From Victim to Survivor: Find Your X…but First, Find Your (Wh)Y? | Lauren Book

From Victim to Survivor: Find Your X…but First, Find Your (Wh)Y? | Lauren Book | TEDxOxford

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8 жыл бұрын

The childhood trauma Lauren Book suffered robbed her of her childhood, but forced her to learn how to find her voice and rebuild her life with purpose…through her TED Talk, she challenges viewers to do what she’s been challenged to do through her journey from victim of physical, sexual and emotional abuse to struggling survivor and now thriver and internationally recognized advocate for change. Along the way, Lauren’s journey has often been three steps forward and ten steps back. Seeking to address and unearth the root cause of behaviors and decisions within her own life, and society’s take on child protection issues and child sexual abuse at large, Lauren explains how she found her driving force - her X - by choosing to face, instead of run from, some of her darkest places…and finding her (wh)Y?
Lauren Book, M.S. Ed, is an internationally respected & renowned child advocate, former classroom teacher & best-selling author. She is also 1 of 42 million survivors of child sexual abuse living in the U.S. today. Armed with the knowledge that 95% of child sexual abuse is preventable through education & awareness, Book is using her personal experience as a vehicle to create change. She created a Pre-K through grade 12 sexual prevention education curriculum used in more than 55,000 classrooms worldwide & has advocated for the passage of laws to protect children. Book has been named a PEOPLE All-Star Among Us, L’Oreal Woman of Worth & is the recipient of a Congressional Medal of Merit for her tireless work to protect childhood. She is an EMMY nominee & Gracie Award-winning producer & has been featured by media outlets including Newsweek, Cosmopolitan, the Huffington Post, USA Today & many more. Book lives in Florida where she serves as founder & CEO of the Lauren’s Kids Foundation.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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@yvonnegonzalez7726 5 жыл бұрын

She knew instinctively when she met her abuser and didn’t want to have anything to do with her...Adults need to learn to honor and respect children’s wishes and feelings .. It’s part of our culture to dismiss children’s feelings & that needs to change

@laraoneal7284 4 жыл бұрын

Children are the most marginalized demographic in society. Period.

@oldnickolaus1651 3 жыл бұрын

Hamburger 🍔

@sbrown8937 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. That was pure instinct.

@Sisterlisk Жыл бұрын

I didn't like my friend's guardian/grandpa, and my mom even asked me one time if he'd ever touched me. He never offended me, but in hindsight, something was possibly happening to my friend. We drifted apart after elementary school. It'd be weird to message her now and ask.

@susanflowers7425 7 жыл бұрын

I drive a school bus for special needs children. I had a young girl on my bus of around seven or eight years of age. Cute little thing with big brown eyes. I noticed that when I would drop her at home, if her Mother received her she would be very happy, BUT if her Father received her she would be either scared or unhappy. I informed my boss at the time of the situation. She in turn made inquiries with the appropriate people. I hope and pray that I was wrong, but I don't know What ever happened I have no way of knowing, I'm not allowed to inquire into the outcome. But I hope and pray that I was wrong or that she received the help she needed. You just never know

@wiwoods4me 7 жыл бұрын

Susan Flowers. . YOU DID THE RIGHT THING !! DO NOT SECOND GUESS YOURSELF. I absolutely give you my hand in appreciation and praise. Your intuition knocked and you listened or as I BELEIVE the hand of God touched you and you replied. Do you realize what you might have given that little girl? A life without fear without confusion instead she might have, as children should, days of laying on the grass and seeing pictures in clouds or playing kickball with the neighborhood kids, lots of sunshine and smiles and just plain safe. What you did is what there has to be more of. My heart to yours and God Bless You always.

@Belihoney 6 жыл бұрын

Wow well done! You may have saved a life (or make the path to rebuilding one start)! You did the right thing!

@gracelewis6071 6 жыл бұрын

Susan Flowers unfortunately many times even if you report things don't get followed up on. Especially with her being special needs, they could have done something like ask her Father to help translate, ask her about possible about in front of him where she wouldn't feel safe to tell the truth, etc. If you have the ability, I would suggest following up to see what did or did not happen. Creating a network of people in contact with one another and looking out for her may make a big difference in her life.

@zohraqasimi898 4 жыл бұрын

you did the right thing Susan!

