Something I hate is that it's "ok" for a woman to divulge incredibly private information about her man (to her friends) but if a man did the same to her and told all his friends about all her most intimate thoughts or acts or physical traits she would lose her shit and call him abusive and toxic. I am a very, VERY, private person by nature and I don't want ANYTHING I do or say to my wife in private to be repeated to or discussed by her and her friends. It's private for a reason. I did not marry her friends. I married her.

Income. My money is “our money”. Her money is her money. I’ve had three relationships. All three had this double standard.

When women are homeless it is a national shame. When men are homeless it is just normal and no big deal.

The main double standard I've dealt with all my life is the fact that women are allowed to emotionally explode about anything while men are expected to be stoic and just deal with it. So many women have no restraint about blurting out the most horrendous stuff. The amount of verbal and mental abuse women get away with for no reason is unacceptable. It's as if all the feminist movements in the last 60 years have led to a majority of women feeling entitled to berate, degrade, humiliate, yell at and insult the men in their lives. Just think before you speak, and shut your mouth if it's gonna be irrational yelling. It can't be that hard right?

In Canada during the pandemic our government gave over 100 million (that's a lot for us) to women's shelters, but refused to support the only men's shelter in the country.

Something my mother taught me: To society, women are born millionaires. They have every normal person’s good will up front and only stand to lose if they act poorly enough. Men are born millions in debt to society. They have to prove their worth to society, to their prospective wife, to their children, and to themselves. If a man acts out of turn, he is punished immediately, and he will have that mistake held against him for as long as people can remember it. That lesson has stuck with me.

I’m 53yo & my Mum & every woman I’ve dated have told me “no woman respects a man who cries”, yet they’ve ALL asked me why I can’t be more emotional with them?! Make that make sense!! 🤔🤷‍♂️🤡

My ex thought of me as less of a man because I cried when my infant nephew died.

These "double standards" can be boiled down to "It's bad to hold women accountable," and "it's good to say/do what makes women feel good."

One of the biggest double standards is being told "you must have done something to deserve this" whenever she does something bad. Second is "it's not her fault, she must have issues/depression/anxiety". People are very quick to excuse a woman for doing nasty things and shift blame to the man. I've seen it done even in extreme cases of violence or even murder.

My ex wife one day when she was upset (a psych major in college) told me that men don't have emotions. When I said excuse me?, she did an oops, turned around and walked away. Several weeks later she flipped out again for what ever reason ( I didn't have a clue as to why as we were getting ready to go on a trip) and yelled at me that if I got rough with her andor hit her she'd have me thown in jail. This is after living together and married for almost 15 years and seldom even raised my voice to her and not even ever get angry with her, much less raise a hand against her. That's when I started squirring money away and divorced her 10 months later.

Had a female coworker once, she came into work Monday pissed off-from a bad date she had had over the weekend… I talked to her about it and she ended up showing me her ‘list of must haves ‘ for men… 50 items long. So, I asked her what she imagined a man’s list would look like and she, PhD in Physics, smart, attractive gal, exploded on me, no man has a right to have expectations of a woman, but her having expectations for men is ‘normal’

I have zero tolerance for cheating. There's no justification for it, period. You do it, you're done.

I recently dealt with a double standard. I was told if we were going to date, I would have to get rid of my female friends which she truly meant. Yet when I responded to her request that I would do so if she gave up all her male friends, all of a sudden I was insecure, unrealistic, controlling, insensitive and finally she ended with " How dare you insult me by making demands ". So I shrugged my shoulders and left. A part of me wanted to point out how asinine it was to ask something from me that she would not do, but given her beliefs and closed mindedness it would be easier to explain quantum mathematics to a brick.

When I was younger I was programmed to believe that a lot of men’s preferences were misogynistic. Once you begin to open your eyes you realise that they’re no worse than the preferences women are praised or encouraged to have.

I dated a woman, briefly, that felt it was OK to flirt openly with her male friends, but she got upset for me just talking to a woman that was in need of a friend at the moment. No flirting by me or her. Needless to say, I am no longer dating her.

