That's exactly what I was thinking too, lol!

Lmao

@@hooralkindi3716 The intent of the comment was to show that Shun was very nervous to tell his family he loves them. It's similar to how nervous people get when they reveal that they are gay to their family. I think it's wonderful when people love their family.

He could have easily gone with saying it was like saying he was dying or had some major disease but...yeah, as someone that's LGBTQ+ and has *several* disabilities and other things going on with me that cross so many things going on these days I just stay out of it and roll my eyes heavily and also me saying this (coming out to them and telling them I love them)! I took this joke well! People be too sensitive these days! Keep trolling!

Yeah pretty much. How long did I stress over that? Too long.

I can relate to this and I hate it

It seems to happen in every culture, lol.

So the guilt trip from mom isn't just an American thing. Didn't really think it was but good to have it confirmed

@glorykk10 r *locks self in closet to hide from chancla! chancla still gets me!*

@glorykk10 r YES!

"as you are here it was expected from you to come"

Yea they definitely care.

I like how they gave him shit for it.

😂😂😂

Edit: [You have the] best comment right here. I’m in Seattle but I get it 😂😂😂

Based on the tone of the father, I think it was that he felt bad that they had the sister over and not him. He didn't want to hide the information to make it sound like they were favoring one child.

lmao

YES!

@@protomor lol. The father is just expecting to celebrate the new yr that they are complete.

That's his way of saying 'I love you.'

the realest right here

Yep : )

Indeed

It can be found everywhere, but not all siblings share it.

yup

They remain the only people you can hit and say awful things too without being called abusive in the west too. It's why " sibling abuse " just isn't " a thing "

The so, ja ne was the best part.

...followed by the active-aggressive “[you’re] such a heartless loser, wtf are [you] doing” 😂

@@LeonSKennedy7777 IKR?? Moms are the same across the world in some ways

It's like trash talking one's kids and siblings is tradition over there.

Both parents try to make him feel guilty about not visiting them for new year's 😁

@@Elyseon It is here (in the states) too. I'm always shocked when I see siblings acting like best friends. Don't get me wrong - we love our siblings and would do anything for them, protect them from everything - but we would never tell them. I once told my brother I loved him when we were drinking and he asked me if I was hitting on him lol

Lol..🤣😂🤣

I can’t breathe 🤣🤣

It shows she loves him. My younger brother is like that with me on the phone and I know the love is there. He always picks up the phone and says: what? Or What do you want? Lol

This was my favourite part. With such tone too.....stereotypical older sis

Lol that’s how I answer the phone when my little bro calls me. Or “what do you want?” Because he usually wants me to drive him somewhere since he’s not old enough yet 😂

I always pick up the phone with "No." when my sister calls. Sometimes I even start with "No." when I call her, because my sense of humour is devolving.

Older Sis always gonna wanna wring lil' bro's neck, Rite. 😂

気持ち悪い kimochi warui can also be translated as "creepy" as Shun-chan indicated it's usually reserved to express romantic feelings.

Universal reaction.

That's all Moms🤣😅😂 for you! Lol

I felt like I was getting scolded too haha

That's moms for you and I'll take it as "we miss you". makes me feel a little bit close home kinda sorts

Both his parents mentioned that his sister came to visit for New Year's. I kinda feel like they miss him, want him to sometimes spend time with them too on New Year's but they know he has always been away with his friends and they couldn't stop him.

This is real. As Fathers, sometimes we are kinda busy all the time. Speaking for so long with somebody means you really want to share with that person. I personally hate long phone calls, but I try to make them once in a while with my son.

Yes, and even apart from the talk you can just feel Dad loves him indeed.

@@bioman2007 I haven't talked to my dad in almost a couple of years because of his alcoholism, there's a lot of dysfunction in my family... So please, continue to cherish that connection you have with your son, and keep calling. You're doing great.

@@Macabresque Thanks a lot!

