Getting cheated on, divorced & hiding our 12-year-old from the internet w/ Kay & Tay

Getting cheated on, divorced & hiding our 12-year-old from the internet w/ Kay & Tay | Ep. 51

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This week we were joined by @KayAndTay. We discussed their previous marriages and divorces, Tay's experience being cheated on while he was in Afghanistan serving in the military & Kay speaks on why she keeps her 12-year-old daughter out of the spotlight.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Episode 51
02:32 - Why we eloped
09:41 - Finding love after divorce
16:01 - Becoming a single mom at 22
20:17 - Finding out my wife cheated on me
31:26 - Red flags in an abusive relationship
36:10 - We didn’t think we could have kids
42:19 - Having a newborn at 30
51:17 - The military incentivises marriage
56:48 - Breastfeeding isn’t one size fits all
1:01:52 - Why I don’t share my daughter online
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@UnplannedPodcast 4 ай бұрын

It was midnight when we recorded this so that's why we were all yawning 🤣🤣

@NoahSchnackybiggestfan 4 ай бұрын

Oh 😂😂😂😂 I love you guys tho

@CrazyCrystal8175 4 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you pinned your comment because I was seriously sitting here like Why is Abby starring at Matt like that and What is going on with all the yawns😅😅...lol...y'all are Amazing and I'm Obsessed with your podcast❤ I also see how you changed your format a little bit and I'm totally here for it!❤❤

@NoahSchnackybiggestfan 4 ай бұрын

@@CrazyCrystal8175 😂❤️

@Katy_WelcomeToHolland 4 ай бұрын

Love this, thanks Matt and Abby!!! Congratulations on your sweet girl Kay and Tay!! My fiance and I share the same kind of love and appreciation every single day for each other, we have special needs children and have to work together as a team to get through things thrown our way. He's a veteran too, thanks for your service Tay 🇺🇸 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@amandareyes9391 4 ай бұрын

I was wondering 😂 first time ever watching you guys and a short clip about Kay & Tay came up on my FYP. I am so glad, to say the least , of finding you guys and I only came on here because of Kay & Tay and I couldn’t love it more. Excellent podcast , love it all , and keep up the amazing work. (K+T if you read this… I’m obsessed with you guys! I’d love to comment about everything you guys spoke about but I would never finish lol) Much love & support!

@mydirtymind8205 4 ай бұрын

She didn’t trust men, he didn’t trust women, but they trusted each-other because they understood each-other

@myreality5959 4 ай бұрын

Great way to look at it

@Framokamc 4 ай бұрын

Somehow this happened with me, I was 19 didn't trust men and he was 22 and had bad experiences of attempt of relationship that didn't even started, we immediately connected and since then our relationship is great ❤

@user-dd8zw3xf7m 3 ай бұрын

Perfect

@escapeiv 3 ай бұрын

cope

@Just-wiggling-thru-life 3 ай бұрын

Exactly! This was my husband and I also. I was married 2xs and divorced twice by the age of 24. It was devastating to say the least. My 1st was riddled with DV and SA. I left quick due to our 2 year old. I married again and got pregnant. I found out when our son was 10 months old he had been cheating on me for over a year and he ended up leaving me for her. So here I was 24 and a single mother for the 2nd time with now a 6 year old and a 10 month old. He was married once and she had cheated on with my word like 6-7 guys. I mean his son’s baseball coach, his other son’s gymnasts coach. It’s was so crazy. We met when I was 27 and married just 2 months later. I know crazy insane. We just absolutely both knew. We laid it ALL on the table prior to our first date even. Then again we both had 2 sons so getting free time to date was limited. We’ve now been married 18 years and our 4 sons are adults and the most amazing kids. I swear we are so dang blessed. 🥹 🥰

@cr7_cr7. 4 ай бұрын

I think that the fact that she doesnt show her daughter shows how much she respects her, her father and that she loves her very much. I respect that and love her for that

@phoenixx736 4 ай бұрын

@@samanthamulligan344 What are you on?! Not showing your child's face when they don't want your to is the best thing to do, she is respecting her daughter and her daughters father. That is respect, and real love

@myalo3917 4 ай бұрын

@@samanthamulligan344Protecting her daughter from predators is bad? Interesting.

@shaylajane3380 4 ай бұрын

@@samanthamulligan344 do you know them? I didn’t think so. your comment is crazy 😅

@jaymeisaacson7199 4 ай бұрын

@@phoenixx736it’s not because her older daughter doesn’t want her face shown. It’s because her older daughter’s dad doesn’t want her face shown. And they show it on Kay’s instagram but just not on their joint account that’s more popular

@Corbyn0624 4 ай бұрын

@@samanthamulligan344yes she does.

@AphonicRoar 2 ай бұрын

Taylor is being humble. If he was air force in a FOB he was doing some serious stuff. Thank you for risking your life for us

@kubauhlir1730 2 ай бұрын

Do airforce personnel of FOBs do anything else than JTAC?

@naylisyazwina6836 2 ай бұрын

I’m been following Kay and Tay for a couple of months now and see they have so much chemistry and love for each other. Never knew this backstory. Gonna watch it when so wake up later though since it’s 1:20 am. But just seeing the first 40 seconds, dang that’s crazy

@rociodiaz9137 Ай бұрын

😊@@kubauhlir1730

@LadyGeckoFoot Ай бұрын

I would never have known based off anything we've seen of him.

