FREE help for a HOARDER to PREVENT EVICTION

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FREE help for a HOARDER to PREVENT EVICTION

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5 ай бұрын

This is part 2 of Julie's home. We will be sorting through piles in the living room and dining room and categorizing them. Some of the collections of particular items are fascinating!
Julie has had a lot of trauma in the past few years which has triggered some hoarding. She grew up in a hoarded home, but actually kept a clean and tidy home for the most part up until a few years ago when she had multiple traumatic events occur. Hoarding was one of the ways she dealt with the trauma.
We will talk about mental illness and hoarding disorder and what kinds of factors make you predisposed to hoarding.
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@yourmother0000 5 ай бұрын

THANK YOU for not using filler music! Definitely prefer just the sped up sounds or voiceover.

@MSHoneybee210 5 ай бұрын

It’s a good mentality to have when getting out of this situation is that all this stuff means a chance to get to be abundantly generous. There are situations where essentials are REALLY needed. I help out with a group that twice a month has people lined up just to get a t-shirt and pants along with other items like shoes or coats, socks, etc and all these things come from donations. If someone can look at it as a privilege to get to be such blessing to people it makes it to have been worth it

@cat-mum-Jules 5 ай бұрын

That is a really good way of thinking 😀

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yes, I totally agree this is the best way to get rid of things.🤗 This is how my friend, Tisha, has been able to get rid of so much stuff is by giving it to people who need it because I usually run across people who need the stuff that she is getting rid of and, if there isn't a specific person to give it to, just donating it to the thrift store is even a good feeling because you know people are getting nice things at a reduced cost. I totally understand she wants to sell as much as she can to try to recoup some of the money she spent, but I hope that she is able to donate the things that don't sell so that she is not bringing those items back into her home and can bless the lives of other people. I think that might be the key to helping her let go of some of this is pointing out that she is providing a service to others because she really does like helping other people and maybe she hasn't really thought about the fact that she can just give this stuff away as a charitable thing to do. Love it!❤️❤️

@hummerfan9360 5 ай бұрын

You and your Mom and the other girl are really something. You all deserve a medal. Wow.

@krisvanallen 4 ай бұрын

This is how I remember: “stationEry” means “lEtters.” “StationAry” means it “stAys still.”

@ashcraft555 5 ай бұрын

Middle age problems: Having trouble getting rid of empty boxes because they're like, really good boxes. I'm working on cleaning out my house in preparation for putting it on the market and I discovered I had "good boxes" squirreled away in every corner of the house. It took three full Suburban loads to take them to the recycling center, even with them all flattened. (And that was only the less good of the good boxes because I kept a decent amount for the move.)

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

That's hilarious! It's funny to find memes that talk about a good box. My friend and I will exchange pictures sometimes when we find a good box and drool over each other's boxes. 😂😂

@angelacacace3705 22 күн бұрын

Watching everything get hyper cleaned is kind of fun 😊

@sarahperry7995 2 ай бұрын

I am a minimalist and this video is giving me anxiety. I would have gotten rid of everything single thing. Great job having patience and compassion. I simply could not do this. Oh that fridge! 😮 Great job cleaning it out! Every time I watch one of your videos I go on a cleaning rampage!!!

@hushhush85 Ай бұрын

Cleaning rampage 😅 hilarious

@zerocasualteas 5 ай бұрын

Bonnie, you are doing such a great job & are so understanding & patient! I love how much you help others! ❤

@wendygrelik6373 4 ай бұрын

Haha, Bonnie! I just realized that the back of your shirt says “I’d rather be WATCHING PEOPLE cleaning.” I didn’t see the “watching people” part until you were cleaning out the fridge, and your back was turned to the camera a lot more! Love it!! 🤣🤣

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 4 ай бұрын

😁Yep, that was intentional so that I can have it in my merchandise shop when I have that up and going in hopefully the next couple of weeks. I think most people would rather be watching people clean.😉 But there are a few of us crazy ones who would rather be cleaning.🤷‍♀️😅

@dwt20125 5 ай бұрын

It must be so hard for the hoarder to live like this but very hard for husband/ family .