@zomater 6 жыл бұрын

As a survivor I beg of you please tell your children that it is not right. Even if you dont think it is happening to them please tell them its not there fault

@matboss1117 5 жыл бұрын

Nice spelling Sherlock Holmes

@matboss1117 5 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-pu5ls yes

@matboss1117 5 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-pu5ls Yes

@NoName-pu5ls 5 жыл бұрын

@@matboss1117 Go away Troll

@matboss1117 5 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-pu5ls no

@itisjavi2035 4 жыл бұрын

Adult's listen to your kids... Don't ignore them. Don't slap them for telling you. I waited till I was 31 years old to get help. If only mom would have known when I was 5... Im sure she would have taken care of it. I was scared, confused, and lonely. Too afraid to open my mouth. Even when I did. I still felt like I've let them down.

@itisjavi2035 4 жыл бұрын

@lots of success I told my older sister and she slapped me and said "we don't say that stuff" and I knew then to keep quiet and let it happen. My mom found out as I grew older and told her. She said "why didn't you tell me before" those were her exact words. She just felt helpless that she could not help me.

@niknurain 6 жыл бұрын

This was incredibly uncomfortable to listen to. But I can’t entirely express how grateful I am to now be more aware. May God bless us all.

@bellenicks3879 2 жыл бұрын

yea tell me about it, the begining was making me physically ill!

@johnnymiller1149 5 жыл бұрын

But yet even when we say anything NOONE BELIEVES

@nina-bh4nx 5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Or just think you are acting out.

@philima 3 жыл бұрын

Or exaggerating and overly sensitive

@SuperYOUCUTE 6 жыл бұрын

i have never in my life found relief like i found through this video. thank you so much ms. Lauren. i wish to get through this mental disaster with you and all the fellow heroes.

@gracelewis6071 6 жыл бұрын

Wow she calms down so much when she talks about her husband comforting her. I have to admit I struggle with understanding how other people find supportive relationships after abuse. I don't know too many people who want to stick around. (Which is crazy when you think about how many people have been abused themselves.) I keep hearing people talking about surrounding yourself with supportive people, but no advice or support on actually doing that.

@AlyssaJLewis 6 жыл бұрын

The first step for me was to remove unsupportive people from my life. It's very difficult to see who these people are at first because most of them aren't as toxic as the abuser. However, they're the people who talk like you're not worth the effort, like your emotional reactions and feelings don't count for this or that or whatever reason. A lot of time these are perfectly fine people, but they just don't understand what it means to go through what you do and they have nothing to offer that's really valid. You have to look for what you actually need. I need people who will show me compassion when I'm hurting. People who give me a safe place to feel the pain rather than trying to "assist" me in avoiding/ignoring it because they feel more comfortable around happy people. I've had to accept that only very strong, compassionate people will be there for me. Most people mean well but simply have no idea what they're doing or don't understand trauma responses well enough to get over their own needs/desires. This doesn't make them bad people. It just doesn't make them strong enough to help me. It just means I have to keep looking.

@mari070680 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. It's so hard to trust people. How do you trust when your trust was broken by people you know?

@202020morehourstogo 7 жыл бұрын

Wow, there are a lot of child molester types in the comments section. Lauren, I believe you 100% and think it's so wonderful and brave of you to put yourself out there to benefit children. Good for you for becoming a teacher and protecting children.

@ld-ph8pq 6 жыл бұрын

Lauren is a liar. She was asking for it.

@NoName-pu5ls 5 жыл бұрын

@@ld-ph8pq you trolls, such an empty soul

@weirdguy4948 4 жыл бұрын

Shana Neidig an empty soul? Makes sense

@weirdguy4948 4 жыл бұрын

Shana Neidig Care to explain what u mean?

@youcantbeatk7006 3 жыл бұрын

What are you talking about?

@Nimue333 7 жыл бұрын

I can't believe some of the comments; I guess pedophiles come into this type of videos trying to dismiss them, trying to make sexual abuse seen less important. All those who sexually abuse a child should get life in prison without possibility of parole. Sexual abuse is the worst crime because it puts lifes in hell.

@tawandabarnes272 7 жыл бұрын

Who could joke about something such as this, but a monster.

@corysmith3447 7 жыл бұрын

didn't see the comments but my dad hit me sometimes when i was younger, it sucked, but i would never call myself a "survivor" victim, that's reserved for people who other people were trying to kill such as soldiers of war

@officiallytherealcheezcake3126 5 жыл бұрын

I feel like they shouldnt be able to live💔

@zohraqasimi898 4 жыл бұрын

WHAT A SAD TALK :( NO CHILD SHOULD GO THROUGH THAT.