I agree.

yeaaa that was his way to express love

It sounds she did

She was I guess. Every Mom loves her children to death, that's in the nature of human moms. And you can completely (positively) surprise them when saying "I appreciate that you always cared for me, I love you!" 👍

Nah, Japanese people have no emotion and have no sympathy.

@@lifelongvirgin5794 Why, thank you.

@@SpaceXfG Not necessarily true. That's what I'd like to believe, and yes, most likely compared to other animals, mothers show more love and appreciation for their children. Though, there are a lot of uncaring, bad, and irresponsible mothers out there who don't truly care for their children. I wish what you said was always the case...

I second this.

@@mariko4644 マリ子とマリク😎

Same

lol

@trandmain yea

Most people's fathers-in-law cry when they show up. 😂

Osechi is overated, now if it is Waguy all you can eat bbq with lobster and shrimps and pork and... and... ok you get the gist of it XD. Oh and Ramen XD.

They care

We are slowly converting him hehehe...

Well shit, his mom is very sarcastic. "What a heartless loser." 😂 she ROASTED him.

@@joseph6852 The subtitles were inaccurate. There was no 'heartless loser' in there. It was more like, 'typical for him', in rough Osaka dialect.

Yes, that was very illuminating to the fear of such depth of emotional expression.

@@tak0yak1 or lack of appropriate vocabulary

I cant understand that, they have like 20 ways to say sorry, but none to say i love you to your family

do tipo que quando vai dizer boa noite também diz "amo vocês" também né? kkkk, ou quando tu finaliza uma ligação ou se despede no wpp. aqui em casa é tão comum que virou até rotina, dizer "eu te amo" é muito bom!!

@@creampuff2019 sim! O "bom dia", o "boa noite", o "tchau"... Tudo vem emendado com um "te amo".

Sim! Se eu não digo “eu te amo” antes de dormir pra minha irmã todos os dias me sinto até mal, meio culpada kkk

Call !! ☺️

We Mexicans are the same way lmao, always needing to show affection to our family

Same with my parents. No news is good news.

That's sad. It means the child doesn't call their parents just to say hi :(

I only call one person on a regular basis, and that's my grandmother... even though I live with her.🤣 * * * * Tangent warning * * * * Previously, I had a car, so the calls were mostly just me making sure she was alright, & that she knew where I was, & if she needed anything, I could pick it up for her. I rarely talk to my mom because doing so, is really stressful. There's nothing I can do for her, bit she really needs help... sadly, it's not the kind of help I have the financial capacity to handle. All in all though... I never really call anyone...they usually end up calling me, because I usually know what my grandmother is doing.😂 I never ask for help either because they've been so grudging about doing anything for me previously when I was a kid even. So, only my grandmother actually has any ideas about what I go through, because she's the only one who has been there for me my whole life, without any complaints...except when I actually am being unreasonable.🤣 So, I don't even fall into the category of "I must be doing alright if I don't call" I actually was doing really badly up until I moved back in with my grandmother after my grandfather died. I basically sacrificed my mental health to complete my B.A. before I started to hate school again. As it was, I actually intentionally failed a class to pass the others... because that class wasn't necessary for my degree, but I needed a class of that many credits to afford to stay in college. That's the real irony of the college debt system. You sometimes have to take on extra debt to actually complete your degree, because if you fall below a certain enrollment criteria, the amount of assistance drops below what can actually sustain you. So, you take a class that meets the criteria, but passing or failing it has no impact on your gaining the degree because it's literally just to meet a credit enrollment minimum, & your GPA is good enough that failing it won't matter, and you've literally spent the majority of your mental health & wellbeing just getting that far, so all you really care about is getting the grades necessary to gain the required credits from the unexpected last courses that you thought had been cleared already, but apparently you took so long that they decided that the previous course no longer covered all of the criteria...and you get the idea of what my last semester was like. I barely was able to get through it...and then those jobs that I took afterwards did nothing to help me recover. Ended up on Disability Finally...things were that Bad. I'm still not at a point where I am comfortable being exposed to that world, & I probably still wouldn't be able to function in most work environments due to having such a low stress tolerance & that on top of my learning quirk, pretty much eliminates most employers as viable employment options. Someone who has a low stress tolerance and learns abnormally fast, & has to be continually learning new things in order to keep their stress in check isn't a task most employers can even imagine. Really, the easiest way for me to manage my stress is to keep learning new things, and not spending too much time on any particular thing, I fall into the black hole of details far too readily and will find ever smaller and increasingly irrelevant details if I spend too much time on something...which is how I end up writing things like this.🤦🏼‍♂️

