“We have to care about our children more then we care about our career, and degrees”. That was a mouth full🙌🏾

As grown women we have to call out the R Kelly types in our own communities, those close to us, even if it's your man. I hate when women call little girls "fast". Stop choosing men over your children! I agree with Ms. Iyanla. Make time for your children, spend time with them and get to know them so you'll see if something is off about them. This is not an easy conversation to have but I think that's the best place to start. Be active in your children's lives.

This “get back to a place” argument is disingenuous. The generation before me and before that had similar issues. This generation is talking about it. In that place, we kept it in the family, kept it quiet. When have we ever valued our children over ourselves? We need to get to a new place because that place, back then, was trash too.

Thank you Sis-Stars! Yes, young girls have been prey for a long time. I get so upset when someone says a young girl is fast. Young girls in communities are mistreated and no one holds mature men accountable for the mistreatment of our females'. Female trauma is real as a result.

Amen, as a community we must do better by our children!

Dream can’t stop talking and so glad iyanla said take a breath.

Professor Karen I am forever thankful for these conversations I wish my mother could be alive to see how far Black women have come and are able to discuss these topics openly. I am glad for these conversations because others area are revealed such as women who blame other women for their own rape and abuse, women who shame other women for taking care of themselves in the form of resisting a potential abuser or rapist. Both Men and women alike participant in a space of either being resentful, jealous and hateful of women. I am forever thankful for this segment Professor Karen.

When I was in 8th grade my best friend was dating a 18 year old since 7th grade. So,I believe this happens more often than we like. I wish this issue is discussed more in the open and so we can began to heal as a community.

I don't think Iyanla was conflating the stories but wanting us to understand that we must have several conversations about the lack of accountability overall. For every person that support R. Kelly you have another justifying that behavior bc they use WAP as an example that all black young girls are FAST and was looking to be raped or molested! Let's have the WHOLE conversation‼️

Am with Iyanla. Dream seems to be putting blame on men. However, where is the responsibility of the parents to give their children the language and permission to speak up. I remember one Sunday morning after Sunday School a deacon gave me a dollar and told me what a cute little girl i was. I was happy because I was thinking about all the candy I could buy before church service. But knew I had to tell my mother because she had instructed me to report touch, language, gifts. She drugged me back to the deacon and asked him if he gave me the dollar. He said yes. My mother snatched the dollar out of my hand and told him to never give me anything. That was her job. She turned to me and told me never to accepted anything from him or ANY man. There went my candy money for church. When we got home my mother sat me down and told me he gave me money for candy this time and the next time it would be for something else. Parents these days do not have the sex talk with their children (females and males) giving the language and permission to report and then to believe their children when they do. My question to Dream has she given this knowledge and permission to her children. Start in YOUR house, train your children. Like Iyanla sais HER mother KNEW her and immediately knew something was off and it was pregnancy.

Iyanla: A consummate counselor and guide. She was correct to challenge what is our point to the ppl listening? The other guest honed in on attacking the Bible, using Black male entertainers as examples of a bigger social hyper sexual problem. Dream is so far down the R Kelly rabbit hole! She’s on a feminist agenda.Iyanla bowed out because she was being marginalized and the interview session was wack.

Great conversation sisters and thanks for this space on healing because our children must come FIRST. Always enjoy Dr. Vanzant's perspective on how to recover and move forward....

The bible is not problematic.

I’m triggered. I’m breathing and still in therapy. This is a much needed discussion. Men should have an honest.conversation among themselves so these crimes of abuse will stop.

What a strange place we find ourselves when wap is defended by functional BLACK women.

Thank you for not quitting

I am thankful this conversation ended with a deep breath 🙌🏾 we cannot move towards a better tomorrow if we don't employ the tools we have that will allow healing ❤

I love the convo about consent. Working in SA really taught me to teach my sons about consent. Men don't get consent.

Now those abused can release and begin their healing process. Continue to speak out. Put truth above 💰.

Women and men are to be held accountable for their actions. One hand can't clap.

A great deal of court officers also cover up child sex abuse or child trafficking.

What's good about WAP? Lots of women don't respect themselves or anyone else and this society refuses to hold them accountable.

I'm constantly being harassed not to keep speaking up about my children rapes by their father who's a well connected doctor. My children aren't living their lives in a strong manor they fear him. I'm 60 years old with health issues my exhusband caused. Ongoing crimes he's getting away with. Some of My own family members along with his aunt bow down to my exhusband. A attoney told me your case is bigger then the Penn State scandled. Trapped in my own city and state on not getting help.