@RandomPersonsOpinion 6 жыл бұрын

this is heartbreaking

@gonzacata1 4 жыл бұрын

Traveling Soul I agree ☝️ I am a survivor too

@Kristen10-22 6 жыл бұрын

I’ll never forget seeking hugs from my elementary teachers!! I’d give anything for my memories back then. I do remember feeling constant terror behind those closed doors at the hands of my mother.

@singtalklaughli8999 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry you had to go through it ❤️

@sarahkay9447 5 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to go to counselling to remember some of these things, I would give anything to know more than I know now but the brain blocks it out.

@sarahkay9447 5 жыл бұрын

shana neidig I understand where you’re coming from too, and I definitely know that I’m not yet ready to fill all the gaps. I’m sorry that It didn’t work out for you but I’m really glad that you know all you need to know. Thank you for the well wishes, if I ever do seek specialised help for ‘filling in the gaps’ then I’ll make sure I get a good person. Right now I’m with a counsellor who doesn’t really help with that aspect but I am happy where I am right now as long as I at least have the option to find things out or at least to try if I want to.

@angelaknox 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for finding the courage to share a part of your story.

@roberttrout2457 8 жыл бұрын

From victim to survivor thats totally me!

@marciasummers5090 6 жыл бұрын

Proud of you for speaking up!

@weirdguy4948 4 жыл бұрын

Congrats, have a trophy

@NoName-pu5ls 4 жыл бұрын

victims suffer survivors speak, I am proud of you also, I hope you have healed as much as possible, I understand it is hard. much love and respect

@stephaniemata6167 4 жыл бұрын

Congrats! Keep going and stay THRIVING!

@stephaniemata6167 4 жыл бұрын

@@weirdguy4948 stay in your own lane. Obviously you've never been abused to even fathom or make a statement or even a sarcastic comment like this. You seem to have deep hidden issues and are taking it out on people who are overcoming their issues out of jealousy. Stay in your dark negative space but dont ever ruin or try to take away someone who's trying to shine

@somnyad 4 жыл бұрын

The whole thing is really good, but it was really meaningful to everyone on Earth from 18:03 on. We all need to find our challenges and face them. What courage to tell her amazing and terrifying story. I have nothing but gratitude.

@Lamentations...Repentance 8 жыл бұрын

thank you Lauren you're beautiful and a good person. the world needs more people like you. very emotional impact

@lisamcquade9623 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for speaking out. I hope that monster was finally put away. You are so right so many people look at white, blonde and green eyed, beautiful woman, as having no reason to have trauma. You are an awesome thriver!

@MsShiaka 7 жыл бұрын

Bless your heart Mija ...I feel your pain ... Proud of you

@wandereroftheworld2194 6 жыл бұрын

She came out on top! May she continue to remain strong. There shluld be some filter that stops all hate/negative comments. Sick.

@basherhunt9788 7 жыл бұрын

Wtf is wrong with people saying it was her own fault if you had ever bin trew abuse you wouldn't be saying that shit the damage stays with you for life I died twice after sueided attemp things are better now but I'm still haunted by the hell I went trew😡

@nmim4994 7 жыл бұрын

threw? lmaoo

@ingridguerra9845 7 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you went through that Natasha :(

@TheMrExemplar 7 жыл бұрын

I'd been abused in my childhood and I consider it as my own fault I should have take knife and split my father's head in half I kinda find law to blame too… because the murder ia illegal so it's their fault as well but don't worry they'll pay for that

@LunaStargoddess 6 жыл бұрын

Narcissists. I can tell you though that pedophiles and narcissits get theirs in the end and it is very, very painful.

@georgiabyrd6785 6 жыл бұрын

my dad was a cop. it's true, they do protect their own. the law's to blame in many ways, even if at other times they help....

@janicecastillo9944 5 жыл бұрын

Brave woman, you’re an angel! And what happened to you is not your fault. It gets better..

@DeeplyGuided 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you beautiful soul for breaking your silence and sharing your truth. much love and many blessings, xxx

@SPQR7117 4 жыл бұрын

*The* truth. Truth is not relative- its objective.

