This whole video is the story of my life. I find a lot of women are very insecure around other women and it’s very frustrating. No friends, no drama, no jealousy.

I honestly think its a jealousy and competitive thing with so many girls and women. Ive always trusted a friends n got backstabbed by them. They r so easily intimidated. I realise women r soooo insecure. Its very hurtful.

I have had so many bad experiences with female friends that I am almost traumatized by it haha. Also, the females I meet all tend to be shady in some way or another and the vibe is just not there. Maybe it's something I need to work on or maybe its just something we have to deal with as women trying to make quality friends.

I can't even count them, I have no close female friends, not one. I've seen women I know kind of pair up, meet each other for lunch etc. I'm left out. I'm not unfriendly, so I'm baffled, like you.

I've been evaluating my "friendships" lately and I think I realized the problem. They are all extroverts and value extroverted things. I think introverts care more about intimacy and real trust, etc. I could be wrong, but I feel like if I were to pretend to be an extrovert I could actually have a lot of friends if I wanted to. The only thing is, I wouldn't care about them so much as having a good time, hanging out, the next big adventure, someone to just have there for something to do, etc. I actually want a friend I can talk to and open up. When I try and talk to these women and open up to them... I don't think it is personal, but they are thinking, so when are we going to have some fun??? When it comes to talking...they like stories that have a lot of excitement, or drama, or anything thrilling. I just enjoy connection... So... living in an extroverted world, it's just harder to find. That's all. Maybe there are some extroverts reading this and disagreeing. I am just guessing, so I could be wrong. It could also be a values mismatch.

I Agree!!! Keeping Female Friendships IS DIFFICULT!!

I relate so much to this. I’m 24 and feel like i have no female friends outside of work, especially my own age. I have one friend from school who i’ve known for years, we meet up a few times a year but its always me who makes the effort to organise things and often see on social media shes out or doing things with other people. I think to myself what is it about me that makes me less fun or interesting because when we’re together we have a laugh and a nice time. It makes me so sad and I can feel really lonely at times.

I’m in my early 20’s and I’ve had this problem ever since I was a teenager.

I am an empath who can feel when other people are concealing their feelings. Communicating is an ongoing skill but sometimes my female friends have been passive aggressive. They burrow their resentment silently and then it comes out of the blue with rude comment, or put down. Women desperately need to spend more time in community settings to develop trust with one another and build lasting connections.❤

Just watching this 3 years later but you are not alone! I feel like sadly anytime people pick up on the genuine energy of a lovely soul they shut it down and want nothing to do with it! it is so hard to find real true friends who want nothing more than to share a cup of tea and the best times maybe it's just the world we live in unfortunately

I’m 66 years old. And this has been a puzzle to me also. I’m very warm and giving. I open my home for meals, crafts, conversation. My entire adult life. They say I am a wonderful giving sincere person. I am one they will open up to not long after having met me. But it only goes one direction, “ out of sight out of mind” thing ...until I extend the invite again. 🤷🏼‍♀️Puzzled for life

I find friendship hard work, especially when people have children and families. I find myself wanting to 'break up' with my friends for being rubbish at keeping in touch. But I find I can count the amount of real friends I have on one hand too. All you can do is keep trying but remember people can be fickle

Lol at least you have a handful of friends...all I want is one. My husband says my problem is that I’m so desperate to make friends that I do too much for people, and attract people that only use me.

This video has helped me to feel that I am not alone with this struggle. Somehow I feel inadequate that I do not have lots of close, amazing friends. The age of social media reinforces that we are all supposed to have this. When I was in my teens and twenties I was a drinker and I had loads of friends. Since having kids and sobering up it has become harder and harder to make friends and keep them. My introvert nature has definitely got a part to play, but I'm asking myself "do I isolate myself too much?" Reading the comments has made me realise that insecurities and jealousy may also play a part in my difficulties with female friends (others and my own!). I am so sensitive to peoples body language and facial expressions, I am convinced they don't like me or think I'm weird.

