I crossed paths with my first pathological level narcissist (a boss) in 1997; basically just as the internet was really getting off the ground. I had a close friend who was a psychologist at that time and we started doing a deep dive into this guy’s extremely warped personality. I can remember at a certain point (when I was at the height of my confused and discombobulated state) saying to her (the psychologist) “he has all of them” .. meaning: pretty much every mental illness we could find. Not sure the idea of a “personality disorder” had yet crossed either of our minds (or even if those were a “thing” commonly known or talked about yet) .. but at some point I did stumble on to Sam Vaknin’s work and it was the first thing that started to make the whole situation I was in make sense to me. And at that time, yes I can tell you for a fact he was the ONLY person really talking about this or with the framework for this level of understanding. I have come back to this space the last few years due to another close call with another narcissist and there is SO much more information available now but I think I could say with certainty Vaknin was absolutely the pioneer here. Or the person who was first able to really put this whole phenomenon into understandable language.

I'd 👍 this multiple times if I could.

Sam is the best and deserves all the credit and much gratitude from us. Look it up..

Dr , when I feel like shit during nights bc I remember all the abuse I like to listen to your videos until I fall asleep, I feel understood

Ironically my flying monkey brother introduced me to your indisputable expertise. Facts matter.

Professor your insights are so incredibly unique! In spite of the fact that so many people talk about narcissism, no one gets it like you and can transfer this knowledge into a comprehensive language. I live with a vulnerable narcissist for more than two decades. Every lecture of yours resonates to 100 percent. Every move, every psychodynamic, every process you describe about claster b pathologies is the truth and the result of gigantic knowledge and intelligence. I think it's very very difficult to become the gratification for your work, because they all envie you. You explained to us, that they would rather destroy you and steal from you because of malignant envie, to give you gratification and acknowledge your work.

I consider you The Pioneer of bringing the understanding of Narcissism to the layperson and publisher of the truth that set me free. I am certain it was also you, Sam, who started advising us to not get stuck in the online groups.

Thank you for being a narcissistic psychologist who is able to explain what is so difficult to explain. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to understand narcissism.

I do not miss a single one of your master classes, I am deeply grateful to you, you have brought light to my life and my suffering, today it has a name, I am a narcissist and a survivor of psychopathic abuse, at this moment in my life your contribution has been a lifeline. tnank you very much .

Prof. Sam Vaknin. You are the voice of narcissism literally and figuratively lol. But you have saved me and many others. Thank god for you Sam ❤️

Repect!! Thank you for this information. We, humans, owe you a lot, so how can we acknowledge you without knowing you are patient, One. Thank you again for helping me understand my life! Without you and your work, I would still be in total confusion.

Very deep in the thinking of this animal called NARCISSIM

Thank you so much Dear Professor Sam Vaknin❤

Greetings Sam i totally agree with you as i too fight for folks to have MEMORY! Yep, we R Up To The Task!! Salute!!!

Respect starts from conversation People are avoiding people

Thank you so much Dear Professor Sam Vaknin. ❤

@Prof. Sam Vaknin I will continue to attribute the pioneering of the online field of narcissistic abuse awareness to you alone. Thank you for your contributions to both history and the study of narcissistic abuse.

Thank you Vaknin.

Thank you Professor Vaknin 💐🦋 i have learn so much from your Lessons

Indeed, in 1995 and throughout the early 2000s, you were the ONLY source of in-depth information about NPD and narcissist8c abuse!! You are the guy who deserves the credit.

You deserve the credit for the massive body of knowledge that you have brought forward.

I recognize Dr. Vaknin for being the pioneer in this field. However, a psychologist named Alexander Lowen did publish a book in the 1970's about Narcissism. Lowen did not describe narcissm in the same depth as Vaknin but he did identify many traits.

these people are truly impossible. It doesn't seem like there is ever a real solution outside of no contact.

יותר ממילים ומטבעות לשון. אלה כלים להבנה של קונספט ששיכללת. מילים ומושגים , שבשל היותם מדוייקים חדים ופשוטים , נטמעו כאילו תמיד היו שם ... תודה על העבודה המבורכת הזו. מה שאני לומדת דרך ההרצאות שלך, משנה חיים.

We appreciate your work and transparency Prof. Vaknin !

