He ACTUALLY sent me a video🤢🤮 - Down in the DM (Ep 1)

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He ACTUALLY sent me a video🤢🤮 - Down in the DM (Ep 1)

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@saundra_janae Жыл бұрын

I think how full your dms are is a function of your visibility. Women that have been on this platform or have some other kind of platform def get a lot of dms that could change how she views men or her prospects. I’m not bad looking but I also don’t have a platform and don’t show much skin…my dms are DRY

@wills5819 Жыл бұрын

What are your interests? Someone’s asking!!

@wills5819 Жыл бұрын

I’m asking?

@wills5819 Жыл бұрын

People can become visible in the comment section as well!

@TrueSenseForever Жыл бұрын

Interesting. Good point

@Trust-Yourself-1st Жыл бұрын

@@wills5819 😂🤣😭

@_Business1st Жыл бұрын

What I never understand about these women complaining about men harassing them in their dms is why don’t the women ever block them. If you’re so bothered why not just block the man and it will stop. They like that attention low key

@killaswing1000 Жыл бұрын

After listening to her thought process. Men get dress and go out... this social media is a dead end. Everything you do is lame or creepy. I said this before a woman will criticize everything you do when putting yourself out there but huddle up in a circle just to let a guy know she likes him. Truth is all of this criticism goes out the window when it's someone she likes.

@qj8733 Жыл бұрын

Fr. I saw a post on Twitter that said something like “A lot of shit women find lame, corny, weird, or immature is the just the shit that doesn’t benefit them. I totally agree

@mrjet15 Жыл бұрын

Facts 💯

@jethuy2 Жыл бұрын

Men…if you looking to seriously date , just go outside.

@sedricclay3516 Жыл бұрын

Agree

@ToureP Жыл бұрын

Best way to get her attention is to hit her up with the “Hey, Ugly”

@Theodomaniac60 Жыл бұрын

Why does it seem like there's a disqualifying factor for every guy? When guys make an effort, that's seen as a problem. When they don't, that's still a problem. When they make too much of an effort, it's still a problem. Quite frankly I think the only thing here for guys to learn is to leave online dating and go try to meet someone physically!

@faucettemedia Жыл бұрын

The truth is they see everything, even in the general messages. She really put a lot of thought into randoms to be so put off by EVERYONE. 😂

@azure8696 Жыл бұрын

Wish I had people calling me beautiful and gorgeous all day, it'd do wonders for my self esteem 🤣. Seriously tho men NEVER get attention like this unless we're basically rich and or famous.

@pestyobsrvr4278 Жыл бұрын

“🎵That’s just the way it is”

@carl3063 Жыл бұрын

Love this. So good to hear this from a woman because I know they’re all thinking it, but they don’t say it because they understand the consequences to their own stats if they’re honest about it.

@Reiku03 Жыл бұрын

This more stressful to watch than the regular interviews.....lol

@preciousmocha78 Жыл бұрын

I’m pleased to see this young lady has adjusted her communication style and is fully articulating her words. 🎉😊 that’s what this young generation needs. Cause sometimes they sound like they don’t even know how to speak, yet alone articulate.

@Ra-vi7eu Жыл бұрын

Interesting....I think she is a mediocre communicator. She sounds delusional about her real dating options and was not very articulate.

@preciousmocha78 Жыл бұрын

@@Ra-vi7eu well maybe you should go back to previous interviews with this young lady. Cause if you had seen those previous ones you would see their has definitely been some improvement on her part. Lol cause the other ones were highly irritating.

@Ra-vi7eu Жыл бұрын

@@preciousmocha78 gotcha. Will go back and take a look, thanks.

