My father used to say that gossipers have a low I q. And he told me to stay away from people who like to sit around and gossip about other people and not to even talk to them. They are very low in intelligence they have nothing else to talk about. And they're bored with their life. And mostly because they are getting older. And they just like to sit around and do nothing else

The way I handle gossip? I don’t participate. I can’t control what others, think, feel, say, or do. I allow my behavior and actions speak for me. Fact: poor performing employee employees often target and gossip about high performing employees.

So many work places are so negative and toxic. It's depressing.

I say to anyone who wants to come to me with gossip. Don't talk to me, go talk to the person that you are gossiping about. I'll get right in their face. I have been a victim of gossip, and it doesn't feel good trouble making people you should never be around .

Smile, do your job, get your money. Always have multiple streams of income

I told all my work colleagues that I will only talk 2 them in a professional manner, blocked them all on social media

Did I just find the last decent human being on earth? If everyone was as good of a human being as this man I would have zero stress

Malicious gossip in the work place is also unlawful...its harassment

Oh damn , I need this. Someone at the gym comes over to me and talk crap about others to me. He keeps tabs on me and on others too

My problem is I am the only one who isnt gossiping/backbiting. So as much as I love my job I cant stand the toxic environment. They all enjoy it and laugh at each other. Seems like technically no one likes anyone and yet they all bond tightly over the "humorous" backbiting. The one thing they all agree on is that I am the best target since I will just not engage/protect myself. Makes me want to quit the job I love but then I worry that im just going to jump into another toxic environment 😢

I tried this and the person walked away stunned. I will keep this up. Giving into gossip isn’t a good look.

My heart rate shot up the moment you shut down the negativity. Exact words I need. So awesome I'm skipping the gym today!!

I had to slowly separate/ghost from a clique during COVID, because I noticed they talked shit about each other when one person was gone. But when everyone was together, they did all the fake smiles/fake love and pretended it was all good. Behind the scenes, I knew how certain people really felt, so I learned to mind my business and just wish the best for everyone. The problem with that is that they see you as a threat, because you don't co-sign their BS, or you have your own life outside of the clique. Once you stop showing up to things, they take it as a personal insult and get pissed! It's best to keep a respectful distance when you peep the BS. Because even though they'll now see you as the enemy, you have your peace and freedom from the shenanigans they play with each other.

I got so tired of so many Christians at JB Hunt gossiping about me that I moved to an atheist country and I'm so much happier here.

I think especially if I am in a meeting, I don’t think it’s helpful for anyone for me to remain silent while they’re gossiping about someone, and I think it’s helpful to remind them that we don’t need to talk about these things. The gossip will end if the silent people point out that no one should gossip!

I am working in a company with good jobs, but there is a heavy toxic environment in some departments, sadly mine is one of them. I got two "clowns", who when they open their mouths, they start to gossip brutally. I got 2 years and started to feel anxiety and got enough. Today one of them entered my room and asked why I am quitting ? My answer was: "I am tired of listening bullshit" , with my legs on the chair. Every normal human being got his limit, mine was exceeded.

One thing about a rumor, people will use that against u without knowing who u are. And that is Kid behavior u be too nice too ppl… they will assume URE a weirdo, gaslight u , expect the worst out of u and show fake love to u and things like that . Have friends that will help sabotage you. I had a rumor spread about liking another girl. Which was once a manipulative cousin to me. And I’d didn’t find out till the person who was beside me Laughed. The fact I didn’t realize this rumor was going on. Anger has been built in on me for 3 weeks. I had no emotions. Rumors spread so fast becuz of school. That they had people harass my home. Having already depression from ADHD and anxiety . A quick fraught in my personality dropped. I cared about nothing but my family. I don’t know how long I’ll be feeling this way but…. It’s healing. That’s all god wants for u is to have inner peace. ☮️

Good advice, but there is also a third reason why shutting down toxic talk would be good for you: associating with people telling gossip every day and immersing yourself in toxicity and gossip repeated day over day over day will also become so ingrained into your personality that will hinder you from positively changing yourself the day you need it.

My boss is such a gossip. Actually our whole leadership team is

My boss's name is Jay so it really threw me off when you used that name as an example lol. My coworkers love to talk about him behind his back. He's new to management but he's trying his best. I try not to add anything negative.

Here I succesfully redirected gossip away from me, but later became the gossip and have people constantly warn me about what is being sad... Nothing serious, but enough to be toxic. How does one shut that down?

