父母可否將自己的願望交給兒女實踐？教育下一代萬萬不可做的事情是什麼？《蕭若元：書房閒話》2024-06-23

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@holiday258 4 күн бұрын

童年的我得不到足夠的愛及重視，長大後的我一生自信心不足，嚴重影響工作及人際關係，令一生生活比較艱難，太同意肅生了

@bytsxu7434 4 күн бұрын

我同感他人每一句每一眼神都會影響到我本人人際關係方面一直都不好👎🏿😢

@BrianNgan1 3 күн бұрын

大家加油

@cubebb6675 4 күн бұрын

小朋友只要身心健康, 有正確價值觀和懂得愛和保護自己, 也有同理心. 相反讀書成績不用太強求.

@mandylo9124 4 күн бұрын

我期望我童年係健康正常快樂我沒得到所以盡量的給予兒子這種做法應該可以吧！

@andywong2720 4 күн бұрын

蕭生講得太對了，我常常犯錯自愧不如😅，要多點提點自己切勿加過份壓力給子女

@hifaiwong2890 4 күн бұрын

太好了, 這個頻道家中有小孩占應該不多, 但比任何片影響更深遠. 我們有小孩的很容易被世俗搞到混亂唔知重點, 這個片我睇了好幾次🙏🙏 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

@lkfk1523 4 күн бұрын

鐘意讀書的小朋友唔洗迫。不讀書的，迫都讀唔到。😂 但讀書叻 🙅🏻‍♂️等於賺到大錢 😂

@chuwalo3704 4 күн бұрын

？？？？？？？？

@yanlo8376 4 күн бұрын

每人都係個體,有自己理想,願望!只教他怎樣做人就可以了,其他盡量給他自己處理,所以我只要將爸媽以前事事管束我嘅態度反過來教就對了!!壓力不會變成動力,只會變成病歷!!(只個人感覺)

@tatl2182 4 күн бұрын

確實每個小朋友與生俱來都有不同既天賦和特質，因此因材施教的確很重要，才能讓他們真正自由自在地發揮其所長同造福社會，所以通過適當的啟蒙方法，這樣才能培養同締造出真正的人才來。

@junexu5775 4 күн бұрын

最钟意萧生講教育講理财 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻

@limark1054 4 күн бұрын

雖然兒女的生命是你給予的，但他們的生命是他們自己的！😊

@michelleau7230 4 күн бұрын

感謝蕭生詳細分析, 父母教子女應要有正確的態度。

@trebleclef5001 4 күн бұрын

當然唔會期望小朋友做自己想做嘅嘢，但若果小朋友有天份，而自己有能力的話，我唔介意自己洗9,000,000 ，換來佢哋第時可以有一個好啲嘅將來。完全唔同意蕭生嘅講法，話大學只係幫助第一份工。自己嘅經驗，所有老細無論你幾多歲做到幾高級，都一樣會睇你以前讀邊間大學。況且第一份搵到嘅工對以後嘅Career已經有好大嘅幫助，識嘅人同事就係人生嘅一大部份。

@paktinlam 4 күн бұрын

I disagree. Your boss will fire you if you do a shitty job. It doesn't matter whether you came from a fancy school or not

@trebleclef5001 4 күн бұрын

@@paktinlam lol, it has nothing to the after math, but a fancy university definitely would help one getting a job at the first place!

@paktinlam 4 күн бұрын

@@trebleclef5001 That's exactly what Mr Siu said. It may help for the first job. But it doesn't matter after a few years and I agree

@alanlau5954 4 күн бұрын

多謝蕭生！很好很有用！多謝多謝！❤❤❤

@andrewchan5409 4 күн бұрын

多謝蕭生真情分享。本人幾位子女自從移居外地，讀書更有信心，成績更好。香港教育重視操練，外地重視思考，討論，人生規劃。其實各有各好。港人子女經過小學操練，數學和文法會比外國人表現好，但表達能力和辯論就比較差。香港學生壓力大，與老師和校長受到的壓力有關。老師長期超時工作，以目標為本，學生成績就是老師的表現。久而久之，老師和學生都受壓。外國老師按章工作，對個別學生不會有太大期望，反而對有學習困難的同學加多照顧。講到尾，學生是人，不是一些分數。