@LisaPFrampton 27 күн бұрын

It's cuz he was Air Force. They don't act macho like Army and Marines do. I know cuz I'm married to an army vet! 😂@@LadyGeckoFoot

@cupcakesimulation 2 ай бұрын

I didn't even know there was another child. I almost actively don't go digging into someone's personal life off screen unless they make an effort to share it. I have so much more respect and admiration for their recognition and respect for their children's autonomy, which is something that i wish was more common in adults.

@Diachensua 2 ай бұрын

True

@MegaTelenovela 4 ай бұрын

Before this podcast I had no idea their past history and trauma. Thank God they both have healed and found each other

@gabriellesmith4552 4 ай бұрын

Same here! I still love them though

@zaylamunoz8379 4 ай бұрын

I didn't even know she had another daughter

@tashaax1993xanimalloverx 4 ай бұрын

These ppl need some sort of privacy

@GinaPressley 3 ай бұрын

What trauma? Explain?

@fz1ry 3 ай бұрын

@@GinaPressleyhe was in the military so that in itself was traumatic for him, he was also cheated on by his wife while we was stationed. she was in an abusive marriage when she was just 19.

@madisonreynolds9243 4 ай бұрын

“That’s why I don’t like the word fight” he’s so sensitive to her well-being all around. That’s very sweet

@DOOBISOFT 4 ай бұрын

His ex really Fumbled him 😂

@carmencorleto1479 3 ай бұрын

I love their honesty

@carmencorleto1479 3 ай бұрын

Kay as a registered nurse I'm concerned about your constant bloating. Please get a CT of the abdomen just to make sure you are well.

@anon02970 3 ай бұрын

Taylor was arrested for domestic violence in 2019.

@tndgrooming 3 ай бұрын

This didn’t age well 😬

@sandrinetaschereau423 2 ай бұрын

Am I the only one who loved how Taylor rocked the baby carrier almost the whole podcast, like that was sooooo cute!!!

@meowtotheworld4801 2 ай бұрын

Vigorously

@Debbieanne51 2 ай бұрын

Those automatic rockers are great.

@SammyNdlovu1212 2 ай бұрын

Baby must have been soooo dizzy with all that rocking 😂😂😂

@deborahnicole Ай бұрын

@@SammyNdlovu1212no kids huh?

@dianeyoung2914 Ай бұрын

electric rocker I think, his leg wasn't moving.

@user-cn1ph8xc5m 3 ай бұрын

I love the fact that she respects her daughters fathers opinion. And just how much they respect each other. They’re so genuine.

@tajat866 4 ай бұрын

Now that I know their backstories, I like them even more. Such nice people

@maddiereinhardt2004 4 ай бұрын

Me too. I follow them but I only saw cute little glimpses of their life, I’m glad I know more about them now

@belindanavarro7666 4 ай бұрын

Same

@sarahashley5783 4 ай бұрын

Same! Seriously! I would love to see more longer videos with Kay & Tay

@SublimeSubliminalHeir 3 ай бұрын

same!

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Look for Taylor's police report for being a domestic abuser then tell me how much you like him

@jaynerebecca8604 4 ай бұрын

I would actually be interested in long form content from Kay and Tay. A lovely interview - thank you!

@KayAndTay 4 ай бұрын

It’s coming! ❤

@cathirodrigo2933 4 ай бұрын

WOOHOO 🥳 I’ve always thought I was too stupid to find it!!! I’m so excited to see the content ❤❤❤

@oliviagrace7487 4 ай бұрын

Me, too! They are such a lovely couple.🥰

@finnanagans5055 3 ай бұрын

@@KayAndTayI love love love your content❤thank you for sharing some of your lives with us 🫶

@RiverWoods111 2 ай бұрын

@@cathirodrigo2933 Girl, would you say that about someone you loved dearly? I doubt it, so why would you talk about yourself that way? It is more important to love yourself and say wonderful things about and to yourself, as it is what you say to others. Here is a secret, people will treat you the way you treat yourself. You need to know just how wonderful and beautiful of a human being you are!

@saltymilspouse 4 ай бұрын

We lose 22 military members PER DAY to ‘self exit’. My retired veteran husband is involved in a few social media groups to help bring awareness and help for soldiers, past and present. He has stayed on the phone for hours talking service members down. The fight is real to save our soldiers, to remind them that it’s just a bad day, not a bad life. Love you guys and your choice of guests, I love watching you young couples starting out. It brings back such warm memories. This one has been my favorite. A short 35 yrs ago I was the single mother to a baby boy that met a handsome soldier far from home. It took 4 months and the patience of a prince to break down the walls. We married 2 years later and proceeded to have 3 more babies, in rapid succession. We are still learning new things about each other, enjoying being grandparents, and our lazy days alone.