Double standards I am DONE with: Being talked down to, or even berated, for not opening up when asked "What's wrong?" but when I ask her I get "Nothing. I'm fine" when she CLEARLY isn't fine. Also the notion that if a man has urges and "takes things into his own hands" he is a loser and should be shamed but if a woman does the exact same thing she is empowered and should be celebrated.

Lol I ghosted a chick a few weeks ago for hitting me. She didn't even deserve an explanation, I shouldn't have to tell a grown person it's wrong to assault people

The double standard I am done with is a woman can collect dolls or toys/stuffed animals etc... and she is just "quirky and fun" but if a man collects action figures or toys from something he has loved since childhood (Star Wars, Transformers etc...) he's "childish, immature" and needs to get rid of his "stupid crap" and "be a real man" but if he even dares suggest she do the same with her Barbies or whatever then he is being cruel.

I like this one: “We need to talk.” “OK, let’s talk.” “No, I’m not in the right headspace right now.” Decides to talk when you’re ready to go to sleep. Or some random ambush while you’re watching TV, or just walk in the door. 😮

The one about violence is the one that offends me most. I'm a survivor of brutal domestic violence perpetrated by my sister, who is a malignant narcissist. She would (very often) chase me to my bedroom and bash holes in the door. She'd bale me up against the refrigerator and pound at my face with her clenched fist, while screaming hate at me - and should I dare to catch her wrist to stop her from striking me, she'd scream, "You attacked me!!" and really lay in, punching and kicking me. The entire family watched this happen, over and over an over. And blamed the violence on me. She's probably still ranting about how I "attacked her" and "made her fall over" by catching her foot at my ear when she tried to kick me in the head when I was 14. I'm now 61. In the same year, she threw a knife at me while I was curled up on the floor in the foetal position. In 1994 she swung a telephone at my head and insisted that it was ok for her to do that because it didn't actually hit me - if it had I would have died. So, a week later, I did it back (only without the screaming) to get her to understand that it was wrong - and suddenly it's violent. So, I went full no contact. She stalked me incessantly for the next 15 years, I tried to get help from the police, but they thought it was appropriate to ridicule me and humiliate me. I begged them to call her and tell to to leave me alone. When they refused, I cried. Then they called her, They called MY STALKER to ask her if I were on medication. It is not appropriate to refer to the police as "pigs". Pigs are useful, intelligent animals. Calling the police "pigs" would be very insulting - to the pig

Ladies, please, try to think of it as the golden rule. Treat people the way you would prefer to be treated. If you want a compassionate partner, you have to behave like a compassionate person. If you want an attentive partner, you have to be attentive as well. If you want Loyalty... I think you are getting the idea. If you don't already have these things, then you have nothing to loose by trying.

Being vulnerable in a man with someone who is not a professional therapist is like pinning a 'kick me' sign on your own back.

Woman in a relationship: my money is still MY money, but your money is now MINE as well!

This is actually how a man is objectified ... Used as a task doer and provider only to be ridiculed when not done exactly right. Expected to be an emotionless punching bag for the blame and psychological projection that can be tossed away when done... sounds extreme but I think a lot of men can relate if they've been stuck in a tough one.

I agree with your list Emily. Another double standard that is so infuriating is how women feel justified in changing the rules depending on the circumstances. For instance, how women are all for equality up to the point when traditional values are better suited to achieve what they want.

The vulnerability thing is so true. Every feminist I've met says that it doesn't happen. I've personally experienced women getting angry or aggressive when I open up.

I'm reminded of the guy on Tinder who stated that he only wanted to match with women under 125 lbs., and he was vilified for stating his preference. His response: why is it okay for a huge percentage of women on sites like Tinder to say "must be 6 feet tall at least"?

A woman can comment on my appearance and what they want me to change/improve, but if i would mention anything along the same lines all hell would break loose

cheating & violence should be zero-tolerance dealbreakers

The conceit that physical, emotional and mental abuse is "funny" when it happens to a man is so gross.

