Sandy Lewis Sharon Stone with 28

Me too!!!

I want to know how she got out too!! That was scary!!!!!!

Me Too! And that is annoying!!!!

ill ask her next time i see her and get back to you

Rapid cognition "Enables us to make value judgments about everything that we see, *in an instant without processing*". The majority of our decisions are already made before we consciously think about something. These judgments do not care about how nice his/her clothing feels or how favorable feelings someone has connected to something. Our lives depend on judging situations while they occur. The planet simply doesn't run on what would be nicer. Guys with aggressive clothing and baseball bats.... Nice people coming home after playing some sport or are they people looking for trouble?! You cannot make a back check on everything. Stereotypes are helpful for keeping us alive.

Exactly. I've met a lot of great people, and a lot of horrible people, over the years. I've had people look sideways at me for wearing all black, or for wearing a cami and sweatpants. How you're dressed says something about your personality, but very little about your character. A person can be impeccably dressed and look really confident, kind, considerate, ambitious, etc. and still be more of an abusive prick than many people can even fathom. On the other hand, you could find yourself at the bus stop, sitting near a young woman wearing older, more run-down clothes--slightly ratty jeans and a basic t-shirt. She is really angry about something, she looks frustrated, and you really start to wonder if she is going to get violent. But, then, another man is getting his groceries together when he drops a bag and things scatter. People look sympathetically at him, but no one moves--except the angry young woman. She immediately stands and quickly gathers everything back into a bag, then makes sure he has everything together. He thanks her. She says "you're welcome." She's polite, gentle, and even calm. Then, she sits back down, still away from everyone else and still looking bothered about whatever is on her mind. Suddenly, she looks like a person and you're inspired to wonder what might have happened to her earlier. I suspect most of the people who judge others based on clothing have probably lived fairly sheltered lives--lives that didn't involve nice-looking jerks and great, kind people who look aggressive. Sometimes, people dress "aggressively" in the hopes of warning off bad people. Around some people, you get to feeling like you have to look dangerous to minimize your chances of being attacked. People talk about wanting people to look, act, and dress nice; but, the all too present reality is that people mistreat the really nice people. Meanwhile, abusive pricks are perceived as "confident" and "ambitious"--"born leaders." If I saw guys in "aggressive" clothing with baseball bats, I would take another second to look at their postures and the looks on their faces. They could have come from a round of baseball. Having spent many years living in poor neighborhoods, I've never seen a difference in threat that could be measured so simply. Clothing is very similar in poor neighborhoods and nearly everyone I've ever passed--even in the middle of the night--was polite and non-threatening. Most of the rest were stiffly polite and a bit threatening. They were just hanging around at one's house--nothing discernible about their clothes or attitudes. The very few times someone threatened me, their clothing styles were completely unremarkable. How we judge people isn't just a question of "what would be nice." It's a question of accuracy vs. stereotypes.

She's saying that within two seconds you make a judgement about someone. Shes not saying its impermeable. That judgement can change based on new information. We shouldn't soley rely on a two second unconscious thought our brain has. But.... we do make these thoughts. And consider the source (she (and me)) is a costume designer. We rely on this fact to do our jobs. Clothing doesnt tell you everything about a character, but it tells the audience a lot. Sometimes these stereotypes and patternseeking behaviour in humans leads us astray but it's also the source of our greatest intelligence. Just saying...she's not judging, or saying we should judge. She's saying we do, and from my POV, it's a deeply biological reaction.

It's called a badge. Yikes.