I am 66 and my mother is 102. I had her come and live with me when she turned 80 as she was unable to live independently. My husband and my son's have looked after my in-laws till they were deceased at 85. I feel blessed that the almighty has given us the strength to give back to our parents, which is more important than things in life.

I cared for both my parents in their old age. I was exhausted, but I cared for them until their deaths, because they were my parents. I did not even imagine killing them. This is insane.

When i was a youngster, my mother used to say, one mother can take care of five kids, but five kids can't take care of one mother, and you know what, she was right. I will never forget what she said.

As a Japanese in my 50s I have to clarify something clearly important to everyone here. Japanese have the No. 1 longevity in the world with a large population of easily well over 100 yrs old of age because they eat so healthy. Imagine their “children” are in their 80s or at least in their 70s trying to take care of them when they are so old themselves. Japanese culture represents respecting the elderly more than most countries. Pray for those “children” who are seniors trying to care for their “elderly”parents’ physical and mental health. My parents took great care of all my grand parents in their 90s and lived happily.

Whwn i was 16 my father, my only living parent, was diagnosed with brain and lung cancer. He survived until i turned 18. I had a little brother who was still a minor, only 16, as well. We didn't feel like the nursing homes for caring for him properly after 3 weeks, and he spent the rest of his time at home with us while we cares for him until he passed away.

Yesterday I remember being 12 years old and wondering how fast my life was going to be passing. Today I am 77 years old and I am amazed the time my life has packed into what seems 24 hours. It's coming to everyone and what goes around comes around. You don't respect your elders nobody's gonna respect you.

I care for my 94 year old mother. It is hard and a struggle at times as she is bedridden but I wouldn't have it any other way. She raised ten children and I am her youngest child. I worry sometimes about how I will take it if she goes before me. I think I would die as well. I love her so much. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

I'm so blessed to have my 88 year old mother with us. How sad that a place like Japan has turned so cold towards their old parents. 😢

My parennts both got bed ridden when they were in their 80s. We three daughters ( we dont have any brothers ) took care of them taking turns. Each of us would keep them in our homes for 6 months, and take care of them along with our own families with aged parents in law. This went on for 8 years before they both passed. It was stressful, difficult, but We feel blessed to have done that service.

This is horrible. My elderly mother had Alzheimer's disease. I cared for her for eight years. I quit my job to avoid sending her to a nursing home. Yes, it was exhausting and hard. But we had good times too, long walks, ice cream, and many private jokes. Yes, it was tough but if I had to do it over again....I would. Now I have peace knowing that I gave her the best life I could.

I am 51 and looked after my 87 year old Dad till he passed away 2 months ago. This is my first Christmas without him. I didn't, couldn't celebrate. Every morning and bedtime are especially difficult for me because that was when Daddy would like to tell me about his younger days and about his father. There were difficult times but I could never have imagined not having him with me and looking after each other. I would do it all over again if I could have him back with me.

This is one of the cleverly worded report I have ever seen. I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide " That is if you say in a direct way with out any twisted word play , that is about 500 Japanese elders getting killed by their own family in a period of 10 years. Mind you about 40 percent of 120 million Japanese are above 60. That is literally better than 98 percent of the countries in the world. If you aren't from a wealthy Scandinavian country or Singapore, Switzerland, Luxembourg or Monaco chances are yout country is doing worse than Japan in this regard

My mother grew up in Japan. When she lived there, families would go to war with eachother for the privilege and honor, of caring for their parents when they get old. Times sure have changed...😢

I just lost my 88 year old mother on October 29th. My dad will be 92 February 1. My dad is crushed by losing the love of his life!! I cannot imagine doing anything other than supporting my parents through the end of their lives!! The stress is real. I’m living it. But, that’s life!! This is what we’re supposed to do!! Be there for our parents, like they were for us!!

I watched my grandmother with dementia for less than a week and felt exhausted. Daytime was fine, but nighttime and Sundowner's syndrome wore me out due to sleep interruptions. I hope I can take enough care of my health in the future to remain active and independent until I pass.

If you really love another human being you will care for them whatever the cost it's called unconditional ❤

This is what happens when healthcare decisions are in the hands of insurance companies and governments 😢.

