Former Secret Service agent shares tips on how to read people

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Evy Poumpouras is a former Secret Service agent who protected presidents and worked as an interrogator. She joins TODAY to talk about her process for reading different types of people by paying attention to body language and various verbal cues.
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@Julia-bv7px Ай бұрын

“I’m gonna go home and judge my family” hahahaha she’s the realest

@Qurann21 Ай бұрын

She wasnt lying

@SGTSLACKASS Ай бұрын

She protected people lol.

@joealen7483 Ай бұрын

And?

@stevethea5250 Ай бұрын

TIMESTAMP

@babandeeprathore Ай бұрын

I used to listen to this type of thing all the time, I now realize these are the signs of someone who is hyperaware and is focused on others a lot to see if they're judging them, lying etc. it's a lot of work that i no longer do. Instead i focus on my energy. Thanks for the video. Wouldn't have realized I've actually grown from that past Baban if I didn't click on this video

@mikeprice8307 Ай бұрын

Sho right! I aint got time for this. Wayy to many other important things to tend to. Im not an investigator nor a detective 😂

@AsuraVeri Ай бұрын

Great job! Looks like you've evolved over the years into baban"deeper"rathore

@1yungez Ай бұрын

yuppp

@AlexRichie Ай бұрын

Exactly, agreed.

@MovedByBeauty Ай бұрын

Insightful. ❤

@ceebee4750 Ай бұрын

Stress and discomfort isn't always deception. It can also be conflicted feelings like: anxiety to being pressured, guilt over "tattling", fear of not being believed, anxiety in high pressure situations improperly created by interrogator.

@sweetielady7710 Ай бұрын

Yeah. I feel like in interrogation situations, it's a lose-lose. If someone is nervous, then it's like, "well what do they have to be nervous about if they're not hiding anything? They're clearly guilty." But if they are completely cool and calm, then it becomes, "Oh this person is obviously a psychopath because they have no emotions. Look at how calm and collected they are despite the situation that they're in! Something isn't right about that!"

@AJ-kb9hf Ай бұрын

Baseline!!!

@EmpressAshe Ай бұрын

Yup

@angelwings7930 Ай бұрын

Or the person had ptsd, anxiety, overload, they can’t concentrate etc

@jyn88 Ай бұрын

She explained that

@QueenZsWorld Ай бұрын

Its easier to tell if someone is telling the truth. especially if you know their baseline. THIS. what a great reminder to listen and actually get to know your loved ones before assuming the worst

@jvanek8512 Ай бұрын

You can never know what someone is truly thinking or feeling. If the Secret Service is so great at mind reading then why have they missed threats before.

@b-dub6865 Ай бұрын

@@jvanek8512 This is in regards to interpersonal communication & her experience interrogating people - not spy ops, secret intelligence, social media, & everything else the government does to investigate domestic & terroristic threats.

@emanualcarr7408 Ай бұрын

Cute for the internet, so was Donald Trump lying? Was O.J.lying? Use it when it counts for something. She does not need to convince the public. Convince the courts during criminal cases. Lawyer caping

@MovedByBeauty Ай бұрын

Right. It all comes down to listening well. ❤

@lisapagliari9232 3 күн бұрын

Yeah, and unless I missed it, she didn't really explain how to get an accurate baseline if the person is lying to you from the get go.

@allimimi Ай бұрын

Random: The anchors are sitting too close together.

@martinr8278 Ай бұрын

Agreed! I thought they were suppose to be further apart Good observation

@LisaGallegos Ай бұрын

100% they look like they’re on an economy row on a flight lol

@tomtom8786 Ай бұрын

Why does it bother u so much how close they sit next to each other? I haven't even noticed

@martinr8278 Ай бұрын

@@tomtom8786 if you’re commenting then you did or perhaps you should pay attention. Tsk tsk……can’t be hypocrites on msm, what happened to sitting apart, 6 feet. My goodness they do look foolish

@MamacitaNatural Ай бұрын

It has irked me ever since pandemic that they have the anchors sitting that close just to film a show. They should just sit on each other’s lap at this point …

@ATChick Ай бұрын

Very interesting but some of us with ADHD fidget no matter what😂

@sollunaystars Ай бұрын

Exactly. Which is why this advice is not that helpful

@LiuGondor Ай бұрын

That's why she said she has to know your baseline first.