I feel exactly like you do! I know I’m a great friend because I put others first and actually care. Most of my friends now are guys because there a lot easier to deal with and understand. Girls are so complicated to figure out! A great book to read is called "Friendships Don't Just Happen" by Shasta Nelson.

Be lucky you have even one close friend. Many have none... How could anyone even handle more than a handful of close friends?

Just think about Marylyn Monroe. You would assume she had a million friends, loyal suitors, a supportive family. Often when someone wins the genetic lottery, others assume they have never encountered struggle, loss or hardships. Teens look at pop stars and women in magazines and say ‘wow I want to be her’ totally forgetting that she is one of us. I know this will sound shallow.. but pretty girls stick together for a reason. Sometimes the best thing to do, is find more physically attractive and smarter friends, that get it and don’t hate

I have sadly learned that these were the reasons for why I could not keep female friends or why I do not have any now: - I am too honest and many women hate honesty and upfrontness even AFTER they ask for your advice. I mean I have literally been told that I am too honest and too nice by female friends who were the main ones always asking me for things or for help. -Because I was a tomboy growing up and still have a little roughness to me to be an outside try anything and work out type of woman many guys like me which is a big reason for why some women who prefer being dolled up 24/7 or who are not as confident as I am, hate me. - Women are jealous of me for the skills I have, the things I have done with my life, the places I have gone to, and the type of person I am. I don't brag about the things I do or who I am but there are male friends who have told me that they have heard my female friends saying things like, "She thinks she is all that...she thinks she knows everything..." but then when they get around me they do not act like this and claim to want to be around me and hang out. My male friends tell on them because they would talk about me behind my back while they could not see why I would have trust issues with trusting women and why I preferred more male friends to eliminate the drama in my life because I have zero tolerance policy. Yes guys act like this too but not as much as women. - I hate drama and gossip which makes the women who love it, hate being around me because I cut it off quick and don't like to engage or I just leave and they think that I think I am better than them when in reality I just hate gossip and idle talk. I'm just going to stick with Jesus being my friend because that has been working out perfectly for me.

The book: how to win friends and influence people --> old but gold

DUMPED BY FEMALE CHUMPS This was so good. This has happened to me so many times. I can't figure out women, they are so flaky in this generation. They ghost you suddenly and you think "WHAT DID I DO WRONG?"

I can definitely relate to this and I’m beginning to think the way to truly be a good friend is to realize that persons needs and be a fun, positive, uplifting person to be around. Ask yourself what value are you adding to their life. Be someone who listens and encourages instead of dumping emotions and complaining. Also have your own life and hobbies that you can then invite people to do with you.

Only 5 friends? That's more than most.

I wish women would just love who they are and uphold each other.

Going through the game thing, why are females so hard to form friendships with. I too see people getting away from me.

Cherish those good friends that are always there for you. People come and go in life but the people that really matter will stick around. Just keep being yourself lovely xx

Wish I knew how to help lol. I am in the same situation and I'm in my 20s.

Wow i can totally relate to you on this subject. Im 42 now and in my teens and early twenties there wasnt a person i didnt know where i lived, i was out going and popular and had so many friends, but then i got hurt by my closest friend and got trust issues. Now apart from my husband and two eldest children (they are 22 and 19) i have absolutely no friends. I often ask myself why? What have i done? Is there something wrong with me? I just dont seem to be able to connect with people anymore, im hoping one day ill find a lifelong friend that i can connect with. From what i can see theres nothing wrong with you, your a beautiful open soul that loves her family and trys to help people in anyway you can. The friends you do have are lucky to have such a wonderful friend as you and all the others are just missing out! I wish you luck in your friendquest, keep us informed on how things go, but just remember all the advise you need is just be yourself and if people dont like you then they dont deserve a lovely friend like you xx

At 55, I wonder the same thing! what is going on? I don't understand why so many friends only communicate by texting and then not making a plan to get together. I have been through periods of deep loneliness throughout my life because of being shy and socially awkward, but now, I find it so hard to make connections with friends. Who wants to always be the one to reach out to them with no reciprocation, or feel like you are pestering them...Or weeks without hearing from anyone?!

