How were you disciplined as a child? "The Real" ladies share their experiences during the Girl Chat. Watch to find out who got spankings, time outs and the good-ol' chancleta.
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@akilahstraun50355 жыл бұрын
There's a difference between discipline and abuse.
@marclabrie60275 жыл бұрын
Agree too
@sonnetmorrison14695 жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@marclabrie60275 жыл бұрын
@Mengpeng spankings are needed
@marclabrie60275 жыл бұрын
@@sonnetmorrison1469 spankings are needed
@sonnetmorrison14695 жыл бұрын
@@marclabrie6027 still a difference between spanking and beating
@summerxo32037 жыл бұрын
Tamera literally beaming from ear to ear at the beginning when she head the word 'children' 😂😂
@summerxo32037 жыл бұрын
Gotta love Mama Mai. When children are naughty I swear my mom pinches them on their hands and then they go 'ow' and then their parents look and my mom's like la la la 😂😂😂
@hodansuleyman99847 жыл бұрын
Summer K lmfaooo 😂😂
@Itssrania7 жыл бұрын
DKM 😂😂😭
@serenityq267 жыл бұрын
shady palm tree! where my drink at? lol
@imafuckingmuffinx37 жыл бұрын
dang yall have been dragging Tamera for the past days LOLOL
@valerielinares20685 жыл бұрын
I agree that there is no "one-size-fits-all" form of discipline. However, EVERY child needs discipline in general. Too many kids these days are not getting discipline and it shows when they get older.
@intrusive-th0t10 ай бұрын
Actually literally all the research shows that spanking doesn’t work as a form of discipline. There might not be a one-size-fits-all form of discipline but hitting is definitely a one-size-fits-none method.
@trejay31796 жыл бұрын
“I don’t like when you hit me” Girl 😭 If I put my hand up To my mama I would be dead 💀
@JK-zu3lp5 жыл бұрын
Jay Jay 😂😂😂😂😂
@bornempath84265 жыл бұрын
Tf dead mmkkkkk!
@miasmunchkins39485 жыл бұрын
That’s Adam’s side coming out! 😭😭
@bornempath84265 жыл бұрын
@@miasmunchkins3948 agreed! I was thinking it and didn't wanna say it lmao
@jasminee13574 жыл бұрын
Right😂😂😂😂
@lilmiss41516 жыл бұрын
The only "time out" happening in my household is when my mom takes a "time out" to catch her breath and continues to beat our asses
@norirak48295 жыл бұрын
At least your mom took a "time out", my mother had stamina and never ran out of breath! LOL!!!
@Melaninenmtns5 жыл бұрын
RaVyn Wright 😂😂😂😂
@youobviouslyloveoreos63075 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@jaydap99285 жыл бұрын
RaVyn Wright true!!
@AlliShaw5 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@celesteleeann57067 жыл бұрын
The thing about not disciplining your child is, if you do not, the world will.
@worshipcatalyst16 жыл бұрын
discipline means to teach, not hit.
@butteredbread17566 жыл бұрын
+Texaslife43 there are different ways to teach. Hitting can be one of them
@worshipcatalyst16 жыл бұрын
Buttered Bread that's called bullying if someone doesnt hit you first. if they do, it's called self defense. but please, explain to the police why hitting defenseless children that pose no harm to you is ok. the weird thing is the law is discriminatory against kids for this. if i hit you, i could be brought up on charges of assault and battery. if you hit a kid, it's ok. it's messed up.
@nicolettedavis49906 жыл бұрын
Celeste LeeAnn thank u sista
@lynn.d10156 жыл бұрын
Celeste LeeAnn the jailhouse will in the future
@DawnSilverStone5 жыл бұрын
*yOu PuT BaCk oR I AtTaCK!!~" I AM SCREAMING!!!😂*
@michaellovely66015 жыл бұрын
Asian parents do not play around when it comes to discipline. But Tamera shocked me when she said that she got whooped with the extension cord.
@duanebrown73075 жыл бұрын
김신쥬 SAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMEEEEEE 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@singinggiraffe19385 жыл бұрын
Michael Lovely I got the extension cord threats-never actually acted out so much that my mom ended up getting me with it. I usually got myself together before she took it that far lmao. My oldest brother on the other hand never seemed to learn 🤦🏾♀️
@badbitchmia92234 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@SidSoothingSoul4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@quanl28775 жыл бұрын
*clears throat* lets see...i got the belt, extension cord, broom stick, clothes rack , comb, fridge, the empire state building...#caribbeanparents💀🇯🇲
@britneyjaquipe42095 жыл бұрын
Lmao same here all iron
@paola72435 жыл бұрын
THE HAIR BRUSH LMAO I remember vividly getting smacked with it because I wasn't staying still when mom was doing my hair for school. By the time she was done my hairstyle would be so tight it felt like a face liffffffttt 😥🏃🏻♀️
@milliediaz32315 жыл бұрын
Lmao same with Mexicans, the wooden spoon, the chancla as well as the ones you mentioned
@vitalean5 жыл бұрын
llQueenQll 😂😂😂
@unsaviiiiiiiii79845 жыл бұрын
Yes
@KamalIsaiahMorales7 жыл бұрын
"No police could know if you put the nail in them" LMAOOOOO I LOVE JEANNIEE
@lanaewashington6 жыл бұрын
Kamal Morales she’s lowkey the funniest
@Empressive7 жыл бұрын
"I didn't get spanked, I got whooped." Girl yes Tamera! That is one of the reasons why I revere my parents now lol. I think every child is different when it comes to discipline. Parents just need to make sure their child learns from their mistakes. Some parents spank their kids but they don't teach them, and that causes their child to act out again.
@intrusive-th0t10 ай бұрын
Literally all the research shows that spanking doesn’t work as a form of discipline. I’m guessing you as an adult have far more issues than you admit. Being beaten isn’t an accomplishment it’s just sad.
@HumanStateOfEmergency5 жыл бұрын
All my mom had to do was look at me. Lol
@edavine4 жыл бұрын
Me exactly! She didn’t even touch me, all she had to do was give me her -look- and I fixed my actions right then and there 😂
@ultimatefirecracker14864 жыл бұрын
Jon B. My mom spanked me extreme me and my older sister drank her red bull and she spanked us and we ran under the table so my mom couldn’t get us..
@edavine4 жыл бұрын
UltimateFireCracker Dang
@locafly4 жыл бұрын
Jon B. And some children only need that
@Preszure.4 жыл бұрын
Period .
@happilyrebelafter5 жыл бұрын
"You put back or I attack" 😂😂😂 hilarious
@malikjustkickinitcarter26084 жыл бұрын
I love Momma Mai
@saly47627 жыл бұрын
Jeannie is such an amazing storyteller ❤
@lamoskgr7 жыл бұрын
joy and grace I now. She's so neglected at The Real. She's The View material. She's funny, open-minded, well spoken, she knows how to listen and how to respect other people's opinions.
@pixigirl9997 жыл бұрын
What do you mean neglected? She talks ALL the time and has her own segments and everything. I swear you commenters are like sheep. Last year it was strictly Tamar hate and mostly Tamera love and now you've turned against Tamera and are jumping on Jeannie's balls. She's not a victim. Her opinion is very respected by the other hosts. You all are doing the most
@wanderer25897 жыл бұрын
joy and grace shes the only one real..
@lamoskgr7 жыл бұрын
wanderer True
@saly47627 жыл бұрын
Nina Mbachu absolutely
@Urhiness4157 жыл бұрын
My mom was like a black ninja ...... I didn't see her ass coming .... like a bat outta hell ... I don't even know how I ended up on the floor all those damn times 🤔
@MissOfficer247 жыл бұрын
Urhiness415 lol
@jennyeddins12497 жыл бұрын
Urhiness415 best comment ever!
