Forever Trapped in the First 30 Seconds | Worst Amnesia Case in History | Clive Wearing Analysis

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Dr. Todd Grande

Dr. Todd Grande

Жыл бұрын

This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of Clive Wearing?
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@mabeldelrey7741
@mabeldelrey7741 Жыл бұрын
His brain forgets, but not his heart. The love for his wife and playing the piano.
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
@rebeccagreen2310
@rebeccagreen2310 Жыл бұрын
His being able to play the piano still is amazing.
@tankthearc9875
@tankthearc9875 Жыл бұрын
great now all our wives will want us to get amnesia......
@kristita_888
@kristita_888 Жыл бұрын
This analysis is tactful and moving. Thank you for handling Clive’s situation with such grace, allowing him the dignity he deserves in describing his life.
@annedenman3312
@annedenman3312 Жыл бұрын
My Mother has dementia and doesn't remember anything that just happened. Case in point, she can arrive back from a shopping trip with her husband and I will ask her how the trip was and she will not remember what or where she had been. She can be just getting out of the car and not remember. She recognizes me (I think) though she is social by nature. She can get upset then, snap out of it in a split second not realizing she had been distraught. It is her state of being now. It just is. I am forever grateful her husband is so loving and tender with her. Thank you Doctor Grande for shedding light on memory loss.
@ectoflower
@ectoflower Жыл бұрын
I would rather die than go through this, but I wonder if it's even possible for him to consider suicide. There's not enough time to think deeply enough about his situation to decide he would rather just die than feel like he's dead, and there's not enough time to commit the act of killing himself before he forgets. This is such a baffling condition.
@jumarbye1214
@jumarbye1214 Жыл бұрын
I watched a documentary about Clive, and it was one of the saddest things I've ever seen. However, when his wife came back to him, after leaving him for awhile, I could see the happiness she brought him. A brave and loving woman, who deserves - but does not want - accolades. As you said, a testament to love, romantic relationships and their importance in our lives.
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
Do you know what the documentary is called or where I can watch it ?
@reversalmushroom
@reversalmushroom Жыл бұрын
Her commitment is nothing short of astonishing.
@christybradford157
@christybradford157 Жыл бұрын
@@moonstruck562 the documentary is on KZfaq- channel is Real Stories & title is “The man with the seven second memory.” Hope you can find it 🌞
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
@@christybradford157 thank you so much. I'm gonna look for it right now and hope to find it so I can watch it 🙏
@christybradford157
@christybradford157 Жыл бұрын
@@moonstruck562 hope it works out!
@iamgroot6965
@iamgroot6965 Жыл бұрын
Although clive has a very very short memory his ability to still have the skill to play the piano as beautifully as he does is absolutely astounding to me. I wonder if scientists have ever studied his brain waves whilst he plays the piano vs not playing the piano, it'd be incredibly interesting to see what parts of his brain light up/are stimulated
@johnfkennedy9611
@johnfkennedy9611 Жыл бұрын
Love this channel mate
@GirlJay67
@GirlJay67 Жыл бұрын
@@johnfkennedy9611 you were assassinated Man! And you wanted to allow illegal immigrants in. Do you think history repeats itself?
@Raev222
@Raev222 Жыл бұрын
Music usually also has an effect on dementia patients. It must be something about where and how it's stored in the memory, and how it affects the brain yes. Music is such an important part of most humans' lives, it does something very special to us.
@EvilCookieElf
@EvilCookieElf Жыл бұрын
I feel like it's mostly muscle memory, I played piano on and off for many years and when coming back to it, your fingers just start moving by themselves without thinking
@hanfred
@hanfred Жыл бұрын
@@EvilCookieElf Exactly that, like the not just proverbial ability to ride a bike.
@icturner23
@icturner23 Жыл бұрын
It is so striking when one sees footage of him or his diary, so I didn’t expect you to be able to convey him so well, but you did a good job. His wife deserves more of a mention for standing by him. At first she was obviously traumatized and overwhelmed, but after thinking that there was no purpose in staying married to him, she came back to wanting to be there for him no matter what.
@itamar.j.rachailovich
@itamar.j.rachailovich Жыл бұрын
His wife is amazing person. I wish one day I will find someone like her. Unfortunately being born in 1987, it’s impossible to find ladies like her, because human beings don’t produce it anymore (with the exception of Afghanistan and Yemen, but I am not a Muslim so I will never get to marry an Afghan or Yemenite lady) .
@Flamsterette
@Flamsterette Жыл бұрын
@@itamar.j.rachailovich Irrelevant.
@steven95N
@steven95N Жыл бұрын
@@itamar.j.rachailovich there's something deeply wrong with you.
