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"Seek a professional" Professional: "That would be 400$" That's okay I'll live depressed.. .-.

The worst part about being depressed is no longer feeling that sense of enjoyment in the simple things that once made you happy. Your hobbies, being with friends, a favorite movie or TV show. Instead you're left unfulfilled, unmotivated and ultimately burned out with day to day life, finding zero satisfaction in anything. You dread tomorrow, knowing damn well the cycle will repeat itself all over again.

when I saw this I cried bc I never realized how broken I was until this video and thought I was alone

It's so hard to survive when you are really aware that you need help, but parents don't give a damn about it:(

Hardest part for me is, NO ONE KNOWS! I cover it with a smile and laughter.

Depressed people laugh more n make others laugh. It's the eyes that give away.

I’m at the moment suffering depression in silence I just broke down yesterday . Had to go to the emergency room I pray to god to give me strength and help.

Ive been so depressed for awhile that I dont even know anymore

Depression is so painful. Doing the simplest thing is a challenge. If I had one wish it would be to take Depression away forever. No one deserves that pain.

"Even if others have bigger problems you still deserve help with yours" this hit hard

I'm so good at masking my sever e depression from others. The more depressed I get 5he more I hide it so well from others, they think I'm fine. One more thing is mental health illness is totally exhausting physically and mentally. I feel drained alot of the time because the effort you have to put into people thinking your OK. One day at a time. Don't think about tomorrow or next week just live in that moment and for that day. This helps me alot.

I wish we had community centers where people could just go with the understanding or desire to form meaningful connections, something like that

I feel this. I feel happiness and joy every day, but in the end, I'll always return to that hopeless, gloomy state. It's like the joy I feel when I go outside is just a distraction from my actual life.

A complete stranger held my hand today after she saw the sadness in my eyes ...❤there's hope even in the dark times

That last bit. Even if other people have bigger problems, we still deserve help. I never thought my problems were as bad as others' because I never got into drugs, sex, alcohol, or cutting. I could always smile and come off cheery and helpful, so no one else thought I had major problems, either. As an adult, I crashed and could hardly get out of bed. My therapist now says my case is the most complicated one she's dealt with, but she loves working with me because of how much effort I put in to get better. You never know. Trust yourself and listen to how you feel, not what others think.

"Even if others have bigger problems you deserve to be treated too" That hit me hard. I always think that my problems are too simple and why am I feeling like this. I am always unfair when it comes to myself. Thank you for validating me.

Hardest part is that I have to act like everything's fine when it's not. The feeling of being gloomy all day, having trouble in concentrating, feeling like shit inside, distancing yourself from others, not able to enjoy things which u enjoy before, being odd one out there, hopeless, feeling worthless, empty no one's gonna understand that all. It's worse when you are already an introvert and socially anxious person. When you realize you were there for others but no one's there for u. It hits hard

Depression isn’t about just being sad Sometimes it’s about not knowing how ur feeling

I remember when I sat down on a bench and started crying, and this young woman came over to me and gave me a hug. When I went to 'AA' and cried I got the same. To know there's people in the world like this gives you hope.

"Even if others have bigger problems, you still deserve help with yours " this had me teared up cause i always felt like I'm just being too pathetic and that people have bigger problems to fight. I am hesitant to ask for help.

It's been the fifth consecutive night I've spent crying and sometimes it's for no reason I can explain at all. I just feel really sad all of a sudden. Sometimes there's also self-hate too.

I cried just watching this. Nobody understands depression as much as someone who goes thru it.

I have anxiety and depression but cost of therapy will give me more reason to be depressed so I'll live just like that

I am a full Christian and in the bible it states in proverbs 12:25, anxiety in the heart of a man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad. So if you have a mental illness of some sort you need to follow the lord and pray to him whenever satan gives you temptation. If you get mad at me for commenting this, than you really need the lord. I am just spreading the gospel. Lysm ❤

The main thing that it seems no one knows is that depression isn’t always feeling depressed, most of the time I just feel numb.

I don’t enjoy anything but sleeping anymore yet I’m the friend that helps everyone else with their problems. I’m no longer living for myself, I’m living for the people that need me and once they no longer need me, I have no purpose.

After the worst couple of years of my life and suffering with depression that I could no longer contain it showed itself in anger and frustration and major panic attacks that lasted for hour even days at times. Because everything came to a head and after many times trying to self destruct I finally feel hope the I may come out fighting the other side. I’ve finally found some fight left in me which I didn’t think was possible. Although it’s not so nice to know others are suffering too it is nice to know ur not alone

These clips truly helped me put my feelings into words

I'd stay in a dark room in bed, all day everyday. My hygiene routine and overall cleanliness was embarrassing 😢.

