Good for you 🥳 👏👏👏

OMG Im feeling so old and ugly, and useless at 74. And avoiding hip, knee, and a few other surgical repairs... ❤ I just cannot figure out how to get through it

@@deejewell4831 My mom used too say...Growing Old is not for sissys....shes right on that one.

Life is a gift. I often just sit and veg out in a depressed state, but even one small accomplishment is making à différence. Thanks Dr. Eilers!!

Awesome ❤🎉

Thank you!

Amazing! Thanks for your summary

Well, I'm already trying the first one, but that makes me consider utilitising the zeroth one, because, well, ADHD. I can get a notification of a message I need to respond to, which gets me to actually pick the phone up, but there'll be something else in the queue ahead of it that I forgot about or postponed earlier and only realise about again when I pick it up, and then, boom, it's thirty minutes later, I've gone down a rabbit hole with that, and I've forgotten what I grabbed the phone for and have to have a moment explaining that out loud to someone so my brain will actually reprocess back to the correct spot and I can do the actual thing then put it down after. Like literally happened yesterday evening whilst I was at my mother's and the message was something relevant to a conversation we were actually having... not sure if I'd have figured it out without relying on the unread-message repeat alarm utility I have installed. Certainly there's no games etc on there, I use it as a communication and information retrieval device (maps, googling things, etc) and camera and that's it, maybe very occasionally a music player. But the communication apps alone can eat a lot of time if I get pulled into a conversation. Also it's quite infantilising and dismissive to call what I'm doing there as "nothing". It's about all the socialisation I get most days. Life is fairly lonely outside of a few hours on the weekend. Or I'm actually learning stuff. Etc. It sounds like the infuriating flippant judgement of a generation-gapped parent who doesn't care to actually find out what their kid is doing or interested in. I'm not reading celebrity gossip blogs. And even if I was, that's something, just not anything good. I was doing "nothing", I'd be staring at a blank screen. Likewise the third one, I'm simply not functional without sufficient stimulants in my system, and I can't get a prescription at this time. I know the caffiene is a bad idea, but it's all I've got as I can't stomach soda-style energy drinks. I've tried cutting it out. Didn't go well. It's bad enough that I've had to cut the sugar because of borderline type 2 diabetes ... had to increase the coffee strength to compensate. Second, define "need", especially as I'm out of work and operating to a very limited budget anyway, I ain't collecting anime figurines over here; ditto, what's a special date count as in the Eighth? Seeing family for dinner and a bit of time with the nephews, or something more extravagant (again, where's the money come from, as going to the cinema for one particular film that I was determined not to miss was a stretch)? What's an important reminder for the Twelvth, if you're someone with serious trouble decision-making over wheat vs chaff? My to-do lists end up filling entire printer-page size lined-notebook pages, in two columns with other stuff jammed in the margins when I remember it later. Fourth, Fifth and Seventh happen reasonably regularly, so eh. Ninth, I thought we were supposed to be getting out of the endless reading hole? Most of what I'd be interested in, nonfiction, right now, would be in the same self help arena, or basically a podcast transcript about some real-life thing, which I may as well listen to whilst, say, doing the laundry, or trying to get to sleep, instead of losing time to by consuming it in visual form. Eleventh, I'll refer you to the First again. Very bad at scheduling whether electronically or on paper, but that IS a good way to have me looking at my phone again, at exactly the worst time, unless it's a reminder for something in the afternoon that goes off in the morning and tells me to put a timed alarm on my watch. Probably I should get a smart speaker of some kind, which can bug me with verbal reminders, but, quite honestly, to hell with that idea, on a privacy basis. I have a friend who has somehow hacked theirs to be free of all the spyware ... I ain't got time (or, again, money) for that. Ironic bootstrapping problem perhaps? Besides it's just one more electronic nanny that I'll end up telling to F off whilst jamming a pillow over my head, or desperately trying to finish some other task before its own deadline. Probably could work on the Sixth as I guess I don't make an _organised_ go of that, more unknotting muscles when they get tense, and it's a bit of an issue. Maybe the Tenth too, on better days, so long as, say, "walked to the shops and made an appointment I've had a request letter for at the doctor, including picking up a sample tube" would count. Though that only took thirty seconds. So, like ... I guess this is meant for depressed neurotypical people and probably not aimed at folks like myself, or am I misinterpreting something? (mind that all this was written paused after the first point was read through... and yes, it's not like it's a new concept, just presented differently, or that I know it's a bad idea, and even that I should be carrying on with what I sat down to do at the computer right now instead of commenting - I only pulled up YT for some background sound whilst going through a whole load of pre-shred archive document scanning and intended to play music instead - but it's actually keeping that idea in mind *at the same time as* what I'm trying to do, when monotropism takes hold... and I'm wondering if the rest of them will provoke the same reaction when they're verbalised) edit: _restarts the playback_ oh OK we weren't even finished with the first point. Watched a bit further before re-pausing in something between distress and disgust. We're actually now about a third of the way into the video and still on point 1, and it's become an excuse for bragging about all the things he's done, which isn't going to make the rest of us feel any better, especially if what's happening is the free time we get is at the end of a day of hard work and we're too wrecked to actually do that much more. I'm not a doctor, I'm pretty low on the career tree (OK, more like, for various reasons I've never even really got beyond swinging off the lowest branch, including with a recent attempt at changing direction), I don't have anything I can run outpatient clinics for or whatever. And that itself is just _doing extra work..._ which is often kind of WHY I'm burned out. I also therefore don't exactly have a large home, I don't have any space (or money) to build a home gym, and if I did, the downstairs neighbours would complain. Woo, thanks for making me feel even worse about my life than I already did, doc. Perhaps an example of what someone in the same kind of hole as those you're trying to help, and what simpler and more humble - but, for a lot of us, still seemingly out of reach - things they did once they found the extra time might be better, rather than holding all that crap over our heads. Plus, well, if you've made it to doctor, you're probably far more functional in daily NT-world modern life than everyone in my segment, so you're starting from higher on the ladder anyway. ...So yeah, I'm out, I'm going to spend the remaining 24 minutes that would have been blown on this video actually playing background music and getting some more of my old documents digitised. NVM the time spent writing this of course 9_9

