I am 93 and recovering from a broken hip and broken arm 2 years ago. I walk 1/2 mile a day and feel great. I nearly always have to talk myself into exercising. Often it’s difficult to get going but the battle is at the point of taking the first step. Once I start I always finish and I feel so much better. 🎉
@PattyDalmau4 ай бұрын
Good for you 🥳 👏👏👏
@deejewell48314 ай бұрын
OMG Im feeling so old and ugly, and useless at 74. And avoiding hip, knee, and a few other surgical repairs... ❤ I just cannot figure out how to get through it
@lindarullo14473 ай бұрын
@@deejewell4831 My mom used too say...Growing Old is not for sissys....shes right on that one.
@amber404943 ай бұрын
Life is a gift. I often just sit and veg out in a depressed state, but even one small accomplishment is making à différence. Thanks Dr. Eilers!!
@lpfx7773 ай бұрын
Awesome ❤🎉
@adamrosefire7 ай бұрын
Bonus reason - be careful who you listen to. 1 - do not pick up your phone unless it is for a very specific reason 2 - don’t buy anything you don’t need. 3 - just one caffeinated beverage per day within four hours of waking up. 4 - eat three meals per day. 5 - have a maximum of one alcoholic drink per week. 6 - 5 to 10 minutes of stretching and mobility work every day. 7 - regular exercise 3 to 5 times per week, of about 20 to 30 minutes every time. 8 - go out on a special ‘date’ once a week, whether it is with yourself, a significant other, or family. 9 - read one nonfiction book every month. 10 - take five minutes at the end of the day to do a victory journal, where you list all of your wins. 11 - schedule important self-care activities into your phone. Don’t leave them to memory. 12 - look at a list of important reminders every day, first thing in the morning. I believe I got them all, but perhaps I condensed two into one. I think these are fantastic recommendations, and exercise alone for me is such a huge one.
@nancydoak32857 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@vanessaseatang29417 ай бұрын
Amazing! Thanks for your summary
@tahrey7 ай бұрын
Well, I'm already trying the first one, but that makes me consider utilitising the zeroth one, because, well, ADHD. I can get a notification of a message I need to respond to, which gets me to actually pick the phone up, but there'll be something else in the queue ahead of it that I forgot about or postponed earlier and only realise about again when I pick it up, and then, boom, it's thirty minutes later, I've gone down a rabbit hole with that, and I've forgotten what I grabbed the phone for and have to have a moment explaining that out loud to someone so my brain will actually reprocess back to the correct spot and I can do the actual thing then put it down after. Like literally happened yesterday evening whilst I was at my mother's and the message was something relevant to a conversation we were actually having... not sure if I'd have figured it out without relying on the unread-message repeat alarm utility I have installed. Certainly there's no games etc on there, I use it as a communication and information retrieval device (maps, googling things, etc) and camera and that's it, maybe very occasionally a music player. But the communication apps alone can eat a lot of time if I get pulled into a conversation. Also it's quite infantilising and dismissive to call what I'm doing there as "nothing". It's about all the socialisation I get most days. Life is fairly lonely outside of a few hours on the weekend. Or I'm actually learning stuff. Etc. It sounds like the infuriating flippant judgement of a generation-gapped parent who doesn't care to actually find out what their kid is doing or interested in. I'm not reading celebrity gossip blogs. And even if I was, that's something, just not anything good. I was doing "nothing", I'd be staring at a blank screen. Likewise the third one, I'm simply not functional without sufficient stimulants in my system, and I can't get a prescription at this time. I know the caffiene is a bad idea, but it's all I've got as I can't stomach soda-style energy drinks. I've tried cutting it out. Didn't go well. It's bad enough that I've had to cut the sugar because of borderline type 2 diabetes ... had to increase the coffee strength to compensate. Second, define "need", especially as I'm out of work and operating to a very limited budget anyway, I ain't collecting anime figurines over here; ditto, what's a special date count as in the Eighth? Seeing family for dinner and a bit of time with the nephews, or something more extravagant (again, where's the money come from, as going to the cinema for one particular film that I was determined not to miss was a stretch)? What's an important reminder for the Twelvth, if you're someone with serious trouble decision-making over wheat vs chaff? My to-do lists end up filling entire printer-page size lined-notebook pages, in two columns with other stuff jammed in the margins when I remember it later. Fourth, Fifth and Seventh happen reasonably regularly, so eh. Ninth, I thought we were supposed to be getting out of the endless reading hole? Most of what I'd be interested in, nonfiction, right now, would be in the same self help arena, or basically a podcast transcript about some real-life thing, which I may as well listen to whilst, say, doing the laundry, or trying to get to sleep, instead of losing time to by consuming it in visual form. Eleventh, I'll refer you to the First again. Very bad at scheduling whether electronically or on paper, but that IS a good way to have me looking at my phone again, at exactly the worst time, unless it's a reminder for something in the afternoon that goes off in the morning and tells me to put a timed alarm on my watch. Probably I should get a smart speaker of some kind, which can bug me with verbal reminders, but, quite honestly, to hell with that idea, on a privacy basis. I have a friend who has somehow hacked theirs to be free of all the spyware ... I ain't got time (or, again, money) for that. Ironic bootstrapping problem perhaps? Besides it's just one more electronic nanny that I'll end up telling to F off whilst jamming a pillow over my head, or desperately trying to finish some other task before its own deadline. Probably could work on the Sixth as I guess I don't make an _organised_ go of that, more unknotting muscles when they get tense, and it's a bit of an issue. Maybe the Tenth too, on better days, so long as, say, "walked to the shops and made an appointment I've had a request letter for at the doctor, including picking up a sample tube" would count. Though that only took thirty seconds. So, like ... I guess this is meant for depressed neurotypical people and probably not aimed at folks like myself, or am I misinterpreting something? (mind