You guys are so adorable 😍 I love y'all relationship. It's always such a joy to watch your vlogs.

Am not married. Am a 24 year old girl and ling and lamb are raising me. I am on a journey to becoming a better woman through ling and lamb's videos

"See-finish" in English means "Over-familiarity" which could also mean "Taking Each Other For Granted." Hope that helps! Love you guys!

I was married for 6½ years and it failed when I least expected it. It's not easy to be married and requires a lot of effort. I discovered you guys after it broke down and I've followed your videos and learned a lot. I made too many mistakes and I've learned from them. I'm just praying that I can restore what I lost. Thank you 2 so much for sharing your life with us. You have no idea the impact you're making in my life.

See finish is a Nigerian term for taking someone for granted because you have access to them or because you know them closely. In professional cases, it means crossing a boundary.

Professor Lamb has spoken! Wow, you are engaging when you speak! My husband and I have been married 18 yrs, but I remember when we had been together a very short time, I had to put the brakes on things, cause I noticed something. My husband is a very pleasing man, and loves to please me often. And he is excellent at what he does, and I love it when he does. BUT, I noticed when we did things as often as he wanted, it DID get boring! And quickly! Which surprised me! We tried experimenting with different things, but even still, the desire to WANT to, wasn't there. So I suggested we not do it as often, and at first, he really didn't like that idea, but after trying it, it really worked for the DESIRE TO WANT TO. It automatically made us both desire one another even MORE, and left that weird feeling of boredom at the door. Men are ready all the time, because it's a physical act for them, but for most women, it's a physical AND emotional act, and we just don't want to ALL THE TIME. The pressure of it for a woman is especially taxing, because we have a lot going on down there, and trying to keep it a hundred, 100% of the time, for daily activity is next to impossible. So this method also works for women who have "issues" to have time to fix things, and not be so stressed over how her man is going to find things. I hope I'm not being too graphic. Most men don't care, I know my husband doesn't, but women can be embarrassed and stressed about normal body functions, and that can ruin the moment in itself. It also allows you to do and enjoy other things as a couple other than just sex all the time, which is nice. There's just something about it. And to this day, EVERY TIME is like heaven...for both of us...🥰😘

Someone said to walk away…. I have to comment on this.. God never told us we wouldn’t have trials and tribulations. I think growth requires pressure. You just don’t leave your job because of a disagreement and keep changing jobs! Sometimes people don’t know how to endure because they never work through anything. It’s not a one size fits all but I think when it comes to marriage it’s important to exhaust all measures and persevere through the hard times. That’s the whole purpose of vows. Marriage is not easy and it’s important to recalibrate the relationship and have open communication ❤ I pray the couple looking for support continues to be blessed and lord brings them wisdom and understanding ❤❤

Married for 43 yrs and been through a lot but it all passed. I promised to stay with my marriage because I love my husband, not because he is perfect but we both accept our weakness and strengths. There was a point that we want to separate but with our Pastor’s help we managed to communicate and made decisions together. You have to remember what you love about each other and not the worst. My advice is read the book Men is from Mars and Women from Venus. Don’t ever compare your Spouse to anybody else. Above all we Put God first in our lives.

Lamb: "See finish is like see finish na, you dunno see finish?" 🤣😂 See finish means familiarity. With familiarity comes the tendency to take something for granted. See finish is Nigerian pidgin translation directly saying one has seen all there is to see/ "finished seeing everything" about a person. Great tips there. My little addition is for the person to also COMMUNICATE the problem with their partner.

Lamb see finish is "familiarity brings contempt" Don't stress Ling's brain 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Adding on to your wise words, one thing that will always kill the spark is when you start comparing your relationship with other relationships.

Sparks comes and goes. It's part of a relationship. Up and down, good not so good, warm and cold. Marriage is no bed of roses. Pass through difficult times you get rewarded like everything in life.😁. I have been married for over 18 years now and our spark got back stronger 3 years ago.

Basic but true: COMMUNICATION! Talk to each other.

