its strange that you are presenting the girl as a victim, whose husband dont like the fact that she has slept with a guy even knowing she was getting married.

Please read my whole comment and reply on it ! I am 22 year old, good looking, handsome guy, topper in school and college and currently focusing on my career. I never proposed any girl. Instead ‘I got proposals from 3 girls’ and many indirect proposals from several girls but I rejected their all proposals with respect because i have some morals, ethics and rational thinking. I believe first to focus on education, career. I don’t want to betray my parents by having love affair at the time of studies and personality development. So my point is i am ‘proud virgin’ by my choice. I believe in marriage system. I want to love only one person and stay loyal for lifetime to that person. in future my wife is going to first love for me (emotionally and physically). So why should I don’t expect same from her? I am not judging anyone. But in some youtube videos,articles they all are only getting side of non-virgins and they are imposing non-virgins on virgins. They are asking virgins to have big heart and accepts directly non-virgin, why ? If loosing virginity was their choice then its our choice to reject them. They don’t have right to judge us. I looks at this things rationally . And in my personal life, I am behaving in the same way that I expect from my future spouse (not having a past love and physical relationship with someone else). So my expectation is based on equality. I like to think rationally and keep modern approach. I am not judging anyone but yes virginity matters for me.(‘ I don’t believe in hymen and bleeding at first night etc.’ it is unscientific & judging someone on the basis of this is also wrong.) You will say ‘what about trust,love,care etc.’ so then yes! With all this things virginity equally matters a lot for me. I want to explore those things emotionally and physically first time with my future wife and expecting same from her. This is my wish, my choice. So whats wrong in this ? Who are this people to call me narrow minded ? Try to understand our point of view. Get one fictional example. If one Girl is having all random relationships and at the same time one boy is struggling to achieve something in life and he stays single for that. After he became well settled he wants same virgin wife as he is. And after all random casual/serious relationships now that girl wants serious,caring,well settled guy. Whats now ? They both deserve good partner. But no one can impose that girl on that boy. Its their choice. Every relationship should start with honesty and truth. Each and everyone has right to choose their life partner according to their preferences and values. Past matters ! What is my present is because of my past. Today i am enjoying success cause I struggled lot in past. So I respect everyone. I am not going to judge anyone. But try to understand virgin’s point of view. their is no one who can talk about virgin like us who stays virgin by choice until marriage, And expect same from future partner. Each and everyone just normalising non-virginity and imposing non virgins on virgins in the name of modernism,21st century and bla bla… And sorry if I hurt someone. If someone suggests me this illogical suggestion that ‘past is past’ and focus on present for marrying non virgin in the name of love so I have many doubts. some querys. after knowing the fact that she is not virgin what if i started imagining continuesly her with another guy and feeling depressed, still you force me to marry her? After knowing the fact that i am not first for her still you force me to marry her? If i can’t digest that fact and not seeing myself happy with that girl still you will impose that non virgin on me ? Rethink ! what about if she is medically ok or not (std)? What if her ex had some photos of unethical activities and blackmail us after marriage and spoiled our married life? Or make fun,troll or teasing? what if she never forget her past ? What if she compares? What if i found that born baby is not mine ? And in todays world considering gossiping,social pressure ..divorce is punishment for whole family although mistakes was done by only one partner. I just want to be virgin for my future wife and expecting same from her and want each other to be loyal for life time ! What is wrong in this ? If i am perfect, I deserve perfect. Even if we agree on other points and we like each other then i will be ready to marry rape victim or person who had faced something wrong in past because in this case it was not that person’s mistake. Even i will give emotional support to her and stand for her. After our marriage if any disaster comes newly then i am ready to stand with her and fight for her but i am not ready to handle problems related to her past relationship which she did by her choice. Why should i take unnecessary risk. I want to be in monogamous relationship. I am the only one for her in whole life ,she is the only one for me in whole life for the “first and last time.” How beautiful feeling is this ! But it is very disgusting that everyone is avoiding our point of view, just trying to impose directly non virgins on virgin and trying to make atmosphere where non virgin can feel comfortable and easily ask to virgin that have big heart and accept us. No one trying to put our point of view and side. You may express your opinion! I am waiting for response. This all are my humble queries. Anyone can reply on it. You may express your opinion! ….. In my opinion those who wants to be in relationship should clear each and everything before getting into it. Both should clear honestly everything regarding past,expectations and another things related future life. If matching then be together and if not then give wishes and move forward. There shouldn’t be lying or cheating! I am against hiding,cheating,lying! I just want to say like others, virgins also have point of view and honest expectations which i have mentioned in my above comment in detail. Because of that no one should call us narrow minded. Respect our expectations as we respecting your personal decisions. i always try to have rational,progressive and liberal approach. And as per this you have to respect each and everyone’s rational and good personal choices. But i am against those hypocrites. I hate their hypocrisy that at one side they support personal choice but at other side they are opposing and denying totally the personal choice of choosing life partner on our personal terms and criteria. I think people like me or people who have attitude like me don’t have representation. I am against judging someone and against extremist of both sides cause I would like to think rationally.. I don’t judge anyone and totally respect each and everyone’s past and their personal and private life. I am no one to make statement on it . But their are many hypocrites who are indirectly making atmosphere In the name of ‘past is past’ against us where we just cannot have our terms. If we put our terms or criteria then they are ready to attack and comment on us that ‘we are narrow minded’. With this attitude they are making environment of inequality where we just can’t demand or expect like “if our partner is going to first love for us then why we should not expect same from him/her ?” I am against imposing opinions, defaming our personal criteria and purposefully making unfavourable atmosphere related us and our opinions. I believe in ‘live and let live’