This is an slang in our culture. Like "What is he doing?" and another one answers "Huh he is fine cuz he didn't call us. If he needs us, he call us." It's... a little sad...

@@BJCMXY I have a problem with the tangent thing too *sigh* * * * 1. Interesting, that's so different from my family. I'm more likely to call my mom than my grandma when I don't need something. Its a bit more complicated, but basically, mom has all the love but only a little bit of money and grandma has all the money and only a little bit of the love. On my mom's side, at least. On my dad's side, my pickle-making cookie-baking grandma has all the love but just a little bit of money. 2. I'm about to go to college and I worry about my mental health as well as accumulating debt. I have a low stress tolerance (although I'm grateful because it seems higher than what you describe) AND I learn slow...not a great combo either. I need $4,000 by this September to appear out of thin air so I can take a psychoeducational test to "renew" my learning disorder because apparently, that is a thing. If I don't take the psych test, I lose the extra time on tests that I desperately need. So...the money problems are already starting lol. 3. I wouldn't give up just yet, there are so many jobs out there! The fact that you need to constantly be learning sounds like an asset to any science field. the first thing I think of would be any science discipline since you need to constantly learn new things and solve problems. Or perhaps you could learn like 10 languages and work somewhere that needs a multilingual person. You would always have to be learning on the job. Of course, that may be stressful. And it may not be possible to get into science without accumulating more debt. Not any flawless ideas here, but there are a gazillion jobs. Not saying it's easy either, sounds like a real pickle (as my grandma would say, and then hand you a pickle), but there has to be something out there, hopefully. Good luck :)

Same here bro, couldn't have said it better

Same. I lost my mom when I was 27 years old and she was 47 years old so you really never know when it will be the last time you see someone.

So sorry for your loss.

A worthy comment. I've lost mother, father, and one of two sisters and berate myself daily for never expressing love to them. There won't be any more opportunities. Those regrets (plus a few others) led me to write this song kzfaq.info/get/bejne/f8eal9h_rpu-aac.html&ab_channel=WilliamCox

I lost my father when I was 16, along with that entire side of the family. It didn't make my family any closer, it just added to the problems that were already there. But hey! I'm glad it worked out for you guys!

Te amo is the Spanish equivalent. I also feel like it's kind of heavy, meant for serious relationships, although some people are much more casual with it. But we also have Te quiero (literally "I want you") which can be used interchangeably for both romantic and platonic relationships. It's definitely lighter but still affectionate. That's what I use with family.

In Portuguese we can say Te amo, for both situations. We say Te amo for parents and boyfriends... Kayra mentioned about "Te quiero" in spanish, what in portuguese is "te quero", but for us that one is for romantic situation only, something more like "when you want some one or desire that person". But te amo in PT can be used for both. I tell it to my dad always and he says back. Also, my dad speaks italian, so next call I will try to say ti voglio bene, and see what he says back haha ;)

💪Latino gang 🇮🇹🇪🇸🇵🇹⚜

Same here in Mexico, we say "Te amo" (literally I love you) for romantic situations and "Te quiero" which in english they normaly translate it as "I love you" too but the conotation is more for general appreciation to your friends and family members but ALSO you can use it interchangeably to say you love you fiance.

