Freaking Out About Still Being Single??

Freaking Out About Still Being Single?? | Matthew Hussey

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I recently received this comment from one of my Love Life Club members, and I’m curious if you can relate:
“I’m starting to feel really uncomfortable with the fact that I’m still single. I can’t help but wonder what’s wrong with me that I haven’t found something lasting yet . . .”
This mindset is dangerous.
Why? Because our anxiety about being single can lead us to make some really poor and damaging choices.
It can turn our dating life into a game of musical chairs, where we scramble to find ANY “chair” for fear of being the only one left standing when the music stops.
And as if the uncertainty wasn’t bad enough, it’s usually joined by its friends: shame and comparison.
We often spend so much time dealing with these feelings that we forget to even make space for the behaviors that would actually move us closer to what we want.
That’s why we need a shortcut, and today’s video is just that.
I share with you 7 mindsets that will take the anxiety out of being single. If applied, each of them has the potential to make a dramatic difference in your love life.
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@pamelabrown2028 2 жыл бұрын

Im 48 and still single ...i was widowed at a young age and then made poor choices and settled a few times...believe me...its better being single and at peace than in the wrong relationship...i hope all u singles find someone absolutely fab ❤️

@lapetitecelia407 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏻❤️

@FoxyMoonlight93 2 жыл бұрын

You too also well🙏🏽

@user-pd2yt6gq7i 2 жыл бұрын

❤️🙌

@Prudence1974 2 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband 9.30.21. I tried dating and made bad choices too. I'm trying to just be happy with myself right now as I wait for him to find me.

@pamelabrown2028 2 жыл бұрын

@@Prudence1974 ..Im so sorry for your loss, its not easy , but I can promise theres hope and much, much better days ahead for you. My faith in God was what got me through..I'll be praying for you sweet lady 🙏👑❤️

@ryushizu17 2 жыл бұрын

1:12 1) Avoid the seduction of false progress 3:01 2) Lose the shame and own your intentions 4:45 3) Break the spell of comparison 8:19 4) Make friends with uncertainty 11:10 5) Try as many times as you want to find the right person 12:03 6) Learn how to be happy on your own 13:25 7) Learn to fall in love with your life the way it's happening

@bundlewade Жыл бұрын

Someone from Matthew's team: please pin this comment. :D

@MusicandVG 2 жыл бұрын

This was beautiful Matthew, thank you. You got me to get up, get dressed and go to a riverside with a good book in hand - while I was ready to mope around in bed, feeling sorry for myself today

@thematthewhussey 2 жыл бұрын

I love this

@pamelabrown2028 2 жыл бұрын

Well done u ❤👏

@danaprahl9748 2 жыл бұрын

Matthew, I'm here to tell your listeners that it's ok to be single. You can still have an amazing life I travel, have a home, friends etc. Having someone in your life to make a couple just to be a couple isn't the way to live. Just live. Stop worrying I'm getting too old, I can't find him, I'm not good enough, where is he, I won't be complete with out him. Stop!!! YOU are good enough just the way you are. So live, enjoy your life, and when you are happy and still open for ... You'll find it. and Matthew you tool are great ...they do work.

@kaursingh8095 2 жыл бұрын

Agree with you we are perfect the way we are life goes on

@biscottigelato8574 2 жыл бұрын

This is insane mindset. Luckily evolution guarantees people that acts like this will go extinct. We should promote being realistic and promote compromise. These type of toxic advice keeps everyone single and literally will end the human race.

@danaprahl9748 2 жыл бұрын

@@biscottigelato8574 Please. What I'm saying is don't get with someone or stay with someone just to say you are in a relationship you're a couple. There are lots of toxic relationships that put both and children at risk. Being single is better than that. I'm not saying stop looking i'm saying don't settle and compromise your beliefs, and who you are just to say I'm not alone. Cause you can be with someone and still be alone.