I'm stunned and broken hearted! I cared for my elderly mom for 13 years, and was barely able to take care of myself or my home and husband at the end, and I'm still battling chronic diseases and ptsd. But i would absolutely do it again, because we live together and we die together, if we have a soul ❤

I cared for my mother for 11 years. She was 86 when she was manipulated by a sibling to care for her. She died a year later from improper caregiving, abuse, and neglect. I cry every time because I warned her and so did several other family and friends.

No one is forced to take care of old family members in this country.

In the U.S. as of 2022, 1 in 5 homeless people were over the age of 55. We have people in their 70's and 80's living out of their cars, sleeping on the street, or holed up at a shelter. I cannot say that we are any paragon of virtue when it comes to a nation not taking care of it's elderly population.

Watching this at 35 years old is soul-shaking. Parents are blessing. They are irreplaceable.

It reminds me of stories I heard passed down through my family about how old people used to wander out into the mountains to die rather than be a burden on their families.

After reading dozens of comments here, it is clear that while the doctors are capable of keeping people alive, they cannot make them young again, and it is the responsibility of our society to make sure that people are treated decently as their lives wind down to an end. This will mean training more people in care of the elderly, development of better technology for that care, careful monitoring of patients’ quality of life, and possibly considering euthanasia when the quality of life is gone. Our whole approach to life, death, and medicine has become way too dependent on MONEY, and we need to work on that, TOO!

This brings back memories of my time in elementary school (I think it was 5th grade) where I read a short story in one of the Houghton Mifflin literature collection books. The story was about a Japanese man and his elderly mom. He was ordered by the village leader to take her up to the mountains and let her die there. But he couldn't bring himself to do it, so he brought her back and hid her in a secret room of his hut. When the villagers ran into alot of problems, the man looked to the advice and wisdom of his mother to solve them. When she was able to deter an attack from another village lord, the people praised her for her life-long experiences and feedback on remedies. It was a happy ending, but it made me sad that they would resort to such a shameful action.

I work in healthcare in the USA and I've seen the opposite: family will go to extreme measures to keep a terminally ill elderly patient "alive". This patient is often bedridden, mentally checked out, incapable of feeding himself/herself, incapable of controlling his/her bowels, etc. In some cases, it is better to allow nature to take it's course and let people die with dignity. However this decision should be made by the patient in advance rather than having someone make the decision for them.

Absolutely horrible. Can’t believe Japanese doing this. If you are not proud and protective of your family, all your achievements are a big 0.

I look after my 92 year old father! I love him dearly and wouldn't dream of doing anything other taking the best care I can of him!

I took care of my mother age 87 until she die(brain Cancer)& it’s was exhausting but I (age 62) still took care of her! By the Grace of God it all worked out & I felt honored to be by her side but she suffered a lot for three months & I prayed a lot for courage & strength & God answered with Mercy & Peace! I love ❤️ my mother!

I don't want to be killed but I also don't want to be left unable to enjoy life. When looking for nursing home for my mother there where so many where the elderly were just sitting and starring, having to be fed and no idea what was happening. I told my daughter to let me go when the time comes. If I don't want to eat don't force me. Let nature take its course.

I've taught my kids: to never sacrifice their lives to take care of me when the day comes. I've worked a lot in homes and gained too much insights in how poorly and abused elders are in those homes. I'd rather leave life when I still have a say in it. I want my kids to live their lives NOT spend their time and money on prolonging my suffering making pharmaceutical industry richer.

This is what happens when people work for corporations instead of their families

I helped care for my terminally ill mother while I was 9 months pregnant. I would have had it no other way. She gave her life to raise us kids. It was the least I could do for her. I only wish I could have done more. I always admired how the East respected their elders but I guess times are changing. 🇺🇸

The Parents were brutal with the kids , now the children hate their parents .

400 deaths in 10 years? Pretty sure the US has more than that in a day. The problem arises because jobs do not pay enough for one spouse to stay home and care for children and/or parents. Having a mother that died at just shy of 97 years of age I can tell you, it takes a village to care for one elderly person. I thank God we had that village.

My Dad is 94 and we are blessed that he can afford assisted living.

I cared for my ailing parents, and MIL for years, and it is very draining… Caregiver fatigue is very real… Yet, at NO time did ending their lives ever cross my mind! I was more saddened just knowing their time on earth was soon coming to an end… Love them as best you can, and share the caregiving if possible… They gave many years of their lives taking care of you…🥰 🌼Lily🌼

Nothing surprises me anymore. This has become a sad and sick world we live in. 😢

And they used to talk about how much they cared for the elderly.

