Wow that was so beautiful said ❤ Felt good to hear 😊 The thing is also that many guys are not interested in any girl more than one night 😂 so we shouldn’t take it personal cause the players f boys that we often fall for unfortunately have done the same and gosted 1000 girls or more before us depending on their age and how often they hunt 😂🤥 They often meet one new girl every weekend so in one year they met like 50 girls 😂😳 And the more future faking and knowing to play the game and good at lying they are the more girls fall and get ghosted by these nasty narcissistic guys 🤢🫣 so thats also why they have a lot of enemies from ghosting 👻 but their karma is their own life and empty future 😂 If they were just honest from the beginning and said they didn’t want have a relationship they would yes miss out on some hook ups but they would have authenticity to themselves and others and wouldn’t have so many resentful hurt girls whom they played with their hearts without any empathy 🙅‍♀️ But the best revenge and also closure is to ignore him totally and not even write a message that we miss the guy after we met and I also think the guy should be a gentleman and write first but maybe I am just old fashioned 😂 Ghosting is an arrogant selfish un empathic way of closure but still a closure. My experience is that if the guy hasn’t written in 2 days 48h after you met he not gonna write at all and probably also ghost if the girl write first. A good respectful guy do give closure cause he shows respect and loves to give the truth 👍

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Any man who ghosts is total and utter trash. Ghosting is toxic behaviour and hurtful and anyone who makes the choice to mistreat another person is garbage. It's not hard to be kind to people.

@@bellam7546 i split with my ex few months ago,still have anxiety and panic attacks sometimes from her manipulations,ghosting and her spitefullnes. Crumbled my life just before it should have gone a step forward.(we bought and finished renovating our "family" home) So confused and as if I have a brain fog from all the gaslighting. I hope to grow and learn how to work on myself to attract female empaths,or at least someone who is not overly narcisistic.

@@DelseyRitzy got ghosted by last gf of 4 years,just as we were finnishing renovating our future "family" apartment. First i noticed a change in her behaviour, regular "headaches",unwillingness to talk, then after months it started to affect me as well,so I became "colder". She did everything in the playbook to make me break up with her, but stupid and naive as I was,I tried to fix it,while there wasnt anything to fix,she had decided she wants to move on. Which is sad in itself for me at least,since I love her with all my heart, but that gaslighting, "keeping" the story up when she allready knew she wants out is what hurted most.

Thanks❤😊

Right here..

It's tough @@jimhooligan3263

lol I literally have a final exam tomorrow

same i watch it now at 2.20 am indonesian times

This is such a great, intelligent comment, you’re amazing

I hope so too i find some1. Cause I'm been waiting to long yet haven't found her

🥰🥰🥰D'you know how heartwarming your words are? Extremely great 👍🏽👍🏽

I had to, I atleast needed to end the relationship with them in order to make a clean cut for me. She probably was just waiting for me to do it, doesn't matter, I have to cut out people that make me feel worthless and that's the win about it.

Exactly!!! so well put!!!

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How did you get to this realization?

I’m not there yet

@@dmc387 - I think that you see a narcissist more clearly after you are away from them. You remember the subtle cut downs and the blame for random things; if you confront them too often they leave and look for another victim that is easier to manipulate

Your comment is brilliant. I can understand and empathise with everything you have said here. Being denied closure from someone we felt a strong connection to is unthinkably heartbreaking. What makes a person wake up, and decide that it’s over? When it was nothing but good. The way they can move on with their life as if nothing happened, is the most devastating realisation of all. And I wish it were that easy when people say “time heals”. For me, time has done nothing but given me more months to carry the grief. The perspective of never meeting again is unbearable. At the end of the day, it’s their loss. They missed out on someone who loved them without conditions.

@@scarlettrose221 it feels so similar to death that I feel both justified and horrified by the comparison. It feels like she died suddenly. Not the her cozy in her bed right this moment still ignoring me, but the person I knew her as. I feel grief because I care. I feel hurt because I loved. I feel devastated because this act is her real feelings and she refused to share why. It all reminds me of losing a loved one, but premeditated and just for you. No one else feels it. Because you’re the only one ghosted. It is so cruel that it knew she were capable of doing this to ANYONE I would have refused to date her no matter how much I loved her.