@elitegrowth9499 2 күн бұрын

我係壓力愈大愈放棄既性格，反正都冇希望如果唔放棄係要有希望先唔放棄

@jenny8236 4 күн бұрын

對小朋友第一是愛，然後陪伴，包容，理解

@thomasleung8843 2 күн бұрын

我認為大部分華人家庭，管教子女都好大問題，什至不應生小孩。多謝簫生多次分析呢個問題❤

@kiwiwan4531 4 күн бұрын

講的好啱，希望多啲父母可以睇到❤

@cylee5621 4 күн бұрын

己之不能,勿施於人

@user-bu1cg6jr4x 4 күн бұрын

As a parent, I relate to the feeling of guilt and thought I could do better…learn to have self compassion and able to forgive self is vital ❤️

@ivyhuo8233 2 күн бұрын

非常感謝你🙏🙏🙏

@thomasleung3208 4 күн бұрын

非常之好👍

@terrencechan7638 4 күн бұрын

感謝蕭先生！

@iancheng6527 4 күн бұрын

I promised myself I never beat up my children because my father always beat me up until I was 13 years old. Now I forgave him because he never had his parent's love. He escaped from China when he was 13 years old by himself. I immigranted to Canada to get away from my father. I never forced my daughters to study hard. We always took them to libraries and a lot of outside school activities. They knew I was working hard to support them. My eldest became a radiologist and my youngest one became a lawyer.

@mrslcom 4 күн бұрын

A friend of mine whose lifetime career was food delivery. His wife was a part-time seamstress. Both are only high school graduates. They raised their kids with encouragement but without pressuring them to excel in school. Both their kids one now has a Ph.D and the other a Master. My friend himself grew up in a negative family environment with lots of criticism from his parents. It was good that he did not carry on such negative upbringing with his own children.

@wonglulu3683 3 күн бұрын

我鍾聽蕭生講人生處世，男女互相相處及以上的題目，超正

@laoyanling9410 2 күн бұрын

喜欢萧生讲教育，讲理财 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

@winnieleung1976 4 күн бұрын

Excellent ❤

@user-ct6tb8bn2f 2 күн бұрын

絕對同意👍🏻

@sueshu9465 3 күн бұрын

Well said 👍👍

@jjcyclingworld 4 күн бұрын

我有個朋友訴苦話個女數學唔得，點算好？我問他數學好嗎？他說唔多店，咁你老婆數學又得唔得？他說都唔得。我說咁你同你老婆數學都唔得，你甚麼可能要求你個女數學得？這些問題非常普遍。

@Kk-me1si 3 күн бұрын

你啱。真係睇遺傳。

@mrslcom 4 күн бұрын

This is probably the most important video on this channel. Some schools now no longer stress on academic achievement, memorization, and test results. They focus more on teamwork, problem solving skills, critical thinking, creativity, and innovation.

@Ricky-vk8yu 4 күн бұрын

父母唯一可以做嘅嘢就係擇日生子。其他只可以順其自然

@treepeonies01 4 күн бұрын

戰後出生的一代的我們，是捱出來的，今天的世界，不是手機、computer games 一代創造出來的！😊😊😊香港黃金時代的1968-1997，不是他們搞出來的。

@chunwaiho8704 4 күн бұрын

就係戰後出生嗰啲人先最衰格呀！當年香港機會處處！小學畢業做小販都發達！樓價舖價租金又平！當年幾多人食正當年時代起飛法例鬆散而致富！依家正正就係依班人將樓市舖市加租炒賣、起劏房謀取暴利！搞到新一代青年生活營商艱難！仲要向青年講一大堆無良歧視嘅說話！依班吸血老鬼正仆街就有！😤

@yen0705 3 күн бұрын

So?

