Jake Stone He is brilliant.

Bobby, Orthodox Christian here!

Seems every sentence is packed with so much meaning !

That's what I've been doing! lol (and I'm not Jewish either).

Me too. He is a voice in the wilderness. So well spoken, too

@Tisha Higgins àaaa

Same

Same

That is it. No one.

Another terrible reality for our kids is that when they act out, they are severely punished, as my son was in the Montessori school when he was 3-5. By the time he got to JK, he was so terrified that he couldn't be left there. He had only partially told us what happened in the Montessori school, nor did he have the language to describe it. One day, out of the blue , he asked me what it meant to be spanked. Prior to that his behavior had changed dramatically and he suddenly became oppositional. We were able to get 6 years of Art Therapy for him and a specialized school which would not allow him in if he wasn't on Ritalin, leading him to cocaine use later in life. He also suffered the trauma of being stabbed by another student and the death of his dad when he was 14. One of the things I learned, which may be helpful to others, is that from the minute we adopted him, we constantly overstimulated him from the musical mobile above his crib to too many toys and activities. He's 33 and still loses every piece of identification he has. His need to control his environment and every one's behavior has harmed his relationships, along with his escape to cocaine.

There just isnt the resources to do this or the knowledge or the staff or I could go on .. How are we going to change it ?

@Finite Automata sorry I've worked in the education system it's going backwards not forward

or perhaps our society is just getting better at diagnosing and helping people? It's like when my uncle says there's more gay people now than there used to be...no it isn't society, it's not hormones in the water, it's just that gay people weren't as accepted and so weren't as seen. Before now, people with ADHD were just branded as stupid and bad, it wasn't that they didn't exist.

@@rachelrea7342 Or both. If you accept Gabor Mate's view that ADHD is a brain underdevelopment caused by emotional deprivation in childhood (as I understand him), then it's perfectly possible that, as he argues, societal changes have increased the rate of ADHD (and other conditions).

What is wrong is that women today are left alone with their infant, while during most of human history young mothers had a vast support, from mothers, sisters, aunts, etc This is leaving us exhausted, and an exhausted woman is NOT emotionally available, neither to her kids, not to her husband ...

@@BaiMengLing or single parent household.

Many doctors are financially motivated and incentivised to prescribe medication by the pharma companies. As far as pharmaceutical companies go, they'd rather regulate something rather than cure it; there's no return or residual income from curing something.

Same here

I also felt same when I heard him but what to do to come out of it I realized why I am unable to listen or study or watch video

Can you please explain what you mean by 'one of those ADHD things'? Thanks!

Ik what u mean. Gabor claims to have ADHD, but I can’t believe that with all he’s done with his life. You can’t be learning disabled in med school.

@@silverlake973 probably means one of the symptoms of adhd.

Literally. I even tear up, this man knows what he's talking about and is a genius of our times for sure. He put his ADHD and overall sensitivity in the right place and it's beautiful.

Best to you on your journey! Don't let anyone discourage you as you try new approaches to understanding yourself. You should be very proud that you're open to change and understanding the "why". Super cool!

@@invisiblewoman9684 Thank you, appreciate it.

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Hey Abubaker how are you going on your journey?

So glad you can get it young! You will do great things!! You are awesome!! ⭐️⭐️⭐️

I like it

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Great job on freeing yourself! After listening to Gabor Mate speak on these topics I’m starting to realize how toxic our western society is, especially for kids

I have had similar experiences & it can be very stressful!! As a veteran, I've always received my medical treatment from the VA since 18yrs old. I've been on 1 to 4 different antidepressants at one time, the entire time. I've literally tried every class of antidepressant and most of every one. Even when I did get a good civilian job with good insurance, I still went to the VA -- because I thought it made sense since they knew my background. Well, 2022 was the first time in my adult life, that I stopped completely, all antidepressants. For a short span of time in the winter time 2023, I had to get on something due to SAD and because I started actual therapy (DBT, CBT), but again, I'm off all antidepressants. Am I still depressed?? Sometimes. But I was when I was in the meds anyway! Minus, all the side effects. We definitely need to know our own bodies and make decisions based on our own research, get second opinions and most importantly, make sure we do the "big 3": get adequate sleep, get adequate exercise, eat good foods. ❤😊

Big hug! Am glad you are free

asmakitto Read “ in the realm of the hungry ghost.” Should be required reading.