Same in german. "I love you" is "ich liebe dich" but more in a romantic way. "Ich habe dich lieb" or just "hab dich lieb" is more common in family. But idk imagine saying this to my mum still makes me cringe. Maybe just a personal thing 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Hen 😏

@Hen you good. I’m not gonna say simp or whatever. Cause she’s actually cute.good luck man

@Hen wtf was this comment chain

@@diddlypoop 💀idk

@Hen hahaha oh boy, well thanks :D I only just noticed this today lol xD

I was just thinking that

DUDE YEAH I'm a rather serious person, I'm not much affectionate myself, so as a Mexican, I've been struggling my whole life with the amount of displays of affection my mom, my grandmothers, some of my aunts, and even my little brother, they're so cheesy for me, I just can't (though I'm grateful)

Japan: "You're too nice!" South America: "NOT NICE ENOUGH!" *hits with shoe*

Because people in the US are cold compared with us in latin america...

@@BeyondBaito not only South America, Latin countries in general tend to have 'warmer' displays of affection (Spain, Italy too). It depends on each person though

But did they bring you cut up fruit for a snack?

@@lainiwakura1776 LOL no but they did bring dried ika a few times. :D I know my folks love me and all, but it was hard not to hear it in elementary school. A thought for Asian immigrant parents: let your kids hear it so they don't feel left out especially when they're young.

@@gtada what is ika?

@@NCC1371 squid. My folks brought me dried squid. I was not thrilled.

@@gtada no offense but ew. I couldn’t eat that. Even if it tastes good I wouldn’t be able to eat it because I know what it is and I’m not a picky eater. I generally stay away from seafood (it creeps me out too much). I like fish but anything else is a no go. Lol

Kimchi warui isn’t really “gross”, it’s more of “that feels wrong, don’t say that”.

@@LeeorVardi I understand the sentiment... it is still better than "I know."

I kind of thought the sister worried this was some kind of siscon thing. Considering its prevalence in anime recently, it's a possibility. Maybe he should've stuck with "aishiteru" with her.

@@Rognik aishteru is even more hardcore man. he explained it in the beginning. if he had said that he would definitely had become a siscon.

@@LeeorVardi I know the literal meaning of 気持ち悪い means "bad feeling" but yes it can mean "gross". I'm no expert in japanese so it probably means what you said too, could mean both. But the japanese people i've spoken to usually say it in a "gross" kinda way

idk but my mother is quite open with words than the others she say ily here and there to us and now you say that, i realized she never once say it with indonesian words 🧍

Same in a lot of European countries as well. We show it through our actions instead.

I wonder if she also didn't say it because she was in public shopping. If the term is that out of the blue, and knowing how even PDA isn't much of a thing, it would've likely made her feel extremely embarrassed if she returned it. I feel like he should say it again when he knows she's at home or in a private setting, just to see.

Same in Iran

I was raised in Germany so I understand. When we moved back to the States...our village folks each came to tell us they "loved" us. I cried for days! That was 50 years ago...I still miss my village!

Huh? That's not true tho - 'Ich liebe dich' may be weird but 'Ich hab dich lieb' is very common

I feel the phase "I love you" shows a strong presence of "I", which really exposes deep personal feelings and makes a conversation heavy. I don't want my parents and friends to think about how much I love them, instead, I just want them to feel accompanied and treasured. That might be the reason we don't say "I love you" that often in some countries. I'm from China.

I can really relate to your story from a reverse point of view.. My husband and I are both Asian, but we speak English daily and mostly since our kids went to International School and sort of adopted English as their first language early on in their life.. Our parents, however, speak zero English and only ever use our native language with my kids (which they understand but use very awkwardly).. In my house, we say “I love you” all the time; in the morning, before bed, on the phone; and we understand the meaning as it meant to be in English language.. When my kids first wanted to say the words to their grandparents, they went to me and asked how do we say it in our native language, and that was when I realized that the word “I love you” have a very cringe-y meaning when translated literally into our own language and wouldn’t be something we say normally to parents in a casual conversation (non-casual conversation might as well be a deathbed kind of thing).. And so we resolved in teaching our parents to say it in English instead :)

​@@oliveg5064 That's great! Saying "I love you" is something we say all the time when we speak with family and (very) close friends.

