I was done at “dating for 7 years” 🥴😩 ladies we have to stop giving these men “husband” commitments & don’t let them gaslight into wasting more years with them with no 💍

Yes 100!!! I dumped my boyfriend of a year and a half because he didn’t want to take me off the market.

This is true my husband married me in the first yr because he not only loved me he didn't want anyone else to get me 33yrs ago.

I was dating a guy for 8 months and I saw that he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. I let that go so I can focus on myself and find a guy who’s gonna want marriage and kids. Can’t waste my time I’m not even giving anyone a year.

Whew...7 years? A man can't get even ONE year of my life without knowing where it's going, a ring and a plan. Women MUST use your intuition and be confident to check out of a relationship when you're not getting what you want. You can't get your time back so that has to be motivation enough to not let anyone waste your beauty, time, youth etc.

There’s nothing serious about a 7-year off and on relationship. We have to stop being naive & wasting our time.

Oh man. This was my story. Lady trust me, leave and never look back. He doesn’t love you or care about you. You really really really deserve much better.

We as women need to learn how to trust our God-given intuitions. Our intuition literally could be screaming at us, but we ignore it because we are so blinded by words. One thing I’ve learned is that talk is cheap, but actions are expensive. Great video Tony. Keep doing what you do! 🙏🏾✨

Just a quick tip of wisdom: we use the “love” word way too loosely. Be wise on the use of it.

Tony’s disappointed blinks get me every time. 😆😩

I’m single with no kids, sometimes I think about my life and where I “think” I should be in life but after watching these videos I’m like 😳🤣 “I’m good love”. I’m okay with focusing on myself right now lol.

“A long distance relationship is not real for a man.” TG

Did she say 7 years?!? Let me rewind that 😂 I will admit I’ve wasted time like that but decided I’d never stay in a relationship past a year if there’s no mention of marriage or plans to move towards it. He’s just stringing her along and has no need to do so since they’ve been together so long and have created an on and off language with one another. I was reading today how men will tell one woman he’s not looking for something and go and do that same thing (buy a house, get married, etc.) with another woman. Men let you know how they see you based on what they drag their feet doing, ladies. 💯

He's not discussing marriage because he doesn't want to marry her...hardest pill she'll have to swallow

I feel bad when Tony looks tired but I know many of us women have been conditioned by society, our family, and even through the messages preached through religion. It has taken me almost a year of watching Tony’s videos to unlearn everything that was bad advice or simply not true. I believe for most of us women it’s a matter of filtering out all the misinformation and actively replacing it with new information. I’ve stopped watching or listening to all the other “relationship coaches” because I’ve realized that due to their “rules” or “advice” I put up with way more than I should. There really aren’t any others who speak the truth like Tony and I hope he knows how many lives he’s saving.

"99% of Women Don't Require Much." - TonyG Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

"Y'aint got nuthin." -TG Lord, the truth hurts.

The types of men who talk against marriage but want to waste a woman's time, youth and energy are the same ones who are scared they might lose half of their 50K a year salary, meanwhile the most successful and powerful men in history, business, politics, sports and entertainment either are or have been married, even if it didn't work out, they at least made the commitment and made the attempt.

1) “we have been in an on and off serious relationship for 7 years “ = oxymoronic; 2) “Am I wrong for wanting it all?” = seeking validation, second-guessing herself. Step into your powerful, confident self! Rearrange some things on the priorities list, Ma’am, i.e. put your wants, needs, & expectations before his.

I am amazed at how trifling these men are.

That is a situationship. It's not good for man to be alone. He has someone else sis.

You are hilarious. "Let me look at her with my good eye" 👁 😂🤣

Sometime a long time distance relationship could mean he's already married.

He's serving you lies & butterflies.

If he’s not interested in marriage, just thank God. Literally, thank God. He could be sparing you from further damage and destruction. Take the lessons and apply them going forward. Remember, time is precious and so are you. ✨🙏🏽

So true as of last year I dealt with someone for 7 years off n on. As of this month he is engaged to a woman from out of state. I wasted too much time.

"Roster filler" aka "substitute, seat filler, bed warmer" NOTHING!! No value to the team.

Like coach says "Got to go"(as you are collecting your stuff)...follow your woman's intuition

Long distance relationships or any relationship is not real to grown boys and players. It is not real to the men who are not God fearing. God has the final say in every relationship. What’s yours will never reject you. God bless!

I have "absolute-lay" wasted my time before - long distance, been friend zoned early and still gave too much, trying to make ideal story out of a young lady here and there. It's all lessons though. That's why I'm here. Learn how to act and how to choose. Trust God and create the life that I was designed to live. Keep showing up to learn. When the time comes , I can do it the right way - marry the right woman and with respect to time 12 months to 3 years.

