Forcing a dog through a groom that doesn't actually NEED a groom can do more harm than good. Baby steps would be more ideal. However, because they came from 6 hours away, I can't exactly do little by little, and have him come back several times a year.

@@girlwiththedogs212 THANK YOU for understanding consent and cooperative care!

I've done baby steps with a family members Labrador and now he calmly endures a shower and blow-dry. He used to absolutely panic when I first started. For a lab or golden to refuse food shows pretty extreme stress, which can have some long term health effects. That said, some dogs will train owners to just do what they want. Vanessa reads the situation very well, as per usual.

@@girlwiththedogs212 Thank you for explaining to her why you handled him the way you did. Driving 6 hours to get a groom is a long way and I think you did a great job with him and explained the process of how you groomed him. Some dogs are just more talkative and expressive than others and I think you did a great job on him.

I feel this approach might work better with a younger dog or a dog that is being rebellious and stubborn, rather than a very stressed and anxious dog. Ignoring unwanted behavior is a valid approach in some cases, but can compound anxious behaviors and solidify fear of specific situations for some dogs.~

The side eye is so typical of this breed lol 😂 just big babies at ❤️ . Our very anxious but proud and aloof Cavapoo loves Vanessa’s voice every time he hears her say “Good Dog “ or “very good dog” he almost smiles 😂😂😂😂and goes all fuzzy 😂😂😂

lol My English cream golden does the same.

So pretty. too much dog for me.

That look of his says "she's lying to me, isn't she?"

It’s all about agency & choice, just like us!

What I see is "Look, I give paw, I'm a good boy, please let me go 🥺"

You're anthropomorphizing

Lol that's more like a "Pls no I love you why you doin this to me"

I can’t believe these people can’t groom their own dog

HER NAME IS VANESSA!!?

🤣😂 this😂🤣 I had to chase my now 21 year old around our local Tesco supermarket because she wouldn’t want to let go of a box of tampons that I didn’t need and she Definitely didn’t need 🤣

@@Glenys8080do you mean 21 month old? 🤣🤣🤣

@@frightbat208nope, she’s 21 years old now. It happened when she was 2 and 1/2 years old lol

Thanks for making me laugh

I was thinking the same thing except them not wanting a diaper change or a face cleaning.🤣.

I liked her saying the other day “stop growling, it’s just rude!!”

Vanessa is the best ❤

​@@jesswright8279Typical Canadian 😛 I love that about her.

​@@jesswright8279I remember that. 😆 The thing is, she's always so chill when she says these things.

I thought she said lip lick

Aw, you are such a wonderful person for all you've done and keep on doing. It takes a huge heart to have so much love and patience for kids who struggle, slip through the cracks and need a little extra or different help. Same for dogs, too! I'm not surprised you burn out, the statistics are so high. I hope the doggos are helping you out even as you're helping them. I totally agree on there being some fundamental similarities with kids and dogs! So much of working with them is figuring out methods of communication, and it can be so different between two kids, or two dogs, and requires a lot of thinking outside the box to find solutions that work for everyone. I've raised kids and raised and trained dogs and horses (the kids are little barbarians so I won't say they're trained), and knowledge has changed SO MUCH just in the time I've been doing both. I have a lot of family in ECE, it's kind of a family thing :) Well, that and the horses, but I took over when my uncle started getting sick. There's a lot that translates between dogs and horses especially, and if you ever get the opportunity I hope you give them a try -- a lot of horse rescues need people to gently work with horses as they're usually learning all their lives, and have some pretty complicated expectations to meet. They're also just... restful. Sweet, and funny -- huge senses of the absurd and horsey humour. Anyhow, I have tremendous respect for people in places that require huge hearts to just walk into (part of why I love this channel) and just wanted to say thank you. My nephew was one of those kids on the spectrum who slipped through the cracks and it nearly tore his family apart. If it hadn't been for his social worker, I don't know where he'd be right now -- certainly not just finishing University :)

Thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words. I wish you all the best my friend:)@@Jockdog

Not so much. She was going on asking for let her free with lifting her paw.

no, the people that choose to keep a dog like this is next level

became calm in the end cuz it was over lol

​@@antoniolatrippa6379He ... but, yeah, I agree. He probably didn't calm down until he was in the car and on his way home.

@@SourBogBubbleyou cant just recycle dogs

My dog does it when he wants treats, he also gives me the cutest face, it is so endearing.

@@sharroon7574 my brother's dog does it whenever she thinks she is in trouble. Like as if by giving us a shake paw she'll be forgiven for naughty behaviour. And it really is hard to stay mad at a dog when it looks so pathetic with its arm raised.

What a beautiful boy. He does better when he’s being touched aka brushed. Lovely, respectful groom.

More than shaking paws, stressed or scared dogs do that as a submissive begging. They are begging you to do something. You can see this behavior on puppies with their parents when they beg them to play or to stop growling at them. He's literally asking Vanessa to free him and return home

My mum's dog goes through his whole repertoire when he wants something (like a bit of the snack you're eating) or is stressed. Literally sit-lie-paw-speak...

😂😂

I hate going to the salon because I hate the hairdryer lol

You don't need to get it dried though, right? When I want to save money I wash and dry my hair at home before getting it cut, and I'm either going home with dry hair or wet hair but with no blow drier experiences haha

ROFL I sure hope she sees this one 😂😂😂😂😂

Would be a good workout for the both of you :)

OMG that is so precious

This is so cute!!! ❤

This is so cute and made me smile!