I don’t have close girl friends but even though I think I’m very open I don’t allow myself to get close to people which sounds strange but it’s true. When people get too close it causes me anxiety. I’m afraid I’m going to be put it an uncomfortable situation where they r going to expect something from me and I’m not going to want to do it and I’m going to feel obligated to to keep them happy. I think because that’s the relationship I had with my “best friend” from H.S until my early thirties! So I am reluctant to allow anyone too close. I guess I feel people always need something from me...a ride, to use my washer, borrow clothes, stuff I never ask others for. Idk I know it’s me I just don’t like feeling taken advantage of or like it’s a relationship of convince.

Love the video and your channel! I think it's pretty normal to have only a handful of 'super close friends' as an adult while all the other friends are more like satellites that orbit us, sometimes they're closer sometimes they're far. So don't be so hard on yourself. These friends will drift in and out of your life.

Me too but I think I’m just bad at who I’m picking. This is just my experience but I was horribly abused and neglected as a child and the quality people that I should have been friends with weren’t aloud to hang out with me and so I was not able to make friends with anyone except the troubled kids who were usually dealing with the police or getting expelled. I so wanted to be friends with those girls on my softball team etc. I never got a chance to form many quality attachments that weren’t full of drama. I’ve just been living lonely and getting dumped by drama queens or those who want someone less troubled. I get put on the back burner and get invited as the last resort. I’m kinda used to it. I honestly decided during lonely times to be my own best friend, honoring myself, buying myself presents, trying really great restaurants,going to see a movie I like, going on vacation by myself. It felt ok but sometimes I wanted to share the fun and be able to turn my head to see a friend smiling as well. So here I am trying to figure it out. I have very little family and it stinks. I would love to build a network of friends. I have a lot of love to give to some people if I could just figure it out.

So relatable- I totally understand the feeling. I am a fairly open person but as I've gotten older, my social anxiety has stopped me from not necessarily making friends but certainly creating deeper bonds with people at work, at my sons day care, etc. I'm trying to work on just accepting myself and understanding that you can't really control what another person will think of you. I lost so many friends when I had a baby - but I think that the people who I cherish, I cherish more deeply now which kind of balances out the loss.

You may think that you are the alone in this in the moment in time but believe me that a lot of people are dealing with this and they just don't talk about it as they will be seen as the struggling one and as a result people will move away from them. I love my own company as well as being around others, however i have had friends that would never dare go to an event alone. They would even wait for me outside so we can go into gatherings together so that they are seen as the people with close friends. I have had friends who buy friendships, they know ppl love free things so they spend a bit of money on them for when they need a friend to go out with, or post a picture with ect. I once went into a party and arrived earlier than my friends so started interacting with people to make more friends and i was asked by a few women, do u not have any friends? And are you sure your friends are on the way. That really made me think about peoples mind sets. I found this to be the case more with females then males. We live in a very fake world where people say Happy Birthday to you on social media but in real life people don't even call you. They may write 10 lines for you on Twitter and in real life will walk right past you on the street.

I think what it comes down to is there ARE healthy female friendships, but MOST women want Gossip Drama To be jealous To be controlling To be narcissistic To use you And yes, ghost and dump you for no good reason other than giving them helpful healthy advice because most haven't healed childhood trauma. And thats SO PETTY when they group up like that and leave us out !!! They need to communicate their feelings and also not be so rude.

I have the same problem. I don’t know the answer for sure but my theory is that most women are extremely insecure and easily see other women as threats. You’re attractive. They hate that. Any woman bigger than me automatically hates that I exist. They’ll pretend to be my friend for a few minutes but their face constantly looks like they smell something because they just hate it that I’m not bigger than them. I’m not even that great looking. It took me a long time to figure this out because I always thought THEY looked better than me. But I grew up weird and don’t feel the need to compete against them I guess. People in general have issues. Big ones. Women in general have severe issues with self, their looks, their importance, their image, etc. I guess society is making this increasingly worse as a whole. Even though I have lots of anxiety, I’ve learned to hide it and appear confident when I’m not. But insecure women are fooled by my fake confidence. And maybe even with my anxiety I still manage to have a little more confidence than they do but to me, they always seemed like the more confident ones. I don’t know. I’m rambling because I’m confused too 😂

