The worst moment of the day - waking up in the morning - the first moment of consciousness - and this knot in the pit of your stomach, and wishing you could sleep forever…

The worst feeling is losing your best friend. Or them acting so cold to you

Been three months since my ex and I broke up. The pain has gone down, but every once in a while I get strong waves of sadness. Keep working on yourselves and don’t seek others. Trust I got desperate and even tried going out and it just made things worse. Build yourself up and be kind to yourself as well.

im 2 months into the break up after 6 years and a half relationship. everytime when things feel a lil better, the pain comes back 10x harder. its like an everyday nightmare

Worse part of my life after my 5yrs relationship broke up, when you wake up in the morning, no text or call from someone you love, and knowing his not there forever i wanna plough my own grave😭😭😭

When you still love the person, but had to walk away due to toxic behavior patterns on their end.

I am going through this pain now.. Wanna move on.. I don't know how🙂.. But im not gonna chase that person who doesn't even care about me .. I ll get over

The pain won't last it will pass,don't hang on to that one person step aside and move forward, ,watch motivational videos,meditate,ground yourself,do yoga,make a list of what your grateful for (very powerful) go out with friends make yourself busy don't put your life on hold because that person you thought won't ever leave you has moved on without a thought, and remember when one door closes another opens,trust the process.

Just broken up (again) with the same man. I know it can't work. I've given everything I had. I am going to make my own 'happy' from now on. Will save my love for someone who wants to and has capacity to reflect it back to me. But now, I'm very very sad. Miss my man but know deep down this is right. It's hard to walk away from someone you love, but I have to love myself more.

This pain is absolutely unbearable for me right now and there's absolutely nothing I can do but just go through it.

Literally got cheated on yesterday and decided to leave. Definitely needed this.

I’m going the breakup hell and I’m just lost of why it happened to me again. I tried so hard to protect myself and carefully watch out for the bad.

It's been a year. Even if I still have love for this half ass man. My worth meant more to me than someone who never appreciated what I brought to the table.

It has been 4 1/2 years for me. Time did not heal me. I still cry everyday. The panic is gone. But the debilitating grief is constant. I've accepted the pain of losing the relationship I always dreamt of having in this life. I've had to accept the pain and the reality of crippling loneliness. Acceptance is the only thing time has given me.

Feelings changes. Go through your tantrums. Analyze your relationship. Take the lessons out of this. Find new hobby's. Keeps your thoughts in a journal. Meditate. Be grateful for this and move on.

3,5 years in. Totally DEAD inside! Sleeping with the lights on and the mornings are the worst.

Theres something so darn relatable about Matt, his tone is so comforting and reassuring. Experience is the greatest teacher . Thanks for your years of service to us Matt.

It’s been 2 weeks & 3 days since the love of my life of 7 years ended our journey together. The hardest thing is it came out of the blue & the reason is something I can’t do a damn thing about…. There was a 15yr age gap, I was the older woman and he just said he can’t see himself retiring happy with me as I’ll be too old. He’s 35. I totally thought he was my future. We had a distance relationship mostly because he’s in the military but we coped really well with that & during the first lockdown he moved in with me. And ironically we grew closer & stronger during those 6 months.. so much so that we started looking at houses & even put an offer on one. I’m not your typical 50yr old, I’ve never been married, I couldn’t have children & I have a friendship group of mainly 30+ yr olds as I’m more like them. I really believed in the happy ending. We were best friends. We travelled the world over 7 years, laughed like drains, had so much fun. He was the male equivalent of me & on the day he left I told him he was the best thing to happen to me. And now I’m in darkness. I’ve had no contact with him for 2 weeks, the longest I’ve gone with no contact when he was in this country & I’m not afraid to admit I’m struggling. My whole future has changed in the blink of an eye & I feel like I’ve lost half of me. It’s painful to just breathe each day right now.💔

She broke up with me because she said she needs time to find out who she is). I was dealing with it. Then got the information that she was literally planning the break up for more than 5 months and just acted like everything was fine in this time. Just using me for vacation, comfort, support. I just feel hate and worthlessness. I got played like never before by the only person I trusted. I feel stupid for letting them in my life. This really crushed me. And now (3 weeks later) got with the guy she told me not to worry about. I guess she "found" herself in him.