that all this was written paused after the first point was read through... and yes, it's not like it's a new concept, just presented differently, or that I know it's a bad idea, and even that I should be carrying on with what I sat down to do at the computer right now instead of commenting - I only pulled up YT for some background sound whilst going through a whole load of pre-shred archive document scanning and intended to play music instead - but it's actually keeping that idea in mind *at the same time as* what I'm trying to do, when monotropism takes hold... and I'm wondering if the rest of them will provoke the same reaction when they're verbalised) edit: _restarts the playback_ oh OK we weren't even finished with the first point. Watched a bit further before re-pausing in something between distress and disgust. We're actually now about a third of the way into the video and still on point 1, and it's become an excuse for bragging about all the things he's done, which isn't going to make the rest of us feel any better, especially if what's happening is the free time we get is at the end of a day of hard work and we're too wrecked to actually do that much more. I'm not a doctor, I'm pretty low on the career tree (OK, more like, for various reasons I've never even really got beyond swinging off the lowest branch, including with a recent attempt at changing direction), I don't have anything I can run outpatient clinics for or whatever. And that itself is just _doing extra work..._ which is often kind of WHY I'm burned out. I also therefore don't exactly have a large home, I don't have any space (or money) to build a home gym, and if I did, the downstairs neighbours would complain. Woo, thanks for making me feel even worse about my life than I already did, doc. Perhaps an example of what someone in the same kind of hole as those you're trying to help, and what simpler and more humble - but, for a lot of us, still seemingly out of reach - things they did once they found the extra time might be better, rather than holding all that crap over our heads. Plus, well, if you've made it to doctor, you're probably far more functional in daily NT-world modern life than everyone in my segment, so you're starting from higher on the ladder anyway. ...So yeah, I'm out, I'm going to spend the remaining 24 minutes that would have been blown on this video actually playing background music and getting some more of my old documents digitised. NVM the time spent writing this of course 9_9
@whitelilycalla7 ай бұрын
Thank you!! It was helpful to look through the list instead of wasting time by listening on the phone 😉😉👌
@junegagnon65067 ай бұрын
Thank-you for writing this all down? I thought to myself oh I should have been writing all of this down and will have to listen again. Which would be just fine of course. So thanks again for thinking to do this!!!😁
@raheelsiddiquei12303 ай бұрын
This is the most real guy i ever seen on KZfaq so far
@bobhope51142 ай бұрын
He's mediocre and meandering at best...try Anthony De Mello Vernon Howard and especially Albert Ellis.
@mi39471Ай бұрын
@@bobhope5114 There's someone for everyone. But I do like his format because it feels like a session with a therapist. I don't think this would necessarily be better if it were edited to retain the interest of fifteen-year-olds.
@denabaldwin3935Ай бұрын
I've learned more about myself in the last 2 days, than the 30 years!
@Sauci4LyfeАй бұрын
Is absolutely one of few
@twistoffate479122 күн бұрын
That's why I keep coming back. No other channel feels like therapy home.
@stevendaniel81266 ай бұрын
This man is a Gold Mine of mental health.... I can listen to him over and over. So valuable.
@claudiat.26626 ай бұрын
I think because he actually struggles with mental health, he truly UNDERSTANDS. I am already seeing improvements in my life because of his advice
@rswalters646 ай бұрын
I just stumbled onto him and that is my immediate response as well. He's amazing!
@anncostello58944 ай бұрын
Couldn't agree more. So many tools.
@thesunlightcaller15484 ай бұрын
Amen and Amen👍👍
@Jezz_Mcfly4 ай бұрын
If most of us simply do what's advised here - our lives will change dramatically. (Certainly for myself anyway).
@ripple_on_the_ocean7 ай бұрын
Three months ago I could hardly get out of bed. Started super slow, things are improving now. At first I committed to one meal a day and 10 minutes of walking. Concentrating on improving sleep, which makes a massive difference. "Why We Sleep" by Mathew Walker (mentioned in this video) is so great and so helpful!
@littlewillowlinda7 ай бұрын
I’m watching this rn from bed after spending all day here. Thanks for giving me hope
@ripple_on_the_ocean7 ай бұрын
@@littlewillowlinda start super small and celebrate every victory (being able to get out of bed even to the couch). Focus on the things that will improve your mood/energy/attention and start there. (For me it was/is diet, exercise and most importantly sleep.) Good luck to you!
@vickykent3537 ай бұрын
@littlewillowlinda There's hope, lots of hope, so long as you're still breathing. Could you get a copy of "Why We Sleep" as suggested by @ripple_on_the_ocean above who said it was very helpful? Perhaps set up a plan as they did? Perhaps talk to each other? I know that's hard and that a phone can weigh 500 pounds, but it's doable. Have you tried setting one goal for yourself? This could be your first if @ripple_on_the_ocean were to agree. You might want to run that by Dr. Scott first as he is trained but even better, he has lived this predicament. The hard part will be putting your plan into action. Once you do, you'll be on your way and feel a strong sense of accomplishment. Once you've taken the first step, that could motivate you to keep going. 🙏💗 Good luck with your journey. I've been in your position, too.
@sacredpaw6 ай бұрын
Matthew Walker is great, you can find many informative interviews with him here on KZfaq.
@ripple_on_the_ocean6 ай бұрын
@@sacredpaw awesome thanks for the heads up! I can't shut up about his book since I read it. I need some new content to annoy my friends with haha
@melissakeller26444 ай бұрын
Your tips are helping. It’s obvious you’ve been in this position. Previously, I haven’t taken action. Now, I’m brushing my teeth and showering every day. That’s huge for me! Thank you.
@Sauci4Lyfe22 күн бұрын
@@melissakeller2644 I totally understand, I just gave up! I still don’t understand why I don’t wash the dishes and make my kitchen look like it used to!
@kayligo7 ай бұрын
#1 Limiting screen time/phone discipline is my main issue. I feel addicted to it.
@kimfontaine74537 ай бұрын
Agreed, the time I spend on stupidly astounds me…..yet nothing I do seems help reduce it long term. Might have to buy a phone vault !