@kanikagaral76377 жыл бұрын
Urhiness415 loved ur comment
@keeshatucker36687 жыл бұрын
lmbo
@sweetestcandy0831097 жыл бұрын
Urhiness415 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@kristinablahblahblahblah2835 жыл бұрын
She said "a 21 year gap" 👀👀 she looks like 20something.🤷
@lidyasolomon55575 жыл бұрын
Right
@moniquemeredith51475 жыл бұрын
Evelyn is 42
@danyalbrooks5 жыл бұрын
You would to if you had money
@serenamcknight44534 жыл бұрын
She looks 30-40 lol
@serenamcknight44534 жыл бұрын
Jeannie is in her 40s and looks 25
@lasagnekiller6 жыл бұрын
The thing is with Tamera, she coddles Aden so much he’s used to getting his own way. My aunty goes through this exact thing with her toddler where he hits back because she just gives him what he wants whenever he has a tantrum. It’s called being spoilt. You need to set boundaries first. Discipline starts with the word “NO” if you can’t tell your child no, then don’t even bother hitting them. It’s useless
@michaellovely66015 жыл бұрын
If anything, Jeannie should talk with Tamera about letting Mama Mai give her disciplinary tips because of the way she disciplined that bratty kid in the grocery store.
@clarabelle89115 жыл бұрын
If she was spoiling her child she wouldn’t have said it on a daytime show...children will always be children no matter how perfect of a parent you think you are... N Parenting has no set rules to go by... we all try what we know n what we think will be good for our children. @negativepeeps.
@bornempath84265 жыл бұрын
Useless!!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯
@jessicatemoltzin45764 жыл бұрын
@Kayte Larsen my brothers and I got spanked but we never hit our parents. So, not every kid responds like that. There's also a right way to spank and learn the power of just the look to discipline.
@locafly4 жыл бұрын
L E spoiled*
@shaedavis537 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I am against whoopings! However, a child that is disrespectful, disobedient, talks back, acting up in school deserves to get a spanking because that is not the way to behave or act. But beating the holy hell out of them for every single thing they do or when you get mad is just too damn much. There is a difference between discipline and abuse. If you are beating your child because you had a bad day at work, or because you are mad or because they made one bad grade or spilled a drink on accident, that's wrong and abuse-like and you will pay for that! Kids know when you are whooping them for a legitimate reason or just to release frustration and alot of parents do that! Your kids will end up hating you and cutting you out of their life and it will be your own fault!
@luvpink26ify7 жыл бұрын
Thats the thing, kids that DONT get an ass whoop or dont get disciplined correctly are the ones who turn out like shitty brats. I agree with you on not disciplining them for every small thing but some things just dont get fixed with a "time out" or talking. I remember i saw this little girl at a restaurant spit and throw the plate of food to her mom because she didnt get crayons and the mother didnt do anything. Those are the parents that raise shitty kids. A spanking is called for once in a while when a child acts up like that
@andredrw2897 жыл бұрын
its like Tamera said, every kid is different, maybe for some it works and others it doesnt
@joannasaad2987 жыл бұрын
Taneshae Davis See to me if your child is acting out that badly there were issues there for a long time and stress is happening in the home. Tantrums for 2-4 year olds I get, any older and they're acting out because their environment is a mess.
@sandyboo27 жыл бұрын
there is a fine line between abuse and beating a child until a coma. Those that cross that line definitely are wrong but as a 24 yo looking back I got hit a handful of times until I was at an age that I could understand the things I was doing and I thank my parents for doing so.
@luctaniavieux37437 жыл бұрын
+Joanna Pyzik I agree with u to a certain extent. But when I was a little girl, there was no such thing as the terrible twos and the tantrums during those toddler ages. My mother made sure that I didn't act out she trained to know that although I was a child, that didn't give me the green pass to get away with anything. If I was to at up in a store or anywhere, I'm telling you once I got home it was going down. Other kids my age would be acting up, I was like 1-4, the parents of the kids would ask my mom how is ur child sooo behaved. My mom told them it's because she disciplined me to not act up or else I was gonna get a beat down. Now that I'm older I'm grateful for it all, cuz the children these days, half of the stuff they do I wouldn't dare do.
@OneLoveRSR7 жыл бұрын
Tamera, please stay seated with that damn dissertation. "Aden, if you don't stop hitting and screaming at Mommy, I'm going to no longer give you the attention you so fervently desire until you know how to calm yourself down and play nice so that way I can speak to you again without your unnecessary antics. If you don't cease this disruptive behavior, I will ignore you and you will have to play by yourself until I feel you have earned the right to have Mommy play with you. Mommy doesn't appreciate nor will she tolerate these outbursts of inappropriate shenanigans."
@sandyboo27 жыл бұрын
thank you! I don't know why she tries to reason with him-- he is 4 year old can't even wipe himself
@RigbyHuxtable7 жыл бұрын
loooooooooool if it works for her then it works for her!
@zuiilaa7 жыл бұрын
Candy Flores you'd be surprised. I'm a first time mom and bending down to my daughter's eye level and explaining, or taking a fav toy away works better than spanking her. And I got beat as child..."go outside and get a switch" my dad would always tell us.
@chocolatecheesecak37 жыл бұрын
OneLoveRSR - IM SOOOOOOO DONE WITH YOUUUUUU 😩😩⚰⚰💀💀
@jacobTheeCreole7 жыл бұрын
OneLoveRSR he's gonna beat her ass 😂
@nekomochi4865 жыл бұрын
"You put back or I attack" will be my mantra when I become a parent.
@mo_71993 жыл бұрын
sounds like an abuse mantra lol
@joy8444 жыл бұрын
That whole “if you touch my child I’ll hurt you “ what about teaching your kid not to smack you around Tamera ...
@DD-kq2tc4 жыл бұрын
YUP
@shakiraande43454 жыл бұрын
Right I didn’t agree when she said that it takes a village! Smh
@kellyempress69434 жыл бұрын
Shakira Ande it does take a village
@BossyKoren934 жыл бұрын
Yesssss!!!
@vibedup70054 жыл бұрын
Shakira Ande yea I see what you mean. I don’t have kids so I don’t know but with my older sister haha 🤣🤣👏🏾👏🏾it definitely took a village. She was something else I guess it depends on the kid and the parent??
@alreem98917 жыл бұрын
Adrienne is unbelievably gorgeous.
@xoangelicaf05237 жыл бұрын
Alreem Kamal omg yes
@ItsMe-oo7dn7 жыл бұрын
her makeup is on point this episode. gorgeous!
@ItsMe-oo7dn7 жыл бұрын
Samantha Derrick As someone who doesn't give a fu*k, kiss my black a**. What's disgusting is you reading a comment out of context and thinking it is ok to talk to someone the way you did. No one asked you for the history of makeup and style. It's not that deep sweetheart. You are obviously bored and decided to troll. Well, you got the right one. IT WAS A COMPLIMENT!! When I said "this episode" I meant ESPECIALLY this episode. Don't be a Petty Betty. It's not cute. Currently, 23 other people UNDERSTOOD what I meant and agreed so...✌(feel free to subtract a finger). I'm so sorry the KZfaq comment section does not let us post in big colorful letters and pictures to help those at your level of comprehension understand. You asked who the fu*k I am...well there you go...now GET CHO LIFE!!
@saramoe97817 жыл бұрын
+Loves Music I feel bad for her but I guess she just had to hear that🙄
@adamsimba27 жыл бұрын
Loves Music
@heatsd7 жыл бұрын
In African cultures, the belt was king... You dare not try it!
@victoriabella10747 жыл бұрын
* wooden spoon
@sandyboo27 жыл бұрын
I got a belt, flip flop.... an extension cord (hurt the worst lol) depends on how bad I messed up.
@victoriabella10747 жыл бұрын
Haha, thanks for sharing. My parents are from the Yoruba tribe, Nigeria and I was disciplined with the wooden spoon growing up. I don't remember it having an actual name other than "wooden spoon," but I'll ask and then get back to you if it does.
@shaedavis537 жыл бұрын
Candy Flores I'm dead set against the extension cord. My mom used that constantly and it's abuse in my opinion. But each child is different.