@phoebelaw5639 2 күн бұрын

正！

@BrianNgan1 3 күн бұрын

蕭生你咁講叫唔叫放養，有錢情況我極同意，因你可以讀3流外國大學包底，細細小朋友時你唔迫少少大個會跟唔上，又一樣有壓力，失敗感，😂

@leochen6695 3 күн бұрын

如果我老豆老母有蕭生一半咁識諗就好

@florenceleung7251 4 күн бұрын

謝謝蕭生分享🙏

@user-tq4wj2nk5i 4 күн бұрын

多謝分享🎉做父母都唔容易

@anthonyho2026 4 күн бұрын

教育 : 國父孫中山先生的遺訓

@causeandeffect8474 4 күн бұрын

多謝🙏分享❤😊

@realisticki8139 4 күн бұрын

好痛苦,人際關係就是細個個陣給全破壞,狠他們也沒有用,今天發覺自己已經老了,像白痴一樣地在社會存在,要走出去,像是地獄一樣

@simonleung2130 4 күн бұрын

大多天才有其他缺陷，並不是普通人能承受。我記得多年前有一集Australia 60minutes + 訪問那些被分別為天才兒童的啊媽，有啲哭得很惨，因為他們的细路不大可能正常地成長。

@JL0214 4 күн бұрын

我想問，小朋友細個唔俾適當壓力，那將來他出社會其它人會同等對待他嗎？結果他就像溫室長大，小小問題也𠄘受不了。

@ynatalie 4 күн бұрын

如肅生總結，適當的壓力是合理，但90% is through encouragement and motivation。這是更重要因為咁先可以培養出有自信及growth mentality(及獨立思考)的下一代。

@aliceleven3656 4 күн бұрын

小朋友有挫折时，要陪他一起分析问题，然后加以鼓励

@ynatalie 4 күн бұрын

@@aliceleven3656 正向放育是要先同理再處理，在情緒激動的時候，孩子是沒能力聽我們的分析。

@aliceleven3656 4 күн бұрын

@@ynatalie 当然先安抚情绪/事后分析处理，情绪上头别说小朋友，成人也听不进的

@BrianNgan1 3 күн бұрын

小朋友個個都愛玩，我地話唔俾壓力小朋友佢真係玩玩具，天天出去玩，睇視頻一天，返學無精神，因為精神的去晒玩比讀書更有趣的事，

@user-wy6el7tt5c 4 күн бұрын

謝謝蕭生分享👍👍👍👍👍👍

@mandyshum9439 4 күн бұрын

多謝蕭生，很好。

@maggielee3422 4 күн бұрын

希望快D有Al醫生，病人之福🙏

@arieslee1988 3 күн бұрын

那要看身處的環境和周圍人的思維如何！當你身邊好多撲街呢？不反抗？

@kellyting7674 4 күн бұрын

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you I agreed with you

@indyjones5668 4 күн бұрын

謝分享！

@leon38688 3 күн бұрын

facts

@catlee6399 4 күн бұрын

蕭生講得對呀，子女和父母會造成烈痕破裂! 我依家睇緊呢本書（母愛的枷鎖，女兒的牢籠）係日本真人真事寫出自己故事，主角就是由細到大被母親折磨束縛，母親將自己的期待強加在主角身上，最終造成悲劇親手殺死母親而入獄。女兒犯下罪孽無法抹滅，所以寫出呢本書希望用自己的教訓讓其他人引以為戒。呢本書值得睇睇。