@oldcrow69904 ай бұрын
Same here. It's scary.
@MultiKatieBee4 ай бұрын
It's become a huge problem for me, too.
@CentaurPress4 ай бұрын
Same. I never thought it would happen to me. The shorts are rotting my mind 😮
@TCGill3 ай бұрын
@@CentaurPressshorts are the worst. I have many clients and acquaintances that get hooked on these. One short that looks interesting, turns into “1+ hour later “ 😂 What’s frustrates me is @KZfaq don’t allow you to switch that crap off from showing up
@doreenessihos61442 ай бұрын
At last a doctor that actually understands and makes sense to me.
@user-hk2nj1hq7i14 күн бұрын
I do absolutely nothing with my day. Having said that: I' m a mom with 3 grown daughters, and they don't live near me. I am a retired Nurse, raised 6 children, went to church every week with my kids. ( They were in Sunday School) I've done volunteer work. I babysat my Grandson while my daughter was in school full time( my daughter lived closer to me at that time) I'm 72yrs old. You know what I do all day: I play the piano, play guitar, read, play with my cat. I deserve this time to myself.; after everything I'v accomplished.
@debbysimon1207 ай бұрын
I am going to SERIOUSLY START these exercises! I'm in so much misery. I just want to be happy again! My life used to be so good and happy, with my horses and my friends, and my art! I hate OKLAHOMA! I am a native Californian, and I miss my home.
@HLPiepgrass5 ай бұрын
I hope you’re doing okay. Wishing you a good day and week.🎉
@lindarullo14474 ай бұрын
Must be different...like a fish out of water.....I live in Big Sur , Calif . And we do have Our problems...but fully understand where your coming from .
@luckyduckydaisyflower23443 ай бұрын
😢
@perrycoffey54102 ай бұрын
God im soo sorry you live in oklahoma out of all places
@deerinheadlights10019 күн бұрын
Hating random stuff is bad for you.
@FindMeOnABeach7 ай бұрын
WOW, Dr. Scott!! You totally nailed me with that "never getting past the learning phase to the doing phase"! THIS is what I've got to learn to do.
@slenderman81707 ай бұрын
Or do to learn in this case :)
@kerryarseneau95887 ай бұрын
Me too!
@okcarter24045 ай бұрын
Me, too!!! ❤
@raven4090Ай бұрын
Same here
@RoseTheOver70MakeupArtist4 ай бұрын
I am 75 I don't think I have ever 75 years on this Earth Heard anyone speak as perfect as this man does dear heaven we are literally blessed to have him on KZfaq everything he says is true I now dwindle away laying in bed most of the day arthritis ulcerative colitis bones hurting everything just watching my videos but this man has made everything in life seem possible he is so intellectual that is unbelievable his family is just blessed and he has blessed all of us with his knowledge I sent this video to myself to watch every morning hoping to God it will help me some in my later years of life I used to be extremely athletic now bed vegetable got to implement some of the things this man has said in my life God bless him and his family because he is certainly blessed us by getting on KZfaq and helping millions of people anyone that listens to him has to be helped by his words he is just wonderful 💯 a blessing❤
@djilyaz3 ай бұрын
A bit dramatic?
@Dackel19726 ай бұрын
The point you are making in this video is SO important and hit me on the head. I do NOT lack knowledge on what to do to live a better life.What I'm lacking is implementation and nothing else.
@Dackel19726 ай бұрын
To take this one step further: although I've watched > 100 videos on your channel and Huberman's and diary of a CEO and many others that have provided me with all the input I need to improve things, I still seem to think I'd rather watch 20 more videos dealing with the same questions rather than putting any effort into implementing step one. Maybe you could make a video (if you haven't already) stressing that nothing is going to improve in your life unless you put some effort in (which will be a pain and not necessarily give you an immediate short term benefit) rather than going for the comfortable way, such as hoping that the next video you watch on youtube will change your life just by watching it.
@magdalenewegner85974 ай бұрын
The Same Here, as with "Dackel 1972" (previous commenter ; and Thank You, Dear Dackel 😊) .... BUT, - I - have Another, likely More Menacing thief of my New motivation; Morbid grief Knocks Me Back Against the wall behind me, stealing away Every Speck of Splendid Determination I have managed to muster up!!!!! Then I Deflate like a Tight Balloon as I try to move on a task I Want To Do. Because it's Then I remember that my husband (45years) is NOT With Me & Won't Be Returning. He's been buried for the last 8 years ... unforseen suicide. We were Both Independent Individuals, with Both individual Interests AND Joint Interests. We 'worked' our daily lives & routines Successfully & Blissfully Together. Like trapeze Artists!!! It was 'Our Recipe' for such a Long, Wonderful marriage. I 'wilt & fold' before I ever stand up to move forward. And withdraw to 'safe place' in my room. Where I cry and 'remember' that he's GONE, for the Rest of My Life. ....... ☹️😰😱😖🤧 . ???????????? (bless you, Every One. ) .... M.
@heatherbruce16682 ай бұрын
Same ...
@searchtech6 ай бұрын
THANK YOU THANK YOU! This is me! My home is a mess because, 1. I work overnights 6 days a week. I just want to lay in bed on my phone when I get home. For HOURS! I am going to spend 2 hours at least picking up and cleaning. I have so much stress coming home to a messed up home. THANK YOU!❤
@heatherbruce16682 ай бұрын
Take pictures..it might help you see your victory! 🎉🎉🎉
@BubblGrl7 ай бұрын
I’m not the first person to comment on this but what you said about earning your own respect hit really hard. I have implemented many of those strategies and definitely felt the benefits…but earning my own respect seems like the unreachable dream. Maybe that one goes beyond depression and anxiety for me. The best thing I have going for me is that I rarely give up trying to improve things for myself …and if I do it’s just to give myself time to regroup…so I guess time will tell.
