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My only life advice in life is „Get enough sleep. You deserve it.”

The rule of thumb I heard about instinct was "Instincts are generally helpful in areas you're very familiar with, and generally unhelpful in unfamiliar territory". Instincts are largely your subconscious drawing conclusions from past data. And the quality of those conclusions is going to depend highly on how applicable that past data is.

Best life advice for everyone: Stop being so hard on yourself. You're a lot better than you think.

“Chance favors the prepared.” That's very much my perspective when it comes to luck, advantages and hard work. Also, work smart. I believe that's a more realistic advice.

I love it when wealthy people with none of the typical barriers (money, access to knowledgeable people etc) give this type of advice. It turns out having a "small" loan of a few million or a parent who already knowns the industry makes success a hell of a lot easier. All most all these "self made" people had tremendous help that the avg person simply doesn't have. It's no different to telling a homeless person to buy a home.

Kim: Work hard Also Kim: Gained fame from nothing and being born millionaire

My dad is very successful in his career, he basically hit the jackpot at a very early age and what he said about it was that is that he got lucky. He said though, that you need to work hard to make the area where luck can strike you a bit bigger.

I am opposite of "thick skin". My therapist even puts it as - "you were born without skin". I have vegetative dystonia since age 6 which makes my body absolutely fall apart whenever i'm stressed and had eventually lead to me being disabled. I am extremely annoyed at this type of advice - be strong, work hard, you'll get what you deserve - because i _can't_ do that, and it's not my fault! I have to learn to live with my condition(s) and i'm still learning to accept myself thanks to people telling everyone to grind equally. I don't care if people think i'm lazy or that i somehow deserve worse conditions over something i have no control over - i know what i need and what's bad for me, i want to make my own hours and try to make my own life at least a little easier.

I really like how she mentioned that realizing how sometimes there are factors in fate beyond our control helps to humble us. I feel that this mindset doesn't make one play victim or become arrogant when successful.

OMG - someone on the KZfaq giving mature, sane, factual advice. Thank You.

"chasing your dream does not look like fun".. yeah girl... tell it as it is. I am not chasing my dreams, i am committed to my dreams. Yes, its hard and annoying at times, but its mine and i love it in every moment of the process.

When the online community is too filled with self declared intellectuals and "smart" people, getting across genuinely smart people with original perspective like yourself is like a fresh breeze :) Liked and subscribed!

Several books really helped me get over the belief that I have "too many interests" and need to decide on one to follow as my "passion": • Refuse To Choose! (Barbara Sher) • Range (David Epstein) • The Episodic Career (Farai Chideya) • I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was (Barbara Sher)

Agree. 4 years at uni taught me that hard work alone was not enough. And it is funny how when you dont make any progress ppl will automatically say u havent worked hard enough when obviously, u are stressed out af. And remember that wether you have worked hard enough or not, god knows, you know and they dont know

As an immigrant physician to the USA who had to start over by flipping burgers and now working as a medical assistant - I thank you for addressing our struggle. ❤️

i think issue about luck and hard work is that when we face failure we blame ourselves for not putting in enough effort, but when we see our friends or any other people failing, we would tell them its just bad luck.

"U need to have very soft skin and quite strong core, aka strong core beliefs and values." - Elizabeth. kids in this decade will quote this lady for EVER, at least i will. 🤓😍

I remember reading a short story as a kid that changed my perspective about finding and working hard on only ONE passion. It was about a kid who wanted like, 7 different jobs when he grew older, and the best part about this story is that not one adult shut him down or invalidated his stance. It gave me soo much hope because I was just like him: I liked to do so many things and didn't want to focus on a specific one for the rest of my life. Your last advice reminded me of this story and why I loved it so much. Thank you!!!

At my last two jobs my slogan was "don't treat me like I own the place" -- but seriously, self-care and balance then caring for others are way more important than the goal "work until you collapse".

I had it hard as a teenager... It wasn't until I was an adult that I was diagnosed with ADD and anxiety... But what started helping me a bit at the time, was kind of a negative view "Expect the worst and it can only get better"... This, of course, made me pessimistic and alone... So the best advice I have heard and can give is: "Enjoy the little things - nobody knows what tomorrow brings" and "Never go to bed angry"

It's so refreshing to hear someone go against the same old rhetoric that's constantly spouted by the rich.

