Grieving the Loss of Childhood for Survivors of Childhood Trauma
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Grieving is a necessary part of healing from childhood trauma. It can also be one of the most challenging aspects of the process.
Sometimes it’s grieving the loss of someone who meant something to you for which you’ve just not been able to grieve for.
However, oftentimes, the majority of grief comes from the myriad experiences of loss the trauma (and the aftermath) creates.
The sense of innate freedom, play, and joy a child is born with. The feeling of safety with others… and within yourself. A “knowing” that you are enough and ok in the world. A life without the weight of carrying someone else’s shame. The unconditional love and trust every child deserves to experience.
These are just some of the profound losses that impact us throughout our lives, affecting what we believe, how we feel, and how we show up in the world.
People often ask, “How do you grieve something you didn’t have?”
In today’s video, I’ll share more on why and how this is so impactful and what it means to grieve all you deserved to have.
I’d love to hear from you. What did this bring up for you?
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@hcf555 3 күн бұрын
As an ex therapist, this topic isn't talked about enough. I believe it's a huge reason why people don't ever really look at and process their childhood trauma due to the pain of the grief that inevitably comes up in time. Thank you for talking about this.
@daisyhadfield3374 7 ай бұрын
This is my third video I am watching. I've suffered year of childhood abuse. And I've felt so many revelations from these videos. I take them into therapy. I actually feel like I'm going somewhere, I feel like I'm healing. So thank you. For your information, your soft voice that shows care even though you can't see us. Thank you for making these, keep doing it. I know it helps me, so I'm sure it's helped or will help others. I can not say thank you enough for the education.
@PeggyOliveiraMSW 6 ай бұрын
Welcome to the Courageous Journeys community! I'm so, so glad you're finding the videos helpful. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️
@AnaIrimiabooks 20 күн бұрын
I am literally grieving over this and my whole body hurts. My Nervous system is in Freeze from the fact that it recorded this feeling as dangerous in childhood. I had shock/denial/numbness at first. Then, after, I had a lot of anger on God (Universe). Then because I also danced with non duality, the realisation that the universe is me, lead to the ego self to blame that. And now is a lot of sadness for what happened, why it happened, all the pain, the shame, the rejection, the beliefs that stem from all these. This sadness is so powerful, so deep. I suspect sexual abuse in infancy… just 1 year into this and it’s so strong. Profound grief. So deep it scares me sometimes
@PeggyOliveiraMSW 14 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry you're feeling all of this so profoundly. ❤️ You are not alone. Be gentle with yourself as you continue to navigate through this. I hope you have the support you deserve as you heal. Thank you for watching and commenting.
@barbaramulhall9470 10 ай бұрын
Great video❤ Yes, I found it difficult to reconcile how I could grieve the loss of a father who abused me while grieving the loss of a father I could feel safe with, trusting in and loved by. The heartbreak I experienced was unbelievably painful and took time to heal. Today, I trust my own experience and have worked tirelessly on my healing to feel the loss and heal my heart.😊 Today, I found myself say to myself how content I feel within myself and about who I am. I'm grateful to myself for never giving up on me, and I'm grateful to all those therapists and mentors who walked beside me and who supported me on the days when I struggled.❤
@PeggyOliveiraMSW 10 ай бұрын
I'm grateful you didn't give up on you too. 😊❤️ It's definitely not easy to move through the grief but it is so important to honor the reality of loss. Thank you for sharing.
@talibaron5715 10 ай бұрын
LOVED this. You explained this topic in such a clear way. Many thanks. Although I am in therapy, I didn't even recognize that grief was there. Thanks again
@PeggyOliveiraMSW 10 ай бұрын
I'm so glad it resonated and you were able to feel a connection to what I shared. Recognizing much of the pain we experience as grief is so much a part of the understanding we need as we heal. Thanks so much for watching and sharing. ❤️
@brittneyjames-su4vc 9 ай бұрын
Can you share a guided meditation for this grief work please
@PeggyOliveiraMSW 9 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching and asking. ❤️ Unfortunately, I can't think of one to recommend right now, either one of mine or from someone else, aside from possibly the one you can receive free by signing up for my email list that is about releasing any feelings that create difficulty for you. It's definitely not specific to grief nor the complexity of it. It's a great idea for an upcoming meditation to create!
@megankwisdom 8 ай бұрын
I am consciously trying to cultivate a sense of grief for my childhood so that i can process my trauma but I'm having difficulty knowing what grief feels like. Everyone talks about it like it's obvious, as if one should just inherently know how to grieve. i can feel anger, resentment, etc. but grief eludes me. How do i get in touch with an emotion that i don't understand?
@hcf555 3 күн бұрын
Daniel Mackler has a yt vid about being unable to grieve. Very much recommend his work.
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