I've had chronic physical pain for 8 years. 4 surgeries were performed and none of it helped. The pain and also feeling kinda hopeless changed me and changed my relationship. I never gave up. Showing up at multiple doctors and agreeing on a 5th surgery. 3 weeks after this 5th surgery my former bf of 8-9 years broke up with me and immidiately replaced me. Yes, i have been through hell. Not knowing if my body will ever work properly again, loosing the person I thought was the love of my life, had to quit my job and move in at my parent's tiny flat at age 34. My friends and family saved me from the worst. Fast forward one year: The surgery helped, I can finally enjoy life again. I found a really nice flat, also a new job. I know my true friends and am thankful every day. I do have a love life again. Matthew, if you are reading this (I really hope you do): Your videos have helped me a lot dealing with heartache, getting over my ex and working on my self worth. Thank you so much for your work 💛 Wish you all the best!

“When we have been through something extremely difficult, it gives our words deeper meaning.” This video is so beautiful. And so helpful

Time does help, but today rejection hurts almost physically. I need to be strong to not send a text, and am waiting hopefully for a day I won't care as much. Your videos help much, Matthew. Thank you.

I’m think I’m about to walk away from someone I love so dearly. It hurts because I don’t want to, but deep down I know I have to. He has expressed multiple times he is unsure about us, he is hot and cold, and my mental health is taking a toll from the confusion he has. I need to get ready for this breakup 💔

Since 2015, Matthew you have helped me with break ups and my own self worth. I’m going through a new break up of a 2yr relationship, it’s been 3 weeks. My perception on pain due to a lot of your help over the years has made me go through this without devastation and it’s more peaceful. My control over heartbreak pain. I’m truly blessed. Thank you always.

After 5 years it still hurts

Last September my ex cheated on me and instead of trying to say sorry cos I probably would of taken him back he just went and we had been together for 3 years and was trying for a baby I was so hurt and cried I didn’t eat I was a mess for about 3 months. Matthew is right the pain changes it’s now April and don’t get me wrong it’s not easy but I am eating I don’t cry everyday and it’s changed I realise now I wasn’t meant to be with him. Something better out there for me and anyone who reads this I hope you know there is something better for you 💗 I immersed myself in Matthew videos 💕 it helps I literally listened to Matthew all day and night over and over and over again until some words sunk in if he should of he would of but he didn’t cos he didn’t want to and sometimes giving yourself a pep talk can help too. Sending love to anyone going through pain I promise it gets easier xxx

I must be one of a few that just can't control my ego 😭 it's been 3 years since we split and my heart is still broken. I cry nearly everyday cos I know I was the reason why we broke up. It hurts so much! I love him so much!

This came at the right moment. A month ago my ex cheated on me and replaced me with her. They’re still together and I’m miserable

I've been hurt once thats it. If you believe everything happens for a reason both good and bad then any break up is a God send. We all learn the hard way unfortunately so just know as much as you love someone if there not ment to be with you then your ment for someone else. I've been single for 2yrs now.

Remember to love yourself 1000x more for what they put you through. My X of 7 yrs destroyed & betrayed me. My mind forgives & ready to move on but my heart is injured trem due to his cruelty in the end. Why can't we end it like 2 decent human beings? Living is not easy esp on days I have to get up & go to work. I do love myself so much more for my poor heart & body. I do a lot of hot yoga & mediation. They do help! If u r like me, I give you hug. I feel u

Great Content! If you’re going through a breakup… Personal Development is one of the best things you can do for yourself - because, we as human beings, we’re supposed to embrace growth! So make sure you find your Purpose in life - whatever it might be, and work on it daily, and continue to make progress, because progress is - really the key to happiness. But don’t do it for any girl or guy, make sure you’re doing it for yourself - and just be happy! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

going through hell for over 2 years now... Can't even get a job or try to get a job... (I barely live from renting my house) Im getting fatter after being in shape for a while since all I do is, staying at home, gaming, watching movies & stuff... all because of a break-up... a relationship that I thought "it was THE ONE"...but it wasn't...

I got engaged, lived with the person I thought I was going to spend forever with and he woke up yesterday deciding he wants to do whatever he wants and live his life alone… most definitely feeling like I’m going through it

Been with this beautiful woman for 16 months & we lived together. I feel like the relationship flashed before my eyes it's crazy. At times I wish this was all a dream & I can wake up from this reality & have everything back to how it was with her by my side smiling & laughing. KZfaq videos keep me from getting so much anxiety & I can't be in my house all alone because then all the thoughts & memories come. I feel like the best part of my day is going to sleep at night & when I wake up in the morning the pain starts over. Can't wait for this feeling to go away

Everything changes and the right relationship isn’t brittle… these ideas of Matthew helped me make it! The new one to change our relationship with pain. Thank you Mat!