@rosemaryoneale6694 Ай бұрын

❤😂😂😂

@BIIIKES Ай бұрын

That's where baseline questioning comes in.

@GameTime-yj6qv Ай бұрын

@@LiuGondorthis right here. If a person always figets, then figetting isn't a sign they are lying

@trevornever27 Ай бұрын

She’s so smart it took 3 Today geniuses to interview her

@marcocifarelli8075 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@silverkitty2503 Ай бұрын

Her make up is gorgeous

@greavsiethespur 16 күн бұрын

She is a very attractive lady. 😍

@LisaGallegos Ай бұрын

What if you just get anxious making eye contact with any conversation 😅 social anxiety

@BIIIKES Ай бұрын

That's where the baseline questioning applies.

@nahfamnope Ай бұрын

I once had a professor who told thee most vivid stories. Specifics, timelines, names, places… the whole nine. My gut told me he was lying, but I thought “I don’t know this man’s life, why should I suspect he’s lying to us?” … until one day he invited a guest speaker. That day, he shared another compelling tale (about her, ironically). She chuckled and said “He is lying, y’all. That did NOT happen. 😂 I would never even allow that to happen to me”….. I was like, I KNEW IT. You could feel suspicion permeate the room. Moral of the story: somebody’s “baseline” may be to lie. Trust your gut instead.

@enjoy7024 Ай бұрын

Beautiful segment! One of the main things I liked about it was that it was comprehensive and that they gave her time to explain the points.

@LindaC616 Ай бұрын

They usually interrupt people. But they weren't going to interrupt this one!

@sweetielady7710 Ай бұрын

Lol it's probably because she started off with the whole little warning about how people should talk less and listen more 😅 which was perfect. They were just immediately like 🤐🤐🤐

@andhewonders Ай бұрын

@@LindaC616That's because she is literally them, she is explaining what a reporter does.

@LindaC616 Ай бұрын

@andhewonders "literally". Found the millennial ☝️

@andhewonders Ай бұрын

@@LindaC616 In the sense of I've been a fan of David Bowie since 1975 you are correct.

@Tehui1974 Ай бұрын

I used to play poker a lot. The best players are aware of these indicators during key hands, as well as other more 'poker related indicators' that something is amiss.

@pasqualeparente9776 Ай бұрын

The fact that she asks them to expand there answer is what I do. When renting apartments my wife and I ask some open ended questions and wait for them to answer, and I always tell myself and my wife, we have 2 ears and 1 mouth we have to listen 2 times as much as we speak. Because the more time you give them, the more info you get on their personality.

@ConnorReynolds784 Ай бұрын

Not only that but the more information they provide, the easier it is to catch them in a lie. Details are the death of any lie.

@AsuraVeri Ай бұрын

Exactly, I also say the same thing, but also add, we have 2 eyes so we have to stare more and two hands which you need to rub on them while they talk to get a better feel.

@MrDXRamirez Ай бұрын

The Secret Service would make great premarital counselors they would discover your mate is liar before you do too late!

@jessicaatkins3173 Ай бұрын

Omggg I just thought the same thing 😂

@alvallac2171 Ай бұрын

*counselors. They (to fix your run-on sentence)

@jessicaatkins3173 Ай бұрын

@@alvallac2171 I'm sure ppl could've figured it out without your help.

@sharondisney1637 Ай бұрын

I totally agree with this....they know everything...and they will keep our secrets to keep us safe! It's usually up to the other mate to read between the lines and figure out what's going on...