@sexyhomeowner93457 жыл бұрын
My parents are Igbo, they used anything at hand to 'discipline' . My mum even used a rolling pin.
@glorylee35395 жыл бұрын
"I brought u into this world, and I could take you out" 😅😅 Hands down Amen
@rimajurornbako18445 жыл бұрын
gloria omg my mom says that all the time
@Shakhoney5 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@deshaj91434 жыл бұрын
gloria was a
@salharajab66014 жыл бұрын
I agree my mom told me that too.
@greghacker45553 жыл бұрын
What is your point. Are you dead or is your kid dead. So either you should be in jail or your parent.
@dianebetancourt344 жыл бұрын
I was hit it as a child and i refuse to do that to my children. It instilled fear in me and I don’t want my children to be terrified of me when then do something bad. I want to talk it through and be reasonable
@mckenzie.86534 жыл бұрын
__Panda__ RIGHT. Same. My mother never spanked me and I had and have much more respect for her than I do my father who ONLY used corporal punishment. If you terrify your children into obedience, they'll just learn how to HIDE and lie their mistakes to avoid pain.
@noora_aurora4 жыл бұрын
Same I want my children to be able to talk to me, not to be terrified of me
@babedavis12634 жыл бұрын
If you’re guardian is spanking to the point where you’re “terrified” of them, maybe you should call someone that sounds more like abuse 😟
@rainislovelyo_o27624 жыл бұрын
Tenisa White right I got whoopings but it was never to the point where I fear my mother😂 can’t relate
@ellefacts35024 жыл бұрын
I read in a psychology blog that if you spank your child, it conditions them to direct the anger to themselves because they cant hate you because you're the parent. So instead the anger and the hate is turned to themself 🙁
@africanmindedwoman7 жыл бұрын
"You put back or I attack" - Mamma Mai 😂😂😂😂😂👌🏾
@MrsTatertots7 жыл бұрын
Mama Mai ladies and gentlemen lmaoooo 'You put back or I attack' 😂😂😂 But Tamera Aiden be kicking your ass. Talking about touch my child and I touch you. Sometimes parents need a little outside help. For some reason kids tend to listen to strangers discipline more.
@SabrinaMascarenhasFiineArts6 жыл бұрын
It is very common in India for strangers to admonish a child which is not their own, not getting physical of course but it helps, the parents and it gets the child's immediate attention. People will help to distract the child so they forget what they were crying about.
@SuckerPunch926 жыл бұрын
I know I am late but your comment got me dyin. lol
@angelabella1836 жыл бұрын
true it tends to happen to adults in a way the 3rd party listener. Because they feel such a comfort to misbehave with someone they know than it is with someone they don't. So I agree on that with you.
@lynn.d10156 жыл бұрын
MrsTatertots I would beat Aidan’s ass !!!!!!
@joywatson71476 жыл бұрын
Lynn .D Definitely!!!
@vibedup70054 жыл бұрын
I promise you guys, my parents never laid a hand on me. I turned out just fine lmfaooo. I just suffered with lectures from my mother. 😂😂
@JT-uc8dp4 жыл бұрын
Kirsten Limage I love your parents
@vibedup70054 жыл бұрын
Joshua Thomas bahaha thanks 😂
@ashleymoore4844 жыл бұрын
Girl that's tortuous too lol
@vibedup70054 жыл бұрын
Ashley Moore I know right!! Especially when you get lectured for something A FAMILY FRIEND DID. 🤣😂😂like why?!
@peacheskong22454 жыл бұрын
every child isn't the same. One nephew needed the spanking because lectures did NOT help at all yet with his sister it was the other way around...
@tamerilee4 жыл бұрын
It’s weird hearing some people talking about getting “whipped” when it lowkey sounds like the parent was just beating them up 😞😞 the line is so thin between discipline and abuse
@mariyaa1117 жыл бұрын
You know Tamera is like..."What?? wait ??? I'm the go to Mom on the show!!!
@ramirez62397 жыл бұрын
mariyaa111 giiiirrrrlll 😂😂😂😂
@jazze.27297 жыл бұрын
I used to love Tamera but if you can't realize she's a hypocrite you're delusional. She is so judgmental and always criticizing other people's parenting techniques. For instance earlier in the year she was telling Tamar that logan was a reflection of her and then went on to talking about Adrienne whose only the step-mom to Israels children should be able to discipline them. Yet in a situation that had nothing to do her she can't imagine someone else touching her own kids! Like I said in my own post, Aaiden is a reflection of what's being taught in his household. But no, innocent Tamera can't even own up to the fact that her children are acting out because of the LACK of discipline, just like she tried to throw on Tamar in the past. Tamera doesn't even realize that it's all about teaching her children respect and like Jeannie said in her own words, It takes a village! I don't see how Tamera can preach about being so biblical but turns a blind eye to "spare the rod, spoil the child." Please, she better wish she had someone like Mama Mai to love on yet discipline when needed. Soft ass 2 kids is in for a RUDE awakening as her kids grow older. They all looked at her like bitch please.
@uniqueunique287 жыл бұрын
Jazmyn oh wow do you have any kids? I have one child and I dare for anybody to touch my child no joke and it is different for others to speak about what they will do when they don't have kids! Hitting a 3 year old they are babies they don't know better and by them not knowing it tells them self consciousl like Tamera said to hit because you hit them when your mad.
@softleywifey7 жыл бұрын
Jazmyn Right, our kids are a reflection of us I agree alot with your statement but she obvious doesn't realize what she said way back then. But I agree with Jeannie's mom too, that darn kid was about 8 like Jeannie said and that's a crime shame for any child to get like that.
@jazze.27297 жыл бұрын
uniqueunique28 listen honey, I'm one of 7 and for her child to be misbehaving THAT WAY, clearly the parent wasn't teaching discipline in the home. There's no excuse for it! It's called being a brat and like JEANNIE SAID, it takes a village! Tamera is a hypocrite! she was the first one to talk about how she thinks Adrienne would be amazing and should be allowed to discipline Israel's kids.....but when it comes to her own? please. Between her reality show and The Real , Tamera has def shown us all how contradicting she truly is.
@lorianahines31527 жыл бұрын
What in the world did tamera do as a child to get the extension cord lol
@AdejumokeGodson7 жыл бұрын
her parents were in the army or something, guess they didnt tolerate a lot of things, there were probably disciplinarians
@mrstrellbrown237 жыл бұрын
Loriana Hines kml 😂 my big sister got the extension cord
@Mad1437 жыл бұрын
Her mom is Caribbean!! We do not tolerate rude children! Period. Children speak when spoken to and don't you dare embarrass me in public it will be your last day on earth. Respect for your elders is a rule out of the womb.
@lorianahines31527 жыл бұрын
Madlow thats what I'm saying, i can't imagine her ever having been a bad child
@Mad1437 жыл бұрын
Children need guidance rules and to be trained how to act! Yes trained!! You can take forever with time out if you want but a good beating is a one lesson class a child will never forget! After that it's the "Look" to remind you of that one time cut ass that u should never forget!
@Erina888885 жыл бұрын
When Tamara was talkihow Aiden was learning that he can spank when he's disappointed or not getting what he wants, I'm reminded of violent men abusing women. I am so glad that Tamara changed her approach and learned what works for him. That way, the old thinking with spanking doesn't escalate and continue on into adulthood.
@MsDudette214 жыл бұрын
its almost like spanking doesnt work and teaches you to be violent and aggressive. the fuckin irony
@sylviarosario65035 жыл бұрын
My mother slapped me across the face for saying leave me alone when I was 14. It only took one slap and I never told her anything else after that.
@Zzucia4 жыл бұрын
Damn
@alexisclarke20644 жыл бұрын
I rolled my eyes at my mother when I was 11,and she yanked me out of the car (we were on our way to church), and she whacked me with the belt, so hard, had a bruise the size of my fist on my thigh for weeks. Never rolled my eyes at her again and I'm 22
@supernatural53544 жыл бұрын
That's a bit much.