Spent bout 20 minutes looking for this specific video I watched several months ago. There's something special about it. More cozy, intimate and genuine. Thank you 💖

Something I'm picking up here is that you seem so lovely, so cute and pleasant to be around, and I notice your self talk is very negative. "They dumped me" "When I open up about myself they run away" "They stopped contacting me". I find it interesting how these things can be perceived as growing apart, not being a good fit, or something unrelated - but you talk as if you blame yourself. This was very informative for me. Thank you for posting.

Same here I've always had many of friends until about 5 years ago. I'm in my 40's now and I feel like I can't make and keep a friend to save my life. I'm always wondering what I've done to cause so many people to walk out of my life. I have not a clue...😒

I can totally relate! I can honestly say that I have no friends. Not one. I have been dumped by my life long friend in high school, only for her to come back into my life in my 20’s and she recently dumped me a few years ago. There’s been a couple of other women through my adult years who have done the same thing. This has resulted in me not trusting any new friendship with anyone. I have an abundance of equaintances, but none of them are rooted with me in any kind of relationship. My friends are my brothers, my sisters and thank God my sister inlaws and of course my husband. I do wish I had a circle of friends outside of family. But I’d rather not put in so much effort, only to be let down.

I'm with you on this one. I have no one that I can actually, hand on heart, call a friend. I had a few acquaintances that would call themselves my friends but only actually want to know me when it was their birthday/Christmas and they wanted a gift. The rest of the time I'd just see them all going out and having fun. Even going on holiday together and I'd be sat here, really hurt because no one had asked me. So I "dumped" them. They realised, oddly enough, just before Christmas and did a really good job of making me feel utterly rubbish for it. In hindsight I hate that I have no one to socialise with, but I'm glad I got rid of them. I feel more free now, I don't have to care who is going to use me now. I'd love to make new friends, but I'm pretty shy and everyone just assumed I'm stuck up (or so I've been told) so for now, I just trundle along! Maybe friends will come later. Honestly though, you seem really approachable and you obviously care very much for your family. If they have an issue with you, it's their issue. Don't sweat it, if they don't care how their actions hurt you then they clearly don't deserve your friendship in return x

I befriended a coworker and she would text me all the time asking how I was doing or if we could hangout and it was so nice. I have really bad social anxiety so this was exciting and I was trying my best to continue texting her and going out... but it was also extremely scary. All I could think about was that eventually she would "dump" me because I'm not all that interesting and have very low energy. And sure enough there was a point in time when she stopped reaching out and we only saw each other at work. Sometimes we meet up but its so different now and it breaks my heart. I've expressed my feelings and she understands but I'm still so scared. I feel like I'll never be able to make new friends. I'm 22 years old.

Lord may I have at least two close friends. In Jesus name amen

Wow! It was like listening to myself talking in my head. I feel for you. I struggle too. When I was at school I was popular and had loads of friends. Then in my final year at school I was bullied. And it seemed to really change me. I made amazing friends as an adult, but struggled to stay friends. My trust in people is so tenuous, it only takes a small comment for me to run for for the hills! But lately I have been finding out truths about myself I never saw before. One is I have expectations on other humans that I cannot myself live up to. My capacity to forgive, tolerate or even be kind to other people imperfections means I am equally hard on myself. I am working on it. There is nothing 'wrong' with you. You are only human. Sending love and hugs.🙂

I am at the point where I am wondering what is wrong with me. All of my life I have had great difficulty even making any friends...men no problem... but women shun me very easily... I am so nervous with them that it must show or they feel it so they immediately shun me right off...when I do start a friendship I have found that they criticize the smallest things about me while I tolerat and overlook lots of things they would find offensive.. so honestly I do not know anymore and have given up. I recently went on a trip with a work friend and I made the mistake of saying she snored loudly, (not accusatory but so she would know I had not slept barely and would be tired) well, she got very insulted so I explained i did not want to offend her and I knew she did not snore intentionally... after that I suggested a different restaurant for breakfeast one morning when I went along with every single choice of hers all week and this disturbed her and she took offense to it even though I complied with her choice anyhow... so is it me? Or do people have zero tolerance for any differences.. maybe when they do not like you to begin with? Anyhow this was my last try and it really hurts to feel like a reject. Men never reject me so what is it?????? I am truly perplexed.