LOVE what you said about having thick skin! "Have soft skin but a strong core." So good. It's ok to have those feelings and a strong internal world.....but also have strong personal boundaries for how people speak to and treat you. Thank you for sharing!

"Chasing your dreams does not always look like fun" Great quote!

To me the formula of success is nearly realy in 1. Hard work 2.Enough support (financial, emotional, social...) 3. Initial talent

I think the great advice here is: don't take others mindset, efforts and results as a solid truth for your own life. And if I could put some words to improve this, it would be: Write down your goals based on your own principles and what you really value. Be prepared to rearrange your goals according to the moment you are living. Almost certainly others rulers will not fit to you.

What I like the most about you Elizabeth, is how self-aware and uninfluenced by the authority figures you are. You clearly trust your own mind the most. Good for you!

this video made me realize that I've been expected to achieve the same things as other people who have had better circumstances and it's just not fair because it made me press hard on myself, thinking that my laziness is to be blamed for every bad thing that happens to me.

Your honesty earned yourself a follower. Finally found someone whose thoughts resonates with mine. Productivity and working hard aren’t always the answers to success. Finally someone has the audacity to point it out.

The last bad advice was spot on, it really hits home. And it’s kinda validating that someone also feels this way.

I get your point that a lot of people's results in life have more to do with certain advantages or disadvantages that they had. But I do believe that effort to a certain extent increases your luck. If you want avocados the more avocado seeds that you plant the higher the probability that you will end up with avocados in the end... Another point is that working on your inner environment can many times lead to higher returns than working on the outer environment which we have less control over.

I'm 18 years old, so I don't have much life experience; nevertheless, everything you said makes so much sense to me. These self-help gurus aren't giving life advice based on reality. Your advice is rooted in reality and actual experiences. It’s practical advice for anyone. Thanks for the video!

Me at 28 with ADHD, four mental illnesses, lifelong poverty and severe imposter syndrome, feeling like shit because of this "advice" from privileged billionaires because I'm nowhere near where I need to be as an artist. Thank you for helping to point out their bs ❤

I love that you also take into account mothers with children when you explain a concept. I feel like that factor gets often overlooked in the so called 'hustle culture' and by time management experts in general. I often hear the words like 'you can manifest anything' bla bla but when I think of it, in my opinion there are so many other things that could potentially happen where you have no control over, especially as a woman (because there is a huge part of society that still expect women to do the main part of childcare so you have no time developing your career), when it comes to relationships (are you going to find the perfect match, is the person going to stay faithful ect.) so that this whole manifestation thing is only true to a certain degree. There is so much luck involved as you said.

One successful businessman when asked how one can become successful candidly stated that there is no true blue print, but that its more to do with being, "at the right place, at the right time".

I watch almost every motivational channel on KZfaq and this is quickly becoming my favorite. Excellent style, content, and execution.

I think the strong inner world is what most people THINK a thick skin is. There is a difference though, and you nailed it. I'm with you, the advice to follow your passion effed me up! I'm passionate about EVERYTHING. I have SO MANY interests! I cannot follow them all! It took me years to settle into a healthy pattern with a job I enjoy and doing whatever habits I feel like at the time.

I agree 100%. Most people think that everyone is the same and have the same opportunities. But that is definitely not true. I've seen quite a few individuals who succeeded in something mainly because they had good luck with it or lots of connections (relatives and/or friends who can promote you). Of course it's easy for them to give advice afterwards. Some people may be professional at giving advice but they're not necessarily that professional at other things. Still, we just need to do our best and see what happens. At the end of the day it's more important how much you strived to achieve your goal rather than your final result. You're a very wise girl, let me tell you :)

Hard work was rewarded well half a century ago. An uneducated full-time working husband per household was financially enough to provide for a decent sized family living in a large house with a car. This is not the case anymore. About thick skin I also agree with your points, but I would personally add that being feared also helps. It can prevent situations (conflicts) in which you need to rely only on resilience. 13:30 that's exactly me. I'm uncertain if it's because of my ADHD because my interests change rapidly. It feels like the system doesn't like multipassionates (generalists) as much as it likes specialists.