@Kk-me1si 3 күн бұрын

兇手仲出咗書？

@catlee6399 2 күн бұрын

@@Kk-me1si 係呀，出書就係希望呢個悲劇不會在任何人身上再次發生。

@SitiFatimah-zh6ok 4 күн бұрын

👍🙏

@vivienli1749 3 күн бұрын

蕭生，不只是你的親友，起碼有6乘的人，都係一樣

@huandai512 4 күн бұрын

說得對👍。

@mandylo9124 4 күн бұрын

蕭生完全正確

@user-qs3sp5bv2i 4 күн бұрын

保重身体，萧生😊

@tonylam8952 4 күн бұрын

Totally agree thank you

@choichuwong1313 4 күн бұрын

上天會給小朋友有觸覺力量🤗但有很多父母會阻止他們去認識😍不會觀察😔

@tatl2182 4 күн бұрын

而家既所謂教育！！！😢

@choichuwong1313 3 күн бұрын

@@tatl2182 ❤️🤔

@toml3530 3 күн бұрын

我爸是舊國民黨黨員，佢願望係反攻復國... 咁嘅願望大到做唔到，所以可以唔洗跟随。真幸運😂

@testtest-ef8pw 4 күн бұрын

還有一樣有啲父母會迫自己孩子，就是要承繼家族生意。這樣你又點睇？

@ton7224 4 күн бұрын

認同😊

@Plagueor 4 күн бұрын

不可以

@cynthia587 4 күн бұрын

I totally agree with 蕭生。 Let children be happy , free of excess pressure and be themselves ❤

@InevitableConsequences-qj8lu 4 күн бұрын

有一點係需要研究，就係点解西方家族生意往往可追溯幾百年，但係華人3代都難過

@paulinewat9543 4 күн бұрын

I like Mr. Siu channel

@espms290 4 күн бұрын

100% agree! 👍

@user-sd1ql6wb1n 4 күн бұрын

虽然我唔生仔唔结婚，但系我都好钟意听老萧讲尼期闲话。

@mrsun-km4zd 4 күн бұрын

原來今節講粉紅嘅玻璃心😂

@mankwongchen5149 4 күн бұрын

多謝教導，受益匪淺。❤

@GoldieCheung 4 күн бұрын

❤

@maschan5860 4 күн бұрын

燒生呢條片的用意是講比佢D仔女及新袍聽

@user-gn5bt9pw4g 3 күн бұрын

有些人天生係操控狂子女就是屬於我的不用旁人多事(人天生性格人格有不同的缺憾)

@holiday258 4 күн бұрын

Agreed 👍

@Corpse4419 4 күн бұрын

蕭生講得啱。想學琴就自己學，逼咩個細路學，佢學識都唔關你事，企開d啦

@charling2429 4 күн бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@mingwaiwong456 4 күн бұрын

道理就係咁講。但係人性係非理性既。

@ynatalie 4 күн бұрын

理性is a choice! I choose to practice to recognize my breaking point, pause and sort out my emotion, rather than threatening my child physically or verbally

@user-vm4jx5jw4m 4 күн бұрын

好嘅醫生最有用嘅工能係對病人心理輔導，成功嘅大律師最大功能係說服大老爺同陪審團。相信 AI 將來都可做到，但要假以時日。

@Getzland 4 күн бұрын

I totally agree, but it is a huge job to convince my partner to follow your idea.

@atinnama7759 4 күн бұрын

我要求的祈望的她全都達成、反之令她今天能獨立成材！

@Corpse4419 4 күн бұрын

你自己又曉飛呀？食你啖貓飯真係陰功！恰細路就恰細路啦！佢成材係靠佢自己，同你完全無關

@user-zq7ur9zc8l 4 күн бұрын

😮

@michelleau7230 4 күн бұрын

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@mandywong2154 4 күн бұрын

👍👏🥰

@susannayeu4471 4 күн бұрын

👍👍

@gripenk 4 күн бұрын

Warwick...蕭生又串19材子

@MC-vs5zw 4 күн бұрын

批評你自己先啦

@poodoo 4 күн бұрын

I remembered when I first started practicing piano, my mom used to sit behind me with a bamboo stick on her lap. Luckily, I actually enjoyed practicing on the piano. The major reason is that I don't have to deal with people in general. In my childhood, there's no gaming. Practicing on the piano is kind of like my gaming. 😅🤣😂

@memehongkong 4 күн бұрын

😱🫣😓

@iancheng6527 4 күн бұрын

Same as my wife.Actually my daughter has music talent.She finished grade 12 piano.She won so many first class awards in Canada.She is a director right now.