Guys, let’s just all make a group chat and be friends 🥺

I resonate with what your saying...I think its common in women maybe

You just need to be yourself. You have a lovely personality and you should just stick to your close circle. Often the lack of contact by other people has nothing to with oneself but with what is going on in their lives. People tend to be very wrapped up in their own dilemmas and when much time has passed are often too embarrassed to rekindle a friendship. Other times it is right to let people go from your life. Your children become your closest friends as you get older like me but just keep working at relationships you value. True friends will stick by you even when you put your foot in it...like me! Good luck and best wishes. Claire in Nottinghamshire.xx

It's such a relief to know I'm not alone. I stumbled upon your video after crying over a lost friendship with a friend I valued so much. She just stopped talking to me when she had a family some years ago. Our friendship started being based on me reaching out to her but not the same effort from her. So today I cried over her outright hate for me and not wanting anything to do with me when I asked if I could visit her this holiday season. I do cherish the few genuine female friends I have but it's become increasingly difficult for me to make new female friends lately since I work remotely. But I've made a goal to change my social setting every once in a while so that I can meet new people and possibly make a few more female friends ☺️ Thank you so much for this video.

When you find a friend, you don't lose it but win her heart

Again I love your honestly and willingness to open up on this tough subject. I think this video will help a lot of people. I think with friendships are often based on luck, meeting some one you get on with really well is a bit like dating, you have to meet a lot of acquaintances first. Also some friendships take time, not every relationship is an instant click, which is hard in adult life as you only have limited time to spend together to allow this to happen. Good luck with everything x

A few moments ago I felt abandoned by new friends I thought I had made. Then I realized, I don't need these people and there is a fair age difference (8-10 years). I will wait patiently for friendships out here, because like you mentioned I have about 5 friends that don't live in state that I can confide in and trust 🧡 I had to return my focus on those people and be grateful for them. When the time is right, the compatible people for me will make there way over 😊

Ok I think you’re an honest person and others don’t like honest and straight people, you seem really nice. I’ve moved around in the past and had to keep making friends so I know how hard it is. I’m now an older woman, I’ve been there and done that from both angles, been dumped as a friend and dumped friends as now I’m choosey who i invest my time with, would rather have less friends and have quality friends that I feel real joy when I’m with them, as for those two women that left you on your own, they’re rude people and probably needed to sit alone to gossip anyway and who needs people like that. I used to take something to read when i used to have to wait for my kids, you don’t need people to talk to all the time and sometimes it’s draining anyway. All best lovely lady 😊😉x

Uhhhh. Yes, it's more challenging as you get older. Trust is a factor, as well as consistency. Contributing, working at the friendship, and not just having friendships of convenience. A true friend is so hard to find. I'm open to penpals. Who else is open to penpals? (that was so much fun back in the day). Let's never give up on finding good friends.

Hi, I sincerely love your videos as you are one of only few natural, sincere and genuine youtubers I've ever seen. You've inspired me to be more organized, to take more responsibility for my family's budget and that's what I'm really thankful for. You are not the only one with handful of friends out there. The fact that there is only few of them makes you even more genuine, gives you more every day time to cherish and delevop those relationships instead of having thousand options of spending time with people you won't be seeing more than 10 times in your life. I have one best friend and I deeply believe that she is the one for life , of course it would be nice to get to know new people sometimes but I don't force things, if it sparks with topics it sparks if not that's ok I can always come home and spend hours on the phone to my BFF