Since both of you understand the concept of mixed families how can I get my family to understand. I am American and have always been attracted to Asians. My first boyfriend was Asian American mix. But with my mom she has mixed feelings because of my grandfather married a Vietnam woman while still married to my grandmother. I have a whole Asian side of family I have never met because of this. It makes me sad. I don't fault my grandfather because he loved both women enough to want to be with both. But it has caused anger in his own family. While my dad just wants me to be with another white person. I don't know how to talk to my parents about this. I want to marry an Asian and have a family but not to the extent that they are disrespected. I also do not want to have to chose my past or my future. But if I have to I can only chose my future. I have to continue to live and I want to atleast be happy. Can you please give me advice 🙏

@@shawniestorer2935 I think having such a strong racial preference means you're in it for the wrong reasons. Otherwise there's nothing you can do but tell your family more or less exactly what you typed here. Communication in the foundation of all personal relationships.

@@shawniestorer2935 "I want to marry an Asian" Please don't. That's disgustingly objectifying.

That's just a Japanese thing as there is no real translation for it. They adopted the English of it for the context and connotation.

@@xenxander Aishiteru? I don't speak Japanese am I misunderstanding the meaning of this term?

@@metaempiricist it has a romantic connotation to it, plus he says it’s outdated and cheesy. He also says it in the video. The “closest” thing to “I love you” is Daisuke.

@@megaavonaco9954 it's daisuki the one with a romantic connotation (could be translated to "I like you A LOT") so yeahhh but aishiteru is too strong and Japanese people are super shy with affection and that stuff so that's why it's very rare to say that one

Yes! Words without actions aren't meaningful. It's nice to use the words sometimes to make sure your feelings are clear sometimes though.

This is unusual. A lot of Filipinos say I love you to their family

Try being someone like me, instead of “ I'm gay ” it's? “ I'm a shotacon/lol¡con ”. Japanese slang has significantly way less negative connotations than the technically correct words. I'm a westerner.

Same.

I know right! Like as soon as it is not said: okay...are you okay? Is something wrong? And then possibly turns into a whole talk before sleeping

Same for me as a Swede

In Eastern Europe, where I come from (living in US now) we don't really say "I love you" to our parents or relatives either. When it's said in my native language, it definitely carries only a romantic connotation as he explained in the video. Only recently have I said "I love you" to my parents, and they said it back in English lol! So I found this very interesting...

Yes. I’m Hispanic and we don’t really say it to our parents in Spanish either. It’s only a tv thing. I started saying it to my mom when I was small though (like the kids on tv would) and my mom would always respond with “I love you too” in English (even though she couldn’t speak English). I really can’t say it to my dad though. He would look at me like a freak if I did, so I always just tell him “take a lot of care” when I want to tell him “I love you.” My siblings have also said “gross” to me when I’ve told them I love them, lol. I related to this video a lot. Weird how this “I love you” thing amongst family is such a western thing and we don’t even realize it.

Maybe because "love" in English is just catch all for like 5 different kinds of love. I love my friends in a different way than I love playing videogames which is a different way than I'd love someone I was dating.

@@reigee2869 what about "te caro"(probably horribly spelled ) ? From the little Spanish i know it means i care for you, is it not something you say to your perants ?

Yessir

Sameeeeeeeeeeeeeee

A guy said ich liebe dich to me in osrs lol

@Blink Bomb me neither

same in Finland

Generally "ich liebe dich" is a strong sentence, I cannot remember a single time that I used it. But I know some friends that use it so often that they complain the meaning of it is reduced

Also "Ich liebe dich" just doesn't go well with any kind of dialect. For example I usually talk in a swabian-bavarian dialect and "I lieb di" just sounds ridiculous while "I hab di lieb" sounds normal. So even with my boyfriend I'll use the second version

To the point of having some sort of psychological issue, really bizarre reaction.