Anyone watching this is definitely going through a tough break up or divorce and seeking ways to successfully get through it. This is a great video and it's always good to hear people give the right advice and suggestions on how to deal with troubles like this. I just got out of a relationship that was almost for 4 years. We were both very much in love, we had planned a future, everything seemed a okay, and it seemed like it was a good healthy relationship. What could have gone wrong? Well what went wrong is that towards the end, she revealed to me that she cheated on me and that she was seeking attention from people who would give her the attention she wanted. It turned out that she didn't know what she wanted, who she wanted, and didn't really take the relationship seriously. Definitely opposite of what I had thought. I can never trust her again. In my eyes, she'll always be a liar and a cheater, which is why moving on from her was the best choice. I'm not going to waste my time with someone who doesn't know what they want. I love who I am and I'll always be me no matter what. Now as far as why she cheated, it's because she didn't like my looks, which I love, she didn't like my personality, which I love, and she didn't like my hobbies, which I love. She feels that anybody who isn't the hardcore overly macho borderline violent hyper-masculine bad boy is too soft. I'm not that but I'm not a soft person who's a doormat either. I'm a regular strong confident gentleman, but even that was too soft for her. She didn't like that I collected comic books and action figures and superhero t-shirts. I never put those above her or our relationship, but she just didn't like that I was into that in general. So instead of telling me what she liked and disliked in the beginning, she wasted my time which is the biggest offense of all. So that's my story. I'm not a victim and nobody is, but I'm still as always being my authentic self and getting through it. Save my strength and energy for someone who's serious about relationships.

Still getting through a breakup that happened last week. Thank you, Matthew for all of your videos. Definitely has helped me work through the pain bit by bit.

The worst is losing the love of your life 😪

I also agree going through the pain made me a stronger person.

I feel like I went through hell after a rejection from and eventually losing contact with the one person I've fallen in love with. I cried pretty much every day for months, couldn't stop thinking about her and how things might've been if I hadn't made certain mistakes, listened to music I shouldn't be listening to (love songs, sad songs, sad love songs), had conversations with her in my mind and even out loud. All those kinds of things. However, recently I finally decided to let her go, to assume I'll never speak to her again (I'd love to be friends again one day, but shouldn't hope for it), and I gotta say I'm doing better now. I haven't fully healed yet, still think about her too much and I still wish things would be different, but talking to friends and also watching your videos have helped me feel a bit better. Thanks. And in case you’re reading this, dear (I know you like to watch these sorts of videos too), I hope you’re doing well. If you ever need anyone, don’t hesitate to call or message me (again, I’m assuming you won’t, but feel free). Those feelings from before might be fading, but I’ll always care for you, wish you love, happiness, strength, joy, serenity and anything else you need or want. Thanks for being my light for a while, all of the lessons I’ve learned and helping me realize I can care for and even fall in love with people. I ended my very first rhyme you knew was about you with these words: ‘You may be scarred, but as beautiful as ever’. That will always be true. Life has been quite ugly for you at times, but in my eyes you will always be beautiful.

He broke up with me 6 months ago…. I’m about to have his daughter 😭 it’s been SO difficult because I feel like I’m on a Teeter Totter of emotions. Excited and happy I’m finally going to be a mom but extremely sad her father left and never cared about me or this baby. I’ve been doing serious work on myself to heal, haven’t dated or been with any men since he left, focusing on my health and doing my best to enjoy this pregnancy… all I want to do is hold my daughter. She’s my reward. She’s my joy. She needs momma to bring her all the love and support so, with faith, I am healing for her and for me and leaving him behind so that the right man can show up and love us 🥰

It just feels like there are no men around my age who actually want any sort of committed relationship... Or the ones that do are already taken. Makes dating feel like a chore of weeding out the bad ones. Or like all I'm doing is dodging bullets left and right 😅

I haven't eaten in 5 days just sleeping my ❤ hurts 😫

I can agree when pain can change your memory of that person who caused it.....long distance relationship has been painful last year and i choose to end it when he gave me 3 months no contact. I dont accept silence thats the only thing im holding on to,to keep the relationship but he killed it. *NO ONE EXPECTS LOYALTY WHEN YOU DONT KNOW WHAT THEY DO,WHRE THEY ARE,WHO THEY ARE WITH EVEN FOR A DAY* Its a torture not relationship. I dont regret i hated him like hell for that.

