That sounds like mostly a problem that women have because generally the guys women usually really like are the type of guys are hesitant to get into relationships.

And also because its a slight ego issue with us women. We overestimate ourselves.. we take it as a challenge that we will be the girl who he will change for or fall for. but usually that doesn’t happen and instead we just end up broken-hearted and only have ourselves to blame because he already showed us he didn’t want a relationship.

@@sebnemnisanci our type as women is some jerk who mistreats us. That's biology. The happiest marriages I have seen are arranged ones. Half my family is middle eastern, arranged marriages, and half western, mainly divorces. I went for the bad boy who showed his colours after he proposed and everything my dad said I could see, so I ended it before he broke my heart. Then after I met my husband I introduced him casually to my dad as friend. My dad said this one is a good man for you to marry, give him a chance. After a couple months I finally did and he won me over. Such an amazing man. Chemistry dies after two years... but love grows every year. We are together 8 years, married for 6 and so happy. I think women feel entitled that there should be instant chemistry with a complete stranger.... and the only reason there is chemistry that early is danger. We are attracted to bad boys because historically they would protect us from bad animals outside the cave but today we don't need a caveman but a gentleman who can provide and take care of us.... let's be real about that because independence in women is why most marriages fall apart... since women don't know how to be dependent on a man when the baby comes... and as a result the whole thing is anger, resentment ... because motherhood isn't 50-50. Westerners think that they can outrun nature and live according to dreams in their head as opposed to understanding biological reality and working with it.

Just the mere thought that sticking around someone will fall for me... it sounds so self disrespectful and veiwing oneself so unworthy ... girls have a lot to learn...

Couldn't agree more sister.

Great to sum it up 😊

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I love how it's always about the woman changing for the man. When are the men gonna step up and let us be who we are? I'm not changing who I am and I would rather be single than put up with a douche nozzle

It’s hard for me to be in my feminine im use to bring in my masculine so much but I’m trying so I can show the right men that side💯

Yesss!! I totally agree with you.

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Mine too

You realize anything other than a yes is a no. If you don't talk to him, that's a no. If you tell him, "Not right now, maybe another time," then you just told him no. Answer him with only two to three words? NO! If you play hard to get, that's similar to not interested or a.k.a. NO! Maybe you're not really interested in the guy?

@@Berserker793 I am explaining my situation in my comment about a man I was interested but could not go forward because I was not divorced and he was divorced. Now I'm in the process of divorce but he has a girlfriend. I did not want to pursue him until I was totally available so I kept my distance and never expressed my interest in him because it was useless after he got involved with his current girlfriend, not sure if they are still together. If by any chance he is available in the future, since I am about to get divorced in March or April, and he has nobody else in his life, believe me I will be contacting him and letting him know of my interest. Don't know if he would be interested in me but I will give it a shot. 😊

@@camuyana My condolences. I guess I still have so much to learn about women.

@@Berserker793 Thanks.

Well thats why it’s your job to see if the actions and words align

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And it is better to dwell in the desert than to live with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.

Looks like Ive never found a true love where we both feel the same...

@@sebnemnisanci spot on

@@sebnemnisanci have you looked into Thais Gibson's videos ...the dynamic you're suggesting you're looking for is secure attachment

Well, this works/worked for me... Probably, it differs from one person to another... However, if you have issues being honest with your feelings, you are gonna get hurt; if this is the case I recommend the Healthy Gamer channel' material. Dr. K has reaaaaally good stuff 'bout almost anything.

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I live in rural ohio & it’s like that.

I agree! Men will always sl#t shame bc women have more options and men cannot handle that! If it was an even playing field, they wouldn’t be as bitter!

"A Man cares about a women's past and women cares about a men's future" It's not the "experienced" thing, it's about behavior. With a lot exercised options comes also behavior. And of course the obvious, which man of value is excited to be number 35, 45 or 55 in a women's life. It's not for everybody. And nobody can force your potential partner to discard his preference in someone who did not have a lot party years with party behavior.

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Yes and no.. I think it's more about why we choose that person in the first place if their future vision doesn't align with ours?

I agree. Sometimes it’s the honesty some women need to hear. It’s also good for women to reflect on themselves too and not just shift the blame onto the men.

My intent is to help, but you're gonna need to brace yourself: There are plenty of single men out there who will deal with you, you just need to accept that they're going to be average or below-average guys. It's wired into all males of any species for us to NOT want to put our resources and investment fully into another man's child. Therefore, given the option, most men would rather not commit to a single mom. Therefore, you need the type of man who probably couldn't get the -childless- version of you, because if he could get the childless version of you, he probably already has. Have an honest look at what you bring to the table, boost it up as high as you can, and be able to articulate it to him in a man's language. Then demand less from him than you would if you were childless. I know many an average guy who would rather deal with another man's kid than be alone.

Maybe next time you'll learn not to open your legs to random guys.

@@j.c.denton5193 You know, the reason is A LOT BIGGER than just "It's biology". One, the child will not respect you as a step-father. "You're not my real dad" sucks to hear, because you can't respond to it without further degrading your self-esteem. Two, if the mother chooses to leave the step-father, he can be liable to not only the standard garbage, but the extra garbage of paying for the child (that isn't his, by the way). Lastly, I'll tell you ONE and only reason why men hesitate so much in committing: "Because committing to a wrong woman is such a HUGE risk" It has nothing to do with "I'm afraid I'll change" lmao. No man actually says that.

Actions speak louder than words. He may just not be comfortable with saying the words but if he is proving to you that he loves you then thats what you need... it only becomes an issue if you aren't official after a long period of time - then you just ask.

Good point.

No he is not. He is using you for Sex. Do yourself a favour and move on - Unless you are happy being a FWB until he finds someone new.

What's a friendship with benefits? Isn't it having all perks of relationship but running away from responsibilities of relationship. I find it disrespectful. An Ex can be a friend but wouldn't be of a kind you feel secure with coz you already visited the areas of insecurity in them. There would always be a warning signal for getting disappointed or hurt.

Haha! I'm surprised more people aren't commenting on that!!

Good thing the relashioship stopped there, that person clearly have double standar and not worth it....

There's a difference between sex on the first date (no investment) and jumping through dozens hoops on multiple dates for weeks and months (too much investment). Some guys don't like the behavior of being easy, because they make assumptions about your past behavior which could lead to future worries.

Actually he only did that because he was sleeping with heaps of women

Don't settle ever!!!! If you're not happy it doesn't matter what he wants or says. Tell him this doesn't work for you and Tell him your standards what you want and if he won't do it then walk away!!!! End it!!!! Trust me it will save you YEARS of regret later on. You can't get your time back! Don't let him waste your life. Most people who want a relationship don't want to date other people. He is not normal. Don't settle for unhappiness! Believe you deserve better and you will find it. Watch the Toxic Dating coach and Manifest With Jasmine

I’m not in a relationship. And definitely not heart broken over any man. I haven’t met that special guy yet. Just attracting guys I’m not into……