@supernatural53544 жыл бұрын
@@alexisclarke2064 That's sad
@twizzlerlemonpie30834 жыл бұрын
@@supernatural5354 I've been slapped before by my mom and my dad but my mom doesn't like physical abuse so when she does it she apologizes
@RuizMrs7 жыл бұрын
Talking bout a time out. My grandma would take a "time out" and beat the hell out of us with it
@arianex25757 жыл бұрын
lool
@vitalean7 жыл бұрын
StacyMuah 😂
@tater44427 жыл бұрын
StacyMuah once my grandma chase me with a broom up the street😂😂😂😂😂, because I have a smart mouth ,
@chrissy20076 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@janeametz73086 жыл бұрын
Lol yessss grandma
@NappyFu7 жыл бұрын
I totally can relate to Tamara I got the extension cord.
@khb98466 жыл бұрын
NappyFu TV lmaoo ❤️
@ravengibbons19416 жыл бұрын
NappyFu TV yeeeessss
@aluubaluu6 жыл бұрын
Lol girl, I got everyhing in my mom's reach god bless her
@iamshakuri6 жыл бұрын
I️ suuuuure got the extension cord
@lauraswan86476 жыл бұрын
NappyFu TV ouch
@nasamian6 жыл бұрын
Speaking didn't do nothing but make me depressed and suicidal back in my day , now I don't have a relationship with my family , cause all they did was beat me when they were angry. I'm good tho.
@worshipcatalyst15 жыл бұрын
so sorry. i struggled the same. no talking, just hitting. was suicidal for 15 years. we deserve better.
@CosmicKindness5 жыл бұрын
Praying for us✨✨✨
@marissar.3595 жыл бұрын
Yeah, this video is lighthearted for some, but I had to stop and think about the people who have been hardcore abused and how they feel about laughing and joking about corporal punishment.
@adelaarreolawakalia5 жыл бұрын
Disciplining a child is different than hitting when ever someone's upset. Kids should be spank but not for everything. Also you do it calm not angry..explaining why.
@jadesmith79835 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that. Your situation sounds more along the lines of abuse. I definitely think alot of parents take it too far.
@ashleyhenderson26834 жыл бұрын
I think with the situation that Jennie was speaking about, what the mother did was appropriate. If the child is screaming and hitting their parent, there needs to be an intervention. Wouldn’t be my child because I wouldn’t tolerate that behavior, but sometimes parents need help.
@heyheyhey406 жыл бұрын
Tamera! Why is Aiden hitting you? I NEVER even thought about hitting my mother! You need to fix that before he gets big!
@frizzzx865 жыл бұрын
babies will do that. i have never hit my toddler and she would slap me out of anger. after much discipline and timeouts she's stopped.
@jeniseabernathy65325 жыл бұрын
ahhh yea no one said anything on this kid hitting his mother ... she and that child will be in headlines as soon as he is a teenager
@redangel8335 жыл бұрын
@@frizzzx86 but........ aiden is 6 years old definitely not a toddler
@tonilovespets255 жыл бұрын
I disagree with the first comment my son is 5 and he has never in his short life hit me he knows better than that.
@marclabrie60275 жыл бұрын
@@redangel833 good age to start redning is bum
@sparkle1derful7 жыл бұрын
I thought they were talking about spanking in sex. I clicked on this video so fast. Lol
@vanessapascual14107 жыл бұрын
Esha Augustine omg 😂😂😂😂😂
@zuiilaa7 жыл бұрын
Esha Augustine Lol😅😂😁.oh man i needed that laugh!!
@truebestfrenz1237 жыл бұрын
me too😂😂😂
@mmmA4u7 жыл бұрын
lol I thought the same.😂
@Ayommari7 жыл бұрын
LMHO - you ain' even right.
@_KLauren4 жыл бұрын
How ironic that she called herself aggressive with all that's going on with BBW this season.
@rooshy884 жыл бұрын
Lol. She looks so civil here. But ya ...can't fool me
@user-go2rh9yg8i4 жыл бұрын
@@rooshy88 Right!!
@Bdotdecember4 жыл бұрын
I was looking for this comment!
@Rooted_Locs5 жыл бұрын
In my African household, we had to fetch our own stick/branch and it had to be the length of your body...I wonder why I never just avoided the discipline, we just took it cause we knew what we did wrong lmao
@asmrrose65195 жыл бұрын
African Americans are more likely to end up incarcerated.
@isabellamk72355 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂omg i remember this. My dad had me fetch a branch from outside one time then i gave it to him and he put salt and pepper on it and gave me the “ look” while sprinkling it on the branch, then beat my ass!!! Africans dont play! 😂😂😂😂😂
@singinggiraffe19385 жыл бұрын
Rosalyn Nelson wtf does that have to do with anything?
@keturahmckinney95034 жыл бұрын
Bahamians alse
@Sage-xk8ic3 жыл бұрын
@@isabellamk7235 wtf does salt and pepper do?
@GlowBeautyWellness7 жыл бұрын
I love Loni's hair! I got whoopin's when I was a kid. I rarely have to whoop my kids...I talk to them more, explain why they can't do XYZ and it works.
@sincerelycandace91506 жыл бұрын
GlowBeautyWellness why did i read it as “Loni Loves hair lol”
@BLACKORWHITE_IAM5 жыл бұрын
@GlowBeautyWellness IN YOUR OPINION, WERE YOU A BAD KID?
@MrS98VAC7 жыл бұрын
20 years of "time-outs" have produced a generation of savages!
@shaedavis537 жыл бұрын
Let's be honest, you can whoop a child or not whoop one, you just don't know how they are going to turn out! You can raise them, teach them and guide them but they will make their own decisions and do what they think works for them. All we can do is pray that what we have taught them stays with them and they do the right thing.
@MrS98VAC7 жыл бұрын
You totally have a point, but, I have seen it over & over again. When the rod is spared the child is, indeed, spoiled.
@shaedavis537 жыл бұрын
MrS98VAC I agree with you. If a child is disrespectful, disobediant, talks back and cuts up in school, he deserves a good spanking because those qualities are horrible to have out in the real world and they need to learn the hard way that is unacceptable. I just don't like these parents beating the holy hell out of these children for every damn thing they do. It could be as small as accidentally wasting water or one bad grade at school. Kids need discipline not abuse!!
@usadrones7 жыл бұрын
this is the truth!!
@PollyLove927 жыл бұрын
MrS98VAC Come on somebody!!!! 🙌
@satinabernathy174 жыл бұрын
Tamera said "I swear it works", in another sentence she says "it happened this morning". Soooo it doesn't work if he's still acting out right?
@ts46024 жыл бұрын
Aiden wouldnt be hitting me. I would whip that butt good
@Shinde164 жыл бұрын
satin abernathy Exactly, if it works it should be repeated. It took me one “chancletazo” to learn to not lie to my mom. And that actually worked.
@theebillionairess33774 жыл бұрын
@@ts4602 🤣🤣🤣
@mckenzie.86534 жыл бұрын
Cindy Detres that's you though. My mom never hit me and I learned not to lie to her.
@RockieC15 жыл бұрын
Why do people justify spanking with “I turned out fine” 😂😂😂 I don’t think so..
@MsDudette215 жыл бұрын
Right? I got beaten as a kid and I'm on antidepressants now. And yes being beaten and spanked is the same thing. People wanna act like it is different but at the end of the day they were all beaten in very similar ways so it doesn't really matter what word you use. IF you turned out fine you wouldn't use violence as a way to discipline.
@rachellinaaa4 жыл бұрын
@@MsDudette21 I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling frfr. But maybe that's the result of something else that happened in your life not just spanking?
@sharraybrown47354 жыл бұрын
MsDudette21 you were abused hun
@MariaObama894 жыл бұрын
@@MsDudette21 I think your History was different I don't nkow what kind of spanking you had but seams like was a Daily thing. I definitely get spank but when my mother is not really happy with me, now I'm a Mother and I get her Actions, I want to nkow if you are a Mother now. Because I use to think the same, I think your History was an Abusive one, even I nkow Spank is a Phisycal abused I mean it more once in a while, I want to nkow how Often has happened to you, because for you to End up Depressed? I believe there is something Deeper than what you are saying to us.
