Healing Insecure Attachment and Overcoming Abandonment Fears: Expert Tips with Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes

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Have you been struggling with fear of abandonment? Do you feel like you're constantly stuck in a cycle of self-neglect? Do you have insecure attachment?
Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes has been helping people overcoming these fears for years and she's here to share her insights with you in this video. Dr. Snipes specializes in addiction and anxiety disorders and has been providing counselors, marriage and family therapists and social workers continuing education and training to address these issues since 2006. In this video, she'll share her insights on how to overcome abandonment anxiety and codependency in safe, effective ways.
If you're looking to heal from your experiences of abandonment and codependency, this is the video for you! Dr. Snipes will share her insights on how to overcome these fears and live a life of self
#insecure #attachment #overcoming #healing #counseling
Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com Many clients struggle with issues of #abandonment. Learn why this is such a common fear and how to help people develop #attachment #insecure
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00:00:00 - Love Me Don't Leave Me: Addressing Fears of Abandonment
00:03:32 - Dichotomous Thinking and Negative Relationships
00:07:08 - Biological and Safety Triggers in the Brain
00:10:55 - Factors that can impact parent-child relationships
00:14:33 - Effects of Parental Inadequacy on Child Development
00:18:09 - Fears and Reactions in Childhood
00:21:57 - Understanding the needs of introverted and extroverted children
00:25:41 - The Impact of Parents' Fighting on Children's Perception
00:29:33 - Schemas and Fear of Rejection
00:33:19 - Secure and Insecure Attachment Styles
00:36:49 - Core Beliefs About Relationships and Abandonment
00:40:42 - Challenging Abandonment Beliefs
00:44:28 - Building Trust and Creating Healthy Relationships
00:48:05 - Understanding Needs and Self-Worth
00:51:40 - Experiencing Failure and Achieving Success in Relationships
00:55:18 - Abandonment Triggers and Relationship Behavior
00:58:41 - Addressing Abandonment Issues and Triggered Abandonment Issues

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@DocSnipes 9 ай бұрын

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@PoisonelleMisty4311 3 жыл бұрын

If my parents just said to me happy birthday once in a while I wouldn't turn out so crazy............... The funny thing is that I was never loved unconditionally, I was taught that love should be earned and not given freely. I was raised in a cold dysfunctional home without love. I was never shown love however I didn't turn out coldhearted, I give love freely. I think the emotional pain I received made me aware of others' pain and loneliness, maybe this was a lesson I had to learn.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Wishing you peace, health and happiness

@theultimatereductionist7592 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly why we antinatalists support forcing your selfish breeders into prison and to give them mandatory vasectomies and abortions for forcing suffering and death upon you without your prior consent.

@mtbiker4life918 2 жыл бұрын

This woman is completely dialed in. I have huge abandonment issues, and this really explains everything and calms me. I've been sucked into the mgtow videos that clearly are all fight or flight messages. It almost got too overwhelming, and not healthy to listen too. I'm thankful I found this video.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for commenting and watching! Glad you found my video helpful. :) Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@BallietBran 9 ай бұрын

Hoe are things going nowadays two years after this comment? I've got a lot of the problems Donna addresses on her channel. So glad I found her channel after finally being ready to tackle my cptsd.

@joelsamuel8962 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the lecture. I have been suffering from fear of abandonment for 40 years. Shadowing my inner core for so long and not understanding what I was going through! I am finally understanding it to make changes in my life. your explanations are so meaningful and helpful in the path of recovery!

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. I am always happy to know I have helped.

@missmaxwell3363 3 жыл бұрын

I found it authentic when you were able to admit your vulnerability, feeling overwhelmed by the energy demands of your children.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Ty. :)

@torreygreen6794 3 ай бұрын

23:47 "If they go to mom and they ask her to play, and she always says, 'No!', then they're gonna learn that the world is rejecting. It's not a safe place." I listented to that three times in a row. It answers so many questions about myself and explains to me why I am like this. My mother said no, rolled her eyes, or would scream, "Go outside and play, you're getting on my nerves!" Eventually I stopped asking her for anything. Now I'm almost 50, have never felt safe, and am angry most of the time. I have been watching these videos trying to heal and be less hostile and angry. I keep hearing bits of wisdom that give me answers and clarity and help me to be a different way. Thank you Dr. Snipes! You and Gabor Mate have healed me more in two years than dozens of self-help books and six therapists have done in twenty-five.