@itamar.j.rachailovich
@itamar.j.rachailovich Жыл бұрын
@@steven95N Can you please expand on how exactly you came with that conclusion? I don’t think we know each other. 1) I said that Clive’s wife is amazing, can we infer from it that there is something wrong with me? 2) I said that the ladies of my generation are not like the ladies of 2 generations ago, and yes, if you infer that I prefer the ladies of 2 generations ago, you are correct. Does preferring the ladies, morality, values and culture of 2 generations ago indicate that there is something wrong with me? 3) In contrast to our current modern values, morality, culture and ladies , I mentioned that Afghan ladies and Yemenite ladies are different and are from the type of women that I prefer. Can we conclude from it that there must be something wrong with me? I will be grateful if you can expand on your diagnosis. Thank you and have a wonderful day and weekend. Shana Tova
@malabuha
@malabuha Жыл бұрын
@@itamar.j.rachailovich people like her are not produced. What you miss is a relationship. Your relationships reflect your own ability to bond with another person. If you've been talking like that to women, no wonder you couldn't find love. Everyone is taylor of their own happiness
@lindawilson4625
@lindawilson4625 Жыл бұрын
Mind boggling and unusual situation. Such a tremendous loss. The one happy part of this story is that he repeatedly experiences that first blush of attraction every time he sees his wife. I'm also glad he can still enjoy his music.
@johnhawthorn5393
@johnhawthorn5393 Жыл бұрын
kinda sad tho. considering how selfish she is
@lindawilson4625
@lindawilson4625 Жыл бұрын
@@johnhawthorn5393 I was speaking only about him and his perceptions and feelings. He doesn't know if she is selfish. He can't remember. Thanks for your comment!
@xxXXCarbon6XXxx
@xxXXCarbon6XXxx Жыл бұрын
@@johnhawthorn5393 Not really. I initially didn't understand why she would leave him. But when you see how emotional he becomes when she enters the room, see how broken he appears in her eyes, you understand the crushing emotional toll it takes on her. I find his torment to be similar to Sisyphus', an endless repetition of being 'reborn' that also impacts his wife and kids.
@Dannelrandal
@Dannelrandal Жыл бұрын
@@johnhawthorn5393 she stays with him despite how unbelievably difficult it must be. She is obviously not a selfish person
@trybunt
@trybunt Жыл бұрын
@@johnhawthorn5393 err.. what? Selfish? What makes you say that? Is this your ex-wife or something? Haha, it would be very strange to attribute random negative attributes to strangers with very little info about them, so I am curious what made you come to this conclusion, or perhaps you always make snap judgements about people, creating fictional versions of everyone to get upset about inside your head.
@lnc-to4ku
@lnc-to4ku Жыл бұрын
What an incomprehensible case! Your choice of words to describe some of the heartbreaking features in his case were very powerful and touching: All he has is the introduction- the 1st few notes of the song, the 1st few lines of a poem. And when you said "He did not lose the feeling that he was in love. That was the one thing that could pierce through the fog, of his tremendous loss." 💔
@enigmag9538
@enigmag9538 Жыл бұрын
I've seen a documentary about him. His love for his wife and music is amazing . He plays the piano beautifully. His wife and music are the only things that bring him joy and calmness.
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
Do you know what the documentary is called or where I can watch it ?
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
@@shelleydunkle7867 thanks. I had found it & watched it.
@STR82DVD
@STR82DVD Жыл бұрын
I watched Jonathan Miller's documentary on BBC about Clive Wearing years ago. I just couldn't imagine an existence on that level - no yesterday, no tomorrow, just now. I don't truly think anyone can comprehend that kind of diminished capacity Doc. That was a sobering critique.
@jenanne31
@jenanne31 Жыл бұрын
What a heartbreaking story. I guess "living in the moment" isn't a wonderful goal for which to strive after all. When my mother was dying of Alzheimer's disease, she lost her short-term memory and much of her past memories as well. Our ability to recall past experiences make us who we are; in that sense, we are our memories. Thank you, Dr. Grande. Your analyses are always so compassionate.
@lynnkayee1015
@lynnkayee1015 Жыл бұрын
Im sorry about your mother. My grandmother had Alzheimer's too. She unfortunately also had breast cancer, but maybe that was fortunate because it took her when she otherwise would have suffered more. Strangely, she remembered my mother. No one else. Her parents were forgotten, her son, her grand/great grandchildren...just remembered my mother. She thought the rest of us were nurses but she was so sweet to us. Which was opposite of before lol.
@Throatzillaaa
@Throatzillaaa Жыл бұрын
Such a rare and heartbreaking situation for Clive and his family. I found the quote you read of him speaking about being as void and empty as death to be quite poignant. I am really glad he has his wife. Very touching video today, thank you Dr. Grande ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@macswanton9622
@macswanton9622 Жыл бұрын
There just ain't room in here for humor. Only infinite mercy
@qmaube1
@qmaube1 Жыл бұрын
His wife said she never loved anyone like him . She would rather be with him this way than any other man in the world.
@Sinsteel
@Sinsteel Жыл бұрын
Especially since after the illness he was happy every time he saw her, and was never mad or upset with her for more than a few seconds.
@trybunt
@trybunt Жыл бұрын
That's the most heartbreaking heart-warming thing I've ever heard.
@tankthearc9875
@tankthearc9875 Жыл бұрын
of course , every woman dreams of a man loving them like the first day forever.
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
I really liked your ending monologue about the impossible fate Clive must have lived through.
@desolladoxipe
@desolladoxipe Жыл бұрын
this is one of the most tragic cases I have ever heard about. My grand father at his 101 years was in a similar state, he had to be explained again and again his wife died.
@curiouscat4337
@curiouscat4337 Жыл бұрын
That's so sad.