@LadyAurora10 4 ай бұрын

Unfortunately the guilt doesn't cure hoarding problem. No more than it would cure depression.

@tahirihwalsh6217 5 ай бұрын

The after shot of the kitchen - wow!!! Amazing job. Your mom is awesome btw. And so are you of course! ❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Aw, thank you!💕

@Emillly3 5 ай бұрын

Holy cow that fridge with the bags!! I’ve never seen those used like that. That house is so overwhelming bc it’s not gross it’s just tons and tons of stuff. I love the happy atmosphere y’all had! That has to be so encouraging to the family. You guys are amazing!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yes, that was my first time seeing shopping bags used like that in the fridge. It was kind of helpful though to contain what was kept in them so that, if they did leak anything, it didn't get everywhere. But that's probably also part of the problem is that you can't see what is in your fridge so you forget what's there.🤷‍♀️😊

@madzabinga8382 5 ай бұрын

Well, areas of neglect seem to get pretty gross.

@duanagayle 5 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp i think using those kind of bags in the fridge keeps what is in them hidden, thus less likely used. out of sight, out of mind kind of thing.

@SandraNelson063 2 ай бұрын

You deserve the Medal of Valor for tackling that fridge. Sulis Minerva!

@MSHoneybee210 5 ай бұрын

Since humans are animals something that we all have is this tendency of being like squirrels storing our nuts. I guess the more survival or traumatic events, the urge to store nuts is greater

@karenmikasko7148 5 ай бұрын

You are doing such a great job and so is your Mom....she is a worker for sure. Now .... that fridge...I would have just tossed it all and bought her new stuff.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! As for the fridge, I wish I could have just tossed it all and bought her new stuff, but I think that would have been really traumatic for her because, if there is anything that's still good in there, it feels very wasteful to her, which I understand on some level, but the way a hoarder thinks about it is on a whole other level.

@karenfelska4735 5 ай бұрын

Love your work here and I don't mind the noise in sped up video. If I find it a little irritating I just turn down the volume!! Problem solved 😂😂😂❤

@lauraharshbarger9486 5 ай бұрын

Your mom is just the cutest! I love it when she helps you.

@cindykoehn7680 5 ай бұрын

As I see the plastic shopping bags go I 😢! In 🇨🇦 we got rid of one use plastic, we don’t get plastic bags anymore 😭 I have to say you handled cleaning the fridge with her like a champ. BTW a your Mom is hilarious! There’s a special place in heaven for you Mack, Barbie, your Mom……. Keep the videos coming 🥰

@evelynsaungikar3553 5 ай бұрын

Yeah, I wish I could get those. I use them for trash, now I have to buy single purpose kitchen trash bags, so we’re no farther ahead!

@louisedillon6797 5 ай бұрын

You from New Jersey?

@cindykoehn7680 5 ай бұрын

@@louisedillon6797 no Canada 🇨🇦

@Heymrk 5 ай бұрын

I try not to get them all the time, but they're great for cleaning the litter box.

@annw1395 5 ай бұрын

I can't imagine trying to sort, tidy, and clean in a place like that! There's nowhere to work! You are an angel! I'd be like, can't you see that you have 10,000 towels, and nowhere to put them?

@ElenaVexler 5 ай бұрын

I did such a nice pile of laundry while watching this 😊 Also, had a laugh when you said you saw a corner of the table and then the table is round 😅

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Haha, I guess that's very true.😁

@Yukon33 5 ай бұрын

I love the sped up sounds. I prefer them to random music! I feel satisfied hearing them, it's like a high energy boost :D

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Glad you like them!

@chamaliegodagamage4847 5 күн бұрын

Wow, your mum is such a hard worker! (As are you and all the helpers you've had on this clean). What an amazing, kind effort. Well done!

@LazyDaisyDay88 5 ай бұрын

I really admire what you do! I find myself getting angry with hoarders. I know its a mental health issue but they never seem to want to be treated and they put their family though so much misery. I'm impressed with how calm and compassionate you and your mom are.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

I have had moments of frustration, for sure, but overall, mostly I just feel sad that this is such a struggle for them. 😞

@CAGChannel1 5 ай бұрын

Watch Midwest magic cleaning. So so compassionate and explains so much, and just oozes understanding and teaching that understanding to the world.