My ex was manipulative and abusive, and did not allow me any privacy--- even going so far as to steal a notebook I was using as a "divorce" journal --- detailing her abuse, and the neglect she gave me. Her only physical attack was spitting in my face. One thing about woman on man abuse--- men who honor that "I will never strike her / push her, ect", find themselves having to leave because otherwise they WILL lash out and strike back. Way back when, on an episode of the "Phil Donahue" show, a man came out talking about the abuse he was enduring, and the audience (95% women) LAUGHED--- the man said, "no you don't get it--- I was afraid of losing control physically, even AFTER she came at me with a KNIFE. "

If you want me to quit porn because you see it as cheating, I expect you to quit all forms of romance media for the same reason: all romance books, blogs, vlogs, movies, and television shows. If you want to watch Sex in the City, I get to watch She Likes It Big 14. Men are visual, women are emotional, so if I have to give up my visual movies, you have to give up your emotional movies.

I've experienced all those and I have to say. Most women do not see those as double standards. It's really shameful

Here is BY FAR the biggest double standard. Men are held accountable. Women are not. This is a HUGE double standard that impacts all kinds of things from prison sentencing to family law to college admissions to selective service to abortion law. This is far from a comprehensive list of how the accountability double standard manifests.

I 100% agree with all of this. One thing I will say, I am thankful for my wife here. One of the examples you used here made me think about a situation. My wife and I have been binge watching DC comic TV series for while (i.e. Arrow, The Flash, Superman and Lois, etc), the latest being Smallville. We are both 100% comfortable with each other point when we point out attractive actors and actresses on those shows. She always loves seeing the shirtless guys with six packs, and she can say that openly as it doesn't bother me. In turn, she is comfortable with me saying how insanely hot some of the female actresses are. We both laugh, and have a good time. We both recognize that we are human, and it is ok to see the attraction in others. You can look, just NO TOUCHY! LOL! And some of the actors she loves are waaaaaaaaaaaay more attractive than me (i.e. Actors like Ian Somerhalder, ), and it doen't bother me. We are both secure in our marriage enough. We both laugh when we comment. I understand not all couples can do that, but I am thankful we are at that point. Married for 15 years.

I would have placed domestic violence, physical, verbal, emotional MUCH closer to number one on the list. I heard of a man who was in a support group for victims of domestic violence, he looked like a football player. He was there because when she started hitting him, he would put his hands behind his back, if he defended himself he would be the one arrested. Another one i heard of was a shelter for men. A man came in with various ages of bruises from a few days to a couple of weeks. When rhe local police wwre investigating, a worker at the shelter told the officer about all the bruises, probably showed pictures too. The officer came thinking the man was the aggressor, but left with a new understanding. I know first hand domestic violence can be in the opposite direction of what people think of.

The first time I was praised for anything was in the Army. Mother had a masters in education.

First time I leave a comment here, as it's something I rarely do on YT. I just wanted to thank you, especially for videos like this, because they are precious to us mostly for one reason: the lack of respect, of empathy, of basic humaneness against men (which this video breaks down to a number of spot-on concrete examples) is at this day and age so statistically relevant and so willingly and ruthlessly fueled by the majority of women, that sometimes it gets almost impossible to find a proof in our social reality of it being wrong. I know there are a lot of fortunate exceptions, but generally speaking, I can probably say on behalf of the majority of men that these kinds of wrongdoings against us, so humiliating and yet so dismissed as "normal" by the sisterhood/feminist canon/social media standards, hurt deeply because they seem to have become undefeatable. Being a male means being a logic-driven person, and being logic means to be naturally used to find confirmations in the reality surrounding you which prove that what you feel and think is correct. Where there is cognitive dissonance, and reality and thoughts do not match, men usually are not easily prone to ignore it and fall prey to the temptation of overdoubting themselves. It's the way we are hardwired, it's the way we have to live and find a place in the world, because as a man you either adapt and evolve to fit your surroundings, or otherwise you fail horribly, with zero compassion or significant help from anyone (except your family, oftentimes, but unfortunately family is not a lifelong privilege). Therefore, what really makes your video invaluable is that it is a proof that we, as men, are still right in thinking and feeling in our guts that the double standards you mentioned are wrong. Because, as long as you hear it from another male, your logical way of thinking may end up questioning it as being biased. But hearing it from a woman, it truly is a godsend. Forgive me for having taken up so much space, and have mercy of my English, since I'm not a native speaker. A strong and heartfelt thank you, because what you are doing is unvaluable for a lot of us. And a big hug to all the brokenhearted like me, trying to find some relief from a pain much greater than we deserved. An Italian fan of yours. Grazie. Forza, fratelli miei!