@chelseahess4488 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I cant believe this, ive struggled for so long. Thank you

@marikd.hammerheadred4600 7 жыл бұрын

I am 31 too. And I am still in my longterm abusive family environment. I can not get away. I have no money , no friends, no future. This is HELL, created for punishing me.

@Belihoney 6 жыл бұрын

There is help out there! Look for organisations and safe houses in your area. They will help with an exit plan...

@Selsmittenxo 5 жыл бұрын

Try to go to clubs that are free and meet new people where you can find friends that will listen and help you. You're not along,:)!

@user-dp4bu8jy4b 5 жыл бұрын

Get a job or 2 jobs. Stay away from them at all cost. You can do this!

@sarahkay9447 5 жыл бұрын

I know that i'm two years late but nothing is EVER your fault. This is not your fault. It's taking me a while to learn that.

@annpetrillo7535 4 жыл бұрын

Trauma is making you feel stuck

@lilfr1984 8 жыл бұрын

Lauren book your so inspiring, your such an amazing woman!! I'm so blessed to be able to walk along side of you, you've helped so many in so many different ways!! so with that said I say thank you from the bottom of my heart!! your paiges hero for sure!!! we💙U Lauren :)

@winfreyc2010 4 жыл бұрын

The triggers are the worst. I can be having a nice day or being intimate with my partner, and something reminds me. Sometimes just feeling happy is a trigger because of the dread of when that happiness will be taken from me. I walk through life on eggshells, afraid to feel anything. Even my rage feels unsafe.

@susanflowers7425 6 жыл бұрын

God does Bless me every day, Thank you! For the kind words. God Bless you as well!

@he7is7at7hand 6 жыл бұрын

we need to somehow teach children about these Predators. We need to let them know that if they are forced to do things that they feel are wrong, if anyone touches their private parts, that they should tell us. We need to let them know that these kind of people, the Predators, are liars. I don't know somehow we need to stop these creeps.

@rainbow8569 6 жыл бұрын

Mel Rich My parents used to say, "If anyone, stranger or not touches you inappropriatly with intention of forcing himself, you will take it seriously and run away or yell or come to us if we are near. (it can be school and all so..)" I remember at first it used to be quite hard to grasp, but as they used to say this not just once but many times... I understood. I think childhren are capable of understanding this stuff if parents handle it better.

@rainbow8569 6 жыл бұрын

They didn't just emphasized on private place, they just said "anywhere" because a child can also differentiate between friendly handshake and cheek kiss and forcing kinda touch. I did at very small age, my class mate was like that. I told my parents the next day, they changed my school and complained to the school principal.

@tabithadillon9931 6 жыл бұрын

That unfortunately doesn’t always work. My mother raised me and told me that, always reminding me. 10 years of molestation still got unreported. You know why? My molesters threat to harm my loved ones and me was more immediate in my young mind than my mother’s teachings. The best thing to do is analyze how the children act around people and never force them to do anything. Even something as seemingly innocent as telling your child “hug your uncle. You have to, he’s family.” Can send the wrong message. It did for me at least.

@user-jn7so8eh7v 4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately that won't work in lots of cases. Lots of people get abused before they can understand enough to be able to tell someone. I think a more realistic way would be to only let your kid around people you trust a lot. Either way tho unfortunately we can't control everything. If we could prevent it we would.

@marlosunnyfruit4431 Жыл бұрын

Yes... My patents told me these things. Still my father abused me and my mother accepted it. How can we save all of these children from their own fathers? It usually happens in familys... Often before the child is even old enouth to comprehent anything.

@wassimdarraji9852 5 жыл бұрын

know it's hard to let go the past but you have to I've sufferd from PTSD for years but i rose i fought my way through and turned my life to better and buried the past and started new i'm not gonna let people and the past to put me down i'm not give them what they want i'm gonna be confident and look to fear anxiety and this people in their eyes and put all fear on them the best revenge is success in the end you only live once so live it you're way

@JeffErdmann 8 жыл бұрын

Lauren and her father are amazing individuals who have both done so much good because of so much bad! The world is becoming a better place one child at a time...

@someBody-bp1vc 4 жыл бұрын

Am so sick of being a victim. I just want to be free

@someBody-bp1vc 4 жыл бұрын

I was about to reply mean too! But then i realize this was my own comment

@y.martel842 4 жыл бұрын

Why are you a victim?

@marywest6844 2 жыл бұрын

Then think you are a survivor. An empowered person who has overcome being taken advantage of, when incapable of self assertion Self activation. You are a survivor, always will be. One day at a times, stronger, wiser, better.