@AwfulDog1
@AwfulDog1 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately that is very common. So distressing for the family and a daily torture for the loved one left behind who can’t retain the information. Ironic that it doesn’t affect someone who no longer respected or loved their ex partner…
@lynnkayee1015
@lynnkayee1015 Жыл бұрын
My grandmother was in better health at 89 than most younger people until she had a reaction to medication that lead to a serious surgery. After that she got she couldn't remember much. She kept asking about her son, my dad, who died 9 years earlier. We got tired of telling her he was gone because of how horribly she would react and just starting saying he was out of town and called when she slept. We always promised to wake her up next time he called. I feel bad for everyone who has to explain that kind of thing over and over. Their heartbreak brings about ours...every single time.
@GetSicRiCH
@GetSicRiCH Жыл бұрын
*_Herpes Simplex Encephalitis_* → kinda scary that something so common, as a cold sore, can turn into a brain injury. There is a guy in my brain injury group [i am tbi survivor] who this very thing happened to. He was a soccer player and coach, young, in his twenties, when a soccer ball hit his nose in jUSt the 𝚁𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 way [or _wrong_ way] that the herpes got lodged into his brain. He is lucky to have a devoted wife, like Clive here…. But this soccer player’s brain injury makes him unable to communicate nor even move very easily. He definitely cannot play soccer anymore. His wife seems so sad, too. Brains are so complex. 🙏💖✨
@rachelhansen2417
@rachelhansen2417 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been following a modern story about a girl named Caitlin Little, who has anterograde amnesia. She is finally seeing improvement, but for a whole, had only 1 minute long memory.
@emailmarimar
@emailmarimar Жыл бұрын
Movies make it look so romantic. This is a fascinating and tragic case. I can't imagine living within that space. Thank you for covering this, Dr. Grande.
@zenawarrior7442
@zenawarrior7442 Жыл бұрын
Hits home. My Mum has dementia😪, still remembers me luckily, doing worse than him. HORRIBLE disease, know our love will never die💔💜. Sensitive analysis, thanks Dr G😊💛💛
@neworleans1979
@neworleans1979 Жыл бұрын
Oh bless your heart Zena. Dementia is one of those incurable diseases unfortunately. My precious momma passed away last year from Covid pneumonia however she did have dementia. It can be so frustrating at times so be as patient as you can. Dementia patients are like innocent animals(in my opinion)-their innocence is so profound and special if that makes sense. Before my beautiful momma got Covid I would bathe her-although she wasn’t all there we had the best laughs about the most ridiculous things! My momma would sing oldies(music from the 50’s which is her favorite-she was 73 years old) and knew every word!! We would dance and have so much fun even when what she said didn’t make sense we found a way to make laughter out of it! I would give my arm to be able to have those times again with her. Everyday I find myself either smiling or crying(depending on the thoughts I’m having about my wonderful momma) and that is what I cherish the most. I know one day I will see her again however for now those beautiful, special and heartfelt memories are what I have. Love your momma to the fullest and enjoy every second even when it’s tough. Sorry for the long post-you made my day in a way-while we can’t control certain things that are heartbreaking we sure can do our best and try to be kind. Love from my home to yours, Katie
@zenawarrior7442
@zenawarrior7442 Жыл бұрын
@@neworleans1979 Hello Katie. No worries about the long post. I enjoyed every word 😊💖. I am so sorry about your Mom. I am glad you had so many fun times, can recall those and not just the sadness. I agree they are like innocent animals and I'm very protective of her🐺💞I moved to AZ 2 yrs ago from CO to be near her. Time with her is precious, never get it back, never wasted. We blow bubbles every wk & like you said, the smiles, hugs, time spent is worth it. She's 85 & failing but I won't turn away. She knows I'm here, will love her no matter what. The small things mean so much. Much love also to you, from my house to yours. Thank you for sharing and wishing you peace. Yes I also believe we'll see them again someday 💌💙💛🤍🕊🦋🌷🌻🌏⭐👩‍👧
@thecassandraeffectvsperilo6754
@thecassandraeffectvsperilo6754 Жыл бұрын
It's like "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" to the extreme.....but without forgetting his love 🤔
@crowmedicine3890
@crowmedicine3890 Жыл бұрын
Or 50 First Dates.
@Stephanie-hl8jo
@Stephanie-hl8jo Жыл бұрын
This is fascinating. I want to learn more about him and his memory loss. The fact that he still has affection for his wife is the sweetest thing ever.
@robbiebutler1473
@robbiebutler1473 Жыл бұрын
Also how it’s always like the first time he’s seen her in months/years in his mind, he’s just thrilled and full of true joy in seeing her even though he just saw her a day or two ago. It’s one of the few things he has that makes him feel alive for a little while and you can see the absolute untainted pure love he has for her, it’s beautiful and precious to see. Reminds me never to take my life for granted no matter how hard it might seem sometimes because there’s always something else much worse that we could be facing.
@Stephanie-hl8jo
@Stephanie-hl8jo Жыл бұрын
@@robbiebutler1473 Thank you so much for everything you said. It's so fascinating to me that he chooses the same person over and over despite the memory loss. I think there is so much that can be learned from him. wow.
@GirlJay67
@GirlJay67 Жыл бұрын
@@robbiebutler1473 that's probably why it doesn't bother him that she left him. Must be some financial gain or notoriety/both for her.