@@alextorres8635 It definitely feels like a death. But what has died is the illusion they gave us. We are just struggling with coming to terms with who they really are. The grief from this overwhelms our senses, & can almost be paralyzing. Ghosting, and not getting any answers, is emotional cruelty. It shows their character. It’s hard to accept, I’ve been struggling too. There’s nothing I could do to change what was never meant to be. This is what I tell myself. I hope you find your peace. ❤️

Such a powerful comment I screengrabbed it for my own archives. 100% your situation is my own and I cannot explain how confusing and utterly life changing it is. I'm so sorry you went through it to. Never the same again.

@@1984musicman thank you. I'm sorry for your loss as well.

I completely agree with you. It is such an emotionally and mentally dangerous act.

Exactly

Agree

Yes,i agree with you😢

Not if they break up with you. No contact is exactly what you need to heal

Amen!

Man, I need this right now. I'm definitely beating myself up. This is why I hate letting people into my heart. 😮‍💨

So true. Too many women date outside of their pond, hooking up with the chads and are then surprised to be burned/ghosted. He was never that into you, he was just hooking up. Women really need to date within their own pond. I have seen 4s rate themselves 10.

All facts. Good way of putting it too. I work with a lot of Chads at my bar. Mostly us bouncers haha I Just got ghosted by a hurt and broken young lesbian! Didn’t use protection in the back of her car, straight ghosted me!! It’s been 3 weeks and she lives in the condos next door to mine lol haha crazy

​@@GoodVideos-ry5ieIt is more about compatibility than any objective level or rankings

I’m just going thru this now. He admitted to having the same feelings for me for years. Had plans to see each other on weekends . I’d fly down he would help. Ask my opinion on job offers but ultimately decided to take 1 that be closer to me… or so he says. Saying on a couple of times for me to “ give us a chance . I wanna keep you around . Can I keep you. This our second chance . This seems like a dream” to radio silence . I’ve had a thing for him for years and allegedly so did he but the timing wasn’t right then .. reconnected over Facebook end of March . He’s definitely got things going on. At one point he say I want to be with you but my situation is complicated…we were supposed to have the conversation but forgot to bring it up. Things were amazing then I drop him off. And with that 12 hour drive till he got to where he was going then after that he vanished ..

So much yes. Most painful and most insidious, because in your mind that incredible person can't just do it to you without a good reason. Makes you build alternative explanations in your mind, keeps you thinking, remembering the good parts, hoping. I spent a year in that mind trap, completely detached from reality, because it was too painful to accept it for what it is. I feel so silly now, and angry at myself.

@@gavingreenhornyou accept it as what? They’re just not meant for you?

Can i get some help. I am going through these same things....

So true. How to cope up?

And what sucks is you’re probably the villain in their story.

@@Josh-dp6iu Right? This was just an individual I was talking to for a couple of weeks but we ended up talking on the phone and she left a huge sour taste in my mouth, but I still gave her the benefit of the doubt and surely enough she removed me, lmao. People don't want to take time to work anything out, they just want to leave when things look rough.

Ouch yep that’s gotta suck but good timing on Matt’s video right lol 😹. Might be worth double checking your second sentence, there might be a cognitive bias or two that will make you attract people like that. Gotta love that our brains are wired to be right rather than happy

That’s on them Their loss 🎉

That is a great response! I am glad that you have the right perspective and aren't letting someone else's nonsense and adolescent insecurity affect you. You have good boundaries. well done!

I've done that after a few texts or one phone call or something when someone said something rude or it just wasn't going to be a thing, but I would never do that to someone I knew in person and had spent any amount of time with. At the very least, I would send them a thoughtful text explaining how I felt and wishing them the best and all of that. It's beyond hurtful to just vanish on someone you've had any form of relationship with.

True. Why would we want someone who will probable give up and go away when we got sick? We need a stable relationships and a man who can take care of us

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Narcissistic people and sociopaths do these things cause there ashamed of hearing about it or getting caught there evil evil people

that's all nice and well, but what if there's no one else who "can't wait to spend time with me"? I don't find people that are interested in me weekly. a person who's interested in me comes along maybe every 5 years for me. so yes, ghosting impacts some people MUCH MORE than others, and "move on" is simply not a valid advice.