The intellectual theft that you describe is rapant in universities. Individual researchers often have to sign away all their work to the universities they work for. Even when they patent ideas after leaving their old university can go after them legally if they claim the patent was inspired by something they saw wh I le working there. 😢

I've been subscribed to you since I was able to. Raised by cluster B's, I watch your videos with one eye on the narcissists in my life and one eye on myself. A (wealthy, I diagnose her and her husband as narcissists) artist claimed she had been awarded inclusion in an exhibition at Art Basel where I had been the one chosen, even so far as to somehow have the website changed. When I discovered it I had it corrected by the curator and put a link to the site on my own website. The art world is rife with this shizz. I'm told by a scientist friend taking credit for another's achievements is a way of life in academia. I don't see it changing. I've learned to get my joy in the studio because what happens after is largely out of my hands. I meditate daily, which helps with perspective. Thanks for the opportunity to vent.

Sam you are my "God" ok, let's just get that clear and aside that fact, when you said ," I am narcissist zero" I laughed out loud so hard and with pure affection I developed into during my journey and by enjoying your daily videos I am forced to love you , your one of a kind personality jokes exc. Greatest guy I feel like I ever known

You should absolutely get the credit.

Read a survivor crediting you just the other day. We thank you for all you have given, Dr. Vaknin . Sincerely.

So thankfull I am with what you developed!!!

Respect, Love, Grace❤

Glad for this video, thank you. Puts me in mind of a certain KZfaqr you interviewed with, who let all assume they’d, in fact, coined the term “decolonize your mind”. So gross.. That confirmed my suspicions of that youtuber’s weasel-y underhanded ways. Glad the connection has ceased and thanks again.

Thanks for teaching us history and giving us valuable lectures. Sharing your knowledge

Wait a minute...........Now we are talking Professor. Get all the way down to the bottom of things of why our society is being directed as is. Brilliant Prof. Vaknin. Now your physicists skirt is showing.

I, as an creative person, would never steal someone else idea! It would be like an admission that I can't have any good ideas of myself. Also it showes disrespect for other professionals. I'm too proud to behave like this.

You’re an absolute Legend and deserve to be given credit for your work and ideas. “Intellectual Murder”… love it! I listen to your videos everyday. They are truly an invaluable source of incredibly important information and knowledge that everyone NEEDS to know. I wish I knew all this when I was younger, could have really helped prevent me making some stupid choices and understand what was going on in my own brain. It’s never too late to learn and I find you the most fascinating and engaging person on KZfaq. Keep going! Thank you

Professor Vaknin is the OG pioneer on cluster B! Thanks from a Queen B(aka borderline) suffering from a lifetime of exactly what you coined as narcissistic abuse. Your insights are a lifeline.

I referred you Prof. to my friends who studied Psychology. Even listening to you triggered me sometimes. 😊

🧡Thank you Sam🩷

Sam, since about 10 years you are one of the most important people in my life. I never write comments, but everyone knows that you are the King and the more you stay calm and own it with humour, like you did in the past too, the more the truth will just stand for itself. If I would have not found your videos back in the days, I would have been probably either dead, because of predators, or at another place now. I became a "pretty great" man, who achieved a lot, and I always, every week, had your videos in my back, and leading my way to come where I am now. I had many mentors, but you are one of the most important ones, and by frequency, even the most consulted one for me. And the most important one for understanding 99% of the population nowadays. Your work has toughened me up and many people who comment here think the same. You are a true blessing, and I noticed that you were the only one who stepped up and even put himself first, with this very delicate and for some people difficult to accept topic. The King always smiles and just owns it Sam. You are the King and everyone knows this

When I hear you date that we are of society of present only, with no past and no future, I am reminded of your teachings on the ways we relate to our self. If I recall, our future self is a complete stranger, our past self is a vague or foggy acquaintance. The only self is present self.

Best of luck being recognized for your excellent work Professor Vacnin. It appears certian individuals with specific personality disorders garvitate ( or perhaps develop or advance their disorder) to professions where the disorder is socially acceptable. In the orchestra I was a chellist in, narcicism was the norm. So much so that my tutors encouraged me to exhibit the attitude. It was expected of me as first chellist and exquisitly demonstrated by the first violinist. On line psycholological professionals are probably simlierly self selected amoung the ranks of those who exhibit pathaloghc cheracteristics they wish to understand. As such they don’t give a damn about reality or history. Good luck trying though. I have found good character is not particularly recognized or rewarded particularly short term. I supppose that last is inappropriate coming from me. I made a small fortune managing various properties for my wife’s family for twenty years. Renters and lessee’s were often initially suspicious of me. They expected me to be slow and neglectful. It took some time ( and a few crises) for them to discover I was right there with them. Floods, homeless sleeping in doorways, cantankerous neighbors I was in the middle of it. Helping contractors mop up, asking the homeless to move along and not block the driveways and entry doors, and right in the face of newly graduated orthadontists from Harvard with no expierience running his own business. Satisfaction from bullying is immediate, rewards being a good person are more internal and log term. Perhaps only recognized by a small group of interested associates and clients.