@labradorite8256 5 ай бұрын

I've noticed a lot of mental health disorders seem to be triggered by trauma. I think hoarding might be a kind of OCD. I saw a show about it and the brain scans of those with OCD are different to neurotypicals. Maybe the brain trying to protect itself against the trauma, but Its actually making things worse? Terrible to be locked inside yoir own brain like that.

@Dwd63 5 ай бұрын

When a hoarder asks for help they have to be willing to let stuff go otherwise nothing changes and no matter how patient you are it’s a waste of time. I think therapy is often needed. I do feel sad for other members of the family. This was a great one and a big difference was made x

@Hayden-rc1ru 5 ай бұрын

Same. I've been watching cleaning channels for a few months, but while it's satisfying to watch, it also makes me irrationally angry sometimes. Probably because I grew up in a hoarder house and developed an obsessive need for cleanliness since. I know hoarding is a neurological disease, and so on, I watch Magic West Cleaning so I heard him talking about that stuff, but I can't get past it. He's right, while I wouldn't shovel everything into the trash like some people say, I also wouldn't go and do the work, so I keep my mouth shut and just watch them do it. I have nothing nice to say, so I say nothing and lurke in silence.

@victoriaboerschinger2891 5 ай бұрын

I normally find the HOA policies to be very restrictive and unreasonable but I totally agree with a HOA policy that prevents homes, property, pets and people from being ruined or destroyed by a hoarding situation. You all are doing an excellent job and should be very proud of yourselves. Keep up the great work. 🥳😘

@MireVale 5 ай бұрын

I wish hoarding was more seriously regulated because it’s such a fire hazard and danger to EMTs that have to enter a house.

@LB-ht1qk 5 ай бұрын

I agree and because this is a duplex, the fire hazard and insect infestation are paramount.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yes, I totally agree. It's hard to explain to someone with hoarding disorder that they aren't being picked on, but that these kind of regulations are in place for, not only their safety, but the neighbors as well.

@jamiedecker3234 3 сағат бұрын

Yeah like because of the hoa intervention this house is going to get fixed up before it gets even more overwhelming. Also so many hoarded house become destroyed after years of things piling up and fixtures being unreachable if they're broken or leaking. Because she was forced to clean this up by the hoa she probably will revert because cleaning the house doesn't treat the hoarding disorder and the root of why she's hoarding. I hope that she is able to keep things safe after you're done because living in a house full of stuff to a point where you can't comfortably walk through it has to be stressfu.

@rebeccaashton5390 5 ай бұрын

You are amazing and so is your Mom. I lol at the movie.

@meredith-akatc8080 5 ай бұрын

I don’t understand why you don’t have more followers. You’re one of my favorites. Just keep going you’re great at what you do. Just know that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be ❤❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Awww, that's so nice of you. I'm actually pretty thrilled I already have almost 45,000 subscribers in less than 10 months. When compared to Mack, that's not much, but when it takes most KZfaqrs about five years to get 10,000 subs, I feel like it's going pretty well. Plus, the stuff I've learned over the last year has been priceless. 😊

@angelarothbauer8096 5 ай бұрын

Mack is a legend lol you are doing great

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Right?! He is definitely an anomaly. I think his advantage is that he has never really masked his oddities as an autistic, but as a female autistic, I think it's a little harder to unmask and show some of that odd behavior. I did a little bit in this video and hopefully I can get more and more comfortable with that because that really is how I am a lot of the time, but it feels really weird to show the world that side of me since really only my family usually sees that because I try to fit in with society outside of my home and tone down my weirdness. But, it seems when I do let a little of that side show, people like it because I think there are a lot more people than we realize that have that weird side to them that we never see, so I hope it makes others feel comfortable being a little more themselves. Anyway, I have basically written a novel here when I really could have just responded with, "Right? Mack is awesome!"😁

@angelarothbauer8096 5 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp - I have an autistic son - he’s 40 now-it’s just a different way of seeing the world- we all have our issues trust me - love your channel

@meredith-akatc8080 5 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I didn’t know that. So I guess congratulations then. Way to go. 👏👍❤️

@raeofsunshine_smith 20 күн бұрын

Bonnie! You are such an angel, with so much compassion, and understanding! xoxo

@jenniferlashley2081 5 ай бұрын

Great job! Love your mom! I enjoyed the "movie" of putting on the couch cover - making a humorous "Keystone Cops" type of film was a great idea! Looking forward to the next video!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@johnkelly9451 5 ай бұрын

We loved that video too! It just goes to show how difficult a sheet with the elastic is to put on anything sometimes! Great job mom and Bonnie!

