Healing the Abandonment Wound

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Healing the Abandonment Wound

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#Abandonment #innerchildhealing #codependency
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@Mad_Luv85 5 жыл бұрын

I don't want feel abandoned anymore Or worthless. That I'm capable of loving and being loved.

@eternalexperience2489 5 жыл бұрын

"No one can truly abandon me but me. I am always here for myself."

@VMitch-ng7tg 4 жыл бұрын

@@eternalexperience2489 thank you, will use this.❤

@Megan6772 3 жыл бұрын

I know you're worthy. Big hugs

@Mad_Luv85 3 жыл бұрын

@@Megan6772 Thank you megan6772. :)

@dallasdandigitalproduction393 5 жыл бұрын

I wish I had found this vid when I was 20 yo. , it would've really changed my life. Most of my relationships focus on dealing with abandonment unfortunately.I see how much my past keeps me alone today.The idea of " owning my shit " by being present in the moment when I'm triggered seems like the MOST difficult spiritual practice ever ! But I will practice as much as possible in the future. Thank you again, namaste. :)

@elhadjdiallo633 4 жыл бұрын

Its never too late to become what you might have been or should have been !!! Take care and be well ..

@shizzle1903 5 жыл бұрын

I’m a 43 year old man. Dealing with allot of internal conflict. This was a very good video. It’s helping me. As do many other videos I’ve been listening to. I want to feel better. Thank you for your message

@mathews0618 3 жыл бұрын

I was out with friends drinking one night and had an emotional flashback. I needed space. I said some things I shouldn't have. I felt ashamed and scared they would abandon me. All of my friends understood when i told them that it wasn't me that night but an abused child. They all accepted it and loved me except one. Hes a fearful avoidant with high anxious tendencies. He made the whole thing about him. Hes out of my life now. By the way, the shortest distance to core wounds is a new relationship and alcohol lol. Nothing will bring up those old wounds and fears better

@soulshine.university 5 жыл бұрын

watching this in the middle of the night after realising I never had or got motherly love (father neither) and for the first time feeling like I'm not alone and there's somebody out there who understands. Thanks a lot 💜

@nmjr547 2 жыл бұрын

You're not alone! The mind also doesn't know the difference between what's real or imagined, so you can literally close your eyes and imagine them giving you everything you ever needed and allow yourself to receive that. It will be the most beautiful and healing experience ever. I've done that myself to make up for the missing pieces in my life. It's basically a meditation where you guide your mind and body to experience a different outcome in any given time in your life. Sending you love, light and healing.

@LoveLeigh313 Жыл бұрын

Same 🤍

@Red_Tiger_Eye 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your videos! I was meditating one day and when I came out of meditation - The word BAR came to me. I’m open to receive messages. The following week, the words (B)etrayal, (A)bandonment, and (R)ejection came to me. I had an Aha moment and said, Betrayal, Abandonment, and Rejection spell BAR. My Spirit told me I have to raise my own BAR. Within this month, I finally figured out - these are all the emotions I have had a problem with. My mom abandoned me when I was not even a year old, my sister (golden child) has always betrayed me, along with the men I had relationships. And, the rejection is something I battled from family and friends from childhood. I am currently working on these suppressed emotions. And, noticing them when they surface. I’ve learned that observation of my own patterns of behavior is the best way to heal these long time wounds. I now love myself UNCONDITIONALLY AND HUG MYSELF EVERY NIGHT AND MORNING, PLUS THROUGHOUT THE DAY. 💡Life is more bright nowadays ☀️

@eceerdem317 5 жыл бұрын

You are amazing.

@eternalexperience2489 5 жыл бұрын

I recommend you the book "The 5 wounds of the soul" by Lise Bourbeau. It is a book of lifetime evolution :)

@michellemcclinn9771 4 жыл бұрын

How beautiful

@minakshirajpoot2009 3 жыл бұрын

Great insight . Much needed today .

@CupNoodleKitty 5 жыл бұрын

Man... I needed this. I recently started a relationship and already freaked out 3 times because I felt triggered or that something was going on.. I feel so overwhelmed in those moments that I just want the relationship to end, but I can’t do it, so I push the other person.. my boyfriend doesn’t do it and wants to help me but I am afraid it’s just a matter of time until he has enough. It’s the hardest thing I have to go through..