@MrMissingnin44 Жыл бұрын

"Man these brothers out here are starving "

@KevinSmith-xt8xr Жыл бұрын

And the hoteps would be like GRAND RISING LMAOOO

@PA25293 Жыл бұрын

This Video Is Exactly The Reason Why I Never Follow Or DM Any Of The Women That Allen Brings On. (I Do Follow Bam Because I've Spoken To Her Once Before.) I'm Aware Or The Fact That There Are Hundreds Or Thousands Of People Who Would Want To Get Her Attention And Most Of Them Would Say The Same Things And It Makes Me Hesitant Because I Could Come From A Genuine Place Wanting To Connect And Get Blocked Instantly. I Will Say This Though, I'm A Persistent Person. If I Ask A Question, I Want An Answer. I Don't Like Having To "Follow Signs" ALL THE TIME. We're Grown, Leave That Silly S**t In High School. I Will Respect You More If You Actually Say, "No" Or "I'm Not Interested." There's More I Could Say To That, But I'll Leave It There.

@killaswing1000 Жыл бұрын

Honestly bro same.... The level of criticism for dudes putting themselves out there is crazy. It won't change though cause dudes lonely so they would try.

@diegomagellan Жыл бұрын

And neither will I. It’s what happens to the ladies ironically who come on fresh and fit

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

@@diegomagellan 100% bro: the funny thing is the same guys complaining are the same guys who cause the problem by simping. Although we don’t want to address it, if men stop simping online all of these issues would be automatically fixed

@Binyamin857 Жыл бұрын

This is so sad and cringy. Me personally I don’t dm or chase women I just let them come to me.

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

Exactly. ALL these guys are cringe. And if you were to slide in, don’t slide in with compliment. Got to use different type of line, playful insult is best

@TrueSenseForever Жыл бұрын

As a genuine man with real intentions. This is a prime example why I don't ask women for their number anymore. Because I know they're messages are full of stuff like this. They'll just scroll past mine and won't even notice it. It's like a needle in a haystack, and I'm hoping to get noticed.

@TheIndianJesusOfficial Жыл бұрын

I LOVE this show idea!!!

@JM-lp9iz Жыл бұрын

She said "Men approach things based on who they are." 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@JB19_92 Жыл бұрын

Average women with inflated egos from getting DMs from guys that are below average

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

It’s not that guys are below average, that’s why their egos are blown up. Especially in the black community. Look at guys like Zion Williamson who’s always getting exposed for tryna slide into dms of some 4s. I can’t remember who it was off top of my head, but there was also some NBA player who asked some random white 6 if she “liked black guys” in DMs. Absolute craziness. 🎉🎉

@craigglenn3711 Жыл бұрын

Men level yourself up and it won’t matter what you say period.

@Turshin Жыл бұрын

Wow so basically all she had were tricks in her DM's. Reading through the BIO is basic level stuff. What a man thinks of you or how he feels about you will be based on his effort. If he sees you as something that's not only physically attractive but, also valuable to his peace, the effort will show.

@MrTleeboss Жыл бұрын

She has a point, but she’s arrogant as well. Shut down social media if you don’t want that attention.

@noahcrockett9641 Жыл бұрын

I've seen this type of communication happening in high school almost 25 years ago. Only difference is that instead of smiling and getting reeled in ladies can leave it on read. But it's still being done...

@BlackNuance Жыл бұрын

It's somewhat confusing because she wants a guy to go through her page but if the guy says something specific It's creepy. I would bet she has responded to hey beautiful to a guy she finds attractive! Correction lol after finishing the video she is a typical IG girl trying to play herself up.

@singingchef23 Жыл бұрын

They really think they deserve the attention/effort when they have no idea the amount of rejection men overcome. The average man isnt taking those chances because there is no right way when you are average

@deebee77 Жыл бұрын

See how she constantly responded to the person that disrespected her. Lol

@asowerofseed4896 Жыл бұрын

Right?! Keep making this more obvious, and these "Simps" will change from compliments to insults just to get more women's attention and responses. I wonder how women would react then? A "macro humbling" to actually get "macro reactions". Makes me want to think on that. 🤔

@KevinSmith-xt8xr Жыл бұрын

But what about the one's she likes ? She won't tell him that

@crosstudio Жыл бұрын

this new world is full of likes and lotion. this woman is cute. BUT... does she really warrant all the attention she is receiving? how much attention would she have received in the pre-internet age? this is so interesting to watch, but i'm glad that i'm not involved in today's dating market. women being constantly bombarded with dopamine from likes and mentions and DMs from guys who don't have to provide much in the way of effort to hit a like button or send a one sentence DM with nothing in particular to say. nobody really benefits. y'all are all lonely. at 18:00 she states the same as above. good for her to be self aware.