😂😂😂 "see finish" is like "over familiarity,” the kind that leads to under estimating someone through clear acts of disrespect. Phew 😮‍💨

Sometimes you just have to look within yourself to find, that it is not your partners responsibility to make you happy or satisfied. They play a role in your space. But, how you receive and observe the situation truly depends on where you are emotionally, spiritually and mentally. If you not in a good place with yourself, you won’t be able to be in a good place with your partner. Your happiness is in with you! Start there💜

Let me help Lamb with see finish 😂. See finish is like taking someone for granted because you've seen and known basically everything about them. So when someone says "you don see me finish" it means you've known about me so much you now take me as a joke. Sometimes the expression is on a light mode for example with a friend and sometimes it can be said out of anger depending on the tone of voice.

See finish explanation weak me🤣🤣 Ling, see finish in Nigeria is when you have seen/known everything about someone to the end. Then you start taking them for granted 😂 That's "See Finish" in 9ja

Hey guys I hope that you and everyone watching has an amazing and blessed Sunday ❤🥰🙏 Being in a 18yr relationship it sometimes happens but it's important to do things to get it back whatever that is for you and your spouse.

My marriage will be 5yrs this year. We lost our spark very early but along the way, we found it and it's even better than our courtship days. When I heard the question, I was trying to put my finger on what we did and I must say you both nailed it. You literally put into words the things that we did. But I'll add two more. 1. Remove from your mind, words or thoughts the possibility that either of you is walking away, decide that you're in it for the long haul. This helps you avoid the temptation for unhealthy options. 2. Communicate with each other, have real conversation about the real issues. There is a wide way to apply the tips already shared in the video, but communication helps you identify the best way to apply it in your situation for best results. To the person that asked the question and anyone else in similar situation, I just want to encourage you not to give up because there is potential for it to get a lot better 😘😘🤗🤗🤗

People forget to continue to do for each other what they were doing in the beginning that aroused the attraction towards each other. They doesn't just mean keep up the intimate stuff. Couples forget how to communicate with each other, chase after each other, date each other, surprise each other, be spontaneous with each other, praise each other, feed each other's souls mentally and spiritually. We must also learn how to miss each other with time apart from each other for ourselves doing self care or things alone. We do that in our relationship and it has continued to work for ten years. We surprise each other by sitting down and having real conversations about our feelings without one of us trying to fix the issue or judgment. We pray for each other. We date each other. And surprise each other with the little unexpected things still to this day. Never forget that all of this is possible and still needed always for a successful marriage and life together. It's not easy to keep a love. Especially a type of love like a 1st Corinthians type of love as promised in the bible.

We have to remember that love and sparks are just parts of a marriage as there are other components like honour, respect, friendship, etc. Love is not merely an emotion but a principle of commitment so even when we fee the emotion or spark is fading we still have to be committed and value the other components. Seek counselling,etc work harder to bring things back to the way they were when you had the sparks.

Adoring and loving couple. Have to say the major key to your successful marriage is your faith in god and runs deep in the family with your daily prayers. Second most important is to never lose respect and embrace your differences abd value each other as a one of a kind individual Create romance by trying new things, so life does not become an everyday routine Write simple love notes, post on the fridge for example, or put it in his or her pocket Dont be in each others neck and throat constantly, give each other breathing room and space And last but not least, learn to forgive and if possible forget and dont lose respect to each other. Life goes where energy flows! Pour your life with love and energy, and charge yourself with prayer and appreciation and gratefullness for all that god has nourished and granted you. Get close to god, to experience real love, when you do, then you exude love and compassion without feeling deprived for less attention from your partner.

You guys literally touched on some of the critical issues. Sometimes though allowing the pressures of daily living take away the spark. Being blessed with children will sometimes also take away the spark too because those moments together is missing. Create time away from those pressures and enjoy each others company.

😀😃🙂 Lamb!!!! Why are you this way!! I lost it @ "see finish" 😀. Love you guys loads loads loads! And Lamb thanks for representing us Nigerians soooo well. Our mannerisms, our language, our vibe! Ling! Love you

Ling and Lamb, I appreciated how you both handled this important question. Many give up and run once the spark is gone. I like the idea of "never stop liking your partner." This is what can keep things going when things are rough, because you like the person with whom you are going through the challenge. ❤❤

Wow, Ling is so understanding and accepting. She doesn’t dismiss Lamb even when she’s never heard “see finish. She even tries to explain what “see finish” means for Lamb. I think this shows a very good side of her.