@mckenzie.86534 жыл бұрын
rachie g or maybe you WANT it to be something else because you want to deny her truth.
@solbingham68817 жыл бұрын
When Aiden kicks and hits me.. WTF I would beat the bricks off my kid.
@usadrones7 жыл бұрын
that's that "other" type of parenting. those are the children screaming and fighting their parents in Walmart.
@jacobTheeCreole7 жыл бұрын
Sol Bingham lol right!!!!
@roseamy99307 жыл бұрын
Sol Bingham yes
@jesusislove30587 жыл бұрын
To be honest I wonder what her husband says and does.....
@1spicynoodlecup9937 жыл бұрын
Adam Probably does nothing. He's a super conservative nutjob.
@nalgas287 жыл бұрын
Kids do respond differently. My sister got the chancleta the most, I just watched her get them and thought "Let me not do whatever she just did". Her being the example worked great for me.
@allamericanswede86614 жыл бұрын
I have never hit either of my parents. Nor have I ever said "I hate you" to them. I was never hit or spanked as a child. I was the kind of kid Jeannie was talking about, where if i had hurt my parents feelings I would be really upset.
@aliciasmith63875 жыл бұрын
The extension cord is soooo real omg 😭😭
@egyptscott48014 жыл бұрын
Im the youngest of 5 and I was actually very spoiled by my father but I lived with my mother and she didn't play at all and I definitely got the extension cord a couple of times. However I was a really good kid growing up.
@craymay47667 жыл бұрын
Where my Africans at? The wooden spooon though ...
@murielmelly76887 жыл бұрын
Cray May I'm gonna explain something because I feel like I should speak on this as someone who grew up in a African family. Yes they are the fun sides and the bad sides. And I'm sure many of my African sis grew up with siblings. Well I didn't. And I'm still an only child today. I used to have a few friends when I was around 8-9-10 whom I would play with. When I got 16-17, I started to feel alone. My parents didn't make it easy for me. They were constantly expecting me to excell at pretty much everything I do. The more they put pressure on me, the more I failed at everything. That made my dad very pissed. So he used the spanking tactic, all the time. I had serious troubles in math and he couldn't accept the fact that I wasn't a pro at math like him so he would made me stay up till midnight almost every weeknight so he could show me "his method" while I learned "the teacher method", the one I was supposed to use the day of the exam. I can still remember the insults he throw at me, made fun of me by saying "I'm gonna be worthless" while I was doing everything I can. At every exam, my brain went blank & I got scared everytime. Why? Because when I got home, he would ask "How did that exam go". That was pretty much my teens years. Being scared of my own dad. While my mom stood there, didn't really do anything. The worst thing was that I didn't talk to anybody at that time. I started seeing a counselor in March 2014, the same year, I called the police on my dad because I couldn't take it anymore, he went too far. A few months later, I left the house. I went to two different shelters for about 10 months. I didn't contact my parents at all. I experienced all kind of things there. Discrimination, feeling disrespected by my ex who couldn't handle the word "NO". During these 10 months, I saw my parents were trying to reach me. I finally gave up and my mom sent me a text in December 2015. Now today, one year later, I'm just happy to have my parents back. They've changed for the better & so did I. Now, I won't say that spanking doesn't work but being overcontrolling can lead to what I did or even worse. Like Tamera said, every child is different. Now my only problem is, I don't know how to feel about men today. All I want from you girls (and boys) is advices. Not judgment (AFRICAN FAM, I'M TALKING TO YOU). I still can't believe I wrote all of this but I felt like I had to. Thanks for taking time to read this ❤
@emmyemmy73896 жыл бұрын
Cray May yeeeeah my mum will use a wooden spoon hahaha
@vvyheur6 жыл бұрын
I'm African (Motswana & Malawian) but I never got spanked. My parents only told me not to do it again. They taught me what's good and bad. I turned out pretty okay. My parents think it's bad to beat children and expect the child to understand what they did wrong. Just talk to them.
@sabrielysgimelindez11266 жыл бұрын
im Venezuelan and my mom used to do that to brothers xD
@natashaluonde21326 жыл бұрын
Wooden spoon, pot, chair, chicken whatever is in the hand gets dashed.
@anazuosalihu97127 жыл бұрын
"Freddie and I discussed how would we discipline our kids".
@chanyisme7 жыл бұрын
Anna Mae Harkness She has baby fever...yay!
@beautifulsoul72767 жыл бұрын
That made me so happy and when she said mommy. Yes Jeannie!
@sandyboo27 жыл бұрын
They got to her oh well Tamera can teach her everything she knows
@JOYCEBELIKE7 жыл бұрын
i want her to have a baby so bad!!!
@zbluepirate7 жыл бұрын
if Jeannie has a baby, OMG she would turn that child into a fashionista.
@teejaybee94 жыл бұрын
We were definitely raised on the extension cord. My son jokes that we had no working television's in our house.
@zooeea3 жыл бұрын
I’m with Jeannie. It really takes a village but we lost that with all the “Don’t tell me how to raise my child.” That’s not just your child, it’s a person. And people can learn direction from anywhere.
@gigib88817 жыл бұрын
I'm Haitian so when my parents say "Mete ajenou w" meaning "get on your knees". I knew I was dead.
@andimangie91967 жыл бұрын
Crazy_ G!G! SAME ! LMFAO. And when they would stop watching me , i would sit on my ass until they came again and went right back to my knees.
@sabrinaphanor92897 жыл бұрын
I know the pain! My mom would make me stay on my knees for 1 hour straight facing the wall. Sometimes, she would make my sister lift one leg and balance books on both hands. DAMN spanking didn't work all the time.
@emxthyst7 жыл бұрын
LMAOOO SAME that was the worst ten hours on my knees I stg
@ffedeline5 жыл бұрын
Gilberte Badio lmbo Tb yo al pran branch lan kot matinèt la😂😂😂 the hair brush omg
@_Kim_Possible5 жыл бұрын
Honestly I wish I got spanked to get it over with, like standing on your knees for a couple hours was crazy
@jaylag02217 жыл бұрын
Literally when they announced the topic Tamera shifted in her seat and started smiling and moving around like "This is my subject"!!!
@patiencemtembo65807 жыл бұрын
Jayla G 😂😂😂 You could she was itching to go , that's why she let them all talk first
@StrongnBeautiful7 жыл бұрын
And it ain't, as she let us know her son is telling her off and hitting HER!
@erikverikv31076 жыл бұрын
Although it is wildly popular (I was even spanked), it's obvious that spanking teaches your children that using physical violence will get you what you want. This has been proven through study after study. Just because it doesn't traumatize all children who are spanked doesnt mean it should still continue to be done. Just like children can be traumatized by something horrible and not be the same and others can bounce right back. I see a lot of you saying that time outs don't work and that children are being disrespectful because they're not spanked which makes me sad that you all are so limited in how you can effectively punish your children. It affects the rest of their life and how they treat/hit others, so I think spanking is bad.
@LaDimplez915 жыл бұрын
It's not easy being a parent. Kids don't come with manuals. We're trying our best and in no way is it our intention to traumatize our kids, but we were raised a certain way so it's hard to change generational habits all at once. No one is perfect.
@lolamarie4415 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad they kept it all the way real 😂😂😂 I got all of the above.
@keimonte147 жыл бұрын
Chile, that's what's wrong with these kids today. That "time out" mess is useless Lmao.
@Koko1192547 жыл бұрын
keimonte14 little kids can't sit still hell adults can't sit still people don't have the same attention span anymore and if kids aren't able to understand what they did was wrong then " sitting in time out and thinking about what you did " is totally ineffective
@sandyboo27 жыл бұрын
I got the talking to after I got hit.....you do the crime you do the time
@emyliefougy1127 жыл бұрын
keimonte14 lol that's what most white parents do. must be nice to not get an ass whooping..