That's what our government wants to happen, if we die they don't have to pay social security etc ....😢

I do not support euthanasia, and I cared for both my parents and am now caring for my MIL. It is HARD people. Not everybody can do it. It can be too expensive wiping out all of the money in the family. Some Alzheimer's patients get physically violent and are too hard for someone to handle. It should be shared care among surviving family members, but is often dumped on just one. At best it is a very difficult situation. At worst, it is unmanageable. My heart breaks for families in this situation. Be kind. Help anyone who needs it. Pay it forward. Give people a break. In this season of love and hope. Be there. God bless you.

Alhamdulillah I am feeling proud to be a Muslim...because in islam the taking care of parents,siblings and other relatives is not a burden but a good deed which is better than a hajj....🙏❤

We heard about a Chinese family who took in their grandmother who was almost 100 age... They nursed her til she died... It is amazing how Asians have so much patience to care for the elderly having Strong Family Ties instead of sending them into a Rest Home! It is a fact that Mexicans work in America and also send money to their families in Mexico like the Filipinos do to their Homeland!! Love is very strong when you believe deeply about pure love! ❤❤❤❤❤

I put myself through college and graduate school as an in-home caregiver and can tell you caregiver burnout is a serious problem in the US as well. I can't begin to tell you how many of my clients' family members were desperately tired, and that's among people who could afford to have a hired caregiver come in occasionally for some relief!

We cared for all our family, it was not a burden, but a privilege. Caring for my mum until her 103rd year was the happiest time of our lives, we had real fun. Just my husband and myself left now, social care hopeless here in the UK, we shall care for each other to the end.

I've heard it said that one mother can take care of 12 children, but 12 children cannot take care of one mother.

This is happening in India for ages indirectly - in different forms. Putting them in old age homes, or abandoning them completely by throwing out of their own property, and so on.

Disgusting. I just lost my 92 year old mother, who I loved very much. I would do anything to have her back so I could take care of her. 😢 These people are evil.

It's not exactly the same but I helped care for my older brother when he was diagnosed with Cancer at age 31. He made it just passed his 32nd. He always took care of us younger siblings and any young children. RIP Todd. Miss ya bro! Glad I was there till the end.

The elderly here in America are being priced out of housing all over our country. Very few can afford a one bedroom apartment in any state. The nomad population (those who live in their vehicle) has risen and the homeless population is out of control in every single city. The average cost of a one bedroom apartment is now $1,700 while the average Social Security check is only $1,600. Even if they owned their homes property taxes and medical care costs leaves them unable to afford food, maintenance and transportation

Im 45 not married yet, my parents are 73 and 72, quit my job to taking care of them, i dont have brothers or sisters. Hard and difficult but simple way to say THEY THE ONLY ONE I HAVE.

There is nothing wrong with having to care for your family members.

My wonderful mother died on October 1st, after a minor no-injury fall from a chair. I tried my best to keep her alive, but she simply shut down, in spite of my efforts. I miss her, and my life will never be the same without her. I still complain at God for taking her from me.

I'm struggling to understand how these murders are proven?

Life is brutal and humans are cruel.

I’ve always looked after my parents for years it was tiering but I done it coz I loved them so much ..I miss my parents now so much How can they do that it’s aweful 😢😢😢😢😢😢

Tears in my eyes🥹, who ever is reading this please never ever abondon your parents take good care of them no matter which society or religion from you're family is the most precious thing in this world.😭

Japan is too Cruel of a society... No wonder suicide rates are soo high... Everyone is under soo much pressure and stress of all kinds. 😢

As much as I like japan, I believe this is what Japan will do. Japan has a culture that hates those that inconvenience others. While we all do in some way, Japan takes this to the extreme.

Carer burnout is very real, usually one person is left with all the work and the others disappear. A parent with dementia means you can’t work properly to support yourself and will be highly stressed. We need real affordable solutions.

I'm interested in getting the source material for this story. Living in Japan, and having my in-laws pass away and my experience is very very different to this story.

I thought they were soooo respectful of the elderly in Japan??? R their families THAT SELF ABSORBED? How can they forget how those parent's CARED & Sacrificed so much for them when they were children?? This is surreal!!💔 💔 💔

Us, Mexicans, live in multigenerational households. We love it.