@Rapha_YadaFarms Ай бұрын

Show me someone that doesn’t lie. Also this is all worldly wisdom

@trekuhl3966 Ай бұрын

Part of my job is business generation and I am better able to connect with, understand potential clients and steer that conversation by using what she’s talking about. Getting the person to talk, I call it active listening. The person I conversing with will provide words and phrases that stand out, avenues to take the conversation. It works everytime.

@alvallac2171 Ай бұрын

*every time

@KohalaLover Ай бұрын

People either have intuition or perception or they don’t. Studying a person may work fine if you are hiring someone but it’s basically common sense, which so many people don’t have.

@JJ-kf4kc Ай бұрын

Perhaps. But a lot of this is taught as well.

@ConnorReynolds784 Ай бұрын

Everyone has the ability of intuition or perception. Some people either have a naturally higher level or they are more naturally inclined to rely on it. Learning and practicing how to effectively read people is simply the whetstone that sharpens the sword.

@riyadougla539 Ай бұрын

That's what it comes down to at the end

@MovedByBeauty Ай бұрын

Well, actually the ability to really listen to the person. That is most important.

@missgui4400 Ай бұрын

Some people just have a discerning spirit.

@user-rc8wl8dq9g 3 күн бұрын

yes facts

@moonandether4441 Ай бұрын

The hosts are so fun…love their laughter 😄

@hummingbird11 Ай бұрын

Very interesting! Years ago, I worked as a main caregiver in a daycare. We were told that we were never allowed to cross our arms. The reasoning was because it made a person appear closed off, upset, rude, or incommunitive. Honestly, it was none of the above for us. It was/is simply comfortable.

@LorindaSmith-vy9xh Ай бұрын

Right, I actual cross my arms becuase it hides my chest and belly and it is comfortable. I also break eye contact constantly do to I am visualizing my story, doesn't mean I am lying LOL

@hagakuru Ай бұрын

Crossing your arms is acknowledged as a self-comforting/soothing posture - it has been misrepresented as standoffish.

@Jonathan2x6 Ай бұрын

I was in a meeting with my arms folded and the manager happily shouts out that was being closed. Nothing could have been further from the truth. Unfortunately labels get put on people by so called “experts”. Great comedy material and someone should make a spoof of this whole body language nonsense.

@jvanek8512 Ай бұрын

I view it as standoffish.

@jvanek8512 Ай бұрын

@@Jonathan2x6 everyone has their own experiences so when I see someone arms closed like that I perceive it as standoffish based on past experience even if it's not correct for that current situation. You're right body language experts are frauds.

@blairjr2570 Ай бұрын

Evy is amazing!

@AprilHolder-sd3qg Ай бұрын

This has happened to me 2 times now my experience if someone is not telling you the truth sometimes they will look down at the floor and will not be able to look you in your eyes. It is sad when someone you love cannot just be up front and honest with you.

@alvallac2171 Ай бұрын

*now. My (to fix your run-on sentence) *experience: if *truth, sometimes *upfront

@lisapochecalhoun Ай бұрын

However, you need to know their baseline before coming to that conclusion. People with ADD often get distracted when looking at the person. It's easier to look off into space and only glance at the person they're conversing with. If the speaker's ADD is under control, this won't be nearly as pronounced as in someone who is struggling with it at the time.

@chrisvielle6629 Ай бұрын

I learned profiling in military. Every person should learn the basics.

@NM-mc4rj Ай бұрын

@@EricaLozano-yp1phMaybe they just pretended to believe you!

@JJ-kf4kc Ай бұрын

@NM-mc4 HA!!!!! Good one! 😂😂😂😂

@NM-mc4rj Ай бұрын

@@JJ-kf4kc I can see right through people. Often I just go along with whatever someone's saying while I make a mental note about them. You have more power over the situation when they don't realize you're on to them.

@ConnorReynolds784 Ай бұрын

@@NM-mc4rjcorrect! That’s one of the key principles of the Columbo technique, named after everyone’s favorite detective. When you appear naive and unthreatening, people put their guards down. They think they’re in control while you’re actually in the driver seat.