@NeeneeH7 жыл бұрын
onlyheretodislike spanking and abuse are two very different things
@BriLoveMusic7 жыл бұрын
Fifi Lauren Yes, thank you. Very true. The fact that less and less people understand that is why more children are becoming so increasingly disrespectful. It is such a shame.
@ceeceedior217 жыл бұрын
heck no. if my son hits me I'm tearing that butt up.
@tundealadesanusi83325 жыл бұрын
True . That's me
@elizabethunger91905 жыл бұрын
1. Spankings are okay if done in love. If it's done in anger, it's wrong. 2. I love Tamara but ignoring your child's bad behavior, even if it gets him to eventually stop, isn't discipline. It's avoidance. He isn't learning that there is a consequence for doing wrong. There needs to be a balance between firm discipline and love.
@beautifulsoul70936 жыл бұрын
"No police will know you put your nails into them " 😂
@wanderer25897 жыл бұрын
tameras essay to her son to discipline him doesnt seem realistic. my mom just gave me the LOOK and that was that.
@Alexmilo767 жыл бұрын
wanderer LOL "essay" 😂😂
@wanderer25897 жыл бұрын
Al Milo it had a thesis and everything 😂😂😂
@Shadowlandsdropout7 жыл бұрын
wanderer LMAO it was an entire speech, no toddler is listening to that
@kianah5447 жыл бұрын
wanderer "It had a thesis". Lmaooooooooo😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@ajc83027 жыл бұрын
wanderer that's why he's gonna come to her with an attitude when he's older😂😂😂😂 no kid has got time for an essay
@ac48707 жыл бұрын
I remember all too well the "wait til we get home.." oh how much I prayed that something came up & my mom forgot. Sometimes she did & other times she let me think she forgot... those times were the worst 😩 and don't get me STARTED on the "wait til your father comes home".... 💀 but as Tamera said, I turned out alright 😊
@carol99096 жыл бұрын
Queen Sykes My mama never forgot. She'd make me go get the belt.
@chauntelrochelle65665 жыл бұрын
Ever try to fake like your asleep and hope they don’t want to wake up to whoop you😂
@LaDimplez915 жыл бұрын
I do that to my son! Ooh wait till daddy gets home! Lol he stops the foolishness right away!
@Msboochie25 жыл бұрын
I love Jeanie’s mom! Sometimes those parents with out of control, really need some backup. If there is one thing I learned from being a mother, is it takes a village to raise a child. I have never seen a child trying to hit their mother. The Caribbean American community I grew up in, back in the day would tear you up, even if just verbally. Your friends would no longer be allowed to speak to you much less play with you. You would be marked as one of those “bad” kids, if your parents caught you talking to them you would be in trouble. I have never ever thought of hitting my parents, so I don’t know what would happen. I ‘m pretty sure it would be my last thought.
@tamerilee4 жыл бұрын
This is the best hair I’ve seen Loni have, she suits the sleek look so well 🤍
@MrUnattainable7 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad they threw a lil extra change in Loni's wig budget...
@SeychelleSunshine7 жыл бұрын
lmao yess
@CapeverdeanBarbie19907 жыл бұрын
Lol oh boy
@leenae59377 жыл бұрын
shady ass 😂😂
@tamaraedwards91666 жыл бұрын
Brandon Mr.Unattainable Sloan lol
@makiyaathey93976 жыл бұрын
NOOOO😂😂😂
@amminarose7 жыл бұрын
Old school Big Mamas used a switch and you had to pick it out. lol
@carol99096 жыл бұрын
Ammina Rose My mom would make me go get the belt. And it better not be a cloth/thread one.
@teianniaclark24346 жыл бұрын
I had to do that every time I got a spanking. We had a good switch tree in our front yard. It was terrible but I am thankful.
@shaes90316 жыл бұрын
"go out on the tree and get a stick" and you try to pick the smallest one and it end up hurting worse 😂😂 wish I known that now
@lilverse42164 жыл бұрын
“ You put back or I attack “ 😂😂😂
@hanhgiadao4 жыл бұрын
What Jeannie said is the equivalent of “you gonna catch these hands” 😂
@murielmelly76887 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna explain something because I feel like I should speak on this as someone who grew up in a African family. Yes they are the fun sides and the bad sides. And I'm sure many of my African sis grew up with siblings. Well I didn't. And I'm still an only child today. I used to have a few friends when I was around 8-9-10 whom I would play with. When I got 16-17, I started to feel alone. My parents didn't make it easy for me. They were constantly expecting me to excell at pretty much everything I do. The more they put pressure on me, the more I failed at everything. That made my dad very pissed. So he used the spanking tactic, all the time. I had serious troubles in math and he couldn't accept the fact that I wasn't a pro at math like him so he would made me stay up till midnight almost every weeknight so he could show me "his method" while I learned "the teacher method", the one I was supposed to use the day of the exam. I can still remember the insults he throw at me, made fun of me by saying "I'm gonna be worthless" while I was doing everything I can. At every exam, my brain went blank & I got scared everytime. Why? Because when I got home, he would ask "How did that exam go". That was pretty much my teens years. Being scared of my own dad. While my mom stood there, didn't really do anything. The worst thing was that I didn't talk to anybody at that time. I started seeing a counselor in March 2014, the same year, I called the police on my dad because I couldn't take it anymore, he went too far. A few months later, I left the house. I went to two different shelters for about 10 months. I didn't contact my parents at all. I experienced all kind of things there. Discrimination, feeling disrespected by my ex who couldn't handle the word "NO". During these 10 months, I saw my parents were trying to reach me. I finally gave up and my mom sent me a text in December 2015. Now today, one year later, I'm just happy to have my parents back. They've changed for the better & so did I. Now, I won't say that spanking doesn't work but being overcontrolling can lead to what I did or even worse. Like Tamera said, every child is different. Now my only problem is, I don't know how to feel about men today. All I want from you girls (and boys) is advices. Not judgment (AFRICAN FAM, I'M TALKING TO YOU). I still can't believe I wrote all of this but I felt like I had to. Thanks for taking time to read this ❤
@TeAmoCristoJesus7 жыл бұрын
Muriel Melly I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I can relate. I come from a hispanic family. Raced by my aunt, who was abusive, physical and mentally. I was very afraid to do the same to my kids. Today I have two daughters that are everything to me and my husband. I spank them rarely, but necessarily. They get time out and understand this means "stay along to think why you did this" the same minutes as their age and if is hitting each other, time out is facing the wall. I tell you all this because although I understand your point, discipline is not the same as abuse, keep it in mind. Telling a child he will be worthless, It's NEVER ok! Your dad crossed the line just like my aunt. Also, now that I read about the HW I'm happy that this days, teachers send home explanations for parents with the method to use to help our kids with homeworks. You will be ok, just remember not to over do it because of your pass experience. I was about to make that mistake until I realized I was overprotective of my child. Oh and my husband don't spank them ever, we have an agreement because after my brother hit me so much until I was 16, you can imagine all the fears I faced for a loOoong time with my first relationship. Blessings and a big hug❤️
@peachlife51187 жыл бұрын
Wow girl your dad and teenage experience sounds JUST like mine. My dad also wanted me to be an overachiever and was very, very abusive. I think after a kid hits a certain age, you need to ease up a little. It is embarassing for a father to be beating on his 16 year old daughter because she did not get a good grade or she looked at him wrong, this is when it becomes abuse and is clearly no longer about discipline. I also did not talk to my dad for 2 years one I got to college, he had been that brutal toward me and nobody in my family even blamed me. A child loves their parents unconditionally for the most part, I still love my dad and I'm sure you love yours more than the world too, they do not want to upset them but once the child is almost grown and still being treated like a 2 year old, it is simply not healthy. Please be strong and have faith as you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you still. As for your ex, IGNORE HIM!!! He is not worthy of you.. you were going through a hard time and chose him to comfort you through that. When we are vulnerable like that (not talking to parents, etc.), we make very bad choices just to feel some comfort/love. Just ignore the whole world and focus on your goals and building good habits which are all about achieving your goals. You can do this sister!!!!!