@elivieira8838 Жыл бұрын

Thanks. I am feeling so down by being alone for so long. Time is going and seems that I spent more time being sad by not having anyone. I am trying just do what makes me happy, like you said, traveling and do other things to keep me busy and enjoy life.

@danaprahl9748 Жыл бұрын

@@elivieira8838 Eli, I'm so proud of you. Yes, get out there and start living your life in the best way possible. Celebrate you. If you can keep me posted on your new adventures. You must be brave. Happy adventures... ENJOY YOURSELF!!!

@Healthevoid 2 жыл бұрын

I’m at a point where I’m comfortable being single. I’m over feeling like I have to settle or even feeling like I’m behind . I’m a hopeless romantic and I’m nervous I will never find my person but I know what is meant will be . I’m doing losing myself in relationships that were never for me . Loving me in the present until I find my future ♥️

@danseuse001 2 жыл бұрын

I resonate with the same feeling

@How.Dare.You. 2 жыл бұрын

But to me accepting = giving up which I dont want to do at the age of 37... 😔

@NurseSai 2 жыл бұрын

Agreed! 😊🙏

@shalimakhan1205 2 жыл бұрын

How about becoming single at 43😭

@biscottigelato8574 2 жыл бұрын

Feeling we are entitled to a certain partner or we are ‘settling’ is toxic. In no other areas in our lives we stop being realistic. We can’t afford a penthouse then we ‘settle’ for a normal house. We can’t eat Michelin 3 stars everyday we cook our own simple meal. We take what we can get and we be content, and be glad we have something rather than nothing… But then somehow this stops at finding someone to grow old with. It needs to be perfect or we rather die sad and alone just because we are afraid to finally admit that we are not perfect because we didn’t get perfect. We should promote being realistic and promote compromise and promote achieving happiness by being content. Viewing settling as ‘giving up’ is toxic advice keeps everyone single, unhappy, and will literally end the human race.

@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын

Can totally attest! I am in my early 40's and single, because of several unfortunate past relationship choices. I am absolutely happy being single and the freedom it gives me in life. I travel, hike, bike, fish etc as I wish, often with others, often alone. My point is, until someone comes into my life that appreciates all I have to offer, rather than using me, I will choose to be happily single. I hope everyone finds the true love that they deserve💞

@lamazeitoun7915 2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@denisem7009 2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. In my 40’s as well. They MUST be faithful and a positive part of my life or I’ll just stay single. I hope you fine true love too. Thanks! 😉

@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын

@@denisem7009 great to hear you have that mindset too. I see too many people in bad relationships because they were panicked to settle.

@chanthana7694 2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this. There should be a group or club for us like minded people. 🙂

@justinbrockwell8396 2 жыл бұрын

@@chanthana7694 there is... the singles club! Just kidding😉😂

@alyailithyia 2 жыл бұрын

I love being single. When its my time, it'll happen. For now I'll keep being open to going on dates, but focusing on me and thriving on my own.

@denisem7009 2 жыл бұрын

First is to be happy within yourself. Single or not! Don’t wait for someone to come along to make you happy. I’m in my 40’s, single, drama free and peaceful. I don’t mind waiting for the right one to share my happiness with and vice versa. It is far better than becoming desperate then ending up with your worst nightmare. Ladies, if you want a good man then make sure you’re a good woman. While you’re waiting on your prince to arrive, enjoy things that you love everyday.

@Atalanta01 2 жыл бұрын

Once again, I'm blown away by your wisdom, Matthew. I've been following you for years, and yet I'm still in awe and moved to tears by your encouraging and supportive words. I truly needed to hear this today, since I'm going through those exact emotions. This helped me a lot. Thank you again for providing such a wonderful service 😊💗

@foz2071 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I am a lot older than 29 and have been feeling like finding someone around my own age who is right for me is unlikely. But your video made me forget about that and now I feel really excited about all of the great things that I can learn from being single. There are other areas of my life that are going brilliantly and I am excited to focus on these more.

