Ah someone of culture I see

Really? Why not ask someone in the UK how long it takes for an ambulance to arrive. I get the need for small minds to constantly put down the US, but I can call 911 and have an ambulance in under 2 minutes.

@@yossiea maybe somewhere between 3 to 8 minutes. I haven't heard any bad experiences either if you did have any issues with NHS that's disheartening

@@yossiea Often I would rather die on the scene than go bankrupt and live on the street for a 5 minute ambulance ride, champ.

@@yossiea Same time frame here in Europe. But it's free because, you know, we think that people who aren't rich also deserves to live. If anyone told you we have to wait much longer for an ambulance, they're lying.

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It's such an individual condition so I fully appreciate that no two people are the same. I thought it had a very compassionate approach though

I feel respectfully and properly represented

@@DoctorElliottCarthy I like to say that every autistic had their own brand of autism 😊🤭 Even my twin and I experience it in different ways!

@@goldenlion7 Wait if one twin has autism/ADHD is it very common for the other to have it?

@@Mia.S13 not OP, but yeah. As twins are so similar genetically

I suppose you mean neuroTYPICAL? There's a big difference... (Edit: that kinda sounds rude so I just felt the need to write something in the terms of "No Offense Intended")

@@physicslover4951 oh yes of course. Sorry I tend not to catch my mistakes when I'm writing them. Thanks for letting me know

@@summer_olliensns7944 It's ok, I too make mistakes :)

Yes, this! Only I don't have the guts to outright mention it to someone, though I really wish I did. But in a way that perhaps put people a little more at ease and a little less on the spot like this, which can cause people to shut down or even become hostile. In a way it feels like he lives in some sort of blissful ignorance while I'm all too keenly aware of how things I would want to say might drive people away if I were to say them out loud, especially because it's happened so often in the past. People tend to get freaked out when I list the differences in behavior that caused me to suspect something was up with them, like I'm stalking them or looking at them with a magnifying glass, while in fact it all happens subconsciously and not on purpose. I just sense something is off the same way someone notices when someone who walked past you is wearing a lot of perfume: not because you were looking for it, but because your senses picked it up and processed it and interpreted it. It's really not any different. People without ASD do it all the time as well, only they might not be as perceptive, and in most cases they're not as able to put it into words and it stays more of a subconscious thing. That's really the only difference. I'm not some kind of obsessed freak :')

I'm not on the spectrum but I've seen this from others who are. One other thing I'm glad they did address was empathy. Too many people think people with autism lack empathy like a psychopath and that's as you know absolutely false. I think the breakdown is in communication somewhere. I know a lady with autism and she is a dear friend with a great deal of compassion and empathy, yet there are times she says things to me that are hurtful that a non autistic person would automatically know not to say. But I know her well enough to know that if I tell her it hurt me and explain why she does feel bad for it and does empathize very well.

Yes, totally agree!! Very good point about the inspiration porn. Same issue as the white savior complex where the focus becomes on the member of the majority group and how awesome they are just because they're not being total jerks.

@@goldenlion7 yes! He's presented as some total "hero" just for seeing the value in an autistic person. Which... eww. And I don't mind shows showing problematic behaviour like that, especially as it happens irl but you then have to frame it as problematic not commendable.

@@hannahsmith8002 yeeeesss that last point is so important. The way they frame negative behavior makes all the difference!

I agree with every word of yours! And cool! I was diagnosed at age of 26 as well, coincidence! (even tho I'm a boy, its a fact that autism in woman is reeally underrepresented, and it differences leads to more undiagnosed people)

bc of what u said i highly suggest "young royals" on netflix. there's a girl and she's not a "genius", she's not the main protagonist tho.

Thanks for sharing this as it's really insightful. You're right that the savant stereotype is hugely overstated but I thought it was one of the few shows I've seen that focused on compassion towards those with ASD

@@DoctorElliottCarthy Definitely, I really appreciate how they're not shying away from the stigma but it is combatting it. It shows bigoted colleagues as well as compassionate colleagues.

I was in my thirties before I got diagnosed... I relate a lot about the "shutdown" you describe. I didn't even knew it was a thing, but it happens to me a lot when I get overwhelmed by emotions, especially unexpected one (like sudden changes). My sister used to get extremely angry at me every time it would happen, which obviously made it even worst... Even now I still haven't told her I have an autistic personality, because I've gotten so good at hiding it I'm afraid she wouldn't believe me and think I'm just using it as an excuse for poor behavior.