@moniquehackett4265 6 жыл бұрын

This is one of the most powerful, moving and enlighten talk I have ever heard. I salute you for sharing your story and taking the stand you now take.

@live2raid 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story.

@christendenise220 8 жыл бұрын

I hope the "Chucky" game was reported to law enforcement...

@202020morehourstogo 7 жыл бұрын

Since teachers are mandated reporters and she is talking about this publicly, I'm going to go ahead and say yes.

@debbiehernandez6824 4 жыл бұрын

I am a survivor, and as one i ask you to please speak up.

@pamelawatkins4063 8 жыл бұрын

Lauren!! What an incredible presentation! Bravo!! Well done, my friend! Dr Pamela "PJ" Watkins

@tammylovesmakeup 5 жыл бұрын

This is necessary but so hard to hear. Such a beautiful and strong girl.

@withramya 7 жыл бұрын

powerful speech

@nomoremrniceguy4071 6 жыл бұрын

I always freezed

@TraumaTalk 6 жыл бұрын

Beautifully done! Thank you SO much for speaking on this. You speak so clearly and well on a difficult topic. Well done and THANK YOU!

@amykrulas4110 7 жыл бұрын

This is too close to home hard to listen to

@jesbercat7904 6 жыл бұрын

Amy Jolene me too

@georgiabyrd6785 6 жыл бұрын

i wish more people would talk about female abusers, of both boys and girls

@katewalsh9984 6 жыл бұрын

this is that story Lauren was assaulted by her female nanny. I am currently with a wonderful man who was physically abused by his ex-wife and his girlfriends before me

@nina-bh4nx 5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry. 😞

@gonzacata1 4 жыл бұрын

Amy Krulas me too

@bellenicks3879 2 жыл бұрын

"IT SHOULDN'T HURT TO BE A CHILD"!!!!!! WOW POWERFUL!!!!! MIC DROP!!!!

@jaywatson6261 4 жыл бұрын

An excellent presentation - I applaud you Lauren for your courage and tenacity - I wish you all the very best with the work you are doing as you reach out and rescue yet another child from this insidious and abusive trail. God bless you 👍🏿

@he7is7at7hand 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. God bless you.

@charntsabre3463 6 жыл бұрын

I’m so confused. I watched, paid careful attention, and enjoyed learning everything she had to say. But I feel like this story and everything she said about ptsd is everything I can learn about ptsd. And these are things i’ve already known. I’m trying to learn more because my wife has ptsd. And i try to understand her with all of my strength, I really do try to learn, but it just isn’t working and our marriage is falling even more apart because of it... I don’t understand why..

@SickIdiot 6 жыл бұрын

learn your wife's triggers, ask her for guidance, I can tell you mean well. Ask her if you should do something in a different way, make yourself a safe space, do not shame or belittle her for her reactions. sometimes "It's okay and I love you" are the best things to hear. Have patience and ask her and let her respond in whatever way makes her the most comfortable.

@selynasteriska 5 жыл бұрын

And if you didn't already, seek for help, a conselour can be guiding both of you.

@millag93 5 жыл бұрын

@M. Jones counter phobia is underestimated issue and rarely talked about. glad that you've mentioned it

@user-dp4bu8jy4b 5 жыл бұрын

Hold her hand, hug her, make her feel safe. Tell her you love her and that she can count on you. She needs your support and love.

@natnat8733 4 жыл бұрын

@@millag93 what is 'counter phobia'?. I have ptsd

@jasminehare2116 6 жыл бұрын

She is my hero

@jacquidanke1263 8 ай бұрын

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, BRAVE, AND A WONDERFUL PERSON. GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR CONTINUED JOURNEY TO TOTAL HEALING. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY. SO SORRY YOU WENT THROUGH THOSE TERRIBLE THINGS. I HAVE HAD TRAUMA AND AM STILL TRYING TO GET HEALTHIER. WE ARE ALL WORTH GREAT THINGS AND HAPPINESS!