@bibilym4514 2 жыл бұрын

This is why I enjoy this channel. You may or may not be tired of talking about being single, but this video has been so encouraging, you have no idea. I need these reminders and perspectives. So thank you to Matt and his team

@emmabushnell7320 2 жыл бұрын

Back To Go - that reference really hit home for me. So many times I feel like I've been 'sent back to go'. But like Matthew says, it humbles you. It helps you to learn and grow.

@irenekim6594 2 жыл бұрын

When I was a teenager, I didn’t expect finding the right person and getting in a relationship are so hard😂 Now I’m 32 and I’m not very sure whether I can find mr.right or not😔 I’ve been disappointed all the time…

@helencheshire7553 2 жыл бұрын

Mr Hussey, I’ve been watching all of your videos for about a year now and I really wanted to say thank you - although I am yet to meet someone who is right for me (and that I am right for), your videos have helped me regain enough confidence and self belief to be ready for a healthy relationship when it arrives.

@shallysaini3850 2 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this today! Thank you, Matthew :) Sending so much love and light to everyone ✨

@slinca Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear the comments about striving forward for an upward trajectory of life today. Ty Matthew. I’m so fortunate you exist and I have the ability to hear your wisdom. ❤

@rnh93 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. Not only do I find the video’s content relevant (obviously) for the «still single»-theme, but also as a wildly important reminder to keep enjoying ones own life. Going to watch this at least once a day!

@nurulnajwasafie2508 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot matt! This serves as a reminder to me. To get back on the right mindset.not self-sabotaging.

@claude9342 2 жыл бұрын

I’m exactly 29 and single. I have the same concerns once in a while and yet, I also remind myself to be in the moment and have fun during this season in my life. I even wrote in my gratitude list this morning how I am grateful for this season and how excited I am to share the love I have in me to the right person. Thank you Matthew for this beautiful reminder 🤍

@jojose417 2 жыл бұрын

Honestly the only relationships I really had in my life happened when I wasn’t even looking I was just living my life and happened to meet that person. I’m 50 and divorced now this is such great advice!!!

@rightmindset- 2 жыл бұрын

There is so much truth in this video. Such an amazing reflection❤

@MM-zi8fj 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Matthew... I was really touched with your words and ready to try those... I'm 37, watching your video right now on a hospital bed after a break up of a 5 year relationship .. I really need to build that muscle so that i can be okay all by myself... There's nothing to be ashamed with being single ❤️

@mette1983 2 жыл бұрын

Feel better❤️

@fraukatze1147 7 ай бұрын

I know that some time has passed but I want you to know that I relate to you and I hope things improved. Loads of love!

@coastiebabe3438 Жыл бұрын

This is so good. Reframing your mind to focus on personal growth versus societal pressures. Bring the best version of you to the table

@liudmilaaleagaaguilera8876 2 жыл бұрын

What really worries me is choosing the wrong man. I rather be single until I meet the right person and together build a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Thank you for this, you are so right💖💖💖

@ramparkash2318 2 жыл бұрын

Liudmila Aleega. Are you saying ture.?

@ramparkash2318 2 жыл бұрын

Liudmila Aleega. Ur words are so soothing.

@liudmilaaleagaaguilera8876 2 жыл бұрын

@@ramparkash2318 Thank you, I'm glad😊

@liudmilaaleagaaguilera8876 2 жыл бұрын

@@ramparkash2318 Yes, 💯

@raginisharma9302 2 жыл бұрын

I so wanted to hear this - thanks Matthew for making this video and sharing with us!

@ciaramc_121 Жыл бұрын

These points are so true. Needed to hear this today thanks Matthew and congratulations on your engagement 🥳

@steffis.7730 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 35 and "still single"... I'm suffering from depression and just got diagnosed with a chronic disease. Because of my depression I'm not able to have a job right now. Yes, my life said "go back to to GO" personally, financially and health wise... I'm really feeling it. But you gave me a glimpse of hope with this video, Matthew. Your words helped me so much! I saved it and I'm gonna go back to it time and time again for a ray of sun on my darker days. Thank you! ❤️

@exnihilonihilfit6316 2 жыл бұрын

No, because you don't have a job (and healthy philosophy), you're depressed.