2 ай бұрын
To keep away from the phone is the main thing I really have to work on. Soon 50 and diagnosed with ADD. Single dad with 2 young kids every second week, working from home, having a house with a big garden. I really try to keep up with all shores, but it is not easy. And the phone becomes my escape sometimes, and also like a drug. (my drug is information about everything, and one reason I follow you) But I working every day to be the best person I can, and I feel good about allot of my progress. Not using my diagnose as a "free card" for not doing the things that is hard. More an unddrstanding about where I have to work harder. Really have to value myself more. Because I always put myself last.
@AngelaKhatri-sp4rsАй бұрын
Thank you for saying that filling your car with gas gave you anxiety. Doing everyday things like getting gas, grocery shopping, and driving are legit challenging for me. I never imagined anyone else knew what that could be like. I recently found your channel and want to say thank you for your inspiring content!
@Kev19727 ай бұрын
This year I'm focusing and taking care of my mental health by what I call the holy trinity... My mind, body and soul. Eating brain food, exercising by following KZfaq videos and finally giving thanks by going to church and strengthing my soul.
@NikkiaSings6 ай бұрын
🗣️💯🙏🏽
@debbiejacobson3953Ай бұрын
Love it
@user-lr1jj3jw3z14 күн бұрын
Amen!!!!@@NikkiaSings
@kathleenbigsmoke-mitchell48987 ай бұрын
I like that plan for the phone 😊 i remember what life was like before cell phones
@tahrey7 ай бұрын
So do I. We just found other ways to waste our time, often even more insular or damaging than social media use is. TV binging. Alcoholism. So on and so forth. It's not like we were all hyper productive and/or creative powerhouses before Facebook came along, and there's still plenty enough of those people in the world even now. Some of them only even have those outlets or ability to work because of the selfsame technology.
@ashutosh1086 ай бұрын
01:59 -1. Be careful about endless information seeking. 04:09 0. Be very careful who you listen to. 07:00 1. Do not pick up your phone unless you have a specific reason for doing so. Put it down when you have completed the task that you picked it up for. 11:30 2. Do not buy anything you do not need. 13:59 3. Limit yourself to 1 caffeinated beverage per day within the first four hours of your day. 15:50 4. Try to eat three meals a day: breakfast, lunch and dinner. 16:50 5. Limit yourself to a maximum of one alcoholic beverage per week. 20:04 6. Work in some kind of stretching or mobility work (5-10 min a day tops). 21:37 7. Doing some regular prescribed physical activity in addition to the mobility or stretching 3-5 days a week (long-term goal: 20-30 minutes a day). 24:18 8. Try to plan something special for yourself/a date/family outing once a week. 27:12 9. Try to read one non-fiction book per month, 12 books per year. 29:53 10. Try to, at the end of every day, to take five minutes to just do a quick victory journal. 32:50 11. For things that you are going to be doing at the same time of day consistently (meals, workout, etc), put them in your calendar as a recurring appointment, set your phone up to notify you. 34:11 12. For things that are harder to schedule, general lifestyle changes that you want to commit to, get some kind of notes app on your phone, write them in there and look at it every single morning (optionally put their screenshot on the lockscreen). 34:58 13. Remember that you are constantly writing your own autobiography.
@heatherbruce16682 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@anngant76739 күн бұрын
Best Dr to discuss😀 concrete steps to improve specific situations in life rather than just theory to forget it when off the video Great job
@ttf4now7 ай бұрын
I’ve been battling depression and anxiety since I was 11 years old. At times, I saw improvement and other times, I felt a deep sense of deepening depression and gut wrenching anxiety. I didn’t know where it was coming from but now I know that deep seated traumas were never fully resolved.
@ravireddyism5 ай бұрын
How old are you now ?? Me too since 15 yrd now I’am 38. Highs and lows in my journey. Hope I could pull it off coz I had shown resilience before KZfaq resources and now I’am experienced and have KZfaq resources like Dr Scott, which will help my fight less challenging.
@terryg44157 ай бұрын
Funny, I’m information-seeking right now! Action is definitely harder.
@SageGuy18066 ай бұрын
why is that when I always listen to your videos, it feels like you know what I am going through and feels like I have a new friend being kind to me? I have a very fucked up life right now and your monthly videos reminds me that this is not my end of the line. Thank you so much.
@asdfghjk7496 ай бұрын
Your podcast is like having a best friend who gently roasts you because they love you
@KRIS-gr5hn2 ай бұрын
I am an information hoarder and it's a thing that does stop you from taking action and moving forward. Thanks Dr Scott... you just make sense.
@Yolduranduran6 ай бұрын
I started a cross fit 3x per week and it is helping me fell so much better physically and mentally. I feel like I have a chance to change my world 🌎
@michelekurlan25803 ай бұрын
"Temu,Temu, shop like a billionaire"🙈🙉🙊 I def got hoovered in. Nothing but an endless impulse isle. As far as ruminating goes mine is in the morning which is quite typical for people with clinical depression. Really makes a day hard to get started on.
@marianneellman11394 ай бұрын
I read on here in these comments, but can't find it again. Today you saved me. You said "Some days you thrive,& and some days are survival" Thank you❤
@davidconnor80006 ай бұрын
Ex best friend, of 20 years. Always on the phone. No matter what, or where. Had to inform him that it’s actually rude, and we don’t get face to face talking often at all. Still decides to take calls over dinner and whatever else, and continue to actually engage in conversations, whilst I sit there…. Just giving a look that said it all. Woeful. My phone is in my pocket, on silent, or turned off… I have voicemail !!! And respect
@rjmoonchild77711 күн бұрын
Yes! My ex is the exact same way. The inconsiderate phone use was a huge problem in our relationship. I've actually considered going back to a flip phone.
