HIDDEN Underlying Themes ✨ Coaching

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In this video, I go over what I think are the most common underlying themes that show up within a coaching conversation when a client is stuck. This information is partially based on the PREP Training created by Dr. Howard Markman. I would love to hear your thoughts! Please subscribe, comment, and share - thank you!
Howard J. Markman, Ph.D. is a John Evans Distinguished Professor of Psychology of the University of Denver and the Co-Director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies, one of the leading couples research centers in the country. He is one of the most respected couples researchers and couples therapists in the country. Dr. Markman is internationally known for his cutting-edge work on the prediction and prevention of marital distress and divorce and on research-based relationship and marriage education and therapy programs. He is the founder of PREP (Prevention and Relationship Education Program, PREPinc.com), the most widely used, scientifically validated couples relationship education program. PREP is listed in the U. S. Government’s SAMHSA National Registry of Evidence-Based Programs and Practices (NREPP). Programs have to meet rigorous standards of evidence to be listed by NREPP, and PREP is the only relationship education program listed there. iaals.du.edu/profile/howard-m...
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Lyssa deHart, LICSW, MCC, BCC is the author of StoryJacking: Change Your Dialogue, Transform Your Life; and the Reflective Coach. She is the host of the Coaching Studio, is a Confidence Coach, Certified Mentor Coach, Coaching SuperVision Partner, ICF PCC Assessor, and coaching educator. Using her understanding of the ICF Core Competencies, combined with her knowledge of Neuroscience, Lyssa works with Professional Coaches to expand their capacity to partner with their clients through how they show up and hold the space for those with whom they work.
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00:00 Welcome
00:21 Underlying Issues in Coaching Conversations
00:46 Control
02:27 Respect
04:00 Integrity
05:55 Trust
08:10 Appreciation
09:26 Acknowledgement
11:18 Commitment

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@SunilSoni-vo1fr 3 ай бұрын

Hello Lyssa! Your videos are super helpful! Thank you for putting these up! Really helps! I'm a PCC coach and these answer a lot of my questions.

@LyssadeHart 3 ай бұрын

Wonderful to hear!! These themes are so helpful to listen for in conversations. Happy Coaching @SunilSoni-vo1fr

@PLSpain Жыл бұрын

This video is very helpful at showing how to really connect with the “who.” Thank you.

@LyssadeHart Жыл бұрын

Yes!!! I think we often get so focused on the "what" we miss the "who"! Thank you for that observation :)

@loriwoodscoaching Жыл бұрын

Love the self-trust part of this video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

@LyssadeHart Жыл бұрын

I sometimes think that learning to trust ourselves and also ask questions about what is showing up as we listen, is a simple but hard developmental step... at least, it was for me :)

@chrisalessi1 Жыл бұрын

Always love your videos Lyssa.

@LyssadeHart Жыл бұрын

Love hearing this! Thank you @Chrisalessi1 :)

@resourcequeenlifecoaching 11 ай бұрын

This was super useful for helping my clients! Thank you!

@LyssadeHart 11 ай бұрын

Great to hear :) And, you are very welcome.

@sydneysageresourcequeen 11 ай бұрын

@@LyssadeHart (: what might we do next once we help our client narrow down the underlying theme?

@LyssadeHart 11 ай бұрын

@@sydneysageresourcequeen That's an excellent question!!! What might you do to support the client in narrowing down what is important? Remember, the underlying theme is to inform your curiosity. What might be a question that would test your hypothesis and invite the client to name what might be going on? :)

@asonnette 11 ай бұрын

wow! thanks! very helpful

@LyssadeHart 11 ай бұрын

You're welcome, Anna! I'm delighted you found it useful. I have more coaching resources (free) available on my website. lyssadehart.podia.com/ Reach out anytime you have questions. ❤️

@asonnette 11 ай бұрын

@@LyssadeHart, thanks for your support) all the materials you post are excellent; I guess you should charge for them😂I actually have a question - recently, I had a Client who said that they've been procrastinating for years. On the one hand, they know the influence of procrastination and how it decreases the quality of life. On the other hand, they can't get themselves to do it anyway. Procrastination both at work and on personal tasks. Could you please share what hidden themes you've discovered while working with clients on this topic? Cause it's definitely now about a good-looking schedule🙃

@LyssadeHart 11 ай бұрын

@@asonnette LOL those good looking schedules that no one follows through on are exceptionally pretty, but not very productive. :) My first thought is what does the procrastination do for the client? Everything we do or don't do has some purpose. Also, in the Very Full Plate coaching demo, procrastination what the topic there as well. You might go watch that coaching demo and let me know what you notice. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/pJedi8iIyp3LZXk.html

@mixedmedialife7916 9 ай бұрын

I found your channel yesterday and I've been busy binge watching since 😂! A coaching bk I once read listed more than 2 dozen themes. But I find it more helpful to have just a few in mind and I think these 7 cover a lot. I might add Belonging/Inclusion, although this could arguably fit under Appreciation and/or Acknowledgment. Ok, back to the binge (and note taking 🖋 😅). Thank you, Lyssa.

@LyssadeHart 9 ай бұрын

I am very glad you found the channel and THANK YOU for all the comments. xoxo

@mixedmedialife7916 8 ай бұрын

@@LyssadeHartI'm genuinely enjoying engaging and I know leaving comments helps a channel. But I also know it gives you more work😅! Maybe I'll just leave emojis under some of the vids. #keener😂

@Icecandy1882 11 ай бұрын

Thank you again for another informative and useful video! When the client acknowledges that it is indeed "control" that is the underlying theme, what usually is the best question to ask or direction to take after surfacing that?

@LyssadeHart 11 ай бұрын

Hi @icecandy1882, I think it depends so much on the client. What do they want to do with the awareness? I guess that is my next question. :)

@Icecandy1882 11 ай бұрын

@@LyssadeHart thanks for sharing your insight. Wouldn't have thought of asking that question immediately.

@LyssadeHart 11 ай бұрын

@@Icecandy1882 That isn't the only choice point, it's just one. :)

@kayleep3329 Жыл бұрын

I’m more familiar w the Gottman relationship work. How do you find these two approaches compare? Thanks for another meaningful video! 🥰

@LyssadeHart Жыл бұрын

First, I LOVE GOTTMAN. I trained up to Level Two with his and Julie's work. Also, Markman and Gottman worked together in their early days, but they took different roads at some point. Regardless of that bit of back story, understanding the 4 Horsemen is vitally useful and important in relationship work and can inform our curiosity. Awareness of Gottman's ideas of Turning Toward, Away, and Against is super helpful. And, understanding Markman's ideas about the often underlying themes that show up in difficult situations or conversations is very useful too. Both ways of looking are important. Also, when looking at linguistics in general around Metaphors, there is a large body of work on Source/Target, which also fits within these other theories. We are talking about X but the conceptual meaning is Y. I believe it can be very useful for a coach to listen for these underlying themes, not to assume they are right, but to use the awareness to craft curious questions and test hypotheses. :) I hope this is helpful.

@kayleep3329 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that you see both schools as making important contributions. I can see how being aware of themes could be valuable. I wasn’t so clear about Source/Target but perhaps later I’ll look into that material. Meanwhile, thank you for helping me with my personal & professional ongoing growth. 😅

@LyssadeHart Жыл бұрын

@@kayleep3329 The source/target is something I cover in my Coaching with the Power of Metaphors program. :) If you're ever interested in that, let me know.