@jeffroberts4220 Жыл бұрын

Fall in love with your own journey where ever you are in life, single or not. Love it.

@rashabuda 2 жыл бұрын

Symptoms of comparison…loved this piece of wisdom

@RAG571 2 жыл бұрын

This is super empathetic and much appreciated, MH.

@gb-204 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful video Matthew, great reminder for us all, single or not...thank you!

@rartinderkaur3499 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Sir ...Thanks for sharing the wonderful advice that highlights that it's important to find the "why" behind the desire of relationship .It's important to find that core first so that everything is an expression of it and we can start to reach for the things that are most congruent with the highest self and ultimately create long lasting love . Compromising on why and to fill the void could end up in making terrible partner choices .It also clear the vision of lovership versus relationship and acceptance of self in totality and push back the behaviour that is not acceptable in terms to our values and standards we stand for and creating something beautiful together . Thanks Sir for Everything .Much Care and Regards 💝

@Babesinthewood97 2 жыл бұрын

You must acknowledge that other people shame people who are single. It’s not just coming from within. People on the outside ridicule single people.

@pn7134 2 ай бұрын

Honestly, I think they are scared. Seeing that you can become single again at pretty much everytime is a scary thought. And if someone near you is going through a break up you are reminded of that. Most people cannot handle that

@kaylaafernandez345 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I really needed to hear this. God bless you Matthew. ❤️🙏🏼

@deedeemonceaux 2 ай бұрын

This is tremendously fantastic advice. Thank you!!

@mamoon7619 Жыл бұрын

Hi Matthew! I haven't watched your video in 3 years since I've been in a (happy and committed) relationship. Before that, I was watching your videos to help me in the dating world. So I just wanna drop by and thank you for all the great information you put out there for us ladies 🙌 I honestly could say that dating is HAAARRDDD but your videos helped me a lot 🤗

@AmericanWitchFreyaRhodes Жыл бұрын

I'm happy being single forever

@hsgjkhagljkh 2 жыл бұрын

Ohhh....I remember feeling that way at 29. I had broken up with a toxic guy I wanted to marry. 🤪 Afterwards I VOWED I would work on myself first. 10+ years later I've dated off and on, but I'm happy I'm still single without kids. I had so much childhood junk to heal from (recovering from codependency, enabling, and complex PTSD). With each guy I get a little healthier. I watched my friends rush bad marriages and get divorced (or stay and lose themselves). I vowed I'd heal first to be a good parent. Right now I am freer to pursue personal health. And every year I think, "I'm so GLAD I got to learn that lesson before I meet a longterm partner." It’s been a long journey to become content on my own (and I have moments where I struggle). Now I'm starting to enjoy my own company and hold my desire for a partner and family very loosely. I want kids, but maybe I'll just be a rockin' stepmom. All I know is the effort and time I've put into myself benefits my future loved ones. And I'm SUCH a higher-value person a good man would be lucky to have (compared to the low self-esteem, passive woman who was attracting narcissistic jerks at 29).

@dianaschoen4485 2 жыл бұрын

You could also freeze your own eggs as an option.❤️

@carlosverde-datingtips7001 2 жыл бұрын

Great tips! And speaking of “Being Single…” If you have just broken up with someone, it’s ok to take your time - before you jump into another relationship. You’re doing yourself a disservice by getting involved with someone new before you’re really ready to commit to another person. It’s ok to be single, you have to learn to accept the fact that there’s nothing wrong with being single - once you have adopted that mindset, things will really start to turn around for you! Cheers! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@AritheCreator_ 2 жыл бұрын

Definitely nothing wrong with being single. There are other “pillars” of life, like health, finance, career, friends and family, personal development that u could focus on. The key is to feel whole and complete on your own and not need someone else to come and “complete, validate, or fulfill” you. True happiness comes from within By the way Carlos you have a solid channel! Keep up the excellent work man 🔥💖👌🏽

@is.b.1185 2 жыл бұрын

Υour videos have reached the highest level of quality. Good job Math. Love from Greece.