"A flame burns the brightest just before it goes out."

"even if others have bigger problems you still deserve help with yours" Just hits hard on me😢

I had a scarcity mindset first 39.5 years. I was raised to believe being vulnerable or needing help is like the worst way for a man to be.

I got every symptom but i am not frank enough to even tell my family about it. I really do feel hopeless , having no one loyal or to share my feelings with

At this point, I dont even know if I can get back to my life anymore

I've got exactly the same picture in the background but mine are the lounge cushions. Nice to have something in common for something beautiful and thankyou for this clip and taking the time to help and support others. Great music choice, take care of yourself and keep up the brilliant work.👏👏👏

Thanks for the eye opener! I didn't want to give into the idea of being depressed again. But these symptoms are so relatable. I knew it already but after a few of your vids, I need to seek help again. Thanks again!

Another one is, when you see someone at your workplace that is always quiet but always doing their work.. Either they like to be by themselves and doesn’t like too much talking or that they deal with anxieties and depression.. It’s not that they’re shy to talk to a group of people, it’s just that their anxiety attacks them randomly when talking to a group of people they don’t really know. So always be nice. The quiet people have thoughts that some cannot endure so it’s best to either leave them alone or be kind. It’s simple lol

Even if others have bigger problems, You still deserve help with yours. 💕💕💕 That made me tear up and almost start crying. It's good to hear someone say that. 🙂 thank you.🙏

tysm dr. julie, you,re the only one that described me when I wasnt sure if it was depression or not. i was 11 years old when depression hit me and i still suffering through it. god bless you for letting me know that there r other ppl seeking for help yet we still need to be priorotized. tysm for letting me realize that. u dont kow how much this helped me dr. julie. it might have not went away completely but at least you helped me heal a scratch of my fully bruise body when no one else ever evencared to look at me. even my sisters dont support me. instead they say 'dont be so dramatic, ur only 12' and get mad at me without it being my fault, without having the capability to do it. god bless u julie, becaise in my eyes, ur like an angel from the sky that came just to help us. we al love u julie, never forvet that ;)

I'm envious of people who can power through their day like this regardless of being depressed.

“Not everyone loves you, but not everyone hates you.” -me

I slept the most when I was depressed and hated the sun or any kind of brightness in my room.

Been through it… was staring at a window pane for a while and an old lady tapped her hand on my shoulder and said it will be ok and walked away. I had tears rolling my eyes. Bless her soul.

I’m late to the party but I’m so glad I found this channel. Thank you. ❤️

I felt that when i was 19, (too poor to even get a consult) it went on for years. I just keep on reading the scriptures and prayers. Praise God, the true healer.

the saddest part is, some friends just judge you based on the outside. Like for example, my once bff talked behind my back and called me emo, she posted it on her status and she said"why cant you just be happy for once?" It really hurts ngl

I'm so shocked about how many people are suffering it makes me cry and feel so sad 😢

Thanks for being truthful with these symptoms. Its so hsrd struggling with low energy from depression

people have compassion for physical ailments. depression is as virulent but ignored. I have tears.

Excessive sleeping and being keen to go back to bed can also be a symtom. Sleep is an escape.

Wow one the best things i read/heard for the last couple of months : "Even if others have bigger problems , you still deserve help with yours" This is EXACTLY what i was thinking that i am nothing because i have seen people with bigger problems .

You checked all my boxes doc.. thanks for confirming it..

I feel this. Happiness and joy can occur but eventually i return to feeling empty. It’s like positivity is a distraction from real life. No one knows except you and I. No one sees what’s behind closed doors.

I was in counseling for awhile. Here's a few things I noted: 1) The counselor never failed to schedule me for another appointment when my hour was up. 2) The counselor never outlined a plan and a proposed time frame for solving my depression. It was basically me coming in for an hour and talking once a week for months. I didn't sense any urgency to fix my problems. She was happy to see me because that meant she was getting paid.