@robbiebutler1473
@robbiebutler1473 Жыл бұрын
@@GirlJay67 Yeah I thought about that and did some research on her too. I know because of his memory her leaving for awhile didn’t bother him because it was no different in his mind if it was two days or two years but I hope and understand that at first it was a huge shock to her. Remember she was in the prime of her older age when he was diagnosed and I’m sure they had plans to travel plus so many other plans. I think she finally come to understand the complete situation facing her and I know it’s not about money because she (according to the research I’ve done comes from money herself) but I’m sure she also had to come to terms with the fact she didn’t stay at first. I completely understand her position and I can’t imagine what all she was dealing with, she probably was afraid their close friends would judge her but they were very compassionate regarding this situation (let’s face it as a very rare situation not many face “thank goodness”) but with opened arm’s they were thrilled to have her back more over just seeing how he reacted like she had just been gone for a few days made them so happy for him. Now he can live out his golden years not really remembering anything but both have the love’s of their life’s by each other’s side. P.S. Please forgive all my many (I’m sure) grammatical errors because I have MS which has many side effects ie: blurry/double vision among so many other’s but I know my comments may not be legible or even understandable, I also find I have run on sentences plus so many other problems with trying to concentrate regarding writing. NO PITY! I’m blessed to be here with my amazing tremendous husband, children, grandchildren, family and friends. The hardworking and time consuming scientific research the scientists has put into MS has been remarkable and the many different out-patient treatments plus the medications are truly a god sent, so I can’t complain I just feel bad for anyone trying to make sense out of my comments that I can’t really check over and I know good human being’s that practice critical thinking will understand and be accepting.
@Haliotro
@Haliotro Жыл бұрын
Good to see you release some more clinical-leaning content, Dr. Grande!
@nonprogrediestregredi1711
@nonprogrediestregredi1711 Жыл бұрын
I watched the segment that 60 minutes Australia did about Clive. It's heartwrenching to see how Clive and Debra still obviously love one another, yet cannot have a normal marriage, so to speak. I can't imagine how confusing it must be sometimes for Clive.
@desoconnor7445
@desoconnor7445 Жыл бұрын
I feel compassion for Clive..it seems he is a warrior..a kind man ..a man now apparently a being without aggression ..striving against all odds to survive in a harmonious manner despite the edits in his time line and above all a musician at source and a loving man. He is also a example of realizing or reflecting on what is valuable in our life ..aspects of which shine through in his existence . This presentation reminds me of the movie entitled Shine ..an inspiring real life narrative about someone, challenged , who played the piano…this story , for me was a life lesson , whether you are disabled mentally or a human being connected with someone who is impaired .🙏🙏🏿🙏🦄
@AnimalsMatterMorally
@AnimalsMatterMorally Жыл бұрын
Hearing Clive's story, all I can think is "oh, what kind of fresh hell is this?" Poor man. 😔
@BigZebraCom
@BigZebraCom Жыл бұрын
Just a reminder I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating what could be happening in a situation like this...if only I could remember what it was?
@marktyrrell8892
@marktyrrell8892 Жыл бұрын
I saw a documentary about him years ago. His wife would leave the room and every time she'd return he would be baffled as to who she was but sometimes seemed to be overjoyed to see her as though he hadn't seen her in years.
@victoriawilliams2786
@victoriawilliams2786 Жыл бұрын
I watched that too. It still breaks my heart. I don't think I'd wish that on anyone.
@alimar0604
@alimar0604 Жыл бұрын
I remember that too. So sad 😞 🇬🇧
@cronobactersakazakii5133
@cronobactersakazakii5133 Жыл бұрын
The most disturbing part is his notes where he writes endlessly "oh I am awake" then "no now I’m awake"
@3dguy839
@3dguy839 Жыл бұрын
It could be worse if his wife had constant flatulence/ fart problems Every time he was newly aware he would also be smelling a bad fart And always say Was that you ... it smells so bad
@icturner23
@icturner23 Жыл бұрын
I don’t remember him ever being baffled by seeing her, only overjoyed.
@RedGirl006
@RedGirl006 Жыл бұрын
In the documentary they mention that the wife was a great support, even when she left to the US (I think) she would call every day for the time she was there, but she could not find another partner because she was always looking for him in other men, I think in a way she was trapped in the loop too, of course not in the same devastating way, but still difficult and sad. Thanks for your analysis Dr. Grande.
@cmarie5774
@cmarie5774 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr Grande for your deeply profound, compassionate anyalysis of this terribly sad case.
@katiewallace7571
@katiewallace7571 Жыл бұрын
My mom is in the hospital, and step-dad in hospice care while she's getting patched up. I'm certain they have not been apart more than 2 days in the past 20 years. Rare stuff. I'm doing my best to ping pong visits -staying positive. I have a feeling it's easier when you know your parents genuinely like each other. A whole bunch. Children seeing the romantic love of parents extends that bond.
@gnarly9011
@gnarly9011 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@onotad
@onotad Жыл бұрын
I have never heard of this man before. A long time ago I read the book by neurologist Oliver Sacks: The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat and Other Clinical Tales, and have since often thought of his patients and their loved ones with the greatest sympathy as I now do with this man. Thank you for this video.
@White-Michael935
@White-Michael935 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like an interesting book.
@onotad
@onotad Жыл бұрын
@@White-Michael935 It really truly is. But once you read it, you won´t be able to forget it.