@_bluephoenix_7 ай бұрын
I've been implementing "incidental excercise" and started my list with just making my bed and doing the dishes, then getting dressed. To have a cuppa and then go into the bedroom with the bed looking nice, boosts my self esteem and I'm more inclined to dress nicer and look forward to getting into bed that night. I make vacuuming and laundry, tidying etc my exercise routine with squats, stretches etc and have the satisfaction of a tidy place too! I'm definitely getting stuck in the "stasis/in-between" moments. I start seeking instant gratification and that only has me feeling disappointed in myself. I also am trying to stay mindful and not keep trying to digest too much self help strategies or getting stuck in "analysis paralysis" that perpetuates the feeling of "nothing is changing externally for me". it's like I know I have grown but, I can't find the right opportunities to implement or, I'm now waiting for the world to catch up and reflect the work I've done.
@annadonahue41195 ай бұрын
Meditate... Maybe don't be waiting for external approval of your personal progress...
@KT-qj9mp16 күн бұрын
Brilliant advice. I do a lot of the negative, non productive things you've mentioned. I am recently widowed and life has been really difficult adjusting to life alone. Having chronic depression and anxiety has just made everything 10 times worse! 😢
@keloreilly70177 ай бұрын
You are so right about info seeking. I think I’m the Queen of information overload. Time to take action…period. Thank you!
@paulcook9943 ай бұрын
Yep, that’s me. I don’t believe that I can tie my own shoes. I can’t do hard things. I’ve done almost all of this list and it changes nothing.
@lightnindawn77107 ай бұрын
I love you Dr Scott. I love that you are so relatable & you never sound preachy or judgemental & I love the fact that you have been the person you are speaking to & not just rattling off stuff from your textbooks that got you your degree. I can't wait for your book to arrive in my mailbox.
@darkcrystal44986 ай бұрын
Hard agree! Absolutely love you Dr Scott. You're saving so many of us, thank you for being the one person who's managed to get me up, dressed and feeling a glimmer of hope for the first time in months x
@user-mf7ll4nm4n6 ай бұрын
Don't allow your self be used, lied to,avoid caffeine, and don't allow yourself be disrespected.Words of experience folks.
@jadeybabes337 ай бұрын
Fantastic ideas thank you. A really important one for me is celebrating the small victories each day - I am a person who tends to be critically hard on myself so this is something I'm definitely trying to work on.
@yarayara56947 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. Thank you for your authenticity and the motivation. I want to add 'dancing' to your suggestions of workout. It lifts my spirit immensely, and it doesn't matter if it looks good or stupid, nobody is watching me. I just let my body move the way it wants, hopping around, stretching, shaking. It's kind of an intuitive form of movement, and most of the times I do it without any music. But dancing to uplifting music is great as well, even if the first moments may feel somewhat awkward 😄
@TheJodzilla7 ай бұрын
Earning my own respect, that was powerful for me, thank you. I tend to look outward for reward, validation, etc, but you are so right. I need to earn my own respect by doing, not doing, things that propel me towards greatness, my definition of greatness.
@missyme26737 ай бұрын
Guilty of all of these points.. and I can barely get out of bed
@shineon_76607 ай бұрын
Same! I usually find the advice on this channel to be within reach of attainability but man, this video is making me feel terrible about myself
@grimsqueaker53335 ай бұрын
If all you can do is sit up in bed, do only that. From another of Dr Scott's videos: You have thrive days and survive days. On thrive days, when you are not completely drained by the end of the day, you can aim to do a little more so your future self can thank you for that. On survive days you do what you are capable of, so you can have a future self. ❤
@missyme26735 ай бұрын
@grimsqueaker5333 Thank you for reaching out to me with your helpful advice, you're absolutely right. I've kind have broken the cycle somewhat, due to an emergency trip to the hospital where I spent 3 weeks, it's got me eating a little too, something that I couldn't do before. I'm determined not to go back to my old ways as even though I've only been back home 24 hours, I had shower, immediately, make up a fresh bed, disinfect and tidy my hospital stuff away etc, and I've been feeling much better for it. I'm really proud of myself for breaking that vicious cycle and like you say, I am going to have bad days ahead but at least I can remind myself that I can do this. Thanks again, I really appreciate you taking the time to care. Warm wishes xx
@ravireddyism5 ай бұрын
@@missyme2673go for Keto diet . I had gone through terrible episodes but since started keto diet I’am improving a lot .
@RainbowPyramid6 ай бұрын
For me, doing something spiritual every day is important eg short meditation. I also find my mental health is better when I do something creative a few times a week. Sometimes I spend literally 3 minutes sketching something simple or doodling.
@annadonahue41195 ай бұрын
Oooh! I forgot about doodling! TY!
@bertmiranda81037 күн бұрын
Amen!!! I can't tell you how much better life got when I walked away from social media. Life is sooooo much better w/o FB.