My whole life has been spent asking myself what the heck is wrong with you. I can make friends but they're typically not the ones I really want and when I finally make a friend with someone that I want to, I can't keep them. A lot of it does have to do with wanting to be transparent and I find that many women these days do not want to be transparent. Superficiality seems to be the way to go. It's safe. Plus I'm quite a tomboy if I can use that term and I love sports and outdoor activities and most women I know just want to go shopping LOL

I find it easy to make connections wherever i go. I kinda struggle at maintaining them? Like it must be me the first to reach outwith basically everyone, i feel abmormally overjoyed when the opposite happens. And it's draining! I've been dumped by my best friend of highschool too at the end of highschool and i suffered tremendously and got sth that looks a lot like ptsd. Sometimes i just want to disappear and see who reaches out to me first... like "hey it's been a while are you ok?" Or even just "we're going to shop, wanna come?"

It has happened to me throughout my whole life. When I had no boundaries… and now that I have boundaries. I don’t know what the answer is.

You’re not alone!

You're lucky to have a close little group x

I can also relate to this, so rest assured it’s not just you! I did have loads of friends because we lived in a street where everyone knew everyone and our kids went to the school round the corner. Actually I found it a bit much at times to be honest! Now we live in a village and my life is quieter. I haven’t kept in touch with the women I knew from when my daughter was little. It was me who cut the ties - mainly because I felt little in common apart from having kids the same age which ultimately wasn’t really enough anymore. Like you, I have a small handful of good friends but none of them live close by. I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t need loads of friends, just a few who are local. I started a part time college course last Sept and met a lovely lady who has become a new friend. She was easy going and we have similar interests and it’s given me such a boost. On the plus side, since moving here I’ve learnt to be happy with my own company and don’t generally feel down at all. I can get anxiety though at social events and often make excuses not to go; not something I did when I was younger! I think I need to push my boundaries a little. There’s a yoga class and a photography course that I would like to join too. So don’t feel like it’s your fault because it isn’t! I like to treat myself, find a way to relax or take myself off to my favourite cafe or go for a walk. Maybe these things would help you too! Sending positive vibes your way..let us know how you’re doing!

I’ve been through this many times. Even now it’s happening and it’s brought on terrible depression and self loathing. Tears even at this moment. Thank you for bringing this up.

First visit. Subbed. Thank you fir opening this up. Be a friend. I heard this & thought it is a good way to move past injury & hurt.

Thanks for your honesty... friendship is so confusing

Exact same thing here. I've always been a very kind person and I just cant understand why it seems every turns against me. Its like this at work, family. I still do t know what it is but I have really bad anxiety. I think it could be that I've not made people respect me, bc I put myself last, my submissive body language. I'm so angry right now my chest hurts.

When I was younger I always worried what people thought of me and was desperate for people to like me, but as I've got older I've realised that quality is much better than quantity. It's ok to have a handful of close friends and not be the most popular one in the crowd. True friends, love you just the way you are (flaws and all) and those are the ones to stick with. The rest, well, I really wouldn't worry about, you are definitely worth much more :)

When you get dump it really makes you wonder what you did wrong. But why do people treat others like that. I have wondered if they feel better then me. Why when a people try’s so hard they always get rejected.

Ps... I can really relate to The Dumping and it attaching to you. 10 years old best friend for 3 years, never had sisters so it was the first close relationship I have with a female and she dumped me overnight for another girl that mood new into the neighborhood. I was never the same after that. Even to this day when you put me around two or more females I cringe and feel like I want to run.

It started for me in college. I’ve found that planning and intentionality have helped me. Just like anything else it’s hard work. It’s helped me to plan coffee or lunch dates regularly with various people. I think we sometimes think it should be natural and just fall into place with the right people but I haven’t found this to be the case. Also, for people who are extremely outgoing it might be more natural or someone who is gifted in “schmoozing.” 😂 But, I’m not that:)

Women are envious by nature

If you can say that you do have a handful of good, close friends then that is a blessing. But, if those dear friends aren't close by like my situation, then that can be sad and upsetting. It might be helpful to reach out to someone who stops talking to you all of sudden and ask why they did that. Hopefully they will give you an honest answer. People can be flaky and will move on to someone to be their new friend for different reasons. It could be for their own selfish reasons, convenience, insecurities or they just don't have much time, energy or ambition. People may have good intentions but can't follow through, sadly.