Thank you!! It was helpful to look through the list instead of wasting time by listening on the phone 😉😉👌

Thank-you for writing this all down? I thought to myself oh I should have been writing all of this down and will have to listen again. Which would be just fine of course. So thanks again for thinking to do this!!!😁

He's mediocre and meandering at best...try Anthony De Mello Vernon Howard and especially Albert Ellis.

@@bobhope5114 There's someone for everyone. But I do like his format because it feels like a session with a therapist. I don't think this would necessarily be better if it were edited to retain the interest of fifteen-year-olds.

I've learned more about myself in the last 2 days, than the 30 years!

Is absolutely one of few

That's why I keep coming back. No other channel feels like therapy home.

I think because he actually struggles with mental health, he truly UNDERSTANDS. I am already seeing improvements in my life because of his advice

I just stumbled onto him and that is my immediate response as well. He's amazing!

Couldn't agree more. So many tools.

Amen and Amen👍👍

If most of us simply do what's advised here - our lives will change dramatically. (Certainly for myself anyway).

I’m watching this rn from bed after spending all day here. Thanks for giving me hope

@@littlewillowlinda start super small and celebrate every victory (being able to get out of bed even to the couch). Focus on the things that will improve your mood/energy/attention and start there. (For me it was/is diet, exercise and most importantly sleep.) Good luck to you!

@littlewillowlinda There's hope, lots of hope, so long as you're still breathing. Could you get a copy of "Why We Sleep" as suggested by @ripple_on_the_ocean above who said it was very helpful? Perhaps set up a plan as they did? Perhaps talk to each other? I know that's hard and that a phone can weigh 500 pounds, but it's doable. Have you tried setting one goal for yourself? This could be your first if @ripple_on_the_ocean were to agree. You might want to run that by Dr. Scott first as he is trained but even better, he has lived this predicament. The hard part will be putting your plan into action. Once you do, you'll be on your way and feel a strong sense of accomplishment. Once you've taken the first step, that could motivate you to keep going. 🙏💗 Good luck with your journey. I've been in your position, too.

Matthew Walker is great, you can find many informative interviews with him here on KZfaq.

@@sacredpaw awesome thanks for the heads up! I can't shut up about his book since I read it. I need some new content to annoy my friends with haha

@@melissakeller2644 I totally understand, I just gave up! I still don’t understand why I don’t wash the dishes and make my kitchen look like it used to!

Agreed, the time I spend on stupidly astounds me…..yet nothing I do seems help reduce it long term. Might have to buy a phone vault !

Same here. It's scary.

It's become a huge problem for me, too.

Same. I never thought it would happen to me. The shorts are rotting my mind 😮

@@CentaurPressshorts are the worst. I have many clients and acquaintances that get hooked on these. One short that looks interesting, turns into “1+ hour later “ 😂 What’s frustrates me is @KZfaq don’t allow you to switch that crap off from showing up

I hope you’re doing okay. Wishing you a good day and week.🎉

Must be different...like a fish out of water.....I live in Big Sur , Calif . And we do have Our problems...but fully understand where your coming from .

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God im soo sorry you live in oklahoma out of all places

Hating random stuff is bad for you.

Or do to learn in this case :)

Me too!

Me, too!!! ❤

Same here

A bit dramatic?