@sandebryant3878 5 ай бұрын

You are very good at what you do. There is no way, no way I could do this. Cleaning for someone who is basically micro-managing you who doesn't clean it is insane. I would have been so frustrated, and anxiety would have been through the roof. Bless you and your Mom for helping this family. I still say horders buy more of what they have because they can't find things. And it becomes more and more things. I hope they continue with the cleaning because there is still a lot to do. I'm surprise they didn't have rats. Awesome job as always ❤❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

I know it probably does look like the homeowner isn't helping that much, but she was busy going through boxes of stuff that we would give to her. It's hard to show that though when I'm trying to keep her anonymous. We actually didn't want her moving around a lot because there was one particular day she was helping kind of all over the house and kept going up and down the stairs and, by the end of the day, her feet were so swollen that she could barely walk for the next couple of days. She sent me a picture and it looked awful. 😬 But, I can totally see how it does look like I'm being micromanaged while cleaning. There were a couple of times I felt like that, but for the most part, I was able to work on my own and then just give her boxes to sort through.

@Itsmwurfav 5 ай бұрын

All I can say is bless ur heart for helping these folks. A helping hand is a great start.❤

@valeriespackman4019 5 ай бұрын

I think the thing I like best about your videos is that you involve the people gat you’re helping. It makes it trickier to film, but it just makes so much more sense.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yes, there is that balance between wanting them to help because I think they have a higher chance of success when they are helping, but it can be very tricky working with the homeowner right there. There have been days working at this house that I was able to work in another room more on my own so the filming was a little easier and there were less distractions, but she is still plugging along in another room sorting through boxes and bags that we are giving her. Thanks for your support!💕🙏

@jaindeau772 5 ай бұрын

Bags of bags! Yep! I tried to help a friend declutter her house and knew I was in over my head when I realized that the bags of bags were carefully bundled - AND DATED! Two tall boxes blocking one hallway, and another one in a corner elsewhere in the house. I was told they’re “needed.” Never mind that with every trip to the store, they were bringing in more. At 5c/bag where we live, they must have hundreds of dollars worth of bags - not kidding!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

That's too funny! I can't believe she had them boxed and dated.😱 I also have a lot of shopping bags, but after they don't fit in the space that I have designated for them, I start getting rid of them. I think that's the key to limiting the amount of any item is picking a space for it and, once that space is filled, that's all you get to keep. That's something I have always done naturally, so I'm always surprised when that's not a natural habit for a lot of people.

@josephdaly2015 5 ай бұрын

I understand the bags of bags because I have done it myself and still do to a lesser degree now. I either take the extras to the charity shops or a local store and they are very grateful for them. A plastic bag in Ireland is 22 cent. You all did fantastic work with all the different categories of items including the bags of bags and putting in such a long day too. The fridge looks great. I’ve watched A Hoarders Heart for several years and she gives a great insight to hoarding too. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🛍

@amara560 4 ай бұрын

@@josephdaly2015I agree! Whenever I have stuff for the charity shop I fill a superfluous plastic bag. Great way to get rid of and re-purpose.

@jemreandeau3583 5 ай бұрын

Amazing job as usual, you and Mac are so lovable. Loved the Laurel and Hardy video. 😊❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!😄

@Rachel-ul8et 5 ай бұрын

This is lovely! I also have been enjoying a hoarders heart. I will always be a recovering hoarder. She does a great job dealing with her hoard. It’s inspiring how she speaks to herself. If you are watching this lady in the video, check her out. It’s great. Also, Marie Kondo.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

I actually told her she should go check out A Hoarder's Heart. I think it would be great for her to hear advice straight from another hoarder.