I just tell the women “you’ve got too many wrinkles on your face to be acting like a high schooler” that shuts them up since a woman’s absolute worst concern is looking old over being a terrible person.

Absolutely fantastic content. Thank you for sharing. I agree completely, gossip is 100% CRUEL. It is not harmless like some of these gossipers think.

Some people just want you to lose in life and wanna dominate

Great pointers. Thank you for clarifying a prickly situation for me. I am an extrovert, and at work, I am very easily drawn into "sharing my thoughts" about many different subjects ( and people). Happy to let others know what my viewpoint is, I have found myself in situations where this viewpoint was not objectively relayed and actually distorted. After a few times, I realized that my personal viewpoints were being interpreted or presented as malicious gossip. I felt truly awkward of being so open and started noticing that my innocent intention was augmented by a co-worker. Thank you for making so clear what to do, in circumstances like these. I am a professional and do not wish to see my standards degraded, no matter how well-intended my comments were.

Great advices! Wished I seen this video before all the toxic gossip occurred

I NEEDED THIS!!! Thank you!!!❤❤❤❤

I live in a complex where there's a bunch of seniors and there's some really nice ones here and but there's some that are just out to lunch. I mean, you can tell that they have nothing better to do. And they love to be mean they love to cause trouble. There's some people in here that were sent from a mental ward a few years ago, and now they have to be around us and they got mental problems, they sit around and they smoke marijuana and it's screwing up the brain. I can see a big change in the brain chemistry. And for anybody out there that thinks that marijuana doesn't affect your brain. Come and live here and live among the people I know in my apartment.

Watching this with 12 years of managerial experience when I myself got sucked into it unknowingly!

Thank you for sharing, I needed to know how to respond to this. God bless you 🙏🏾

Needed this simple video, it's amazing how much energy we can invest in trying to stamp out this kind of fire, before you realize you're only burning yourself.

Covert workplace bullies just love spreading gossip it helps elevate their status, they love that schadenfreude feeling , it can sometimes turn into social bullying, you will slowly see their work, as your friends start to gost you .

Nice!

Straight to the point

Thank you!!

So nice. And we must remember we have been the perpetrators as well

This is excellent advice!

life saver

Very nice, short, productive and sweet video. Thanks!

No "gossip" is good especially when the people at work are toxic af. I will say whatever I want about anyone at anytime & to their faces too & I will not be censored by toxic people. Who clearly are getting mad bc I shut down their politics game. I love to mess with that toxic game of work politics & making good workers do all the work. I love breaking up the status quo & breaking all the silent toxic af rules.

Simple, thoughtful and effective. I Love your strategies! Thanks for sharing, you must be AMAZING to have as a leader 👍👍

Thank you!

I don't say anything like that. I'm so blunt and forward. Why pussy foot around. I don't care if it gets anybody upset . And if it upsets the gossiper big deal, Because you're not losing a friend. By being straightforward and to the point and Blunt. It's helping you to be strong inside.

i like this!! it’s so easy and effective but not mean ❤

Great advice, Galen. Interested in your opinion when the top executives are the gossipers and are not only cruel in their accusations of others but do it openly and relish in criticizing everything not just work related issues but physical features, clothing choices, etc

This is so awesomely helpful. Thank you

Thank you sir, you saved me so much energy and time ❤🙏 thank you

Thanks this is helpful!

Hi Galen from CultureDrop! Thanks for your video! I believe these tips are really valuable if the gossip is e.g. a colleague or a customer. However, when it's your boss, someone you're financially dependent on or anyone else with a power differential like a division manager, these tips are really hard to apply because it may seem preposterous to say to a boss "shall I help you formulate a reply to this person" or disrespectful to say "I don't have time for this" Can you make a video about how to shut down the gossiping when *the person gossiping is your boss* or in another position of authority over you? E.g. I'm in a situation where I work in a team of 4, it's a "non-hierarchical" structure but effectively my 3 colleagues are my 3 bosses , they're all 15-20 years my seniors and I'm in a junior role. It's a tiny social services provider, so there are no other colleagues. They are slacking off former junior staff members (e.g. saying to me "well she decorated this, but that's the only thing she was good for" / "she was this pretty, spoiled girl and thought she was better than us" or also slackibg off + telling really, really intimate details about our clients (e.g. telling me about one clients trauma and her marital problems - this is not related to our work at all, they only know these things because the clients trust them and tell these intimate things / making disparaging remarks about clients). When my bosses make mistakes and other service providers rightfully tell them off, they endlessly complain to me about it. It's a workplace that's toxic as fuck under the surface but they're these friendly ladies to anyone on the outside, and they acted like that to me when I applied otherwise I would never have gotten in. They don't respond to any kind of constructive criticism (I tried telling them in the beginning while I value them, I'm uncomfortable with their behaviour but they went all like "are you saying we're heartless bitches" - now I'm just keeping my head down, but I feel SO uncomfortable having them tell me all these things). I'm bound by contract to stay another year and there is no authority I could report them to (plus from the outside they paint such a rosy picture that it's unlikely anyone will believe me). What's your advice in this case?