If you're enjoying what he has to say, I recommend "The Continuum Concept" by Jean Liedloff. Sort of the classic in this field, and a fascinating read.

Blown away??? He is merely expressing his opinions!

...how Are you now, ...what mads have you taken...?!..thank you for your testimony, 🙏❤️🌹

The more I hear Gabor the more interested I have become. He understands my experiencing of my children's early. I wish I had heard him then....but even hearing him now helps me understand.

its hypersensitivity that is the "gift" you mentioned. not ADHD. ADHD is not a "gift"

I think I belong in this boat.

I was in the same boat. I’ve become good at analyzing and being insightful but now sometimes too much knowledge makes it hard to act. I don’t feel comfortable until I feel like I’ve fully thought something through. This is where problems with adhd come in, the paralysis that comes with overthinking. If you guys have any advice or insight I’d like to hear it!

Do what he teaches and you probably wont need a doctor. :-)

Do what he teaches and you probably wont need a doctor. :-)

Me too, but he's a bit far away from me.

Especially maternal narcissism .

:D bless you

If they have adhd he may be letting them unmask or they feel comfortable to stim to focus on his lecture.

Sounds like a fan on

I had bad experiences with Hungarian men, namely chess players. They are old fashioned and treat women like sex objects

Jon Fiske i

And have the share price go down for the pharmaceutical giants money talks louder than words for now but not much longer

Agreed, ADHD is a mix of advantages and disadvantages

What is FASD?

@@TheKrispyfort fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. It’s on the spectrum. It’s a brain disability. Thank you for asking

Did you have that rage-hate kind of response also at what people unexpectedly and uninitiatedly say about you? I do, also at differing opinions, if they are blind, i e not founded in properly observed, reflected, experience and informed knowledge. Feel threatened and lose my grounding. As for touch, I find it good how it is doen in 12-step programs: Asking permission. Even saying personal praise can be painful and unmanageable when in a bad mood, so asking if it's ok to say a positive response. Also easier to receive when for-warned, in order to direct on'e chaotic, stressed, overburdened mind to a new message coming in. Sad to miss good things just because I wasn't prepared, couldn't take it in, had to dismiss the other because of my overwhelmment, spinning and shaking at the same time, sort of. How are you 2 years after your comment?

@@Medietos Re: Did you have that rage-hate kind of response also at what people unexpectedly and uninitiatedly say about you? Yes definitely. I am really noticing now how tired I am from managing the rage response, although at least I am recognizing it now? Re: How are you 2 years after your comment? Maybe better? If I wouldn't have taken a major risk on establishing a relationship with someone I *knew* I wanted touch from, I would have never made any progress. For whatever reason, I knew I wanted this person's touch to make up for the attachment-related touch deprivation I've experienced. Then I satiated myself with as much as possible with their touch, company and affection, and the need was mutual. In spite of my fears, I had to be strong enough to endure the paradox of finally accepting a good thing into my life, while knowing it was because of our wounds that the relationship wouldn't last (his father is just as controlling and possessive as mine was, except that mine is now dead and I am free to take these risks, whereas his father is still very much alive and in full narcissistic possession of him). In the end he regressed into a not-so-good thing, because it's obvious his dad is very jealous and cannot handle being left out of his son's bedroom (sooooo similar to how my dad was). Most likely he is currently destroying himself in an attempt to prove to his "dad" how much he's hurting inside. Without having that relationship with that one safe person -- that single haven I was finally able to find in humanity's storm -- I'm back to rage-hatey response at a somewhat diminished level. Being with someone who was an authentic fit defused that trigger quite a bit. I really miss having him to confide those rage-responses in -- including to people's comments that set me off ;) Thank you very much for inquiring.