I appreciate your story. I am a Speech-Language Pathologist in the schools and see all levels of functioning with ASD students and wonder what will become of all of them when they grow up. I have had students like you said appear neurotypical and intellectually on level with their peers, but there is something just slightly different in their social and/or problem solving skills. I love them so much and always hope they can live their most happy and fulfilling lives. I am glad that you two have each other and it brings me hope that those students will find companionship and happiness in adulthood too. You mentioned wanting an episode of The Good Doctor that deals with that "shutdown" that can happen when circumstances are overwhelming then check out season 2 episodes 10 and 11. It isn't seen consistently in the show because they have to move the story along, but they do take some episodes to highlight the different struggles faced by people who are on the spectrum which I appreciate.

For the shutdown response there's a an episode, a pair of episodes in I believe season 2 around Christmas time where some of that absolutely happens. I would suggest you watch it and see how accurate it is for you.

what’s it like? Knowing, being certain that you have ASD, what’s it like? What is it actually like to know that there’s this barrier between yourself and others, that you’re not fooling yourself into thinking that the way you are is irreversible, to know that there is a reason why you experience the world differently than everyone else? To not have to doubt that you’re not putting on a mask for yourself, to know that who you are and how you feel and your self-identity is entirely genuine and not some sort of fabrication I imagine would be comforting. What’s it like to know that... that you’re not lying to yourself, to know that you are truly atypical. Because I don’t remember.

@@shawn980 It feels like I'm an alien trying my best to learn these confusing strange customs and how I say and experience things is completely different to everyone around me. Like my mouth is sewn shut or when I talk there is a thick fog around me. I know I'm different but it does give me comfort when I get anxious at some of me unsual behaviours that no one around me does.

@@matcha_zuki5597 It’s like what you think and what you say are in two different languages right? You don’t know how to articulate your words in a way that’s consistent with how everyone else talks. I’m wrong, I know I’m wrong.

@@shawn980 hi! I’m diagnosed with moderate autism and severe ADHD and it’s incredibly hard. The discrimination the rumours and the way I’m treated it differs 8 don’t have friends because people se me as autism I am not autism. Full of people who don’t understand the overstimulation, under stimulation but I will say it comforting knowing you this but also hard it’s not fun and I’m pretty bright but I’m not seen as that my grades and above average but I am not treated as such so summed it it’s hard. And you still have to mask no matter what

@@shawn980 it depends on the day for me. Sometimes I wish I could jump into another brain. and others I can’t comprehend how anyone wants to live like “normal people”. To me, everything neurotypicals do seems like a performance. Probably because to me, it is. In order to fit in I have to perform like I’m one of them. Which I’ve gotten tired of doing and just don’t anymore. I do wonder what it’s like to have communication and all of that feel natural. The hard part though, is that no matter what you know about yourself, there’s always people who don’t believe it. Who thinks it’s manipulation or just plain bullshit. Despite showing so many signs as a child, I wasn’t diagnosed until my late teens. So a lot of my schema and self image is shrouded in an innate belief that I’m a bad person and nothing I do will ever be good enough because that’s how I felt and was treated growing up. Also, when you’ve gone to therapy for years and still can’t fix a lot of things it can be very frustrating

You should watch Doctor Sham’s videos! She’s a 96 year old doctor who’s been a doctor 70+ years!!!!! She reacted to the good doctor!!!!

Really glad you liked it and the channel as a whole 🙂

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper who?

@@SkyLene she died last week 😭

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper what? i searched varieties of the name and couldn’t find her channel

He is a fabulous actor

Bob Melnikov from ReGenesis was kinda the first one, even a bit before ASD became famous.

I've always found Dr. Murphy to be very endearing & genuinely kind which I appreciate so much. While I'm not on the spectrum, I am neurodivergent & can relate to being socially awkward & struggling when feeling judged by my peers.

Wow I love bones and it never occurred to me that she might be autistic, but it makes so much sense.

Another great tv series is Atypical.

Monk was a really interesting show!

I actually preferred the Korean show because it's more weii-rounded and focuses on character development more than the ridiculous medical scenarios.

I just said the same comment, lol. It is such a good show.

Really? I’ve found most people I’ve spoken to with ASD find that show to be very harmful, and gets a lot wrong. They use a lot of tropes and stereotypes and the way it’s set up is as if the main character is the butt of the joke, that it’s funny that he’s weird. I also found watching it that everything was so sexual or centered around sex. I get it that people with ASD hyperfixate, but it came off as not being a show about a boy with autism, and the problems he faces in his everyday life, but as being about a boy who’s autistic and just wants to have sex but his social skills keep getting in the way. Which felt icky to me. To be fair, they did include some important moments, like when he got arrested because the police officer thought he was on drugs and wasn’t familiar with people with ASD. And that’s a real problem, we’ve seen not even that long ago children on the spectrum be shot and killed by police who have no understanding of the difference between a dangerous person and someone who is mentally ill or has ASD. But having scenes like that, that hit on real issues, don’t make up for everything else they do wrong. It also doesn’t make up for the fact that the actor who plays the dad has repeatedly used the r slur on social media

@@samwaymire5517 I think it is a pretty realistic portrayal. Sam is a teen, of course he wants sex and a relationship.