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It's traumatic asf, hate the cowards and ghosters

Traumatized by my therapist who ended therapy by email without further explanation or any possibility of a dialogue. And then she ghosted me, I hate her with a mere respect til today

That’s exactly how I feel about it. The lack of character it shows and how little you mean to someone for them to not even be able to communicate with you to say goodbye… I just can’t fathom it

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Same here… I am really stuck by my sp from 10 years😢😂

Well, whatever the reason they still chose to be a piece of shit.

I really not going to take back any of the ghosted of my life 😂 I’m rich, pretty, healthy, sexy. Having massive energy. I not giving all that to a betrayal. I rather find someone new if I have to.

This comment is so helpful!!

But then why I still feel wierd, betrayed, like can't believe anyone after that.... Like am I that dumb, to be wrong twice 1st that she liked me more than friend so asked her out 2nd to consider her my friend, she said so, and we were for months after that debacle. And I was okay with that, being friend, rejection in romantic life is just Stat now for me. But never in my life that I considered my friend, and someone who said on multiple occasions that they are mine made me feel so UNWORTHY. AM I that unworthy that I don't even get an explanation. At random 3am I recall every moment and chats that had with her... Just to find my mistakes and I'm like okay this was there but we resolved it. So then what happen why leave suddenly, I wasnt gonna ask you to stay if u don't want too... But atleast say good byes... Sorry for the rant 😅 But any suggestions would help(video did, but it's more genral) Thanks

Sad but true

Wowww needed to read this today! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Well said

If you also look in to it deeper this also shows they have no integrity and or the communication to work through issues. So even long way down the road when you have rocky moments they wont be able to work through it most likely.

Thank you all. That is why I'm on a break to work on myself. Most people don't want to do any work. They want all their needs met. When someone is an ex, or shows me that attitude I move on, and take the lessons, and take time to be a better person. I'm an amazing person who would love to have a good person in my life. I don't need much in life. But I don't deserve people behaving badlyto me.

@@EMuro-wu7uy Im in the same boat as you are in being a simple person that just wants to be loved and appreciated and do the same for them in return. From what I have experienced in dating quite few people now is there is clear evidence people dont look in to their mental health and how they do things in life.

These men need to grow tf up. They just wanted attention from mommy and use them and move onto the next. They deserve to die alone.

Going thru it now, feel like I can't breathe...and I'm usually a very grounded, and spiritually mature person. I feel so shocked, and at loss, almost like losing a partner to death. I feel like I'm grieving the loss of him, and us.

@Terri B I felt exactly the same, it felt like grief ...it was grief. I was so bad my boss referred me to a psychologist because I was off work for months. Looking back, it was an extreme response on my part, and now I can see that was due to my lack of self worth. I was so lacking in self confidence because my previous relationship was with a narcissistic man who ground me down to almost nothing. Almost 3 years on I an a different women with endless confidence in myself. I realise the man I mourned was never worthy of me in the first place. He was immature and totally oblivious to my dismay at being rejected, who wants a man like that! Give it time, see him for what he is... and how there will be someone out there that would give his right arm to even have a chance with you. I believe God removes people from our lives for a reason, to make way for someone way better... and he did for me. ..and he will for you. Just be patient and learn from this. You deserve so much better xx

Jezzz chill girl. Its a bit too much, you had one date and it took your 2 years to get over?

@@ninajones6622 same thing has just happened to me, same timeline of talking and going on a date. Did the ghost ever reappear after the 2 and half years?

Courage ❤

8:09 these videos have help me also ❤

If it helps you i once got ghosted and later became friends with this guy, fast forward 2 years it happened again with a guy I dated. Oh man, i couldnt stop laughing with the first guy about it for hours.. who tf ghosts someone?😂😂😂😂 what? He doesnt have words? He cant say no? He is 3 year old? To be honest people who ghost make me laugh, that is so pathetic especially grown ass man who do that hahaha anyway darling dont be afaid of ghosts.. they are just thin air. Ghost is just a ghost. Hope you are doing better

Same same

Please excuse my crass language, but never let someone else being an asshole make you feel dumb. Remember that no matter how bad you might feel in any given situation, nothing is permanent, even if it is the worst pain you have ever felt. Just hang in there, learn what you can from the situation, and try to save your feelings for the people who are worthy of them.