“Even if other people have bigger problems, we still deserve help..” That line speaks volumes 🔊 Virtual hugs 🤗

I have all of this,the sad fact is depression is being weird we smile but sane broken by inside. I hate when I laugh and smile to cover my real broken world inside me

This happens to me everyday but I put on a fake smile and help others to try and help others so they don’t fell like this…❤

My boyfriend suffers from severe depression and anxiety. It is not a joke. It takes so much energy out of him to put a front on for everyone, so they dont see him suffering. It takes so much energy to prepare to go anywhere, especially when its a requirement, appointment, work, family, etc... Only a few times, a few days is ok then bam, his outside turns in, that not only does it switch in his brain and eyes but also his physical. Where it hurts him in the pit of his stomach, to the point even getting out of bed hurts him. Nobody truly sees what happens behjnd closed doors. Nobody truly knows what him and ai know. Nobody truly undertands it but the ones in those shoes do and the ones like, I wouod see and hear our loved suffer but cant do anything just be the best support system you can be. Dont be selfish, listen. Understand, everyone is different and everyones despression is different depends on what is going on in their life but you wont know it unless that person opens up and allows you to be in the know. Mostly all ppl have experienced sadness, and depressed states at some point in our lives but true depression, is 100% different and the ones experiencing this, including my boyfriend. It hurts to know you are feeling this all the time and some days its worse than other days. The suffering you continue to experience, don't give up. I know some days you want to just hang the towel up, and say good night. Dont. I know some days, its harder than others. And i know its selfish to say certain things to someone who suffers with depression because you do try, you try every day, every minute. Its rough. When he has really like, really bad days, i hide sharp objects and even belts. I hate to hear him suffer and breakdown. His childhood is 1 major part, tragedies he experienced and more... so I understand him and understand why so many things have affectes him so bad. He does try to snap put of it and not let it control him but its a daily challenge that is not only against the world but also against himself... he is good person, animal lover/rescuer - we both agree, we are lover of animals more than humans - they give unconditional love even when your down, all they do is give love, so you can feel love. But, He can be himself around me, whether he is happy or sad, havinf really really bad days, i am all ears and i have a shoulder that he can lay his head on and be him. No fakeness, no bs. If you know someone who suffers from depression and anxiety, do take it seriously. Invite them out. Understand they may want to but because of the way their depression is making them feel, they can't all the time, its hard. If the person says things out of character and its hurtful. Understand, sometimes they cant help it, they hold as much in so its doesn't control them & everything but sometimes they cant help it. Granted, its not fair to be the one they go off on, like figuratively speaking a punching bag.... or having to walk on egg shells... you also have to be fair too yourself and have some self respect and respect for that person to be honest as well but be tactiful, understanding and compassionate. Again, depression is no laughing matter, its very serious and you shouldnt be cold or rude or judgemental to someone who is not the right state of mind or emotions suffering from depression. Be considerate as you want in return. Be a good listener as you want in return. Be understanding as you want in return. Be a lending hand as you want in return. Most importantly, be real, be you as you want in return. Depression doesnt play nice when your being fake. Depression sees thru your bull crap, so don't be fake, it only upsets the person more and can even make them feel even worse about themselves.... Nobody wants that. Some cases are rare but there are ppl that have committed suicide cause the pain was too much to bare and sometimes, you wouldnt even know they were suffering until the worst has happened. So, if you see certain things of your family or friends, co workers don't be afraid to tell them, even if you dont understand 100% doesnt mean you cant be a listening ear. Sometimes being that listening ear ONLY can be a positive; however, it wont take away their pain because its deeper than that, and even when they take medication it wont take away their pain for good, because its deeper than that. Its still being studied to see what and how we can help, so we can talk about this but at the end of the day, the person we know and/or love is suffering, so until it can be cured by God, we must learn to be understanding and compassionate, finding ways to work together and try to help each other thru our worst moments so you can be there for our best moments. If life is hard for ones who dont have depression, just imagine how hard it is for the ones that do have depression. Just cause i do not experience what my boyfriend goes thru doesnt mean, i dont feel his energy, doesnt mean, i cant be here for him, doesnt mean i dont get him. I Love him even when he doesnt want it, i love him even when he feels he doesnt deserve it, i love him for being open with me and this time, not being afraid to show me what he truly feels now. He thinks its an embarassment but to me, its a stepping stone in the right direction and he trusts me enough to be himself in front of me, when its just him and I. I dont want him to hide or not trust me, and he finally isnt. When we do go out, which is very very very rare, i can tell by his eyes, his body language, the way & how he choses his words, once he is ready to go home, to be in his comfort zone. It took abit but i see the signs more than in the very beginning. And now, I know I cant do much, i do have to let him be and feel the way he feels, but i do know, i can be more than just his girl friend, i can be a friend and a good listener. And whatever else I can do moee to help him whenever he needs it, he knows i got his back, he has someone in his corner even if this world is crashing down, he is not alone even if the pit of his stomach, mind and demon(depression) inside of him is telling him he is, he isnt! And to the ones that are suffering with no one around, sorry for the long novel just wanted to share this with you. There are ppl in your shoes, so know there are ppl that can relate to you or at least reciprocate in many ways more than someone who isnt. It doesn't take away your depression or pain of course, just some lvl of comfort. Hopefully. Just dont give up, as hard as it is, don't, well, try. Its hard but Trying is better than not and its better than giving up. As long as you are still alive, you can still try, and when you achieve each step give yourself credit cause you did it and you know you went thru hell but you did it so be proud of yourself. 1 step at a time Life is short but it is a process, so when you can, enjoy it, WHEN YOU CAN. You deserve it. And the hell you go thru each day, you earned your happy moments, you deserve it. Live it. Much love ❤ and prays to all. May God be with you and help you, help you fight and find your inner happiness so you too can enjoy the blessed moments we have or take it. Not many of us have that but when we do, we have to embrace it. Cause we dont know what later or tomorrow has instore and these will be the moments that we will treasure & hold so dear to our hearts forever. That might even save us from ourselves, who knows but dont ignore the signs of your loved one who is suffering, be a good person and friend, be real, that means more than you know❤