As a person in their early 20s, I needed this. I feel so lucky to have found your channel. You're one of the 5 people I follow on KZfaq and I've got Ali to thank for that lol. I hope you keep doing these videos. These are really necessary and novel. Thank you for your work. Wish you all the happiness ❤️ P.s - Taking that editing game to a new level Elizabeth ✨👌😌.

Every time I watch one of your videos I learn something new or something I already know or heard of but haven’t given much thought to. I am so glad I found your channel and every minute I spend watching your fabulous perspectives on life I gain more than I spend, knowledge wise. Thank you for being yourself and creating an absolutely delightful channel and it’s very underrated. Love from Melbourne ❤️❤️❤️ also, congratulations on reaching 200k plus subs. You absolutely deserve a lot more and I know you will get it.

This is kinda tiring, I consumed a lot of self-help book/content that tells me things to do, then I read other books/content that tell me that the former miss the point. Damn sometimes I just wish I could just go back to how I was, knowing nothing about all this, just doing my thing

The "have a strong core rather than thick skin" seems like a phrasing issue to me. In a way, they both mean the same thing. Having thick skin is being strong enough not to let outside circumstances shake your.. well, core, actually. Art least that's how I always understood the concept. But I like your alternative advice as well! Also, definitely agree with "it's 80%" luck. Work hard, because if you want to achieve any kind of success in life (or maintain it) you need to put in the work. Whether it'll actually get you the results you want is largely up to chance, but if you don't work you basically have to stumble upon a winning lottery ticket somewhere on the pavement.

Jazakallah for bringing the topic of "work=you'll get what you deserve" cus it's been a huge help for strengthening my belief in taqdir, and my Iman,the fact that life isn't always meant for following our passion cus MOST PEOPLE don't even have the luxury of having a passion itself.

I cannot thank you enough. I am at a point where I suddenly have to make career decisions by myself and kind of " find my passion" and I couldn't find any but have tons of things I am interested/ curious in. I feel greatly validated and relieved. Thank you for being real

So true that everybody should work on something to have fun, and the result they can get is based on luck. Don't work for the result, work for fun! Thanks for the video!

The need to find ur passion part kind of goes hand in hand with the ideas of being a prodigy which is also something I ABSOLUTELY HATE. Being subjected to such bad advices and the pressure i felt for not being a prodigy when the kids around me were did a number on me.

I just found your channel yesterday and been watching your videos since then, It’s like you’re just putting in words every little thought I have ever had omg

I am so glad someone finally talked about people like us . I was struggling so much in school to find my passion . I could do so many thing but I was not passionate enough to purse them as a career even now in college it's the same . No one assure us as students that it's okay to not find one particular passion . I am really grateful to you . Thankyou so much

I agree with you that luck plays a significant role in a person's success. But luck is a factor beyond our control. When successful people give advice such as working hard and work smart, they are talking about doing things that are within our control. In this respect, they are correct.

Thank you for another great video! Regarding the Formula for Success topic, you said you think it breaks down to 5% hard work, 15% unfair advantages, and 80% luck. I understand, that these are fairly arbitrary percentages, but I'd be curious to hear anyone's thoughts on my interpretation of the Formula. The Formula described here is basically the equation: Success = X*UnfairAdvantages + Y*HardWork + Z*Luck where X, Y, Z are the percentages you mentioned. However, in my view, these percentages vary widely on your environment, especially, when it comes to unfair advantages/disadvantages. Essentially, there are different levels of inequality depending on the environment. When it comes to hard work vs. luck, maybe I'm being optimistic, but while I agree that 80% of success is luck, hard work can chip away at that percentage. Basically, the harder you work, the less luck you need, though I would say the minimum percentage of luck would be around 50% (still high). Additionally, the percentage reduced from luck with hard work follows the law of diminishing returns. Thanks for reading through my thoughts. If I missed/misunderstood something I'd be grateful if you let me know. Have a great day everyone!