@trunks2505 Жыл бұрын

She’s a DBZ fan. OMG that’s wzup!!

@ronhouze6904 Жыл бұрын

This episode gave me the feeling of a filler. She gave me the vibes of a person unaware of controlling or setting filters against as much nonsense as possible. Like you know your on social media. Not to knit pick but an excerpt of what she said was I have a nice pic and the world needs to see it. It's fire and then an onslaught of varying comment and it's so taxing. STOP!!!!! putting up pics, content, comments, etc. is open for critique, praise, scrutiny, rejection, acceptance, adoration, provocation, you go girl to women didn't act like that in my day. Unfortunately this par for the course. One of the only things I can suggest is to create a greater filter for those who may have access to your account and content. By this time the naivete should have worn off.

@pestyobsrvr4278 Жыл бұрын

Naïveté keeps us genuine. It’s where you will find innocence. It should be looked at as honorable that BAM has kept her genuiness in spite of social media. She’s not on it for relationships, while we are in an age of men with anxieties losing their girl to a rich guys DM.

@ronhouze6904 Жыл бұрын

@@pestyobsrvr4278 even being naive there are lesson. Don't walk down dark alleys, don't except candy from strangers, the earth is flat, etc. Point there are somethings that are proven. One being that in this social media space with the best of intentions rightly or wrongly we are open and subject to scrutiny and degree(s) of criticism. If you come on the court then your saying you want to play. I got next, let's run it back, game win by two. Personally from the small sample size she seems like a more than descent person. Physically, emotionally and a lil' creatively. That's why I'm somewhat bewildered by her response to touchpoints in this space the shock and awe of Unwanted and unsolicited advances that seemed no more than dare I say an elaborate hookup. From money to sex to trinkets. If you cast a wide net your going to catch some unwanted things. Siff thru and salvage the best parts of the things you want. The rest recycle or send it back to the garbage heep. One woman trash is anothers ones treasure. But the best to her. Ijs.

@rashadwalker8218 Жыл бұрын

If this chick never got a compliment again in life she would have a issue with it. Women like this are annoying. Men are goin to compliment women ..take it or ignore it and move on but to constantly complain about compliments is lame. Now the dudes who are disrespectful that's one thing but a simple hey cutie or hey sexy is not that big a deal. If men on earth never paid women any attention u would have a frustrated group of women showing their frustrations in various ways.

@Tbo-ed6jq Жыл бұрын

The problem is women and men don’t have any social skills outside the internet that has been the biggest downfall to society especially since social media became highly favored and with all these dating apps etc made it even worst then with COVID 19 people being indoors or locked down just made sliding in the dm easier and accessible it’s different from online and meeting in person

@isaacisgud Жыл бұрын

She liked it’s that’s why person wasn’t blocked

@MrQuincy611 Жыл бұрын

Lmao and women say they don’t like being lied too😂😂😂

@Goat1481 Жыл бұрын

Why not block him after message 1, why do u still have messages and lastly, why are you talking about it publicly?

@josephwhite3486 Жыл бұрын

These dudes be out here tripping. No wonder why these chick's think they all that. Smfh

@kendrick8749 Жыл бұрын

11:52~ she said u can not lead bc u can not speak proper grammar lmao. There were many grammatical flaws in her rant but I digress 😂😂. I’ve been off IG for awhile but if this is it I’m never returning. But what does spelling in abbreviations have to do with leading. BW in the US are something. I urge men to stop going in their dms playing this game. They low key appreciate the quantity but not the quality. 13:17~ I appreciate Allen’s silence as she was seeking validation for her own confusion. 😂😂😂😂 this what women will do with their friends and of course they will confirm she not delusional and heres the problem with the IG messaging. When a guy gets passed the messages and to a date, she will act like she has multiple options to pick from.

