Your advice is ten times better than the video lol

Good point. When people say there's a reason for the break up, those reason(s) are the negative feelings that you felt after seeing red flags, indicating that this person is not right for you. Trust your gut feelings. You have standards of how you want to be treated and this person didn't meet those standards. He may apologize and change his behaviours to make you feel more loved (in this case, you could consider giving him a 2nd chance). Or, he may decide that he did nothing wrong/he doesn't have to change and leave the relationship (in this case, good riddance). Whatever happens, stick to your standards of how you wish to be treated/respected as an individual and partner in a healthy, loving relationship. You are worth every ounce of love, patience, and understanding that this world can offer. Congratulations if you find the person who can give you all of that. If not, learn to give it to yourself. And it's ok if you messed up the no-contact period. Start over. Let go of the hope that you guys can get back together. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and walk on with your head held high. No shame. No guilt. No regrets. You know you deserve better. ;)

Thank you

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Or she

This is true because it hurts our ego.

mine moved into a new relationship like a week after we broke up, she was toxic af tho

That‘s so me 😂

I hear ya - vibing! If you have just broken up with someone, it’s ok to take your time - before you jump into another relationship. You’re doing yourself a disservice by getting involved with someone new before you’re really ready to commit to another person. It’s ok to be single, you have to learn to accept the fact that there’s nothing wrong with being single - once you have adopted that mindset, things will really start to turn around for you! Cheers! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

yes, same here!!😄

Same. He is much better than my therapist lol

Same here. Just started watching a few weeks ago and now he is my go to. All of you(us) who take his advice have progressed in life, love and happiness.

You got this bubblegum! Try your best to not reminisce

I'm in this stage.

When I start to regret or reminisce on the past and/or “what could have been”, it helps me to remember what is TRUE. What’s true is (1) the facts of what happened, no assumptions or accusations, just facts (2) the fact of the discrepancies between my North Star and the facts of what happened and (3) after I quickly go through steps 1 and 2, I don’t allow myself to dwell anymore, (*when you focus on facts and truth, you don’t need to think about it further bc you’ve already identified the truth, anything else is drama or an indulgence which I won’t allow bc neither help me, they harm me by allowing me to live in the pain or the past or in the hypothetical fantasy of what could have been*), so I come back to the present and literally narrate what I’m doing to redirect my attention to what is TRUE in the present: “I am standing by the oven watching my eggs boil”, “I am sitting here and breathing”, “I am driving my car”. And doing this over the last six weeks has helped me gather myself and move forward faster than previous breakups where I was gutted for months or, in one case, years. Facts help me correct the drama (let’s be honest, the agony has a kind of sweetness to it, it can be addicting to indulge that drama with myself), and then I have to snap out of it by naming what it true in the present. Hope this helps you, too!

@@Kewkumber Thank you!!! :)

How are you now

I am going through this same feeling. I miss the idea of him but living with him I would always wonder if he was talking to someone and if I should be loving but I couldn’t because of all the cheating that he did. I now moved out but feeling that he was my world

Dang, I was lied to over 5x. I still accepted her back. But I'm dumb.

I agree, I’ve been there, Four year of relationship, just wanted transparency, honesty and respect, cheated on and then she blew all the chances she got and kept lying, hiding , ignoring ! I’m glad I finally was able to end that suffering,

Me too. After 3months now, I hear she pregnant but he was mean to me so that helps a little but it's like wow 5th child after 3 months lol

@@michaelsilverfoote6272 I swear I've seen this comment somewhere else before. Please let me know how things are going for you, you sound a lot like myself

@@michaelsilverfoote6272 One day at a time is good! What's the difference between that and ego?

@@michaelsilverfoote6272 Does it get any easier? Please tell me it does. Is anything else helping you move on?

It's been 10 years for me

Same for me… It’s crazy! My brain knows i need to move on but my heart cannot listen, even if I try to deny my emotions… Cant wait to feel better… dont know if I ever will.

amen!

Yep. I’ve had to work on the opposite. The building of mutual trust instead of just trusting and see what happens. More boundaries please

@@JP-lw4js Yup, same.

This is true, surround yourself with people who have your best interests at heart...then less often, I have to believe that less often in that case would be safer to trust.

Some people on the spectrum are quite upfront and unaffectionate I’m really not sure how we can make the balance between acceptance of their neurological social negative behavior and protecting our boundaries from being invaded whether physical or verbal.. I think it’s time we started speaking and getting real help as the number of people on the spectrum have increased in recent times, and are being diagnosed early in their life,, more awareness is needed,, especially for the person who’s around them

You should give someone a chance dear, the truth is that the universe is never so unfair, experiences are to teach us where we didn't get it right... If you've been abused... Experience should teach you to see it coming before it gets close, letting go of the past will give you a new life.... Let's get along if you don't mind

How I wish I could get a chance with you but I know you won't

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Thanks so much dear

Pray during your good and bad times

Life is actually too long lol

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I’m feeling that right now, so hard

@@racheyg1980 you’ll get through it. I’m 7 months out now and I feel good again. It was such extreme emotional pain I even had thoughts of suicide. You will make it ! Trust me.

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It’s been 3 months for me. Struggling terribly, ruminating on a daily basis and don’t know where this ride ends

@@robstone6711 hey bro, how it's going? I recommend you to watch Matthew's videos called "Stop torturing yourself" and "What to do ig your ex moved on too fast". Those helped me a lot. I hope it works for you too.

Ahaa! I can completely relate this. However, I'm hopeful that my best is yet to come.

1.5 years… same here… everyday. Don’t want to forget though, I thought we had a good thing. He thought otherwise I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

The truth is that no one deserves you more than yourself, no matter the experience you had with someone if that person didn't feel same you don't have to put your mind in it.... We are a product of our mind, if you allow yourself to dwell in the past it will hurt you. Learning to let go of the past and believing that the future has better things is wisdom let's get along if you don't mind

7 months here... it's so frustrating!! 😭😭

That gives me some hope. Thank you.

Exactly, it’s a life lesson for all, hit me once shame on you, hit me twice shame on me!

I keep beating myself up because I went back numerous of times o my for it to End the Same every time smh, but I try to tell myself that at least now and I know and enough is enough and I will not return.

@@Ask4Alli me, except that it fails every single time because i legitimately find a new reason

Whoa, never thought about it like that. That helps alot. Thanks for sharing.

I've tried putting the past behind me and changing my mindset,he just keep on coming back with his pain trying to make me miserable so everything of the best to you

Great for you

I think most of what he shares can be applied in those areas as well. I hope that this helps

Leave him. You deserve better. I went through same

End contact, delete number, heal yourself before you date again, and forget about him

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've never been good at relationships, so I'm not sure what to say. It seems so strange, but I don't want you to feel alone or like no one cares.

@@heathern4052 thankyou

@@gypseytoo I hope I can find something better. Love to you too

Be yourself and move on

​@@heathern4052you going through the same issues too ??

Hope things work out for you ,you taking responsibility for your part , I admire you for that ,stay strong things has a way of working out for the best

That’s really really bad bro and very Shocking!

My intuition has never failed me yet. When I get to know someone, I can read through all the BS and know they are lying without any proof. It’s a gift and a curse because I seem to attract all the wrong women. When my gut feeling is telling me something is wrong, there is definitely something wrong. I’m so sick of dating liars and shady women