@dr.calebrobbins.3177 2 жыл бұрын

After watching 10k 'blurbs ' on Survival of Sxl Abuse ... 34.5 years of Therapy. I'm @ the point of learning about my Trauma. In fact we all go to Court in 6/52. Yes, I am terrified ... What if ... it WAS my fault and the other irrational emotional baggage. I need to be strong; prepared for whatever demons I may face. Thank you for sharing with me your experience and your strength. I could see your nervousness. Yet underneath that I could feel your strength of purpose in living with the lifelong effects. I sincerely hope you and your husband are successful in having a family of your own. You have a lot of love, life, & experience to offer a child. It is something which will challenge you, however, you have all the necessary "humanity" for bringing anr. person into this (crazy) World. Sincerely ...

@zendai2150 6 жыл бұрын

🙏 God bless you and your work Lauren.

@daniellecole2307 5 жыл бұрын

Amazing video. thank you.

@clairevansusteren5323 8 жыл бұрын

Empowering and incredibly motivating speech...couldn't stop watching, listening or learning from this one if I tried.

@shitocodone8940 8 жыл бұрын

This isn't very good

@UltimaHolyFlare 8 жыл бұрын

Claire VanSusteren works for Lauren, so her opinion is as crooked as her big horse teeth. Hey Claire, the next time you talk smack about me, at least get your story straight.

@zarailly 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so brave and strong and for sharing your story

@TheKapias 4 жыл бұрын

Great talk💕thank you and blessings to you both🌹🌹

@TheOzka 5 жыл бұрын

Tx for your story.

@kristenellie 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Lauren! Thank you SOO Much!!! This means soo much!! My childhood did also hurt!

@crystalbrundige6325 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing

@belkistorres5414 5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ Beautiful message, using her pain to saves others🙏🙏🙏 GOD BLESS HER🙏

@AuntieWendy 4 жыл бұрын

i am so inspired , thank you

@alysssstirn1455 6 жыл бұрын

I’m balling my eyes out watching this 😭😭

@kristenwaterton4087 5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Amazing

@fionagreer5551 6 жыл бұрын

Bless you lovely lady x

@TellSamyra 4 жыл бұрын

So glad I found this talk

@GhadeerElGhafri 6 жыл бұрын

POWERFUL!

@tadanielle3898 4 жыл бұрын

How do you deal with this when the abuser was your own brother 10 years ago

@someBody-bp1vc 4 жыл бұрын

Am trying to figure this out to. But it wasnt 10 years ago

@youcantbeatk7006 3 жыл бұрын

Give up because there's literally nothing you can do legally because it's more than likely all evidence has been destroyed by then.

@1PhilHarmonic 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing and being the brave woman you are. I too was abused by both sexes when I was young. It has prevented me to have lasting relationships with wonderful women that entered my life. I wish you peace, love and happiness.

@davecarsley8773 Жыл бұрын

Really great

@warflowersociety 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@anitadidion5048 5 жыл бұрын

Empowering!

@jakalamanewtown6814 4 жыл бұрын

This Lady, I stand with. I will not comment further of myself

@karenstoddard9345 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@adityaphadnis3574 3 жыл бұрын

hey i am going to turn twenty next year and i am child trauma survivor in india and still am suffering

@skmerwitz4758 4 жыл бұрын

I was assaulted by someone. Iv felt guilty for a long time. I never ran just sat there saying no. I was suicidal tried to kill my self.

@truthmerchant1 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You had a freeze response which is an innate survival response. You're not to blame for what happened in any way. The predator is 100% responsible. The guilt is all theirs. I'm glad you're still here. You are strong and good and should be proud of yourself.

@natnat8733 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story. I hope you found the support and love you deserve

@somnyad 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I think there are a lot of other people who have suffered in similar ways. There are good, free groups you can join that can help you to get over the pain from childhood abuse. I recommend CODA (codependents anonymous). Many people together telling their stories can help us to see how to deal with our lives now. In 'The Rooms' there are support groups for all sorts of childhood trauma, including this one.

@grandmabear2840 3 жыл бұрын

I was unexpectedly triggered today. Thank you💜

@laraoneal7284 4 жыл бұрын

God bless her.

@sfsf6837 7 жыл бұрын

was Waldy brought to justice? What happened to her?

@ashtinpaulet3112 6 жыл бұрын

SF SF yes she was she tried to flee but was caught in another state coaching a girls soccer team. She is now behind bars for a certain long time.

@edwardelkins8561 3 жыл бұрын

I know right from wrong and you relate it so well. Abuse leads to me abusing my self I'm all I have and I want to share. The end seems closer to have closure my father passed on his birthday twelve years ago. I sought halp I when asked went for help I knew my family needed it. I love you and remember things aren't what they seem and the only way to carry is for this to happen and learn and you can forgive anyone that is to me in Jesus name 🙏😇❤️

@blainejules1822 3 жыл бұрын

What happened to that child 😭 I hope the child is getting the help she needs.