As a male victim of physical abuse by my ex wife: I don’t know how to express my gratitude to you for putting this out here. I didn’t think I would live to see this happen. You are truly a very special kind of woman. ❤

My therapist told me that emotional cheating is due to unmet needs and physical cheating is due to entitlement. That really resonated with me.

Thank you, Emily, for validating our humanity.

As a male, I agree with all of this. Example: She actually told me that she had discussed some aspect of my behaviour with the neighbor up the street, but regularly needed confirmation that I wasn't discussing our relationship with my friends. Another example: My job was working on a computer as a programmer. She told my Father that I don't do anything because I sit at the computer all day! - That's not even a double standard given that I was earning all of our substantial income. If she saw fit to tell that to my Father, you can bet all of her friends were of the same opinion (refer to my first example). Oh - and in the meantime - she was sleeping in until 11AM then wanting to call me out of work meetings to help with things she didn't know how to do - you know - set the time on the microwave, use a screwdriver, hang some blinds, mow the lawn, clean the gutters and 100,000 other things. By the way, if she reads this and knows who it is, I never liked your crappy cooking anyway. Result: I'm gone but have learned a lot about setting boundaries and discussing things at the start. Unresolved issues - specifically not being able to discuss them because the result is always (take your pick, I got the lot) anger, silent treatment, blaming, withdrawal of affection, withdrawal of intimacy (for years).

As a man, people tried to force on me those and similar BS over the years. They almost succeeded. But one day I have decided no more of this crap. I have set boundaries, even with my family. If I do not accept some behaviors I will not accept them even from my mother or father. I will call out people who have double standards and the worst thing that might happen is I will never see them again xD So win-win. This is amazing that doing it brought me some amazing friends who actually care about me.

Very true, and many more. A man is allowed five minutes of crying when his mother dies, that's it. And a man can't say he prefers "thick" women. He has to sugar coat it somehow like "I prefer _real_ women regardless of their size."

"Women that cry are emotional and men that cry are weak"...I like that you bring this up. Men have been trained to be the strong one. We're expected to figure it out, regardless if it's emotionally hard. The truth is that we men are human too. There's so much we can take before we break and to the saying that says that men that cry are weak...I will cheer any man that says FUCK THAT! I FEEL TOO! I'm not going to conform to a notion that was thought of 100 years ago. I gain strength from my family and friends. We all are a team that know that mental health is real and needs support from our tribe. All I can say for my other men...brothers out there is that I got you when you need to recharge.

Divorce. Even in states where it's 50/50, he gets half of her credit card debt, and she gets half of his stuff. Plus, he makes payments on the other half.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

I believe it's a double standard that dating apps require height, but not weight. In general, women notice more about a men's height than men do about a woman's height. However, generally men notice more about a woman's weight than her height. Yet if a dating app required people to not only to enter their height, but their weight, it would be an outrage. And understandably so - maybe neither height nor weight should be listed. I celebrate people's physical attributes. We are as we are, and for a the most part we are built how we're built. It's important to acknowledge that in dating, everyone has preferences - if you're not a match based on that, that's okay. But if you're judging someone generally because of their physical attributes, that's not okay. Thanks for putting this list together Emily, and thank you for what you do for equality!

About men crying, I was in a class with two other Vietnam veterans and one day the lead instructor was sick. An assistant instructor put on a documentary about how and why the lead instructor helped a soldier that had served under him get a medal. A 13 man patrol found out that they had been inserted into 600 man North Vietnamese force. They called for extraction and as the helicopter was lifting them out it was shot down breaking our lead instructor’s back. When a second helicopter got there the soldier that belatedly got the medal was down to seven (7) bullets. As that helicopter started to lift off, realizing our instructor was being left behind because of leave one or leave three, the soldier jumped out to stay with our instructor. We knew both survived because of the opening scene, still all three of the veterans in the class had powerful reactions, the other two walked out not being able to deal with the stress of the video. I on the other hand was sitting there crying. Even though I was never in country, I was involved in search and rescue for a B-52 crew that had gone down in a typhoon. Every night, at the end of the deployment, for 10-14 days we were being shot at by cannons. The other veterans were in country, making patrols similar to the one in the video. The other veterans served one enlistment while I served 23.5 years. This class was about 20 years after I retired. And the question is, which reaction, leaving or crying, shows greater emotion and greater strength. As a side note, the instructor that played the video apologized to me for not realizing how strong our reactions would be.