Bless you for your illumination of the truth about narcissistic disorder. And bless you for your being for the first "patient". Thank you for sticking up for the necessary need for the world wide historical acknowledgement of an "artistic creator". And thank you for your speaking about a person absolutely needing to receive official "professional credit" for their artistic & intellectual creations! Me -- had to fight with a completely ignorant idiot for a t-shirt design & a business card design. And he managed to alienate his assistant who sewed thousands of things excellently!!! And then he tried to not pay her- & she was the "diamond" level skill there/she was a "jewel" of "a maker" in his business as well, and he did this in front of witnesses! Me and the whole neighborhood, and also others with their artistic excellence/ knowledge/ high level social skills- we were all fuming mad! Me finally got the two copyrighted designs back. He forgot that he was within distance of 3/4 of a mile from authority, as well as an open "court". Thank you!

You are one step to the total resolution, here is the final answer : Nobody will ever know the name of the first discoverer or inventor of the wheel, but his or her discovering still benefits humanity today, and will continue to do so to anything that could replace us in the far future on a world scale. Nobody can pretend inventing it, or knowing who invented it, and so cannot criticise or reject the idea because of the author, it is a godlike status for the individual that achieved this (or a group even). Your work is done because it lives beyond your physical being, in the culture. Nothing more can be achieved and you can enjoy seeing the entire world of ideas now marked with your concepts. Being forgotten after bringing something incredibly good and powerfull to so many people is the final stage. You just have to accept to do the step. You can now become complete, rest and try something new. I would imagine that it is fairly rare that someone can enjoy this status during their lifetime, and that it is possible that some can do this multiple times in their life, but that, no one will ever know ! 😉

Wow!!! What you say is what I observe in my life! I am an absolutely honest person! All my life I have been protecting those in need of protection. I have never offended anyone, and even more so, I cannot offend a child and or woman.I was raised by the best woman in the world, by my mother, who instilled in me a real moral code. I am even afraid to remain silent if someone in my presence commits injustice against another person - so as not to be on the side of Evil with my silence! There is nothing neutral between Good and Evil in my moral code! And it turns out that's exactly what I offended her! That's what I thought and said, that the other person would either beat you or commit suicide. But I can't do either. And she answered me that she knows this and therefore is not afraid of me! And about her mother - everything is one to one! The convert narcissist told me that I should compensate her for everything that she did not receive from her mother! I am a Ukrainian Israeli who came to live in Canada with only one purpose - to raise my daughter in happiness and joy (20 years ago in Israel I was arrested and they tried to take my child from me to give her up for adoption. I went through criminal courts and left Israeli Supreme Court without charges). Then I was looking for my other half to raise our children together and I fell into the trap of a covert narcissist who promised me to be my second half and later she bought me (with my money) a ticket and then came here in Canada with her son. We had two sons here in Winnipeg. Now they are 8 and 12 years old. My story is something incredible. The year before last, I turned to the mental crisis center for help, but they shifted the responsibility to me, instructing me to convince our rapist to seek help from their crisis center herself. And it was a fatal moment from which everything became much worse!!! Incredible domestic abuser made "friendly" relationship with social services and they, with the help of the police on completely absurd and false allegations, fabricated reality and arrested me for about one hour and at midnight on January 10, 2023 put me on the street without the right to return home and made me homeless person, standing in the cold in a terrible frost in light clothes, without gloves and any personal belongings in front of the door of the police station in Winnipeg North And... She wrote to me later that I must die alone... Since then I have lost the opportunity to be with my children, I was labeled as a rapist in Winnipeg Police, my children who truly love me were forced to say that they do not want to communicate with me... On April 3, 2023 I proved in court that I am a victim of domestic violence and stalking and was granted to me a Protection Order. But after that Winnipeg Child and Family Services with my former family doctor tried to cancel my protection order and fabricate opposite against me! But court dismissed it. The Winnipeg police arrested me two more times on trumped-up absurd charges when in reality it was violation s of my Protection Order... Violations continuing and last week, the social terrorists from Winnipeg police threats me about my new arrest! This is an incredible story of abuse of a man and a father by an intimate partner and the Winnipeg police under the auspices of the so-called Winnipeg child and family service! I declare that this society is in danger on the way to its self-destruction!!! Because an undeclared social terrorist war is being waged against all of us! My shame, in which I lived and suffered all these last 13 Canadian years, after my illegal arrest, left from me along with the constant pain that was in my body all this years. And now my former shame has become disgrace and contempt to the Winnipeg police service who wage war against the sake of our children. This is a cry for help! But I am a strong person and I believe in Justice! I am not a recognized victim of a covert narcissist, but I do not agree to be a victim of this misanthropic system that does business on our pain and our grief! Help me make my story public to stop abusing my children and me and let us just live without violence! Please contact me to be my witnesses of Truth. Sincerely, Dmitry Bimbat Winnipeg, Canada