@kaykhairunnisa6644 2 ай бұрын

Oh my god, it's so heartbreaking for those soldiers after everything they did 😢

@lmc2375 2 ай бұрын

It's pain, trauma those soldiers carry. It has to be released, make space for healing to come in. No one can heal until they let go. Forgive whomever, even self if necessary to be able to release it all. The way to gain control, rebalance self, is by just letting go. For some reason we all tend to cling to and carry pain, but it is a choice, as we do not have to. Any need to manipulate or control, being difficult or stubborn is deeply rooted in fear. What one tells their mind is everything. The mind believes what you tell it. We need to start telling it only the best things, speak it out loud, telling selves even the impossible to achieve it. We attract what we emit All things are energy, and vibration. The highest vibe available to all, is love. That includes self love, care and knowing own worth - that is our own inner strength. It is imperative to see our own self worth. No one can do it for us. Once had, retained, we will soar. ❤🙏💫💥🌱🌎

@DaisyMae1975LOVE 9 күн бұрын

@lmc2375 Your comment is probably one of the most beautiful ones I've ever read. I suffer from multiple mental disorders, and I have been faithfully working through my past trauma, but it is so awful. Yet, I believe that spreading love and kindness is so much better than hate. I don't even like the word hate. Putting positive energy out into the world is very important. Bless you so much for your thoughtful and loving soul. Much love and many blessings. ❤❤❤

@MrsCarrieSnyder 4 ай бұрын

I just recently found Kay and Tay on YT shorts, and I love them. After this interview I love them even more. I’m 41, but I have such a similar background as Kay. Married at 18, had my daughter at 19, divorced at 20, met my current husband at 21 and we just celebrated 20 years together and 16 years married. My husband has been in my daughters life since she was 2.5. I love that y’all found each other. 🙏

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Look up Taylor's police record of him being a domestic abuser

@Deadchannel28 2 ай бұрын

Omg

@Myarose2000 Ай бұрын

@@casandrakelsey6702 dude people are capable of changing in 5 years. I'm not the same person I was 5 years ago. Stay salty

@Mrstigger747 25 күн бұрын

IF there is a record, I would guess that the EXwife has a lot to do with that.

@user-ck1gr6ov3g 4 ай бұрын

Who else ran here from tiktok immediately they saw Kay and Tay🤭❤️❤️❤️

@RelebohilePrudance 4 ай бұрын

Me❤❤

@ebikienmobite-braah5550 4 ай бұрын

I ran from Instagram 😂

@annahnina1205 4 ай бұрын

Meeee

@melianaglinton3475 4 ай бұрын

@jessicaking1121 4 ай бұрын

Meeeee😅

@tabbylawson5491 4 ай бұрын

Abby zoning out and going quiet but jumping in like nothing happened is so me

@JosephMartin7 4 ай бұрын

54:39 is golden 😅😂, i find the trying to stay awake entertaining

@pgrberthelot67 3 ай бұрын

They said they filmed this at midnight so they all were tired and sleepy lol

@tinatutic7400 2 ай бұрын

Died laughing😂

@shannonbullock2202 2 ай бұрын

I totally get Kay when she says “I’d still be doing it if it wasn’t for some autoimmune conditions that I have.” Most people don’t truly get what that means. It sucks! U feel like you’re not contributing financially but you’re actually contributing so much more to your family than if u had a boss. Working your own schedule allows you to be more present and care for the people u love when your body won’t follow someone else’s schedule to get a pay check. It took me several years to stop feeling guilty for not earning when the entire time my husband told me to stop working and just take care of us like I already was. I finally feel like my contribution is not just enough but important. Thank God for good men ❤

@lynettedennis9044 15 күн бұрын

Yep lost my colon for the exact same situation

@Valentina-Steinway 9 күн бұрын

Me too….😢

@JordyB652 4 ай бұрын

The unplanned podcast makes sense now. Bc almost everyone you guys bring on here always has unplanned things they went through to talk about. GENIUS

@kalijanis8288 4 ай бұрын

Facts 😂 very true

@jaime4890 4 ай бұрын

You catch on quickly 😂

@JordyB652 4 ай бұрын

@@jaime4890 you’re so funny hahaha

@amandajohnston9150 4 ай бұрын

Matt always compliments their guests every episodes, even complimenting Abby every ep. It’s so nice and refreshing to see someone straight out compliment others consistently and make them feel valued

@jimmiebeachmccoyuwuz7851 3 ай бұрын

my husband is truly my best friend been married 20 years and I thank God for him everyday

@staceypennington919 2 ай бұрын

I agree with what Abby said at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1425">23:45</a> about having more context as opposed to short videos online. I started to love Kay & Tay then I was thinking she is so immature until I heard what they have both been through, so I changed my tune. They have both been through it, so I have so much more respect.

@brookemathis9275 4 ай бұрын

The pregnancy craving videos is what got me hooked 😂

@caitlinbrown-db3rx 3 ай бұрын

Same!😂

@dreamcrazy36 2 ай бұрын

I’ve only just found them so back now to watch lol

@user-st2vs9pz2j 4 ай бұрын

Who else sees how tay is using his leg to rock the baby’s sitter while talking 🥹🥹

@maryc1849 4 ай бұрын

He's such a good, sweet man❤

@tinakelpsas6597 4 ай бұрын

Yes hella hard😂😂😂 I’m like damn your bouncing that baby like he’s a basketball but he’s very cute and a good dad

@karenlee2092 4 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same thing, but the angle the camera is I think it looks more intense 😂

@pgrberthelot67 3 ай бұрын

Yes and it calms babies down quickly and sometimes will fall back asleep. I did this exact thing will all four of my kids. They only time it wouldn't work is if they were hungry. Other then that if I stopped rocking their bouncer with my foot then they would start crying. Lol. My leg foot and leg would end up getting tired so my hubby would take over lol. It was so cute and adorable!