@stephanieb47637 жыл бұрын
Muriel Melly I'm African too and I feel like I can relate. I believe that growing up me and my other 3 sisters were indeed abused by our father. I am 20 now and I feel traumatized and I have all resentment toward him that kept growinf with me ever since I was a kid. He would always beat us for the smallest and dumbest stuff and I now noticed that this normally happened when he came home from work so I think he used spanking us as a way to relieve his stresses which is terrible because you are a grown man father, why make punching bags out of the people you are supposed to love. Not only did he normally beat us when he came back from work but he always did it when my Mom wasn't around even one day I was about to get beat by him and my Mom came home and he put the belt down and just told me to go which is weird and I look back on and realize somethings not right. For years I kept trying to convince myself that I'm just like other people who get spankings from their parents and I should get over it. As I get older I realize now this is deeper than discipline, this man abuse me and my sisters and I am still dealing with the mental and emotional damage and I can't let the pain go. I can't get over it. It hurts, even after all these years, it hurts. I have memories of my childhood and all I see is living in fear because every little thing would set him off and he would start beating us. I still live with my parents and I have no personal connection to them what so ever. Its like their just managers of a hotel I'm staying in. Once I move out I doubt I'll ever speak to my father again. Sad to say but its the truth, I don't love him and I don't care about his life. I know these feelings are toxic and unhealthy to keep harboring and I really want to get therapy but I don't even know where to start.
@feyiplus45007 жыл бұрын
I can relate to you, we got electric cord, flip flop, stick and what not. This was done by my mum, she was raising us by herself so it was stressful for her sometimes and she just pours out her anger on us. She threatens us sometimes to go dump us with my dad, knowing how that will upset us. Most of her 'discipline moments' weren't actually discipline but anger and frustration from being a single mum. My sister and I will always plan our escape but didn't have the guts to carry it through. Till date I can't disclose some things a daughter should disclose to her mother and she wonders why.
@murielmelly76887 жыл бұрын
Luna Azul Thank you. Now that I'm with my mom I feel so much better. However, around December, I always act weird (2011) and this time, I've decided to read the Bibile and it calms me a lot. Long story short, my dad is somehow always travelling to Africa during the Holidays and he's been doing this since 2011. The one year that he stayed (2 years ag0) he was hella controlling overnonsense. I turned 18 yet was still treated like I was 11. I remember my cousin (from my dad's side) she came from France to study in Canada (still there after 2 years) my dad was literally praising her & she kept gave me up and down subtle looks. Now, when I came back, she got so surprised that I could survived 10 months without any of my parents. Something she'd never be capable of. I love my dad. The 2016 one though
@ramirez62397 жыл бұрын
with that thumbnail I totally thought a diffrent kind of spanking topic lmao 😯
@user-cv5rb5cj1y7 жыл бұрын
Ramirez i just felt like i got issues lol
@Ideally_Shanna5 жыл бұрын
Im a Nigerian/Gambian and my mom would beat me with anything she found. And heaven forbid I ran, that shoe would fly after my head.
@anaskchichou13245 жыл бұрын
Idk why but their throwing flip flops skils are on point.
@Sassywhitclass5 жыл бұрын
Loni's makeup is flawless!!!
@gigglyfitzgirl7 жыл бұрын
Seriously? A video about abuse and child discipline on the same day? The Real got me messed up today....😞 but I appreciate them talking about important issues.
@avasd597 жыл бұрын
😘😘
@gigglyfitzgirl7 жыл бұрын
Ava S. 💜❤💙
@stephaniebaileyc.g.i70597 жыл бұрын
When does discipline turn into abuse basically (Clayton moss) - gigglyfitzgirl
@dreuxespeut35036 жыл бұрын
Was talking to my sister about this the other day. I read a study that said that kids who got spanked have a harder time trusting and/or opening up to their parents which is true for me at least! Couldn’t be violent towards my own child and come back with some “I’m doing this because I love you” and then wonder why down the road they’re in a potentionally abusive relationship and stay bc “he/she is doing this bc they love me” no.
@yamicutino42215 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree 100%. All 3 of my kids got shopping’s and now the 2 oldest are adults and my daughter is almost an adult. They all talk to me all the time about everything well almost everything o don’t talk to the boys about their sex loves of course but every thing else we y’all honestly. Also I am honest with them about everything I have gone through and the type of person I was and how everything I went made me grow as a person. I truly am blessed for my kids and they know it also. They got whoopings but they got a lot of love and maybe in their opinion to much preaching lol. But I do agree that each child is different and certain things work on some and not others.
@lolacabana1235 жыл бұрын
I disagree, I got whooped as a kid, and I don't even let a man TALK to me sideways, let alone put his hands on me and call it "love"
@venus68975 жыл бұрын
dreux espeut !!
@zariaragsdale79605 жыл бұрын
If u have children one day, spanking may not even work for them, so you still have options. I got spanked too, I still talk to my parents and I'm not an abusive person. Never have been in any of my relationships. So I guess it just all depends on the child and what route they choose to take. Whether that is to be abusive from whooping or have the urge to be the exact opposite. Tamera turned out fine. She is extremely sweet.
@NicoleKernisant5 жыл бұрын
So true! I never trusted my parents enough to be open with them because I got beatings. It made me fear my parents. Sb: (it was a little excessive. I would get beat for small things like spilling my juice.) And later on I did end up in an abusive relationship. I think taking stuff away would’ve worked better. But I feel different things work for different kids.
@idilali35556 жыл бұрын
Somali Parents discipline their children with: *Flip Flop *Chargers *Shoes *Wooden/Metal Spoons *Hangers *Brooms *EVERYTHING ELSE IN REACH
@spurplekth97804 жыл бұрын
Fact!!!😂 been there done that
@tekrimahmed78934 жыл бұрын
U forgot the belt
@zentinelz4 жыл бұрын
Also Mexicans-
@tinaflowers90772 жыл бұрын
There's a difference between discipline and abuse..when you abuse your child, they're traumatized for life!!! When you discipline your child, they stay outta of jail and they're the most respected kids you will ever meet..those that never had a whooping, don't know the difference...we got our a** whooped and none of us ever been locked up..we're all grown and successful and very respectful
@erinknight57427 жыл бұрын
Whoopings worked for me. Beatings and whoopings are two different things. Not every situation deserves a whooping and Every child is different. So different types of discipline works for different types of children. Time out, whooping, a speech, grounding and so forth work for different people. You may have to try all of them just to see what works for your child then tailor that discipline as they get older.
@thecrap17yearsago356 жыл бұрын
Erin Knight no it Nevers works long term. Just because it temporarily worked just mean anything
@danaflamenco6 жыл бұрын
@@thecrap17yearsago35 You can't say that it never works long term. It does depend on the person. Every person and child is different every situation is different. You can't possibly know for sure that it won't ever work long term.
@thecrap17yearsago356 жыл бұрын
Dana Flamenco then is it worth the risk?
@angelaharris97145 жыл бұрын
@@thecrap17yearsago35 if rather try than do nothing at all and risk my child turning our horrible.
@rasheemwyattreid33516 жыл бұрын
"No police can tell you put your nails into them" - Jeannie Mai
@reese77044 жыл бұрын
I swear I was rolling when she said that 😂😂
@DaughterofZion14404 жыл бұрын
A pinch goes a long way! Lol
@JosephGarcia-hw4of5 жыл бұрын
My mom always threaten me. "When i get up...."
@RP.1232 жыл бұрын
“Subconsciously I’m teaching him to hit when he doesn’t get his way”. Parents (especially black parents)need to understand this.
@zarimc7 жыл бұрын
"I ain't get spanked, I got WHOOPED" - I was honestly thinking the same thing before she said that 😂😂😂
@egyptscott48014 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY
@marshagaye7 жыл бұрын
It says a lot when a child is spanked and they decide to hit the parent back! Not in my yawd!!! Discipline isn't just the spanking itself, it has more to do with how a child is trained on a daily.