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching the video

@Walklikeaduck111 4 жыл бұрын

These are wonderful classes made available for all. Thank you.

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

Awww. Thanks so much.

@mariannahasegawa4215 Жыл бұрын

I am so thankful that good quality presentation like this is available for free and it is possible to listen to it as part of my own therapy any time!

@BallietBran 9 ай бұрын

It's super helpful. I've been using Donna's videos these past two weeks that I found her channel to diagnose and begin to heal and cope with some cptsd and other things like ocd and anxiety. Her videos are spot-on and her presentation is very motherly and easy to listen and watch. I've recommended her channel to one of my brothers since we all had a similar upbringing and all have cptsd. Her videos are helping me understand what's going on and how to deal with it and manage it on a daily basis (Which some days are easier/harder than others). Thanks Donna and great comment Mariannah.

@bananian 3 жыл бұрын

I don't think my parents are bad people, but I find myself wanting to find answers to the problems I have.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

That is a very healthy attitude. Good luck on your journey of discovvery

@shelmithseth7645 3 жыл бұрын

me too..

@clemteetonball1250 2 жыл бұрын

These lectures are really helpful in understanding this condition. My best friend (of 15 years) has just ended our friendship over a work based situation (she helped get me job at her work but it really wasn't my bag, I gratefully declined a permanent post and left after 4 months, she described it as "being kicked in the teeth") She has massive abandonment issues and is a gentle and thoughtful soul. Obviously I'm gutted but at least this puts it all in context.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@adilahaz Жыл бұрын

I have fear of abandonment after my mom's death when I was 8. I never had long term relationship because of this fear. I'm learning to overcome this thanks to your guidance

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=abandonment

@adilahaz Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes Tqvm Dr..I'll check it out. Your videos are very helpful 😁👍

@BallietBran 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing and best of luck! ❤

@yanaswrld333 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 12 minutes in and crying 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Wishing you peace, health and happiness

@mercury4metal Жыл бұрын

I know this comment is a couple years late, but I hope you’re healed and doing well by now. ❤

@glorianeube4924 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for this video ,it made me think of my own children ,my daughter and my son, have been going truly,post-traumatic stress emotional problems ,because I was not there for them when they were small

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

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@chaunseyjackson9974 3 жыл бұрын

This is Amazing!!! Great questions to ask self. And great information and teaching.

@gabrielachavez3726 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so helpful. I appreciate how clear and detailed you speak. I feel good to finally have a diagnosis. Now the work begins.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@teachweb69 7 ай бұрын

Love this channel I can't stop listening. Thank you

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching videos on the channel. Highly appreciated

@amaris8115 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this upload. Tjis lecture really helped me dig deep inside myself and figure things out. Again thank you lots ❤

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

@sunshinemunuphotography6457 4 жыл бұрын

This is great! Thank you very much

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks! I appreciate you watching.

@Caprivlogs 3 жыл бұрын

Seriously this is so common. It is the elephant in the room. We know the problem but have no real solutions? Lots of questions though.

@Raeleen 3 жыл бұрын

I truly appreciate this video as I am desperately seeking guidance. Thank you

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

@BlueskyDenver 2 жыл бұрын

When an individual has grown in a very dysfunctional environment with one absent parent and another abusive and neglectful it takes an emotional tall on the child and when the child grows up and enters adulthood the challenges of who to trust, who is safe and where to find belonging are very real and very difficult issues to sort out. If you don’t have support system in family or friends the world feels like a fish bowl where you are going in circles with no escaping the cycle. When you face difficulty you don’t know where to turn to, who you can rely on, who to call and where to turn to. And yes finding healthy individuals to meet our needs of love, acceptance, and belonging are things that determine the quality of our lives and how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. If your own family didn’t meet your needs you certainly don’t know where to turn to and who will meet your needs if the family system failed.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@abeerunis8605 3 жыл бұрын

This is fantastic thank you!

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

@larrylyn47 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this very in depth presentation. Very educative Doc.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome

@AngelECara 3 жыл бұрын

I really appreciated your lecture

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

It's my pleasure

@chanel123ful 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome. Thanks for watching!

@lillpriest3675 4 жыл бұрын

Great lecture

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching!

@callmethepoetashley3195 3 жыл бұрын

My kids hyper and the energizer bunny. My Sean is wide open. Aww.