@nancynorris9822 3 ай бұрын

It's automatic. Push a button and let it rock. Battery operated. Our daughter had one. Both couples are adorable! They could be my grandkids! 💞

@daniellar2165 4 ай бұрын

Knowing their backstories makes the videos I’ve watched and love make so much sense. Especially when she was saying he makes her feel safe and okay to be herself and soft and sensitive💜 That is so beautiful!

@seungheetahimik583 2 ай бұрын

I loved the military relationship perspective! To see y’all both grow and know that most people marry in the military for the wrong reasons, you guys decided to be together for the right reasons! Love it! Thank you for your service!

@the_sammi_p2455 4 ай бұрын

i’m so glad i watched this im not normally a podcast person but this gave me a huge insight into how they made such a strong relationship off of broken hearts their relationship really is a diamond coming from coal and it is precious

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Look up Taylor's police report from him being a domestic abuser

@bearmotorcycle7305 2 ай бұрын

@@casandrakelsey6702Since you are in the know, you look it up and post here.

@animangle 2 ай бұрын

@@casandrakelsey6702 actually???

@animangle 2 ай бұрын

@@casandrakelsey6702 ohh yeah, you're absolutely right :c

@jayannakelley9051 4 ай бұрын

My respect for you both sky-rocketed when hearing you are not pushing your 12 y/o daughter on social media! It’s also for her safety as there are so many weird predators out in the world. Thank you for respecting her wishes. Good luck to you both in your future lives together (including your newborn ❣️) 🌟

@jasmen4you 4 ай бұрын

Kay & Tay need a reality tv show. I love their little life & this interview made me love them more. U just never know what people have gone through from the outside looking in! 🥰

@katieleitwein1417 2 ай бұрын

It’s so nice to hear someone talk openly about having to take meds to use the restroom, I really don’t hear about it a lot. I cannot eat or use the restroom without medication myself and hearing from someone who has overcome the social stigma of it is amazing!!

@crystalvazquez1758 4 ай бұрын

i was so ready to watch this podcast! im a single mom to a 7 month old baby boy and hearing their story makes me feel like some day i will be able to find someone who will accept me and my baby.

@TexasbyStorm 4 ай бұрын

I was a single mom to 4 kids. My college sweetheart cheated on me with a co-worker. I was 33, 4 kids, had been a sahm, starting over. I honestly thought I was going to be single forever. I found my husband, he loves me more than I ever knew was possible. We celebrate 20 years together this year! You will find someone, don't settle for anyone that isn't 100% committed to you, but also remember, nobody is perfect.

@mariasigma2575 4 ай бұрын

I wish the best for you

@teeandkids937 4 ай бұрын

@@TexasbyStormthis gives me hope

@cudgymercy8574 4 ай бұрын

girl you got this ❤ i ain’t a mom,but my sister is (and i helped raise them) a single mom to 3 and suffered abuse. i just wanted to let you know that you’re doing amazing, and i’m so proud of you for being able to be so strong to be a momma. you will find someone ❤️

@beccaroo1990 4 ай бұрын

Same! I'm a single mom to my 2 yr old and have a good co parenting relationship with my 12 yr Olds dad. This gives me hope & also makes me feel not so alone knowing Kay has another child from a previous marriage & still found her happy ending and someone who cares for both babies❤

@4secondsofhaley 4 ай бұрын

It’s so nice to see them interact in a different form because it affirms that they’re genuine. It is definitely hard to tell from TikTok but they’re so sweeeeeet and I love hearing their backstory.

@IVYABBOTT_ 2 ай бұрын

I love how when the baby was crying Tay immediately checked on her.

@wellwellmymichelle 2 ай бұрын

Are you for real? lol" I loved he he checked on her?" Thats what he's supposed to do!

@IVYABBOTT_ 2 ай бұрын

@@wellwellmymichelle Well sometimes parents just ignore the baby.

@jonathannocon Ай бұрын

Like with the topic(s) in this is, it all depends on perspectives. If your fortunate enough to have experienced/seen a man doing real dad duty and not only acting the role then a dad comforting their child is not always a given sight unfortunately.

@IVYABBOTT_ Ай бұрын

@@jonathannocon yea

@sherrywilliams409 16 күн бұрын

Let me say Tay, you capture Kay so well! Even if she’s funny it takes capturing that for the camera! and you’re absolutely fantastic at what you do! Your role in it is crucial! Both of you two couples are so hilarious and so much fun to listen to and watch! Just great quality people and I have come to love you all. You help me through the grieving process of losing my husband! I need that!

@JulieIreland 4 ай бұрын

I love the way Matt and Abby look at each other. There's so much genuine love there. 💕 Also, can we talk about their guest line-up?! Every single guest they've had are just amazing ppl! There's so much to learn just by watching other couples interact. We love you guys!

@UnplannedPodcast 4 ай бұрын

☺️

@nicolem809 4 ай бұрын

@@UnplannedPodcastbring the Scott family 😢 talia and rogerrrr 😭♥️

@Binky_wiggles-thebunnies 3 ай бұрын

@@nicolem809yessssss! I’ve seen the, do vids with them as well!