I am going through a breakup hell, it happened all of a sudden and the more I want to listen and be okay but all I want to do is fix it all and get him back

Indeed. Beginning a long process of introspection and reflection tend to yield many breakthroughs and give us the opportunity to understand ourselves better, and what our gifts, strengths, talents, weaknesses and pitfalls are. Pain itself is inevitable, so we shouldn't be afraid of being hurt - we just have to find out who's worth suffering for.

I just went through breakup hell, but y'know it's true what the experts say: after 11 weeks I'm ok again. You really can make it to the other side. But the most important thing that I believe really helped is that I was sober for many months from drugs & alcohol prior to the breakup. I'm really glad I didn't go back to substance abuse to deal with it, and I'm thankful I didn't TRY to get sober during it! Sobriety provided the focus I needed to look for answers and that's how I discovered Matthew Hussey. Thanks Matt for helping me to sort out my pain & confusion!

Incredible transparency. I see his pain as he talks about it. It means a lot with my current struggle

You seem to be one of the only dating coaches who speaks to not just women which is very profound. Listening to other dating coaches you would think not only that women are the only ones who hurt from relationships but also that women are always the ones who are the problem or the ones dealing with the problem.

I saw an old video of yours Mathew about toxic men, 7 years back, can't imagine how time flew. When I saw the topic of this video, it only made me smile. I smiled because I thought how it's going to benefit people the way it benefitted me when I was broken. We may never meet but I want to let you know you are a very big part of my healing process and I thank you very much for that.

Hi Matt, thank you for sharing this. It’s made me and I am sure so many others feel a little less alone when they are or continue to be in moments of hardship or darkness. Speaking about giving yourself care and doing the best you can with where you are was really powerful. It’s reminded me to take some pressure of myself!

This advice was really well said Matthew! You bring comfort to so many x

I’m so glad you recovered from this dark place…your videos have helped me so much. Thank-you.

I adored this! I really didn’t need a ‘snap out of it’ ‘stop being ungrateful’ kind of thing. This was very comforting

Two years ago you helped me a lot after brake up, i am so grateful

He has left me and gone back to his old girlfriend. Desperate without him. Unable to sleep.

Hurting so much. I miss her but know she'll never take me back this time. I feel so empty. I'm a codependent pleaser and have little self respect or love for myself. I know i need to find and love myself.....with or without someone else in it. So hard for me. My mother always hated me and i got my value or lack of from that. Bless you all here. Let's try. xx

Thank you Matthew you made me feel more calm. Your videos have always helped me so much during my relationships 🙏You're an amazing person

Thank you so much for this video! It has given me hope and faith that I can get through the extreme pain I am feeling right now. Sharing that you have been able work through such difficult times of your life, when you felt you could not get through, this gives me hope that I will be able to achieve this as well! Thank you!

Great advice Matthew. Strong words. From experience, and I wish I knew this after my previous breakups... is you have to learn that feeling pain is all part of being alive, as is feeling love. You have to know that no matter what happened and how painful it is today, get up and believe that you will be ok, you will learn from the experience, you will make better choices next time, you will be a stronger you... in time. Be confident in your own strength and grow from it. The next time it happens, you'll be able to cope with the pain in a better way.

I have gone through the video on going through a breakup hell, and it was a raw and honest portrayal of the pain and difficulties that come with heartbreak. The video's message that it's okay to feel lost and broken during a breakup can be comforting to anyone experiencing similar emotions. The video also offers helpful tips on self-care and moving forward in a healthy way. Thank you for sharing this relatable and insightful content.

I really don't know ..what is this ..but your video drops exactly when I needed it the most💜 thanks a lot Matthew

This is incredible helpful- your discussion on chronic pain management is so helpful.

I'm not going through breakup not in a relationship even, but I love listening to you I feel like you speak from heart and you really want to make people feel better. God bless you for helping people when they go through one of the most difficult experience.

Thank you....I cant express my gratitude enough for this video

Pain modulate! You' Re so right. Incredible Insights about pain. Thanks for sharing

Learning so much from you and other creators. Thank you.

I had been there done that … just what you went through nowdays when I went something difficult being rejection in relationship, work issues etc etc I won’t panic or breakdown badly instead deal it the current issues, and moving forward…. Its called keep continue living !

Heartbroken tonight . Thank you for this. Lessons on impermanence. It won’t feel like this forever

You are so wise; thank you, Matthew

It’s been four years and the pain is still excruciating.

Thanks Matt. This means a lot to me and watching your videos re-assures me that everything will be fine.