This is absolutely what I needed to hear right now. Wow. I feel like you’re speaking directly out of my heart. Thank you so much for making these videos, Elizabeth!! :)

I LOOOVE your videos and your editing style so much!!! And I appreciate how you analyze this "advice" because I also think often times we have no control about what happens and certain life circumstances are not the reality for everyone. I feel so much more at peace and confident since I started to prioritize my health, my mental state, my sleep and my eating habits over husteling all the time only to get the job done. I will do the best I can and I won't worry about factors I cannot control because this will just drive me crazy and will end in overthinking.

Thank you so much for this video. It seems like a miracle to me that someone addressed all of the advices which were bothering me for quite a long while. Now I can go through world with a clear-er mindset. Lots of love, and I hope luck favours you in the long run! 💜✨

I think your calling in life is to make these well made videos! You described my life story perfectly! I'm not passionate about one thing either. I just so happen to be studying medicine as well. Sometimes I love it, sometimes I hate it! Also, lately I've been working on better communication, becoming emotionally stable, and having thicker skin. Being better everyday. Thanks for reciprocating that.

You are geniunly one of the smartest people I have come accros in youtube. Not only does every insight and advice you give is just so on point but also how you express it withouyt sounding repetitive. After hearing your video I realized a lot of things I used to belive are just not true in the real world, and that believing them it's actually quite dangerous and detrimental for our mental health. THANK YOU SO MUCH :) All the best Elizabeth

Thank you, Liz! I love this video! I especially love the section about working hard doesn’t cut it. You’re right: the obsession with hard work is ridiculous and it’s cutting our lives out. This is a huge reason why I think America is such a socially isolated country. It really saddens me. We all have this idea of “yeah, I’ll have fun with you when I make it”…or “I would hang out with you but I want to pick up an extra shift” as if all that hustling will actually bring us further along and free us up later. It normally doesn’t. People usually run on that hamster wheel and waste their lives away until it runs them. Eventually we are working not because we want to “get ahead for later” but because we have nothing else to do. Our friends are all out working; we can’t meet up easily, so might as well pick up another shift. Horrible cycle. I did some learning about the happiest countries in the world and overtime was so incredibly rare there. If you told them you wanted to stay at work past 5 on Friday to “get ahead,” they’d be like, “What?” The concept is stupid to me now that I’ve wasted such a long time trying to get ahead with nothing coming from it but my Lyme Disease getting worse. Which is good because it has forced me to rest and recover from the incredible burnout. It’s very upsetting to me that the mindset you talk about is so pervasive. You will never enjoy what you have even when you attain what you think you want unless you enjoy what you have now when you don’t have what you think you want.

Wow I love the creativity from this video! Not only is the editing amazing but the commentary is SOO relatable. Thank you 🙏🏽

when you mentioned the life advice at first I was convinced that this is my belief too and I am sure nothing can replace these things but as you explained every single thing I was compelled to reconstruct my entire belief system around success and wow it is unbelievably powerful to do that through a 10/15 minute video.

I love love love your opinions on these things. Back when my depression got really bad I tried therapists and they weren't helping but things like what your saying is what ended up helping me. I feel you on another level because these opinions saved my life literally and made my life better and healthier.

omg you're soooooo right!! that part when you said how are you supposed to figure out waht you like all of a sudden.. i feel you so much there. I was also always told what to do and never given the opportunity to take responsability for myself and discover my interests... i fell like society puts so much pressure on high school sutdents to figure out how they wanna spend the rest of their lives at a moment in their life and evolution when litterally anything looks (and psychologically speaking is) far more important to them than choosing a career path .... it's madness. thank you so much for sharing your bold but true opinions!!!

girl, I've been telling these exact things to everyone I know for the... well.. the past 10 years probably (me, the psych major) and I am so happy someone else actually made a structured video of it and put it out there!! our traits and condition and those of the others we interact with are at play every single moment and that's how life happens :)) that's how you get or don't get the job (even if you're on equal footing with everyone else from a skill perspective) I've felt this first hand when, at a job some years ago, my team leader hired somebody who clearly did not want to work (I attended the interview; he was skilled and had the intelligence to handle the job) only because they both had read the same book that week... in the end I ended up mentoring this person and provided constant feedback on his lack of motivation to actually do the job; after much toil the person left on their own when their own business took off and did not need the paycheck we were giving him... and it all started with a damn book.

