid they may know and it will make ne feel this unpleasant way.

@Dave_The_Beatmaker 10 ай бұрын

I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. Can relate to your situation 100%

@maryfadel5772 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for helping me today. I can't forgive myself for not moving in with my dad during the last 6 months of his life. I had just divorced and I was starting a new job. This time of year is so hard for me. I should have been with him and I'll never forgive myself.

@Heretic_Chick 2 ай бұрын

This is a pretty solid video except for the occasional supernatural interjections. They don’t add anything pragmatic to dealing with the very real experience of shame and rumination; they’re just additional avoidance strategies.

@avashavash1594 10 ай бұрын

Exelent, I love your explanation. Please,keep doing it. You are exactly what we need to hear. Thank you from ❤️

@NEWONTHEBLOCKTV Жыл бұрын

Wow this really helped…. Its def gonna take some practice.

@ALifeCreated 3 ай бұрын

Love this word. It’s so needed for me at the moment.

@photo80sjeff84 23 күн бұрын

Mom's Catholic guilt 24/7.😢..Good information ❤👍

@MrCaprisun2099 4 ай бұрын

As someone who deals with real event ocd this is great 👍

@eddie9024 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Mark may God bless your teaching and journey more

@louisa-cw9zh Жыл бұрын

Very insighful video!! ❤. I like the fact that you actually explained how to let go! Thank you!! God bless you!

@histiming144 Жыл бұрын

This was extremely helpful. Ruminating is a huge problem for me.

@gertrudecherotich5565 Жыл бұрын

I learnt I am not my past 🙏

@cynthiahongola1094 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this. I never realized that I was trying to fox my past and on so many areas!

@TheNarrowPath40 Жыл бұрын

How to handle the past mistakes that resulted in my adult son cutting off his entire family 😮😢 a LOT of false accusations I’ve been living with for six years.

@Ronalee. Жыл бұрын

Great content!

@damianhaynes3181 2 ай бұрын

I have spent many years ruminating about the past hurt that my wife has done to me. No matter how hard I tried to appear happy I just couldn't let it go. It was always a trigger that would go off in my head around the same time every year that brought everything back up. It has got to the point now that my wife wants a divorce.

@christinabasri5114 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video. It’s very helpful.

@S1626His Жыл бұрын

Thanks mark good stuff!

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

I think I want to order the book. God loves me and,I love myself. I'm not quite sure about it though. It sounds too bold!

@Finn10000 Жыл бұрын

Thanks

@ladytemjad 9 ай бұрын

So powerful 😢❤

@celestelee5138 3 ай бұрын

Nice singing voice!

@darcyd2680 11 ай бұрын

😂😂 Actually, this topic is painful for me. Because there are a lot of thoughts that's as you said, just make me feel "yaik". But when you said "If you noticed it isn't fruitful". It made me lough, for some reason. Like eye opening how ridiculous it is. And now I have greater desire for not following these paths.

@WendyHubbard-fc1st 9 ай бұрын

Thank you I’ve been having day

@asijahjett2904 Жыл бұрын

Who doesn’t ruminate about that past on this channel lol?

@katiesanders96 Жыл бұрын

😅😂🤦🏻‍♀️

@noemivillagomez7413 Жыл бұрын

Marc, i feel like i acted on my intrusive thought Can a person with ocd act on an intrusive thought?

@AJimenezHarper 9 ай бұрын

What about if we’ve been wronged in a big way, but the other person is going through therapy with you and utilizing the tools given? I’ve been ruminating about whether the other shoe will drop.