@RadCenter 5 ай бұрын

Remi Clog is another great channel,@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp. She has ADHD and cleans for people who have health challenges also.

@MSHoneybee210 5 ай бұрын

Minimal mom is an awesome one too

@user-zr2vx8nh7n 5 ай бұрын

I found that the You Tube channel ''A Hoarders Heart'' gave me a good insight of how a hoarder thinks and what techniques helped her to go from a Level 4 hoarder (scale 1-5) to a Level 1. Her videos started about 5 years ago. Good to watch from the start.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

I actually mentioned to her that she should start following that channel. I listen to an interview with her that was very insightful and have watched a couple of her videos just to understand the hoarding mindset a little better. I think she would be very helpful for "Julie."

@LB-ht1qk 5 ай бұрын

When you were talking about words like stationary and stationery, it brought back a childhood memory of never being able to remember which spelling went with which definition and checking my dictionary each time!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

😁❤️👍

@mollylindsay1825 5 ай бұрын

I adore your mom, so sweet and such a lively lady for her age! ❤

@stephaniefinley7833 5 ай бұрын

😂 You are delightful! Your comments (and your mum's) had me cracking up!!!!!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

😊 Aw, thank you!

@catwood7035 5 ай бұрын

Your old-time movie was hilarious! Those covers are monsters to put on. It looked great at the end.

@sandrafaith 17 күн бұрын

9:05 As I saw on Twitter once: _In Paul Rudd's attic, there's a painting of Paul Rudd. It also looks flawless._ 😂 Fantastic work as always!

@debby891 5 ай бұрын

Bless your heart for your compassion and dedication to helping others, awesome job!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@shannonkaypaperieshannonja1918 5 ай бұрын

You are a saint to be able to clean out that fridge with the owners standing behind you offering running commentary. A saint for sure.

@katespurgeon5572 4 күн бұрын

Interesting that hoarding is genetically linked. I have so many things from moving my mother to assisted living. I'm finally realizing I don't need to keep so much if it. Amazing to see all the bgas of 'food' in the refrig!

@angelarothbauer8096 5 ай бұрын

Wow thanks for the info on chromosome 14 - I watch Mack but don’t remember hearing this so Yay

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yeah, I found that so fascinating when I heard that.

@sellyourhomenowbook 5 ай бұрын

Bonnie you aren't crazy and neither are we. We CLEAN IT UP! 🎉❤😅

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

😁

@JOSIE19643 5 ай бұрын

WOW !! You guys worked like crazy !! Great job !! 👏👏👏👏👏👍 ❤🇨🇦

@sweetpea6987 4 ай бұрын

You are a Wonderful person, I just imagined what that fridge must have smelled like. Leaving things in the shopping bags and just shoving it in the fridge is a sure way to lose food. So happy you are helping these people.

@aprilknerr4443 5 ай бұрын

The fridge... glad you did that.

@Cindy-cq8zr 5 ай бұрын

Goodness! You all did a lot of hard work! Lots of progress!

@mariasmith740 2 ай бұрын

So much excess. I find myself thinking of all the money spent that could have been used elsewhere. I give you credit for your patience in dealing with situation. Hopefully she will get mental help as well so this will not just be cyclical both for her sake & her family.

@teresatillotson5561 4 ай бұрын

I need to have you clean my fridge that looks amazing. Loved the little video so funny. Your mom is so sweet , you guys make a great team. Keep up the amazing, wonderful and uplifting job you do😁

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!

@elizabethharrington4674 16 күн бұрын

I love watching your videos. You are very inspiring and informative with your information. Keep up the great work you do because I understand how much you are needed ❤💓🦋 love the black n white montage 😂😂😂

@emilynicholson4999 5 ай бұрын

Jeez Bonnie that was amazing. You’re doing a brilliant job! Such an enormous task to take on - with a really challenging situation with regards to the homeowners struggle with their mental health. Your ability to manage these relationships and maintain trust with the client is so impressive. You seem to really have it down with the editing now, but I’ve always thought your production was great! You should be so proud of yourself and how far you’ve come. Take care, from the UK Xx

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Aw, thank you! That was a very sweet comment.❤️🙏😊