@@gunstigvogel3419 thank you for you open honest answer and share.not many admit to hate-rage, since it is taboo and can make others think we are vicious etc.(which we can become partly, unles we start healing.) I am so glad you got to get love, I never have. And the abuse and torture by many, even social security, psych./health care Drs, police, churches and courts, have rendered me so stressed, harmed, unsafe and fear enraged that I sometimes feel hatred and thinkl I'll kill the next person who even touches me or says sth unjustified, untrue, unfair etc. And kill myself I wan to congratulate you for the survival and power tool of your ability to express yourself. I wouldn't have survived, or been rally crazy without mine. Don't ever give up on yourself and your healing pursuit. Do you know the trauma therapists here? It helps even if they don't take clients now, but internet courses. Diane Lang...berg(?), Richard grannon, Franz Ruppert (mainly in german though), Irene Lyon, Alan Rub...arge? and some I don't remember their names (burnt out, sleep deprived). I think you and your loved one should tie his father to a chair and let him listen to trauma therapists' YT talks until he starts to see himself and that he has a problem and causes you problems and that he can't. But that is just a despair fantasy, wouldn't be right, since he has his freedom of choice as to be and act. But write him a letter? Practise, prepare and talk to him?Try a 12-step program? They are also available on Zoom/Skype/ online, and USA is said to have very high quality sponsors. (I want one there, but am too crashed to learn the technical parts on PC now.) Have you studied the Chakras and their healing practices? It helped me much in understanding, which also (serious) astrology did. Peter ten Hoopen's free chakra test is useful, if one gets how he means by some of the Q's. 8can exchange TV for other addictive, consuming negative-producing habits like internet. Though it depends on what one does a bit too). You'd probably judge yourself fairly correctly, althouigh the best would be to let a Barbara brennan-School trained energy therapist work and examine + heal them in you.. most answer how they WANT to be (0 The idea rather than real self today) The negative turns get explained as never in Psych and health care. it is unknown. I researched mass murderer Aileen Wuornos, saw the awful prison vids with her, and knew there was good explanation for her behav + acts, as wella s for my own negative turn. Also Carolyne Myss' " Teh anatomy od Spirit" explains a lot. Even if she writes a bit unstructured. Take care.

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Nonsense. I know children that come from totally healthy and available parents that have adhd symptoms/diagnosis. There is plenty of research that shows otherwise and also other Drs that disagree that adhd is due to childhood trauma.

Soil for the BODY is called fasting ! Google it ?

Fasting 28 days and 10. Dud ad stmptoms. And I develped sovier nental heath after. I am female. Did not worked for me. It damage my functioning completly for nrxt 5 yeras

They've both helped me alot, I guess they can be compared but they are on completely opposite sides of the spectrum. Peterson has helped me in society, society is a pain to deal with but mate has helped me with inner enlightenment yes. You cant really be successful with one without the other.

I like both of them (due to the fact I'm not an imbecilic peon)...however....Peterson knows more at breakfast than Mate knows all week.

benighted is a fantastic word for Peterson. ha the damn fool but maybe I should be more compassionate? nah forget that charlatan

literally Mate is as enlightened as Peterson is benighted here is Mate proving your comment couldn't be any truer. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p7V6Y8-GuKitYWg.html

@@bluedreams6329 He is only popular because he serves the ideological agenda of the ruling elite. He propounds “individual responsibility” but never advocates for “social responsibility”. That fits nicely in the USA where there is no social safety net, where the poor and the ill and the aged are left to fend for themselves. Where the homeless number in the millions. Don’t ask the government for help - it’s your problem, you deal with it. Except if your a billionaire Wall Street banker - then you get bailed out on the taxpayers dime. That’s why Peterson is the darling of the ruling class. Psychology serves the ideological needs of the ruling class by making people blame themselves for their own unhappiness instead of directing their attention to the systemic problems of the corporate capitalism in which they live. Where people and the entire world of nature are merely so many commodities to be bought and sold and nothing is sacred. Nothing at all!

You say that - but CURIOUS how you have used it to help with ADHD⁉️

Yeah I used it too but doesn't do much for me and i have lost all interest to take it again.

Psilocybin effects and experience are (obviously) highly dependent on the dose and manner in which they are taken. Are you advocating micro-dosing, recreational use, or . . . . ?

and watch Dr bruce lipton "" Biology of belief

Gabor speaks about Jordan in this interview: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p7V6Y8-GuKitYWg.html

Try Byron Katie...she is great

And Mooji

So how is it dangerous??

@@jenniferjackson9375 truth, the truth can be dangerous.

I’m glad it wasn’t just going to be me saying about that, in fact surely most of the people there fidgeting about etc must have adhd themselves! very irritating and disrespectful to the Dr, shame no-one stepped in to bring order.

@@ktpuss I HAVE NO PROBLEM HEARING OR FOLLOWING WHAT THIS BRILLIANT DOCTOR IS SAYING......YOU MUST FOCUS.....❤

Sharon Allison - There’s nothing wrong with my focus, unlike the people in the room who seem to be having trouble in that regard. It’s just a shame that for someone coming to spend their time & share knowledge in this way that no sound checks were done - after all there’s no need to mic up the room, just the speaker 🙂

@@ktpuss the camera picks up background noise - you can’t point blame at these people their behavior was not irregular at all.