Yup that's right!

Needed this the way I’m still hanging on to a thread of hope that they will reply buts it’s just embarrassing for me at this point

@@maariyajamil9443 for sure

He called few times but I was done already. And it was only FEW 😂 I has experience before with a guy who cheated on me I did call him and I know there is nothing to talk about.if he did it it already mean that he doesn’t care about your feelings

Where You mentioned about the (phone &/or video) calling : "PS: if all communication happens through texting, and you never bothered to call each other, high probability you never had any meaningful relationship with them anyway." -- is that because (in Your Opinion/Opinions), phone &/or video calling is more 'real', emotionally intimate, etc., vs. (just)/"through texting"...?

Ghosting is immature and irresponsible. It's so better to know how creepy they are and never spend a second on them again.

It’s very irresponsible and I’m allergic to irresponsible people. I actually texted some of them and said they are irresponsible and I’m allergic to it, bye. 😂😂😂😂😂 Sometimes I’ll send them a message to wish them all the best and I moved on. I made the decision for them and I believe I would make them look bad. Whatever it is, I let them know that’s all, then I’ll not respond to their messages.

@@Becca-gk9qp snap! I'm starting to do the same. Love it! Well done hun, wishing you all the best ❤️

Oh wow. That is sooooo relevant to what I feel now. I have always been a rather confidently sociable person and always had good relationships with men. I encountered two in the past six month that were completely different than I had ever met before. The first I knew vaguely from some work I did about seven (!) years ago. He emailed me one day last summer just in a very casual and friendly manner over something work-related. Then he started writing these emails telling me how interesting he found me and really wanted to get to know me better. I will say I wasn't 'into' him in any other than a distantly friendly way. He asked me to meet him for coffee one day and I didn't wish to travel into town so I said no. The next time I had to go in anyway and I thought he had a business question. Log story short, he actually tried to strangle me. I got out though it really shook me badly. The weird thing is when I started to answer his business question, he suddenly started lecturing me on how he didn't want to use me in any way and blah blah blah. It was as if he somehow assumed from nothing at all that I was going to turn into some strange romance novel character. Then he grabbed me by the neck and arm. Yes, I should have reported this but I was so utterly astonished that I have to admit I didn't and then, once the bruising faded, I knew it was too late. I did, however, inform his partner and sent her all the messages he sent me. I did not in any way wish to hurt her. He called me screeching and said she had low esteem. Now, why did that not surprise me? Meanwhile he imagines himself to be some sort of god. I was badly rattled by this but what really pained me was the whole performance of acting friendly. It was as if he knew I have a healthy confidence and used that against me. The second I actually did hit it off with in the sense that we had, at first, a shared humour. He sent me some messages saying he hoped we would become friends. Well, be my friend then, I thought. No ceremony required for that. Then he just vanished. Great friend. Then he re-appeared and I stated that I did not like being toyed with. He vanished again. Oh well. I don't want 'friends' like that! But I have realised over the past few days that I feel twisted in my stomach and have tarted to feel as if I don't want people in my life at all. I cannot comprehend the point of all of this weird behaviour and why it has even affected me so much. I have a son who is 26 and his friends and I know them all quite well and in both cases, I know, they all would have been utterly at a loss with this sort of nonsense. If any of you are in that age group, don't give up because these young men are grown ups now, for real.

I do the same I just take it a step further and call them trash. 😅

How are you now?🥺

I feel exactly the same. My heart is going out to everyone on here. We share each other’s pain. I just can’t believe how common this is. How has this become acceptable and common behaviour?! 🤯

I was ghosted too after 3.5 months of him promising a future. I don’t know what I did to deserve the ghosting. Sending you healing vibes! It is so mean when someone ghosts you after building a connection and planning a future. I feel like I got played and then discarded. I’m full of shame and anxiety.