A neighborhood woman once defended me from attack by another neighborhood woman. I wasn't defend myself and she knew I was afraid of getting into trouble. I greatly appreciated the assist. Is this normal? I've never heard a woman say she would defend a man from a woman

I had a woman talk about my 'faults' with her friends while I was with her, but God forbid if I did that to her when I was with her with my friends. Later in the day she would be enraged that I did that.

Wow, I dealt with a great many of those in my last relationship. She hit me, kicked me, spit at me, threw things at me, etc.... When I told people this it was "well yeah, but what did you do though". It doesn't matter what I did, there is no excuse for that behavior. I didn't hit, spit, kick, throw things, etc.... At worse I stood my ground and tried to set boundaries she didn't like. Same with the cheating which ultimately was the straw that broke the camels back. People actually asked what I did that made her seek attention elsewhere. Even if I did do something, the legitimate way to do that is how I did it in the end. Say "I'm leaving you" before seeking that kind of attention elsewhere. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad you exist and make these videos. It's validating. I have always tried to be sensitive to the plight of women, and to treat them with respect and equality, and women like yourself make it feel like some women are reciprocating this effort right back at my gender. This video specifically was however, quite triggering. Poking at old wounds from my ex wife. Not your fault. But owe nonetheless. Glad that part of my life is over.

One time we were out with a bunch of friends and while talking someone walked into the room. I saw out of the corner of my eye the movement and I turned to see who walked in. I looked for about 1 second and saw that it was a woman and turned back to the discussion. I got royally chewed out for "looking at that woman" when all I did was look to see who walked in the room. It could have been a man for all I knew at the moment. But later in the evening a man walked in the room and my now ex stared for a while and then made the comment that he could park his shoes under her bed anytime. I lost it and asked why I got chewed out for looking for 1 second to see who came in the room and she could stare and make a comment like that! Of course she didn't understand why I was upset over it. There were so many double standards in our marriage it was unbelievable! I ended it when I caught her cheating and she refused to quit. Earlier she had said if I ever cheated on her she would divorce me and take everything she could. Little did I know at the time that she would be the one to cheat and still take as much as she could! Now she's sorry and miserable. But I'm happier now than when we were married! If she didn't have double standards she would have no standards at all!

One I have noticed is: Women can argue with feelings while men can only use facts. We have an old female politician in Denmark who have succesfully turned most political matters into a question about feelings for almost 30 years AND managed to get away with it: For quite a while her party was the most popular in big parts of the country.

On 5, vulnerability: If you have people close to you that react to you showing your vulnerabilities: cut them out! Not being able to be vulnerable about the important people in your life will make you sick and drag you down. In turn, so will these people. In general: If the people around you don't let you be who you are, you need other people around you. It's not easy, with some people maybe not even feasible, but weed out these folks as much as you possibly can! You will feel better once you get to be who you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses!

Another one . In a previous relationship I was supposed to ask " permission" before I spent MY money on something I wanted to buy, whereas she could buy yet another pair of shoes or blouse at anytime and I was just automatically supposed to be OK with it. In the end I just ignored her . She had a meltdown . End of relationship ( sigh of relief )

A man crying is not weakness. It's sincerity and humanity. I would love a man not afraid to express how he feels as opposed to just bottling it up or letting it build until it all just comes out at once..