@misseydj1237 жыл бұрын
Marsha A As long as it's actually discipline and not literal child abuse. Many parents don't know the difference.
@kandb4life7 жыл бұрын
LOL Agreed! I think she was using it wrong. Tamera was probably visibly upset or crying when she spanked Aden. Spanking is not supposed to be out of emotion. It's supposed to set boundaries for a child so next time the child thinks about doing it, they remember the spanking and don't. Plus, that boy is probably hyper active and really wants attention from his mother seeing that she's not there consistently due to work. She just has to figure out how to adequately be there for him.
@jasminevaliente966 жыл бұрын
I call b******* it honestly just depends on the child I would never ever in a million years put my hands on my momma BUT my little sister was a new breed of human. That little girl right there would fight the devil if he tried to put her hands on her im talking from toddler if my mom tried to spank or grab her rough she would screw up her face and hit her back and they'd just be fighting eachother until my mom gave up or someone watching had to say something. My mom learned real quick spanking her was useless and that one of those days she was actually just going to have to kill her because my sister could take punches and still hit back...similar to Tamaras son the only thing that worked on my little sister was ignoring her. That pride was hurt if she couldn't get attention. Meanwhile I'm the opposite you ignore me I'm glad we can both play them games my mom try ignoring me by the end of the week she'll forget why and realize I'm the one ignoring her. If she picked up anything to hit me with though I was done doing whatever I was doing wrong for life. Every child is different
@rodwilliams74576 жыл бұрын
Jasmine Valiente y'all are wilding, send your kids to jamaica if u want to discipline them, we don't play with nobody much less our kids, hit who back!? Must be crazy.
@mrjcmjunior98426 жыл бұрын
PREACH....don't care who or what you are, if your child is hitting or kicking you, then something is wrong with how you raising his ass...I'd be embarrassed AF to go on national television and admit that my child does that to me....hell to the naw
@notsobasicbecki6585 жыл бұрын
I love how ya'll were so REAL in this. People are afraid to say how they really discipline their kids cause everyone is an expert now...even people with no kids. Every child is different and like Tam said...it is up to the parent to figure out what works best for them and their kid. The only negative I have is for people who don't discipline at all. Later, society has to put up with what you wouldn't even attempt to correct.
@MichelMawon49826 жыл бұрын
I LOVE when Jeannie does the Vietnamese accent. I think we need more community rearing.
@craymay47667 жыл бұрын
If Jeannie announces a pregnancy I might cry from joy.
@Brandi_7777 жыл бұрын
Cray May Me too! She's come a long way from doubting herself.
@estheryema7 жыл бұрын
Cray May 😂😂😂 too funny! But I soo agree!
@Madisyn76 жыл бұрын
Too late now
@xxo88886 жыл бұрын
Announcing a divorce
@nicolex91926 жыл бұрын
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@Frimstagram7 жыл бұрын
My mum would use a belt, cane, switch, spoon, hands, pans, slippers, whatever...you naaaaame it!
@santriciajones30287 жыл бұрын
Christina Achiaa Beans, peas, tomatoes, potatoes, dog, hog lol
@mandyb88177 жыл бұрын
😂
@tater44427 жыл бұрын
Pans? Damn fam
@williamshinn13196 жыл бұрын
I got the broom stick, belt, extension cord, slippers, bat, iron board
@Queendomcruz6 жыл бұрын
Christina Anitsirhc BAHAHAHAHAHAHAH riight! 👐
@Morelorrr4 жыл бұрын
Balance is key. I’m happy for the beatings that I did get. My mom didn’t abuse me but when she whooped me she got me good
@junglee-joe12954 жыл бұрын
A childhood without Mr. Belt must have been a boring life.
@locafly4 жыл бұрын
Junglee-Joe 😆😆😆
@ABeautifulMess1017 жыл бұрын
"You put that back or I attack!" I'm holleringggg😩😂😂. Tamara got lil hood for a sec when she said "if you touch my child, I'll touch you!" You damn right we don't play those games. 💁🏽👏🏾
@alexadkins77976 жыл бұрын
if you think its scary when your parents wooped ya its even scarier when your parent sends you to school with a letter allowing your teachers to do it.
@Nikhiyang7 жыл бұрын
Jeannie, Africans feel your pain. My parents thought kitchen utensils, slippers, belts, tree branches, and hair brushes were tools for disciplining children.
@Nikhiyang7 жыл бұрын
oh and old school hands.
@norainepillias47267 жыл бұрын
Nikhiyang lmfak at tree branches 😂😂😂
@NanaAppiahkusi7 жыл бұрын
Rite?! My mom threatens with the slippers but still throws it at me
@vvyheur6 жыл бұрын
I'm afraid I have to disagree. I'm African and I *never EVER* got beaten. I am disciplined without getting beaten.
@miranda02985 жыл бұрын
What worked for my siblings and I was my mom looking is straight in the eye, and whispering sternly instead of yelling. That’s how we knew she was mad.
@serenitymaven53284 жыл бұрын
Who else is here after Evelyn criminally spanked the yeast infection away from her youknowwhat? 😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀
@ParisAntoinette4 жыл бұрын
Are you talking about the BBW Costa Rica trip? I saw the preview. 😂😂😂
@christianbrown2377 жыл бұрын
Tam sounds like one of those moms in the store when her kid acting up she bend down say "now Aiden didn't we talk about this in the car now stop throwing bars of soap at people" 😂😂😂😂
@Dan1ella7 жыл бұрын
God forbid my child tries to hit me when they're angry
@usadrones7 жыл бұрын
right. Tamera said Aiden kicks and hits her so matter of "factly"
@kandb4life7 жыл бұрын
Bruh! I'm like when yall having the fune cause he's got to be dead.
@Unknownuser898787 жыл бұрын
Daniella but it's ok for her to hit him though right? #fucklogic
@Dan1ella7 жыл бұрын
Yes, as a way of disciplining him if that's what she decides.
@charliehinds7007 жыл бұрын
SHE IS THE PARENT!
@heatherrussell70395 жыл бұрын
It was whatever was in reach in my house. We didn’t have one particular whoopin device. The most popular were the flyswatter, hairbrush, belts, wooden spoons with the slots (those got plenty of air), flip flops. Southern moms are nuts. 😂 but the worst punishment for me was the silent treatment or the “I’m disappointed” speech.
@madtingz22885 жыл бұрын
Adrienne is so funny to me 😭😭😭😭 “this is super common”
@Bsk29947 жыл бұрын
My mum was so petty should would have me go to the garden and break my own stick and she'd hit me with it. LOL
@Nelllyxoxo_7 жыл бұрын
Boboleia lmfaoo me too
@destinycharm70677 жыл бұрын
LMFAO damn man that sucks.
@nomadicvibesofelle6 жыл бұрын
Boboleia my aunt would braid switches together
@williamshinn13196 жыл бұрын
Same
@kierasw17206 жыл бұрын
Boboleia you ever tried to get a small one...then your mom uses that one and the bigger one she picked and braid them together 😒😨
@BRITTWOODNESHIE7 жыл бұрын
As long as you aren't hurting your child by abusing them, then you discipline them how you want. People worry about what other people do to discipline their kids when it's not their business.
@murielmelly76887 жыл бұрын
Nesha Britwood Please can you read my story and tell me what you think. It's above, first comment
@TijasWorld7 жыл бұрын
I agree. Ppl don't know the difference b.w abuse and discipline.
@fishchicken41886 жыл бұрын
Jeannie and her mom's story man I'm telling I was cracking up 😂😂😂😂😂
@TWile-vk8ju2 жыл бұрын
"You put back or I attack!" Love it!!! When my kids were very small at the first bad behaviors and ignoring my verbal reprimands, i would place their hand palm down on mine palm up at my fingertips and smack the palm of my hand. I didn't even graze their fingers but it was startling enough that after the first 2-3 times "the look" was usually all it took although sometimes saying the name in "the mom means business tone" was needed