The story that Malcolm was awakened in prison is a myth, and we should ask who this myth serves. It ignores the political family he was raised in, especially the role his mother played in the Garvey movement that sent the family to Nebraska in the first place to do its work. It especially ignores the fact that as an adult Malcolm was attending Communist Party USA meetings in NYC and was befriended and being recruited into the Party by Party member Vicki Garvin, who was a friend and roommate to Maya Angelou. Garvin says they saw something in the young man Malcolm Little. Garvin intimates that Malcolm found the Party lacking in something and declined to join. So while we seem so versed in talking about how prison [further] damages Black men - and pathologizing Black men generally - let's talk about how life outside can damage a brilliant, politically astute young Black man, like Malcolm Little, and make him into the criminal that begins our narrative of him.

Thank you for this important conversation.

I'm so happy I chose not to have kids. I can't imagine what people who have kids have to go through. This evil world doesn't deserve kids

You are right about Mike Tyson You should have heard some of the things this old man who lived next door to my parents had said to me. She asked for it, she deserved it to she planned it. I asked who came and got her and took to his place. Please tell me that Miss Black American is not produced anymore because l believed the producers or someone else were complicit in making her accessible.

I remember hearing about the rumor surrounding R Kelly and Aaliyah’s marriage but I didn’t think it was true. Also, I thought if it were true, her parents, guardians and record label, etc. would have pushed the issue not the public. They didn’t so I figured it wasn’t as egregious or true. Plus, I was way too busy trying to finish college.

I would like to speak to this lady who produced this documentary. Dr. Phil assistant producer called my exhusband 2011 he declin to come on the show. Some of My exhusband a medical doctor exmilitary ran for mayor patients & nurses complained about sexual abusive and assaults. I to am from detroit. He have control over all our children and run a program for children for the past 30 plus years at Wayne state medical school and a worker saw him abuse children. My 21 year old is kept from me by his father who drug him up. He has control over our daughter in law and our grandchildren. I've been trying to get help for years. Please contact me.

I’m from Chicago and honestly R Kelly music made my ears bleed. And I love all kinds of music but yes there is a line of too ratchet and I think that’s what Dr. Vanzant was referring to. We have to ask ourselves as a community where is the line drawn? If we’re going to have a full discussion of what we’re allowing to happen in front of our faces. Otherwise great show as per usual.

Singing about your WAP does not reflect self respect to me. If you don’t respect yourself, others will struggle to respect you as well.

Lucifer will never enter a room without permission.

Peace, Sisters!

Dream Hampton made the hit piece documentary from Jay Z orders

My exhusband pit our children against one another even against me. It's a hellish battle for over 20 years. He brags how he can beat the system and how stupid prosecutor's are and how the f.b.i will cover a crime for information that their interested in. His own aunt state he know corrupt judges and prosecutor's.

This is definitely bigger than R-Kelly. I knew someone who's child stated her step-dad molested her and she was very detailed to the police! Charges were dropped because of her mother and lack of evidence. Now the young girl changed her story and said it was a lie. But was it really? Now this woman is still married to this man and the poor child lives in silence. Sad part predators never stop they just get craftier. This woman cared more about stability than her child's safety is beyond me. We gotta do better

Iyanla checked out of that conversation 5 to 10 minutes into it when Dream dismissed her first response to the R Kelly situation. I think Dream was disrespectful and she monopolized the conversation.

Random thought, Iyanla reminds me so much of my grandmother. The reason she reminds me of her is because she was the mother to my aunt who became pregnant at 15 by my uncle (by marriage). In those times no one thought of statutory rape, you just married the woman that you impregnated to prevent a bastard child. Today if my uncle did that even with marriage he would have had charges against him. Our family never really talked about it. Karen I love your platform. I'm already a deep thinker but your topics make me think about the intricacies within my family and beyond. #teamtaurus

Great show!

RIGHTEOUS FATHER & SOVEREIGN RULER of all I pray: let no harm come to Mr. Kelly. Send your angels to minister to him. I ask YOU, to free him, & expose the unfairness and lies that they used to entrap him. He is coming out. By the POWER and AUTHORITY of YOUR MESSIAH, our KING!!

Would love to hear more from dream about learning women ain't nothing but Bs and Hs from Genesis. Wondering what chapter and verse that came from?

I hate that it took so long!

Let Ilyana talk b/c there is a problem with WAP - on one hand yes, we want a WAP it's healthy but the relationship to the degradation of women and girls - 4 years old shouldn't' know these lyrics is related to men's/boys degradation.