To take this one step further: although I've watched > 100 videos on your channel and Huberman's and diary of a CEO and many others that have provided me with all the input I need to improve things, I still seem to think I'd rather watch 20 more videos dealing with the same questions rather than putting any effort into implementing step one. Maybe you could make a video (if you haven't already) stressing that nothing is going to improve in your life unless you put some effort in (which will be a pain and not necessarily give you an immediate short term benefit) rather than going for the comfortable way, such as hoping that the next video you watch on youtube will change your life just by watching it.

The Same Here, as with "Dackel 1972" (previous commenter ; and Thank You, Dear Dackel 😊) .... BUT, - I - have Another, likely More Menacing thief of my New motivation; Morbid grief Knocks Me Back Against the wall behind me, stealing away Every Speck of Splendid Determination I have managed to muster up!!!!! Then I Deflate like a Tight Balloon as I try to move on a task I Want To Do. Because it's Then I remember that my husband (45years) is NOT With Me & Won't Be Returning. He's been buried for the last 8 years ... unforseen suicide. We were Both Independent Individuals, with Both individual Interests AND Joint Interests. We 'worked' our daily lives & routines Successfully & Blissfully Together. Like trapeze Artists!!! It was 'Our Recipe' for such a Long, Wonderful marriage. I 'wilt & fold' before I ever stand up to move forward. And withdraw to 'safe place' in my room. Where I cry and 'remember' that he's GONE, for the Rest of My Life. ....... ☹️😰😱😖🤧 . ???????????? (bless you, Every One. ) .... M.

Same ...

Take pictures..it might help you see your victory! 🎉🎉🎉

🗣️💯🙏🏽

Love it

Amen!!!!​@@NikkiaSings

So do I. We just found other ways to waste our time, often even more insular or damaging than social media use is. TV binging. Alcoholism. So on and so forth. It's not like we were all hyper productive and/or creative powerhouses before Facebook came along, and there's still plenty enough of those people in the world even now. Some of them only even have those outlets or ability to work because of the selfsame technology.

Thank you!

Best Dr to discuss😀 concrete steps to improve specific situations in life rather than just theory to forget it when off the video Great job

How old are you now ?? Me too since 15 yrd now I’am 38. Highs and lows in my journey. Hope I could pull it off coz I had shown resilience before KZfaq resources and now I’am experienced and have KZfaq resources like Dr Scott, which will help my fight less challenging.

Yes! My ex is the exact same way. The inconsiderate phone use was a huge problem in our relationship. I've actually considered going back to a flip phone.

Meditate... Maybe don't be waiting for external approval of your personal progress...

Hard agree! Absolutely love you Dr Scott. You're saving so many of us, thank you for being the one person who's managed to get me up, dressed and feeling a glimmer of hope for the first time in months x

Don't allow your self be used, lied to,avoid caffeine, and don't allow yourself be disrespected.Words of experience folks.

Same! I usually find the advice on this channel to be within reach of attainability but man, this video is making me feel terrible about myself

If all you can do is sit up in bed, do only that. From another of Dr Scott's videos: You have thrive days and survive days. On thrive days, when you are not completely drained by the end of the day, you can aim to do a little more so your future self can thank you for that. On survive days you do what you are capable of, so you can have a future self. ❤

@grimsqueaker5333 Thank you for reaching out to me with your helpful advice, you're absolutely right. I've kind have broken the cycle somewhat, due to an emergency trip to the hospital where I spent 3 weeks, it's got me eating a little too, something that I couldn't do before. I'm determined not to go back to my old ways as even though I've only been back home 24 hours, I had shower, immediately, make up a fresh bed, disinfect and tidy my hospital stuff away etc, and I've been feeling much better for it. I'm really proud of myself for breaking that vicious cycle and like you say, I am going to have bad days ahead but at least I can remind myself that I can do this. Thanks again, I really appreciate you taking the time to care. Warm wishes xx

@@missyme2673go for Keto diet . I had gone through terrible episodes but since started keto diet I’am improving a lot .

Oooh! I forgot about doodling! TY!

You are a soul having an experience in physical form 😉🌟

So what am I meant to do in those first two hours where I can barely crank my eyes open and might be expected to drive across town then concentrate on complicated technical work? Don't say "just wake up earlier" because that'll just encourage me to go back to inventing a way to slap people in the face over the internet.

@tahrey Sorry, I haven't seen any suggestions on that other than take a week vacation without caffeine to see if that resets your body systems and dependence.

@@tahrey 💛 Maybe work on the other dozen ideas first? Maybe get around to the caffeinated beverage item last? Maybe then switch to Half-Caff? ~ Caffeine ☕ Queen

Yes. I completely agree.

That's a great topic. I've gotten a little better about doing that but have a long way to go. I may have already suggested that to Dr. Scott.

Me too

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