I've got a coworker that is intrusive and bird dogging meanwhile inside work areas. Constantly complaining to desk ckerk.. have a click drama group in our work team.. Had enough..

I tried this on several jobs, stay to myself, walked off when gossip starts and then the gossips pull out the magic wand and “WALLA” all of sudden I’ll hear 2 or 3 rumors that even the people who hear it knows it’s not true, but participate in spreading the lies anyway.

Wonderful content underated channel!

I loved how you mentioned " i don't have space for this / that ".. definately going to utilize that. I have always been the type "if you will not go to the source, then please let me out of it " in other words, i'm willing to decipher a peaceful outcome, but if they just want a cheerleader for their side of the story, i'm just not the one. Please spare me.

I did this at my kids school when one of the mums came to me about another mum, now me and the other mum are both being gossiped about 😂

I often say... "That's not my baggage; not my train."

You can't stop workplace gossip. If you try to shut it down or don't participate to perpetuate it somehow, then you will be excluded and then gossip about you to have you isolated and gotten rid of.

I wish i could speak like this.

Thank you so much for this. How do you get comfortable with the awkwardness?

I spend 10 grand to move away from harrsment i never forget being flooded out of house and home call if got a problem call the police sorry i can't help those people😊 trying hard to be in a happy place😊

I have a group of mean girls in my trading unit. One of the mean girls made a unit announcement when instructors left the room, “snitches get stitches” and she has said it more than once. When I have seen people try to tell the mean girls to be quiet bc they talk to loud they get verbally abusive and once, one of the mean girls had to tell another mean girl to stop being so rude. What should I do? Mind you, these are county social workers in training who are intimidating fellow professionals. I can’t imagine how they might act with families who have experienced trauma and abuse.

When it’s your boss 🥲

This may seem toxic in itself, but I work a govt job with a bunch of gossipy men and as soon as you confront them it shuts down 90% of the time. No passive aggressiveness, direct discussion.

I'm trying to avoid a woman but it's difficult when it's an open office of some sort, where you can see everyone. My keeping my head down and minding my business when she was a new employee must have struck a nerve with her and another new employee she befriended. Not a negative thought towards anyone was in my mind until she started acting out. I'm unsure if avoiding her and acting as if there was never a problem in the first place (because in my mind there was. I felt so at peace with my whole life and work situation), is making me look bad or smart for not participating in drama. I don't stop to ask anyone for validation, as that could be seen as insecurity or give someone something to talk about. And words spread here like wildfire. I waste no time gathering my things once the clock strikes 5, because that's when she starts to relax and trash talks about anything. No one else in the department, except for maybe one other, talks like this except for her. I've been working at this place for a long time. I keep my head down for a good reason. I know the ins and outs of almost everything, and can easily identify someone that wants to cause trouble or isn't someone I'd want to associate with. This place is the perfect recipe for drama, and it just needs that one thing to make it all happen. edit to add missing word