My parents and infact every family member who are getting old and are old say they would rather leave this life while they can do tasks and not live in a vegetative state. Not because they know they won't be taken care of, but because they dont want to turn into a burden and they are seeing others older to them, how it is. So it scares them to lose control and not know what they are doing. Not remembering faces. Not knowing whether they did do something or not.

Not Japan only. It's happening around the world.

Everything about the Japanese is unique.

I have lived in Japan more than 30 years, it's my home. this video has a considerably misleading title and on-screen headlines (but hey, we won't get any clicks if we don't sensationalize)..... the fact is, many elderly, and many middle-aged and misfit "children" of oldsters just don't know what to do, how to cope.... exhausted! so yes, in some cases, they do kill their spouse or parent. it's a case of desperation, and that stems from a lack of support, facilities, and education. more often than not, they kill themselves afterwards. notwithstanding all the guff about what a group-oriented, homogeneous and caring society Japan is, all very well if you're in the group, many aren't, they are in fact, isolated, and desperate. it's really not as simple as "Japan's young are killing heir parents". I suspect that more oldsters are killed by 'carers' in 'homes', than by family members, according to what I read in the news. I have met and known many many people here who look after aged and ailing parents, even sacrificing their own lifestyle. this accounts for the the vast majority (as per many of the comments below, people look after their own). in a country with more than a third of its population over 65, this video is referring to a few hundred cases. quoted in the video as "alarming statistics" are figures suggested by an unspecified person who conducted a "study" based on information geaned from "media": in the 10 years up to 2021, 443 deaths of elderly (no surprise there, old people die). and 437 cases of murder or suicide (casting a wide net). quoting the video again, in said 10 years. there were 13 cases of sibling killing (just over 1 a year!), and 7 cases of a grandchild killing a grandparent... in 10 years remember. also quoted: in that 10 year period an elderly person was killed by a family member every 8 days (less than 40 a year). also quoted: 206 cases of a child killing a parent.... so it seems that of the 437 cases of "murder or suicide" mentioned above, 111 were suicides... so why quote those figures in the context of family killings? in all of this, no statistics given of other countries by way of comparison. all-in-all a trashy bit of 'journalism'.

I took care of my mother for 20 years and yes its mentally exhausting, especially when they seem to purposely push your buttons.😐 my mother has been gone 3 years and I'm still affected by it, not even spent any of my inheritance. I've been so unwell physically and mentally. I'm finally getting bit better now though. Its a very hard job. Merry Xmas everyone🎉

i find this absolutely revolting having laid my wife to rest after a long illness. i would give anything to have one more day with her. this is totally inhuman!

My grandpa tells me he wants to die every day he is 94 healthy and just tired of living in a world he says has gone to hell... I feel sorry for him and wish i was as healthy as he is, i am in worse health than he is and but i understand him ..

“Healthcare failed during the pandemic”? On the contrary, healthcare is the only sector that worked during the pandemic! What the heck is she talking about?

I used to admire the Japanese because they are known to live long but this further reminds me that there are two sides to a coin. On one side is the long life they enjoy due to some factors and on the flip side is the risk of being murdered for attempting to live long. Now, this is confusion

My husband and I made a pact that once we are unable to care for ourselves we will leave this planet together. We will not be a burden to our daughter. Just as, in case of an accident we do not want to be in a vegetative state. It's better to die than be a burden to your loved ones.

taking care of another person is not easy. people need to be introduced to it from a young age so that they can know what it entails.

There is nothing new here. In Europe they put the elderly in a hospice if they are terminally ill. The Eskimos (who originated from the Ainu people in Northern Japan) have been known to kill the elderly in hard times. I know Hindu people who committed suicide over arranged marriage issues. I categorically refuse to judge the Japanese people--especially from a position of righteous indignation.

My own daughter has informed me that should I become fragile, she will suffocate me. I believe her. I will care for myself.

We are living in a world where comfort and selfishness is at the top priority.. The irony is that we all are getting old and the fate written in our heads is a mystery yet to be discovered.. we reap what we sow!

This video is heartbreaking! I cared for my wonderful husband until he passed away in my arms, at 47 years of age, from cancer.💔💔💔 Two years later I moved in with my dear father as his caregiver because he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together until he passed at 91 years of age.💔😭💔Yes, it is physically and emotionally exhausting. But when you dearly love someone, it doesn’t matter. You would do anything for them. Especially in their time of need. They were both good men and the two most important people in my life and in my heart. It was a privilege to take care of them. Several times my daddy told me that I added years to his life being his caregiver. That meant the world to me. We never have enough time with our loved ones. But soon we will have forever! (Revelation 21:3, 4)

Japanese Culture respects elders. This is Shocking. Once every 8 daysis not very many but even 1 person is too many.