@pickledherring87597 ай бұрын
This is a great list! My current phone goal was/is to stop looking at it 1 hour before bed. I finally did that last night, and I actually got almost 7 hours of sleep! I don't know if the phone thing was the only reason or if I was just finally so exhausted, but it felt really good. I can manage most of these, I think. 🤞Thanks, Dr. Scott.😊
@MrTrickster57 ай бұрын
Watching your videos is like watching a better version of myself, someone who got through. Never stop Scott ❤️
@lotuspoints2 ай бұрын
Physical activity and fitness are saviours! ❤ the emotions are in the body, they need to move and exit
@klpuhelin28167 ай бұрын
You are amazing! I hope you know that. Last night I lost my sleep and all the catastrophes started to go around in my head again (the last couple of years have been full of sh*t in my life, nobody would believe if I told everything that has gone wrong, it's absolutely ridiculous 😅). And my sleepy head says: I think dr. Scott has a video about catastrophe thinking, find that when you wake up. And when I woke up and looked at my phone there was an announcement about this video. I regard you as my youtube therapist (I have no other kind of therapist). So thank you for doing these videos! ❤ To me nb 1 is absolutely the most important. I spend waaaay too much on my phone. Many times it's because my energy level is too low for anything else, but it doesn't help at all. All the things on my to do -list just piles up to those horrible towers, so I need to stop being on my phone before I've done all the other things. 2. Not a huge problem for me, but this year I have to be even more conscious about this since my income is getting lower. Instead I should get rid of all the clutter I already have. 3.-5. I already do almost like this. No need to change, but maybe improve just a little bit, since the huge coffee mug in the morning and some wine when cooking are the rare enjoyments in my life at the moment. I need to improve my meals though. 6, 7, 10 I already do, but great tips for 10, because it's sometimes so hard. 8. I've tried, but somehow it almost never happens. Now I'll put it in my weekly schedule to try again. It's sooo important to have something interesting in life. 9. To me any book would improve my life. Fictional might be even better in my case since I'm having some kind of burnout. 11-12. I already do a lot of this, cause I couldn't survive my life without old fashioned paper calendar. A small paper tracker is great for those that don't have a certain time. I have it in my calendar. Phone reminders are no good for me, I just click them off without even thinking. Plus I need to be less on my phone, so I don't want to add anything with that. I just wish nobody would need me for a while. I feel like everyone wants something from me (and of course very soon) and it always messes up my own schedule and there's no time and energy to recover and do something for myself or what I've planned. All the time there's something to take care of. And no matter how small a thing, always something goes wrong. If I buy something that I need, at home I'll notice there's something missing or broken in the product. Not a big deal alone, but when this happens all the time... It's like a curse. On the other hand many times there's some luck in our misfortune and the situation could have ended up absolutely horrible, and it didn't, but still the overall feeling is that absolutely everything goes wrong. I think it's not anymore enough to have some luck in the continuous catastrophes. I want them to stop. I've had enough of them already. And I need to put myself first, but no matter how I try I seem to fail in that one. Or maybe I'm just so chronicly stressed that I feel like I fail and it's not really objectively that bad. 🤔 So if I may hope for a subject, I guess it would be chronical stress, and how to deal when everything goes wrong for a long time.
@PamelaWildman-WilliamsАй бұрын
I really would love 15-20 minute vids and slower as it feels intense rather than relaxed. I’ve just found this gentleman and there are no similarities in our lives at all. However, I was so impressed about being frozen. I think he has sooooo much insight and has such helpful things to share but difficult to stay that long. ❤️
@MWSCologne6 ай бұрын
I really like this video. Scott is so open about his own struggles and at the same time he points out the scientific approach to „heal“. I think the way he is describing things helped me understand better what I already heard a thousand times. I wish you all a healthy and happy 2024.
@barbm74097 ай бұрын
Super glad I found this channel. Love your humility and real doable advice. Thank you.
@MrMwalswor7 ай бұрын
I’ve only discovered your channel recently, but it’s really resonated with me. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s truly helpful.
@Cath-rv2ni6 ай бұрын
When you said you were so anxious to put gas in your car I nearly cried. That’s me. Learning so much from your videos. Thank you for being willing to share your knowledge. I have hope.
@user-vy6xw5lb5l7 ай бұрын
Dr Scott you are the first Dr, Provider or who ever makes some common sense I can follow and really help me.. You have already helped me. Thanks.
@jaynemcdowall4976 ай бұрын
If I had a single friend, that would help. I am 53, professional and can enjoy things as well as laugh at random sh**, but, never have I had the luxury of having a good friend.
@natalie254314 ай бұрын
Got pen in hand! God I hope I'm important enough to myself to save
@MM-wj4dh7 ай бұрын
Great information all in one video! I am also adding to the notes app to read every single day: why I want to implement these changes in my life and how my life will be better as a result. Sometimes I lose track of that and it just seems like more things I “should” be doing.
@theresaohalloranjohnson847 ай бұрын
Thank you. I definitely heard an accurate definition of my procrastinations…indeed it’s how I found you. I’m always looking, not doing. But I put the screen limit on my phone. And I’m feeling better about picking a thing-walking to concentrate on. Thank you.
@berndgeels7 ай бұрын
Doing nothing on your phone is almost like the modern version of alcoholism, drug abuse or some other really destructive habit. I shudder to think of young people who never knew a world without cell phones who somehow imagine they literally cannot live without their phone right next to them. I find it very sad.
@healthraven2 ай бұрын
It’s tough to pull the mind into another thing you know you need to do or want to do but don’t feel like doing especially when you spend most of your day doing something you don’t want to do.
@LizB555 ай бұрын
I’ve been caught up in the exploration of separating thoughts and beliefs from reality. Seeing a thought and emotional reaction as a byproduct of my body’s nervous system responding to a familiar pathway (belief), and that’s where depression takes hold. If I respect the emotion at the time but hold lightly to the thoughts before and after, my ‘story’ loses its power to drown me. What is my higher truth of who I am regardless of these feelings and reactions. This works a lot of the time and then suddenly it doesn’t. I can’t even identify the belief or origin of the thought. There’s just despair and freeze response and deep deep sadness. That’s just my egoic mind (I tell myself) that is fearful of change, is more comfortable with what it knows. Whilst this is not wrong, I’m seeing that there is a balance here and these tips for helping myself ARE building new pathways. I’m a physical, emotional and spiritual lump of existence. All of it needs to be looked at. Thank you 🙏
@annadonahue41195 ай бұрын
You are a soul having an experience in physical form 😉🌟
@suzannesharpeOUCH4 ай бұрын
Excellent point about my phone. Aside from when I’m listening to videos during dish washing etc. I do waste time watching inconsequential videos on, say, birds hatching! It’s not like I’m denying my obsession with scrolling - I do that too. And I know these are time wasters. So today I will leave my phone alone unless I functionally need it. Thank you for the push!
@photo80sjeff845 күн бұрын
All these.👍 can't stress enough on weightlifting men/women that do not do this, please try, it was a game changer for me, 4 days a week keeps depression at bay and or easier to deal with, sometimes snap out ot it.👍❤ 🏋♂️🏋🏋♀️
@At2069-j9y7 ай бұрын
Buy Dr. Scott’s book! It’s great, you will have no regrets 😊
@Jazlow6 ай бұрын
Buying things you don't need. A lesson I didn not learn until about the age of 52 during the pandemic. Years prior to that I became somewhat addicited to buying stuff on Amazon. One click and two days later the item was here. I did just what you were explaing... going on Amazon looking for things and then deciding I needed them. Not the other way around. What a waste of money. I want to do my life over and not buy crap.