I broke up with a woman and she attacked me right then and there. First she tried to wrench my car keys away, which bloodied two of my knuckles and I think one of hers. Then it was overhand clawing with fingernails across my face, and finally it was full on closed-fist haymakers. She only got me with the first couple swipes though, the rest I was able to dodge and block with one forearm while getting my phone out and dialing 911 with the other, all while calmly but firmly telling her to stop. She finally did, and I locked myself in my car while she paced around angrily until the cops arrived. I was scared to death that they would see some self-inflicted injuries from her fighting for my keys or maybe bruises from me blocking her attacks, and haul me in for being the bad guy. Thank goodness she did all of this in front of her family. They all liked me, so they told the cops the truth and she spend the weekend in jail, followed by getting convicted for felony assault. The morals of the story: 1.) Men shouldn't have to be so afraid of the cops in domestic violence situations, but we feel that we'll be labeled the aggressor by default, and 2.) If the evidence shows that she was the aggressor, the system will indeed protect you (at least where I live). But never fight back unless she grabs a deadly weapon or something like that.

Her point about the double standards of physical preferences, I'm that guy. I like women who are curvy and maybe have a little more meat on the bone, so to speak. And I actually don't tend to go after fit, gym girls. Never once had a single woman try to shame me because, as this video said, my preference was aimed at "making average women feel better." Wow. This was eye-opening! 😮

Speaking of the abuse hypocrisy one, I remember seeing a video people made a few years ago where they tested that double standard in public. They had a couple walk through a crowded area and start arguing. When the man started yelling and pushing the woman around, with her cringing back from him, people would run up and grab the man, pull him away from her, console her, etc. Then they did it with the woman being the abusive one, with the man cringing back from her. Nobody came to his defense. In fact, a lot of people just pointed and laughed. Or filmed it.

My wife (5'0" 125 lbs) tried hitting me (6'0" 250 lbs) in anger one day. Since it didn't actually hurt, I stood there while she punched my chest several times. Then, when she began to calm, I asked her if she wanted me to hit her back; after all, if it's ok for her to hit me, then it's ok for me to hit her (I never would, if I did, I'd probably break something). That stopped her from ever doing it again. We've been married 28 years now. Also, thanks, Emily, for putting out these videos!

Lol. Seen it many times. Woman attacks guy, slapping, kicking, scratching him. Guy shoves her away and she starts screaming that he hit her. You hit the nail on the head with many of your points.

🎉🎉🎉 Thank you so Much for speaking up for us males out here. I truly admire you for your thoughts and information that you put out. Keep on filming and I’ll keep on watching. Blessings from Paso Robles, California, Carlos ✝️🙏❤️😊🇺🇸

As usual, you're spot on with your advice. I started watching your post when I was thinking of leaving my wife of 15 years. She has her own forms of gaslighting. I told her the day before yesterday I was leaving. She played it off until I told her again this morning that it's for real. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, and she had the nerve to downplay it. I actually feel so relieved. It's still going to be a process. Matt Rife is freaking hilarious. Thank you for all your great advice.

Thanks for a mature video, concise and respectful approach. My first encounter with your work. Like they sang in Grease, puh-leeze, "Tell me more, tell me more!!"

I’m sick of some women trying to pull any kind of double standard. It’s disgusting.

I'm glad you mentioned the vulnerability double standard. It gets old having your vulnerability thrown back in your face.

Great points. Well thought out. Well spoken. Having honest dialogue is key to a healthy relationship.

Back when I was in college in the 90s, I was a gym rat. I was dating a girl who wasn't. Not meaning she was obese or anything, but she wasn't into working out. She said to me once that if I didn't lift, she couldn't date me. The hypocrisy was too much for me. Ended it that night.

Refreshing to hear this. Every age is vulnerable to criticism by the next. I try to see things as they are.

Great video Emily!...a great example of abuse of men that is tolerated and even laughed at is the show "Everybody Loves Raymond"....Debra constantly physically and mentally abuses Raymond with punching him...hitting him in the groin...grabbing him by the ear...slapping him in the face just to mentions a few and the show was a big hit and these acts were laughed at as being funny....we all know that if the activities were reversed and Raymond did that to Debra...well...the show would have been cancelled and off the air and would have had social media outcries and picketing.....just my 2 cents....Cheers!

One that's bothered me because I've experienced it a lot is that if I open up about a gender-related issue it's "comparing problems" and I get insulted, but then those same women are the ones outright saying their struggles are somehow worse or more important. They're the only ones comparing anything but because I dare speak up about my own issues I'm suddenly toxic.