@sweetlittlesheila71 4 ай бұрын

Hubby and I have been married for 34 years come Otober 6. His mom passed in 2014 and left him some money. We spent about $8,000 on a 10 day, all-inclusive trip to St. Lucia. It was AMAZING! We never had an actual honeymoon. We were 19 and 20, and I was 3 mos pregnant. Life went from 60 to 💯. We were mostly comfortable financially but had to utilize some state aid programs such as WIC and medicaid for the kids. Our daughter passed away on April 14, 2015. Unfortunately, she lost her battle with mental health. She fought hard, though. Our son is now married with 2 kiddos. 💙 When we went on the trip, we had so much pushback and judgemental comments about our choice in spending that much $ on a vacay. Us? We couldn't be happier. It was almost surely a once in a lifetime trip as my health has declined significantly since then. We are seriously nothing but thankful we went. Like I said, 34 years on October 6th. When we said, "I do" at our $150 backyard wedding. ❤

@JessicaWalkerGeorgia 4 ай бұрын

I teared up reading this, but in the best way! I am so happy for y’all, for y’all choosing to do this for yourselves. I’ve always heard at some point you have to invest in yourself, I also believe that to be true for a marriage. You have to invest something, love, time, energy, so why not invest in a trip as well. Reading this I feel like you both made some incredible memories while on your trip, it’s something you can tell your sweet little grandbabies about💗🥹! I’m so sorry you lost your daughter, my heart broke for you reading that. I hope she gave you some kind of sign when you were on your trip, maybe a special sunset, just a little something to ease your heart. Thank you for sharing this, it warmed my heart during a time of sadness for me. Much love and I pray your health gets better. 🙏🏼

@user-wj8ji9pn1t 4 ай бұрын

That's so sad and sweet i'm so happy for yall. i have also been to St. Lucia it is so pretty there

@sweetlittlesheila71 4 ай бұрын

@JessicaWalkerGeorgia Thank you. 🙏 We absolutely made once in a lifetime memories. If I could go back in time, there are so many things I'd change. This trip is not one of them. In fact, one of my changes would be traveling the world before having kids. Travel while we were young and healthy. We could have utilized hostels and such. Travel is always my answer when people ask if I would change anything. Lacey was still here when we went on that trip. The trip was the end of Dec 2014- the beginning of Jan 2015. She passed in May. But I believe I get messages from her now and then. I sure miss her. She was my mini. 🥰

@sweetlittlesheila71 4 ай бұрын

@user-wj8ji9pn1t Thank you. It's really is, isn't it? The temp is perfect, the rain smells so good, the waves sound so peaceful, the water color is gorgeous, and the water temp is Uh-Mazing! And the food...🤯🫠😍 The all-inclusive part was great, too. 🥰

@alicecain4851 2 ай бұрын

Congratulations and great choice! Take care. 🎉🎉🎉

@susanheath2361 2 ай бұрын

It's great that you can be "vulnerable" with each other. It says so much about the trust and love you have for each other.

@nyramirez20 4 ай бұрын

Kay And Tay, you are definition of Self Reflection, Healing and Couple Goals. Thank you for sharing more of your story. Knowing now that both of you had a rough past of your own, yet still managed to conquer that pain and turn it into something so beautiful and so loving, is what truly gives me more hope for this world. ❤❤

@Bigbuddy0692 4 ай бұрын

Matt and Abby always bring a smile to my face, this is such a healthy relationship on both sides and you don't see that very much anymore.

@lauravioletvlogs972 4 ай бұрын

so very true. It is so healthy to see and hear positive couples. Especially these days, it's very vital to see positive people.

@anon02970 3 ай бұрын

Can’t be THAT healthy considering Taylor was arrested for domestic violence against Kay back in 2019…

@catb8834 2 ай бұрын

Which it looks like they have worked through. It’s not an uncommon situation for vets. Kay has a good head on her shoulders. She knows what’s best for her and her daughters and it looks like that is Taylor .

@jeanmariemissale5663 Ай бұрын

All four of you guys are great !

@aimeebaldwin5600 Ай бұрын

Really? @@anon02970

@ChelseaPrice 4 ай бұрын

Does anyone else fast forward through the “ads” or is that just me 😂😅😅

@shiffyweinberg1493 4 ай бұрын

Same. More ad than video.

@kateblackworld3767 4 ай бұрын

It feels like every episode is more ads 😅 I get that everyone needs to pay bills etc but it’s so much

@Petra_Ko 4 ай бұрын

Exactly...like how mamy ads do you need to put in a video? 🤦‍♀️ And they don't even know sometimes what they are talking about 🤦‍♀️

@anothermomma1379 2 ай бұрын

Always fast forward

@lenatilley4445 Ай бұрын

Always fast forward

@brittanystone1338 4 ай бұрын

It’s nice that you’re able to relate to the guest they have on their podcast, just shows you that they are everyday people too and have been through struggles like everyone else

@Cricket9579 Күн бұрын

It's so beautiful to me how supportive these gorgeous couples/little families are of each other, and to see another side of Kay and Tay is incredible, I never would have thought they went through all of this, thank-you for being so open and honest !! ❤❤❤

@NagyMedia 4 ай бұрын

I'm so proud of these two. Kay and I used to be neighbors and grew up together, and to say she deserves this beautiful relationship, family, and success would be a massive understatement. Love to see this growth.