Thanks Mathew. Going through a rough time right now. Needed some encouragement.😢

The physical pain that people can and do have. Not caused by emotions. Make it your best friend, know everything about it. Kind of like having a child.. Man it hurts but you know its temp and tomorrow will be glorious. Acknowledge your feelings and how bad it is.. dont stuff it deep down. Pain changes you totally. But it does not have to destroy you, lean it, learn you and how to cope and work with it. We all really do have the tools, self pity is not one of them.

Your videos always mean so much.

Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge as well as your personal experiences. You are helping us to heal with your words. Thank you 🙏

I hate that drug withdrawal feeling of a breakup!

I love you so much for your kind words ❤️🙏

I just keep watching and watching your videos well done Mathew for all you do

Thank you for everything you do Matthew, your content is helping me re-shifting focus and distract pain in this first week of my break up. My ex-partner ended the first serious relationship of my life, which lasted for 4 years. I am a mix of shock/denial/jealousy/depression at the moment and I can't seem to find a reason to be happy, or at least hopeful for the future.

Thank you, this was exactly what I needed to hear today, it helped me so much🙏

Thanks for this brother, greetings from Sydney

Emotions have always just been something that happens to me

Yes, now I know the pain is real, as I lived in idealistic and fake world...and yes, there is panic, like freaking out about the pain, and fear or realizing I have to move on, also every day struggle... finding joy is important

Im taking a break from my husband now at his request and I’m back at my parents house. In the morning before any alarm wakes me up my body feels warm and safe in the bed and right before I wake up I forget that this is really happening and I think I’m laying next to him and all is normal. But then I wake up and this cold chill runs down my body and my nerves start to react. That’s when I realise that it wasn’t a nightmare, I’m not at home in bed with my husband. This is now my painful reality and no matter how much disbelief I’m in I have to face it today and everyday until my husband makes a decision if he wants to stay together or go out seperate ways.

Going through a breakup of one year right now. Feeling this.

Your words are so helpful thank you for sharing them! Got cheated on less than a month ago… after 5 years I thought she was the one but I now see things differently.

Matthew you are amazing !! Whenever I’m going through something the right video comes at the right time ❤️

Please more videos about break ups & moving on

Hi Matt, We go on to other relationships and move on from our pain. It's good to know that I can change my relationship with the pain. I love that you talk about physical pain. Thank you for that. My friend is going through stage four cancer. The panic and castrophysing is a process that I didn't see before. What can I do in spite of my pain as art is just beautiful matt. Betty

Thanks Matthew, definitely resonating

17 year relationship, she wants out and this is killing me

When you are realizing that person moved on so fast and you feel worthless and left with nothing in life.

Thank you I needed this so much today 💓

Love this. Thank you ☺️💗. Rewriting my narrative of my past and reshaping my relationship with my pain. Oh yes, the fear that the pain will be with me forever was panic inducing. It's scary when the loss of hope drives you to your darkest hour. It's hard to believe that this too shall pass. Had to repeat this adage daily - this too shall pass 💕

It is so weird to be on the other side of the pain after a betrayal during a 20 year marriage. Totally over it. Dont even know why I held on. It feels good. It will happen everyone. Anxiety because of money is hard but that is the only thing left.

I love this, thank you so, so much.

I fell deeply in love with someone who didn’t love me. I felt both the highest highs, and the lowest lows. Giving up on the possibility of that relationship was so difficult, but I realised all the love I had for him could be love I gave to myself instead. My life felt like a mess at the time, and I wanted to focus on the idea of this amazing love I felt. I needed that love, for myself. I’m setting new boundaries, being more honest with myself, and rebuilding my life. It’s difficult, so much has changed. But I think I’ll be better and stronger in the end.

Hi Matthew and Team! Your video helped me so much, I'm really grateful that you did it. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago, and even though we had so many things in common, I had to leave. I found your point of view on creating a friendly bond with pain very helpful. I don't want to panic anymore. My ex boyfriend promised me that I am the one he's choosing, and he doesn't want anyone else. Then after 1,5 years, he became angry that he cannot do what he wants... And that thing is being polyamorous and have an open relationship. I have my standards, I couldn't cope with that, and he was aware of that since the beginning of our relationship. He told me that I am like a soup he has to eat every day. And it is my disadvantage that I am a monogamist. I let him and myself free. It had a huge impact on my sense of attractivity, nevertheless, I'm taking back my power. Again, thank you Matthiew so much

I hope god will heal all of your hearts Bless you all 🙏🙏