@@ktpuss hi, it can be also your rendering device (headphone, speaker) who is at fault.

Horrendous. I’m sorry you experienced that. I’m a teacher and if I saw that happen I would certainly step in and stop it. You should’ve never experienced this.

@@RobespierreThePoof And with such advanced technology as 2020 rolls around.

I was looking to see if the subtitles could be contributed on this video but it looks like KZfaq has stopped community contributions for subtitles...I agree that more should be done for accessibility.

Thank you for posting this! My therapist sent me this along with another interview by him where he says he doesn't think ADHD is genetic at all without any evidence backing it except his opinion. I don't like this guy, his view seems outdated. My therapist seems dismissive of my ADHD as well. Cancelling next appointment.

@@QuixoticFunambulist so he doesn't conform your biases so you throw out his work?

"His biases" are evidence-based scientific consensus. If you want to disagree with evidence-based scientific consensus, simply having a different opinion without providing quality proof is not enough.

Maté is not even a psychiatrist, as you will quickly find out when you look him up. He's a family physician. He's completely out of his depth.

This is a lot of what I was thinking while watching this video, and more. He was saying ADHD is not genetic while describing what CPTSD is. I understand this is an older lecture and CPTSD is still a newer disorder, but I found it interesting to see the way he described how environment (longterm stress and trauma) can impact brain development and result in inattentiveness or similar ADHD symptoms, but instead of introducing a new dx to the conversation such as CPTSD, he challenged what has already been established through studies about ADHD and genetics. I appreciate how well you articulated everything else I was thinking!

If you want the answer, ,Dr Bruce lipton Biology of belief YOU TUBE

I agree. Mate really messes-up here, IMO. I have severe adult ADHD. And I can tell Mr.Mate that he's full of shit...with the utmost authority.

Finally I found this comment! People here are not questioning anything he says. they treat him like a God! He doesn’t refute what’s been studied and stated so far. By the way, ADHD is the most researched mental disorder in the world, but it seems he is the only one, based on his family full of people with that condition, that believes it is not neurogenetic. I’m happy to know that I can filter what he’s saying, but I’m sure a lot of people will get more confused after watching this than ever. And after that they will run to a bookstore to buy his books.

I've just realised I have ADHD at 56 years old. It explains all my problems, which I didn't even know I had. Now, at last, I know that my problem is not depression because of trauma. I know it's depression because of the inability to fulfil my goals, because of trauma...

Yes. It’s a chronic disorder, so it’s perfectly normal to use medication for short-term (daily) improvements. Mr. Mate acts as though this is a defect in the medication rather than proof of its efficacy. But just as I don’t expect to have corrective lenses for the short term until I can meditate my eyes back to long-term 20/20 vision, you shouldn’t expect to get to normal executive functioning if you have a neuroanatomical developmental disorder like ADHD. His claim about ADHD not having a strongly genetic basis is astonishingly naive and appears to be based on his own personal hunch. It’s also directly contradicted by the data and by the obvious family clustering, (as in his own family (!). I presume he also denies the genetic basis of Alzheimer’s and related dementias, since those too are diagnosed at a far higher rate today vs. only a few short decades ago.

@@GrantLeeEdwards I think it's inherited trauma. Parents need to sort out their shit (ie grow up) before having kids

@@michaelaclarke3228, amen to that. I decided not to have children n part bc I can’t give what I don’t have. Now, way past child bearing years feeling cheated but knowing I made the only logical decision there was to make. I’m grateful that I didn’t screw up another human being maybe asking “why was I born”. I know the feeling, I’m still asking this question. I wouldn’t of done to my children what my mother did to me but still it would of been a hard road for them. However, bc I was the first born & was MADE to take care of everything/body, that helped me help my sister raise her 2 boys. I really don’t think I would of been a better mom than my sister except I knew to stay away from drugs, booze and abusive males. I’m still alive she died at 44, many years ago. My kids (nephews) celebrate Mother’s Day. w/ me. I feel blessed n that way & w/ out their support, I couldn’t afford to live. I have no idea what I have but my siblings & I were diagnosed w/ depression & I’m n EMDR counseling 4 ptsd. ??? At least I’m not a control freak like my mother and I have a backbone unlike my father. Fortunately, I never allowed my abusive rearing to give me permission to do to others what was done to me. No life is perfect but I would of preferred to have not been born. However, since I was I’m grateful I was capable of being my nephews second parental figure n their lives. That I got right or as right as an abused child could. Being made to care for my entire family harmed me n many ways but also allowed me to care for 2 sweet loving men the best that I could. Now they’re returning the favor/love.