@toddparry6568 Жыл бұрын

I seems and feels true, yet most of the rest of my family are doing well. Yet, I am constantly dealing with rejection sensitivity to a point it has caused issues in my marriage. The threat reactions are huge. The "wide open" has really been me, until lately. I think it's more fatigue and somewhat a sense of defeat being almost 54. Thank you so much Doc. I'm looking for things to serve my clients, yet finding extreme use for myself. NOW.....How to get out of my own way 🤙🏄

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome. I appreciate you watching.

@joshualichner2792 2 ай бұрын

Great stuff, appreciate the education

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@joshualichner2792 2 ай бұрын

@@DocSnipes your welcome. You are so beautiful btw 💖. I could definitely see you w your own show on tv

@stevecatanio8532 Жыл бұрын

Yes I think I have this.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will from the video you use to address fears of abandonment?

@vikramh8373 3 жыл бұрын

Nice lectures

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks.

@999fieldsie 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for understanding me after years off wondering why I couldn't hold down a relationship if I get close to someone and they leave i get so depressed and upset then my nerves kick and have a breakdown my girlfriend broke up with me in lockdown

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@soioioioioioio34 3 жыл бұрын

34:36 avoident that's me baby!!!

@sarahalderman3126 Жыл бұрын

So how does someone with trauma from childhood sexual and physical abuse from multiple people eventual abandonment in early teen’s… who then went on to marry a wonderful loving man who coincidentally is also a porn/sex addict who lied due to shame, but has repeatedly betrayed our 20 year relationship. I have repeatedly gone through this grieving process, forgiving the actions are NOTHING in comparison to forgiving the betrayal of lying about it. This happening again and again for YEARS has led to me feeling like I can no longer believe in us enough any more.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Sorry that happened to you. I appreciate you watching!

@sarahalderman3126 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes ❤️

@zoltancsepreghy1 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome lecture! May i download the powerpoint presentation somehow? Thank you!

@DocSnipes 4 жыл бұрын

A PDF version of the Powerpoint is available if you purchase the class at AllCEUs. We do not have them publicly available. (Other than by watching the video) Thanks for watching.

@vxidwvlkxr 3 жыл бұрын

As a codependent/SLD, what exactly would it take for me to be able to like myself when I don't think there was ever a point in my life when I had?

@missmaxwell3363 3 жыл бұрын

I always volunteer when I'm feeling less than worthwhile. Animal shelters, food banks, hospitals, jails and many other places have opportunities to give of your time ans energy. It seems to work 100% of the time. Good luck. I pray you find the right fit.

@darinsmith2458 Жыл бұрын

Wow. I really got a lot out of this. I am not sure if I am afraid of the abandonment itself or if I am afraid of the fear of abandonment. The illusion of it. Or you could say the unknown. If that makes sense?

@mariammahmoud5834 6 күн бұрын

👏👏👏👏

@DocSnipes Күн бұрын

Thanks for watching

@humptydmt3439 Жыл бұрын

Hello, thank you for the video, I think this applies to me. I have schizophrenia and hear voices. The voices blame me for the lack of social change in society and say it's all my fault. Is that an example of the young child internalizing the blame from parent's absence? I am full of guilt and shame

@queenie547 Жыл бұрын

Please help, I want to develop healthy relationship with myself and to find a partner, but I feel I am suffering from anxious attachment style... I never had a real relationship, tried online dating and now I'm learning my behaviour..

@veronicafaulkner683 Жыл бұрын

If a person crys when some one don't sit by Tham is that abandment

@irmalair1 3 жыл бұрын

I need to know exactly what to do. I tried and tried but nothing 😣 I have an impossibly difficult time dealing with men or believing that any man could love me or even like me, not even as a friend. All because of my father. If a guy just says hi to me regularly I automatically shut down because I'm sure 100% that the moment he gets an inch closer or the moment he gets to know 0.00001% of me he'll immediately dislike me. And even when I try thinking about the possibility of being with someone, my thought is that they'll only stay until they find someone else or they'll stay while cheating and enjoying themselves elsewhere. My relationship life is ruined.

@DocSnipes 3 жыл бұрын

It may be worth seeing a licensed, professional counselor in your area to work through this. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness. Thanks for watching the video.

@BallietBran 9 ай бұрын

Hope things have been better for you. You're deserving of friends and all you want.

@AnthonyL0401 4 жыл бұрын

37:30

@sy5545 Жыл бұрын

👌🏽

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=secure