This comment should be pinned. This is so important for people to read. Marriage is more than just a “piece of paper” everyone keeps referencing. Marriage is a symbol of deep commitment and gives both partners spiritual AND legal rights.

I know there are no words of solace at a time as this while you are in the throes of grief. My condolences to you and your family over the loss of your spouse and the father of your cherubs. Prayers up to you and yours. 🙏🏻😇

So sorry you lost your husband 💔

Valid point....they have money.....alot of it...average person......😮😢not

True about the social security but untrue about life insurance, you can make anyone the beneficiary.

I absolutely agree..Antioch angie

Nonsense

​@@sunrise8015why?

Money is just paper too. So give all your paper money away.

​@@anafernandez3679well if either is Christian the Bible says so.

They were both always there for their chikdren. They moved to Vancouver and lived there for about ten years so their boys could play hockey.

DON'T 🎉 ADMIRE YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH ❤❤❤✌🏾 TRUTH ❤ HE'S HIDING SOMETHING THEY ALL ARE WITH NO PAPER OPEN RELATIONSHIP💐I MEAN OPEN 😳

Do not admire them because they disobey the Lord do not follow in their footsteps

​@@choosethewright7652she is not! Stop talking bs!

@@choosethewright7652she’s only been married once… not sure where you got the number three. she broke off a proposal after that which only proves she was smart enough to break it off before signing a legally-binding contract lol

​@@choosethewright7652A train wreck doing way better than you it seems

My two daughters met Kate while she was filming a movie. They just happened to walk by and Kate spoke to them when she didn’t have to. She invited them to watch after they had a conversation. It was very positive so unlike what many people have experienced with other celebrities.

They are sweet, but if everything was truly perfect, they'd put enough trust in one another to get married.

Isn't that true of marriage since you can divorce?

​@@CS-mf5unno, people hold on to the relationship when they're married because they are married. Even if it would be better to leave. It's the same with staying together for the kids. That's unhealthy.

@@katb.5859 staying together for the kids is unhealthy?

@@CS-mf5un is that a serious question?

@@katb.5859 is your statement a serious one? All statistics show that children are healthier in homes with both their parents.

But your married

Truly blessed❤

Congratulations on your beautiful lengthy union. It is nice to hear about couples who marry for life and are happy. ❤

I totally agree with you, and I love your definition of true love!

I fell in love with my best friend and she cheated on me twice

WONDERFUL PEOPLE

That's the best definition of true love I've ever seen! Advance notice, I'm using that definition from now on. Thank you 😊

They're actually swingers. So yes they chose each other but they also chose everybody else lol. Probably the real reason why they don't marry.

With the right person, there wouldn't be a divorce to worry about.

Married people who stay together for years stay together because they want to also!

​@@MichelleMatthews-ei8irI wish that was always the case

I love this! Came here for this comment!

@@MichelleMatthews-ei8ir I agree if they find a person that works, some rush in and don’t find one that works and they feel they have to stay even if abused

I love this comment. So many are unable to see there are many paths to happiness.

That's so beautiful ❤congratulations 🎊 I lost my husband in accident he was 47 4 years ago but I know if he lived we would still be going strong we were friends as well ❤️ he was beautiful. Blessings to you both ❤

I’ve been with my Sweetheart for 11 years and we have never been married. He chose to stay and I chose to stay.

I know that feeling, it's irreplaceable. 💗

Have faith in Jesus alone to be saved.

I am sure Goldie had to suppress the desire on some level. Most women want the security of a marriage not just the benefits of having a partner...but Hollywood sells sin loke it's the best thing since sliced bread.

Sorry it was big news when they got legally married few years back. Sad how people forget so easily. I watched the whole news about it.

Wow, what's it like to think you're smarter than everyone else? (sarcasm) We understand marriage just fine. Get off your high horse. Your husband probably cheated on you just to be around a less pompous woman for a break.

There is no common law marriage in California. What works for some people may not work for others. I love that they prove that you don’t have to be married to have a stable, loving marriage with beautiful children and grandchildren. No they’ve never walked down the aisle and with no common law in California no they’re not married. To each his own but it goes to show that no you don’t need to marry to be true to one another.

WoW! Congrats on your 50 anniversary, that's amazing I hope your love for each will continue to thrive as now days relationships don't last very long. So far Hubby and I will be celebrating our 28 anniversary next year ❤❤❤

You can choose to be together and be married My husband and I have been together 50 years we were married when I was 14 he was 18 ‼️💞💕

​@@juliemoore5285Heyyyyy You both are Fabulous❤❤❤Im glad to know that🤗Stay happy and healthy you guys there🎉🎉🎉

Love them ❤️

​@@juliemoore5285for all intents and purposes they are "married"

Yes they sure are!

Why do they need a "license"?

​@Ehooper97 Marriage is sacred without religion being involved in it.

I agree 100%​@@nonamejane3590

​@@nonamejane3590 It's not because they want an easy way out....

​@@nonamejane3590your point is very null and void. They didn't separate, so they both didn't opt for the easy way out. It's why you think it has to have a license biding them together for it to be sacred.