@sharondisney1637 Ай бұрын

"Just one more thing"...as Columbo would say...

@jannamartens9806 Ай бұрын

I’m the biggest evy fan she saved my life with my toxic neighbours buy her book you will never regret the knowledge you get from this book it made me wiser . I’m so thankful to her .

@Sunbeamshines Ай бұрын

What happened with your neighbor?

@JJ-kf4kc Ай бұрын

Do tell. What happened with you and your neighbors that she saved you?

@jannamartens9806 Ай бұрын

@@JJ-kf4kc always watch your surroundings the people around you always know who’s around you especially when it involves security guards bullying you just because they have a friend who s a security guard never abuse authority position s . Evy was a security enforcement officer for a reason and her knowledge has helped me so did smile and wave . I use this often

@alvallac2171 Ай бұрын

*Evy *fan. She (to fix your run-on sentence) *neighbours. Buy (another run-on) *book. You (another run-on) *book. It (another run-on) *wiser. I'm *her.

@qmnnvrdyz8965 Ай бұрын

@@alvallac2171I'm thinking that English isn't this person's first language.

@tbonerossigiggles6076 Ай бұрын

You will be amazed how smart people are, and can pick up on secrets unsaid

@kennedymeow Ай бұрын

I love Evy. Her book is amazing. I’ve learned so much from her.

@jvanek8512 Ай бұрын

DEI hire. A serious federal agent tasked to protect a president wouldn't dress that way.

@Stangy04 Ай бұрын

You are a liar. You switched up your verb tenses😮.

@AlbinSon-yq7sp 11 күн бұрын

Communication styles vary greatly among individuals. While some of the points she makes hold true to some extent for certain people, it’s essential to recognize that this isn’t universally applicable. Our interactions involve people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and languages. Moreover, it’s a reality that some individuals possess a remarkable talent for fabricating stories in a manner that conceals their deception. Detecting their falsehoods can be quite challenging

@jbrown2908 3 күн бұрын

Yes true, however, over time their REAL personality will come out. There's always a "tell."

@justmy2abelincolns272 Ай бұрын

Stunning woman! Very interesting btw.

@JuliaShalomJordan Ай бұрын

This woman is so brilliant. Her book is one I can listen to on loop.❤

@Nicole-zv7ee Ай бұрын

Agreed! I've listened to the audiobook version of it, 2x.....and I'm planning on listening to it again! I was able to find it at the public library.

@HurricanePatrick Ай бұрын

Yay Evy's back!!

@leezlvontrapp Ай бұрын

She’s so amazing! “She really is.” 🤣

@PinkyFingerPedalStrike Ай бұрын

This was actually really good,. Well worth the listen.

@TigerCraneLove Ай бұрын

I highly recommend reading Malcolm Gladwell’s “Talking to Strangers”. This book provides excellent insights body language interpretation misconceptions and myths.

@katherinesande8825 Ай бұрын

She is right.We need to listen more..We have two ears and one mouth for a reason😀

@sofiyasujad7099 Ай бұрын

I learned a lot of these from watching Judge Judy...

@eewilson9835 Ай бұрын

Do you think they could fit in more announcers and scooch em in on the sides, scooch right up tight, explain to me how that looks interestin?

@JacobAndJamal Ай бұрын

Beeping at :45 and :49 had me thinking something was going off in my house 🤨

@s.s.0 Ай бұрын

Same lol

@jacyraynebow3173 Ай бұрын

I love EVY❤

@annabanzon313 Ай бұрын

I need this!

@ivyvino9463 Ай бұрын

Definitely downloading this👏👏

@HeidiRobinson-ft7vl 20 күн бұрын

Thank you for this video.🎉

@gailjohnson6670 27 күн бұрын

Interesting. Thank you. Blessings to you.

@ayyyejesterdazed 19 күн бұрын

Her book helped me after a breakup with a narcissistic con artist

@jbrown2908 3 күн бұрын

OMG yes, they are the worst!!!

