Ohh honey, i can’t count how many times I’ve been unseen, unwelcome and unvalued by other LGBTQ+ with more “attractive” features ( white, skinny, nice clothes, muscles, etc.). This crap doesn’t seem to ever go away unfortunately

My honest opinion is we all have a lot of fucked up ideas about what is clean or attractive. For me with all the time I spend in wild nature, I find natural scents and bushy bearded men attractive. I find that men who bathe in rivers on a backpacking trip and get naturally fit from hiking and living out side are the hottest. These kind of men are hard to find in mainstream gay culture or most of America for that matter. I engender my own confidence and attracting by emulating what I believe wild people from nature connected societies find attractive. All the other clean cut stuff fashiony feeds the corporate machine and our insecurities. I came out in 1990. It was more conformist then in gay culture. I pleased to see more folx out here willing to step outside the domesticated colonized mindset in lifestyle and fashion choices

This is an interesting topic. I currently experience this emotion of feeling lonely and attaching it to attractiveness. Some people say I am attractive and yet it doesn't mean a lot in real life. I am very self-critical and self-aware about my flaws, which makes me anxious and shy in the public. Some stares and smiles have a negative effect. Wish I knew how to make friends in this community regardless of looks.

Loved this video. The whole sentiment is so healthy. As gay men, culturally, we are shallow and vapid. Basically, everyrhing is surface and sexually oriented. And that distracts us from showing up, collectively, as our authentic selves. Myself, i get male attention. However, recently, I've decided to be voluntarily celibate and just stay away from men and the toxic dating scene for a minute. I feel so much happier, freer, and healthier. I still go out and dress nice and etc. but its only because it makes me feel good...not trying to pull guys. Yeah, i want love someday but it has to be someone hella special because I'm not going to put myself through the whole ordeal of the toxic dating realm.

My childhood was full of rape, emotionally and physically abusive parents. I came too far, built confidence, a personality, i tried to heal, or at least learnt to cover my scars so well. I'm attractive to the most. I make good money. Everything seems fine from the outside. But I'm so alone in where I'm in my life right now. I can't build connection and trust with anyone. Completely focused on my career and escaping from every genuine interaction, I'm very creeped out by people, i feel like a total sociopath. My fabric is not cut for any of this. Sometimes i think i should've been dead a long time ago. I'm just a ghost of who i used to be, before all the trauma, achieving things so the inner child can rest in peace. I hate the inner child tho.

I am attractive, I don't need to do anything as my genetics is amazing but I'm lonely... Everyone thinks I'm super cute and get all the eye contact I want and actually like but I can't find a partner in a mutual way... Not yet at least ..who I like don't want me or don't have the courage and who likes me ,I don't want... My personality is genuine, not fake. I'm authentic 💯

Thanks for your honesty on this video. I’ve found the gay community to be very superficial at times as well even though many will try to claim that it isn’t.

I'm 41 and I'm alone and will be alone until I die. I have been called attractive at points in my life, and part of me believes I was. But I'm not now. I have had a hard life full of mental health problems and trauma, and faced so much stigma. I have tried my best to do what I can to be the best me that I can be, but that's not enough. I am unlovable and undateable and am have certain things about me that are repulsive, and nobody, especially a gay man, will tolerate. I was raped 12 years ago, and contracted HIV from that rape. People tell you U=U, nobody cares etc etc, but they do, and in my experience the men that don't have HIV won't touch me with a barge pole. The ones that have HIV, and that is a much smaller pool in an already small pool, won't date me because of the state of my mouth, which I can't fix. It has been destroyed because of bulimia, and everybody is disgusted by it. I've been told I can't have implants because of my gums, even if I could afford the £30,000 to do it, which I in no way can. It is hard to be this way as all I want to do is be held, and to love someone. But I won't be. Some people aren't meant for this world, and I am one of those people.

I’m really happy you’re talking about this. I’m nonbinary and queer. Think I’m attractive, but definitely feel very insecure still and queer loneliness because I do see how attractive gays get attention. Or even just base level interest which even sparks amazing friendships. I don’t know, I’m sad and lonely. I’m definitely attractive, but it’s just disheartening to see others immediately get attention, care, or empathy first because of their level of attractiveness.

i love your videos and how you speak on real issues that we face as a community.

I'malmost 29 but people think that I look 21-25. I'm a feminine black bottom and I'm androgynous to the point where people go back and forth with calling me a girl and a guy or just a girl.. my mom went with me to a job interview and the lady said hello to me and said to my mother, "Oh hi you must be the mom, is this your daughter." I was like 😳 my mom told her yeuh he gets told that a lot lol. I use grindr but it's just a mess. Guys like my bubblebutt but most of them say they cannot meet up or they do but they'll live in California while I live in Massachusetts.. 😅 I'm so lonely, and I just want a bf so I can sit in their lap and watch movies or learn something new and study science and play music together. I'm in a rock band. 🎸 I found your channel because I'm a black bottom and I am sick of the stereotypes that black men have to be.. you know what and white men stereotype wise are you know what.. I wanted to see those roles change regardless of race/ethnicity. Sorry for the rambling 😅

Lmao If that statement was true I wouldn't be single. When was the last time I had a date? Hmm let me think yes .... 15 years ago. 🙄

Unfortunately yes to a large extent

The cure is be less picky and forget what people think about you and your partner, is a shame when you have a friend and he dont wants to show his partner because is not too white, omg we deserve our loneliness

Beautiful eyes!

there is no such thing as "being attractive" ! aethetic beauty is like art, in the eye of the beholder. it is a subjective perspective, not an objective fact. Duh.

off topic but I adore your teethhhhh. thanks for the viddd!

so true !

You're so gorgeous!!! What make-up do you use?

Love ❤️ ur videos. You look fantastic 😍 🎉