You NAILED them all CORRECTLY !!

Cheating breaks the laws of love.

I got nailed by my wife for talking about physical preferences for her. When she was losing weight she was losing weight too quickly. She was approaching 40 and stood to lose bone density, which she did. She also lost her curves, which wouldn't have happened had she lost weight at a slower pace. It doesn't change how I feel about her but I did admire her curves.

Thank you for being public on all these things. The question is whether there are remedies, or whether men just have to put up with all this stuff in a female centred world.

#8: Objectification. I recall for years while involved with a local science-fiction convention, hearing quite often the disdain of some of the female organizers criticizing how some male con-goers seemed to like to look at the young, attractive, female cosplayer con-goers. Yet some of these same women, later on, would be talking about looking in the dealer's room for the latest edition of a volunteer beefcake firefighter calendar for charity. It was just maddening.

Apparently not one most men are done with (based on the mockery), but I sure am, after more than 1 occasion: sexual assault (esp. blaming it on alcohol or saying that all men want it, or are you gay?, etc.) Yeah, men can more easily fight back better physically, but news flash: not only do men also have feelings that can delay/complicate things (including having a history with the person), but if she chose to call the police in retaliation for being rejected, if she had any signs of you fighting back on her, guess how that would go? That is why I quickly lost respect for the #meToo movement after it moved on from actual predators to #believeAllWomen

My last girlfriend was upset that I was friends with my ex-fiance on Facebook. Normally, I may agree that it is an issue. However, in this case, we have a daughter together and I had sole custody. So it is a way she can still see what's happening in our lives, more specifically our daughter's life. Also that I have her phone number, but we rarely interacted. She made me unfriend her. The funny thing is, she was still friends with her "first" (if you know what I mean) and still in regular contact with him. He is quite wealthy and semi-famous, as he is an actor on TV. Though I think for voice work more than anything. Yet she saw no issue there. Which, for me at the time, didn't bother me one bit, as I actually trusted her in our relationship. Also she had maybe 1 female friend and many male friends. Her best friend was a guy. Again, it didn't bother me at the time. Some time after we broke up, I finally realized some of these were issues.

The double standard I hate is the justice system. I hate how a woman can make an accusation without evidence and the man is believed to be guilty. Meanwhile if you were to reverse that, if a man were to make an accusation without evidence the case is rejected. I've had managers in the workplace tell me a woman filed a complaint against me. I threatened to check the security cameras and get a lawyer. The topic was immediately dropped.

Thank you for all your hard work on your content. You are helping and it is appreciated.

The one that live with. Anything I decide has to be discussed with her but she can just simply do what she wants. "why are you cutting that bush down"? "be cause it's right above our water main and to close to the house foundation" "We didn't discus this, did you do research it? did you talk to anyone"? Of course only she decides who 'anyone' is.

The one that got me; Growing up, Mum was a receptionist for an all-female medical practice. If a woman wanted to be seen by a female doctor, that was her God-given right (I have no problem with this, to be fair), but if a man even hinted that he'd be more comfortable seeing a male doctor, he was, "Effin stupit!"

Thank you for 'spilling the beans' on how many women actually think and behave, I in my 60yrs have experienced much of what you said.

This is a second marriage for both of us, and we started couples counseling before we got married to make sure neither of us brought the crap from our first marriages into our second. We have spent a lot of time on these particular stereotypes and have been given the tools to safely negotiate them. We both have anger issues to deal with and although my wife has never "lost her shit on me," she also acknowledged that it would have affected her immensely (and not positively) had I broken down and wept in her presence. We have learned that both partners need a safe space in order to be (sometimes) brutally honest in a respectful way in order to share. These were important lessons we had to learn and have them become ingrained in our daily lives. It is a lot of work, but it is worth it.

9. The website would probably even pass that video along to law enforcement so the man could be charged if the roles were reversed. 8. Thank you! I've been irritated by this double standard for years, and it's one that girls are taught from a young age. The one that comes to mind off the top of my head was in "The Princess Diaries 2" where a group of girls is looking at candidates for the heroine's required marriage and they included Prince William not because he was eligible but because they loved to look at him. Excellent list, Emily.