The most rewarding time in in a human life is to offer your entire time to take care of some one in need. Breaking all borders of your ego, to find out who you really are, the care you give to the other is the care you value for yourself, to be connected with your heart, completely surrendering yourself to the ethical and moral duty you have, LOVE, not only for the other, but also for yourself. There us no difference....... And the "reward" is of immeasurable value that no one never ever can take away from you...

My grandpa his entire life when asked how he was doing always said, “ I’m doing 100”. Born in 1897, he wanted to live to see 1997. In great health in his 100th Birthday he said, “ I should have said 103, I could have lived in two centuries “. Not knowing in one month, snd four days, the cold he caught going out in freezing January, and having everyone shake your hand would kill you. The message, it’s all to short, and yes, everyday is a gift

The case of 86 yr old having to tc of his wife is heartbreaking!

Side effects of a hyper secular society with a lack of Godliness. Without a moral framework these things will absolutely happen it’s so sad

Japan was actually known for taking care of their elderly people decades ago and even much longer than that. Now its actually "just get rid of them" policy. Since it's actually happening in Japan it's actually going to happen in America and around the world.

This is a very difficult issue. My ex mother in law spent the last 6 years in a nursing home with dementia. My wife had passed away 6 years earlier, and my mother in law lived 1,300 km from us. My kids hardly knew their grandmother, since she rarely visited. The kids went a couple of times to visit, but were frustrated because grandma was clueless who the people were. It can be very sad life for many people

It's happening in Canada also, caregiver fatigue. A failing medical system on the verge of collapse and break down of family values.

This actually is happening in many countries around the world. This happens more in the USA however the big medical companies and corporations are actively covering it up. Nurses are killing many people who need care……mostly because their insurance companies don’t want to pay for their medical costs.

Since they don't know Jesus, they won't feel guilty of murdering.

Since people are living longer and not enough younger people to look after the elderly I predict this to be a bigger problem in the Future

Our parents took care of us all their lives. We must not reject and abandon them when they need us most. The elderly are in many ways valuable to our families and society even when they don't assist financially or when their bodies are weak.

Where is the proof ?? Caregiver fatigue is everywhere in every country, but I don't see the proof, that Japanese would do such a thing.

When society breaks down the vulnerable suffer the most

That’s unbelievable!!! The cruelty and ungrateful 😢

There is more to story I guess. Japanese work alot and are always stressed out. This drives them crazy and I feel making them do such things.

They kill whales and dolphins which are more precious than the people of Japan.

"Modern day murder" is more clickbait from that tabloid called You Tube. I know Japanese culture, there is profound respect given to older citizens, in many other Asian societies as well. This is one of the most widely known facts about those cultures.

I Loved my parents, Dad died of dementia at 88. Mun died of cancer at 72. I quit my job and looked after them till their final weeks when they were hospitalised. Never, ever would have I hurt them. After all, they looked after me when I was a boy. Maybe Finnish people respect and value their elders more than other cultures.

A cousin of mine, had ailing parents, Father suffering from dimentia and Mother had multiple complicated health issues, he and his wife were both working and had a young school going son to take care of. It was a daily struggle for them to have sick parents to look after, they had hired a cook, a maid and a care taker for the father, spent a fortune for 4 years befor the Father passed away. He had good career opportunities in US and Australia, He could have kept his parents in an old age home and migrated, had a good life by now, but he chose not to and stayed back only out of sense of duty towards his Parents. He had a good job and could afford to hire help, but not everyone is in that position. Even then it's a matter of choice, what you prioritize in life.

It was an honor to be able to care for my dad at home while he was on hospice. It was very hard but was very grateful to have been able to do so. They took care of us we should in turn do the same. It was one way of honoring our father and mother. We will do the same for mom.

Caregivers are under an incredible amount of stress. My sister and I were very fortunate with my mom. She refused to move in with me so she went into independent living, then transitioned to assisted living and passed away at 98. I joined a support group on Facebook. When I read what others are going through I just can’t even imagine going through what they are going through. I think I would want to run away.😭