@@samwaymire5517 I think the main complaint was for the first series. That the main actor isn’t autistic and it played a bit to stereotype, yes the sex thing was weird, I think they were overplaying the he’s just like most other teenagers. They improved in future series and even included a number of autistic actors in smaller roles.

@@davidwood5884 I used to watch it before I realized it had some harmful tropes, but I stopped watching anyway when his sister started cheating on her boyfriend. I got annoyed and never turned it back on again lol. I hate how shows always ruin couples like that so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nursing is a great profession. Hope studying is going well 🙂

Definitely the sense I get from the show. I don't think it's inherently terrible as a narrative, but overrepresented in stories about neurodivergence. Like they would be junk simply because they're odd, but their usefulness makes them special and allows people to overlook their flaws. And that's treated like a gift to the autism community instead of just a basic expectation of decent people.

@@caitie226 this! Exactly! I know that there are people with ASD that have something they’re insanely knowledgeable in or good at but that’s not the case for the majority of people and by using this trope over and over and over I think it can be quite harmful to the ASD community in terms of expectations that less informed people might have.

@@julieannelovesbooks Definitely! And the expectations people have of themselves.

@@julieannelovesbooks Well yes but.. if he wasn't exceptional he wouldn't have become a Doctor in the first place, which is what the show is all about, hell he almost didn't become one being so, not wanting or preferring him to not be exceptional would get him fired and the show wouldn't exist

@@elisyan4716 I don’t think so. Well, I think what you’re saying would make sense in the context of the show. But I don’t think that’s a reasonable expectation and I don’t hope it’s like that in the real world. Even if you’re on the spectrum you could still be a great surgeon, and there shouldn’t be the need for some superhuman ability to ‘make up for’ the ASD. Even if that is the case I don’t think that should be the case. So if that is the case I think there need to be some changes in our society.

Yes! I love when he does those.

Autistic here. Autism isn't an illness or a disorder. It's a neurotype and a disability. The rhetoric about curing autism is not only obsolete but also very harmful to the community and the individuals. It is the premise of ABA therapy, a conversion therapy for autistic people to be trained through abuse to act neurotypical and repress their autistic traits. ABA was created by the very same man who created conversion therapy for LGBTQ+ people. Anything that operates on the premise of "curing" autism" or detecting it early enough for us to be aborted for the sole reason that we are autistics rather than better understanding us in order to better accommodate us is just so ableist, eugenist and problematic in so many other ways.

@@laulaurenni I find it fascinating the differences between different types of physical and mental disabilities/disorders etc. Most Autistics I've known are not embarissed or ashamed or feel that they should "change" despite how debilitating some of the symptoms can be per different individuals. But I know a significant number of people with ADHD and I'm about 85% sure that if you could offer to magically "cure" their ADHD, that most of us would leap at the chance. I find this a very interesting difference because both conditions drastically influence the way you think, your personality, your interests, your education/grades, your independence, your social skills etc. Some Autistics and ADHDers are completely functional for the most part but some of us truly struggle. It's also interesting to compare conditions like blindness and deafness (I'm hard of hearing myself). I think people underestimate how much these conditions can influence a person's identity (positively and negatively). Many people who are born deaf who could potentially be made to hear through cochlear implants will opt not to because it's taboo in the deaf community and many feel its too overwhelming or unnecessary. Most people who have had hearing (like myself) will jump at the chance to hear again and need to in order to interact with the world. It's seen as almost insulting to "leave" the deaf community. I think it's a good comparison to the Autistic community vs the ADHD community. But oppositely, I'm fairly certain that everyone who's blind or gone blind would absolutely want to be able to see. But ADHD ers absolutely have a community and it absolutely influences who we are. I wouldn't change having had ADHD all my life until this point but for me personally if I could be "cured" right now and not have ADHD for the rest of my life... I'd take that chance. At 27 I'm pretty much who I am and I'm likely to stay who I am for the rest of my life and my ADHD made me. I'm not ashamed of my ADHD but I would like to not be held back by it for the rest of my life. In my personal situation my Severe ADHD is quite debilitating in every area of my life. It's like trying to get through life without arms sometimes. If I could cure that, I would.

Lol true . Looking back , he evolved so much as a character .

@@sandavijithminirathnayake7033 Yeah, I totally agree. I can't believe how they ended his ark.