@@girlwiththedogs212 Not sure how well it works for a dog that has been deep washed like you do, but for my Field Trial Golden Retriever, we use a "drying cover" ("Siccaro Supreme Pro", I think), because he doesn't like blow dryers, and he's completely dry after half an hour, even when he's been swimming, and then we just need to towel dry the face, ears, legs and tail. It might be something worth looking into for dogs like Teddy? I love your videos and how much you care for the dogs!

I read that in her voice 😂

😂😂😂😂❤❤❤

AbAbsolutely true, the long car ride most likely added to his already anxious state. Hopefully they can find a lovely groomer closer to home in the future. He's an anxious boy but still a good boy.

That is it. What fascinates me the most is as you wrote, "what set her apart"

Yes, I truly think the owners need to work with him more at home. It's unfortunate but, a lot of people will adopt a dog and not realize just exactly how much socialization and training they need for not only just being potty trained but also for grooms and being around other people and animals. Goldens are said to be very friendly and easy to train dogs but, that doesn't mean the owners don't have to put in the effort to do that. Puppies, just like children, don't come perfectly well mannered and behaved right out of the box.

I could be wrong but I think at home what Teddy wants Teddy gets and vice versa. A dog that curls his lips at his owners, if I understood that right, is alpha of the household.

​@@lindap8101I don't think it's that simple.... Dogs can have anxiety just like humans, it may not have anything to do with training

@@raspberry63088 I agree that dogs can have anxiety. One way of reducing the anxiety is to show them, as their so-called pack leader, that their anxiety is unnecessary and to demonstrate it by forging ahead. Anxiety that’s coddled, meaning rewarded in the dog’s mind, can backfire . It wasn’t Vanessa’s job or responsibility to push on with the groom but I can see how Teddy might be a candidate for receiving confident leadership.

​@@lindap8101please stop with this alpha bullshit. There's no such thing. And stop assuming what's happening in this dog's home based on an 14 minute video of an isolated, stressful situation for a clearly anxious but good boy.

@@-xxMelissaxx- Could you upvote yourself faster? lol

Teddy is an English style Golden - their coats can range from light cream to shaded honey to deeper gold (most people think they're always cream, but they're definitely not). They tend to be a little shorter than the typical American Golden counterparts (the types you see at Westminster), with blockier heads, shorter coats and rounder eyes. I've had two of them (both light gold colouring). They're just wonderful!

@@Kristin2885 In your experience are the English Cream goldens more anxious? Granted my experience with goldens was about 50 years ago, but I am very unaware of anxiety being a thing with them. All the goldens I knew were calm, cheerful, loving dogs. They were certainly active, but not anxious. I wonder if that’s more of a breeding thing, or what?

Thanks! For the info. Just taken back. By the color of the Teddy's Coat. Just beautiful.❤️🐕

@@julieobrien4056 I think it's more to do with socialization (both early socialization with the breeder/breeding program) and then the owner. A lot of people assume "Goldens will just be Goldens" and maybe don't place as high an emphasis on socialization and formal training when they're young, assuming the breed will just fall in line naturally because they're so loving and smart. And some dogs, regardless of the breed, just need more work/experience in those areas. As far as differences, the general thought is that the English Goldens are actually more 'mellow' and calm than the American Goldens and some studies suggest they have less cancer in the English/European lines. I think there are good and bad breeding lines in both styles of Goldens. In my own experience, the English ones have been more mellow but could be a coincidence and a small sample size. It also depends if they're from show lines (mellow) or working lines (energy, athleticism). Really, they're all unique.

My understanding is that only puppy mills use the term English cream in the US as that color is against the AKC standard. It might be different in other countries, but for those in the US I'd be cautious if you're considering one.

I used to live with a golden about 4.5 years ago- she was 2 when I met her and she was quite a nervous dog. She loved me- she bonded with me which made her aggressive energy owner very jealous and we had a falling out. I thought about Daisy a lot over the years and wondering how she is doing with an owner that is impatient, yells at her a lot which makes her freeze out of fear and just doesn’t understand her or want to change her ways.

Thank you very much!

Well said I also have a golden who is OK at the groomer this dog has definitely not been introduced to a groomer

Mine is ok with bath, he doesn‘t really love it, but he‘s ok. I think he doesn‘t like the sound of the shower. However, he is very fearful of any weird sound, e.g blowdrier.

A Golden that hates water? Whaaaaa? 😃

@@dustyking8851 mine loves water, just not shower.

@@agnesmeszaros-matwiejuk8783My sister’s (from another mother) GSD is EXACTLY the SAME WAY! EVERY TIME she sneezes, he runs away! It gets me EVERY SINGLE TIME! She tells him that it’s “Ok, it’s JUST a sneeze!” He doesn’t get it!

Same they are normally calm i think this dog hasn't been introduced to a groomer early

At least they supplied accurate, helpful information!

They only shed twice a year. The first 6 months, and the last 6 months 😂

Goldens and Labs constantly shed it seems like. We had a black Lab Emma. We had put in a whole house vacumn in the house we built in 95. I swear we vacuumed dog hair damn near every day. I would empty the canister weekly and there was a dog in it. How she could still have a full, thick coat was amazing to me. I wish I could say the same😂😂. Emma passed away in 06, a year after my wife did😢😢😢. They were the best of friends and I believe they are both in heaven walking and playing everyday.