@feebsfilms 2 жыл бұрын

Pure gold. I needed this today ♥️

@vikagrinvalde1848 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mathew for your video, this come up across just in the right time ❤️Thank you for your hard work and support, god bless and health to you 🤗

@cassyglandon4681 2 жыл бұрын

Spot on! Thank you for making this video!

@aliciasmith5297 2 жыл бұрын

For someone who constantly struggles reconciling desperately wanting to be in a relationship (I'm 35, and I've never had a bf) with my relentless ability self-sabotage, this video is a word--thank you Mr. Hussey! If I wasn't taking the bar in a few weeks, I would totally be at that free training!! But I'll definitely keep my eyes peeled for the next complementary offering! :-)

@naewest5603 2 жыл бұрын

Your a beautiful woman the right one will come on it’s own if not live your life the fullest 😊you can definitely enjoy life without a relationship

@JJ.___. 2 жыл бұрын

Focus on doing your best for your bar exam. When it’s done, u will feel relieved and confident and shine and relax. Best wishes 🙂🤓

@marywithane9166 2 жыл бұрын

I think I'd feel better about being single at 47 if I had had even ONE relationship in my adult life as an experience. Despite all the travel, great job and friends I feel like I've missed out. failure to launch. This is good advice ,I'm trying to trust God and also take this advice. 🤞🙏

@gdaymates431 Жыл бұрын

You can't rely on God. You have to put yourself out there!

@rachelh.5636 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, Matthew for your wise and honest words and suggestions.

@glitchseries7995 2 жыл бұрын

I am feeling very much thankful after seeing your video.I myself also a youtuber and want to create a good future in KZfaq but I was really suffering from the breakup which I had a year ago. I was suffering because the breakup was just for misunderstanding between me and my partner. There was no cheating from anyone's end. I am growing but the progress was slow but now I am happy because the lesson I learnt from watching your videos is that I am doing the right thing. Thank you for the advice. I wish you all the best too.

@jacquelinemcgarry9820 Жыл бұрын

Thankful to have found this. Very thankful. This is exactly where I am at. 37 is hard.

@johannacallaghan1623 2 жыл бұрын

Loving this new Matthew hussey content it's really resonating💞

@erynnhaskins6548 2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I needed to hear ❤️ thank you Matthew

@zenahalisha 2 ай бұрын

Loved this video. Make the most of where you’re at right now

@lynnolsen1498 Жыл бұрын

Good Job!! Thanks for your kindness toward all humans!!❤

@renschannel5218 Жыл бұрын

This is very interesting as I feel shamed by my family sometimes for expressing my struggle with singleness. My parents will talk about how I should be happy and how I am a complete person. I know I am whole on my own, but that desire to be with someone will not be lessened. I have the inklings of most of these mindsets, but definitely need to grow them.

@oddlynx8919 2 жыл бұрын

As a terminally single woman in her 40's who has never been in a relationship, it's nice to hear this but after a lifetime of not being able to attract anyone it is hard to believe that anything will ever change. C'est la vie

@leahnewitt8702 Жыл бұрын

What makes you think you can't attract anyone? Xxx

@coolbreeze5683 Жыл бұрын

Just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it will never happen

@doubleoseven273 Жыл бұрын

Get out of your comfort zone and start saying yes to everything

@doubleoseven273 Жыл бұрын

If you’re stuck in a rut move out of the area keep trying something new

@leannetaylor5661 2 жыл бұрын

I think this is the best video you have done. Thank you 🙏🏻

@sshine0923 Ай бұрын

such a great video! thank you for sharing this

@Mandeepkaur-kw4yh 2 жыл бұрын

Ohhh my god. Exactly the words I needed to hear today. Thankyou

@olejdi2092 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Matthew, you help SO MUCH.