@@lindseyr7115 hey. I had literally the same situation last spring… my advice : make yourself busy with work, studying, communication and hobbies, all of the things you love to do, achieve your goals but PLEASE don’t let this stinky coward steal months of your life (like I did)☝🏻he’s not worth it.

@@lindseyr7115this happened to me too! It’s really hurt but I’m getting over it. I’m dedicated the next month to pouring twice as much into myself. It is a huge lesson when you meet people like that but I trust it will work out for our good

I just got ghosted too! 😓

Just got ghosted today.

same

Me too in April and the pain is still horrendous! But what's done is done and no going back

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He was a terrible person. He chose to be a piece of shit and you don't need pieces of shit in your life.

I have been ghosted. In a weird way, it is closure. They no longer value you. They no longer want to be with you. When the fog or confusion fades, your clarity returns. You realize that you ignored the red flags and they did you a favor by disappearing. Most likely, you could not fully trust or depend on them to be there for you. It hurts but you move on.

Yes, in most cases it is true. At times yes, some massive incidents make communication with someone to end abruptly but if someone treats you seriously even after long time from such occurence they will try to explain themselves and give you closure. And this is how you know you were dealing with someone mentally healthy and stable. Since there is nothing normal about ghosting someone. In romantic or non-romantic relationships.

My ex was chatting all day long. I knew he not able to not chat for days. So when he stop chatting with me I knew there someone else he chatting, but he lied to me and I was blindtrusted him. I should not have. When we really know the person trait we know

So he expressed to you that he wasn’t feeling ok about his life and himself , and you’re still making it about you ?

@@Malitubee No he didn't. He just ghosted her, without saying nor expressing anything. If he said that or give explanation without being asked or ghosting first, that would be a brave man he is. But unfortunately he is a coward.

@@real_hello_kitty No she’s childish

@@Malitubee But you contradicting yourself. Duh.

U know he's alive. In my case I do not... the confusion fucked me up. Pray for you... please pray for me.

@@Sage_of_Time_1990 definitely. I'm sorry you're going thru that.

​@@JinxTheWriterdid he reach back or something ?

@Marauder-eu9om he never did. My mom ran into a couple weeks back. He had the audacity to act like he didn't do anything.

@@JinxTheWriter ohh I see. Yeah such people always believe they didn't do anything.

Thanks for that (I’m going through this too). Hope you’re adjusting to living in the US!

I really hope you’re much better now. Congratulations on the move. I’m here because I got ghosted about 5 days ago with a tiny bit of bread crumbing in between. It suckssss but I’ll get through it

Yes I was ghosted by a guy I dated two years but have known and thought was my friend of 42 years. Man it hurts that he thinks so little of me…and I am a widow also, so all that grief just flys back. I know my original person was all about me was all mine and would have never done this. So there are good wonderful men in the world. Thought I had a second chance at something wonderful but now realize not with this one. I must again pick up the pieces and move forward and find that strong self I had prior to this one that broke my heart. Prayers and hugs to all of us as we move forward looking for better.

@@user-ib5hn3xt5t Wow, 42 years is a very long time. Sorry about that. It's really one long roller coaster ride with pain and sorrow. I am still battling and often ask myself so many questions and never get clarity.

Hey how are you doing now? Did you ever reach out to the person or just let it be?

No ways im going through the very same situationship 😮

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I don't think you need to reinvent yourself. Kindness is thought of as "easy to manipulate" by people who lack a strong moral compass. Don't change who you are; instead, be more discerning until you get to know any man and they've earned the privilege of getting to know the real, wonderful you. 🤗💖

I'd recommend finding meetups or some kind of community activity based on a hobby of yours. I love line dancing and have found doing that is a nice way to be social and opens me up to meeting people. Face to face always seems to be the best way to meet people, imo.

It sounds like you have a lack of personal boundaries. You need to learn how to assert them in your life. This is #1 reason why nice and kind people get taken advantage of. You can still be kond amd nice but with boundaires.

@@ellamedic8963 I know. But thanks anyway. The result is that I talk to men without laying myself too bare and am aware that I need to be aware of their boundaries as well. John Gray justifies how men want to 'please' women. I don't want them to 'please' me. I appreciate an equal and equanimous relationship in which respect, affection and being vulnerable is OK on both sides. There is no one perfect man or woman by the way. We are all travelers on this earth. Be well.