@KayAndTay 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for the kind words William. Hope you’re doing well! 🫶🏼

@carolynturk-hu7je 4 ай бұрын

My oldest brother is 13 years older than me and it's no big deal(I don't think being siblings close in age necessarily makes you close relationship wise). He has always been present in my life and as adults we've been able to listen to one another in support with losing our spouses.

@lemonCutie37 4 ай бұрын

Im 25 with a 14 yr old sister. We have an 11 yr age gap and i wouldnt have it any other way honestly 🫶🏻

@HAnnB24 4 ай бұрын

I'm sorry each of you has experienced losing your spouse, in what ever way that happened. My younger brother and I have a 11 year age gap, we have other siblings in the middle too, I wish I was around more for his childhood, but as he's getting to be an adult we are reconnecting more.

@laurensutch509 4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for what happened to you with your spouse, me and my youngest sibling have a nearly 14 year age gap, and honestly he’s the most precious thing on this earth but being so far away in age to him worries me that we won’t always be as close. The way you relied on your sibling in times of need is exactly what I want to do for my little brother, thank you for reminding me that I can be close with him when I’m older

@juanitamatlock7001 4 ай бұрын

My mom had 4 children younger than one of her sisters; it’s weird to tell people that I remember changing my aunt’s diaper. When sh was a infant

@Merrileeward 25 күн бұрын

My fourteen-year-old thinks Kay is so adorable and wholesome and he says he wants to find a wife like her someday 🥰

@kaycandy79 4 ай бұрын

Tay is so cute giggles when taking about Kay . he loves her so much.

@fridayys97 4 ай бұрын

Its so good to get to know more about creators like this. Their history and personal life like struggles and stuff. I love this podcast for that reason! ❤️

@carolynturk-hu7je 4 ай бұрын

Kay and Tay have a true love, soulmate relationship! So happy for them!😊❤

@aleahberylaine5311 4 ай бұрын

Honestly this was so sweet to watch. I would've never guessed their story. Good job to Matt for asking hard questions.

@Koskos504 3 ай бұрын

Yep, Kay has that special melange of beauty, wit, child-like tendencies, humor, sweetness, purity, innocence, quirkiness and really, is there anything bad about her??? She is FRIGGIN ADORABLE!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@WoodFamily4 4 ай бұрын

I loved this interview! I already enjoyed Kay and Tay because they're so wholesome, but I appreciate them even more after hearing their story.

@marypagebradley9703 4 ай бұрын

I’ve recently come across Kay and Tay’s content and really enjoy it. I think it’s wholesome and sweet, but learning more about them and the way they interact with each other and their daughters makes me like them that much more!

@rebeccaveasey1603 Ай бұрын

Thank you for interviewing this lovely couple. No one has to put their child or children on display to the world, and respecting the wishes of their child and her father is the right thing to do. Anyone thinking that a lack of love is being shown by not showing the 12 year old is a nut!

@hannahjacobs294 4 ай бұрын

You guys are on fire! You literally host the people I watch on my shorts and want to know more about. You two are just spot on with your picks!!!

@evelinacatrinar2926 4 ай бұрын

I can understand the crying thing and being too sensitive, I cannot relate more ! Im glad that there are people out there not hiding because I am told to be more tough all the time. Also I love the honesty and warmth you guys bring. People make assumptions only out of things they are exposed to and now I think you guys will be more successful than ever because the content got even more interesting ❤️❤️ very nice I loved this 😊

@karliarmstrong5300 4 ай бұрын

I literally love Kay and Tay and so happy they’ve opened up there lives a bit more for us all because it just made me love them more, they seem like such genuine good sweet people and I’m so proud of them for being at the place they are in life now

@qreeneyez916 2 ай бұрын

*very rarely do I find great podcasts that keep me entertained, but you guys rock at this. You ask the right questions, let them talk, you help the audience understand it also*

@Stina85 4 ай бұрын

I love Kay and Tay so much. I’m so glad they respect their first daughter enough to not put her out there on the internet to be criticized and torn down like the internet tends to do. Children are not content and cannot consent to being made into entertainment. Especially their everyday lives where there’s no separation of work and home life. It’s so refreshing to see healthy families like Kay and Tay make content that doesn’t center their life around being a family channel. There’s already going to be a whole generation of kids in therapy because their parents put the pressure on their kids to make them money on the internet with family channels. Kids should be allowed to be kids and not be put into a spotlight. The guilt and pressure of having to perform for the camera is just as bad as child labor. It’s really sad and hopefully the legislation will change to prevent those family channels out there from continuing to profit off of children.