@icturner23
@icturner23 Жыл бұрын
Yes, it’s as extreme as any case in that book. Watch the documentary - it’s on KZfaq.
@browniehendricks3726
@browniehendricks3726 Жыл бұрын
A fascinating book
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
This story is so heartwrenching. My grandma had dementia in her twilight years.
@figplucker3052
@figplucker3052 Жыл бұрын
The movie "Memento" closely depicts this condition. although the main character retained more long-term memory. It's a movie worth viewing
@leylamoody3177
@leylamoody3177 Жыл бұрын
What an incredible case! How sad for Clive and his wife. I think it's amazing he remembers that he loves her. Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande! ❤️
@ipsygypsy16
@ipsygypsy16 Жыл бұрын
I watched one of his interviews online, some times back. That in itself, was a thought provoking experience. Thank you, Dr Grande, for your poignant observations about this bizzare illness & it's aftermath. Highly appreciated.
@randoman750
@randoman750 Жыл бұрын
Clive's story was one of my case studies back in secondary (high) school for my Psychology A-level. Super interesting to see your take, Doc. Thanks as always!
@tankthearc9875
@tankthearc9875 Жыл бұрын
i wonder if he was faking it in any way?
@judgesaturn507
@judgesaturn507 Жыл бұрын
I remember one of my teachers talking about this. She described it as 'bittersweet' which I think is extremely accurate.
@thepartysjustbegun5557
@thepartysjustbegun5557 Жыл бұрын
A mind is such a delicate and precious thing, what torture when it goes wrong like this 😭
@TimmyCherry
@TimmyCherry Жыл бұрын
I had severe brain trauma many years ago. Short-term memory issues are extremely common in cases of brain trauma, ranging from very mild to very severe. The only cognitive issue I'm conscious of at this point is mild short-term memory stuff, which fortunately for me, is easy to manage and unnoticeable to anyone else.
@rebeccagreen2310
@rebeccagreen2310 Жыл бұрын
I have also had two brain injuries. One I fell backwards and wasn't able to bend my knees, so my head hit extremely hard. I did have my hair in a bun that day, so the impact could have been worse. The other was a garage door at a storage unit fell back down on my head, knocking me the pavement. The ER took an MRI? Or something like that and showed me that almost half of my brain had bruising on it. I can remember many things from years and years ago. I have a very hard time remembering current things. I actually got lost going home in my own subdivision once. I also suffer from severe migraines almost weekly now. They have gotten worse as I get older. I am sorry about what happened to you.
@Dad_Brad
@Dad_Brad Жыл бұрын
Considering the unfortunate subject of the analysis, it was a nice touch not to end the video with a joke.
@kathyberney5093
@kathyberney5093 Жыл бұрын
What a strange sliver of tragedy Clive has been forced to accept. I’m at an age when I’m starting to make sense of my life’s arch. It provides peace because of the narrative I project upon my story informed by a life of memories. I cannot imagine floating through time with no context. His wife is generous to have returned to him. She must miss the companionship and intimacy which are the results of shared experiences.
@lindaaspromonte1514
@lindaaspromonte1514 Жыл бұрын
Insightful and poignant comment that illuminates the man’s tragedy by comparison to your normal life life like most of us experience
@lindaaspromonte1514
@lindaaspromonte1514 Жыл бұрын
By the way your normal passage through this phase of life is called integrity versus despair if one cannot order and make sense of one’s life experiences people are prone to falling to despair. My heart breaks for that man
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful comment ❤
@kathyberney5093
@kathyberney5093 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind feedback.
@kathyberney5093
@kathyberney5093 Жыл бұрын
Sadly, my older brother struggles with exactly that type of despair. His narrative is full of shame and self loathing which he does not deserve. I find your response very insightful.
@tamrashafer7373
@tamrashafer7373 Жыл бұрын
"He can even play the piano". Somehow the memory of how to play stayed with him from his earlier career as a musician. Amazing. The power of music.
@nodiggity9472
@nodiggity9472 Жыл бұрын
Because playing music is mostly muscle memory.
@kelseymathias3881
@kelseymathias3881 Жыл бұрын
Many people with Alzheimer's (another memory disturbance ailment) can still make and enjoy music. Music is processed in a different part of the brain than speech and other abilities.
@Goawaypleasenow
@Goawaypleasenow Жыл бұрын
@@kelseymathias3881 this is why classical music is so so important
@kelseymathias3881
@kelseymathias3881 Жыл бұрын
@@Goawaypleasenow Yes!
@kelseymathias3881
@kelseymathias3881 Жыл бұрын
@@nodiggity9472 Certainly is amazing to see someone play an entire Rachmaninoff concerto at the piano flawlessly for 40 minutes!
@jeanholmes7976
@jeanholmes7976 Жыл бұрын
Dr, Grande, what a thoughtful analysis. This is such a sad case. Thank goodness he has his love for his wife and music. from Jean
@BanjoGirl101
@BanjoGirl101 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for covering this. I'm studying GCSE Psychology and Clive was mentioned in one of the units. I was so fascinated by his case. Such a sad case it is too. The mind is so boggling!