Elizabeth, I especially like your remarks "Don't Read Too Much." I collect books and read a lot. I'll enjoy reading much more if I know there's no chance I'm damaging my vision by hours of reading. I hope you take up this theme again. I subscribed to your newsletter today.

Thank you so much for making this video.❤️It was like someone was also facing the same issue as I am. :) I can’t express how this whole video was so relatable to me. I faced every single thing you said in the video. I once literally searched up careers and Skills to develop, to find out if I’m genuinely passionate about any of them. Even the reading will make your eyesight poor was such a silly fear for me. Thick skin part, I always tried to ignore what people say , even if it makes me feel bad and was fed up because it was just not working. Once again, thank you for doing what you do ❤️ This was so helpful ! ❤️😁

You have became one of my favourite channels, in the midst of productivity gurus your advice as someone who lacks focus helps so much!! Looking forward to see much more quality content ✨✨

Top-notch editing in this video! Like Woody Allen said, “80% of success is just showing up.”

Loved this! I always thought that quotes/advice from the internet aren't/ isn't always true, because the people who gave them/it, either lied or that particular advice just worked for them. Life is different for everybody and many times we learn just by living, especially since we're all different and trusting our intuition. Sending love! 💓

Thank you so much for this. My whole mentality has been HUSTLE HUSTLE HUSTLE, and I always thought that my worth was measured on my productivity, success and money. The hustle culture has been so distructive to me as a person because I am neurodivergent and struggle with my ADHD a lot. I always see my friends work hard and live their hustle life but I could never get into that mind set, I always thought "what's wrong with me?" and whenever I did rest I would feel guilty and think "the reason I'm not so successful is becuase I'm not doing the work" when in truth I need a lot of recovery time, I went through a lot in my childhood and have never ever had the privilage of working through it because I've been in surival mode since I was born, but now that I'm in a place of comfort and peace i realise that, I'm bloody exhausted. Rest and recharge time is so important and is part of the path to success.

This is exactly how i think. All our accomplishments and failures are not ours. Being humble and forgiving to not only ourselves but to other people is the way to go in life!. Amazing video! And you’re gorgeous ❤️

I am really impressed! This is such good content. Original ideas, amazing editing, visually appealing. Must have been so much work behind the scenes! (Also, your hair looks gorgeous as always)

This is why I love her and look up to her. She is honest and real. ❤️

You’re absolutely right for me, it’s just that hard work pays off if I know it’s going to pay off(I don’t do random things is what I am saying) but luck is a factor as in you create your own luck. I have yearly goals and at the same time I am having fun. Hope anyone here no matter their situation can be their ultimate version of themselves and reach their dreams and aspirations.

Elizabeth, I really have to say I am glad to see someone voicing out the thoughts that I myself think about a lot and I do not see others really seeing it. A big thank you for this perspective. God bless!😊

Thanks for sharing the more unpopular aspects of the hustle grind culture that surrounds us. It’s surprising that you see 80% just luck but you have your points there 😅 political and sistemic unfairnesses expressed in inequality of opportunity is something I’m passionate. Thanks for the new video. 👏

Huge and warm hugs to you Elizabeth for taking the time to publish such a crucial video for all of us, especially the younger generation. I really appreciate it and thank you for what you are doing through your content ❤😄

i just found you and your voice is so relaxing, it helps me finish the videos in full which is my goal

I love all of your videos !!! The points you make always makes every experience and emotion feel so human and normal and it's great