No it isn’t

Well said! Thank you for sharing!

Yes, I agree with you. People who get divorced are often the ones who dont respect, or even hate their significant other in some way. Always making jokes about hating the married life etc. From the beginning! Ive seen it happen. My husband is my best friend as well and we treat each other with respect

@@sugarfreeXcandy such a blessing to see people out there with this mindset. I hope you stay together forever.

I’d like to give people a break. People are human! people are a work in progress. It takes years for one to understand them selves much less understand what they want or what they need from another. Finding the right person right away, maybe sheer luck , maybe it was destiny, maybe it was pre-planned. That we are all on our journey and everyone is doing the best they can.

​@@sugarfreeXcandysi vous avez la chance d'avoir pu garder votre couple ,vous n'avez pas le droit de dénigrer les autres pour autant, sans savoir leur histoire!voyez-vous, je me suis séparée après 11ans de mariage non pas parce que je n'aimais plus mon mari car je l'aimais toujours ce qui a été d'autant plus dur et a mis 8ans pour le divorce!il avait perdu son emploi après 4ans de mariage et a sombré dans l'alcool de plus en plus!il dépensait son petit chômage dans l'alcool ,j'étais seule a travailler tous les jours même wkend pour assumer tout même notre petite fille et j'ai dépéri de plus en plus d'épuisement physique et moral, je ne pesais plus que 48kg pour 1m68 ce fut 1décision de vie ou de mort, car sous avis médical car je dépérissais trop! Il a fallu des années pour me reconstruire et retrouver la santé !je n'ai pas fais cela de gaiety de coeur ,mais je n'avais plus le choix pour être là pour ma fille !il est décédé en 2020 du covid à 64ans à l'aube de sa pension et il m'avait demandé pardon à sa mort ,chose que j'avais fait depuis longtemps, sachant que nous passions les fêtes encore ensemble en famille avec enfants et petits-enfants, car il a tjrs regretté !nous n'avons jamais refait notre vie ,quel gachi pour l'alcool et il n'avais plus jamais travaillé depuis ,je n'aurais pas su entretenir 1homme toute vie sachant qu'aujourd'hui je vais sur mes 64ans et travaille encore depuis 45ans !le regret que j'ai eu c'est de vouloir encore 1enfant que je n'aurais jamais eu avec autre, mais ça m'a manqué !moi ,j'ai eu quelqu'un dans ma vie 16ans mais je n'aurais jamais su vivre avec cet homme ,mon ex lui est resté seul ,il a tjrs regretté et m'a aimé jusqu'à son dernier jour !on a pas toujours ce qu'on veut mais ce qu'on peut!

If they are happy together like that it's theirs business!!!!

@@naimaboukhouf “Overboard “ is a movie they were in together…

I've never seen that one. I will look for it. I love Goldie

It’s so funny, you definitely should!

I love them in O B too. They probably had alot of laughs making that movie. My husband said that Kurt probably loved some of the scenes like dunking her in the wash tub!😅

Yeah idk what they thought they were doing with that statement😂

Not paying millions on attorneys and court cost for one. Tf.

Lol you don't buy anything together when you're not married, you come with what you have and you leave with what you brought in. It's not rocket science. I've been in a long term relationship. We didn't buy anything together.

​@@jaysgotjokesofficial exactly 😂

Same thoughts

didn’t princess leia say no ones ever really gone.

I don't understand, they divorced? A death loss isn't like a divorce

That was a different generation that doesn’t exist nowadays anymore

That is so amazing and wonderful. I'm sorry for the loss of your father. My husband and I met when we were older, but we are the first marriage/only children for us. So, while we were 25 and 38 when we met, one day I plan on being 80 and 93!

You mean that in your eyes they’re still married despite his death?

Adultery???

1 You don’t need a wedding to be married. 2 that is what a married couple is supposed to do, they choose to love and to cherish each other every day

​@@ginamcdonald7854adultery is when someone cheats in a marriage. They are girlfriend and boyfriend.

@thatsauce882 I didn’t say they were committing adultery! Someone made that comment and I questioned the comment “adultery???”. I’m well aware of the definition of adultery!!!!

@@ginamcdonald7854 okay. I didn't see the comment your were commenting.

Agreed!

Everyone “deserves” true love and real happiness. Your statement is strange.

Because she doesn’t think it will last?

Easiest answer is…it’s not necessary. Marriage as defined by law is an economic commitment / legal union and why do either of these individuals need that? If i’m wrong, please show me a law that regulates feelings…which is what likely got them into the relationship.

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Except that people walk out of marriages all the time so....

They are committed to

The only thing though, is that even if married, if one or the other had debilitating health issues, the courts could step in and appoint a guardian or a conservator. Guardian takes all. Everything.

@@monarene44 That is so sad. I truly don't understand that or why. I know that my husband would appoint my oldest daughter. She is not his blood daughter, but he trust her judgment.