@@sandraoaks7887 keep going, being born is a blessing once we heal

I know how painful this is for you . I've told the story of my own adopted son in various pieces on this thread. I hope you can put it together and know you are not alone.

@@musicloverkathy I didn't find your comments so don't know your story. I still hurt but have rage as have interviewed dozens of adoptive parents. Who have gone through hell in so many ways. Ignoring and propagating this mess should be elevated to the Hague. Unfortunately US didn't sign to rights of child and there's no constitutional rights to family.right of guardian is actually more defensible than parent.each child adopted is a legal timebomb. Things we do for love

@@cherylcarlson3315 I often have that same problem of getting responses and not being able to find them. KZfaq needs to address this. If I somehow find it I'll try to get it to you, but I suspect our experiences are similar. I'm in Canada where a disproportionate number of those incarcerated are Indigenous thanks to colonization. I took my son to the only FASD clinic in Ontario and was not able to get a dx of FASD, so I could get Disability benefits for him. He was able to get them for PTSD and ADHD but that doctor told me that FASD was only found in Indigenous kids which cannot possibly be true. It's weird kind of racism that stigmatizes Indigenous women, but I know lots of white women who drink while pregnant and have kids who are dx'd ADHD. My goal for my son has been to keep him housed which has been difficult. He's getting better at disclosing his disability and needs a partner who acts as an "external brain " for paperwork etc. He has many good qualities that have helped him have a lot of friends. So again thank you for your work.

@@musicloverkathy you can reach me at. thejoannaproject@gmail.com

if you read Scattered he talks about adoption being in relation to psychological problems in his chapter "Different Worlds" he says, "A consistently available nurturing caregiver is a fundamental need of the human infant. Adoption means separation from the birth mother to whose body, voice, heartbeat and biorhythms a newborn is attuned by the time of birth. We cannot simply discount the devastating effect such separation may have on the impressionable nervous system of the infant. Not a few adoptions--including a significant number of the adoptions examined in published studies--take place several months or longer after birth. Many adoptee infants must endure several changes of caregiver without any single, consistently reliable mothering figure to provide them with a constant, safe relationship. Given that emotional security is an absolute human need in infancy, it is astonishing that adoption is so often forgotten as a possibly crucial influence. It is also a fact, as a number of adoptive mothers have told me, that even when a newborn adopted at birth is welcomed into a family with the greatest joy and goodwill, some time may have to pass before the truly symbiotic, two-way, phsyiologically and emotionally attuned relationship is established between mother and infant. Everything being equal, this process is smoother when the MOTHER has herself carried the child within her body for nine months. There is another environment that adopted twins have shared: nine months in the same uterus. Stress on the mother during pregnancy can unbalance the levels of hormones in her body, particularly of the stress hormone cortisol (cortisone). Both during and after intrauterine life, cortisol directly affects the developing nervous system. The vast majority of pregnancies ending in adoption occur in mothers under severe stress. They are often unwanted pregnancies, many in teenage girls facing enormous personal, family, and social pressures. Infants--twins or single--who are adopted out are likely to have been exposed to high levels of stress hormones throughout the nine months of gestation, a negative influence on their developing brains even before birth. For such reasons, we can expect all adopted children to be at unusually high risk for psychological problems in general, ADD in particular, without any recourse to genetic explanations. Such is the case. Any health professional working with ADD cases is struck by the large proportion of clients, children, or adults, who were adopted early in childhood. A 1982 study found that "the rate of adoption among ADD patients in the clinical population was 8 to 16 times the prevalence of adopted children in the population at large". If you have ADD you have a far higher than average chance of having been adopted."

Same here. I missed out on the majority of my time in 4th-7th grade because I was always put in the hall. 🥺

@@haileyoslund or the naughty chair outside the staff room at lunch.

It's in the drop down.

Marley Chapman or is environment of institutional school allowing more diagnoses

@@kathya1956 a simple Google search will bring up the exact similarities and studies

@@meganclifford754 I don’t trust google