Great one Elizabeth! I agree with most things, but I just have a few reservations. Advice 1. Work hard and you'll get what you deserve. I'm glad you mentioned luck because it's something that goes overlooked too often if you asked me, then everyone gets mad when they don't get what they deserve. But I don't agree that luck accounts for as much as you give it credit for. A mentor of mine once told me that luck is hard work + opportunity. While I don't think that's the full picture either, I think hardwork actually does drive WAY more than you give it credit for. You gave the example of someone who got a job because someone else quit... Well, that's luck, but if a person who was sub-par was in that same situation, he wouldn't have got the job. Or he'd get it and then be fired because of poor performance. The person was good enough to get it and so they did. Without the work it took the person to be good enough to get it, that "luck" would've just been a "missed opportunity". Yes, there is chaos behind our outcomes, but I think there's a good measure of predictability. In middle school, I was a lame average student. In high school, I worked harder, and I literally became the best student in my department of studies. I just studied hard & smart and when people call me smart, I just laugh because I knew people in my class who i thought were smarter than me. But that brings me to something else I thought you were going to talk about which plays a big role as well, and that's SMART work. I think smart work has a decemt place in that pie chart. I also think that luck or unfair advantages affect ease of getting somewhere more than how much you can grow. We're dealt different hands in life... A person might be sick, or poor, and so on... We might be born on Level -2, while someone else might be born on Level 3. Obviously, it's going to be easier for the other person to reach Level 6 because you first have to climb up to Level 0, and I'm not even claiming that you'll even get to level 6 if you put in the work. You might. But you can at least end up at Level 2 or 3. All I'm saying is that hard-work can drive so much more than a 5% advancement from where you currently are. Don't get me wrong though, your thoughts were actually really insightful, and I'm glad you're mentioning luck. Advice 2. You need thick skin. It's amazing that you're addressing the issue of wanting to be so tough that you never address anything that happens... Which is actually very damaging to the psyche... But what I understand to be thick skin is what you mean when you say soft skin and a strong core. To me, developing thick skin means having adversity or negativity befall you and not being crushed or destroyed by it. It means saying "Yep, shit happens", without it affecting your sense of worth. It doesn't necessarily prescribe what to do with that negative stimuli or adversity. It's just has to do with the reaction to being hit with it. And I think, and I believe you'd agree that it's pretty useful to not be toppled over by life's harshness. In that case, I do think it's necessary to, as you've done, say that it's necessary to engage with that adversity and grow from it, however that might be. Advice 3. Trust yourself. Oh yeah, I completely agree to this. Kind of like you, I was thinking of quitting on studying Law. But I'm still here. Woo! Advice 4. Don't read too much Man... I'm no doctor, I know nothing about this, but if it only stresses then good for me. Go Lizzy! Advice 5. Find your passion. You know... For the longest time I've been in limbo and indecision trying to figure out "my one true passion", when it feels like I have 6 of them. It sucks. So, I agree. And the thought chasing your dreams is all lovely work is an idea I've been trying to unteach myself. I've just now recently to decided to explore them, and right now, I'm focusing on my painting :). There's always going to be tough work, and I think it's important to remember because the line between "this is difficult", and "this is not just for me" can be very blurry. Thank you, Lizzy! This was such an exciting and insightful video. I don't usually bother to type things like this, but there were things I disagreed with and agreed with and you just seemed really welcoming and I couldn't help myself. Anyways. I love it! Can't wait to see more!

Thank you for this, I have been running myself ragged for so many years trying to choose one thing as my true "passion" .... impossible!! More videos like this please!

i love the way you explain your arguments and how orinial your ideas are!! really liked your points! btw how is your so pretty??? its literal perfection

I can not express how happy I am that I found your channel, thank you so much for your content I feel so reassured and seen lol. Greetings from Germany, you're amazing!!

hmmm what you said about passion is absolutely true. It's not always easy to immediately know what you're passionate about and you may not enjoy it ALL the time and you may not even be good at it at first. I've slowly learnt that picking just One thing I feel I might like and sticking to it and slowly chipping away at it and not being afraid to be bad at it at first has really helped take much of the pressure of myself

This was such a nicely animated and explained vid , haha loved 😍 your emotions and especially when you said " people who have 3-4 kids waiting for them in a country whose language they cannot speak properly and then telling them to work hard is stupid..."

I really resonated with what you said about finally having the freedom to make decisions and being like "what am I going to do now". As a young adult this really is one of the annoying things I've had to deal with. Great vid!

Thank you so much like seriously I have been fing looking for the last advice for a long time.Oh my god i am so relieved that i am not the only person not being able to decide what IS MY FING PASSION???? You are my HERO thank you bro ✨

I wish younger me had this video. Especially the bit about being passionate and finding your “one true calling” would have saved me a lot of pain and tears. Even being older and having gone through and come out with the opinion on my own, it is so nice and affirming to hear someone else say it.