@user-pd2yt6gq7i 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!!🙌❤️🔥 feel much better atfer this💪🏻

@antonia6648 Жыл бұрын

that's a wonderful take on "torschlusspanik" as we say in germany. thank you matthew!

@romanavecerova9536 Жыл бұрын

Oh wow…. I can’t speak now… So powerful and beautiful… thank you Matt !!! 😊

@bridgettedy3957 2 жыл бұрын

I've been single for 2.5years and I loooove the peace it gives me. I will enjoy my singleness until I found the right one. Cheers 🥂

@jameshumphries5059 2 жыл бұрын

That’s cool just don’t be promiscuous in that time or you’ll never find that guy you want.

@briannagiles 2 жыл бұрын

@@jameshumphries5059 she can be however she chooses.

@jameshumphries5059 2 жыл бұрын

@@briannagiles - How did I know that comment was coming… yes she can but if she wants to sleep with 20 guys while she’s single then don’t expect that “perfect guy” to wife her up because I’m telling you if he finds out he won’t.

@briannagiles 2 жыл бұрын

@@jameshumphries5059 only insecure guys care about body count. You're really outing yourself, bro

@jameshumphries5059 2 жыл бұрын

@@briannagiles haha no that’s just an excuse to be a hoè. You think a man who has options with women the guy who’s in shape, tall, dresses well, successful, intelligent etc is going to wife up a women, pay for the bills, die for her if someone breaks into the house when she’s given it away to 50 other dudes? As a man that’s not insecure that’s just stupid. What’s funny about modern women is if you say I don’t date short guys or guys who make less money than me that’s considered a preference but If a man says he doesn’t want to date a hoè I’m “insecure” misogynistic and the rest of it. 😂 I guess it’s just an excuse for a woman’s bad choices. The real reason men don’t like hoès is because the biggest fear for a man is giving all of your resources to a women, having a baby with her to later find out that baby isn’t yours!!! If a women has a a lot of sèx with random men studies shows its impossible for her to peer bond with just one man increasing the likelihood that the baby isn’t yours.

@aliciamramirez Жыл бұрын

This was an exceptional video! Thank you Matthew

@ramparkash2318 2 жыл бұрын

Matthew . Another beautiful viedo from you. Really nice content. Beautiful see to watch. Keep it up.

@missprajawalikapradhan 2 жыл бұрын

Just when I needed to hear this. Thankyou Mathew you're the best ❤️

@meenumeenu4877 2 жыл бұрын

Your thoughts are so great 👍 and incredible on life lessons I really appreciate it

@andreanunez7606 2 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this!!!! Thank you! ✨️💕

@sarahsantos4594 2 жыл бұрын

Last mindset is Amor Fati! My favorite Stoic wisdom! Yay

@karenfischer 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been married eight times and I am still keeping my heart open. Matthew‘s right you can have as many relationships your life as you want. The reason I was married so many times was because I kept settling for what I thought I wanted. I’ve been single now for five years and enjoying life and if I meet somebody that’s great and if I don’t that’s just as good 😌

@vp5134 Жыл бұрын

Eight times??? Seriously? Lol

@pamelabrown2028 Жыл бұрын

Thank u for ur honesty, im sure u cud offer alot of advice to us all . I love that u say u can take it or leave it...u go girl !!!

@mschelly17 2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the message of this video. It has taken some time but I am learning to fall in love with my life. I see beauty and magic in daily experiences. I am intentional and purposeful about being grateful every day. I feel good about being single. When I am coupled, I'll feel good about that as well.