@cocoadavis6061 2 жыл бұрын

SHE is that child. The speaker IS the child

@lisaparks6614 4 жыл бұрын

She's talking about me

@lisawhittington4 6 жыл бұрын

Wow¡ Ty

@allisoncoensgen9481 2 жыл бұрын

I believe you.

@me_the.curious 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah we are a survivor not a victim 🍻🤘 I fought for it so many years I'm ok now ...be cause I have a power 💜💙🧡❤💚💛

@685JONESY 7 жыл бұрын

thank you. i recently started my own chanel and i will be to discussing this. my life of hell, but not just the horrid story, but how i survived and bow how i am going to tell my story. the story my family believes i am betraying my family by speaking of this. i lived in shame for 44 years, i am only 44. i am going to free myself. i fought, i feared, and i froze. i told my mother whom i know she knew tge whole time, but told her when i was 29. and again the betrayal of no support. i have a great story and i am ready to tell. please follow me i will tell it all. i will give advise. i became a cop and i work in a high school now. i truly thank you. please follow me. story time starts tomorrow. i will update often you can also fine me on facebook or instagram

@breakthespelllliftthecurse2237 6 жыл бұрын

Shirley Jones what is your KZfaq channel?

@shawnette1 4 жыл бұрын

Wow. Oh God no 😢

@lissettesbloom8223 5 жыл бұрын

So sorry you were hurt like that. The lady was a demon. I wish I could of helped you.

@dieguismama2330 6 жыл бұрын

you forgot Fawn

@Sisterlisk Жыл бұрын

When she said there's one more F, I was like ooh fawn, right? but then she said "fault"....

@barrelracer8124 2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@AyeshaAdam Жыл бұрын

You can do anything and everything to overcome trauma, however the Power to do this, only lies in the Hands of the One Who Created Us All. Ask HIM to Guide You. Read the Holy Qur'aan and it will all make sense. Aameen.

@minarose3193 6 жыл бұрын

If her parents weren't ignoring her they would have caught signs

@taylatimms3847 5 жыл бұрын

Thats just pure ignorance on your part my parents didnt ingore me but never picked the so called "signs" you see one whos to scared to tell or have been couched by the abuser and tricked into thinking its okay n to keep quite can hide it better then you could imagine because when your scared to show people your true pain behind that fake smile trust my you hide it as though your life depends on it.

@SandraLovesRoses 6 жыл бұрын

Damn.

@judylilian575 4 жыл бұрын

One thing is for sure sweetie. It was none of your fault.

@kaylisa2655 Жыл бұрын

I was frozen

@minarose3193 6 жыл бұрын

I mean 6 years? The parents should be arrested too specially the mother who was too busy shopping and socializing

@hectorfive222 4 жыл бұрын

There are 2 teens teasing the child

@lisaj2269 6 жыл бұрын

The sound at the beginning hurt my ears.

@jenrich111 5 жыл бұрын

Heaps of creepy "grooming" from Waldie the predator nanny

@edsbread1422 8 жыл бұрын

I hate myself

@shitocodone8940 8 жыл бұрын

I hate you

@685JONESY 7 жыл бұрын

EDSBREAD do not ever hate yourself.

@khazovaru9892 7 жыл бұрын

EDSBREAD what did you do? tell us. we will tell the police and you will feel better.

@Oliver-uz6vf 6 жыл бұрын

Are u a victim or a surviver??

@user-dp4bu8jy4b 5 жыл бұрын

You can get help. It wasn't your fault. You can overc0me

@jacquelinebtoccigailhelena5184 5 жыл бұрын

Look into identity theft

@makaylahollywood3677 4 жыл бұрын

Fight Flight Freeze Fawn:)

@annpetrillo7535 4 жыл бұрын

PETE Walker

@makaylahollywood3677 4 жыл бұрын

@@annpetrillo7535 Hello Ann, Yes. I have two of his books. "The Tao of fully feeling" and "PTSD from surviving to thriving". I use them like going to the gym to keep in shape emotionally. Have a wonderful Day.;-)

@hectorfive222 4 жыл бұрын

There is a 4 yo or 6 yo talking about grown up stuff. Weird.