I'd definitely be your friend ❤

You are so sweet. I can relate to this.

I'm so there with you babe. I don't know what it is, but I make acquaintances not friends. I meet some ladies, as one example, but they show they are a gossip about others straight from the git-go and I stay away because if they don't even know me and are so confortable divulging opinions about others, people like that will do it to you as well. Toxic talk, no thanks.

I’ve had friends in college who didn’t last more than 3-4 years. Talking to one I had a dreadful feeling she wasn’t going to keep in touch with me anymore. I think mainly because of interests that she expected I shared but instead I had my own interests that I had a preference for. Despite how long I’ve hung out with her, she didn’t stay around. She didn’t share the same mindset I had either. I felt that she had a more positive mindset on things, and I was struggling. Although I found myself hanging out with people below 2 years my age and they vibe with me a lot better.

I keep having bad luck keeping friends. I know I suck at keeping conversations but I hate when I tall to someone it never last longer than a week or two and things go silent. Others we will chat here and there but I never fully had a true friend to talk to more often .

to be honest having five close friends is A LOT! I wish I had that! If you have 5 close friends already and a family then you are doing great!!! I am lonely with two close friends.. but one I argue with a lot. Recently, one friend came visitng other friends and I wanted to see her. She had other plans and it hurt a lot. Priorities people have makes it hard.

I've just bought a book The Power of Misfits...been feeling like you and the people in the comments...I just don't get it, but will read this book when it arrives and if I have any clarity, I'll share. Big hugs. xx

I know how you feel. I do feel in female friendships there is a real hierarchy. Often people who are not the nicest but are bossy are popular. I also think if you are a gentle, easygoing person, women see this as weakness and don't respect you.

This is so relatable 😭

Thanks for such a beautifully honest video. I know I'm two years late on this, just wondered how you got on? What did you learn? I love the book radical acceptance by Tara Brach and also Intimate Connections by David D Burns. He would recommend a couple of months of spending as much time totally alone as possible so that you don't feel as down in the lonely moments. I'm doing that now. One week in and loving it! x

I know what you mean, I have actually been the one who dumps too. I think it's normal for friends to come and go and if circumstances mean it becomes more of an effort to meet up people drift apart too. The two ladies probably either didnt think anything of you standing there, maybe they assumed you were meeting someone or maybe they wanted to talk to eachother in private about something going on with one of the two of them. My best friends I met on netmums and we talk on watsapp mostly and meet up every now and then. That works better as a support system we talk daily day and night about everything. It's because there's no pressure to physically be somewhere but the support is always there. We would drive over in an emergency etc. It is better than having school run friends etc that become relied upon to fill our day, school runs are better acquaintances and never last in my experience. Seeing the no. Of subscriber's creeping up. Well done x

Oddly, I have had girlfrirnds flirt shamelessly with past male partners. I have had one friend sleep eith a past boyfriend. I am married now. I am thankful to have good women friends that I can call sisters. But-some women are very thirsty for men( sad to say). I am an introvert, though.

Tina, the Mrs. here - It's very expensive to have too many friends, especially ones that always have to be spending money whether it's going to restaurants, shopping, or what have you. I'm also very picky who my friends are. Some women do not want friendships - they want someone to make them feel good about themselves and they put you down in subtle ways. I'd rather not have any friends than ones that are always putting me down. Women can also be very nit picky and competitive. I pray to God in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ to bring me just one sincere female friend and that will make me happy. But if it does not happen, so be it. I'm content. I recently tried making friends with this one lady not long ago but she turned out to be extremely codependent and it was scary! That's one way to kill a friendship real quick is to be too desperate for it. Just like any relationship, we must be content with ourselves first. But just think! At least everyone now has a way to communicate to others because of this beast called the internet. I remember what it was like to be lonely and not even having the internet to reach out to other people. Imagine that for a moment - to all you youngens that were born into the internet world. You'll never have any idea what it TRULY means to feel lonely. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic.