@@crybebebunny I agree it’s sad and one of life’s sad ironies. It’s important to have estate planning papers in place: will, durable power of attorney, health care surrogate, and advanced directives. This all by itself can prevent minimize the risk of a guardian taking over.

@@monarene44 Thank you for sharing your wonderful knowledge❣️

​@@monarene44that's not really true. A guardian cannot rob a spouse of their marriage rights.

50 years for us ❤❤❤

I loved them in "OVER BOARD" It was so Hilarious!!!❤ Laughter is so Healthy for all of us!😊

Yeah,and car wrecks hurt your insurance premiums after years of driving but you still get your license to drive!

Not sure what that means 🎉

Did you mean to use marriage at the end? It would make more sense if you said "after years of a relationship"

My thoughts exactly. Quickly scrolled through the comments to see if anyone else noticed.

Yea Love That Movie too 😂😂 They do belong together ❤❤

Thank you! I was looking for the comment. That part made no sense to me. Marriage doesn't stop or hinder you from "choosing" to stay together.

But there are legal, cultural, and often religious ramifications to marriage, overlooking that is purposefully avoiding the point of her statement. The only thing tethering them together is their commitment to their relationship, which holds weight in itself.

The whole thing was answering the question “why to not get divorced” not “why not get married.”

As someone who has also chosen not to get married, I think theres a comfort and a sense of added security that you are together because you are both actively choosing it on a daily basis rather than possible insecurity that either party is staying only out of duty, feeling trapped, financial security etc. Getting married with the view that if it doesn't work out you can get divorced (which many hold) seems to negate the statement of commitment that marriage should bring. However I do believe that all relationships, married or not, require daily work.

So ? They seem pretty committed to each other so who cares if theyre married or not

They've been married before so there's no point to getting married

No, divorce can exacerbate the split

I get what you’re saying and you’re not wrong but I think her point was about the divorce process itself. She mentioned how divorce makes people hate their spouse even more than how they felt before they filed. These things can get nasty. And people may do and say things they wouldn’t originally have. Kids typically get caught in the crossfire of this. When there’s less of a process, less to lose, less uncomfortable court proceedings, less to stir up animosity; cooler heads tend to prevail and there’s more cooperation and that can go a long way toward making the separation easier on kids. It’s not for all situations, of course. It depends on the people involved.

Sure but it will cost WAYY less money and the split can be quicker and seamless than divorce which can literally take years to settle

​@helvaxh8348 exactly. I've been w my partner for 20 years, never married, but we did split for a year after having kids. Bc we didnt have to divorce, it was very easy and the kids hardly noticed, other than having less stressed parents. Obviously we were both able to remain civil, sane, rational etc which is a big deal regardless of marriage but I honestly think that if we had married and divorced, we wouldn't have ever gotten back together bc it would have been so traumatic, expensive, stressful, scary, life-altering etc. Bc we never married(we were engaged at one point though), we were able to drift apart and then drift back together peacefully and naturally w no court, 3rd party, fighting, financial loss etc. We even bought a property w 2 houses on it so that we could live separately but raise kids together. Eventually we got back together, he moved in w us and his grandma moved into his small house lol

Verbal or written, they still have a contract with each other.

I'd say the reason they never got married is slightly less romantic than what they tell to the world.... But it's their choice and I can only respect and admire they lasted for this long. Not so common these days, especially for celebs

Marriage is a way to protect each other.

⁠@@peggyclause8847protect each other from what exactly? If you need that protection you should not be getting married. Marriage is a business contract that has no place in true love.

Absolutely

Have faith in Jesus alone to be saved.

It IS a decision, every single day, married or not ❤

Nope... and NOPE. 🙄 Only •SIX• States now currently legally recognize and enforce Common Law marriages for the past two decades, at least.... all other U.S. States and Territories •DO NOT• .... so 'Common Law" marriage nor however long that ppl have already lived in cohabitation out-of-legal-wedlock doesn't mean Jack Squat to •any• U.S. court system OR to any Government Office in the case of any potential future claims for a deceased partners assets or government/legal benefits if you don't happen to live in one of the only six States that ●DOES● still recognize and enforce all of the legal requirements for a Common Law marriage to apply. And since these two particular people that this video and topic of discussion is about to begin with... have lived in the State of California, (which DOES NOT recognize nor uphold Common Law marriage), literally for decades BEFORE they even met each other and have also lived in that State ever since afterwards, too ---- then a 'Common Law' marriage between them nor anything else regarding such is even remotely relevant nor applies here in this particular situation and context for you or anyone else to even bother trying to bring a buncha "Common Law" marriage BS in to any discussion about these two particular people as if it would, or even •could•, ever even actually possibly ●MATTER OR APPLY● to their relationship in the first flippin place. 🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

Exactly 💯

Yup!!!❤

It's not going to be broke because it was never manufactured! They never got married! It's called a broken marriage,not a broken relationship.

@@darnells.1558 you obviously don't understand the saying "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" ffs

@@ceeejay9112they’re probably some 13 year old trying to sound older or interesting in anyway possible. Let them learn the hard way like everyone else.