@C63Bez 2 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@cascadeoracle6633 2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now?

@Scott-got-caught 2 жыл бұрын

Its not anyone's job to save you. I hope you did break up and I hope you stay single until you sort out your issues. Because if you don't, you'll continue to be dysfunctional. Also learn to be ok with being alone. That's part of the process.

@andreylopez5368 5 жыл бұрын

My dad died when i was 2 and my mom left me when i was 3 i didn’t think that was a big deal until now at age of 30 is driving me crazy i sabotage my relationships and when i decide to be in one i go nuts at any sign of rejection

@Shadows_of_the_moon 4 жыл бұрын

☹😢

@hehelol4550 4 жыл бұрын

Fearful Avoidant attachment style

@graceg4996 4 жыл бұрын

SAME!☹️

@evajarv 4 жыл бұрын

❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

@dawn2205 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@dance2fitwithhaley302 5 жыл бұрын

I was givin to my aunt at 3 months old and found out I was adopted when I was five by my little sister ( my stepmom told her ) and then my sister told me .. my perception on my life was changed that day and how I perceived my family I never looked at them the same scince that day , I met my bio mom at 17 and I remember leaving her house so empty even though I was with my mom (my aunt that adopted me and raised me ) I thought that it would help me but for some reason it made it 10 times worse and looking back now I know that it was abandonment wound that was triggered it’s a horriable feeling to experience I honestly would not wish it on my worst enemy

@annapimentel4412 5 жыл бұрын

Candance, thank u! I've had serious of traumas in childhood that drove me to get into abusive and toxic relashionships as a teenager and young adult. As i started working with myself, forgiving people and me.I started to live a happier life as a single independent person, which made me meet a wonderful loving partner that surprises me everyday with his capacity of loving unconditionaly as we grow together to be tour better selfs. Is a everyday work, and your videos really helps. Thank u very much

@kxjaodh 6 жыл бұрын

I got to the point where I got PTSD... but day by day im recovering and getting better and reclaiming that power.. Thanks so much for the video

@crosse82 2 жыл бұрын

Such a good reason to remain sober. To be present. Present with your emotions.

@LisaGemini 5 жыл бұрын

Great advice, Candace. I was abandoned as an adult by my siblings when I was out of work and homeless. I have trust issues as a result. I will be working with a therapist on this because I'm single and having trouble forming friendships and other relationships. Being present and honest with the people in your life is wonderful advice. Thanks for the support! I like your no-B.S. attitude.

@carolpridgeon8200 2 жыл бұрын

The last few minutes of this video were so insprited. I am 80, I am experiencing an energetic cleanse to. my nervous system, I got charged by a family member's upset and went right into abandonment. I knew what it was and I am unable, at this time, to separate myself out from my feelings, or to stop and stay with myself. I am in ACA and have been working for many years to heal childhood wounds, it is destressing how deep this wound is. It feels like so much of my life has run through this trauma. I believe you though, I believe the healing is in the feeling. As horrible as it feels to me today I have to shudder at how unbearable it must have been for me in my childhood. That thought helps me to stay connected. Thanks so much for your vido. Namaste'

@louisgianfrancesco 4 жыл бұрын

*You must love in such a way, that the person you love feels free.* Thich Nhat Hanh.

@zzulm 6 жыл бұрын

I get triggered by rejection and I am always running away from it and it feels like a time bomb 🙃

@zzulm 4 жыл бұрын

Now I have good tools like meditation, validating my emotions and keeping my body healthy, and I still disassociate when I get triggered. And to be honest my mind was looking for a way to escape those situations but the universe is giving me a chance to heal by putting a lot of people that trigger me in my way. Before I would cope ignoring them, now I think that I'm going to stand with the feeling little by little because shame is very painful.

@notavailable708 3 жыл бұрын

@@zzulm howwww should we feel good when they are toxic and unconscious of their patterns?

@notavailable708 3 жыл бұрын

@@zzulm so u mean we should accept being treated as sh*t?

@Talev777 3 жыл бұрын

Me too 😞

@nmjr547 2 жыл бұрын

@@zzulm Might be worth to know if the shame is caused by disrespect, an internal issue or both. There's no need to stay in a situation where you're being disrespected.