@elbertchoice8961 Жыл бұрын

This has been informative thanks Obi

@rosshamp1 Жыл бұрын

There isn't 1 plant on her IG... Granite she seems to be into fitness, her first pics are of her in swimsuits and underwear. 🤦🏾‍♂️

@wokeone167 Жыл бұрын

Are you being serious? No plants? So I was taking notes for no reason? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Reiku03 Жыл бұрын

The first 3 ignores I understand... After the a s s part... Why not block?

@julianbroughton Жыл бұрын

Yeah, the messages she's getting are crazy and she's not responding. Cool, but y not block them? Its attention. She's right about everything she's talking about though.

@jaym6126 Жыл бұрын

Only issue I see with some of the messages from guys is she isn't showing is it a response to a reel ,story or post she made Vs a guy coming complete out the blue .

@kiriende3691 Жыл бұрын

Well. Now I see why men are getting their passports.

@yabayanyasharahla2712 Жыл бұрын

She get points bc she into dbz

@ManofPrestige Жыл бұрын

You can say “hey beautiful”. But it depends on how you say it, who she is and more importantly “who you are…” IT DEPENDS! But she has a point. There is a reason why she is only talking about those she wasn’t ATTRACTED to.😂

@BankSSVideo Жыл бұрын

THATS WHY THEY MADE THE BLOCK BUTTON MA'AM....LOL.. if you dislike a person you can delete or block simple. Get over it it's the internet 😅

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

She’s doing this for the benefit of men. Many men need to watch this to learn how women view their “game”.

@mikeruck2888 Жыл бұрын

But if she blocks them that takes them off of her follower count 😂

@AngelInAHoodie Жыл бұрын

Sooo are we going to ignore this woman's reg flags or should I start counting?

@The_Dosage Жыл бұрын

Why don't women take the 5 seconds to block these men rather than constantly reading the perverted messages?

@Fowler0526 Жыл бұрын

She likes organic conversation, she likes it when you come at her like a person…

@curtisjefferson6658 Жыл бұрын

Seems like she's enjoying it

@Mike_M. Жыл бұрын

🥴 She's up there reading messages and getting a ego boost.

@soldiernumber14 29 күн бұрын

Going through a lot of mental gymnastics for nothing. BLOCK!

@bryantbee1324 Жыл бұрын

Why she didn't just BLOCK these guys 🤷🏽‍♂️ maybe she likes to be entertained

@phillipwilliams7679 Жыл бұрын

I made the 10th. Like 👍👍👍

@craigglenn3711 Жыл бұрын

Lol… she said look in my bio to lean something about her but it creeped her out that a guy look at her page to learn something about here. Also I was feeling what she said and I’m not saying you are like this but after checking out your IG it looks like any other IG thirst trap.

@blackchairman2271 Жыл бұрын

For everybody being on social media now adays it is pointless. Only the top tier men are getting the responses. The top tier guy that is in the top 20 percent can actually say hey beautiful or queen and will get the number and or response. Fellas remember women want to feel special and only about them. Once again, the average guy will have to do all the work to get the number. Meaning you will have to go the extra mile and put more effort in. Especially in the western countries. Everything a man does will creep a woman out until she finds something about you, she likes. Like the old saying goes life is not fair so fellas step your money game up and go to the gym. Remember fella's women are always looking for ways to disqualify you. They are doing this for every little thing you do on social media. Even in her response about it being the guy saying something catchy is giving her mix feelings. So fellas be on your purpose and get your passports.

@rfisher89 Жыл бұрын

Does anyone know any married couples or anyone in actual functioning relationships with people who met via DM?