@pamela5568 5 ай бұрын

I appreciate the honesty from other commenters. Here's mine. Way before my home became like this I'd have told my spouse to get in counseling and start cleaning up now, or they can live there as a single person. The abuse hoarders inflict on others is just not okay. I hope you'll do an update on this house, I'm cheering for them, but with doubt.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

I'm getting bits of the story of this woman and her family each time I go, and it's all pretty complicated. I can't really disclose all of the information I know, but it is a very complicated history, lots of back-to-back traumatic events. She is in counseling, though I don't know if it is specifically for the hoarding or just the trauma. I can't really say one way or the other what I think they should do because I'm sure I only know a very small portion of what's going on. I just try to get them to a more manageable state and hopefully take one stressor out of their lives so that they can focus on healing. It is infuriating at times, and I'm not even family, so I can't even imagine how I would deal with this as a family member, but I know she has no intention of hurting them. And, to be honest, I am starting to have some doubt that we can get the house back to a manageable state because, so far, she hasn't gotten rid of much of anything. We are just organizing it into categories, but until she can let go of some of this stuff, it's not going to change. Supposedly, this weekend, she will be having a big yard sale to get rid of stuff. We shall see...🤔

@solutions-craft-decor Ай бұрын

I would give up body parts to do this with my mom, you are so lucky.

@mindymudge7247 5 ай бұрын

Great job It is so wonderful to see you help this family so tremendously. You and your team are wonderful at helping andvnot being judgemental towards people or their stuff.

@cherryboo65b56 9 күн бұрын

My mom was a neat hoarder and my dad was a not neat hoarder. After health problems and a bad marriage I became a semi neat hoarder. I’m trying read to do my last bag of mail. I shredded 4 bags already. Yes I clean. Yes I try to keep order but at times I just can’t. 😊

@jlaurelc 5 ай бұрын

24:06 - I think you're absolutely right about speeding it up more so we're not trying to make out the conversation. As someone with sensory issues specifically around people speaking, that solved the problem for me!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Oh, good. I appreciate the feedback!

@daisymcneill3787 3 ай бұрын

I just happened upon your videos quite by accident - and I think you are an absolutely wonderful person with a beautiful mission to help others. I cannot imagine the lives you have impacted and changed for the better with your selfless gift of time and energy to help improve their lives. Thank you and God bless.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 3 ай бұрын

😊💖🙏

@user-lt3rq3jy7x Ай бұрын

I loved the song that went along with your mom putting on the couch covers. Very cute!

@salscycleshop3416 4 ай бұрын

I love your mom she's so funny and its great seeing the two of you together. What a phenomenal job all of you ladies did as well as the homeowners 🎉

@sheilacaine 5 ай бұрын

CAN YOU SAY BAGS, BAGS, BAGS AND BAGS AND MORE BAGS. IM SORRY THAT DROVE ME BAGGIE. 😂😂😂😂 Wow I think when I get up tomorrow I’m throwing every bag I have away and I don’t have that many. 😂😂😂😂 Great job all of you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

😄👍

@MaylaJ. 4 ай бұрын

Love all of this Bonnie. What a great transformation on both rooms. Also love how you and your Mom work together.

@user-ho3lt4lq1r 5 ай бұрын

Super job with all the help you had. Hopefully she can get on the right track. God bless her heart.

@bearfog07 5 ай бұрын

Hi, Bonnie and mum! Wow that was some amazing work you just did. When you said you used to be a gymnast, that explains why you look so slim and agile ( not to mention all the cleaning of course, lol) Thanks also to your other helper!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

LOL! That was over 30 years ago that I was a gymnast, but, yes, I have always tried to stay active. In fact, sitting and doing nothing is one of the worst things that I can imagine.😁 Relaxing is very hard for me.🤪

@bearfog07 5 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I know what you mean, Bonnie, I get bad back and hip pain if I sit around. I like to get something done each day.

@dalornaballard9329 5 ай бұрын

Hellooo Bonnie great video.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@dorenedaniels7493 5 ай бұрын

Sweet heart all I can say is God bless you 🙏❤️. I love your work and you and Barbie do a wonderful job oh and I like Mike. God bless you 🙏

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you. ❤️🙏

@teraphIl1000 5 ай бұрын

The fridge cleaning was very satisfying to watch!