@@kalea134 yeah it literally broke my heart and he did honestly deserve happiness 😭

from him telling that he will stuck to suction in er to he telling “we need murphy”

Thanks for sharing. We could all do with a lot more compassion in the world

Thanks, I was looking for a comment about this. My assessment highlighted both hypersensitivity and hyposensitivity for the same senses. Sensitivity is fluid. There are time when I will seek out olfactive stimuli like encens, scented candles and many other times when the smell of unscented wax (unless it is beeswax) burning or even just from having touched said candle is unbearable and drives me insane. Same for noise, back when I used to not have a laundry room and have the washing machine in a space that couldn't be closed off, I would have regular melt-downs and panic attacks from to the amount of noise a regular cycle would expose me to without me being able to shut it down or lock myself away from it. Just my cat licking a plastic bag frantically before I get to feeding him in my morning routine is often overwhelming. But at times, I will actively seek out loud music and listen to one song on repeat for extended periods of time as a means of stimming. As a kid and teen, way before I was aware I am autistic, this particular thing with one song on repeat felt like I couldn't listen to it loud enough since I really wanted to hear it like the song was playing inside my head and invading all my senses. Now, I recognise the stimulation I seek through this, besides being entransed by the music I love, is that I get electric impulses from parts of my brain to other parts or down my spine to my body and along my arms and fingers, like an exciting, tingly massage, triggered by specific sound or variations in melody. But I don't think I'd be aware of that now if I hadn't had epileptic seizures since then. Because extra electric activity in my brain and to my body became a warning sign I got hyper-vigilant to before I grew confident enough in my treatment. And since the sensation I get from music is much milder, I don't think I would've picked up on it without first experiencing epilepsy. As for proprioception, I certainly don't have it as bad as you, but I do keep bumping into stuff even in spaces I know well, like home and I don't move things around much so that wouldn't be why, I tend to be very clumsy to the point that sometimes, when I pick something up that I'm really afraid to break, I'll grip on it extra-tight to the point that it's uncomfortable or even painful, until I know it's securely in it's place and only let go once it's practically impossible for it to fall, get knocked off or move even if I release it. As a kid, I used to fall a lot and my mom believed it must because I had "small" feet, according to her... but in hindsight, that was probably my undiagnosed autism and poor proprioception. And at times, I can't feel where my body ends and get anxious, so before I had my wheighted blanket, I'd get the urge to wrap myself very tightly in a plaid, repeatedly stretch and release my extremities, the muscles in my face too. Now, I just get under my weighted blanket, stim with my squishy stress-relieving ball, etc... but I still mask a lot even when alone, I still need to unlearn the fear of being caught stimming in more obvious, socially unacceptable ways. My diagnosis is recent, so I didn't feel comfortable to do so before hand because of imposter syndrome, since suspicions regarding ASD arose quite late for me. And it's frustrating because of how much it inhibits my overall wellbeing and ability to self-regulate and sometimes prevent melt-downs. I'm still learning and really miss connection with other autistic people IRL.

Hi Zeibura...on the spectrum too. I have some traits that are similar to Shaun but play out differently due to interests. I was obsessed with movie dates and release dates. I know thousands and thousands now. I can also memorize information easily when interested. For example, I was able to relay almost every word of the first episode of Hannibal back after seeing it once. (Normally I struggle with spoken language and have auditory processing issues, but I was focused intently.) I feel like Shaun's special interests is all things biology and medicine related and those are great special interests ;) Practical. Mine were never so practical. Oh, the whole trait of people with autism getting anxious when stuff is moved I do feel is slightly overplayed. However, I have learned that those on the spectrum actually are more prone to have OCD than the general population. I am awaiting to be assessed for OCD but my issues have nothing to do with things being moved. I am phobic of fire and check outlets, the stove, candles etc. obsessively (even though I hardly ever turn the oven on.) I am a checker in general. It gets worse when stressed. Take care!

I am on the spectrum and have synaesthesia. I also have a history of seizures which are more commonplace too.

I was thinking about this. I'm not sure what has been changed, but I believe that both this version and the original South Korean version are based loosely on the live of a real doctor that dealt with the challenges of being accepted to practice due to his ASD.

Exactly. Even liked that more than this remake but the US actor is brilliant.

@@shigatsuningen I'm pretty sure Freddie Highmore is actually British. He does make a convincing American accent though

@@ChaoticMushy the original is South Korean.

@@shigatsuningen I know that. You said the "us actor" was good but Freddie Highmore is British :/

I am on the spectrum and am very awkward. Part of that is the ASD. Most of if is the fact that I have social anxiety disorder and I talk more if anxious. As I have been working on reducing my anxiety, my awkwardness is less apparent. 🙃