@KW3.5 Жыл бұрын

I was looking at the last segment when she was doing the masterclass and not for nothing she was looking at how to approach her from a very feminine point of view and alot of the things she was pointing out, most of the women I know would find it unattractive. I think she also doesn't realize that most men are sending dms to several women and hoping one will stick. No matter how much we like a woman we don't have time to do high level research on a woman's page when we know it's a 0.000000001% chance she'll even give u a shot. Don't look for women on the internet, go out in the world and find someone doing alike hobbies you do

@leichaurellelux7547 Жыл бұрын

When he ask her to go thru the bio and look at her profile as a guy how I knew she deflect back to explaining why men do what they do. Gurl those men are responding to you on basis of what visual narrative you have created that may appear sexual to them that is how men are built hence to why laws were created to protect us from those who cannot control their sexual urges. I bet if them comment’s stops those profile pics will severely change for some desperate attention or lead to depression. She should appreciate that there is a lot somebodies for her 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 38:46

@indigopapi8667 Жыл бұрын

Notice how the longest convo she shows is with someone who “disrespected” her. In my opinion, he didn’t disrespect her. He just didn’t come at her simpy like the other 90% of dudes. Take notes gentlemen.

@two4dbs447 Жыл бұрын

Understanding how women find majority of men unattractive i give “grace” to most of whats said here, but i cant let the part go where she says dont approach with your money but she also likes nice cars? Mixed signals, your body is goin to attract a certain kinda of sexless, frenzied dude. The gift and the curse of being able to attract a sugar daddy, husband, steady bf and also creep. Cant just throw away the parts you dont like.

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

As a man, we should know to never lead with money regardless of what she says anyway. That’s how you get gold diggers

@two4dbs447 Жыл бұрын

@@themarathoncontinues4211 regardless, if you are attractive doesnt matter what you lead with. Theres a attractive guy that can approach her with “hey beautiful”, and she’d damn near break her fingers trying to respond.

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

@@two4dbs447 100% agree. If girl finds you very physically attractive doesn’t matter what you say or do at the start. But if you know you are average looking, that’s where you need to be smarter in what you say.

@theriphraff Жыл бұрын

Hey girl... how are you?

@MultiPtest Жыл бұрын

you should be happy least who ever give you attention , people like you , only their moms can love them lol

@cloudnationmedia8326 Жыл бұрын

Brothers are out here diluting ish lol. Fellas, please cancel THIRST culture asap!

@navytanutrof1823 Жыл бұрын

smh!!!! lady, you are opened to the world, all kind of weird people will text you, especially behind the anonymity of the internet. It's not that serious. forget those you don't like, answer those you like. it's not rocket science.

@5starcustoms1 Жыл бұрын

Soooooo…….. she can’t block?

@deaundrecummings3469 Жыл бұрын

She doesn’t seem very fun at all

@stingyblue8189 Жыл бұрын

She’s talking about Ayesha Curry & women like her.

@douglaslarsen162 Жыл бұрын

Her: look at this, simple, put some effort, any effort. Also Her: why did he search my page? This type of effort is creepy af. 🤦‍♂️ She's not for reals right? Half the girls he brings on are so confused and stupid, it's heartbreaking.

@jubei187 Жыл бұрын

Some people have no decency. This was gross

@dominicamoakobaah9516 Жыл бұрын

Guys need to be sensible with their resources, let a female work for it

@mra.4466 Жыл бұрын

She overthinking it. Just ignore and block.

@KevinSmith-xt8xr Жыл бұрын

The minute men start treating women like her like a superstar, they'll treat you like a fan. Especially you're sending a video of a chick getting backshots like it's sad on his part and feel bad for the chick that is being recorded without consent. Like seriously bozo of the bozos and down right cringy

@auhd3190 Жыл бұрын

Dammed if you do, dammed if you don't. So improve your self, gain some sought of financial freedom, love yourself (not literally ) find things entertaining to do like hobbies ect .And all ways continue to try and find that special some one to be in your life .She's bound to pop up one day. When she does come along she won't be a Chinese arithmetic, algebraic, calculus equation from the future. Sounds like she's indirectly letting you know what side of the fence she really prefers to play on with out being to straight forward.