We love you dream God bless the survivors he paid off sparkle family we love sparkle 💖

Some people have such a narrow view of assault. Assault happens in every corner of this world, not just people with access to the trappings of a society that makes explicit content more available. How does WAP justify the assault of people who have never heard of Cardi B or Meg the Stallion; to children who just want to play all day? Come the fuck on already. Start having real conversations of where people learn that abusing other people is okay and stop that learned behavior. Get real

I can listen and learn from y’all ladies allll day

It has nothing to do with this conversation but for the record I dont like WAP. I am no prude but a lot of female rappers promote stripper/ho culture and it's almost impossible to shield my girls from such mature conversation because its played everywhere with no regard to appropriateness. Its like people dont shield children from adult conversations anymore. As a grown woman, I just think the song aint that good and I dont like how black women in that industry seem to be forced into an overly sexual image. They cant be successful being their regular selves. Theres no diversity there. i dont think most are choosing that. The industry puts pressure on them because its a male dominated industry where white males control who is promoted

I agree with Iyanla Hampton mentioned open testimony in the court but I don’t think she mentioned the many lies that were proven 🤷🏾‍♀️ I’m just sick of hearing about all of this

So dream is a filmmaker and writer not a psychologist…I appreciate Iyanla giving perspective of the mind and sickness

It took me a long time to have sex because I believed, my parents would know, and I cared about how they would feel.

HERE LIES THE PROBLEM!!

Awesome!!!!

Why aren't these three women the norm instead of the exception? The sickness of the r. kelly saga has made me finally fully believe that Jah's judgement has begun on us all. We are all responsible for our generational r. kellys.

🙌🏾🌎🙌🏾🌎🙌🏾🌎🙌🏾❤️

I believe that the R. Kelly Trial, addressed many things I feel and in all truth it all does not fall just on him, but on all those involved, from the parents, to the people who worked with him. as Geraldine Warren stated in her comment, “We have to care about our children more then we care about our career, and degrees”. but then my other question is do we not hold the others accountable? Do we not address the parents on there neglect? Do we not truthfully admit and discern that some parents do pimp there children? The case was so deep and in all reality, I don't think the entire truth has been revealed I have several unanswered questions, but my prayer has been that all will be exposed, the TRUTH according to what God says is truth, because we do know that man can present a lie and will call it truth. And its not only that Girls need to be protected, but our boys just as well. We need to really start talking to our children and giving them a foundation to know that its not okay when certain things happen.

This is a disgrace to all real victims….I think people should really know the truth about this story. Yes he was found guilty by 12, but they could have not went through all the testimony/ lies in 9 hours. We all no there a tons of innocent men and women in prison, convicted by 12. To add insult to injury the man was found not guilty in 2008, why is he still being tryed for that stuff in 2021…shame. There is so much commentary/ interviews out on these ladies, the whole thing sounds ridiculous…Do some research.. The way Dominique story was shopped up should constitute a law suite against this lady, she knows the truth…Karma has every one address be careful..Peace to all the real victims in the world..

Karen - You need to have the opposite side of the coin on your show. Far too often, these platforms highlight R Kelly's accusers, producers from Surviving R Kelly, Gloria Allred, the parents - Clarys & Savages, Tarana Burke, etc., but they don't give any airplay to the other side of the coin. I am associated with R Kelly supporters who pooled their resources to both purchase copies of the daily court transcripts and travel to New York to sit in the overflow rooms to view the trial/report back their observations in KZfaq Lives. Based on the transcripts and their reported, it is crystal clear that R Kelly was railroaded and had his Constitutional rights to due process and a fair trial violated on many levels. There are bigger powers at play who have connections to the mainstream media and courts so what truly went on in courtroom was not reported back to the masses. To be on the right side of history, it would be in your best interest to get the other side of your coin on the show to tell R Kelly's side because it is very disingenuous to report one side and have the clueless-ignorant thinking one way while ignoring the other side.. There are going to be a lot of black folk in serious regret when the truth comes out and they never took the time to seek it.

I'm glad Karen and dream checked Iyanla about bringing up "WAP." That has nothing to do with R Kelly. Consent Auntie! Consent. How we view girls and women as human beings is the issue.

Lawd Iyanla has a major problem holding Black men accountable. How did a conversation go from predatory men like RKelly to WAP? & going back to back in her day ain't the solution either because she is a survivor herself so her community didnt protect her either.

Dream Hampton she's looking for the bag💰💰💰

Thank you, Ms. Hampton!!

Ms. Hampton please contact me asap.

Since I'm not from Chicago, I never knew any of this and years later when I heard the 'rumor' that he married Aaliyah. I didn't think it was true. 'Age ain't nothing but a number " I was a kid and I wasn't thinking of grown man preying on kids. Now I can see... it's sad

All I know is this is too hot for tv

Can a child molester be healed?

How was he able to get off the first time?