@mariecarey3514 16 күн бұрын

She's brilliant ❤

@69CamaroSS Ай бұрын

What a fantastically stunning woman!!

@Nwambui 6 күн бұрын

May the extraordinary happen in my life. I trust you God Almighty. Amen

@MyHanck Ай бұрын

Thanks for this

@MovedByBeauty Ай бұрын

She listens well. That is the key.

@mikesouthern7666 Ай бұрын

I read this book! SUPER interesting!!!! Read it!

@sharondisney1637 Ай бұрын

I can't wait to read your book!

@lstockton8468 Ай бұрын

Good educators do this well too! We're magical...

@bleepbloop9123 Ай бұрын

Wow so cool

@Sunbeamshines Ай бұрын

There so much factor involved. I know someone who’s insecure and have anxiety but not bc they’re lying: so it’s not always black and white

@jklfds85 Ай бұрын

Very true! I'm socially awkward and have social anxiety and show some nervous symptoms when talking to people. Not always, but I notice it sometimes.

@alvallac2171 Ай бұрын

*There are so many factors *has anxiety, but (because "someone" is singular) *because *lying. So (to fix incorrect use of a colon) *white.

@kmars3239 Ай бұрын

People also fidget when they are not interested in the conversation

@katiel1979 Ай бұрын

What is the obnoxious beeping in the background

@christianjane8401 Ай бұрын

I think they were taking pics lol, it was distracting I agree

@jessicaatkins3173 Ай бұрын

Omg, literally ran through my house thinking my smoke/carbon detector was going off.

@6YJI9 Ай бұрын

@@jessicaatkins3173 Same here!! Couldn't even finish the rest of the video :/

@BlaccTony69 Ай бұрын

Sometimes I can tell when people are lying if they can’t provide me enough details or when you try & ask probing questions to get more detailed information they either say something that doesn’t make sense or they get flustered and ask me “Why are you asking me so many questions?” When you’re making up a quick lie, your story sometimes gets lost because you’re trying to hard to make it make sense.

@kelsilulu Ай бұрын

I say that all the time because most of the time I don’t like providing details because I don’t know if I trust who I’m giving the info to

@alvallac2171 Ай бұрын

*too hard

@ConnorReynolds784 Ай бұрын

Details are the death of any lie! If a person cannot provide you enough details, odds are they are making something up and because it’s hard to keep track of a bunch of made up details, the story will be vague. Or they’ll give you enough details that they can’t keep track of it all and it makes it all the easier to catch them in a lie. So getting details will always be the best weapon against a liar.

@unnamedexodus3902 Ай бұрын

But some people can ask that if they feel like you're being intrusive or it's none of your business. Doesn't mean that person is necessarily lying.

@riyadougla539 Ай бұрын

@@kelsiluluSame here

@andrewlong9892 Ай бұрын

Intuition leads to key triggers which opens doors insight is very important

@sollunaystars Ай бұрын

People who are neurodivergent fidget better known as 'stimming' and routinely break eye contact or don't make eye contact. ND people are a significant portion of the population, so make sure yoou are not judging someone with blanket ideals.

@riyadougla539 Ай бұрын

In many cultures it is offensive to make eye contact

@Luna-sz9uq Ай бұрын

I love Evy 😊

@according2cathy309 Ай бұрын

Same

@justayoutuber1906 Ай бұрын

Also if someone says "tremendous"

@peterwilson8039 Ай бұрын

Bad liars tell transparent falsehoods and then bully you into believing them. That’s easy to spot. A skilled liar tells you something that you’re already inclined to believe, tells you the truth knowing, and intending, that you won’t believe them, or tells you what you want to hear while telling somebody else something completely different. It’s not easy to detect a good liar. Some liars are compulsive liars. They lie all the time, even when it serves no purpose, almost as if they don’t want you to take them seriously. It’s a good way to hide the truth from you.