Im glad l stumbled upon your video. Im struggling between being authentic about issues lm having or keeping the friendship when its the only one l might have. With you l dont think your doing anything wrong. Being open is always a good thing unless its about mental health or things that would scare ppl away. Sticking your foot in your mouth might be the problem. I have no filter and thats always been a problem for me

I know how you feel and have gone through similar things. I would also question myself if I did anything horrible or wrong. I would also be interested in seeing what else other people have to say about self help books. It also really doesn’t help that I’m the type of person that has very unique interest and I don’t follow the social norm

Listen to Mel Robbins...she does some really good realistic chats on female friendships. ..and yes they really change as we get older ..I've many stories but I won't bore u...lol just very grateful I have 2 sisters and we 2 yrs apart and are close and a son and daughter...now young adults x

Omg this is so me. But girl you just being you and being real. I realised when people finally realise rhat tou being your true authentic self and they are not they cannot be lying to you and themselves anynore. Ehen they first meet you because society is conditioned to hate themselves and beauty standards dont help. Most people ate being fake to the point when they meet a real authentic person they first think oh she cant be this real she is putting up a front. Whatever they see in you is what they havent dealt with within themselves. So if you are outspoken and loving and very honest and they cannot be they will envy this or even feel intimidated. So seriously just keep being you. I feel you how lonely this can be. Im in the same exact situationship with my last friend. I literally shared everything with her and trusted her to the pont i feel like i said too much. When things got better for me or when i crafted something like a piece of jewellery or cooked something amazing. She would never compliment me. I would physically had to ask what she thought of it . Like its so sad how men can respect each other on the same level and women cant. It blows my last brain cells.

İ normaly do not comment but could not let this pass,problem is not you its the society nowadays want a Friend that they can materialisticly benefit from, maybe because you are very strong willed and self sufficient it makes them feel crap and useless next to you and just don’t want to face that.

Hi, just found your channel and love it, binge watching as we speak 😁. I found this really interesting and I’m the same, I find like I don’t think I am interesting enough for others to want to hear what I have to say,you look at the others who have so many people around them, but then again I’d rather have 5 very close reliable, positive people in my life than 100 just people. You seem lovely. xx

25, nearly 26. No female friends. Had the problem my whole life. Breaks my inside. Makes me feel like a terrible terrible person

Maybe you too wise and reflective and deep, many people are shallow… I used to get sad about not having any close friends, today I loves it, people are somehow draining or some many are…

always had this issue since childhood.

I can totally relate to this video!

I think other women are scared of women who don’t fit a “ type” if you’re boisterous one moment and quiet the next and if you’re confident enough to talk to anyone I find women get confused and don’t trust you. I have a very harsh way of speech , I don’t piss about and I swear like a sailor , I certainly don’t play the whole social game and high pitch girl talk so maybe that’s why.

People are evil nowadays that's why I stay alone 24/7 and love it.

Hello there! I think it's not your fault. People become more selfcentert and they lack of empathy. They don't want deal with problems of others, when they have there own. Keep people close who are there for you in good and bad moments. The rest, they can't give you nothing, if they expect something back.

I can totally relate

I cut ties with my best friend when he gave me unsolicited advice when I was through a really rough time and only seemed to care about himself playing his favorite game rather than how I'm feeling.

Teenager here, just had a best friend just dump me for someone else about 3 months ago. I was so shocked and honestly still am. I thought we would last. This honestly seems to be happening ever since I was a little girl. It sucks. I don’t have any close friends anymore. It causes such self doubt. Am I clingy, am I too open, am I mean, am I toxic??? I don’t know anymore!

You are not alone in it. Friendship are sacred in the eyes of God. Therefore it's hard having pure friendship. If you find it's toxic and uncomfortable then just quit. It's time consuming and unnecessary stress.