7 years. Wow. And he gets upset and doesn't want to talk about marrying you? Luv, he knows he can do whatever he wants with you. He doesn't even care enough to "discuss" marriage, give you a little ring and then set some arbitrary date in some distant land far far in the future that he would just "suspiciously" move further and further back as it approached. It's easier said than done, but you need to cut your losses and leave that man alone.

He said, singing on another microphone!!!🤦🏾🗣🎤😭😂🤣🤣🤷🏾

Tony’s videos spill the tea about men 😂 and now I can see so clearly and all confusion is gone. I’m slowing unlearning the roles that both women and men play in relationships and setting myself free. I’m no longer going to be a victim and feel sorry for myself. I’ve also released the need to control the outcome of a situation. I feel so empowered with all the knowledge I’ve learned through Tony’s videos and no longer feel guilty for setting boundaries. He’s empowered women to boss up 😎💪🏼👑

Leave him alone, sis.

Even if he loved you, he would never take breaks so often. Those breaks were with whoever else he could be with!

Best thing we can do ladies is focus on ourselves!

WOW Very enlightening. I was in a long distance relationship for 6 years. 8 months ago we FINALLY made the sacrifice to be together in the same city. "I came to this video after looking at videos about why hasn't he proposed" Your video made me realize that all those years of long distance dating wasn't real to him and that our relationship is just beginning in his eyes. It makes alot of sense of things.

Gone bout ya buisness ..🚗💨💨💨💨💨

2 min in...she is wasting her time! 7 years off and on, long distance!? 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ Go bout your business 🤷🏽‍♀️

I believe , she talking about the type of job they have....to excuse t the type of relationship they have. My lovely friend listen to TONY. I. Personally have improve my life just by listen to Tony ... every time I feel weak, I listen to his videos to get back in line. Thank you

If he doesn't want to talk about marriage then he anit worth your time

I think that man is already married. Just a feeling I get...

Dating 7 years now? I'm already done. Sometimes I don't think people really listen to Tony's videos. Gone bout ya business young lady.

That look says it all🥴😂😆

It’s your face in that thumbnail for me😂

We need another reformation, ladies! For real! Time and time wasted that we can't get back. The need is so high! Thank you Tony and for all the ladies spreading wisdom and knowledge to other ladies in damaging, time wasting relationships.

Seeing the title then the thumbnail made me click immediately 🏃🏽‍♀️

Getting the wisdom & reinforcement from Mr. T has redefined my dating life....the latest, decided it was ok to reach out to me almost 2 weeks later--as if no time has passed by....I asked if he was in the hospital, or in a bad way...as soon as he said he wasn't I told him I can keep not hearing from him and to lose my number....baybee...imma "gone bout" my business, happily.

The truth hurts. He probably never actually got a divorce and is still married.

“The woman sanging on another microphone and doing something Ungodly” lmbo but I never get tired of listening to cousin Tony

We need to realize that we are the ones to blame for these men becoming too comfortable. If you know he is not husband material that is a catch you need to release real fast.

I seen that thumbnail, then read that title ..... WHEW CHILE😂😂🥴

Tony and his facial expressions lol😂😂😂😂

Ladies we have to admit that we don’t move like they move. We are open hearted. We need men like Pastor Gaskin to keep reminding us. Thank you.

SO Grateful for these videos-I feel like we covering a syllabus!Different scenarios and different tricks a man is playing with you. Red flags covert and overt,games men playing,standards we need to be having.Self love is being taught here! Bless you Tony and the family. I am UP on my game because you have validated my beliefs that I knew all along-but so refreshing to hear you confirm it!Thank you

Whewwww I’m sick, just makes me think about things that I had no idea about.

Hey Blessed tribe 🤗💗

“You better catch the Holy Ghost...” when you’re around him! 😂😂😂

Tony I’ve been binge watching you for the last three days, literally! You are really helping me mentally with decisions that I need to make. Thank you so much for all you do. I will be setting up a session with you REAL SOON!

When my partner is not physically here I feel the same way. I know he sits and waits for me to come thru the door when I leave out😂

When a man waited years to married u. he have a lot of hitting secret. Women get weak for thinking u can’t found Another man. Men r not commit to no woman.

Mr. Gaskins said love does not = "roster filler"😲😂

It’s sad to say and hear but you are right. Women be feeling special just from talking to a guy every other day. Thank you Tony for all the wisdom you share!

“God bless you; here go a cookie”😂😂😂

💯 percent true!! I found your channel during quarantine 2020 , and so happy for that

That last sentence stepped and crunched up my toes then scratched off the nail polish! Whew Chile! I didn’t realize it but now I see. I’ve been job scared, working working working to get somewhere instead of moving in the direction of purpose as well as a balance in work/life and allowing God to move in my life. Another great sermon sir: faith means believing then works is marrying that faith with action. Faith without works is dead. Moving different here on out! God bless you and your family TG!