@philipholding5 ай бұрын
4th reason. Avoidance due to denial and social stigma, or the perception of social stigma. ' Me, anxious, never'!
@to16207 ай бұрын
I’m not sure how to articulate this but here goes; I admire all that you’ve accomplished that you discussed at the beginning of this video. Unfortunately, there are those of us like myself who just don’t embody ANY goals. I can free up all the time I want. But I don’t have a single solitary idea of what to do with that time. Mostly because I see no purpose behind any of it. But also because I’m the sort of person who may have a fantastic idea-but I lack the acumen to make the idea a physical reality. Some of what you accomplished is because of your inherent personality. Some of it is because you may have had access to resources and help not available to others. I more or less now understand in my 50’s that even the best most well-intentioned advice and suggestions won’t help everyone. Some of us are just destined to be the ones who stand on the sidelines and watch others do great things. I’m trying to come to terms with that.
@dianadeejarvis70747 ай бұрын
Regarding caffeine, it's generally recommended now that people wait 1 1/2 to 2 hours after waking to drink caffeine. The reason is cortisol daily cycle.
@tahrey7 ай бұрын
So what am I meant to do in those first two hours where I can barely crank my eyes open and might be expected to drive across town then concentrate on complicated technical work? Don't say "just wake up earlier" because that'll just encourage me to go back to inventing a way to slap people in the face over the internet.
@dianadeejarvis70747 ай бұрын
@tahrey Sorry, I haven't seen any suggestions on that other than take a week vacation without caffeine to see if that resets your body systems and dependence.
@annadonahue41195 ай бұрын
@@tahrey 💛 Maybe work on the other dozen ideas first? Maybe get around to the caffeinated beverage item last? Maybe then switch to Half-Caff? ~ Caffeine ☕ Queen
@margaretmuoio26385 күн бұрын
Thank you for making me feel positive about getting out of depression. It's been my companion all of my life, I'm 68. What you talk about is spot on and helpful to wanting to change. Again thank you.
@danielafraser48117 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for what you are doing. Following you is really helping me with my battles. You are providing a lifeline ❤
@anisekohl47457 ай бұрын
Excellent suggestions, thankyou. I would just like to make one suggestion though and that is to do the lists and reminders on paper instead of the phone. Phones contribute to mental health issues because the EMFs being emitted are very harmful- it is radiation. Also as you mentioned, they encourage time loss and they have been proven to be addictive. Writing also stimulates parts of the brain that key pad use doesn't, which can only improve brain health generally. The brain also processes information differently from books and paper as opposed to that received from backlit screens- learning, recall etc is deeper from the former.
@rjmoonchild77711 күн бұрын
Yes. I completely agree.
@christinabasri51147 ай бұрын
I'm in depth of depressive episode since mid Sept
@therealdeal36725 ай бұрын
Well Dr Scott, you hit me right where I live. On my phone. All of these are very important adjustments and I appreciate this video. Yep you nail it! But you didn't stop there, you gave us great advice on top of prompting the self-reflection.
@Ana.Garcia.23 күн бұрын
Yeah... I'm only getting worse. I feel this way since I was a kid. So many years of trying different medications and therapy. I don't think I'm gonna get better anymore.
@user-pe9uy1pu8r6 ай бұрын
Thank you..your videos are really of help for me..sending blessings to you 🙏 ❤
@MoshieJАй бұрын
Wow - acknowledging victories sounds so cool - I always ruminate on the bad and scary future scenarios - if I could acknowledge the victories instead that would be a game changer. Thank you for this awesome tip!
@AndoverIT7 ай бұрын
Another great video! with great advice. As you said, it's simple and we already know it but it is then actioning it. How about a video on ways to start taking action when your brain is screaming no?
@vickykent3537 ай бұрын
That's a great topic. I've gotten a little better about doing that but have a long way to go. I may have already suggested that to Dr. Scott.
@miraclenichols43325 ай бұрын
Wow thank you so much!! Your simple advice is really helping me more than I can say!!!! I had no idea how far down the rabbit hole I had gone- ❤💜💙
@annadonahue41195 ай бұрын
Me too
@jeanroth1595 ай бұрын
Earning your own respect...spot on! Great tips Dr.Scott, i cant stress enough how important physical excersize is for me,i started yoga about 5 months ago and the natural high i get after a session is so cool, my mind as well as my body feels ready to take on the day. Now to work on sleep,thats a hard one,late nights are so peaceful when everyone else is asleep but yes ,i get it that it is so needed for many reasons.Thank you for sharing your experiences, wisdom and taking time out of your busy day to help others like myself,much appreciated ♡.
@MoshieJАй бұрын
Change your identity in your own eyes! Love it!
@marmaniac6 ай бұрын
I’m amazed how precise your descriptions of what I feel and how on point your answers to the questions I keep asking myself are! You’re like my big wise brother from the other side of the world! I’m really glad one of your videos was recommended to me a couple months ago! Thank you!
@melinaalba637 ай бұрын
I would love to see more videos on how depression works biologically/ neuroscientifically. Since i was 11, i always was told by media etc that depression isnt an actual illness, its more a weekness of character. When i was diagnosed with depression officially, when i was 20, it only got worse. There are so many people that do believe its not an illness and its been a huge struggle for me. I have kind of started to inform myself about it more, how it works, what it does to the body and brain etc and i've found it somewhat comforting and started to talk down on myself for being lazy, unmotivated and dumb much less. But i find it hard to know whats actually true and what isnt, we all know the Internet. So maybe you could do something about that? :)
@Tommy_23t4 ай бұрын
stopped at 3:11. Thanks for the adivce about seeking too much information. Didnt watch the whole vid because I dont want to overstimulate my brain.