What if you are the person being gossiped about and you indirectly hear it all: it's all happening behind the half-wall (sort of open consent) while I am only learning the new job? Examples: 1) "I think she and him are dating because he offered to drive/drop her home" (Reality: we were former colleagues at a different company though, plus I am gay ....which makes it ridiculously funny, and plus he heard the same sh*t too, about me and him dating, hahahha). 2) I am not talking to the people in parts (me and my colleague in Service, alternate areas and so we work/make Repair estimates like this: 1 week she deals more with local parts people in our office while I communicate more with parts people in the rest of the province, and them we switch on a weekly basis. 3) I don't talk to a sales reps for some other imagined reason........ Reason is the exact same as the one above: alternating areas w/in country. There are 2 more scenarios they came up with and convinced themselves to be true and spread around, but they don't come to mind at this time. So, 3 month probation and 5 scenarios. Film-makers to say the least. These who gossip and come up with scenarios are office people, we're about 6 of us there, including the manager. All I ever do is do my job, finished my 3 moths probation successfully, I am still slower than my colleague opposite my desk, and I can't chat everyone up, plus they are supposed to be busy too. :)))) I do chat with them from daily for a little bit, here and there, especially after a weekend. Also, I ask them work reputed questions, we're (supposed to be) a team. Conclusion: I speak when I have to, or I chat with co-workers in the yard, or in the building, during lunch brake or coffee break, and I don't do this everyday with the same people: I alternate, some other times they are busy, other times I am busy, maybe on the phone in the yard.. Everything happens naturally, I find. Apparently, this is "not good enough", so to speak. What advise do you have for someone who is being gossiped about? (And no, I wouldn't be able to shut down the gossip myself and eye to eye, since it's not told to me directly, it is only talked about me And they would clearly deny it and call me crazy. No one would have a Spine, a Backbone to admit their mistakes. (Keep in mind, I am not the only one being gossiped about, I just happen to be in the vicinity/immediate area -- all 6 of us in 2 rooms divided by a half-wall and no door -- when the gossip happens.) So far, I am having fun for the most part, knowing none of it is true, but boy oh boy, the sh*t that can go through these people's heads is amazing. I would be really, really tired of constancy giving someone (myself, in this case) so much attention, be that positive or negative. :)) To be frank, sometimes I do feel mentally drained. Which is why I am writing all of this. You can respond here, or send me a private message on my KZfaq account. This is a Forklift repair company, we're talking about, where the vast majority are men. I've been told guys gossip more then girls. I'd have to agree, given the circumstances. Thank you PS: I forgot to say: I am taking notes at home about all this gossip, I know who says it and when (I pay attention at the clock to know when it happened). I just keep this private. Not much I can do at this time. Anyway, my way: "kill the with kindness". I did notice one person calming down. and a PPS: Needless to say, I do not gossip, by default. I do talk to my mom or a friend on the phone about this or that, but at work, with colleagues, I never ever gossip about anyone. I was the same in school, uni, other wotk places, etc. I generally do not gossip, because I strongly believe that the time we waste gossiping is time that we will never ever get it back, time we lose forever and ever. :))

"I don't have the bandwidth to deal with this traumadump."

But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. Matthew 12:36

I have a good heart and I befriend anyone people who I thought was cool with me got a rumor going on about me and I don't know why I never did anything to them they laugh and joke. Sad thing I'm only at that job for a few more months I can easily get another job but im moving out of state NC people are toxic as a black man I'm going to say I see why white people judge them.

I have learned these people hate themselves and unload their hate on coworkers or co-worker

And The Thing is, a lot of them are nosy. They stick their head out the window and they say I wonder where that person is going. I wonder why that person did this. I wonder why they did that. And they always say I wonder why she or he was over at so And so. So the gossip starts, and they say well. I know why she's over at So and so. So there are a bunch of backstabbing trouble making people where I live I just have to appreciate those who're not like that and be friends with them. The bible says that gossip is like murder. The bible says do not be going from house to house gadding about. And yet these people are the ones that think they're so high and mighty.

What the heck do you do if it's the boss? Someone I know is just calling people on the team stupid, I hate it. I know she must gossip about me too.

Stay quiet and don’t affiliate with anyone at work because even if they try to pin you down it’s almost impossible because you don’t get involved with gossip and you mind your own business

Definition of social workers and nurses they fall you make cold for you feel like you and or just you because they have to work on things and I don’t wanna work. That’s why they always on strike.

LOL NO WAY JOSE

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Sometimes people just need to vent...

This feels like putting a band aide on a infected wound. Sure it covers it up, but if not properly treated, it will get worse. If you’re in a position of leadership, is it enough to just push it aside? I feel like this wil result in people siloing and not addressing issues. I’m pretty sure you’ll stop hearing about the gossip, but the gossip won’t stop. And that will hide the issue, but it won’t hide the team slowly falling apart.

Ok we saw what a white collar guy would do. Now let’s see a blue collar talk about how he would deal with it

I would never say wow, I would like to help. You can formulate some kind of conversation to help yourself. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. That way you are not getting involved. Why should it be anybody's business to try to help the gossiper. It's not your problem in the beginning. When you make a suggestion to help somebody that is a gossiper you're getting involved. Don't make their problem become Your problem. Get out of it, alienate yourself.

Why all these cheap excuses? They sounds so fake. I prefer saying I don't want to support any gossip. Period.

You are too exited, dude.

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