@deaundrecummings3469 Жыл бұрын

She really complaining about men shortening words, like u r like what is she an English teacher

@airtagoscar Жыл бұрын

Basically we can't send anything

@theriphraff Жыл бұрын

Now.... That last statement was a little confusing. Can't a man only approach something off of the "way that he is". If he's being real or honest, how else would he approach?

@tarontibbs3547 Жыл бұрын

What in the heck am I watching?

@kiriende3691 Жыл бұрын

A woman who gets energized by men simping while pretending to be annoyed.

@mikeruck2888 Жыл бұрын

She could've just said she's not going to respond if she's not attracted. And that's the easy part lol The hard part is admitting that she WOULD respond to "hey beautiful" EVERY time if she was attracted to him lol The cap in specific areas is interesting 🧐 But it makes all the sense in the world to hide that. And the guy with the club was salty as hell 😂 He just wanted sex smh. But she was responding, and the fact that she knew him isn't a reason for her to respond lol Think about this, if she knew him and he was a lame, she would've ignored him anyway lol The REAL reason she responded is because he had a bit of clout (probably locally from parties)

@ozmalee7114 Жыл бұрын

She's a Dragonball fan. Interesting.

@leichaurellelux7547 Жыл бұрын

So she literally thinks men will know all of why she post until they meet her at face value to then further knowing who she truly is 40:25

@Ra-vi7eu Жыл бұрын

She thinks she is more interesting than she actually is.

@CNFANSPlug Жыл бұрын

Thirst trapping 101 🤤

@trouble603 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like your asking a fish how to catch a fish.

@hkfgnmggn Жыл бұрын

Creatures of habit...

@sdb1218 Жыл бұрын

This is trash. This literally shows men that a lot of women will respond to whom, and what they choose to. Not 1 time did I hear, "well as a woman, let me initiate the conversation". I truly don't get it. Fellas, stay away from women like this, and wait for them to approach. If they don't, then non-black women are waiting for the brothas. Finally, how is she going to talk about the grammar of a man, when she's using incorrect grammar, herself?

@jeremygibbs4008 Жыл бұрын

After listening to the video I took the time to find your IG and honestly I don’t think it’s right for anymore to DM you in a disrespectful manner. I would say more than two thirds of your videos or photos introduce and focus on your butt. I think it’s better ways to show us your fitness journey w/o focusing on your buttocks not mention other prints. I guess I would ask what responses were you hoping for?

@CoreyJ0E Жыл бұрын

Seriously? How often does it take all that with the 304 clan? Seem alot a women has a price so guys just throwing up anything and not really trying to shoot a good shot.

@PillsInThePudding Жыл бұрын

She single ain't she?

@313DETROIT Жыл бұрын

How about you block all this BS instead of saving it then crying about it

@rashadwalker8218 Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Wayne_C_Kelly_II Жыл бұрын

She’s Lacing Game.

@singingchef23 Жыл бұрын

She isn't. She is propping herself up and being obtuse. Shes got a bunch of fitness on her IG, so what is she advertising vs what attention is she getting? Shes being disingenuous

@neverhungryagain2187 Жыл бұрын

😍😫

@marcusthomas6998 Жыл бұрын

She is a 5 all day

@willwill1744 Жыл бұрын

A woman l dm'd told me her birthday was coming up, and she hadn't had someone pay for hair in a while, so l should send her money.

@indigopapi8667 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely not. Treat women like a celebrity, she’ll treat you like a fan. Stop giving money and attention freely

@sixteenbits6998 Жыл бұрын

The interviewer needed to be more critical of her complaints. There is a block button at the bottom of all of those DMs. She likes the attention and complains about it simultaneously. Chaotic mind