@@elenad.2959 Thank you. Yes, I treat people welland they have misinterpreted my intentions, some even responding inappropriately. I do love this real me though, more and more. Bless you too.

Sometimes we’re lucky, and the trash takes itself out.

Has a GF for sure

Being left on read is even worse. I was left on read for 2 weeks and it just blatantly says I don’t give a $%# about you and you’re not worth my 20 seconds to text. That’s how I take it. When I leave the conversation on a good note and get ghosted, it hurts. To lose interest that fast in someone does hurt.

Ma'am, can I seek your wisdom on the following information. Ma'am, Alice and Tom were good friends before they came into a relationship. Things didn't work out between them because Tom had a weak personality. He was not mature. He was an overly emotional person, on the other hand, Alice was practical and mature enough to realize that the relationship is toxic. She ended things with Tom. Since they both were friends in the past, so they continued their friendship even after the breakup. They never discussed anything related to their personal lives. Even when Alice tried to tell Tom that she likes someone, tom requested her not to discuss such stuff as it makes him uncomfortable. Alice respected that and never discussed anything related to guys. They always ask about each other's well-being and mental health and were supportive of each other. Things were going petty well until one day Alice called Tom and told him and she is taken. She is with someone else. And this new guy and she promised each other that they will not talk to anyone from their past. She was the one who suggested this. She warned Tom not to contact her again otherwise she will block him. She said she has no other choice but to cut off Tom because they both shared a past. Tom break down over that phone call, this further pissed off Alice, and she ended up saying harsh words. Tom finally promised her that he will not text her again. Tom knew that he will never be able to provide Alice with the kind of life she deserves. This new guy has everything she ever wanted in a male( provider, smart, strong, mature, have a plan). He knew that loving someone is not just enough one has to have a plan. Tom still thinks about Alice's mental health and her mom's health. Tom believes that if he truly loves Alice then he must let her go. He must respect her decision. Tom doesn't have a job. He is now working hard to get a job. Ma'am, do you think Tom did the right thing? Ma'am, this tom is no one but me.

Absolutely, no timeline. It also depends on what else you as the one that was left was going through at the time. Some of us don't even have the support of friends during this time which makes it even harder.

Guys really do this? After four years?! What a coward!!!

Wow great advice. Thank you

Well said ❤️

Perfect comment.

Yeah I just blocked and tell myself this is over and this my decision

This.❤

Omg you are spot on!!

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I feel you on this one. Same. Busy dealing with my bruised ego and it's driving me insane!

Honey if he can’t sort out only one conflict, what a life whould be with him. Think. Be glad it happened after two years and not 5 or more

@@Alloniya Precisely.

I'm so sorry to hear that. :( Agree with the other comment here. At least you found out before, and not after, you were married to him.

Sinaie story happens to me disgusting men they re and you can’t trust again

this is horrible - i'm so sorry - i hope you're doing better now?