@3meleon Ай бұрын

just real quick: i think you mean pathological liars. compulsive liars have reasons why they lie. but pathological liars will lie about everything, even inconsequential things, for simply no reason. they lie just to lie

@peterwilson8039 Ай бұрын

@@3meleon I think that there's a compulsive component to it. I also think too, that if they establish themselves as untrustworthy, nobody will expect them to tell the truth, and that relieves them of some responsibility.

@mnmaddict37532 Ай бұрын

Reading people can't be taught in my opinion. If you know, you know.

@KohalaLover Ай бұрын

Exactly.

@GameTime-yj6qv Ай бұрын

You can give general indicators of lying like this lady gave, but it's certainly a skill that not everyone has because there are plenty of exceptions. Like she said, they have to establish a baseline so you know them well enough. What is a sign of lying for one person isn't for another.

@salvadorbravo4187 Ай бұрын

I don't know how to read lies, but she has stolen my hear! Just look at those eyes!!! ❤

@JJ-kf4kc Ай бұрын

Bruh, get a life. That wasn't the point of this...... SMH

@yalrdyknow Ай бұрын

Bruh, get a life. That wasnt the point of this...... SMH

@DougHanson2769 17 күн бұрын

Very Cool. Tells and verbal cues etc. Just be honest and nice.

@jbrown2908 3 күн бұрын

Yes, if you're always honest, you won't have trouble remembering your lies.

@LearningSpanishwithDrL 2 күн бұрын

Great video!

@theperfectionist Ай бұрын

Excellent tips.

@suesez2 Ай бұрын

Love her!

@stevethompson8504 Ай бұрын

Wow ,and she's gorgeous .communication skills must be amazing to .

@EJofLA Ай бұрын

That was cool and so was she. As well as beautiful...

@user-vx8ku2ks7h Ай бұрын

When someone is lying the blink constantly. You know who blinks like crazy when they talk.....that pastor guy Joel Olsteen.....have never seen anybody blink like thatcguy does when he speaks.

@zsuzsuspetals Ай бұрын

I was about to mention this. It means someone is nervous, but not necessarily lying. I recorded myself making a particular meal. I never make videos of myself. When I went back and watched it, I was blinking like crazy! I didn't realize as I was recording how much I blinked. I wasn't lying about the food, lol. I was just nervous being on video.

@noblesavage1367 Ай бұрын

Omg 😂😂😂

@yudeen979 Ай бұрын

😂😂wasnt lying about the food😂😂😂@zsuzsuspetals

@jklfds85 Ай бұрын

Could also be dry eyes.

@Terry-lh8cn Ай бұрын

Then there's Russell Brand, who NEVER blinks. It's really off-putting. He's like a staring owl.

@ishmaelhewitt2395 Ай бұрын

I love this.

@jbrown2908 3 күн бұрын

Another important point is to pay total attention to the signs your body is giving you, i.e., a queasy feeling in your stomach, getting the "heebie-jeebies," feeling disoriented, etc.

@skymore2948 Ай бұрын

I love TED language 😂❤ awesome

@ScaleScarborough-jq8zx Ай бұрын

Can she teach us to read ourselves - i.e., not go into situations assuming it’s everyone else that’s a threat. And empathy and active listening is not reading people. This is clap-trap, man.

@SatyaKaliYam Ай бұрын

Meditation will help you bring this awareness if you’re ready for the dedication to practice daily. Observation of your own emotions will help you identify other people’s. If you take energy healing workshops, it’ll help you to identify the red flags too. There are books to read that will help, but mostly it’s awareness and observation of patterns.

@bookwormchats Ай бұрын

Interest take on this. It will be force self-awareness and you know for sure to be careful, I mean you'll be saying it differently I'm sure but I love that you point this out.

@JJ-kf4kc Ай бұрын

Love her, been watching her for years and listening to her podcasts. She is definitely a kickass chic. Go watch the podcast with her and ""women of impact'." With Tom Bailyu's wife.... Thank me later.

@wednesdayweld564 Ай бұрын

TED - What a great acronym!