@sydneybeanpug 5 ай бұрын

yes it was but if the fridge wasn't working (I thought I heard her say that) then I wouldn't be keeping anything in there.

@princess.smith19 5 ай бұрын

In my OPINION I don’t like when the home owner is there and is hovering over you but I 10000000% understand it takes baby steps to get rid of things . I Love your videos btw 🎉❤

@frealafgb 5 ай бұрын

You guys made a huge difference to all 3 rooms. The stuff in the living and dining room is so much less, without throwing anything away that she wanted to keep. Fantastic job already, and I can't wait to see how much more of an improvement the end result is!❤

@hollyjobitner3285 5 ай бұрын

We had in the recently purchased glass containers with snap lids. They are wonderful to see your leftovers. Most other plastic containers have been disposed of. Chinese soup containers live down cellar for future soup/chili that my husband makes and freezes. He does eat them! We like to NOT waste food. Out of sight,out of mind. Best of luck for their future leftovers! 💙

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yes! I understand that the containers that cottage cheese or sour cream come in or plastic bags are basically free so it seems like the cheaper option to just use those, but not when you can't see what's inside of them and that food goes to waste. I agree you need something that you can see through.

@KatMayeux-fd5it 5 ай бұрын

Bonnie, you and your team are champs! Your Mom is adorable I don’t doubt a genetic predisposition to hoarding. Is it nature or nurture? My husband, retired Air Force flight engineer and mechanic, always says… it’s a combination of things that come together just at the right time to cause an accident, incident or situation. So does she have genetics? Trauma? Modeling from parents? Or perhaps all? Nobody knows 🤷🏻‍♀️ Best to proceed with caring and kindness

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Well said!😊❤️👍

@michelleflynn4288 5 ай бұрын

Nice job. Huge undertaking

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thanks 👍

@kellyanne7225 5 ай бұрын

I can totally relate with wanting to keep empty boxes. They’re too functional looking to throw away, right? I get it! Well, my husband and I agreed, they had to go. Then, 2 months later, (ago) we decided to downsize and sell our home. Now today, we will grab a bunch of huge boxes to start packing! 😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

It's a good thing there are so many of us box hoarders around so that, when you decide to get rid of boxes, there is always someone eager to take them and, when you need boxes, you can usually just look in the free section on Facebook or something and find a box hoarder getting rid of theirs. 😂😂They are so useful!!

@tx_s 5 ай бұрын

Great job everyone!

@rebeccaashton5390 5 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

I really appreciate your support! Thank you so much!💕🙏

@Sneakerfever1 5 ай бұрын

Wow! What a difference!

@lindsayjohnson7536 5 ай бұрын

Bonnie, you and your mom have the same smile!😊❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

😄

@nancycosgrove4005 5 ай бұрын

Truly remarkable!!!!!!

@bethcanada7375 5 ай бұрын

You are fantastic for all you do to help this family. God Bless you for all you do.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thanks so much.❤️🙏

@marshatubbs2360 5 ай бұрын

Great job to not only you, but everyone that was there helping... coming together to help someone who needs it.👏👏👏 keep up the awesome job!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thanks 👍

@WomensTop20 18 күн бұрын

Another great video! You're amazing! ❤❤❤

@fillistine 5 ай бұрын

I like the way you preserve client confidentiality by speeding up the film❤

@user-yn7on7ou8n 5 ай бұрын

Distressing?? Wow, having to live like that, would be very distressing. 😮

@rachelstewart6954 5 ай бұрын

I don't believe I've ever seen soooo much stuff in my life. Wow, no one needs 90 percent of that. I don't believe she got rid of enough that's for sure.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

She hasn't really gotten rid of anything yet. I have been trying to get her to do her yard sale since the second week we have been working there and it has yet to happen. Right now, we are just organizing things into categories and throwing away some trash, but if we don't start actually selling or donating stuff, I don't think I can continue working there because I don't like just shifting stuff around. Yes, it might be a little more organized, but it will just end up the same way unless she actually gets rid of stuff. I'm going to let her know this is going to be my last week working there unless she has a yard sale this weekend and sells a lot of stuff and donates what doesn't sell.