This reminds me of this video kzfaq.info/get/bejne/qtygd6-hqMyVmok.html

100% agree family estrangement is a lot harder and more painful at least in my individualexperience..... I've been going through a family estrangement for over 6 months the waves of the feeling come and go one minute I feel like I'm over it in the next minute not having the closure and wondering why comes up again not to say my problems or any worse than anyone else's I know everyone's problems are worse to themselves and cannot be measured but being someone who is adopted as a baby instantly has abandonment issues tied to it also being a failure to thrive baby not being picked up by my mother for the first two weeks of my life imbeds even deeper wounding in the subconscious I started finding my biological family over the last few years and my father's side was very warm and welcoming... unfortunately he had died before I could find out who he was.... we would actually talk quite a bit and then things taper off like they usually do but we would still communicate if I sent a message it was read it may not have been replied to that day but within a few days it was... recently one of the family members was messaging me in the summer saying they found some more photos of my father and when they got a chance they would send them to me, I was very grateful ...then I didn't hear anything for a couple months and sent a message just checking on the person saying hey hope you're well how you doing and still to this day they haven't even read the message and my cousins have stopped communicating with me as well it brings up so much confusion self gaslighting paranoia of what happened, why, I'm a good person I have a big heart I don't understand this everything was good before but now all the sudden no contact. I also believe that when this sort of thing happens it is a sign of a lack of Integrity in some people and also common decency it's a common courtesy to at least read a message and if you are an honest person, authentic, and truly embody integrity even if you had some ill feelings toward that person it's better to let them know than to leave them hanging I would rather know than not know... and I have to do my best to stay in understanding to not villainize those people based on my emotional perceptions and child trauma wounding.... it doesn't mean I condone or consent to the behavior but it is the first way of me being able to take my power back. Also due to the failure to thrive as an infant it comes with a form throughout your life of attachment to people so I'm constantly having to work and go to counseling and have my whole life to work through these issues. So I'm grateful for any videos like this that go in depth of certain aspects of struggles and hurt we go through. I'm hoping down the road I can let this go and finally find some confidence in my life that I've always lacked of being okay with people who in a sense reject me and having enough self-worth that it just for the most part rolls off my back but I'm not there yet still have tons of work to do. I also have an issue comparing myself to the way other people are and always wondering how do people not care what other people think of them how do people not take it as hard when they're rejected etc? I still have love for that family I don't think I ever could not it's just I have to nurture myself more and find a way to be okay with not knowing. To anyone who's struggling especially with ghosting right now my heart goes out to you I don't know you personally but I know the experience and I like reading all the comments here of everyone coming together and supporting each other I appreciate this channel I just came across and everyone here who's contributing and sharing experiences and supporting each other.🙏

melissa True that.

it hurts when my own family decided to be my enemies. :(

I agree. Having to cut off my abusive mother and extended family has left me with another mountain of grief along with all the other broken relationships and failures in my life. At this point, all I want is to be able to find a moment of peace before I die. And a knowing that even though humans have betrayed, abused, taken advantage of my heart and body, my soul is still pure and loved by God/The Universe.

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It`s been almost the same time for me. Since July. I`ve sent the whole poem about my feelings after rejection. I just needed it. No answer. Ok. But I had to write it before I could move on. It stings a lot. I wish I forgot about it

Going thru it too... it hurts so much! Worst ever

It may help if you realised that strong feelings comes from trauma. For me it was dad who leaved family.

Wolves are loyal. We should be so lucky.

This is the worst with a small argument. I had the same thing. I felt I was expressing myself etc. Being authentic and he took some things the wrong way I apologized and got ghosted. I continued to apologize etc. I thought he was my friend, one year later I still have been ruminating. The thing is when we come from a place of honest remorse as a woman especially when what we said did or texted was not even extreem, and the guy wont forgive and he ghosts, I think that's manipulative to allow a woman to care for him, he knows she is still caring and messaging and sending him energy and yet he chooses to ignore. Matthew's discussion was perfect because us people with sweet hearts do not deserve such callousness.

Please don’t apologise or give gifts to someone who knows you’re hurting but chooses to ignore you. You are worth more than that x

Yeah I had a similar experience with a girl I knew. It’s so cruel and they move on fast. I love her but it’s for the best

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@@rachel12127 I'm so sorry to hear that. This seems to be tricky if he doesn't want to include you in the areas in his life that are hard. I find that his behaviour is sketchy and hard to trust if he's hot and cold, only around you when it's convenient for him. Love is a two way street. Maybe give yourself a cut off date and if he no longer replies OR continues this behaviour, move on from there? What you tolerate won't change. I hope you're feeling okay though

wanted to know did you block the ghoster or u chose to completely ignore them and not even consider them as someone to be blocked?

@@muskan-op7rm just block him stop playing games

They were playing... Why u slept...?.... Not everyone is real and deserving... Respect your soul.

@@dr.tapasyadiwakar1246 Sex is apart of dating.

Thats how people use others... Thats how they play.... Simple.

@@dr.tapasyadiwakar1246 Newsflash: women like sex just as much as men. And guess what? There's nothing wrong with that. Did you know that there are women who don't want a serious relationship or want to get married? Stop slut shaming women.

They aren’t reaching out so they won’t even notice and they dont care.