@JunkionMarnot2005 12 күн бұрын

She's gorgeous ❤️

@thegirlnextdoor1649 13 күн бұрын

She’s stunning 😍

@swathih1 Ай бұрын

It’s important to note that they are NOT psychologists or psychiatrists. Just a bunch of tips and ‘things to look out for’ rule book passed down to them. Plus, it makes for a great video.

@mydogsmom9206 Ай бұрын

Fascinating and I can't wait to get the book!

@DallasSniper Ай бұрын

There would be more viewers if they had her permanently on the show. That's no lie.

@4p853 Ай бұрын

I get nervous a lot that don’t mean I’m lying I just have social anxiety

@MarcosIsABaritone Ай бұрын

Some solid advice, especially regarding the verbal cues. However, it has been proven that evaluating truth from lies using physical affectations and tics is often not reliable and easily misread. Though the physical cues are exhibited by many people who are lying or being evasive, there are many people who display them as a matter of mood or having a naturally expressive or idiosyncratic personality. But, more significantly, is the phenomenon where innocent interviewees, with no reason to feel guilt or fear incrimination, just by virtue of being in a interrogative situation, become anxious, nervous and stressed. Those who have under or maladapted socio-communication skills especially exhibit this reaction. They see the dynamic as a confrontation or test. So, they often showcase many of the cues that can be perceived as evasive or lying but really it is their way of coping.

@pasqualeparente9776 Ай бұрын

this is why she said you have to know the base line first. This is the most important fact.

@ConnorReynolds784 Ай бұрын

That’s why it’s so important to first understand a person’s behavioral baseline. It helps you better understand the unique characteristics of the person you’re talking to. Not only that, a lot of experts are training people not to focus on deceptive vs nondeceptive. But on comfort vs discomfort. Because that’s all what body language and even a polygraph can really tell you. So if someone is displaying a cluster of discomfort indicators that followed a specific stimuli such as a specific question, that doesn’t always mean a person is being deceptive, it simply means the questioner needs to verify that specific area of concern a little more to determine what caused the stress signals to appear.

@KS-ne5mq 11 күн бұрын

I mean, I guess it makes sense if it makes sense at the time of each conversation, but I look down when I’m trying to think to limit distractions around me.

@opencarry3860 3 сағат бұрын

Stress and discomfort for me comes from living in pain every day. It has nothing to do with deception.

@c0uchsl0uch Ай бұрын

She would surely know what I was thinking if we were face to face

@Allenmarshall Ай бұрын

Her giving these kinds of tips is her equivelant of Steven Seagal teaching real officers hand-to-hand combat lessons down at the police station

@Emptyhousemusic_ Ай бұрын

Beautiful lady 😊

@deez6005 Ай бұрын

She’s pretty 😍

@doro626 Ай бұрын

I want to see her do a breakdown on the movie The Negotiator.

@ThekingOfAllSimps Ай бұрын

eyes don't always mean something i have adhd and i zone out a lot even when people are talking to me

@andreww3621 Ай бұрын

you all seem to forget her mentioning several times about knowing someone's baseline🙃

@alohalaniboido8083 Ай бұрын

In some cultures it is rude to look a person in the eyes. It might also be considered aggressive.

@andreww3621 Ай бұрын

ok, well this is obviously about a different culture...

@user-mg6dg4cj2q Ай бұрын

Awesome info… what makeup is she wearing it’s gorgeous on her

@happeningkorea Ай бұрын

Nice video 😀👍🏻👍🏻

@NewYorkMetalDetecting 5 күн бұрын

If I was President, she would definitely be on President Special Detail.

@amaradavid001 22 күн бұрын

Love you all. Am one of them

@warrengauthier4699 Ай бұрын

"Tune up Tuesday" I would gladly tune up Dylan anytime:)

@kardrey100 Ай бұрын

I’d like to know what they do if they catch someone lying. Do they call them out right away or just let them keep lying? I have caught ppl in lies before and it’s golden info as far as how I communicate with them going forward. But I don’t usually call them out.