Ive actually been told by a friend who knew about my recent struggles "you dont seem very depressed though. I feel like you are overplaying a lot". Thanks mate

It is tiring how i have to pretend to put a smile on my face everyday at work, how i need to make some conversation from time to time. It’s tiring to respond to small talks. It is tiring to be anxious all the time that i am gonna make mistakes for my lack of attention and my brain fog.. it is tiring to pretend just to look okay. thank you for understanding ❤

So I’m holding all my feelings inside my heart Edit-tysm for everyone that’s supported me

Talking openly to mom saved me.....A listener, Someone who understands us even when we are saying stupid things, are essential and a treasure

I relate to this big time. I'm a foster kid, and it's been so hard. I've felt numb or in pain and I try to distract myself with the internet or eating or something like that, but I always feel so alone when I put it down. I can't escape it, it follows me when life begins to settle and my surroundings become quiet.

I never used to cry at anything but that’s changed.. I just feel so lonely.

You wouldnt read this, but still i just felt like i wanna say! Im 16 and covid lockdowns has changed me a lot. Recently my school has reopened and it feels so good to be back with my friends. I feel so close but at the same time so distant from them. When they laugh, i laugh along with them but i dont know how many times i have sincerely laughed... Most of the time i just play along and i feel empty. I used to be very talkative with my friends but now, i have become the quiet one.. i am the trying hard to be like how i used to be, so my friends dont think that im not my usual self. Whenever they be talking , i feel insecure that they dont like me that much, and its just me... I jst didnt want to share it with my friends but also had to tell someone... So just told it here!

"Even if others have bigger problems, you still deserve help with yours." That hit too hard-

my family talks behind my back, and ppl make fun of me for my religion and the clothes I wear. Watching this is a very true video help people and make sure you get help too.

Accepting help will brighten your life

I've struggled with depression for several years now, and I just want to let anyone reading this that it does get better. With therapy, I have overcome my past trauma and now that I'm in a better place I can say that it is alright. You'll be alright. Just to let you know. I'm so proud of you for trying day after day, please keep it up. We love you.

And the hard part is you can’t tell people about your problems, because 90% don’t care and the other 10% of people are happy you have them. Therapists are certainly happy you have them, because that’s their income.

me watching this and crying bc,one day i thoght all those feelings were gone but then they came back and the best i can decribe the feeling is lonlyness,constently feeling empty inside or crying when i see something sad on youtube,i also became more emotionally unstable.i hope anybody going through this is ok and remember you arent alone and are more powerful then you think

Any tips on how to deal and/or treat emptiness? It feels like nothing i do truly brings me joy bro

This helps me so much with how I feel on the inside as I feel like I’m never good enough for anyone and always hides my sadness with a display of strength

The bit where she said “you still deserve help with yours” felt good

This was me. I had a major breakdown because on the outside I appeared to be fine. For the first 6 months of me trying to get help my problems were ignored and therapist neglected me a little because I was “functioning” after nearly 2 years of this I have now been diagnosed with severe depression among a number of other things. We need to bring awareness that depression comes in a variety of different forms. And they all deserve the right kind of treatment

Also, you enjoy pretty much nothing anymore, you just go through the motions and put on a smile.