@meeraraj0 6 жыл бұрын

I was forced into deep deep meditation and saw my life pattern has been separation and my fear of abandonement has made me highly reactive and anxious. And death is the ultimate abandonement. I get so trigerred it's affected my life. 😔😔😔

@ShadaeMastersAstrology 4 ай бұрын

Spot on!! This is exactly how my experience has been going with broadening my perspective through awareness and a shift in self talk.

@mordecai8707 4 жыл бұрын

Holy shit I didn’t think I would cry this much. My most earliest memory of abandonment is when I was in kindergarten and I didn’t want my dad to leave me. I went into the classroom and ran back out expecting my dad to be there but he was already outside waving away at me, I ran out to him wanting him to stay and he just brought back me in. I got scolded by my teacher but then ran back out again and he was completely gone. I ran out the door trying to see if I could catch his car but he was no where in sight. I remember how gloomy that day was, to think that was the start of my issues of abandonment. I didn’t even know about these issues until someone I was really interested in walked away from me 2 weeks ago, just like my dad did that day. Both incidents were such small things, but the weight of it was so heavy on my psyche because I had so much faith and attachment towards them. I can’t even get past my pain at all to think of ways to heal.

@sosha4050 5 жыл бұрын

Wow!!! I have been on a 3 year healing journey and have completed MAJOR shadow work to include co-dependency issues and the one “major” obstacle left that I couldn’t crack, was why I had abandonment issues? I literally thought maybe it was a past life fluke bc my parents are still together and no one left me or threatened to when I was young but your video explained so well that the abuse and “power” my Father held over me led to this, I had no idea! Thank you sooo much from the bottom of my heart! 💜 I’ve watched this twice and have taken notes! You are truly another light worker as myself, thanks for the assistance SeaStar 🥰🌟

@melody.joy1191 6 жыл бұрын

You are such an incredible blessing!! Thank you for sharing all this golden information. Your videos have been so healing and life changing. ❤️

@CandacevanDell 6 жыл бұрын

So Amazing!!! Thank you for sharing 😊💛🌟

@zlatkajupe Жыл бұрын

This video is 100% accurate. Had my old abandonment trauma's triggered by the guy I'm dating. Didn't hear from him for over 14+ hours which I know isn't a big deal for most but it isn't common for us. I immediately felt like he was out with another woman and like I needed to and cut him off out of protection. Then I took a minute and thought rationally as to why this bothered me. Realized it came from my ex who would constantly love bomb me, then disappear on me. Was able to talk to my new guy about it and explain. He apologized, understood and thanked me even for being honest with him. Now I feel much better.

@nathanmintier6838 6 жыл бұрын

This video is a really great creation! Reminds me of a line from one of my favorite movies, Jacob's Ladder "When you listen to your Demons, they become your Angels!"

@melissab6976 5 жыл бұрын

Wow! This really got me. I didn't realize how massive my abandonment wound was until I had stuff come up and was referred to this video. Definitely going to watch it a few more times and let it sink in. What do you do if your reaction to someone showing interest in you is pure fear? For me the only relationship options are unrequited, requited but doesn't go anywhere, or absolute fear when someone shows interest and I'm not sure how I feel about them (I have the kind of reaction that would be appropriate if someone was being held hostage or at gunpoint, not if they're being asked out by a possible suitor)

@lisicius 2 жыл бұрын

Omg same!!!!!!

@stephaniefarokhi2404 4 жыл бұрын

So on point. I have really bad abaondment issues because of my dad. Thanks a lot for this video. It was really validating.

@francinesavoie-jansson9581 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you , I'm so happy I just found you , I believe you were sent to me for exactly help me heal my abandonment/reject wounds... thank you so much ! !

@CandacevanDell 6 жыл бұрын

yay love this!!

@melissazaragosa 5 жыл бұрын

thank you 😌 I am at a point in my life where I was ready to hear this, you are changing my life, you're an angel ❤️

@cherylmachosky1961 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. It’s amazing that you are so young, and have the insight, the direction that you have. Baffling actually for me.

@ananya1114 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Candace! Love from India. Soon after I watched this video I worked on healing my own Abandonment trauma. And oh gosh! My life has completely taken a new turn. I am so so grateful and thankful to you and to the universe. I have cried a lot of happy tears but now I'm ready to embrace this new mental freedom. Thanks a lot really❤

@EMDEEW 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, you have way too few subscribers. This is mature stuff, based in experience and reality, and well put. My compliment, and more so: thank you.