I'm Canadian and I remember growing up, If I didn't hug, kiss on the cheek, and say I love you to every family member in the room (even if there were 20+ people), I would get lectured by both my parents most of the ride home XD Now I'm watching my little cousins be trained to do the same and it's really interesting to reflect on cultural differences...

I’m an American raised Mexican and this has always made sense to me. Like, it’s your family, you’re supposed to shower them with “I love you” and hugs. But I’m the only person in my family that thinks like this, so even though I always tell my family members I love them and reach for hugs, they always tell me to f**k off, lol.

I don't live my parents or siblings so saying I love you and giving them a hug before I go is important. You never know when it will be the last time, you know? I too got lectured growing up if I didn't give everyone hugs before leaving.. so I just see it as normal

I realize now I didn’t get to say one last I love you to my dad before he died. One that he heard, anyways

@@gektoast4968 He knows

Dude I was thinking the same

Skin too !

@@milkyshakes just... all of Shun hahaha

@@sumayah7908 Ew Gross

Lol, they are out there, aren't they! Very arresting! 😆

Nothing morbid about it, we never know when we may lose our loved ones. My brother and dad passed away very unexpectedly, so I totally undestand that feeling

Not morbid at all. My mom, grandma and grandpa died suddenly, so you never know.

Sometimes I feel like crying just by imagining that my mom will die someday, which is ironic because I am always doing college work instead of spending time with her. We say I love you everyday, though, and hug each other a lot.

I feel like sometimes we end up watering down the impact with how often it's used honestly. 😂 I say that while saying "I love you" to my kids/spouse about a billion times a day.

*foreigner

@@kellympinda4723 that's still a stranger...

I have noticed that many Asian parents are well versed in the language of the guilt trip! ;-P

Call your dad now!!

"Aku onee-chan..." "Eroge ja nai, baka aniki!" "Kisama..." *teleport through the phone or some anime shit* "ATATATATATATATA!" "ORAORAORAORAORAORA!" (Probably mom) "BAKA YAROH!"

Something out of Oregairu, but I think that’s more a testament into its own quality

@@stavroskassinos7834 I just the series and the girls call Hachiman creepy and stuff so much, I would probably be hurt if I was him

Quality stuff here and you didn't butcher anything!

I’m a South Carolinian as well currently in my 30s and that culture somewhat still exists. We were taught in our childhood that men didn’t show emotion and stuff like that.

Hi Henry, thanks for sharing your story. I'm from NY/NJ, but had a chance to live in Japan for about a year and a half. When I returned to the US two years ago, the first place I lived was Charleston. My brothers and I moved there together. It was interesting seeing similarities between SC and Japanese culture in politeness, norms about expressing personal emotion and opinions, even though everything else (lifestyle, physical environment, food, expectations about personal space) couldn't be more different. As a side note, it was easy to tell apart the in-state folks, who were always friendly and polite to strangers, from the many out-of-state folks, who had more of an indifferent "minding my own business" attitude to strangers.

Thank you for sharing this story 🤗 even though you didn't verbally say it, I'm happy you could feel the love from your father!

@@anthonychilders9549 I'm from South Carolina too, where yall boys from? I stay in bishopville

@@iamarbiter6469 Easley / Greenville area.

Samesies

I see a turtle just like this every day.

Turtles comment on KZfaq videos? Wow, KZfaq is a wide and wonderful world ...

It's rare to see your comment in this type of video. I always saw your post in reddit videos. Hi Turtle! 🤗

Thank you Turtle

This is not a smash video

Do they not know about his YT channel? They'll be on guard after this one.

perhaps his sister guessed it was for his channel so she didn't want to give him a good response.

They might think he's in trouble now 😂😂😂

Excuse me, what's "zinger"? 👀 I'm not a native-english speaker, I'm sorry to bother 😅

@@gomesbandrey like a funny remark

@@veritasveritas5216 Thank you! ^^

@@gomesbandrey it's a comeback or friendly insult/comment