@poodoo 3 күн бұрын

@@iancheng6527 Wow. That's really awesome. I don't have the talent. But I am still a weekend player on the keyboard after 34 years without touching a piano nor a keyboard. Right now, it's for relaxation purposes - self entertaining purposes. Chopin Noctunes are my favourites. Debussy's Claire De Lune is my favourite as well. But I am in a completely different profession - registered nurse - recently became a labour relation officer in a union for registered nurses. Nice talking to you. Great job as a parent. God bless.

@mytoycollectionplaytime4901 4 күн бұрын

條條大路通羅馬

@tzicheung5462 4 күн бұрын

當 AI 廣泛應用於日常生活繼而主宰人類一切活動/行徑，Humanity人性化變得日漸式微，有極大可能人類亦以 AI 培育未來世代，未來世界只呈現 Human and AI interface，最終洐生出新人類品種；於此，蕭生無須費煞思量指導如何處理教育下一代。當社會，學校，家庭劃一地使用規範性人工智能去孕育未來世代，身為父母教師等毋用操心亦管不著。

@hkchan3308 4 күн бұрын

👍agree

@MC-vs5zw 4 күн бұрын

虎爸

@meitin1263 4 күн бұрын

第一个❤

@Dee-zd6zi 4 күн бұрын

明白了，你是😊地區特首

@treepeonies01 4 күн бұрын

AI 人造智能，是否如此厲害，連 physicians 和 surgeons 都要退避三舍？最初有 World Wide Web 的時候（九十年代），也有人預言人人都可以安坐家中，用 computer 來做 online 看病，現在呢？ Covid-19 期中，學生全數家中 online 上課，現在為甚又全數要「辛苦」上學去？😊Perhaps overly optimistic about our future!🙃

@pigboykool 4 күн бұрын

不知所谓。一個好父母，怎能不給孩子任何壓力和期望。學會應對壓力是生活中的重要技能。看看西方現在到處都是被寵壞的左膠孩子，懶惰而一切事物都"老奉"。這是因為他們的父母從來沒有給他們任何壓力，他們的成長過程太輕鬆了。

@ynatalie 4 күн бұрын

健康心理是不能在龐大的壓力下建立。it’s best to take the time to comprehend the content prior to making an argument

@kankenkankenkanken 4 күн бұрын

眼見的西方小孩都有主見，有自理能力。現時最有想法的科技巨頭，無一個來自虎媽。虎媽多出產無自理能力，無想法的所為專業人仕，一個一個倒模。

@si520man 4 күн бұрын

🙏🏻 如果生仔女有得學就好🫶🏻

@chunkouchung7362 3 күн бұрын

教個仔破產👎👎👎👎👎

@raymondchu3127 4 күн бұрын

please take a look of your son ...is he an example

@meitin1263 4 күн бұрын

😂❤❤

@lijoe6023 4 күн бұрын

你知道蕭定一的狀況嗎？你有過他的成就嗎？你現在比他過得好嗎？

@fmchannel6208 4 күн бұрын

人生是opportunity cost, 你的選擇換來不同的outcomes. 好與壞要睇於某一點的timeline. 兒女是绝對需要適當的大人來作coaching, 包括身教做榜樣。同時，孟母三遷，也需要一即『找緊機會」。簫生眼光狭窄! University of Manchester or University of Warwick 也有人材輩出

@aliceleven3656 4 күн бұрын

老萧都讲过年轻的时候不懂教仔，所以先甘样，有咩问题？？经验系要靠累积的，我拿你过去的错误来批判你现在的人生，有意义咩？

@paktinlam 4 күн бұрын

@aliceleven3656 Very well said