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Tay police record of being a domestic abuser I guess you haven't seen that yet

@user-nz6lx6xf5o 4 ай бұрын

I love Kay and Tay I have followed them since finding out about Ellie their relationship is so inspiring along with their story of the past! I feel like I can connect on a personal level in ways. I think after seeing this and learning their story just brings me more drawn to them as people and not just part of the social media world! Tay is so good to Kay and Ellie and she deserves nothing less! ❤

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Tay police records show he is a domestic abuser good look them up he's not a good man

@Bl0505 4 ай бұрын

Yay I’m so happy! I follow them and have always been so curious about their past

@user-tp4ft9vd3z 4 ай бұрын

Same😊

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Go look up Taylor's past police record where he is a domestic abuser

@caitlynmoses5179 4 ай бұрын

I was in a relationship like Kay. We were engaged to be married. It was Father’s Day errand I went to stay at my parents house for to be with my dad. My older brother saw messages from my ex on my phone to me of him saying if I didn’t come home right then he would throw all my things down the stairs and he didn’t care what broke. My older brother went and told my dad and my brother who is two years younger than me. Then my older brothers wife found out what was going on. They all went and packed all my things and got me out. I don’t know what would’ve happened if they had not did what they did.

@restored777 3 ай бұрын

Really enjoyed this episode. Hearing what they have been through and coming from a similar situation as Kay really connects for me & makes their content that much sweeter.

@aimeezoewalst8045 4 ай бұрын

I have watch their video's a lot and I never knew that they have a 12 year old and it makes me love their content even more of how well they respect their daughter boundaries and keep her completely out off the video's!

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Did you know Tay has a police record from being a domestic abuser l...go look it up

@amberhicks8061 4 ай бұрын

Kay my situation with my first relationship was so similar! I dated my highschool sweetheart and had my son right before my senior year of highschool. Wouldn’t let me get my license or go to college. So I graduated highschool, moved out, went to college and joined the army. I’m so proud of you and us.

@cristinamerlini 4 ай бұрын

We are proud of you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼

@erinhutson4 4 ай бұрын

Tay was the one that married his hs sweet heart n joined the military .

@biglugaming8378 4 ай бұрын

Thank you both for being so understanding of the guests, especially Tay when he spoke of his military experiences. He spoke of everything accurately and I’m pretty sure I rotated in after him.

@RenaRunyon-mx5nt 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for having them on I understand them so much more now! Thanks Unplanned Podcast!!

@angelcarter9795 4 ай бұрын

I love that he is ok with you being "sensitive" and showing emotions. I have been told you need to hold it together so much even though I am the same way. Shamed for having emotions. Y'all are precious. Love both these couples.

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Taylor has police records of being a domestic abuser he's not sensitive

@lauravioletvlogs972 4 ай бұрын

I love Kay and Tay!! I am so happy to hear this podcast and hear them speak to hear their background. My favorite couple. I am for sure Kay. I have always show my emotions and I can cry about almost anything.

@ruerose1802 9 күн бұрын

I love these 2 so much! Their love towards one another, the way they approach their relationship, the way they handled the past relationships, I love it all!

@user-uc9dx9cz3b 4 ай бұрын

This was so great and encouraging just to know what other people have gone through and come out on the other side of it. Very relatable and great advice

@clairemanley6899 4 ай бұрын

Okay so I don’t watch every episode of the unplanned podcast. Seriously though I love it. It’s always so genuine and funny. I always feel more joy after watching. Also, I feel like I am in the room with you guys just talking with friends. This is the side of social media I love. Real , happy , sweet people sharing their lives. You guys don’t pretend and are truly genuine. Please don’t ever stop making this podcast. It’s amazing and you guys have such an impact on people. Thank you so much for bringing Joy to the world.

@dulcepena4007 4 ай бұрын

I love that Tay finds her funny. I love hearing him laugh during their reels/videos. You can tell her thinks her adorable.

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

He has police records of being a domestic abuser Tay is not a good man go look up the report

@joebirdwelljr629 2 ай бұрын

I love Kay and Tay's content. It was nice to have an opportunity to learn more about them on a personal level. I love them even more...

@alicecain4851 2 ай бұрын

Thank you all for sharing. Your bravery - both Kay & Tay - was/is amazing. Thank you. 🎉🎉🎉

@elizabethbandy8883 4 ай бұрын

SO excited for this one!! Always wanted to learn more about Kay and Tay’s sweet relationship!

@DelaneyWalker 4 ай бұрын

Another episode that I didn’t want it to end! I loved getting to know Kay and Tay more on a longer video type. Always having great guests on here!

@Thewitchesflame 3 ай бұрын

When you truly like each other, when you respect each other, actually talk & communicate, your bond continues to strengthen. More need to live like this.

@katherinegodwin925 4 ай бұрын

Such a fun and great podcast! I love how Matt & Abby really let their guests talk, then come in with deeper questions that show they are listening and care. Kay and Taylor are amazing and I love them.

@courtneywalsh106 4 ай бұрын

Awh I loved finding out more! Such a lovely, honest and open conversation. Beautiful and wholesome ❤️

@stevendaniels9619 4 ай бұрын

Honestly been waiting for them to come on thank yall so much for the weekly listen

@emilybeary3933 4 ай бұрын

I love this episode so so so much!! You both are my favorite creators right now and I idol you both. Kay and Tay’s relationship was actually what drove me to leave my abusive marriage. I would watch their tik toks daily and seeing how happy they were together and the fact that Tay goes out of his way to make her happy, made me realize just how unhappy me and my ex husband both were. Hearing her story with her ex husband had me in tears because that’s exactly how my ex husband was so hearing that was kind of a full circle moment for me 🥹

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Taylor has a police record of being a domestic abuser but he's your favorite.....