You guys have said it all, the place of preparation and presentation in a relationship can not be overemphasized. The little things really count.

I love this conversation because it is a touchy subject for many married couples and those who have invested into a relationship period. I think in some ways it’s harder for the ones who have children involved. But you both made great points to consider. Also, could we please make videos like this longer?!??? Please & thank you!

Your marriage is Ministry. Beautiful couple!

Guys, what happened? We were enjoying the conversation. There better be PT2 lol. May God continue to bless you guys

In the Nigerian parlance: See finish means: having gotten so used to something/someone that the person/thing is taken for granted.

I enjoyed this conversation today. You gave me a lot to think about and you know what I think everything you’re saying is very true. You have to continue to be friends with one another continue to love the person that you first met, and even though you have disappointments and relationships. We still gotta be in the relationship together and always remember the first love our friendships our true talks with one another.❤🙏🏾

Marriage shouldn’t just be based off sexual intercourse because after that subside, then the marriage will fail. Essentially, if persons are truly in love they will not get tired of each other, unless the relationship is based off only sex, $$$ etc. Again, real love isn’t about sex especially because even a prostitute can offer sex to anyone or everyone.

Great explanation! We all have our opinions on how it will or can work and it’s great we all collaborate collectively on this. Personally speaking, I’m 34 and being in a relationship for 13 years/married for 5 years. You can get bored of the same thing and it’s ok to switch it up. A marriage/relationship is not a walk in the park so as a couple you first need to take care of yourself and feel good, because you can’t rely on someone to make you feel good if you don’t feel good about yourself. Then I would say communication, make sure you find ways to communicate with each other. You should be able to converse openly without fear of being put down for expressing yourself. Always respect each other in the process. I would also say patience. Patience with your partner is so important. Patience with them on letting them find themselves and be able to work on themselves while loving you at the same time. Sometimes while working on your self your partner can loose patients and gain frustration. And lastly just love each other throughout the process. Love has it’s trials and tribulations, in order to conquer the battles we must love each other through the process and understand we all are flawed. And, despite the flaws we will still come out loving each other harder and stronger ❤

Tbh, Lamb is just a big brother you'll wish to have and Ling is just the kinda of woman you'll always pray to have as a wife. They've both set a standard for relationship that people will always come to KZfaq just to seek advice from them and I believe it has definitely been God keeping them strong together, love you both. And not all Nigerian English can be completely expressed in the normal English language, just like see finish

Great job in answering the question guys. I would really love Lings parents to answer this question since they have been together for such a long time❤

Man! For a minute there, I thought y’all were talking about yourselves.Peace and blessings for the couple that is going through a tough time.May God bless your relationship.

I love the way Lamb still loves, craves and hungers for you so much Bambi! Having been married twice I can only say that being friends is vitally important. Never ever lose the sense of humor you started off with. 😃

I think another good word to explain "see finish" is complacency. Don't ever get complacent in a relationship.

Lamb trying to explain see finish😂😂

It's unveiling the finished look for date night. You two are so wise. Live, love and laugh together. We are blessed to witness the depth of your relationship 💜🙏🏽👍🏽👌🏽

Commitment takes more than a spark... Literally, a spark is only for a moment and I've learned that it will not always be there. It takes commitment to stick with someone regardless the passage of time. And yea, what Lamb says about friendship is very important. Listen.

I love being single but love watching happy couples. I tried being married and it wasn't for me. I wish people would take vows seriously because marriage is alot of work. God Bless you both.

1. Your spouse must always be your number 1! Do not forget this basic rule. Be a united front, that can never be separated by any one else! And do not take your misunderstandings, worries, fights etc. outside your house! This does not mean that you cannot have communication with others, but you have to be a united entity! And the above applies to both partners!