@paulwyld7261 6 жыл бұрын

Wow, another eye opening video. I'm amazed at your consistent insights. Thanks!

@Poniella81 4 жыл бұрын

Finally. I have struggled to articulate all these things before now. Get real about how we feel to heal. Amazing 🌟

@xringkiller 5 жыл бұрын

@Candace Van Dell I need you in my life LOL not particularly you , but rather someone with your understanding and awareness that can help me in these final stages of healing. Unfortunately I discovered my “inner child” issues a little to late and just had a woman I love walk out on me. I can’t imagine how exhausted I must have made her. I only wish I could have discovered it before the damage was done. I’ve decided enough is enough and I’m on a journey to be emotionally healthy and heal from my childhood “issues” so I can finally be in a healthy , loving relationship. Who knows maybe I’ll be able to become the patient, loving man I so much desire to be. I have great examples all around me. Thank you for your video. Trust in the fact you’ve helped someone heal. Best wishes in all of your endeavors.

@stevenash6060 5 жыл бұрын

Wow...best 10 minute explanation to something that has plagued me for years.

@p.rabbitt4914 5 жыл бұрын

Candace- thank you so much for existing right now & doing the great work you are doing!!! You have arrived at just the right (cosmic) time, and you are making a HUGE contribution to the advancement of humanity & the evolution of our planet.. including in my life & my partner's life. Infinite thumbs up! ~Namaste~

@meeraraj0 6 жыл бұрын

You are good U are conscious Information leads to understanding Leads to empathy and to Compassion. U are healing without blame. 💗💛💚

@philmickraken2 6 жыл бұрын

Wow this resonated with me to the core. Thank you so much for the message!

@rahmanforever 2 жыл бұрын

This is so real. Whenever someone asks “Should I say goodbye?”, I almost get emotionally paralyzed with fear. My first instinct is “Sure, I’m not going to *ask* you to stay!” and my second instinct is to shut down and simply not respond. I tell myself that I won’t ever abandon anyone but I realize how vulnerable that makes me. I’d also rather be ghosted than told some form of “I am leaving you.”

@Sar_bear77 6 жыл бұрын

I loved watching this. My ex who i loved dearly had abandonment issues. He grew up with an alcoholic father. My ex left me because he feared intimacy. He thought he didnt know how to love but the truth is, he was just scared to let go. I tried to anchor him but he was fearful. He pointed the finger at me and told me our relationship wont work because i needed to just love myself and stop being so smothering, but i wasnt smothering, i was just doing my duties as his girlfriend. I wish he would have stopped to recognize his abandoment behavoir, but he didnt. And now hes off breaking other girls hearts. He dates girls, they get close to him, and then he dumps them. H gets sad and frustrated because he doesnt understand whats wrong. I cant help him though. Hes not my problem anymore. Well, he never was i guess.

@CandacevanDell 6 жыл бұрын

I hear that and it’s great awareness!! He needs to want to help himself before anything can change. It’s very sad how many people have this wound and just don’t know what’s going on. Xo

@uzmapiracha7036 4 жыл бұрын

I have missed many many opportunities to be with people I liked and who liked me back. But I overcompensated for feeling even slightly abandoned and pushed them out of my life completely. Now I have regrets. And I wonder what could have been.

@tplude1 3 жыл бұрын

I have a situation where I am trying to be honest about my feelings, but the people involved will not be honest about their role in this situation and not honest with themselves about themselves

@joyc978 6 жыл бұрын

This is really good. I am noticing how much I react to things. I only realized this week that I'm empathic. Thank you for the videos

@parkerholt8097 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Looking forward to our next call!

@sarahscottjatta 5 жыл бұрын

thank you so much, you're so amazing! Keep shining beautifully, you're changing the world!

@brittanyglenn4372 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing this video! I immediately felt tears of joy wanting to flow! I’ve always felt “crazy” or misunderstood until now. So relieved to know that this is something that many go through! I see the light!!

@MBYorkBeauty 6 жыл бұрын

All I can say is I LOVE all of your videos!Thank you!