@DawnMLaPointe 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! We can choose to enjoy our life in this moment, understand that it will continue to change and evolve, but we can still enjoy our unique journey along the way.

@user-z57h Жыл бұрын

Thank you SO much, you have no idea how much this video helped me

@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light 2 жыл бұрын

Hi.....just saw this....even though I'm married and separated ....... as I saw the title I was like 'nup, like being independent atm, focusing on my career, study, kids, pets and my home' ..... it would be hard for people who have been alone for soooo long though.....I've known people who have said 'where are all the people?' As in 'potential partners', they have felt there just isn't anyone.........but few yrs pass they are married, buying houses, popping out babies!!! Yes there is certainly change like Matt says! Look forward to what's coming xx Feral Fairy🧚‍♀️

@azavy 3 ай бұрын

I love being single!!!! ❤❤❤ I've been in so many relationships and I'm happiest when I'm single!!! 🙌

@inesm.3055 2 жыл бұрын

I needed it so much right now thanks a bunch!!!

@Mike-he1rf 2 жыл бұрын

It's a hard life doing what I want without anyone to answer to 😆 jokes aside, this is great advice. Being single is definitely better than being in the wrong relationship.

@mashel1224 Жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear that, thanks a lot Matt ❤

@rockyruiz5205 2 жыл бұрын

Bro, this is some of your best advice yet.

@IRISFOX17 2 жыл бұрын

Love the video, thank you, Matthew :)

@bigcatenergy3707 2 ай бұрын

“Fall in love with the way your life is unfolding”

@amarpreetkaur4760 4 ай бұрын

Oh, this video! So relieving

@biancawijaya1772 2 жыл бұрын

Single and wholesome. Not rushing into anything. Not interested in someone who brings nothing but problems.

@DrPatrickKingsep 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Matthew and others on this channel :) This is such a good video topic and a worry that many people have... 'still being single'. Your own mindset can create such a difference in life - esp in relationships with others. As in the below comments - you are making a big difference to people's lives Matthew with the advice and information you are giving....

@jessicaqu Жыл бұрын

I love the musical chair analogy.

@huihui7277 Жыл бұрын

As a guy, I feel this from the other side, stay strong to everyone...dont get trapped into something too soon

@fabs6925 2 жыл бұрын

Im 36, I’ve been single almost all my life BUT I’ve always been dating someone. Besides this, I’ve taken tons of couple therapy (I know lol), read neuroscience books, listening psychology podcast, and traveling a lot. Ive discovered all of these have made me strong . Now I know what I truly want in a partner: romantically, sexually and mentally. There’s not ONE person for you, many people can be for you BUT we need to understand that we need to let life flow . Ive found myself forcing things, screwing up thinking that by certain dates “I must be somewhere”. People have different past, people come from different paths. Things take time (most times they do). Also super important is, stop comparing ourselves. Yeah our friends may be with someone but until when? At what cost? What guarantee they’ll always be together? WhT guarantee they are even happy? People won’t post on fb their sadness, their struggles, they’ll just post their “happy relationships”. I love this video Matthew. So many truths 🙌🏻

@fabs6925 Жыл бұрын

@Samir Dončić well when you know what you truly want, you won’t waste time . No one is perfect, but you have to know your “no negotiable ones” . I have maybe 2-3 of those and if someone has them, I walk again. Maybe they are messy, maybe they lack initiative , maybe they don’t like to dance (all important to me in a partner) BUT none of those are on my “no negotiable list” so I’ll accept them regardless.

@fabs6925 Жыл бұрын

Walk away *

@Squintillions 2 жыл бұрын

Best part is at the end of the video - make the most out of your own journey!

@s.beccari4678 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 39 and divorced. Things could be worse girl...