@kathywalker997 5 ай бұрын

Another great video! God bless you. I hope these people appreciate everything that you’re doing for them. I hope it makes your life better.

@leashy1204 5 ай бұрын

I love watching all your videos! Its awesome that your mom comes to help! These are the kind of houses I would do. Its easier to sort and clean these type rather than the houses that have mice and roaches. The fridge was amazing! Looked great!! And the rest - its gonna be an EPIC change!!👍👍😍💜💖

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yeah, so glad this has been pretty clean for the most part, just A LOT of stuff. 😊

@RoseofSharon3 5 ай бұрын

I know it would have been time consuming but the OCD person in me would have labeled everything in each box that was packed. So I could of just read each label when I wanted something.

@tinacocoalab 5 ай бұрын

You and your mom are super people!

@PeelingAwaytheClutter 5 ай бұрын

You got so much accomplished in this video. Well done! I love how you created the list of stuff and then circled it when you got to it. That was fun. Looking forward to the next one!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Glad you liked it!! I haven't even had a chance to go watch your last video yet. I just got a new computer yesterday even though my other one is only 7 months old, but I wanted to experiment with a new computer and, so far, it is Leaps and Bounds better than my old one! I'm excited about that, but also very frustrated that my other one I have dealt with for the last 7 months being frustratingly slow. 🤬Anyway, now it's time to figure out what to do with my old one. I should get around to watching your video by tomorrow. Hope all is well!💕

@aqueuse 5 ай бұрын

this fridge was WILD :O

@latiamary5214 5 ай бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👍

@helenatkinson4730 5 ай бұрын

That black and white movie of the couch cover was hilarious! I was laughing out loud. You all did an amazing job in that dining room. I'm not sure how anyone can stand to take all that rotten stuff out of a refrigerator. However, I know I have seen worse in other videos. Much, much worse. As far as the HOA goes I'm not saying whether I agree or disagree with their policies. I was just surprised that they knew anything about the inside of the house. They still would not have known if the owner had not agreed to let them in. I doubt they could have gotten any kind of a legal search warrant. However, it's much more understandable for them to get involved in a duplex type of situation.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Yeah, I'm not sure about all the legalities of the HOA involvement, but once I thought more about it being a duplex and having your neighbor actually connected to your house it does make sense that someone needs to check on these kinds of things so that it doesn't become a hazard for the neighbor as well.

@cherylkoski-pe8gw 2 ай бұрын

I am in awe of your work!

@theropesofrenovation9352 5 ай бұрын

Bless you for your patience. I just can't deal with it.

@consolw 3 ай бұрын

You are amazing! Yes I watched till the very end because I am just gobsmacked that anyone can live like this, and in awe that you have sufficient empathy to come in and clean in those conditions. I have to admit I don’t understand how hoarding disorder works and do understand that there is some mental illness involved, but…hoarding is one thing, filth is another. My worry is that you will have spent all that time cleaning and in a months time it will be the same again. But you are amazing, you truly are.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 3 ай бұрын

Wait until you get to the last one in this series. It definitely took everything out of me mentally. 😮‍💨I could have sorted and organized for months on end, but without her actually getting some real therapy for the hoarding, I don't think anything will change. Perhaps eviction will be the wake-up call she needs because I don't think she's going to be able to avoid it.

@user-sf3tu1lj7n 5 ай бұрын

Your mom is 👍 great ❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

The best!

@dwynn57 5 ай бұрын

wowzer! I watched the others in this series and I have to say, kudos to you and anyone else who does this type of cleaning especially for free! I would be so overwhelmed! and you are so non judgmental! I really appreciate that! I know that hoarding is a mental disorder, and altho I think that most everyone hoards something, I feel for the family of anyone who lives this way, I love your videos! thanks so much for sharing! xoxo

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!❤️🙏

@heidibentz390 5 ай бұрын

Dana K White is awesome. She makes it so so so simple. I also appreciated you comment about helping others with the daily tasks - laundry, sleeping space, etc.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely!! Love Dana's methods.