@muschio7 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you❤️ you are an Amazing help to get closer to my inner Child wounds and how to be with them. Thank you thank you thank you Candace 🌸 For all your energy, empowerment, honesty, encouragement, Love, clarity 💫 it is truly Magical For my wounds and pains

@Jojo-sb1xs 5 жыл бұрын

Omg THIS is ABSOLUTELY brilliant and beautiful ❤❤❤ thanku thanku thanku ❤❤❤

@meganleekowalsky5953 4 жыл бұрын

This video resonates so deeply with me. Thank you so much for your videos and your beautiful soul I am so grateful I found your videos. 🙏🏼 Namaste

@clareharrison3585 6 жыл бұрын

I have been doing a lot of clearing work', over the past year or do. However, sometimes, I react and then look closely at the emotion and can't figure out what it represents. Today you just put your finger on a big issue of mine : fear of abandonment and fear of rejection. Yep, childhood trauma, abandonment You can't imagine how good I feel now. I can feel it leaving, becoming lighter. 🙏🌷

@fahana9814 4 жыл бұрын

Self validation is soo important. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@reenanirmal 6 жыл бұрын

I am so glad , I discovered you, you answer all my questions , I admire you totally!

@adamgoodhunter 6 жыл бұрын

Spot on for the moment! Thank You for the words of enlightenment! It is exactly what’s been coming up for me

@CandacevanDell 6 жыл бұрын

So happy it helps 😊

@audreyholmes551 4 жыл бұрын

This is by far the most helpful video I’ve ever watched.. My awareness is full & clear again in my emotions. I’ve always been half aware something wasn’t right but now I know where it’s coming from. You are such a beautiful spirit, very healing energy. Thank you for the emotional release, I couldn’t help but cry! Its bittersweet to let go of it all.. it’s beautiful & I am ready to begin healing💖 thank you.

@ThisthatDMT 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, my life has been a difficult journey, the more I learn now from inspiring teachings like this the more I'm grateful I didn't give up 😌🙏

@photojimsf 4 жыл бұрын

Oh yes kind of like, I knew that all along, but it never clicked in completely. But your video goes in depth, breaks it down, and then for me the best part is the summation that rhymes at the end, which makes it all so much easier to digest, remember, and recall. Get real, about how we feel, in the moment so we can heal! Thank you!

@jaymcgee4359 5 жыл бұрын

Now that I've gained enough insight to see my own need to work through these issues, I'm saddened to see daily how many people are suffering from the fall-out of these abuses.... so many of us need this kind of healing. Thank you for being a positive voice in a tough time.

@chapplepeach29 6 жыл бұрын

Love, love, love, love, love. Love you. Thank you.

@iamdivine2342 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🙏🏾🙏🏾

@healingbygiusi 3 жыл бұрын

What a really fantastic video. Thank you 🙏🏻

@delmazio1 5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful... thank you so much❤️

@rondone8702 4 жыл бұрын

Another job well done the key to this video cuz if you don't understand something be truthful to yourself so you get the proper guidance from these professionals that are very good at what they do God bless

@nehemilia5033 Жыл бұрын

And that was the mistake I was making. I was trying to rush the process and get over this quickly. I have decided to be patient with myself. I do this by responding not reacting.

@NTreston 4 жыл бұрын

This video was awesome. Thank you Candace for the information and your message!

@Laura-we6xi 4 жыл бұрын

OMG IM IN LOVE WITH YOU.You're helping me to reflect on a deep level I mean I never thought about that but yeah it makes sense people are simply looking for a way to cover their pain.This realization makes me have more empathy.Thanks! God bless you for being being such messenger of LIGHT! ♥️

@FreedomLifeFriends 5 жыл бұрын

You said you should say "I'm sorry I was feeling that way". - - You should never be sorry for a feeling you are feeling!!! - - This is only re-enforcing the wound by putting the "blame" back on the neglect or abuse victim!! - - One of the hallmarks of an abuser and abusive tools a psychological abuser uses is INVALIDATING their victims response to the abuse by saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" to invalidate and push the blame of the abusive behavior on the victim. - - - - - - - If you are feeling a feeling, you need to feel it and recognize it, and honor that feeling by learning from it. Recognize that you are feeling that feeling for a reason, and one of the reasons is that you are wounded and you need to feel the feeling in order to start healing. - - You should NOT be sorry for feeling a feeling.!!