@nancyberry1039
@nancyberry1039 Жыл бұрын
I watched a documentary about Clive & Debra a few years ago. One part he states he doesn't remember how to play piano & that he's never played a signal musical note in his life. Then he sits at the piano & his fingers just glide over the keys automatically. but then a second or two later & he's completely forgotten that he just played a beautiful piece of music. But watching his reaction every time Debra visits is so heartwarming & yet so tragically sad at the same time. I'm glad she changed her mind & moved back to England to renew her marriage vows but it must be very lonely at times for her. I'm sure she had other ideas of how her life with Clive would have turned out. He can't remember beyond a minute and so she has to remember for both of them. It's a very touching love story...
@MrJruta
@MrJruta Жыл бұрын
That’s GOT to be a living hell
@karenpayne1011
@karenpayne1011 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Dr. Grande for a thoughtful analysis. Heartbreaking to say the least.
@Raev222
@Raev222 Жыл бұрын
The part about him still remembering and loving his wife almost made me cry lol..
@antoniolittera2154
@antoniolittera2154 Жыл бұрын
In a documentary ages ago, I saw him playing a beautiful piece on the piano. When he came to the repeat sign he went back and played the part that was to be repeated. Again, and again, and again. A never ending loop. The love he showed for his wife each time she entered was heart warming.
@maureeningleston1501
@maureeningleston1501 Жыл бұрын
Even trying to imagine what this must be like is enough to drive you insane.
@rejaneoliveira5019
@rejaneoliveira5019 Жыл бұрын
What a touching analysis, Dr. Grande!🥺❤ This is indeed a very unusual situation. In my experience with dementia patients, where in the first stages they lose their short term memory but are able to retain long term memory for same time, I am always so amazed when I hear them singing old songs perfectly without any lapse in memory. That’s the time when we can get a glimpse of who they once were. Furthermore, even if they don’t know your name or don’t remember talking to you every single day, they usually feel the love in the interactions and approach you daily as if they somehow “know” they are safe in your company. This is an incredible sad story but you recounted and analyzed it in a such a compassionate manner. Your final thoughts when talking about his love for his wife just brought tears to my eyes.😢😭 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this fascinating case.❤
@tanyachristensen5330
@tanyachristensen5330 Жыл бұрын
"Love was the one thing that could pierce through the fog."....made this my favorite dr.Grande video 🌠❤️
@moonloversheila8238
@moonloversheila8238 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for covering this! I’ve seen a couple of documentaries about Clive. It really is a heartbreaking case. I’ve also recently read Deborah’s book about it which is fascinating and well written. I really feel for her and for the rest of Clive’s family. They’ve all experienced a great loss too. ☹️
@itamar.j.rachailovich
@itamar.j.rachailovich Жыл бұрын
Amazing, I just watched the documentary about him “7 seconds man” 1 hour ago. I can’t explain this coincidence 😮
@katiekarakondis3348
@katiekarakondis3348 Жыл бұрын
Sure it wasn't 7 seconds ago?
@icturner23
@icturner23 Жыл бұрын
It’s amazing when that happens. But you just have to think in terms of how many viewers this video has and the fact that most of them will watch documentaries like that at some stage. This video will have more views than I have had days in my life, and I’ve watched that documentary a couple of times. So most if not all days one or more viewers of this channel will watch it. So it feels notable to you that it was you today, but it is not notable that it was someone.
@AfterAFashionASMR
@AfterAFashionASMR Жыл бұрын
This was horrifying and tragic in the most frightening sense
@alexnelson7258
@alexnelson7258 Жыл бұрын
The beauty and tragedy of Wearing's existence has always fascinated me. I'd love to meet him!
@Sadin15
@Sadin15 Жыл бұрын
incredibly sad and an actual horror story. One positive was he could at least articulate and hadn't forgotten language/expression otherwise he'd just constantly be trapped in his mind without the ability to communicate what he was experiencing. Is there any record of his sleep being disturbed?
@aliteralchad7128
@aliteralchad7128 Жыл бұрын
Oh my god dude this is the most horrific story out of ANY on this channel
@LadyOfMaine
@LadyOfMaine Жыл бұрын
I agree
@papasitoman
@papasitoman Жыл бұрын
I saw a news report about this man; he had notebooks filled with notes to himself desperately trying to remember. I also saw how sweet and how angry and frustrated he got just trying hard to live. He could still play music, I believe.
@MichaelYoder1961
@MichaelYoder1961 Жыл бұрын
Sad and tragic and reminds me of the movie Memento - the man could only remember the last few minutes and had to write all the existing memories down (even on his body). Wonder if that was based on Clive
@browniehendricks3726
@browniehendricks3726 Жыл бұрын
Love this movie
@lds_drive
@lds_drive Жыл бұрын
I read somewhere that it was one of the inspirations behind it.
@Rodniikun
@Rodniikun Жыл бұрын
Dr grande bout to have me crying with that final statement
@Rodniikun
@Rodniikun Жыл бұрын
@@charlesgerety1403 what's that got to do what what Dr grande said. I still like it despite what what's happening with Clive.
@EarlSmith2469
@EarlSmith2469 Жыл бұрын
This made me cry. I am happy that he has her, it gives his life meaning. It may be a terrible state, yet he feels intense love and happiness every single time he sees his wife. At least this gift gives him some comfort from his amnesia. Thank you for the video, Dr. Grande! It is one of a kind, I have never heard of someone having both forms of amnesia.