Sometimes it’s refreshing to go out of town spend a wkend at a hotel. Make reservations on a boat for dinner. They do have them at the harbors and it’s not expensive it’s just different and romantic. Do something you’ve never done before like give him a face scrub or even a manicure/pedicure a massage. Yeah spice it up!😊

Lamb, I had a certain essential word in my mind about this topic. And thank God you mentioned it "like ". You guys are awesome. You talk with wisdom 😃

I love when Lamb calls Ling sharp mouth. 😂

Happy Sunday morning 🥳 It's always good to see you guys on Sunday mornings. Good advice for married couples. I love the fact that not only do you guys love each other but you continue to LIKE each other and that requires working on your relationship Daily. 👏👏

I love the way you do your makeup Ling. It's so natural and flawless 😍❤️

Upon how serious this conversation is, I still laugh my ass at the end 😂😂😂😂.. Not lamb trying to express himself of what see finish means, in a better understanding. And still ended up saying See finish is like when you see finish na 😂😂… Lamb ooh 😅

Great advice guys. Lamb always gives me a good laugh, see finish , you people have to help me 🤣

The “see finish” got me rolling on the floor😂. She finish like when you see somebody finish 😂😂 Ling.. explain the see finish in English 😂 when she does not even know what it means.😂

You guys have great points. Good communication and humor keeps the spark in the relationship.

Ling and Lamb I learnt so much from this. Thanks so much. See-finish means "getting familiar with someone"

Hi Guys! Loved your positive.. CLEAN and wise responses to such a common issue..❤ You both have OLD SOULS..Love you guys!

Great responses!! On point! If they have kids that can really change much of the presenting,dating,being able to have time,privacy to spark...all advice was really on point...but there could be other things. .health,possibly finding spark elsewhere....the question left little on a little back story. Love yall..love that yall do this 😉

I pray you two will continue to love each other NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Thank you for these tips, very helpful coming from you two.

Lamb is so cute when he giggles and does his cute gestures 😊

Just started the vid, putting it on 2x speed so I can watch before I have to run production at church.. good to see y’all early this morning ❤

Lamb started the topic well, but the end was just crazy🤣🤣🤣🤣

Looolll, lamb says " you don't know see finish? English is hard o" See finish means taking someone or something for granted or getting too comfortable or used to something. To add to your points, I was thinking communication. Having a heart to heart with your partner on where and how each of you are dropping the ball might help. This also brings me to a question, how do you handle a partner that's unwilling to communicate?

Lamb and Ling, you guys cracked me up so good this morning with that last piece of looking for a better word to say what you want to say. And I think you were looking for the term; "seen it all ". I think that is what you were trying to convey with that "see finish ". Thank you for the presentation.

See finish is when you’ve known so much about a person….the good and the ugly; you tend to treat them less because now you have seen their worst moments, and weaknesses. So Lamb says don’t see finish, meaning even when you’ve seen the worst of a person, still treat them like you used to when you haven’t seen the ugly side of them. Don’t treat them less because you now know their weaknesses. I hope I made sense. 😁

Ling and Lamb, you nailed it, liking someone is just as important as loving someone. Perfectly said. Love and prayers ❤❤🙏

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 see finish is over familiarity Laughed all through, you guys rock

I love watching this young couple their so good for each other.

Lamb your are so gifted, everything your saying makes so much sense. I hope the lady is willing to apply your words in to her marriage.

Motivational speaker Ling and Lamb. Good job. The way of Lamb is so funny 🤣 but he explained nicely 😊

"See finish" is the act of loosing Value for each other in marriage or relationship, then boredom sets in,and finally it ends in disrespect, so they must makes sure they both hold on to the inestimable value of what they both share. LOVE. As long as that relationship has lost its Value,the relationship is practically Dead.

Losing your spark means you both didn’t go the work along the way ❤ You can’t take each other for granted the way you may have allowed ❤️

THIS IS LIFE Y'ALL...for the ones struggling, for the ones preparing themselves for dating and also for the ones who are "perfectly fine" as long as we ALL are mindful of this wisdom well succeed in our relationships! THANK YOU LING AND BAMBI

This advice is solid, solid!

You guys are the bomb! You have your act together FRIENDSHIP IS FIRST❤️

Lamb is really crazy with his explanation🤣 inuelus!!!

