It seemed to take forever for me to break the trauma bonds. After 33 years of abusive marriage, he decided to “come clean”about his wh0re in another city, I grieved that information for 6 months, and then his cancer spread and it was me who took care of him for his last few months. I grieved his death and that first year was incredibly painful, especially having to figure everything out (he was financially abusive). It’s been over a year and I made it! I took care of all the business things(better than he ever did), I’m so grateful to see sunsets, have peace in my life, have control over my life and am enjoying my time with genuine people who care. I did go through some therapy and I think it helped a lot. It also helped me to think of him as being broken, my anger has been replaced by compassion and forgiveness and I’m feeling much better

Just discovered EFIT. Sounds wonderful.

Much of this video spoke to me, but what if you have no meaningful emotional connections at all? I have only had two short-term relationships, both of which were at least ten years ago and lasted less than one year. The friends I consider close almost to a person live far away and I'm not sure they hold me in reciprocal regard. I have no core group of friends in my hometown (New York City, a city of almost nine million!) whom I see more than one-offs or very rarely. I can't remember the last time I had emotional or physical intimacy. My trauma from inconsistent parenting as a child is only exacerbated by repeated negative experiences trying to make friends, find community, or meet potential partners. The loneliness--and the frustration at not seeing progress for all of my efforts--is only barely tolerable.

How was the connection event. let me know if it is re-hosted. or there are other videos related...