@janbaldwin1189
@janbaldwin1189 Жыл бұрын
I watched a documentary about Clive and his wife. A most loving, touching, heartfelt, but tragic relationship. Thanks for sharing the very unique story.
@StyleChatter
@StyleChatter Жыл бұрын
This is so heartbreaking but I’m glad you ended your analysis on a positive note about his enduring love for his wife. Thank you for the video.
@susana5052
@susana5052 Жыл бұрын
Such a tragic story. I can’t imagine what it would be like to be like this poor man. It must be a nightmare. To explain his situation as “being dead”.😢 The only grace he has is remembering love, love is a remarkable emotion proved here.
@samueltucker8473
@samueltucker8473 Жыл бұрын
Such is life. We all forget things. I am glad he found workarounds. Such an informative and prolific source. I really like your calm voice and sense of humor.
@lariemunoz873
@lariemunoz873 Жыл бұрын
I watched the documentary they made about him , his wife and there life and I found it heartbreaking. His innocence I guess you'd call it towards everything was almost contagious for me. Thank you for doing this , I haven't seen anyone discuss his situation before.
@kirstena4001
@kirstena4001 Жыл бұрын
Heartbreaking and frightening! It is so interesting though, how the brain adapts, even away from explicit memory.
@Kai...999
@Kai...999 Жыл бұрын
This honestly sounds like some kind of hell.
@ericad8616
@ericad8616 Жыл бұрын
The sad thing for him is that while he doesn't remember his old life and he cant make new memories, he is aware that something is wrong. If he just kept waking up and didn't realize he couldn't remember it, then it would be hard for everyone else but not for him, but the only thing he seems to remember is that he cant remember. He says it isn't hard, but I've seen him and he often seems quite tormented. The one positive is that he somehow remembers his wife and he 's still in love with her, although he can never recall the last time they were together, so whenever she comes to see him, he responds with the joy of someone who has been reunited with a loved one they havent seen in many years.
@UFO-zi2bp
@UFO-zi2bp Жыл бұрын
Was just thinking of this man as i was waking up this morning. So strange. The thought of being in a perpetual state of waking up constantly must be a hell none of us can really know.
@georgemartin1436
@georgemartin1436 Жыл бұрын
A guy with no past, no future, and he can't ever grasp how tragic a story it is...perhaps it's better that way, in a sense...
@phil4986
@phil4986 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande , that was a beautiful explanation of the suffering of a very talented human being. I am surprised that Clive Wearing was not enrolled in an advanced brain stimulation study like the dopamine studies done on coma patients. The brain remembers in many layers. The outer layers concern the basic recognition of our daily environment and how it changes by the second. The secondary layers concern new experiences. The deeper layers concern memories of names and events and the deepest layers concern events or people who are most important to us. Those memories of our loved ones live here. Environmental stable memories live here ,in this deepest part as well , as the body needs to know the environment to get food ,shelter and allies to survive. This is why terribly brain damaged homeless people still know how to beg to get money to get food to survive. The brain is such a fragile organ. and we make folly of that with all the substances we pump and dump at it. Here is a man who simply got sick and it essentially gave him a life sentence of no life at all. Thankfully , the power of love still exists in Clive's life to comfort him in this living death. Please be careful and take care of your brain. It can be messed up in an instant ........forever.
@kelseymathias3881
@kelseymathias3881 Жыл бұрын
well said.
@ChopBassMan
@ChopBassMan Жыл бұрын
I have short term memory problems because of a severe back injury. It's been explained to me that my short term memory sometimes 'short circuits' itself so that I'm not constantly aware of the moderate to severe pain I'm in all the time. It's frustrating but I can't imagine how it was for Clive
@debbieellett9093
@debbieellett9093 Жыл бұрын
What a heart breaking case analysis. Thank Dr. Grande, I always enjoy your videos. As my late mother used to say: "When you think you have it bad...look around you. There are always those worse off than you".
@sandilou2U
@sandilou2U Жыл бұрын
Clive's condition is heartbreaking. I cannot imagine how challenging every moment must be. I suffered a brain injury in 2014 which affects my memory. I cannot say that I've fully accepted it. I still break down when I realize that I have forgotten something important but in general I feel it is what it is. I often joke about forgetting things such as, I can't remember if I am getting dressed or undressed, but that is real for him. I suspect he inspired the movie "The First 50 Dates". The theme is much deeper than I imagined. His wife must be a saint. She has to live from moment to moment as well but remembering them all. I am sure even his love for her is both a blessing and a curse. I think everybody wants to be loved that deeply but when he becomes overwhelmed with seeing her as though a long period of time had passed but she cannot reach that same level of excitement he does. Thank you for telling us about him. His challenges make me grateful for mine.
@kelseymathias3881
@kelseymathias3881 Жыл бұрын
Best wishes to you!
@pennsydude9723
@pennsydude9723 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande this was deep. Your analysis of this topic is very profound. This case shows us how powerful the brain 🧠 is and how complex it is as well. Scary yet extremely fascinating. 🤔🤯
@victoriawilliams2786
@victoriawilliams2786 Жыл бұрын
Thank goodness he still has Deborah. 💝🤗
@damianlopez7630
@damianlopez7630 Жыл бұрын
There is a Movie with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. I forgot the Name of it. I think it's "50 First Dates" or something like that. She has a similar condition in the movie.