@jich5796 2 жыл бұрын

Finally someone who gets it 🥳

@K.McCauley714 3 жыл бұрын

My soul is Alive! Thank You! I needed a re-charge

@biancapierce639 6 жыл бұрын

I was adopted and experienced a 'primal wound' of abandonment that is before my conscious memory. When I was seven my mother told me I was adopted and although she explained it as positivley as she could as a young child I did not understand the complexities of adult life so the bottom line was my real mother didn't want me. My issues are so intense that I can be triggered very easily by even good friends. For this reason I have a few trusted friends who understand. I loved being a mother but struggled at the 'letting go stage' when they became adults. However, I have never mastered relationships and now my kids have grown up I feel like I crave love but chaseit in all the wrong places.

@FreedomLifeFriends 5 жыл бұрын

I was adopted when I was a baby too, and my adopted family was in a religious cult and I was never made to feel truly and unconditionally loved and shamed when I voiced any of my hopes and dreams because if I wanted to be an astronaut, pilot or an artist, I was shamed and told that I should not want to do any of these things but I should be ashamed because i should only want to serve God. - -So, I never had any support system, and now I have a very physically painful chronic illness from all the trauma, and now I am 45 years old and because of the C-PTSD and my very painful physical chronic illness, it is an extreme challenge just to manage not to be homeless. - - I will never thrive and I am just existing. :( - - - I am a very sensitive and empathetic person, and on top of everything else, it's killing me. - -I have begun to just systematically shut down emotionally just to try to have the physical energy to stay alive. :( - - It' becoming more than I can bare and (even though I want to live and thrive and have no wish to kill myself) I don't know how much more my mind and body can actually take before they just absolutely break. :(

@bellab8955 4 жыл бұрын

FreedomLifeFriends sending you love today ✨

@stevenkyle2313 5 жыл бұрын

1 minute in and I've subscribed and set up notifications! Thank you!

@felsjo02 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video! I have been trying real hard to heal from my past the three last years! I have come a far way and have goten beautiful results in one way! but its still a strugle ! Today was a bad day and this video helpt me to do what I wanted to do.. just be present in the feeling and not do anything about it. I had cravings for a " band aid" but I think this will motivate me to stick trough it tonight! Thanks for that

@mikerodriguez3995 4 жыл бұрын

Oh shut....thank-you consul. .people should know not to walk away, face the facts.. enjoy a Good positive presence so you can trust..makes big difference..just don't get to attached OK!

@evaschager1040 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Candace 👍 for sharing this healing information I didn't realize how big my issue still is, until I saw some of your videos. 😇 I understand , how important it is to set and insist to boundaries.❣️

@edgreen8140 4 жыл бұрын

Stop recompitulation compulsion. Observe don't absorb when with externalizers.

@oxSoNyAxo 3 жыл бұрын

This was short and sweet and very powerful!! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤

@Ella-tf8yv 4 жыл бұрын

This woman is a genius!

@Tipster49 6 жыл бұрын

I’m currently on this journey, and making progress, yayyyy 😊💃🏼 it feels good

@aimanali9868 5 жыл бұрын

you're doing great job! I agree with each and every word you said.

@december12ist 3 жыл бұрын

This journey has been hard and I'm now able to be excited to be on this journey. I took my self off medications for depression and anxiety. I'm really learning how to enjoy life and how to use medicines' off nature to help me navigate my life. Life is more positive but I still have, not so positive days. The good thing is, that I'm able to keep positive more often.

@seeker2716 5 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU! Very very clearly put and very very helpful💛🧡💚💖💙💜

@foivoskaterina 5 жыл бұрын

I love you dear indigo sister!!! God bless you

@XyonbiX50 6 жыл бұрын

im so glad i found your channel because now im gonna be the best version of myself i know i can be. and ill continue working on myself incrementally

@tomvalenta3307 6 жыл бұрын

Hi Candace, it's tom I am so happy that you responded to my letter, I was like Wow, Candace is responding I'm in love!!! Yay!!! I understand what your saying here, I grew up in a vary toxic home, my father was vary abusive and my mother was so afraid of him that she whould just defend his abuse no matter how terrible it got!!! My sister was not around much and now she has become as abusive as her father was. As a result of this trama, I have a vary difficult time finding friends finding relationships, making it stick!!! I have also been deeply struggling with my faith and my relationship with God, it has deeply suffered as a result of this trama.. I'm still struggling with it to this day. I have trouble with intimacy issues too!!! Big time. Oh by the way, I'm still interested in joining soel lab, I will look into it this weekend!!! I've been vary busy this week. Anyway, love catching up with you!!! Here from you soon with kindness your friend tom!!!