I dont understand why people call Premarital Sex or Adultry as "Mistake" and why not "Zina". Labeling it a mistake or Immaturity or emotional mistake makes it partially acceptable. In my opinion when ever Intercourse out of Wedlock is discussed btw friends or family , always label it as "Zina".

I understand the teenage love chapter, but how could she sleep with someone when her marriage was already fixed? And what about STD risk? When any man has had a girlfriend before marriage, you suggested that he should do an STD checkup. Why does not the same rule apply to women?

Junaid bai, what would be really great is bring a expert who owns expertise on certain aspects. That would be really great. Not that you are not influencial but haters will not have a chance to tag you.

I dont know, but it felt like junaid is defending her early sins (so called mistake) He advised her to say him “you might have some in past too” lol like ok not everyone is dodh ka dhula but are you serious?

Its not ghalati its gunnah plz dnt take it casually

Wow bro, youre defending zina in recent times like its not a big deal... plus youre labeling her as a victim throughout the video is surprising... she got intimate with her ex while she was married and yesz virginity is also important...youre introducing WESTERN advise to a more conservative culture...

this is old video, ya reposted it again right?

Haram is haram no matter if the worlds do that

You have consequences of your action so you had a bad past expect consequences of those past. Past dictates your present there are multiple studies that people with multiple relationships are terrible partners

Naaahhh L women ... He should leave her and find a better women ... as for her ... " Buri aurton k liye Burey mard Aur Achi aurton k liye Ache mard " 😶

omg literally i got frustrated while listening to it i don't know how her husband control it and she call her self a muslim? Tooba tooba if it was a boy i would say that too "zina" is haram she didn't know that? and what about her parents? what they teach her? it doesn't mean you are living abroad you will leave your moral values i can't i wish her husband leave her she deserve it.

Surprised to see all these people in yhe comments keep passing judgements and didn't even understood the point of junaid bhai He didn't took sides but mentioned both the things she should have not done and also the past she had was obviously a mistake Allah aur unka mamla hay whether she called be a zani or be forgiven beshk allah sb galtio ko maaf krny wla hy agr tobah sachy dil sy kri jayee. No one is a victim here

I wonder k she is muslims and got intimate twice with him . Aftigfirullah

I cannot believe Junaid is defending Zina and portraying the zania as the victim when she KNEW FULLY WELL what she was doing. The past OBVIOUSLY matters! If it didn't, then this situation would never have happened in the first place. And to lie and cheat with your husband while in nikkah, her new relationship started in deceit and fraud. If her husband files for annulment, which he has every right to, then she brought an apparently innocent man into a Haram relationship because the nikkah is null and void. Shocked to see Junaid defending Zina while hiding behind "everyone has a past" BS logic. No not everyone does sir! People do save themselves for their pious future spouse. I don't know what kind of friends you have interacted with throughout your life, but your peers have obviously been the gunk at the bottom of the barrel. Based on this video, looks like you had some very Haram relationships in your past that you are trying to defend. I am a neuroscience researcher and this is a textbook case of self-projection. Unreal!

She made a relationship with some non Muslim it's harm, and she wants to safe her marriage wtf,not one's twice i wish her husband leave her and find some one batter then her she deserves it

i think shadi se pahlay virginity k baray may zaroor batana chaheye

The man should leave the girl he deserves better, That girl belongs to the streets

What about the nikah at the age of six and intercourse at the age of 9

DO DR SOLANGI PART 4

Khao, peo aur batti bhujao. Who gives a fuck about relationship.

Id say that her parents are responsible for this situiation , if they were bringing their child in such an environment they should have atleast taught their child to stay away from such relationships . Now i think her husband should forgive her and carry on because u do make mistakes when u are young and especially with no guidance from parents and if the husband cant handle the situation then they should probabily divorse bec u cant spend ur life like this

she belongs to the streets

Body count matters mate...

Sir g when will u reply my question on KZfaq I have been waiting since a month dear sir. I'm only 18

Btw ghebat is actually a bigger sin than Zina according to Hadiths. So Jo Yahan din k sipasalar bany hoa hain pehly apni ami or khala ko chup karao.

She already did the worst sin in Islam which is zina. Let her be Christian.

Its pretty obvious ke is aurat ko apne husband se attachment nahi hai. Yeah shadi mistake hai. Nahi karni chayeah thi. Husband ko agar difference pata hai virgin aur non-virgin aurat ka to pher us husband ko bhi experience hoga is bare mai. Husband ka bhi koi past hoga.

Past does not matter, present matters.

Apka takla kuch ziada hi chamak raha hai aj kal .. Takloo