@Kimberly63
@Kimberly63 Жыл бұрын
Hi Dr. Grande...good to know that love stays with us. It’s the one thing we can hope to take with us in the end.
@oregonsnob31
@oregonsnob31 Жыл бұрын
What a fantastic point. Thank you for sharing that loving detail.
@TheFakeyCakeMaker
@TheFakeyCakeMaker Жыл бұрын
This is a real-life eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. ❤
@jon0830
@jon0830 Жыл бұрын
the one thing that could pierce through the fog... 💔
@lindseyhudson1274
@lindseyhudson1274 Жыл бұрын
Oh god how heartbreaking. It’s amazing how he can have some sense of different things like his wife, his neighborhood and basic life skills. I think this might be most people’s worst nightmare.
@TMNg0438
@TMNg0438 Жыл бұрын
just curious, I can understand how his wife divorced him, but how did she re-marry him? Since he's in such a state of memory (or rather, lack there of) how'd he consent to re-marry? Or did they separate but not technically divorce? I watched the documentary and it's heart breaking. I work in the ER and often see dementia patients and it's always so sad how such a disease takes its toll on them, the facilities, and their families.
@jordantomblin2302
@jordantomblin2302 Жыл бұрын
It’s such a sad case with him, because you know that he is an incredibly smart man but his memory simply doesn’t work anymore. It’s unbearable to even imagine.
@ZYX84
@ZYX84 Жыл бұрын
The word you used is very powerful… Unbearable. 🪁 I can’t think of such things just now. Just to be able to pick and choose our thoughts is a wonderful thing… And knowing that it is a chemical response between the gland in my brain into my blood that’s making me think or feel a certain way and itself is amazing. I would love to think there would be a way to plug him back in somehow.😐. I’m very optimistic for all and everything… I’ve always figured, why not be this way, what else have I to do?🪁
@commonsense2680
@commonsense2680 Жыл бұрын
So sad. But, as I have recently recognized in life how important relationships with others are the most important thing in the world. I am so glad to hear Clive's love for his wife and her love for him lived on to the extent it did. He is a success with such love!
@miss_bougie6653
@miss_bougie6653 Жыл бұрын
This is so incredibly sad, the human brain is truly a wonder
@rebecks7727
@rebecks7727 Жыл бұрын
"'forever being trapped in the present. A man with no history no context no identity no anchors no foundation..."seems like I spend a lot of time meditating to get to that state but now I'm actually thankful to get lost in it all I guess once in awhile LOL Thanks for the interesting content.
@higgaroc
@higgaroc Жыл бұрын
I have heard of this man before, but you articulated and explained his case in a new way. I am really struck by how his love for his wife “pierced through” his utterly unchangeable condition. Why did this happen Dr. G? How can romantic feelings alone defy such profound damage? I feel mystified but this!
@cottontails9003
@cottontails9003 Жыл бұрын
What a sad situation. I looked after a woman who had this . We called it "locked in syndrome ". After her husband told her he was leaving her, she had a seizure , after this her body stopped functionality, she required life support and a trackesotmy, the part of her that worked was her eyes. Thank you Dr Grande .Brilliant analysis and informative topic.*trachestomy
@debrabunger9302
@debrabunger9302 Жыл бұрын
This is a very different illness.
@cottontails9003
@cottontails9003 Жыл бұрын
It is but the outcome is slightly similar.
@moonstruck562
@moonstruck562 Жыл бұрын
Aww that’s so sad. 😢
@chinchillamdgamer
@chinchillamdgamer Жыл бұрын
Locked in syndrome is a result of demyelination of the pons ... It has nothing to do with the hippocampus or with seizures. It's a paralysis.
@Koozomec
@Koozomec Жыл бұрын
As a musician his process memory would have been already well trained. I would have not judge his wife to look for someone else. She chose to stay. ❤❤
@rmr1300
@rmr1300 Жыл бұрын
Alot of this is a good description of narcissism.
@mytruecrimelibrary
@mytruecrimelibrary Жыл бұрын
I remember watching a documentary about him it was heartbreaking 💔
@ButterBallTheOpossum
@ButterBallTheOpossum Жыл бұрын
Please do a video on the 8th grade murderer Michael Hernandez. I just watched his interrogation and it was absolutely chilling
@musicmann1967
@musicmann1967 Жыл бұрын
I saw a doc on Clive and his condition. When I first read the subject matter, I was thinking "Wow, this is interesting. I can't wait to see this". But when I watched it I found it very sad and disturbing. Watching Clive is scary. There's a person there, but he's totally lost and it scared the crap out of me. I feel terrible bad for everyone involved.
@foureveralone
@foureveralone Жыл бұрын
Such a tragic story
@debbiemilam2204
@debbiemilam2204 Жыл бұрын
Excellent Dr Grande. Thank you
@MusgraveRitual
@MusgraveRitual Жыл бұрын
Brain is so fascinating. I wonder if he thinks that every visitor is someone from Buckingham Palace because he used to work for them if he was in charge for the music at the wedding? Maybe on some level this is still recorded in the brain. I also wonder if hallucinogens of some type would help ease/alleviate the feeling of being dead, or at least let him experience something else aside of 30 second memory.
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