You da Man!

Insist on History!

Congrats and Thank You for spreading your knowledge....

Here in the US and many other countries, elaborate laws are in place to protect one's rightful (Intellectual Property) interest in the product of his/her intellectual & pbysical. And these laws exist for a resson. They were enacted by national governments as essential elenents of a functional society ... including, but not limited to, the economic system. Great Presentation! Thank You! ~TD, Boston PS: You may find this a supportive read: "2nd TREATISE OF GOVERNMENT" Chapter 5: "Of Property" ~John Locke

Thank you for your content Sam. Please could you get more deep in another video on what happen in the mind of these flying monkeys? I've seen your videos about it, but I'm still wondering what are they exactly, are they inverted narcissists, bordelines, covert,..? I know they can recover, since there are people from cults recovered, and specific therapies that work on them. For example Steve Hassan talks about therapy focused more on the phobia intervention, that is the core of the manipulation in cults. Can you clarify more about it?

Is there a video on these 27 strategies? I can't find it!

Hi can you please make a video about the relationship of two borederlines

This stuff is the Rosetta Stone of personality disorders.

What if the Flying Monkeys include members of law enforcement, courts, etc.? Navie yet endowed with unique qualities and blind-spot for honeypot tactics made me made this one guy (better than anyone could possibly know) an easy mark for a network of narcissists that recruited, groomed, and deployed this chap as an unwitting flying monkey (the most effective in my opinion.) With the benefit of hindsight, the cultish cell of narcissists put him in grave danger under the guise of cosplay, revelry, and hedonism. Like the plot of "Tropical Thunder" their target thought was playing around but in reality, was in a real war. These Narcissists indeed were master manipulators and know just how to hit someone in their weakest spot. Their modus operandi compromised law enforcement, business owners and in general morally weak men so easily and at such embarrassing low prices, it's almost comical. Full blown narcissists have hierarchy of targets, tactics, and strategy. Cowards to the core, they prefer to hide behind "legitimate" systems of secrecy and violence which you cannot fight back, if you do will likely loose your life and/or freedom.

Atlas Shrugged, Rearden Steal, "because it's mine".

You have openly admitted your diagnosis….. it’s a shame others can’t…. and pretend they are sooo morally right…. It’s all in the eyes 👀!…

@Prof. Sam Vaknin Could you please record a video where you would explain situation where exactly Father is a Narcissist not a Mother, and his influence on his sons. And Correlation between chances of this sons become a Narcissists themself. Or if such videos already have been published, could someone share it pls! Will be very thankfull ;)

may i ask where can i find the complete interview?

is it normally the naryissist who choose the flying monkey or the flying monkey who choose the narzssist.Are the intimate partners of naryissist pontetial flying monkeys but some just not take the role ?

Humanity will get worse and fade away!!!!!

The keys to the postures of young (for the most part) so-called leaders of the EU and UK are the examples of Narcissism in Geopolitics.

Narcissistic Fleas, love it!!!!!

Where can you find your narcissistic support groups on-line now/currently in 2024? And is there a link below in your video content? Please let us know. Thank you.

Oh yes, flying monkeys are very important nowadays 😂😂😂

do you speak german

☝️✨🎯 I’d give this a thumbs up but someone might take false credit for my opposibility! 🫠