@beckery24 ай бұрын
I just found you today and you are so correct about the info collecting. I'm done with it. I'm 3 videos in with you and I love how you explain things so simply .
@monkeymind39175 ай бұрын
I’m so excited to have come by you. You’re the most real, down to earth, non-bullshit, awesome wise person I’ve heard on KZfaq. Like wow. Thank you
@generationTEOTWAWKI7 ай бұрын
Guys, while we all wait, go ahead and leave a comment. It helps so that YT recommends this video to more of us. It helps. Just do it
@generationTEOTWAWKI7 ай бұрын
Some Resistance in the force, I feel…
@judyantonetti21867 ай бұрын
That was SO helpful! I thought at first like you said,it’s stuff I’ve already heard, but it really made sense. I can’t grasp it all in one sitting. I’ll have to go back & listen again. But for this listen, I picked up telling yourself 5 good things you did that day. I am going to do that! Thank you!
@balorprice19 күн бұрын
Scott, this video and your channel are vastly underrated. Probably the best thing I've seen taking a big overview of MH for years. Of course I knew all this stuff previously, but putting it all together in a way that actually appears possible to carry out, totally invaluable. Also, your reasoning is so spot on, the only reason I was able to get into regular exercise (which ahem for some reason I'm not doing at the moment) was to avoid all the standard gym and Strava jargon. Fuck getting stronger and fitter, I just want to make sure I feel energised and don't get back pain in my desk job. Also, that 1/4 cup of coffee at midnight thing blew my mind. Bravo
@Jupefires2 ай бұрын
I hate my phone. I am not getting anything accomplished. I have been trying to get off of it. I resell and I have to check for notifications. This phone sucks me in over and over with nonsense and vaporizes hours out of my day every day. I think this will help me tremendously.
@vanyabecerra64307 ай бұрын
Ty! Your advice is practical and down to earth, and you present it in a non judgmental manner, I’m putting your suggestions into practice, I am very thankful ☺️
@julieharris59606 ай бұрын
I SO appreciate your honesty and genuine concern for mental health. So many issues you mentioned deeply resonate with me. I've been in a rut so long, I can't even remember the last time I had something to look forward to. Thank you for making these videos. I've been gaining valuable lessons and just wanted to thank you. Thank you for sharing your own anxiety stories- I've got plenty too!
@chessc.34074 күн бұрын
Agree on all except the caffeine- it’s about timing for me* If I don’t have it with the amount of things I do at work by 1 pm I can’t function. You’re supposed to really hydrate, eat then 2 hours later have coffee but most of us we have coffee first which of course that’s why u need a second coffee later. My first cup of coffee is really my breakfast! 😅 my second cup of coffee is my actual coffee 😂😂
@angieheadrick2771Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience with depression. It is helpful for me to hear from people who understand what I am feeling and the emotions that I battle with constantly
@rhianndarroch42287 ай бұрын
You were right as always 😢 sorry having a hard time, very greatful for your videos though thank. ❤Dr Scott
@experiencelifelittleoneАй бұрын
I guess I'm just overwhelmed from the expectations from school. There's just so many responsibilities In school. And it seems like I'm alone. And I don't even want this life. Its just too much work always, everyday.
@Roger_Ramjet7 ай бұрын
Concise. Articulate. Inspirational. Thank you!
@heatherwiner28832 ай бұрын
Thank you Dr. Scott. It is so good to hear from someone who has actually experienced the horrible anxiety and low self -esteem I experience daily. Unless you know how it feels it is hard to treat others with the same issues.
@DrLar7 ай бұрын
Dr Scott, I like how you make your videos relatable by sharing your experiences. Thank you for sharing ❤
@kattfranklin69335 ай бұрын
Dr. Ellis, Thank you so much. Three of your tips hit me😮. So many ideas make sense, and I am going to pay attention to how much I waste. God bless you ❤️ 🙏
@1chumley17 ай бұрын
I like it. I believe that it's better to read a good self help book 10 times than 10 self help books.
@rhythmnblues919520 күн бұрын
I really appreciate your videos. I got out of a very bad breakup 10 months ago and it turned my life around completely and for months looked for answers about why this happened. Why he did this to me. I think I really needed a video that focuses on bettering my life. But nothing you’re saying is out of reach. These are things that I know I need to do but you’re explaining why I need to stop which is really important. Thank you.
@r6095o4 ай бұрын
Best channel
@Carl_Frank2 ай бұрын
Some things you say at 35:48 sound particularly familiar. I will admit that I have been very risk-avoidant, and even effort-avoidant in a lot of places. I would do the things I knew I could do well, or reasonably well, but resisted new things, skills I felt intimidated to learn, or things I thought would frustrate me. It really hit when I noticed that even in video games I would put off tackling challenges that I thought were going to be frustratingly difficult for my meager gaming skills. When I realized that I do that even in a game, where there is no real possible consequence except getting annoyed, I really had to look in the mirror. I realized it was my reaction that I wanted to avoid: that feeling I got when trying hard and failing at something. It's just a feeling, but it was something I had trained myself I didn't want. I blew it up into something bigger than it was. This goes for many areas of life. I am by no means over that risk-aversion mindset just because I am aware that I have it, but at least it is a step in the right direction. Now to actually convince myself to relish those moments of discomfort and struggle in real life, rather than fearing them. I have, on some level, been aware of this tendency of mine for a long time, and I am not young, but it is amazing how a habitual attitude can become ingrained, even when one knows it is a detriment to their life.
@Shaqofalltrades4 ай бұрын
Sir, I’ve commented a lot on your videos and it was one of the first steps to stepping out of my anxiety. I’ve always been anxious about mundane things, but you encourage me to want to be better for myself. I appreciate that you give out this advice for free! You’ve been one of the best therapist on KZfaq for me, personally. I’m so thankful to have found your channel.