Yeah I’m checking almost all these boxes. I knew I was depressed but it’s still nice to have some confirmation that it’s not just me. It’s something I’m working on… particularly the self loathing.

God bless you for helping those who are mentally suffering today. Recently my father helped a woman to get to a psychiatrist because she was threatening to kill herself. She got the help she needed in the end, and it was all thanks to my dad and everyone who helped her. God bless her soul. Thank you for spreading awareness, have a good day/night ❤

I just finished a massive assignment that means a lot to my grade at the end. And I got the top grade, it took me up until 23:59 on the deadline day regardless of my previous hard work, because I kept telling myself what I did wasn’t good enough. And while I think I’m happy about getting that grade, I do feel numb. It should feel great because for the longest time I wasn’t at the top. But it feels empty now.

Going through it…people think because I smile and still greet people in the morning that my challenges are minimal or non existent.

I m crying its like someone just described what i feel

Love this content! Depression can show up in many different ways. Your problems and concerns matter! You are important ❤

Right. Outside everyone appreciate me for what am... For being bold and confident but inside only i knows how much destroyed am 😢

Before dropping out, I felt like that constantly, but now I have less of the symptoms. I didn't know how much in life I was missing out on. I was too narrow in my thinking. Only doing what I was told.

I feel like "do everything you need to" only really applies in a professional setting, if I'm not being paid for it or don't have someone supervising me the motivation plummets.

God... you have described how I feel in just a short video. And it takes me 10 sessions with a therapist to explain what I'm going through. It's like there something inside me not letting me open up when I so badly need help. I feel like I'm running out of time and options. I can't fight this battle anymore and suicide seems like it's drawing closer each day. 😞

I sought professional help and was locked away like a criminal. Ill die trying but i will never trust professionals again😢. I endured more ptsd from being forced into a facility than i was actually experiencing before going.

I always felt like this, therapy is a great option but you just have to find the right therapist. As for me, I started going to church and praying more. The peace that has entered my heart after that has helped me start to feel better like I’m starting to heal from the things it was causing me and my body and mind to go through.

Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.

im sorry for every one whos depressed i wish and hope you feel happy everyday and i pray for all of you guys to make it in life and i wish for everyone to stay strong i dont have depression but it breaks my heart reading the comments It hurts me more when i see suicidal ones.. Your life is not a movie Dont end it. Your skin is not paper so dont cut it you body is not a coat so dont hang it… I wish for everyone too stay strong and push yourselves ❤..

I relate to all of this as I've had depression and anxiety since I was 12 and I'm 48 now. I'm on medication for it and have just been put on a waiting list for counselling as I have literally nobody to listen and understand.

I really feel this video as someone who suffers from severe depression and other things and I just want to say that if you know someone like this please help them or get them someone who can help them because otherwise they’re going to be in a state where nothing matters anymore. To everyone who reads this I hope you have an amazing day, and if you think you don’t matter then think again because you matter to me and I’m a complete stranger

You deserve help even if someone has it worse. This is so so true. I really dislike people using that fallacy. "Well someone has it worse so be thankful." No one is the same and everyone can handle different things.

I'm working on the Self loathing, I've also learned to laugh at myself & it works.. your body is listening to the things we say & the surprising thing is what we say good Or Bad ! The body will respond to truly Love ❤️ self as a Friend & things will be better Depending on how we talk to it, & there's one way to Love ourselves

Well.. a lot has happened to me in the past. When i was a kid like at the age 6 or 7, i used to enjoy doing activities because it makes me happy, but now.. i changed a lot, i cant even enjoy the activities that i used to do back at the time, i only feel sad, bored and tired. I cant focus on my studies, i cant communicate to people, i cant think properly or i can say i think slow, im more self-blaming than usual, i have low energy and i cant sleep. I have no friends at school, they are all rude to me and they always scold me, they say "Why are you so slow? We are in last place because of you." I mean.. it is my fault and i know that, i feel hopeless, i dont think ill have a bright future. Im just alone, i cant talk to anyone because im really shy and unconfident, and im also afraid that they will betray me and i dont want that so id rather stay alone in my room.

One day I told my friend about my thoughts and how emotionally bad I'm feeling, that friend told me that many people in this world felt worst. I regret venting out and I might not trust anyone anymore.

And the biggest problem is that no one tries to understand other than the person suffering from it..😶

The worst part is that my friends and family all thing I'm perfectly fine and bubbly.

I'm slowly failing and falling behind in class and in tests But I'm fine! Totally! Ignore the tears 😢