Great advice, guys ❤️

Very interesting topic. Thank you for sharing. Having been married for 22 years + which is nothing compared to others I feel that this topic is an important one. It will happen to us all. Even Michelle Obama described difficult years. My small 2 cents of advice is to do everything you can to ensure you are able to laugh everyday either by yourself or together. Being able to laugh is an amazing antidote to sometimes wanting things that you may have to extend an extra ordinary amount of patience even if you feel you are entitled. I think this is what attracts me to Ling and Lamb. Their ability to laugh. This is priceless and something to be protected at all costs. Tuning in from 🇬🇧.

I totally understand you Lamb See finish is not to take the other person for granted or it can also mean familiarity. Love you so much Ling and Lamb. Much love from🇬🇭🇬🇭

These were some of the most realist advice I have heard in years ,applying your own personal experiences just topped it of perfectly, keep loving each other the way you do ok ,lamdo you on point big brother...

Communication is also key. If the communication is there, they would be able to talk out their issues. My wife and I talked for weeks before we ever laid eyes on one another. This gave us time to know more about each other and like one another before we saw a physical attraction. We became great friends long before we became lovers. We are best friends and there are few people in the world that would turn away from a best friend, so why do we turn away from a spouse, if we tell a bff everything, why not our spouse? We should always invest more in the one we choose the rest of our lives to be with.

I love his advice he took the relationship apart and put it back together I love that and before this couple gives up get help counseling always helps with prayer great observations

I totally agree.. never stop dating your spouse.. every marriage goes through things so always go back to what made you fall in love with that person and start doing the things you did in beginning or never stop doing those things!! Love you Ling and Lamb.. Ling you have one of the most beautiful smiles I've ever seen.. it's the most beautiful curve on a woman's body.. we love you here in Arizona💛🏜💛

Always on point!!! I love you guys.. May God continue bless your marriage beyond you could ever imagine.

There are seasons in life and marriage, seasons change often so hang in there and enjoy the journey together.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it's the "see finish" explanation for me... thanks for showing us your own spark. I've noted ✅ 😌 👌

😂😂you guys just bring life to so many.. real talk though.. what you guys said is so true

If Love Languages are not being heard or acted out that can affect the “engine”. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a great book.

Right in it all! Keep the sparks going from what brought you together. 😍

This is great advice, YES marriage is between 1 man and 1woman. Communication is so important in marriage because if one party feels that they're missing out on something, they need to communicate to work on building back up what's missing together.

Great advice guys👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💞❤️🙏🏾💖🎉

Love you guys so much, you give me joy every time I watch your series, my advice is this. Every relationship has its mystery it is that mystery that keeps the relationship alive, think of it from when you were dating what made you fall in love with the lady or man was the interest you had in them, and now In the marriage, you have to hold on to that it is thinking you now know all about your partner that brings the fire down, you guys are still the same amazing people you were when you started dating and you need to hold on to this mentality of love, forgiveness, and mystery.

I always look forward to watching your new uploads....you guys are genuinely happy in your relationship

"See finish" in English means when you don't longer have respect for that person anymore it may be you with that person for so long so you don't longer condone that person or have respect for he/her

That laugh lamb🤣🤣🤣

Thank You for thi episode. It has confirmed and highlighted some things I observed. Pity we let go, but we talk, mayne things will work out for us, aor even for the next relationships, whichever worksout , I learned a lot and will assist moving forward

Communication is key! Are both parties willing to talk and work on the problem. And definitively both parties need to continue to date EACH OTHER! The things that attracted you to each other are still there but life might have gotten try to go back to what you loved about each. & take care if yourself so that you love yourself because if you don’t live yourself you can’t love someone else.

Thanks for those tips guys we really appreciate.

What a great video, thanks guys ❤️❤️❤️

Ling is too intelligent. See how she summarised the take aways from both of you. That point of losing spark in a relationship is what I always think about assuming I get married. But there are two or three points from this video. Kudos.

Love is a principle not based on feelings. Happiness is a choice that comes from within not based on external influences…be intentional in all you do not out of obligation or duty!❤

Chaaaaiiii...Lamb! So much left unsaid and we understand. Inueluuuus colliding!