Correct! We are done with those. The cat is out of the bag and it's not going back in, ever.

Some years back, there was an episode of “What would you do?”, or something similar. They staged two different scenarios. One showed a man physically abusing and arguing loudly with a woman. EVERYONE came to the woman’s aid, without even knowing the circumstances. Men and women alike. Then, the sexes were reversed. A woman was shown physically attacking and loudly arguing with a man. WITHOUT FAIL, NO ONE came to his aid. What’s more, strangers were filmed looking on and smiling! When interviewed afterwards, women took the universal viewpoint that the man must have “deserved it”. No one would EVER take the viewpoint that the WOMAN deserved it. And there probably isn’t an ardent feminist alive who would actively work towards remedying this disparity.

Thank you, Emily. I love your content because you are filling a much needed void.

Go Emily keep it up! So grateful for your genuine voice. It is so needed today.

These aren't just double standards, they're signs of psychopathy.

I am of a thinner build, as WAS my wife when we married. I stand just shy of 6 foot and I weighed about 168 to 170 on our wedding day. She is 5' 4" and weighed 110, tops. After 25 years, things change a bit, at least for her. She has likely put on about 45 lbs. When she has acted self critical about her weight, my instinct is to tell her how attractive she is... "But babe, it all has gone to the right places." Or, "Honestly, you look better now than when we met." I starred working out more seriously about a year ago. My weight had shifted very little in our marriage. But in the process of working out, I began to lose a few pounds. I didn't want to get thinner, I was trying to add muscle, not lose weight overall. I stepped on the scale in our room one night and made the mistake of reading the numbers out loud. Did my wife say, "But honey, you are looking hot and fit." ?? LOL! Nope. In a very disgusted tone, she said, "Oh my God! Are you serious?" Its amazing how thoughtless women are towards their men. Can you imagine the hell I'd face doing anything even close to that towards my wife? To a woman who weighs 45 lbs more than on our wedding day? But i am with in 10 lbs of what I weighed 25 years ago and she acts like i am disgustingly scrawny. I go out of my way trying to compliment her looks. But if she says ANYTHING about my physical appearance, 99 times out of 100 it is a suggestion on how it can improve... "You need better shoes, a step up from what you're wearing." "You should wear Dockers more. Why jeans all the time?" "You know when you use that older cologne, it just smells like chemicals." "You could stand to gain a few pounds." "You cut your hair again. I like your hair longer." On and On and On!

You meke a lot of very great points Emily especially number 1. Media & society make fun of me for crying or even asking for help.

I really appreciated the video and your willingness to point out these double standards. Sometimes I think the best is when a woman does it on behalf of men, and that it's also vital that men do the same for women. I would just urge people to try not to blame feminism itself, but rather, patriarchy. There *are* many who distort feminism, which is unfortunate, but I've been studying feminist theory and am really interested in Bell Hooks writings. There are many quotes from her that are very validating for men, and that I think many men here would appreciate. Some people seem to think it's a "balance beam" and that committing atrocities on the other side somehow fixes things, and I don't believe it does. Two wrongs don't make a right. I may be part of a group which is known for bad behavior, but I'm not a group, I'm an individual, I didn't *choose* to be born my demographic, nor should I apologize for that. I find a lot of behavior to be disturbing. I've seen a woman post that she was "too horny to work alongside certain men" insinuating that she would have a hard time controlling herself due to the man's appearance, which to me seems awfully close to victim blaming a woman for getting assaulted due to how she was dressed; yet the comment got likes and didn't get called out.

5 and 1 are spot on. Women say they want a man that is willing to be vulnerable, but at the first sign of any weakness attraction goes to zero. But, all of these have hit me in one way or another.

I refuse to engage with insane women.

Love it and spot on, Emily. Thanks for posting.

Pushing 79 here. I can't tell you just HOW happy I am that I didn't have to negotiate social media when I was younger. 😁 But yeah - this has been generally true for as long as I can remember.

Ugh! All so true. Thanks for reminding me of why I'm absolutely DONE with all that $#!7, and with women in general!