@shivrajsingh8482 6 жыл бұрын

its amazing with what degree of Clarity you explain the cause and effects of emotional neglect leading to PTSD and CPTSD in children. I too suffered from CPTSD and hypervigilance and have gone through numerous videos to find solutions. Your explanations have finally given me that satisfaction " Aaaaah! Finally i understand what went wrong and why !". Thank YOU so much! Truly Grateful Candace!

@meeraraj0 6 жыл бұрын

shivraj singh so sad. Me too. 😔😔😔

@shivrajsingh8482 6 жыл бұрын

@@meeraraj0 I hope you feeling much better now.. 😊 I truly believe that all our problems are here to make us better, here for our growth...I am grateful for the goodness in them

@evolvefly2981 6 жыл бұрын

This is great. What if we feel very unsafe to get honest about being triggered with that person? How do we face it and heal it ourselves? What if this person sees themselves as very conscious and knowledgeable about personal development, but then they still see triggers as gross, embarrassing, shameful, and have a general sense of “WOAH, look at you, you need to handle that before you show up in the first place”. I’ve seen them do this to others, and shaming themselves too. If it was just anyone, I wouldn’t even be around this person, but this is new family and I feel we’re supposed to learn from each other.

@evolvefly2981 6 жыл бұрын

I’m realizing typing it out that that is how I got that wound in the first place. That family would treat any upset feeling within me as something to be embarrassed about, and a sign of weakness or ineptitude in terms of “handling your shit”.

@MrPausenbrot 6 жыл бұрын

That was beautiful, thank you❤️

@RichieThe13th 3 жыл бұрын

Still relevant 3 years later 🥰

@markus3978 6 жыл бұрын

Good job, well said Candace :)

@CandacevanDell 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@fatimaosman3973 4 жыл бұрын

I felt that after 3 years of my dad death .I built a wall to not deal with unsafe feelings and the idea of losing him and involved into many relations to find security and one of them was truly deep connected to me and i finally trust him ..then he left with no words I had a sleepin disorder and everytime ive been honest and reveal my feelings and cry i do sleep cause i was thinkin tht cryin in weak or no i cant cry ..now am facin and understandin my fears thank you for sharing tht am on my way to be healed

@milamila9642 6 жыл бұрын

Great informative authentic video. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

@elenamiklos7696 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing

@carla7908 6 жыл бұрын

Great video and so me unfortunately. After hearing what you said about being present and recognizing what's happening I feel I might be on the path to healing though. It gave me hope :)

@lazarorosenberg7795 4 жыл бұрын

when listening to this video, i like how you tlk about disconnected. now I'm learning how to keep myself connected, and I'm getting bettet at it fast. great job with this video. namaste.

@madalineolson4778 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Candace for your knowledge and support. So well said. Peace and Blessings to you! XO

@CandacevanDell 6 жыл бұрын

Madaline Olson you are very welcome!!

@vladimirlem1104 2 жыл бұрын

Life is sad when people hurt you Sad when friends desert you Sad when dreams get lost beyond recall But remembering from spring to lonely spring Well, that's the saddest thing of all

@kelseyrayne5168 4 жыл бұрын

Namaste!!!!! 💗🔥👏😊

@gracefullygrateful6360 6 жыл бұрын

I have recently discovered your insight and am very grateful - thank you. Can you offer insight into having a very low tolerance for others suffering or tragedy? I am finding that on my journey to greater self awareness and spirituality that I am not able to handle emotionally (I am brought to deep sadness and tears) reading about tragic events. Heck, I can't even see someone accidentally injure themselves without feeling excess discomfort and high levels of distress. I have almost stopped completely with mainstream t.v. and internet news. The intensity has grown as I awaken. What is this Candace?