@katythriftyunder35homeowne57 4 ай бұрын

I have IBS-C as well & have to take meds for it. I so relate to Kay's experience with that & also I truly appreciate her being open about her condition as a woman. ❤❤

@lindseyatkins3251 4 ай бұрын

Matt and Abby, You both do such a great job interviewing people! You ask such great questions and you do a great job letting them talk. Keep up the great work!

@tanja9923 4 ай бұрын

I loved this podcast. It’s truly unique. Deep talk and really casual conversation, I enjoyed feeling as being a part of it :)

@sarahjane7740 4 ай бұрын

I’m so happy you had them on the podcast learning more about them really makes me respect them more then I already did love you all ❤

@estherlouise924 4 ай бұрын

I’m so happy they had them on the podcast! I just recently found Kay and Tay, and this made my day seeing my two favorite couples talking together!!

@casandrakelsey6702 3 ай бұрын

Taylor has police records of being a domestic abuser not cute

@estherlouise924 3 ай бұрын

@@casandrakelsey6702 He does? How do you know?

@anjanamahale2200 4 ай бұрын

I literally relate to what Kay said about her ex. Thanks for this, guys!

@shaunatrimble1935 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely love Kay&Tay. I don’t know how I came across this video, but I’m now following you. Learned so much more about them from this. Love it. ❤

@janb5488 2 ай бұрын

This was great. My first time watching "unplanned" and I've just started watching Kay and Tay. Precious couples. Thank you.

@valentinagonzalez104 4 ай бұрын

Literally my favorite podcast everrrr ❤❤❤ I’m going through the first weeks with my newborn, he’s 5 weeks old and this podcast has saved me!!

@nikhiawelsch5382 4 ай бұрын

Kay and Tay are so sweet! Love following their content! Also I love this podcast as it shows that ppl on the internet are really just normal ppl. Everyone has a story, struggles, joys and it is possible to be yourself on the internet. Also we can’t judge ppl when we only have those few puzzle pieces.

@snahg2356 3 ай бұрын

I'm glad i linked into this unplanned interview with Kay and Tay, i made a comment on their shorts about that pregnancy being there longest pregnancy i have ever endure. I'm 60 now and had five C-sections and each one felt like 9-years. Also it's fun to watch your reactions to each new stage and craving. You make it all felt like there first time. But TAY, you melt my heart when you come in the door with "Swwweeeeetttyyyy?!?!?!" Makes my smile everyone. Bless your souls.

@brittwalkerhalfdozen 4 ай бұрын

Matt and Abby Thank you so much for having Kay and Tay on the podcast! Taylor, Thank you for your service! I watch all your podcasts but this one, Bella and Dallin, and Taylor and Sophia are my faves!!! Kay and Tay I am so sorry yall went through everything you did. However, I am so happy you found each other. You have a beautiful family! As always much love and prayers from our family to yours.

@brittwalkerhalfdozen 4 ай бұрын

@Abby what kind of cup are you holding? The purple one? @TayandKay you have a beautiful protector on your couch. It looks absolutely gorgeous, and it looks very comfortable. Hypothetically, if one we’re looking for it or something like it, where would I find it?😂😂

@baileepond125 4 ай бұрын

I loved hearing about your love for your second child. I have an 18 month old and am 34 weeks pregnant. I get hormonal and cry over bring the new baby home and hurting my other babies' feelings. I also worry that I won't be a good enough mom for two, and I won't love the baby as much as my 1st. Everyone says that once they're here you just have enough love and it makes me feel so much better.

@WandaBedwell 4 ай бұрын

You will love each child just as much as the first. I was young and thought the same thing but you adjust to a new schedule with another child and you will see your love grow. You can include your other child with the new baby by saying, Can you bring sister a diaper? Let them give the baby a bottle or cover them with a blanket. It will be good,I promise.

@emilyseibel5859 4 ай бұрын

The strength in all that struggle. Thank you guys for sharing. It was very interesting to learn more about you guys 🤍 Great episode Matt and Abby, I’ve already listened twice 💕👏

@safhakawati5020 4 ай бұрын

This was amazing !! Thank you so much to Kay and Tay for this.

@marcellareeves8018 2 ай бұрын

loved the podcast it brought a whole new light on their situation. I really thought Kay was in her early 20's. Love you guys.

@colinemonyatsi411 4 ай бұрын

I loved watching this episode, Tay and Kay are just a breath of fresh air to watch . ❤️

@akaemmaclaire 4 ай бұрын

they are such great guests for y'all!! I'm so happy 😭😭😭

@juelitran 3 ай бұрын

I really think not showing your children to the internet is great. Like getting your child exposed to the cruel comments and the influencer life is gonna take a huge toll on them mentally. She is 12, it's the best for her to normally and naturally go outside and explore the world, make friends and go to school without the pressure of the internet watching her. It's quite common nowadays for teenager to get depressed or insecure about themselves. It's not fair.

@lildeble 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate both couples so much! The level of respect radiates ❤ I always loved Kay & Tay... (their story is amazing), I just want to point out the fact at how you respected and complimented them as well as yourselves. Everyone was vulnerable and real.

@fatimahsanton6342 4 ай бұрын

This is one of the best things I've watched and have looked forward to hear the backstory. I love Kay and Tay so much already but this podcast sealed the deal for me. I absolutely loved this entire video. Thank you for this!!!