Wow Elizabeth this might be my favourite video you've ever made, so validating, introspective and honest. Thank you for talking about how meritocracy is a lie!! I really loved this, truly hit close to home

I’m so glad i came across this video bc so many years of my life have been shaped by that mentality of ‘work hard, if you don’t your just lazy and stupid’. Sadly just recently I’ve realized how its changed me. Now I find myself trying to undo all those negative changes and not just changes but the words and moments that have stuck to me. If there’s any advice I would tell my younger self is to believe in myself and keep moving where and how I want to. It’s true when they say time is so valuable, you can’t ever get it back.

I love how real you are! ♥ I'm watching you from Tunisia, and this resonates a lot! Thank you for the great content !

Totally agree with you girl!! I have recently discovered your content. It's different , practical and makes sense. 🎉

I agree that it's not just hard work, but I think If make my pie chart would look something like (just pulling this out of my ass): 10% - hard work 25% - unfair advantages 20% - self care (sleep, exercise, diet, reading, therapy etc.) 15% - mindset (growth or fixed, optimist or pessimist, etc.) 30% - blind luck That said, I would put the "unfair advantages" under the blind luck category since we didn't decide to not be born as a crippled illiterate orphan in war-torn Syria. And I don't think the percentages are fixed. In most cases, if you continue to work on yourself, then the more you put yourself out there, work hard, learn, and network, the "luckier" you become. At least you increase your odds by playing the game more and playing it smarter.

I relate so much to you on your last advice!! I grew up following what I've been told to do and excelling on a beaten track where I already know the endgame. Didn't matter whether or not I enjoyed it, I just had to excel at it. Imagine just hiw much harder it was for me to choose a college major, much less choosing a career once I graduated! Not gonna lie, I'm still stuck, but I'm slowly learning to let all expectations go and explore more of what the world has to offer. I'm trying to learn how to actually enjoy activities instead of just focusing on the outcome, so I won't pressure myself too much again.

You're so thoughtful Elizabeth! You're like an internet bestie to me ❤️

I agree with almost everything she says BUT in the section "trust your instinct"... I think she misunderstood this...instincts are not the same as decisions. Instinct is something you feel very strongly about when encountering something, it's not the decision about everyday things but rather about certain "special" things when you get that feeling that you really should or shouldn't do but you can't really tell why you are feeling so strongly about that thing. Later it showed that I dodged a really big bullet when I trusted my instincts...maybe not everyone feels that but it almost never disappointed me, it always showed for a greater good. I'm sorry if I'm not making any sense.

Ms Filips, you have an extremely refreshing perspective on life that is a breath of fresh air compared to all of the recycled success advice that exists out there. So happy that you're so confident in offering what works for you. Not to be too dramatic, but it makes me really think about the fact that I may not be "defective" for not successfully following common advice. Maybe the advice itself is somewhat flawed. Sadly, this DOES mean I will have to follow my own instincts, even though my instincts have gotten me into trouble before... :)

Your videos are such an eye-opener to me! Glad I've discovered your channel. Wish you great success in the creative and insightful work that you do!

THANK YOU! So tired of people telling me that I need to choose one thing when I have so many things I enjoy doing. It has been a constant source of self doubt for me because I just couldn't figure out why can't I just focus on one thing and become really good at it like other people.

Your reframe of hard work and thick skin really helped me. negative comments get to me, but i should ask myself why i believe these things deep down. And i love you working hard for joy and not for success. It really opens up how success actually happens. Success doesnt even happen from joy. It's so random. But you can work hard and enjoy it, with no attachment to the random nature of outcomes. :']

Thank you Elizabeth, I'm watching this the 2nd time, better unpopular advice summarized - 1. work because you have to and it can be fun, results are random 2. have soft skin( stay vulnerable, inner world) and a strong core( your beliefs ) 3. question yourself, don't fool yourself 4. you can read in low light maybe 5. passions change and are multiple, frustration is part of the work

thank you so much for sharing your much needed perspective. most motivational speakers are just trying to stay relevant by painting this picture of the world and success as if they are deterministic, without factoring in the mind boggling complexity of the real world. thank you so much for your mature and healthy advice.