When you feel a red Flag ,you are always right. Glad u mentioned the lack of respect. If u didn't point out what he did he would do it again and to others. Good for you! when u get older ,its so much better. The hormones are quiet and less worry.

I hope you find someone serious who's as respectful and kind as you

Your perspective is refreshing to hear

You only get ONE chance to make a first impression. One has to be on their best behavior during the date ( not talking about anything negative) and showing up promptly for the date- especially if the other person is traveling to you.

This story had more red flags than May Day in Moscow.

You have classically good manners and this behavior, at least for me, is respectful and refreshing. You'll find someone who will treat you well and all of these experiences will have been worth it.

I have had somewhat similar experiences in my past, which led me to be mindful from the very beginnings of getting to know someone, to follow my gut instincts. As a result, I have spared myself of the disappointments and irritability of setting myself up for those scenarios ever again. We all must take stock and learn from our mistakes… it is called wisdom! 😁

Always be openminded.

Keven, it was his loss. You are such an intelligent, polite, profound and handsome man, don’t stop being nice and open. Meeting people through apps and social media is not the best, but it’s what is there at hand..keep on until you find the love you deserve ❤

Hi Keven, I think your reaction to leave was a good one. If someone doesn't respect your time or feelings at the beginning of a relationship their respect for you will probably not get better over time. If he smokes weed with his friends you probably avoided a lot of other hurt and frustration dealing with someone so self centered.

I sympathise with what you said and agree completely with your thought process (and actions) - that would also rub me the wrong way. The least he could have done was to show up on time in his own neighbourhood! As others have said, trust your instinct 👍. I still love the way you move the camera around, even though it has been edited! (I prefer no edits, ha ha)😂

Hey Keven when I find out someone smokes anything that is a game changer. I don't smoke. It is very hard to find someone that wants to get to know you but you can get sex anytime. Sometimes you want more. Luv your videos.

The lateness/ tardiness could def be a cultural issue too, fwiw. But 15 mins is pretty much pushing the envelope even then…

I like listening to your stories Keven.....you are a good storyteller! Thank you! ❤

Trust your gut, Keven!!! Frankly, you need to get off of Grindr and onto something else. And you need to consider dating older guys. Not all older guys have emotional maturity -- by a long shot. But older guys who have been in previous long-term relationships generally have an emotional maturity that will meet your maturity level. You're a super intelligent gorgeous guy. You seem to have a maturity beyond your years. It's going to be hard to find that same level of maturity in someone else your own age. Take away here is: Start dating older dudes, Keven (and find out if they've ever been in a long-term relationship before and, if so, how long is "long-term")!!! xxxx oooo President of the Chicago Chapter of the Keven Fan Club

I see you dating an older more mature and responsible man......good luck finding one! :-)

He's very laid back - weed. You're too accommodating and thoughtful - polite. You did the right thing in the end.

I think you acted good, you gave him a chance despite the "little red flags" in case maybe he's not that bad, and you got your confirmation when he didn't show up. I would have left too, it's disapointing that he was a no show, but you know, his "wavelenght" would have probably irritated you on the long run. They say the first date gives the best impression of how someone is, it wouldn't have been the first time he's very late or doesn't show up.

Never date anyone who has roommates and a scooter. Very immature set up to begin with. As for being late for a first date, it is verboten!!! I mean, you can be 5 minutes late, but after 10 minutes, I would just leave.

And he would have done it again, too. Like you said, not maliciously, but because that's the type of guy he is, clueless and immature. He does seem like an overage college boy. The roommates and pot smoking. He could be sweet as all get out but believe me, he's the kind of guy you'd end up "taking care of." Trust your gut. It never lies.

I agree with most of your thoughts here. Except having roommates I don't think is some red flag at all. The other thing is, I would given him a chance to make it up. Of course we would prefer it if they had done better from the start, but to me if they can show learning and progress, that's still great and worth pursuing.

When I lived in Miami beach, I never went into Miami. okay once in awhile I would go to Hialeah or that mall down by Coral gables, but we never went to Miami.

Umm...tardiness, everyone is late (things happen as you said in the video) and I do not read much into that. I thought the guy that you described was very sweet, he profusely apologized for his tardiness and even offered to meet somewhere close to you. Its ultimately your choice, but I respect the person that can swallow their pride and admit that they are wrong as everything in life isn't black and white. I would also realize and accept that people make mistakes (arguably some bigger than others) and sometimes its better to forgive as I wouldn't want to develop a reputation that you make one mistake then I am cutting you out of my life. As life is about taking chances and there is nothing wrong with that :).

If the other person communicates with me with updates before and during their tardiness that they are running late and why they are running late, and apologizes for being late, then I'm OK with it as long as they are not over half an hour late. There might be mitigating circumstances under which I might forgive them for being more than half an hour late, but in that case I would leave after waiting for half an hour and say we should reschedule the date for another day. It would also help if they made some gesture to show that they were truly sorry for being late and that they are actually a considerate person, like offering to buy me a drink or to pick up the check. If they did make such an offer, I would usually say they didn't have to do that because the gesture is enough for me; I don't actually need them to spend the money on me, unless I considered their excuse for being late to be lame.

Keven...Keven.... that was some drama. Trust your instincts. See the reg flags. There were many. There is a line between being understanding and seeing something or someone for who they really are. That was a waste of your time, energy, and effort. It is all about respect and respective people's boubdaries. You got frustrated. You owned it in your video. People get caught up with the idea of wanting to be with someone or wanting something to go right, the miss the red flags. I do hope you meet someone. I wonder what videos you will post when this is an issue for you to meet someone. This has been a journey.

I am there 15 before you every single time unless my head fell off

Seriously? Because the guy smokes a joint and is twenty minutes late (oh my god, 25, what was I thinking!) you throw a fit? He apologizes, he calls, he shows up, and you run off like you've seen the devil? Dude... learn to manage your emotions, and also... stop overthinking like that, it's annoying.