@Scheherazad100 10 ай бұрын

Yep. It's Important to be grateful every day for what you do have, eyes, arms,legs,able to speak, woke up this morning. Start thinking and you can write pages and pages of thing to be grateful for. Even the failed relationships. At least you had one and can learn a lot from it Keep moving forward. Never look back. Not one nanosecond of life is guaranteed. Don't forget to smell the flowers every day. Get up, dress your best and go.out and greet the world.❤

@Its_Mimi_yay 4 ай бұрын

What a great and helpful video! ❤

@largolagrande 2 жыл бұрын

I feel like I adapted many of these mindsets for a while now. Even though it's sometimes hard to keep them. I don't want to marry and don't want kids. I don't trust relationships that much to have this kind of immense commitment. But I'm seeking a healthy relationship. It's hard to avoid people that are so uneasy around new people and really really hammer their goals down. I'm just... Looking for loving person that still is able to bond without endless issues. Even though I realize more and more online dating is not place to get those qualities.

@lisag2680 2 жыл бұрын

I’m older. Was in a relationship with issues years ago. We were back and forth. At my age I don’t see reason to marry. I did kind of cut myself off. Pandemic didn’t help. I am ok on my own.

@lisag2680 2 жыл бұрын

Find guys that are available have so many issues. I don’t meet people anymore. I work mostly from home. Dating sites were awful. I’m also picky. Funny as I got older I feel men my age look old even though I’m sure I do too.

@kassieahner5315 Жыл бұрын

Matthew, I’m 39. I don’t fear being alone for the rest of my life. I don’t think that will happen, BUT I wanted kids. I wanted 3. Now I’ve kind of had to accept over time, most likely I won’t have any. My unhappiness with being single mostly centers around that, because unfortunately there is a somewhat nonnegotiable timeframe attached to that, despite what I try to tell myself about other peoples timelines for my life. Also when it comes to this, for a lot of women and maybe men , there’s a biological urge that makes us feel this way, apart from typical anxiety from societal expectations or whatever. No matter how confident I am or happy in my own life, a big part of this biological thing feels out of my control.

@finalfrontier001 Жыл бұрын

You hit the wall and you failed....... You are strong mindedperson cuz femlaes like you take drugs like heroin to keep themselves going and end up overdosing and killing themslves cuz they canh't sleep at night. The biological urge is so suffacating that makes you wnat to kill yourself to escape the trauma not having ba family and husband. Feminism has failed you being strong and independant woman was the worse thing you have ever done and now you regret it.

@tintank8620 Жыл бұрын

I feel in the same situation. What are the choices now?

@coolied2865 Жыл бұрын

My GF had a child on her own through a sperm bank. Her daughter is AMAZING and they have a great relationship. you do not needs a man to have children. She is really happy now and still single!

@Cocobaricz 2 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your videos. Thank you.

@evanhiggins7298 2 жыл бұрын

I'm not uncomfortable being single. However, he has some good points!

@garruscuriosity9791 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video

@atlantidaunderground Жыл бұрын

I'm still single at almost 31... and I'm probably gonna stay single because I give up.

@xantipa84 2 жыл бұрын

I loved this, so simple and so wise, at one moment I had the feeling of listening to a friend talking. 😜

@mirandah6348 2 жыл бұрын

It feels like the most radical thing I can do is wholeheartedly believe that I’ll find love regardless of my current circumstances.

@ioanaanaoi8232 2 жыл бұрын

"Lose the shame. Own your intentions!"

@holiday197 2 жыл бұрын

I think the most important thing is that you are content with where you are in your life. Maybe you may not have the ideal partner (and perhaps it’s a possibility that it may never come) but there are other aspects of your life that you can weave and bring to action to give you the most happiness in line with what you want (I.e. family and friend relationships, career, better financial security, doing the kinds of hobbies and having the kinds of experiences that you want etc). Having someone to share your life with should be a bonus but the main thing is that you make the most out of your own life.

@dianaschoen4485 2 жыл бұрын

Well said! I agree, but whats happenning with the world economy, etc. Its a scary time to be starting over at 60 alone. Id feel better if all this wadnt going on...🙏😔