😂😂😂 '... singing on ANOTHER MICROPHONE ....' 😂😂😂😂

This is sad , I hope she moves on

Thank you for this. It’s Gold. God Bless you man.

I had a long-distance relationship with a guy. I thought it was real because he called me every single day. And we would talk over an hour. There seemed to be a real connection. I started to feel so much LOVE💗, just eminating out of my chest. I couldn't hold it inside. When I brought up meeting, me flying down--awkwardness. When i brought up how we could make it work--"You deserve so much better than me." Men literally Do Not Care about your heart. All those lovey-dovey words (over a year's worth) meant Nuting to him.

You're speaking truth! I needed to hear this 😞

Thank you so much for these videos and your wisdom, Tony Gaskins! I wish they'd been around years ago when I was going through a horrible horrible relationship but better late than never. They have helped me so much when dealing with grown boys these days!! Thank you :)

Hey Mr. Gaskins, always look forward to hearing your wisdom

"PLENTY OF SHARKS" is a much better name than PLENTY OF FISH for a dating site! 🤣

Im a new sub thank you for making your books and course's so affordable

Oh boy.... this is what I need to hear. Second video of the day! Thank you so much.

Whew. I'm catching up and lawd... Had a. Army man 15 years ago. As soon as he went to war, he hit me with that, "you cheating" mess. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I'd been solo for 10 years before him. Didn't have time for that so I ended it. Later, when we talked, he said all of the squadron guy's wives a d girlfriends cheated so he figured I would too. Oh well. I wasn't cheating.

Dannng that word you drop at the end!!! Took the cake for me!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Realest video every. The eye opener and I’m not even dating as of now but the knowledge of the game being told will last forever 🙌🏽 Chosen by God 🙌🏽

Plenty of Sharks and Dumble 😂😂😂

Long distance off and on relationship for 7 years?? ..that's not a real relationship ➡️

I absolutely LOVE these messages and training for my Husband

Amen Tony. God always has your back when your intentions are good. Loved the ending of this video, what you spoke of is faith in knowing God has your best interest at heart - in this case your family and marriage.

Confirmation, Confirmation - speak on it!! My motto “Abstinence always = Total Peace Of Mind” until marriage is placed upon the table. Self-love should be our number one priority so we don’t get caught up in the web of the flesh. Stay Blessed Extraordinaire Life Coach Tony!

The truth will set you free

It must be tiring....to keep saying he loves me!!! If you love me I don’t need to question your love.....I don’t need to ask why we aren’t married or discussing marriage. I wish people will understand that there are two definition of the word love....love from the Bible and love from a dictionary/or the world. So there comes a time we have to choose the love we are willing to accept. I don’t have the time on my hand to try to have a successful life and consider whether you love me or not.....if you love me it should be shown and felt. If you love me those are questions that should never run through my head..... Have I done this scenario before yes but I have learnt that a true Queen works on her craft for when a real man comes in to take his place she is ready. She doesn’t waste her time wondering about a man who isn’t ready to fit his crown. You never have to question his love for you!!!!!

Sis, you been in an off and on relationship with this man for 7 years and you're not married yet? You need to keep this relationship in the off position. HE'S NOT GONNA MARRY YOU! If he wanted to marry you, you'd be married already. GONE 'BOUT YOUR BUSINESS.

Thank you Tony! I received my shirt today! We need a shirt with the good eye👁😄

I agree Tony G..Long distance relationships for a man is not a real relationship. My husband used to live in GA and me in Missouri. We met online and we dated for like 6 months. But he came here at least 3 X's when we first met. But he proposed to me in 6 months. He moved here during our engagement. We got married last October.

Keeping it all the way real

Whew! I was in the middle of another one of your videos.

Women tend to accept way too many off and on relationships which allow men to never get serious from the jump. These men know you will tolerate whatever they dish out. Women need to stop going “back” for more when it was never enough from the beginning. New T-Shirts: “Absolute-lay”! “Here go a cookie “🍪

We as women waste so much time of our lives yet we want to blame the man, he figures why buy the cow when u can get it for free you gave him everything he has nothing to look forward to, stand your ground , work on yourself, a lot more of people have a fear of being alone & compromise their own happiness just to be with somebody, so sad

Honesty saves time. Tell em' Tony 😂

Thank u for the education we women need it we have been so confused about what love looks like

Well said Mr. Tony point blank period 💪🏾💋

Do not waste your youth on a man ladies!!! Thank you Tony for allowing us to see the difference between men and women. Unfortunately as women we want to see men the same way we see fellow women lol.

The nicknames for the dating apps is genius

I needed this video. Thanks!

How did I miss this one. Tony is sooooo funny!😂😂😂😂